How to Break Up with Shame | Episode 24
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- So many wrestle with shame: the inability to separate what we’ve done from who we are-but God has better things in store for you than this.
On this episode of At Home with the Beveres, join Lisa and Juli as they host guest Christian Bevere to talk through her journey with shame-one we can all identify with. How do you develop a positive body image in a culture of unrelenting pressure? What about overcoming past regret and brokenness? And what do you do when it feels like shame just keeps coming, wave after wave? We’re told God can redeem and rewrite our stories-but how?
Tune in for a powerful conversation around this subject, and learn how you can build a legacy of freedom that you pass down to the next generation!
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Chapters:
0:00 - Episode Teaser
0:17 - Introduction
1:20 - Shame
2:37 - The Burning Question: Perfectionism
9:01 - Shame’s Role in Sexuality
19:45 - The Pattern Stops with Me
23:38 - How to Stop the Pattern of Shame
28:46 - Thank You, Christian
30:06 - Closing Prayer
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This was beautiful! How many of us are weighed down by our shame? Looking back at our past thinking we don't deserve love or mercy? How beautiful is our Father in Heaven to redeem and renew this ❤ it brings me to tears. Thank you Bevere girls! Please do more of these style of videos
As a man, this conversation was a wake up call for me to the next generation. I can get so narcissistic about my own struggles, I can forget to lift others up in prayer and to encourage the young generation to fight the good fight of faith. Amen!
What a beautiful deep conversation that is so needed amongst believers. I love the Godly wisdom that Lisa brings to the table. What a legacy. Wow! Generational.
such a beautiful and meaningful conversation. Thank you Bevere ladies for your wisdom and transparency 😇
I am so so grateful for everything you share with us. You all are a great blessing. Thank God
My son will carry around his shame. I've learned early to remind him he needs to also forgive himself, too. Shameful behavior or action NOT shameful personality. Remind him also he is human! So good, ladies!!! I gain so much wisdom from y'all.
Was looking at isaiah 54.4 today regarding him removing the shame of my youth
This is the first time I ever associated my eating disorder with shame. Wow. I'm so excited to read this book. I love this conversation and feel like I'm so close to a breakthrough. Thank you beautiful ladies!
I struggle perfectionists every day! I didn’t even realize it was a problem. Thank you so much for bringing this to my attention. It’s taken me five minutes to write this comment because of my perfectionism! 8:54
Thank you Father for redeeming our stories. Thank you ladies for this wonderful conversation!
So many good tears fell with this podcast. Thank you for this podcast. And all glory be to God who takes the broken and makes something beautiful. Yes and Amen!
This is a powerful conversation. Thank you - Lisa, Julie, and Christian - for being transparent and showing us all how that can be and should be with our own families. I realize this may not be easy to share such deep emotions and experiences with the world. Strength in your (each of you individually as well as a family) makes this possible. Thank you for taking the risk in being vulnerable. I look forward to reading Christian's book. God bless you, keep you, protect you and all of your family. In Jesus' might name. Amen! - Craig.
Dear Ladies ,This Conversation is really so Liberating ....Iam Grateful to you all for being willing and honest to share your beautiful redemptive story ....❤❤
Thank you for this episode! Such wisdom both for me and my children. I recently completed Freedom Session, which was key to my healing and breaking a lot of shame in my life (with its resulting tendencies of perfectionism, etc.). This episode is building on that foundation of freedom for me so thank you!
This is all so true and liberating. Thank you so much! God bless you. Double.
Oh my I needed to hear this tonight! I’ve been so entrenched in shame for a very long time! I ordered the book. Thank you!!
Incredible timing. Wow. I pray it encourages you
I would love a book list from you amazing mommas. Juli, what have you read that has allowed you to dig deeper into biblical wisdom on raising girls /preteens? I would love love to see a BEVERE book list. I love the books written by the Beveres. Momma Lisa your books and sermons have been a life inspiration, theyve been weapons against the enemy and life tools I've been using since 2017. But I'm also so curious when I hear Juli speak, what is she reading? Love MessangerX and the podcasts. Thanks for all the love
Awesome segment!! Would love a PART 2 🙏🏾
This is such an amazing episode! I found myself having to stop the feed so that I could make notes throughout the entire session. So valuable! Thank you for the the vulnerability and all of the insights regarding shame. I MUST buy the book! I am so grateful for the redemption that will result due to the truths shared.
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Thank you Jenny! What an honor to share God’s redemption stories
Powerful conversation 💙..God bless you 🙏🏾
These conversations are such a blessing!! This felt like a Raman Word for me today!! So thankful for this podcast! Love you and God Bless you❤
*Ramah
Loved it.Water to my soul
I love this 💕 Thank you ladies
This video was sooooonon time for me
What is the title of the book on habits that Juli references? You all are such a blessing to the multitude! Thank you for diving deep into such realistic, relatable & needed topics!
From Albert Falls South Africa thanks very much for the insight on this program
Thank you for blessing us with this conversation today 🙏 ❤
This was so good ❤
I cannot wait to read her book
No matter what happened, no matter what you did but when the moment that you realize you are redeemed, and be in front of God to repent or to ask forgiveness, the first thing what Holy Spirit do is to make you to stand in boldness in front of those who the enemy uses. you will be like in a feeling which shows that you could say … 'so what?' .
The patterns that you guys mentioned could happen because of many reasons. But it is always wise to know the source of it and take an action when it comes to your children or family . In addition to that, the word of God can help us more.
I really want to appreciate your Lisa for allowing her daughter-in-laws to be who they are and to reflect their past to help those who are passing in this issue .
" Shame is inability to separate of what I have done - from who I am. "
🇧🇷 O QUE SIGNIFICA ESSA REUNIÃO 🤔. NÃO ENTENDO NADA , NÃO SEI EXATO COMO VIM PARAR AQUI 😮
É UMA REUNIÃO DE MULHERES 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼🌹🌺♥️
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Would you please please pray for my daughter, she is 21 years old and has had a traumatic upbringing. She had been molested by a family member a very close family member, it finally stopped and then began again after she had been through therapy, etc. and now she pours her life into a gay lifestyle.
As Christian speaks on being redeemed, and knowing that the father God does redeem us, and also will give us a double blessing. regarding the trauma, she’s experienced.
Plzzz plzzz pray for my “ babygirl “ her deliverance, healing, freedom from all the trauma, PTSD. 😞😔😢
Tysm for prayers 🙏🏼♥️🙏🏼
Please share a list of books we can read with our kids. It’s good to know what good books we can read with our kids.
I feel the Shame of my childhood and adolescence, abusive relationships, being abandoned by abusive partners and the father of my children who left me many times before finally leaving me when o was pregnant and I gave up trying to convince him not to leave. Now I’m a single mum and I still feel the shame of this especially as the father is now painting the picture of himself as being the perfect dad who will always be there for ‘us’ even tho he ‘can’t’ be with us every day etc…
It all makes me feel so angry and pushes the shame deeper down. And that shame and anger .. where does it go ? It comes out in moments of rage at my precious son. My son who is blameless. Who I love beyond the point of anything and who I am so terrified of harming and traumatising with all my pain. But who seems me as angry mom. Loving but angry. Which further cements in ‘our’ family story as me being the crazy one and their dad being the loving gentle hero who he wants to paint himself as . And so. How is there any way out of this pattern, and how can this shame ever let me go? It has tentacles and is so tangled up. And how do I prevent this from passing into my son - or, sadly assuming it has already passed to him to a great extent - how to I help us all to heal ? Is the answer just ‘pray’ ?
I don't know the answer for your questions but I'll pray for you.
I know it’s not helpful and I’m trying to work on it too trying with the help of the Holy Spirit to work through my own childhood trauma with the same situation of abusive parents and abandonment, please try to walk away from your son if your angry at him because anger is a secondary emotion which is coming from these feelings you mentioned above. See a counselor and work through it. I am too myself so I completely understand. God bless you and praying for us both
This was so good.
Who wrote the book about habits?
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Can you upload that short video of a man "Being behind the jail bars and being able to escape, but the guy refuses to leave the jail cell for some reason, before the gates close? "
The irony is all of you 3 girls look, talk, poise...are model like... ( intimidating ) in so many ways. So the question for many I think is how not to be intimidated by you guys or other good models but get inspired ? And the second question, how not to be a copy cat but to be authentic, unique, stay ourselves, not a copy of another soul, while striving to model the same values as you guys ? And how to actually do in reality, in action, in execution, instead of just in intention ?
Daughter in law a little too bare. More coverage as a Christian woman please. I don’t think your kids are bearers of shame from one generation to another.
Dear Ladies ,This Conversation is really so Liberating ....Iam Grateful to you all for being willing and honest to share your beautiful redemptive story ....❤❤