I dated a dark-skinned man and one day we were talking and he was saying how he’s glad I’m light-skinned. I questioned him on it which led to an argument and needless to say we broke up shortly after that. I’ll never be with a self-hating black man. I’ll never be a man’s “prize” just because of my skin complexion either. I guess he thought I would be happy over his statements but I was straight up disgusted. 😭
The self hate is in both dark skin men and light skin women. The most allot of you light skin women date dark skin men because you all wish u were darker that is why u got offended when he mentioned you being light skin u are light skin and that was why he wanted to be with u
My uncle went through that. And my husband. We have to remember we were separated in slavery. We have to remember we are beautiful of all shades. We don't need white approval of that.
We're not bitter, we're hurt, tired, disappointed and in need of a soft place to land. Great video tho. Many dark skin men need to heal and decolonize their minds.
Back in the day every black female wanted a Lightskin men I remember that even in school a darkskin men would get clowned every black females wanted a Chris brown now the tables have turned
That’s crazy because now black woman are being bashed, shamed, and stereotyped on every single social media platform. We just have to do better as a community.
I only prefer light-skinned men and I’m fairly light myself. I feel most dark skinned Black men are EVIL! They really hate their dark skin color and are the biggest colorists like Kanye, Kevin Hart, Neo, etc. My son is extremely light-skin.
Tables are not turning against dark skin women, we are actually ascending spiritually in this Aquarius age, while black men devolve like Yakub who grafted these pale race. Remember without us, u can not be created nor exist.
At least you are honest. You look like the girls I grew up around who were dark and loved the Mulattoes. I don't know about this supposed looooove of dark skinned men. That was only when gangsta rap was hitting
I love how you breaking this down you see the image and reflection of your mother or like family tree or something I love the so-called woman of Color that resembles me and I always say that if I have children I want my kids to look like me in my woman that I’m dating i’m not attracted to no other woman but black women colored women women of color I always said I don’t want nothing that looks far from the original woman of color black woman
So true brotha!!!!!Many brothas need help mentally…but don’t forget the programming like, “ Don’t marry too dark we want light skin babies “ said by many black mothers till this day !!🔥
Another thing about BW’s looks is that they don’t age as quickly as WW. This is not merely a question of wrinkles as even WW without wrinkles look older than comparable BW. It’s about their facial features. The softness of their features makes their faces more “plump”. It is the loss of “plumpness” in the face, which is associated with youth, that makes a face look older. Because young WW often begin with hard features, they are already older-looking to begin with and therefore age that much more rapidly. BW will often look like a teenager into their 30s. Also the science of beauty has nothing to do with whether your features are broad or narrow. The symmetry of your face is how close you are to phi, period. You can have the widest nose/lips on the face of the earth and as long as the portions on your face are symmetrical, you would be relatively close to phi and still beautiful. Great video Jay. Great to see a brother give some balance because this "redbone" "white women" worship is outta control to the max and these are young cats doing this. And this is no hate towards white women. I do think some white women are attractive. Beauty is beauty but they're very-very over-rated and their beauty is enhanced by social conditioning. Sorry for long post.
Hey Jay, have you ever heard of the backhand compliment some Black men especially DSBM say that a woman is "cute for a darkskinned woman" or even saying the female is "too dark?" I have heard this numerous times, and I don't get why men even overanalyze each other's complexion, hair texture, and facial features like that within "The Black Community" makes no sense at all.
@@JAYLOVE47 Do you remember the actress Camille Winbush from the Bernie Mac Show back in the day? I always thought that she was nice looking, but other Black men would disagree with my notion and saying that she was too dark or she was just ok (probably hinting about her complexion) You can look her up, if you don't know who I am talking about; she is grown now, but played Vanessa on the show.
I'm just a little surprised that it's taken YT this long to recommend a video from your channel because this is the type of content that I watch, fa sho! Yes, curvaceous is a word, but unfortunately, not all of us (black women) are born that way. That aside, I do appreciate the conversation from your perspective. You, brotha, ask 4 of the hardest hitting questions that I've heard anyone on the platform ask of black men and I'd love to hear some answers to: do y'all think white men are more attractive than you? Do y'all think that their daughters are more attractive than your daughters? Do y'all think that their mothers are more attractive than your mothers? Do y'all think that your white male counterparts produce better looking women than you produce? I'll wait. Shoutout to you, Sir!
Ppl are naturally curvy and some are naturally thin and then there’s actual obesity which is like my 600 lb life obesity and if you’re trying to say all black women look like that you’re wrong not everybody has to like thin white women
I am light skinned and my dad is mixed and my mother is brown skinned but myself I want a brown skin woman with black features. Most women I talked to over the years were white though I only remember going on a date with a black woman once she was brown skin but I wasn't interested in her I met her off a chatline though. But it all depends on what you interested in. But most people I see where I live in my neighborhood are white people. I live in a white neighborhood. Most my friends ended up with white women one is brown skinned and the other is dark skin. But myself I rather end up with a black woman though.
I'm a Light Skinned Man and I find Light Skinned Women Attractive. I wished Dark Skinned Men found Dark Skinned Women Attractive. I never bashed my hue counterparts.
Where does these Black women reside/linger at?In my personal experience: Dark skin women prefer a black man who is/has a lighter complexion than their own.
I'll never bleach or anything, but it does however make me sometimes not want to be gay anymore b/c you can tell many gay dudes don't like us immediately b/c of our complexion.
I think its a combination of things. Societal conditioning or just opposites attracting. Light skin men and women tend to go for dark skin while dark skin women and men tend to go for light skin. Honestly speaking I think the contrast is beautiful and interesting. Furthermore small, delicate facial features are associated with femininity and broad, fuller features are associated with masculinity. All in all this world is full of preferences which is gonna put some whom have certain attributes and characteristics over others. Right or wrong it is what it is.
Yeah well why don't white people think this way about black people especially white men when it comes to black women? 🤔 And as I stated in this video that's stupid because Afrocentric features are not masculine Kelly Rowland is masculine? 🤦🏾♂️ She has Afrocentric features! Are white men feminine because they have eurocentric features? 😂😂 Like I believe there is a feminine and masculine version of Afrocentric features and the same with eurocentric features
@@JAYLOVE47 White men are looked at as less masculine than Black men. The only reason they are considered the most desired is because of there socio-economic status in society. For instance, the ideal male is described as being Tall, Dark and handsome...does that sound like a European man 👨 lol Furthermore, If the ideal man is described as Tall, dark and handsome wouldn't the ideal woman be the complete opposite of that...just a little food for thought. Love your channel by the way. Very intelligent and insightful.
I hate the term “Eurocentric” features because we are Aborigine. We are the original people. Big features do not equate to just “Afrocentric”. All features big and small are original to us because we are the Aborigine. And all melanated people are not from Africa.
I really hate the way that things are Jay. I don't like for black women to try to look like white women with all that fake weave and stuff. I'd like for black women to be natural and wear their natural hair they are beautiful to me they just got an attitude problem most of them do anyway.
You sound kinda freaky talkin bout "we look for our mother features in other women". I personally don't look at my mother in that way. If anything, when Im being intimate, I want someone who don't remind me of my mother at all.
You're apparently too dumb to understand the point that was being made so don't worry just ignore it. Some people are just too dumb and thick-skulled to indulge in certain discussions
Hey Jay, out of curiosity is your dad lighter than your mom like brownskinned or lightskinned? I've known guys like yourself that have a brown or lightskinned dad with a darkskinned mom or vice versa. I have seen women around your mom's complexion with men Ice-T's complexion or lighter. Our genes skip and are randomly assigned. Two darkskinned people can produce a lightskinned baby and vice versa.
I meant to say the dark race came out of ham that’s the youngest son of Noah and the so-called blacks Hispanics and Navy to American people came out of Abraham Isaac and Jacob according to the Bible shim would be the Hebrew race Genesis chapter 9 verse 26 that’s the race that the Bible calls the Israelites the chosen people of God came out of shim The dark race came out of the youngest son of Noah which would be ham that’s the same race that the Ethiopians come out of Ethiopians African Canaanites are all the same people that was enemies to the Hebrew Israelites the Bible is a history book not a religious book The dark race sold the Semitic into slavery if you want some extra information on it i’ll be more than happy to give you the information
It don't need to be my business to talk about it and anything involving or pertaining to my people is my business. Look like we have a self hater here. You be dating those big old blimp shaped white women?
More complete nonsense. Firstly, tell me a black male celebrity with a wide nose who black women regard as handsome; there are none. It's pretty clear who we as a group regard as attractive. Tika Sumpter is beautiful anywhere in the world. We made 'booty' part of the standard but have not come up with a different standard. Secondly, what you say is a lot of nonsense unless you provide links to black women who you think is beautiful.
Don't they like Morris Chestnut? To be honest I don't know who is supposed to be the hot Black actor right now. I can only go by what was cracking when I was young. Bobby Brown? Keith Sweat, KC and Jojo. R Kelly. Wesley Snipes. Those are some of the men I remember BW liked. But to be fair they may have liked other things to about them
Its not complete nonsense because dark skinned Black men don't have a pet name for dark skinned women who look like homeboy in the videos sister. Is any dark skinned rapper with a dark skinned chick?
Jeezy ? No Gucci! No Other celebrities? Tyrese Gibson No Ray Jay No Eddie Murphy No Denzel Washington Yes Don Cheadle? No It's hard to find a Black man who is famous and not a couple shades lighter Bill Cosby No Dave Chappelle No
Don Cheadle, Eddie Murphy, Dave Chappelle are heartthrobs for black women? Since when? Point me to a black actor who black women regard as handsome and who has a wide nose. Go.
Finally a black man who can tell the truth and keep it real about the discrimination going on in the black race against black women from black men.
Yeah, but that’s not the full side of the story. At least in my experience 😂 the dark skin women never wanted me
I dated a dark-skinned man and one day we were talking and he was saying how he’s glad I’m light-skinned. I questioned him on it which led to an argument and needless to say we broke up shortly after that. I’ll never be with a self-hating black man. I’ll never be a man’s “prize” just because of my skin complexion either. I guess he thought I would be happy over his statements but I was straight up disgusted. 😭
The self hate is in both dark skin men and light skin women. The most allot of you light skin women date dark skin men because you all wish u were darker that is why u got offended when he mentioned you being light skin u are light skin and that was why he wanted to be with u
Im a lightskin man and i get bashed alot from darkskin men.
What they be saying?
I’m so sorry for y’all. Why do they bash darker woman and lighter men?
@@Ejejesksjs well for lightskin men we are viewed as weak while darkskin women are seen as masculine.
@@emorytraylor ...when these dark skinned men are getting ran through on the low, the irony.
My uncle went through that. And my husband. We have to remember we were separated in slavery. We have to remember we are beautiful of all shades. We don't need white approval of that.
lol I’m Jamerican and I will say American colorism has nothing on Jamaican colorism.
Black men Who taught you to hate yourselves?
~ Malcolm X
We're not bitter, we're hurt, tired, disappointed and in need of a soft place to land. Great video tho. Many dark skin men need to heal and decolonize their minds.
I'm a light skin black man I love my dark sistas
They don’t love yo mf ass
JAY LOVE I SEE YOU ARE BACK ON YO SHIT, MUCH LOVE BRO, I BEEN LISTENING SINCE 2008 OR SOME SHIT
I just came across your channel and I agree with everything u say. You make a lot of sense. They behave the same in Europe.
Back in the day every black female wanted a Lightskin men I remember that even in school a darkskin men would get clowned every black females wanted a Chris brown now the tables have turned
Because Chocolate thunder is back 🍫 ⚡
That’s crazy because now black woman are being bashed, shamed, and stereotyped on every single social media platform. We just have to do better as a community.
Dat was jus a fling. Dey never took us serious like dey do wit dsm
I only prefer light-skinned men and I’m fairly light myself. I feel most dark skinned Black men are EVIL! They really hate their dark skin color and are the biggest colorists like Kanye, Kevin Hart, Neo, etc. My son is extremely light-skin.
Tables are not turning against dark skin women, we are actually ascending spiritually in this Aquarius age, while black men devolve like Yakub who grafted these pale race. Remember without us, u can not be created nor exist.
I love lightskin/mixed men they’re just sexier in my opinion…
@Horizontal when it comes to the men HELL YEA IT DO LOL!!!
At least you are honest. You look like the girls I grew up around who were dark and loved the Mulattoes. I don't know about this supposed looooove of dark skinned men. That was only when gangsta rap was hitting
Hell, yeah--they also look more approachable than darker skin men.
Cause ur dark skin and want lighter kids
I love this video
This is a much needed discussion
I love how you breaking this down you see the image and reflection of your mother or like family tree or something I love the so-called woman of Color that resembles me and I always say that if I have children I want my kids to look like me in my woman that I’m dating i’m not attracted to no other woman but black women colored women women of color I always said I don’t want nothing that looks far from the original woman of color black woman
Stop saying black when you clearly mean light skin or light brown women.
Jay you BETTA tell the truth 🖐️
One black woman saw my dad years ago and she knew he was mixed too she said it good my parents stayed in their race too though.
So true brotha!!!!!Many brothas need help mentally…but don’t forget the programming like, “ Don’t marry too dark we want light skin babies “ said by many black mothers till this day !!🔥
I appreciate your honesty.
Another thing about BW’s looks is that they don’t age as quickly as WW. This is not merely a question of wrinkles as even WW without wrinkles look older than comparable BW. It’s about their facial features. The softness of their features makes their faces more “plump”. It is the loss of “plumpness” in the face, which is associated with youth, that makes a face look older. Because young WW often begin with hard features, they are already older-looking to begin with and therefore age that much more rapidly.
BW will often look like a teenager into their 30s. Also the science of beauty has nothing to do with whether your features are broad or narrow. The symmetry of your face is how close you are to phi, period. You can have the widest nose/lips on the face of the earth and as long as the portions on your face are symmetrical, you would be relatively close to phi and still beautiful.
Great video Jay. Great to see a brother give some balance because this "redbone" "white women" worship is outta control to the max and these are young cats doing this. And this is no hate towards white women. I do think some white women are attractive. Beauty is beauty but they're very-very over-rated and their beauty is enhanced by social conditioning. Sorry for long post.
I'd rather look older than have big wide features and sheep's wool nappy hair any day 🤢🤮🐑
They want the body but not the face and hair
It’s not just the young guys It’s men way over 50 also
In the state's Creole is a family with different shades. But in Africa we all have different shades. But we all still black
I’ve been attracted to dark skinned black women my entire life so I’m new to this convo
Hey Jay, have you ever heard of the backhand compliment some Black men especially DSBM say that a woman is "cute for a darkskinned woman" or even saying the female is "too dark?" I have heard this numerous times, and I don't get why men even overanalyze each other's complexion, hair texture, and facial features like that within "The Black Community" makes no sense at all.
Yes it means that you're cute for a person with ugly features aka dark skin!
@@JAYLOVE47 Do you remember the actress Camille Winbush from the Bernie Mac Show back in the day? I always thought that she was nice looking, but other Black men would disagree with my notion and saying that she was too dark or she was just ok (probably hinting about her complexion) You can look her up, if you don't know who I am talking about; she is grown now, but played Vanessa on the show.
@@supersaturn956 i heard she got fans only
Yes. I have gotten that compliment before.
I'm just a little surprised that it's taken YT this long to recommend a video from your channel because this is the type of content that I watch, fa sho! Yes, curvaceous is a word, but unfortunately, not all of us (black women) are born that way. That aside, I do appreciate the conversation from your perspective. You, brotha, ask 4 of the hardest hitting questions that I've heard anyone on the platform ask of black men and I'd love to hear some answers to: do y'all think white men are more attractive than you? Do y'all think that their daughters are more attractive than your daughters? Do y'all think that their mothers are more attractive than your mothers? Do y'all think that your white male counterparts produce better looking women than you produce? I'll wait. Shoutout to you, Sir!
Africans can tell what tribe a black American comes from by looking at your facial features
They can tell what tribe I'm from, people f*** it up all the time
So
Are you African?
I think this is very wise.
The only different thing I’d say is that we should all reject obesity as unattractive.
Ppl are naturally curvy and some are naturally thin and then there’s actual obesity which is like my 600 lb life obesity and if you’re trying to say all black women look like that you’re wrong not everybody has to like thin white women
I like my fat bottomed girls
thank you we need healing tooo black men have not been healed
When you got on your knees like a dog…I died 😝
Facts but they ain’t ready for this video tho uhoh they going to call u a simp for this
I am light skinned and my dad is mixed and my mother is brown skinned but myself I want a brown skin woman with black features. Most women I talked to over the years were white though I only remember going on a date with a black woman once she was brown skin but I wasn't interested in her I met her off a chatline though. But it all depends on what you interested in. But most people I see where I live in my neighborhood are white people. I live in a white neighborhood. Most my friends ended up with white women one is brown skinned and the other is dark skin. But myself I rather end up with a black woman though.
I. LOVE. LIGHT. SKIN. FORVER 1,0000❤
You mean mixed race women like Alecia keys, Halle Barry etc…
I'm a Light Skinned Man and I find Light Skinned Women Attractive. I wished Dark Skinned Men found Dark Skinned Women Attractive. I never bashed my hue counterparts.
All black women are your counterparts
@@JAYLOVE47 Nah.
@@justinquiah8058 ..nor are the men.
@@thatshot8 What do you mean?
@@justinquiah8058 ..."Too dark a hue makes a coward."
-Aristotle
Fantastic video. You made great points!
Omg I am lol soooooo hard…damn you are funny as hell.
Where does these Black women reside/linger at?In my personal experience: Dark skin women prefer a black man who is/has a lighter complexion than their own.
The majority of us dont that is a small percentage
I'll never bleach or anything, but it does however make me sometimes not want to be gay anymore b/c you can tell many gay dudes don't like us immediately b/c of our complexion.
Lol it’s not a gay thing it’s a BLACK thing
Yo great video keep preaching
Paper cut thin lips 🤣
Right! Kitchen counter asses 🤣
Nat Turner was yellow
But I get your point
He was talking about his African facial features.
I agree. Great video Jay.
I LOVED THE VIDEO ❤
Preachin
Over the years Serena Williams has been gradually lightening her skin, look at her as a child and look at her now it's so obvious.
It's just makeup
@@JAYLOVE47
At this point she's lightend her skin sooo much she'll soon be looking biracial
I think its a combination of things. Societal conditioning or just opposites attracting. Light skin men and women tend to go for dark skin while dark skin women and men tend to go for light skin. Honestly speaking I think the contrast is beautiful and interesting. Furthermore small, delicate facial features are associated with femininity and broad, fuller features are associated with masculinity. All in all this world is full of preferences which is gonna put some whom have certain attributes and characteristics over others. Right or wrong it is what it is.
Yeah well why don't white people think this way about black people especially white men when it comes to black women? 🤔 And as I stated in this video that's stupid because Afrocentric features are not masculine Kelly Rowland is masculine? 🤦🏾♂️ She has Afrocentric features! Are white men feminine because they have eurocentric features? 😂😂 Like I believe there is a feminine and masculine version of Afrocentric features and the same with eurocentric features
@@JAYLOVE47 Great question.💯
@@JAYLOVE47 White men are looked at as less masculine than Black men. The only reason they are considered the most desired is because of there socio-economic status in society. For instance, the ideal male is described as being Tall, Dark and handsome...does that sound like a European man 👨 lol Furthermore, If the ideal man is described as Tall, dark and handsome wouldn't the ideal woman be the complete opposite of that...just a little food for thought. Love your channel by the way. Very intelligent and insightful.
@@reginakc spot on
@@8thWonderr1 the term “tall, dark, and handsome” doesn’t refer to bm. It’s a phrase that pertains to WM with dark hair……
Black people really need to understand WS.
What majority of Black Women Darkest of Dark to Lightest of Light wear straightened hair? ..........A huge majority.
I hate the term “Eurocentric” features because we are Aborigine. We are the original people. Big features do not equate to just “Afrocentric”. All features big and small are original to us because we are the Aborigine. And all melanated people are not from Africa.
Black. Is. Beautiful. Love it. Or. Leave. It.
💯
I really hate the way that things are Jay. I don't like for black women to try to look like white women with all that fake weave and stuff. I'd like for black women to be natural and wear their natural hair they are beautiful to me they just got an attitude problem most of them do anyway.
❤
👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾
You sound kinda freaky talkin bout "we look for our mother features in other women". I personally don't look at my mother in that way. If anything, when Im being intimate, I want someone who don't remind me of my mother at all.
You're apparently too dumb to understand the point that was being made so don't worry just ignore it. Some people are just too dumb and thick-skulled to indulge in certain discussions
@@JAYLOVE47 😭
@@JAYLOVE47 😂 keep it funky up in here.😂
Subconscious means it's not in the front of your mind
Yup. Read some psych sometime damn. Your upbringing affects your sub conscious heavily
I'm brown skinned why am I watching this.
Hey Jay, out of curiosity is your dad lighter than your mom like brownskinned or lightskinned? I've known guys like yourself that have a brown or lightskinned dad with a darkskinned mom or vice versa. I have seen women around your mom's complexion with men Ice-T's complexion or lighter. Our genes skip and are randomly assigned. Two darkskinned people can produce a lightskinned baby and vice versa.
No my mother is very chocolate like me and my dad was Lebron James complexion.
You can’t bashed brothers for liking what they like, attraction is primal, just like you can’t bashed sisters for not being attracted to shorter men
I meant to say the dark race came out of ham that’s the youngest son of Noah and the so-called blacks Hispanics and Navy to American people came out of Abraham Isaac and Jacob according to the Bible shim would be the Hebrew race Genesis chapter 9 verse 26 that’s the race that the Bible calls the Israelites the chosen people of God came out of shim The dark race came out of the youngest son of Noah which would be ham that’s the same race that the Ethiopians come out of Ethiopians African Canaanites are all the same people that was enemies to the Hebrew Israelites the Bible is a history book not a religious book The dark race sold the Semitic into slavery if you want some extra information on it i’ll be more than happy to give you the information
What are you talking about? The dude in the video is dark skinned
Lmfao 😂
So what. People have their preferences. And that's not any of your business.
It don't need to be my business to talk about it and anything involving or pertaining to my people is my business. Look like we have a self hater here. You be dating those big old blimp shaped white women?
🤔
@@JAYLOVE47 I just love how someone is going to tell you “it’s none of your business “ on YOUR platform! Wow the ignorance is REAL.😮
@@KNichelle Petty childish dumbass response... what I said applies to him which is why he said that dumb shit.
@@JAYLOVE47 👍🏾
More complete nonsense. Firstly, tell me a black male celebrity with a wide nose who black women regard as handsome; there are none. It's pretty clear who we as a group regard as attractive. Tika Sumpter is beautiful anywhere in the world. We made 'booty' part of the standard but have not come up with a different standard. Secondly, what you say is a lot of nonsense unless you provide links to black women who you think is beautiful.
Don't they like Morris Chestnut? To be honest I don't know who is supposed to be the hot Black actor right now. I can only go by what was cracking when I was young. Bobby Brown? Keith Sweat, KC and Jojo. R Kelly. Wesley Snipes. Those are some of the men I remember BW liked. But to be fair they may have liked other things to about them
Its not complete nonsense because dark skinned Black men don't have a pet name for dark skinned women who look like homeboy in the videos sister. Is any dark skinned rapper with a dark skinned chick?
Jeezy ? No
Gucci! No
Other celebrities?
Tyrese Gibson No
Ray Jay No
Eddie Murphy No
Denzel Washington Yes
Don Cheadle? No
It's hard to find a Black man who is famous and not a couple shades lighter
Bill Cosby No
Dave Chappelle No
Don Cheadle, Eddie Murphy, Dave Chappelle are heartthrobs for black women? Since when? Point me to a black actor who black women regard as handsome and who has a wide nose. Go.
@@maazi.naaniya9158Michael Jordan? No
This dude so stuck on color like they usually are.
It’s his whole identity.
😂 you guys got some issues man😂
So true these rappers do scream they like lightskin and white women true