Ask Dr. Tony - August 2021
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- čas přidán 28. 08. 2024
- 8/10/2021 -
Dr. Tony and I are working through a backlog of questions that queued up over Covid. There are some WONDERFUL queries in here! Although the topics are familiar, Dr. Attwood presents new research, insights and understandings for:
- getting past "disorder"
- anxiety and nutrition
- dealing with Sensory Issues (Extraception and Intraception)
- the parallels between autism and the effects of emotional abuse
- finding, getting and keeping a job (new resources)
- dealing with others ("Faking it"/Masking)
- and more!
Here are the topics covered in this session along with their timeline starting points:
Being Diagnosed/Disclosing a Diagnosis
- Autism Spectrum "Disorder" - Starts at 1:10
- Should I apologize for my ASD? - Starts at 5:05
Anxiety
- Are nutritional deficiencies the cause? - Starts at 8:49
- Finding fulfillment in retirement - Starts at 12:13
Sensory Issues
- Response to too much stimulation (Extraception, Intraception) - Starts at 14:12
- Bad fear of fireworks (loud noises) - Starts at 18:01
Autism and Abuse
- Emotional abuse can lead to autistic characteristics - Starts at 21:51
Getting and Keeping a Job
- New JKP book with resources - Starts at 26:09
- Tips for success - Starts at 30:07
- More tips for success - Starts at 35:03
"Faking It"/Masking
- Maturity... a stronger, braver part of life - Starts at 37:56
- Non-stereotypical autistic traits (diagnostically "subclinical") - Starts at 38:53
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I was the person who asked the last question, regarding non-stereotypical traits. Personally I can get or be sarcastic, and I don't always talk about interests incessantly -- and these were used by the statutory service to refuse my diagnosis. I do have eye contact issues, but have learned to fake it quite well.
I've asked for a second opinion, as I still think I have 80+ pieces of the jigsaw and these pieces still interfere with my life -- but I'm having an incredibly frustrating and stressful time trying to get my case heard. Thanks for the response!
21:30 There is excellent advice about the noise issues, but also the Pavlovian reflex needs to be re-programmed. I would suggest that as soon as darkness falls, you should establish a comforting routine. The sufferer needs to decide what comforts them. For example, put the ear muffs on, be warm and cosy and watch or listen to something that you like. If you find rocking comforting, do this. Do something with your special interest. If you repeat this procedure every day as darkness descends, you will probably start to associate nightfall with good things.
A lot of people don’t consider that autism can actually trigger abuse. I’m not excusing my mother, but no one knew what autism was when she married my dad who was a widow with four kids all on the spectrum. I am sure that the tendency is inherited and trauma will definitely make it worse.
Gotta be honest. I would never want my autism diagnosis taken away, even if I was "sub clinical". I'm Autistic. It's who I am and I'll always be Autistic. It's a positive. Without my autism my personality would be totally different.
I am a little disappointed that Dr. Atwood shifted the focus from nutrition to genetics, but hopefully I can share my personal experience and it will encourage others to at least give it a try. My son who is now 20 had a lot a sensory issues, but since he has transitioned to a diet free of processed carbs and sugars and has supplemented using nutritional yeast, D3/K2, Zinc, and vitamin E, he is very much improved. He used to talk about suicide and now he is content and improving daily.
I believe he did endorse your message. As an academic and professional, he spoke to the limits of his knowledge about nutrition. Then he encouraged those so interested, to continue and look into supplements. Thank you for the excellent question!
@@craigevans4010 Thank you for sharing my comment. 😁
@princessadora You do your best every day and day by day it gets easier. Your taste buds actually change over time. Small changes every day will add up to big successes. 🤗
I believe getting leafy greens several times a week helps me cope with my sensitivities better. And not always iceberg lettuce.
My sound sensitivity started in early childhood. I recall humming loudly , not tunefully, to overlay the electric motor noises that bothered me worst or at least harmonize with it, to navigate through as though it were a current of waist deep water I needed to slog until I came out the other side.
These videos are an incredible! I’m binge watching them. Thank you both so much 🙏
Such a great inspiration! Please continue the series. Thanks to the both of you from Copenhagen 🙏😊
I found a hypnosis for stopping nail biting. Listened to it once and chronic biting stopped after 30 years! I catch myself occasionally now but can stop now. 👍🏼
That's amazing!!
Where did you find it? is it avail online?
Marisa peer on you tube
cant wait to hit that subclinical diagnosis someday
How do you deal with a parent that disagrees with an objective diagnosis?
I have been diagnosed since 22after a suicide attempt and basically because I’m legally blind so she could do so without me knowing easily. I don’t have support at home because when I try to bring up how I should deal with a situation and Such, I’m told to grow up and get over it.
I’m criticized constantly for what I wear, how I act, my special internets (Scottish and Irish Gaelic, music, or Apple’s operating system) after high school I could not stick with it. The routine was all wonky with some classes on one day, and longer times on others. Even simple outings, like grocery stores or going with family into our town without knowing the order in which we will do things. How can I work around these things to be more successful in adapting to the best I am able like I have to blindness, hearing loss, epilepsy and such?
Intraception may explain why I am not aware of being hungry or having a full bladder?Suddenly I need to eat as I’m starving, or before the age of 16, bursting to go to the toilet and not making it if anxious or otherwise highly focused on something (in two instances having too much fun with friends)?
My dad used hypnosis to quit smoking. It worked for him.
Dr Tony, thanks so much for these tips. I believe I am at a point where I would get a "social developmental delay" if I ever had the pleasure of sitting on your couch. I have studied social interractions ad nauseam, however I still make conversational mistakes especially when I meet new people, such as coworkers or peers. I seem to not distinguish them from people I have known longer and closer. Is there any rules of thumb I (and those with the same issue as me) can silently remind ourselves when meeting new people? Thanks.
I found the feeling 'sick' topic to be interesting, as our Aspi daughter (3.5) has recently started saying 'I can't, Im scared' when asked to perform certain tasks, usually involving a transition.
The small autistic understandings and tips given by Dr Tony is something you couldn't get in many places. Thank you to both of you for these shows!
I've been reading Bessell van der Kolk's The Body Keeps The Score and so much of what he describes resonates with autism. I've been curious about Dr Attwood's opinions about these overlaps/coincidences. He touched on that possible coincidence here, but I'd love know what he specifically feels about van der Kolk's overarching belief that these behaviours are borne out of trauma in most cases.
With regards to the job interview situation. It is also to realize what is appropriate and inappropriate questions to answer with regards to ones autism and other health conditions in that case. . I recently went for a job interview (I have Aspergers and fibromyalgia) and I did not think too much of it during the interview but once it was over, in typical Aspergers way, I dissected the interview and realized that actually some of the questions did not relate to the job and pushing personal boundaries.
I am 71 years old and have just received a partial diagnoses of ASD from a psychologist in Scotland. The process was like torture for me but I made myself finish the course. I was rewarded with an opinion that I was likely autistic but not a full diagnoses because she couldn't interview anyone with knowledge of my childhood and therefore couldn't fulfil the requirement for ICD-10. This is not satisfactory for me. Its quite the opposite. Its is not tidy, it is not definitive, it is disturbing and I am exhausted.
And they talk about autistic people as being too rigid, so what is their problem exactly? How could they expect a woman of your age to have parents alive to answer said questions? Maybe seek a professional outside of the uk that will see you via video call.
The psychologist is wrong, in saying that she couldn't interview someone, who knew you as a child. The person, who knew you best, is available. You are!
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If possible I would like to know this: Could an adult Aspie be a toxic human (man), a narcissist, sarcastic, egotist, insensible, incoherent, or something like that, or is Autism that makes him to look and act like that? And on top, not accepting very well the fact that he is an Aspie, "different". In fact, it finds it offensive or just nonsense.
I have a very serious question
Write it here.