Heal Trauma to Find the WORK You're MEANT FOR
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Trauma blocks the vision and strength needed for art and business. When you heal your trauma, you liberate your own powers and activate your gifts. In this video, I offer encouragement to an artist who worries she'll stay stuck living in a damp basement, her work never shown, never finding joy in her work or life.
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You had me in the first 10 seconds! You are iron sugar. The sweetness that projects through your stories shows perseverance.
Thanks so much!
Gosh she had me in the first 10 secs also. Thanks Crapy childhood fairy 🧚♀️
Years ago, out of desperation, I wrote and published a novel. I was living in a dinky place with no furniture and no pictures on the wall. It felt and looked like a prison. A year later, I was living in a $600,000 home overlooking the Pacific Ocean in Ventura, California.
I wrote about what I knew: religion, cults, false and true teachers, and trauma and abuse.
However, my gift is healing. I get near people, especially tormented, abused people, and they get free. It isn't any power within me; I'm just a vehicle of that power. God gets all the glory!
Find your God-given gift. In fact, ask for it, like a child asks a parent for something. Then watch your trauma and heartaches, from your past, be a springboard to do good and not evil.
These "desperation stories" have been fabulous, so glad others are sharing them!
I would love to read that book! Did you end up publishing it? You sound like you would be a great friend too. 🙂
I'm a little unclear about the path. Did the book take off and connect with people? Is that how you ended up creating a new life?
The hardest part is trying to find work I'm meant for when still living with my abusers. So many times I have settled for mediocre jobs because I wanted to get away from my parents or just didn't think I could handle a "regular" work place. I know I have so many talents and gifts I just don't see myself using them to make money until I can move out and become independent.
Healing trauma first - or making a start at it- is important before trying to sort out the rest. You can start with this free mini course bit.ly/3608opl
-Cara@TeamFairy
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy Thank you, I will check that out
@angellightrose Ive been having success with doordash and ubereats. Its far from perfect, but I get out of the house whenever I want to, I make my own schedule and I get to listen to music all day :) I should be able to get my own place soon.
@@TrustInTheUniversealways good to hear the progress. Thnx for replying here
Having a tough time processing this. I know what you're saying and teaching is the key to healing from CPSTD. Your information has been so helpful to me, but I am 60 years old and can't help feeling enormous regret and as if there really is such a thing as "too late'. I can't imagine getting over the sadness and regret.
Thank you, Ms. Fairy, there are so many people who are benefiting from your gifts.
It’s not too late Stephanie. I am starting over at 56.
57 starting over again....
63 & disabled from decades of stress & working too hard just to keep from being homeless. Sad that I never had the time to heal, no telling what I could have accomplished. Now I'm finding my gifts are important even though they don't provide income. Earning money isn't something I can do enough of to provide for myself & I risk losing the benefits I have. Being an older, single female is tough, I would bet the whole demographic is financially insecure.
Responses welcome!!!!
Getting some personal healing first, before working out our gifts, is really the idea. It is definitely NOT too late to find some peace and get rid of those regrets. The 'Healing Childhood PTSD' is a wonderful course for getting going! bit.ly/39NxUBo
-Cara@TeamFairy
I'm almost 58, haven't a clue what I want to be when I grow up :( I spent so long trying to please my dad, while being afraid of femininity (he was 'friendly'), then I went into housekeeping and gardening (people pleaser). Right now just learning how to socialise with other women. I will honest to God kill anybody I see destroying a young woman's potential.
Every 'job' I think of has a people pleasing element, it's hard to get away from.
Tic Tok is a HUGE way to show off your work. I’ve watched people blow up on there for their art.
:)
Such a great response to the artist. I've been a singer/musician for 50+ years and never made a dollar doing it. I would choose no other path regardless of the payday, or lack of. My singing and playing have introduced me to wonderful people and places I'd have been unlikely to see otherwise. Mom bought me my first guitar sixty years ago---Thanks Mom!
“Just because you can, doesn’t mean you should.” Learned that a bit late! 🙏🏻❤️
Glad you're here now!
YES! I've made a living for 35 years, but my real gift is reaching lonely and scared kids. On my journey...
That's great!
Love it!!!
I've been struggling my whole life figuring out if I should put my time and energy into art, music, or healing with horses. Now I am studying to be an Art Therapist with a focus on equine therapy. I think I finally figured it out, but it has been so hard to decide. Thank you for addressing this. It is not always a clear path as to which way to go.
No, the path doesn't tend to light up all at once. You have to just start walking it.
Horse therapy hands down! Then the music and art will flow from that! Cheers! 🥂Go get it!🙆♀️🤣
Equine therapy is vital for so many. I’m in awe of what you’re doing. 🌸🦋
@H. Love Wow I think I was meant to read your comment today as I am in the same boat, can’t make a decision, but always coming back around to the idea of art therapy in some form but don’t know where to start at all… what types of training are you pursuing or have you pursued?!
I live in Australia.I take in dogs for day care or holiday care.I also volunteer at my churches op shop.Ive started choosing glass pieces and turning them into bird feeders or towers that have bird baths on the top.Whatever comes my way I try to t u rn it into art.Baskets get filled with potting soil and planted with cheerful flowering plants ,beads become decorations or single dangle from the sides.Wont make me a millionaire but I get a real sense of pride when I finish some project.I love working in my garden also.Dont have time to sit around depressed anymore,I'm too busy.
That's so great!
I definitely feel stuck in my poverty and illness from CPTSD, keep telling myself one more debt or until I find secure housing, but it's been years and it seems like there's no where to start but to heal.
I know what you mean. One of the most unfair side-effects of being out of the game is living in comparative penury. It makes you bitter.
This is me too, and I so feel for you. At the same time, it's such a relief to feel that there are others out there who experience the same lifestyle issues, and finally it can be related to Childhood PTSD and what I need to do to get my life on track.
@Johannah_Anderson I'm putting up a link to a free course Anna teaches that might help jump start you out of the rut bit.ly/3608opl
-Cara@TeamFairy
Lots of job rejection hurt!! (I just got two job rejections... to clarity, not artist rejections. Been looking for work since COVID killed most of my income). But I cannot tell anyone without them bright-siding me ("at least you got two interviews" etc. ) Sure that is great but it hurts and ageism hurts (60 Yrs young). I decided after watching this to re-frame how I think of myself OUTSIDE of the world of working. Watching this made me remember I am an artist and I will make my own business somehow someway someDAY. But damn rejection hurts too. Cold calls (for work) are a good idea!
My undergraduate degree was in Art. I taught art for awhile at the K-12 level. Did you see my comment for Jane?
@spiritosa1021 Natalie Johnson had some great suggestions!
@@nataliejohnson4124 Thank you. My art has been on hold, largely due to lack of facilities and studio space to do ceramics (very intensive equipment-wise) but my plan is to jump back in when I have money. Job hunting while also putting together any hours I can get from three P/t jobs is zapping me. I just wanted to reframe my rejection from companies. (office work) so I could try to feel better about it. That's all.
This channel is one of the best "real-world" resources on dealing with and overcoming CPTSD/developmental trauma. Bar none.
Thanks so much!
I don't have any friends right now but watching your kind manner and listening to your very relatable stories feels like having a wonderful friend . It really is your gift x
So happy you're here Nina! - Ashley, Team Fairy
Ninaaaa I’ll be your friend!
What if Jane did an online “gallery”-a website-where she sells prints of her work in various sizes as her “bread and butter” items? What if she got a job teaching art at the K-12 level for a decent paycheck with benefits or at a community college level? What if Jane did both and also had a CZcams channel where she had workshops that she charges for?
Brilliantly said! Jane gets to win all around! Winning!
Great ideas!
@Natalie_Johnson what an awesome & supportive community :)
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy Lol’ hindsight is 2020! Although I don’t have a job that uses my art skills, I do use my natural “gift of gab“ in my job for a major company in their retention department. I find great satisfaction in being creative when I remake furniture pieces and other decorative items for my own use and enjoyment or is gifts for others. As you mentioned, we usually have more than one gift and talent that we can use to serve others 😊!
Yes! May i add she can also build a 'brand' for herself. Post work on instagram, twitter, flickr, etc with the right tags and liking the work of others slowly growing the channels to get a name.
Art is about empowering the self and others. It is about self expression. You can do so much with your talent. It is a gift you give away. The most beautiful place to be in art is connecting with others. Let your gift take you to beautiful places. Art liberates. Art is about self discovery and the capacity to touch someone’s soul. Art is priceless. You may never make a dime from it but it is the only thing that is yours alone. A world all your own, who else can vouch for that. Enjoy it, it is a tool for healing for life.
Awesome sentiment :)
-Cara@TeamFairy
This comment is beautiful 🎨
This is my most pressing and painful problem! Thank you!
This is so true. I’m currently working with a trauma therapist and uncovering the artist within me that never felt allowed to find expression. I never thought I could get to a place to heal enough shame to give myself permission to enjoy creating art. Everything else I tried to do never satisfied me but the one thing I always wanted to do but always avoided and never dared engage with it was art. There definitely is the pressure to make money and sustain yourself with your art. The time and energy you need to put into it demands a full time commitment but realistically it rarely sustains artists financially. I wish I didn’t have to look after myself because I really want to just give it to the world.
In relation to the ladies story, I wonder if that’s part of her trauma loop? Was she constantly told as a child by one or both parents that she was so talented in a specific area and really pushed into it and now she’s still playing out that seeking of approval from her parents. Maybe it’s not actually what she really wants to do at all. Everything I’ve done where I’ve convinced myself it was my “calling, my purpose, my responsibility, my talent or whatever I’m supposed to be doing’” I resented underneath and was still searching for parental and societal approval underneath. Trauma therapy definitely shows you who you really are and where your joy is.
Great points!
I recently painfully discovered “betrayal trauma” the hard way...does. It. Ever. Stop. ?? I know I am straddling healing and pain. I know my gifts and am operating in them thank God. It’s helpful. But I still feel held back by all that’s happened 😭😭🤕🤕
It can stop. You can heal. That's what I teach.
“You free, and you get to invent ways to sell it… “ man ❤❤❤❤
I have a job but last few year's I think it's the "silent codependent code" that made me doing this one. "Professional caretaker" in a hectic place so you feel alive or something. And I can do this well because of the bending and fawning and totally forget or not say what you want. Just being a part of it, validation from the outside but do I really want it?. Makes me exhausted at some times but hey, the other side is sitting home alone 😐 Dr Mate also talks about this , caretakers that are taking care while deep inside they don't want to 🤔 it's hard to separate what you really want and are and emotions from the past talking.
Healing trauma gives us different perspectives!
-Cara@TeamFairy
As though my heart is being hugged.
Just like every video.
You bring me to tears and yet, I'm empowered.
Thanks so much for the Hugs!!!
You are so welcome!
I am just finding out what my "gifts" are and its kind of what Ive known all along but was too afraid to try. Of course my career was chosen for me but I always interested in working with animals but was told that wasnt "suitable" and I was to do something else-the chosen career. I am now doing an online animal care course with a view to training to be a vet nurse. I have been involved with a small animal charity for years now (despite opposition) and this is a natural progression. Its all slotting into place. I may divert into another aspect of working with animals but the brilliant thing is it is my choice and I am free to take the path I want to take
Yes! Happy for you!
Def would like to learn how to discipline my cat that's another avenue to go down as people start to return to work
So glad for you! I too was told that veterinary work wasn't what "smart, nice" girls did when I graduated HS in 1976. I went to nursing school, at great expense. Long story short, I ended up back in vet work, much to my familes dismay! I'm sure I made less money but human nursing was SO toxic for me, riches would have meant little long term. I'm excited for you! The very best of luck!
@@katiekane5247 Thats wonderful. Your story is so similar! I also learned that "nice girls dont work with animals...horrible dirty things etc etc" So glad you got back into it and are happy! You have inspired me. Thank you!
@@ED-ie3et You can try a cat behaviourist, Rather than disciplining, cats can have their behaviour modified with techniques which are easy to do. A friend of mine is a cat behaviourist. There are common negative behaviours which can be changed for the better
1. I absolutely LOVE Excel spreadsheets, too!
2. “Blundering” is how I’ve discovered some of my most interesting and surprising talents. (Because there was no way I’d tell someone I couldn’t or was afraid to - one of the skill sets learned during my trauma, actually!) I was terrified of public speaking in MS. Two years later, I placed in the top three at every tournament, went to State 3 years in 4 events, and will gladly speak in public any time! 😉
3. I believe my (and everyone else’s) bottom line gift is simply helping others - whether it’s handing someone their bag of fast food with a smile they’ll remember the rest of the day or designing the next technology that will transform the lives of millions of people - we just plain help. If we’re lucky, we’ll be able to use our talents to help in a way that no other individual can do as uniquely as we do. Second best, we do it anyway and maybe learn that we have an undiscovered talent.
Unfortunately, I feel drawn to combine two of my talents - encouragement and writing - to help others, but after a good stretch I can’t because I feel like I’m encouraging others to believe things I can’t believe for myself.
Very nice video! Thanks!
Thank you for sharing your experience as well :)
Hi Jane, It sounds as though you have put your goals too high. I am a painter and many years ago realised that trying to get into galleries was a thankless task - so I just put it into an interest and started teaching English part time. I do not paint all the time and play the tortured artist thing - I do it just in the summer when the light is better. I was accepted into a gallery in Paris but did not have the money to put the exhibition together. I like writing but trying to get published is also a bar too high. So I started writing about better poetry than I could ever write which is good for my humility and connects me with the local university. Trouble with visual arts is that it is not like music where there is pop music, jazz and classical . It is all jumbled together. The gallery world is ghastly and I decided after one exhibition that I wanted nothing to do with it - very superficial and money orientated. I am so in awe of you Americans without the benefits culture of Europe where you have to work to pay your mortgage wow that sounds so hard and demanding. In England and France we can live if we cannot find work, or in my case, could not work. I am lucky that my professor likes my art work and wants me to put it into my writing my thesis. So by lowering my bar I got to be what I really set out to be an illustrator or a greater artist than I am. All by lowering my sights.
So appreciate you sharing your personal experience with Jane and with us!
Bullseye! Thank you for this video. I am 62 and still trying to find the work that I'm meant for (I have no idea). This video validated that my struggle is not my own and that there are others struggling with this work/life's meaning. Recently, I think my gifts might be more realized fully once I retire. Thank you very much,
You're so welcome!
Hi, thanks so much for you're content. I'm 40 and I have spent the last 10 years with chronic illness, I'm now finally realising that everything that's gone wrong including my health is because of childhood CPTSD, which lead to constant retraumatising situations as an adult. Now I feel completely gutted that I am only understanding this at 40, I'm loosing my looks and I haven't been able to keep a stable relationship, I feel like I'm doomed to be alone and I can't get over this feeling, I feel like giving up, I've lost my life to this, I've had 10 years of illness so I've lost my career and I'm stuck on welfare in the UK and I don't know how to get back into work or skills or relationships. I'm absolutely gutted 😢
You can absolutely come back from this. Start with this free mini course bit.ly/3608opl
-Cara@TeamFairy
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy Hey! I downloaded the free course and started the daily practice this morning, it really helps! Thank you so much ❤
Hey, I am in the same situation.
I hope you can turn it around.
I am gutted.
It's probably never been easier to showcase your artwork Jane with platforms such as Instagram, Tik Tok, CZcams, etc. Even making short videos showing the art creation process and the final result would get views... I mean, people watch videos of other people eating.
:)
I have denied myself the things that I most enjoy, and shorted myself by doing things in compromise, that haven't worked out ultimately. Life events also impact options, as does financial sustainability, doesn't it? Your conversation and methods are truly useful, but I set my Crappy Childhood Fairy aside, though I can't resist watching the videos, and I often think about the topics you cover. Working on adapting the writing to my to do list, and I am finally moving on projects, though I have too many to complete in one lifetime. Your advice on overcoming procrastination is brilliant. You are such an effective communicator. I really have not wanted to revisit the past, or acknowledge the sense of emptiness in the present, or the fact that I am not where I want to be, yet, much less dwell on it, because I don't want it to be the focus of my time. However, I think applying your framework, writing, for clarification, and focus, is a great idea. I've spent some time thinking how I might structure the writing time, on an as-needed basis. I think you mentioned focusing on feelings now, in the present, which is really helpful. I didn't talk to my dad for 28 years because of circumstances in the past. I visited him in 2012, and then briefly in 2018, months before he passed away, and I have not experienced all those memories and feelings for a quarter of a century, and rightfully so, until recently. I had been digging out of the last catastrophe, he left me with, literally, for the past two years. Having traveled and lived overseas for more than a decade, I can really attest how freeing that is, to change your environment. I love foreign languages, culture, travel, and art, and work, anything to focus on or engage with, that distracts from the inexplicable, unsolvable, infuriating, hopeless disappointments of the past. You're conversations are really really relevant, and very helpful, because of the positivity, affirmation, hopefulness, and remedies that you present. Thank you.
There is a very organized way to go through developing a daily practice, seeing where you are and where you'd rather be and how to get rid of the fears blocking us which is laid out in the 'Healing Childhood PTSD' course bit.ly/39NxUBo
-Cara@TeamFairy
You are such a warm person. I could listen to your videos for the whole day without feeling tired. ❤️
You are an incredible speaker. Thank you
Thank you too!
Well Jane, we can't judge as we haven't seen your work, but I sometimes find it helps if you can do something and let go of the outcome. If you aren't attached to the outcome and you're just doing something for the hell of it, it might go better for you. Can you teach what you know to deprived kids or prisoners or suchlike, perhaps? That might be fun, and it would pay $. Gifts are funny. I am a talented guitarist, but i now hate playing it, so I don't - to everyone's dismay - but it doesn't feel good. Maybe I'll rediscover it one day. Good luck, in whatever you set your mind to.
Thank you! Appreciate you sharing your expericneces :)
No one's gift is narcissistic supply, is it?
Definitely not what we mean by "gift"!
-Cara@TeamFairy
i wanted to do a hahahhaha on this bc so clever
but 😪
gosh that sure does feel like my truth 😞
being a professional codependent - with the illusion that i have some measure of self-possession - prob i just continue to lie to myself that i have some kind of control ..
You always know how to make me feel better 💐
Anna, you gave me my so needed answer at the age of 64🥰
I had done the work mostly over the years but never had a clue that my brain had broken. that's why it was so hard, but I knew important to know me and my bodily sensation.
I now can put so many things together ... I can put it all together 🙂 I am now me...and I'm free and I can now see👀 myself...I'm beautiful
Thanks for coming into my life
Dawn
What a beautiful comment, thank you! Made my day!
I needed to hear this. Recently I have been pondering what the heck my gift is? I am trying to think of what feedback I've received. People have told me I'm a good listener, that I'm funny, that I'm a caring friend etc. I once posted publicly about challenging my anxiety and I got a lot of feedback from that and people told me I was helping them and inspiring them. I feel a little funny pursuing a gift that revolves around my struggles though like I am making it part of my identity. I also enjoy art like Jane, but I feel like it's more of a hobby for me than something that I feel really at my best with.
If you don't already, I recommend the Daily Practice, a free course that Anna created. This practice - when done daily- wakes us up more to our gifts and purpose bit.ly/3608opl
-Cara@TeamFairy
My working life went from doing completely male-oriented jobs trying to be good enough for my dad, then onto people pleasing (service industry). I don't even know who I really am. So now I haven't worked for a year at a job, just doing well off my investments, and doing volunteer things. But I have another 10 years of potential work life. It's so hard to know but I want so much to be who I could have been! When I was little I was so girly :(
Hi Heather,
Could you teach people how to invest? If you can live off your investments , then that is a real skill that alot of people would love to learn.
@heather we want to heal trauma first, so that we can find the work that suits us. Otherwise, it's cart before horse.
-Cara@TeamFairy
These gift are worth working on. Thanks Ann. Good video of hope. The healing journey!😺🌞👍😀
:)
Oh, to you young women.
When you are young, you dream about the "Knight in Shining Armour". However, look for the knight that has a few dings and scratches in his armour. Shows he's been tested in battle. The one with shining armor has never been put to the test. The dings and scratches may be some gray hair and a few lines in the face. That's okay! He's been tested in battle.
:)
This is very encouraging rn 🙏 thank you! (I’m nearly finding.. something!) 🤷🏻♀️
😉😁👌
You got this!
I wandered into this video today when I needed it most. Your channel has helped me so much, it really has changed my life for the better. Thank you for all you do.
Wow! The deep dive into gifts versus talents was extremely helpful and gave me a lot to think about. Appreciate your generosity in sharing your work-related stories - this is a timely topic that I'm sure will benefit many. Thanks Anna :)
Glad it was helpful!
What an inspiring video. 👏 thanks, such great timing, feels like it's for me. I need to spend some time figuring out my talent or gift. I don't think I have one, I can do a few things but nothing single stands out. I'll have to listen again ! There's a goldmine here for me if I can just figure it out. 🤞🙂❤
Less fear and resentment, more clarity about our gifts!
-Cara@TeamFairy
This has helped me consider what my gifts are and what I need to do to progress it to show it to the public via video. I'm in a similar position and have a similar attitude in waiting for approval and recognition. Making videos and cold calling (although I sent emails and now have a position in a good amateur / semi-pro orchestra) are a great way forward. The gift I have does have something to offer and that is the emotional connection it brings to a person, whereas I tend to think of technical ability, it has taken away the 'love' of playing and being able to express. I believe this video has put me back on track, this time in the right direction. Thanks again Anna for your wonderful words of wisdom.
So appreciate you sharing!
Our family recently commissioned an oil portrait from a picture of my grandson as a young 'un & a beloved dog that's passed, sweet Lola. The artist has developed a business model to support herself through art through teaching & paintings for pay, on-line & locally.
We're SO happy with our art investment, a signed & numbered oil for no more than folks spend on TVs & fancy shoes!
Jane, you can make people as happy as Mariah Hope made us!
That's so kind, thanks for sharing!
I had never heard this before...a talent compared to a gift, and that my true gift brings others joy. Thanks Anna 🤗
It makes sense also because if I am using my 'gift', I will also feel fulfilled and that will beam out of me and hopefully make others enjoy me being around them ( not that they don't at all now, lol)
Regarding Jane's art, could she sell on Etsy? So many online opportunities these days to promote and share our talents and gifts...and the potential buyers... the whole world!
So many people have been very supportive and forthcoming with ideas for Jane!
I don't have any gifts, but I'd love to find remunerative work that is both tolerable and meaningful. Thanks for the thought-provoking video and for sharing your experiences.
You are so welcome!
I guess my talent is writing because that’s what I’m always complimented on. It’s a big part of my work so that’s cool. What I love to do is dance!
Love that!
You are totally awesome!!! What a great success story. I love you and your channel so much. ✨💞💫
Thank you so much!!
OOOOOHHHH, this video was sooo helpful. I appreciate that you are just so real. Thank you for being you!
Glad it was helpful!
My cousin is an artist and she sells her art at local markets, stores and her website. She has an awesome social media presence and she's always coming up with new things to do. If there is a surface she will paint it and make money. 😂
Gifts and talents are extremely interesting. I'm a musician, songwriter and media artist. This video is right on target!
Your talents sound so cool!
-Cara@TeamFairy
I'm positive that my true work is working with others around energy healing ( Reiki, Shamanism..and the like) . I just feel like I need to do more work on me first.
It's often possible @Kimberly_Smith that you can work on both goals at the same time. They just might amplify each other -- your vocation and your personal healing.
Amazing advice and just what I needed to hear also. I started to write a whole thing about how I gave up painting in the 90s, because I learned that nobody makes a living as a painter from my art teachers in college back then, before listening to the entire thing - but you actually gave me hope to get back into painting by the end. Thank you lol
Wow!! Great job Crappy childhood fairy truly you are great in front of the camera you just have it and your work is healing.
I swear you’re able to know exactly what I’m going through lately just as I’m thinking through it. Haha thank you so much for this!
I'm so glad!
You are my enlightenment gift this week. Thank you 💛
You are Welcome to come for Dinner if you are ever in Britain.🇬🇧
Well Done, you have all the answers..X
I'll hopefully be in Europe this summer :)
I feel like you're an emotional Dr. That is defibrillating my soul🙌 thank you for your authenticity 💞
Yes exactly!! Choose to expand explore n embrace all avenues of opportunities. Those paths lead to so many unexpected pleasures
:)
i dont think its possible to find our calling without community. we blosom when we are filled with love.
Thanks so much for being here!
Excellent... thanks for your honesty. Needed this. And I shared with someone I love who needed this too 🌸
Glad it was helpful to you both!
This video is right on time for me as well. Thank you Anna! You are a light in this world.
You are so welcome.
I really love that you've made this channel and put out such helpful content on Trauma! I've been visiting my past trauma in the last couple of years, and your videos have been very helpful to me. Thank you so much!
Glad I could help!
Thank you, thank you, thank you, Anna. I can relate to Jane’s dilemma. In the area I so have passion for, my trauma has had me waiting for someone to rescue & guide me. And it’s so close to my heart, that I don’t trust anyone. And connecting was made difficult by my mannerisms that came from that old trauma (that I was not aware I was doing). If any video thus far has spoken directly to me, this is the one!! 🙏🏼💕 The point also worth mentioning is about doing a thing little by little (and not focused on a specific outcome). I needed to hear that.
Wish me grace on my music writing and performing, it seems my perspective is budging into alignment at last! 😇
Thank you for this video. Your opening comments described me. I have no idea what my gifts are. I was reorg’d out of my last job three years ago and am currently doing consulting in the same field while still trying to find a job (to no avail). I feel like I’m moving in slow motion, or trying to run a marathon in a swamp with a full pack on my back. I am good at what I do, but there is no flow to it and certainly no joy. Earlier in my career I was employed and moving up and busy, so I didn’t have time to think about this stuff. These last few years have been a very frustrating experience, and all of my introspection and efforts to understand have left me feeling like I am spinning in circles in an eddy. I hope to make sense of this at some point.
This is so helpful. I would love to see more videos about work. I have bad work relationships and I have trouble setting boundaries and asking for help.
Gratitude Anna!
Thank you so much for these videos! I am learning how to heal. I am learning different coping techniques that you teach that are really making a difference in my life. These videos are life changing!
Thanks for watching!
-Cara@TeamFairy
THANK YOU ! Such a great talk. Really sound advice 👍🏼💜 gives me hope at a time when I thought all was lost 🙏
So glad!
You are the best CZcamsR!
I always get dysregulated when I have to do something for someone. I had a trial shift somewhere and was dysregulated the entire shift and ended up not getting the job
Try the writing and meditation practice beforehand :)
-Cara@TeamFairy
Hi Anna, I just have to say....wow. this is EXACTLY what I have needed. I feel like I was just hit by lightning or something. I've been stuck in that horrible dark "struggling unhappy starving artist" place for so many years. I could have written that letter. It's awful! Feeling misunderstood and sort of doomed, not seeing my art as something good. Your comments were so helpful and thoughtful. Your videos on You Tube have helped me so much. I hope I'm not fawning. But I'm genuinely blown away right now by your words and your gifts, and how much you have helped me. Thanks Anna!! ❤
Wow, thank you for sharing! We're so glad you're here :) -Calista@TeamFairy
I've said it before but you are changing my life... thanks so much for your videos and may you make many more 🧡🙏
You are so welcome
You’re really GREAT. You _truly_ ‘get it.’ ❤️
Wow, thank you! I really strive to create a message that resonates!
YOU DESERVE THE SUCCESS YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE WHO REALLY GETS IT THANK YOU
If you get Anna, you get it too :)
-Cara@TeamFairy
I really get inspired by your videos. Thank you for sharing your thoughts!😃😃👍🏻👍🏻🌺🌺
I'm so glad!
great advice as always. Am missing a word about artists im time limited art forms ( such as dancing, mastery of an instrument) who MISSED the boat, but whose fire is still burning. Now it’s burning with grief and resentment because of past restraints, and because the inner artist can’t function without living its art . It’s like telling a penguin to start climbing trees for some benefit...
thanks for putting extra thought into this
Thanks for watching!
Thank you Anna!!! 🙏🏼
Love this, thank you Anna
Thank you so much Anna I appreciate you so very much
You are so welcome
Thank you for the good advice.
Glad it was helpful!
I find it very hard to believe that your "gift" is to benefit others. I've been a victim of an abusive covert malignant narcissist & a mom that was the same. All I've done for 47 years is things that are good for others. I just want to be happy and its fine if helping others is my gift but I want something good for me. I'm not getting what your going for here...
Realizing our gifts and putting them to use generally come after a certain amount of healing. We aren't going to be able to access them with a lot of unhealed trauma and fears.
-Cara@TeamFairy
This is very encouraging and true 🌺
Thank you!
My psychic and mediumship gifts have been thrust upon me the past couple months in a big way, what would all the people who “know” me think! Ha! I’m working thru the being “seen” I think I need to get on YT and be done with that issue! Glad to have found your channel! 🙏🏻 yes waiting for permission! Nailed it, wow, I’m also close to actually feeling like a grown beautiful woman instead of a kid for 51 years! 😱
Thanks so much for sharing!
Dear Anne
I listen to you almost every day,
It is so right,and deep,
now for example,I am a woman with no gift,or a talent,
can't stand my job anymore,it is boring,i am there 20 years!
I am 63, dealing with my ptsd,
with therapy,and with you (not managing to take down your free daily course)..
haiteng my self for falling again to the hole of the victims
Thank you for being here.
Glad you are here too @Rama_shkolnik
-Cara@TeamFairy
Thanks for clarification on Gifts and Talents
Interesting distinctions right?
-Cara@TeamFairy
Great topic, today. Recovering from my second Covid shot. Ouch! My arm feels like it will fall off.
Did you see our service this past Sunday on CZcams? Discovery Church, Boise. We are a small, fledgling, community of Believers, led by lay leaders. We are real. No pretension. No facades.
The title of Matt's sermon was, "Formed by the Promise, Not Conformed by the Past". That's right up your alley, Anna, and all of us with C-PTSD. I used your quote about moving through "sandy honey" in the discussion. Great word picture!
Our singers, bless their hearts, give it all they got. However, it is a little hard to listen to. We need your singing voice! LOL.
What a sweet thought :)
I think you're wonderful, thank you
Thank you too!
Thank you a lot for this particular topic ! Thank you So Much for it !
Most welcome 😊
Thank you so much for this video :)
Glad it was helpful!
This is so informative thank you!
Glad it was helpful!
I love your channel Anna thank you 💖
Thank you so much!
Such good answers.
Thanks so much!
Fantastic!
Many thanks!
Love your videos Anna ❤❤❤
this is a smart, {masters degree} woman. but not just book smart. she has good sound practical life advice. i used to be in business and i know business sense, yeah she gots that too. but as if all that werent enough she came from and out of a hard childhood upbringing and life. at one point she didnt think her life worth living! i do thank god for her and for turning her around. my my what a different course her life could have went in? she would have been just another casualty of cptsd abuse and neglect. this is a good story in life and it shows life is good and can be turned around for the one who wants it. thank you miss anna, you are a motivating force and an encouragement to be appreciated! we love you!
Aw, thank you for "getting it." Thank your for your love!
very good as always
Thanks for the visit!
How many of us get to use our talents to make a living? Probably less than 5% of all working people because we have to pay our bills. When you no longer have the anxiety about paying your bills, your mind is free to explore other avenues.
The idea is that we start the healing process and see what comes our way. I have seem LOTS of miracles :)
-Cara@TeamFairy
Our trauma is transformed when we realize, its not all about us. Someone needs your wisdom learned from hard times. The narcissist tried to ruin your ability to give and receive love, but you can win the battle by lowering your defense mechanism to trust the grace of other safe people who wont judge you by your brokeness. When we let grace and compassion in we find that we have it to give more so than those who have never suffered or failed. "confess your faults to one another so that you can be healed". Vulnerability is the key to receiving grace. we must trust again that someone will accept the real me and not shame, blame, control and manipulate, triangulate and marginalize us. you find safe people when you learn to discern who is safe enough for me to be me without a mask.
Thanks for adding to the conversation!