I am 65 years young and have cancer .I stumbled upon your blog by accident and now watch and listen to u a lot .I think you are amazing inspirational and your laugh always cheers me up .My family can not believe I follow you as I am an ex lead teacher ....you are my not so secret indulgence.
Annette Williams, I hope your treatment is going very well, I am also that young and am wondering what a lead teacher is there. I am assuming you are in England, I am from the USA and was a Special Ed teacher and was curious about that name. Best of luck.
I’m sorry I don’t comment more, but just wanted you to know how much I appreciated this video!! You explained the online/CZcams/social media world so well! You always articulate your thoughts beautifully and have a wonderful way of making a positive change in this community!! Kudos to you!!🙌🏼❤️
Having a healthy distance between work and personal life has always been considered a smart and practical practice... So it's interesting that there seems to be some expectation for you and others on youtube to not have any boundaries. I think it's very important to have healthy boundaries in every life senario. The fact that you are speaking up and clearly articulating how YOU would like to be treated and owning your personal feelings on how you relate to the world it's quite brave and real and that's a powerful thing! Take care xx
Cha Cha I wish more companies established the boundaries for customers in how they treat their staff. Unfortunately, some companies are so afraid to lose customers that they let being verbally abusive to their employees and the employees would have to suck it up if they don’t want to lose the job.
Looks like the troll deleted their comments. I think ALL the supporters of Lydia and anti-bullying should make an account on Guru Gossip and troll them over there. Seriously, these people are insane. I’d love to give them a run for it.
I was too scared to post a public comment until I watched this video. But I watch your videos at lot and look up to you a lot. Stay strong....,you are on the right track. Love you!
Best thing to understand is that negative opinions have nothing to do with you, only with the commentators. If you are happy and balanced person, you will never ever go to someones video and write crap about them.
Hillary Smith if I love someones channel I never pick out the little mistakes that they make or say. They are human like we all are. And I’m pretty sure that all of you have made a lot of mistakes in life but the difference is that you don’t have videos online where everyone can come and judge. Accept yourself and others. ✌️
I've ALWAYS wanted a youtube channel but the thought of receiving hate daily has always scared me away from it. I don't think I could handle it! Thanks for your honest videos always! x
Aww you should do it anyway. I've been doing it for over two years but I've probably only received 6 really mean comments. When you're a small youtuber it doesn't happen that often and the positives far outweigh the negatives. :)
Oh no I really think you guys should let your fears guide you and start a youtube channel! I believe that the things that you want to do but are too scared too are the ones with the highest reward. At the end of the day the people who are hating are also filled with hatred and I feel sorry for them. They are incapable of loving themselves so they can't love anybody else so they go and spread negativity everywhere! However YOU could actually be a positive force on the internet and a happy place. I can be your first subscriber! 😘
I remember the first time someone didn't like me for no reason. And it drove me crazy. I asked everyone who we were mutual friends with to find out why she didn't like me. And I got no answers. Finally my sister said to me,"Listen not everyone is going to like you so just deal with it!" That comment changed everything for me. I was like "oh"!! So when people are nasty just delete because most of them time it's them not you. All you can be is you and it's working!
Hello Lydia , this is a wonderful video. I think everyone has lost the golden rule and that rule is “Treat others the way you want to be treated”. Sometimes it’s hard to do this especially when you work in the service industry or you feel someone is being rude to you hence this cyber bulling. I think you addressed this topic very well. I’m going to watch the rest of this video now hehe :) Sending you love ❤️
Lydia, this was possibly the most important video you have ever made. You spoke so beautifully and eloquently, you explained you were rambling, but I must disagree, you made yourself and your opinion very clear. I wish that there were more like you on this site! Much love xx
"I felt like the most hated CZcamsr" the most surprising statement to come out of this incredible person's mouth. I watch your videos regularly, but I never read any comments, so I guess I was totally unaware of this hate. It doesn't seem warranted at all, but being on the internet sometimes means getting a little hate.
I am floored that anyone could find fault in the way you express your opinions, views, or life. You are one of the most inspirational and positive people whom I feel fortunate to be able to share a slice of your life with. Know that you are loved and appreciated by most of us. Also, “if it doesn’t apply, let it fly”. 😘
I love these videos! Even though you didn’t put the word “therapy” on it, thanks for sharing the value of speaking to an unbiased person or professional. It’s amazing to hear what it’s done for you and thanks for helping normalize the need to sort through our own stuff!
Lydia, you are truly a treasure here on CZcams! I find you so warm and kind! In the past year since I've found your channel, I've so enjoyed getting to know you a bit more. You are beautiful both inside and out! Sending much love from Canada.💕
Lydia always remember that if you seem different , people are going to hate themselves because they are so ordinary and have no sense of direction and they wish they could have what you have or look like you do and on and on. Just continue doing you and you will be fine. You're on the right track. ♥️
Both the spilling the tea videos are soo good! I strongly believe that getting personal makes you more relatable and just blurs off that image that people have mentally created in their head of you just because you unbox luxury bags or have expensive things. That dosen't makes you less human nor erases the fact that you have feelings. So glad you shared all of this and looking forward for the next vlog (they are the best!) xx Vic 💕
You are an elegant soul Lydia. I am grateful for knowing you. Count the huge amount of love and admiration you receive from your videos and lose the “nasty” ones... they are a reflection of their level and not you.
Who cares what these losers think! You are doing so well and people just get jealous of your success . You have built a brand around your self and less successful people who feel they have not accomplished enough will gash out their anger towards you! You are a beautiful soul and don’t let trolls get to you ! Loving fun from Northampton ❤️
I honestly can not imagine you getting hate comments. You are literally the nicest, sweetest person on here!! I am binging a lot of your videos b/c I love the positive happy vibes you give off and you are seriously a true inspiration to those of us trying to make it here. The negative comments are honestly jealous people. I think it's a little easier for to me to understand that as I'm a bit (ok, much) older than you and it breaks my heart when I see young creators struggle with the bad comments. Thank you for all your hard work!
This was such a sweet and honest video from one of my favorite youtubers :) And wow thank you for sharing about your hormone struggles...my husband looks at me like I've grown two heads when I explain my emotions that have been caused by hormone swings and says "I've never heard other guys say their wives complain about that." Well, he's going to be watching that part of your video because he knows I watch you regularly: you're well-known and successful and have still had those issues. Years ago in my early 20s I had a couple of what can only be described as violent hormone swings because of what they did to me...huge painful cystic acne along the jaw, horrible almost suicidal depression, and a couple of months later, massive hair loss. He could see the physical signs but didn't believe that "just hormones" could be causing my depression as well! Lol! Going to make him watch this! 💕
Even people who aren’t working online can relate to the hate subject. I wish I could say that I was never bullied or harassed or talked about behind my back without giving any valid reasons for it by colleagues and even management, but that’s not the case and I think that the only way to not to encounter that is - to say nothing, to do nothing and to be nothing. Working in a physical workplace could be even worse sometimes because you can’t just click the block button. I guess you are completely right and as long as your intentions are good and you are not doing any harm, you shouldn’t be really concerned how other people take your words and actions if they choose to attack you in a nasty way.
It's eye opening to hear you talk about not feeling like you're a nice enough person when I've always thought you seemed like one of the nicest people in the beauty and fashion community. Another great video and I'm glad you plan to do more of these!
It has been so refreshing to hear your thoughts on negativity online, thank you so much for being honest. I often find that this is a taboo subject as people don't want to admit that they receive negative comments, however your openness will help so many creators deal with these struggles. Also, I bloody love all of your content!
Excellent video, Lydia! It’s a real sign of the times that people have lost their manners and kindness. There’s such a sense of entitlement now in some people; in that they think it’s ok to be rude or aggressive and that this is the way to “get their own way” or their opinion heard. You’re so right to say that maybe comments should be read and re-read before hitting “send” it would save a lot of upset. Success is seen almost as a dirty word these days, and it all boils down to jealousy. Some people should put their energy into building their own success, rather than tearing down someone else’s. You brighten up a day with your videos and show people that hard work pays off! Budgets vary, but dreams are the same for everyone.
Im sure you know this already and are thinking of ways to fix it; but just incase you weren't aware, the audio problems are going to be very hard to fix without rethinking the decorating in your dressing room. Its echoing off all of the hard surfaces. I have been dealing with MAJOR audio problems as well and let me just say it is one of the most frustrating things because there is very little information out there for the general public. I bought a $1000 super carotid mic (which is suppose to be the best for echo) and It still echoed. Maybe think about table runners? idk your dressing room is so beautiful the way it is, so its hard. I hope that came across constructive and not rude 😬 xoxo
I'm a nurse on a very busy, high stress acute care floor. We deal with a lot of verbal and emotional abuse from patients and their families. I always try to remember to take off my "me" hat and put on my 'nurse' hat; thereby setting a personal boundary of not taking on another's negativity. Maybe try thinking of YT Lydia as a separate hat you wear from the real you! And just keep shining your little light! xx
I genuinely think you’re such a nice calm forgiving person. I don’t know you personally neither have I been watching your videos for a long time but I strongly sense the type of person you are! I say, continue being you, being true to yourself! Despite the negativity that comes with publicity, you are always inspiring someone somewhere x
Lydia!!! I had the EXACT same experience with the (copper) coil!!!! The WORST periods and pain I’ve ever had, but now I have the mirena coil and it’s an absolute dream, would definitely recommend looking in to that if you were ever looking for some long-lasting contraception in the future 😊 loved the vid! Xxx
I 100% agree with your tweet about needing someone to help with shooting or filming your content when you are on a press trip. I go to blog events by myself and it is such a struggle to take photos of myself at the event when its just me with the camera. I can't even imagine how much harder it is when you are sent on a press trip and you need yourself in the photos. I really admire how you cope with negative comments, it really does say more about them. You have always created beautiful and inspiring content and I think people forget that you are still a person who reads every single comment that is posted. You deserve every bit of success and your hard work and beautiful content speaks for itself! 💘 💘 xxx
I think it’s important to learn from these things though. Nobody is perfect. If you’re receiving a lot of the same feedback from something you’ve said - albeit negative - there might be something to learn from that. You might mean well but if people find what you’ve said offensive it may be something you should take on board.
Absolutely do not agree. There is nothing to learn from what I’ve seen these trolls do to her. I feel awful for her so often in the comment sections of her videos and ALL of them harass her over the smallest most redundant things. It’s heartless and cruel and by no means can anyone learn from people so hateful. Don’t confuse the two.
Dear Lydia, I had the most horrific pain from my periods. I don't have words to express how bad it was, had to go to emergency and miss school/Uni/work for days every month. I cannot put it in words how bad it was, it affected me in so many ways. One happy day a Christian woman, who don't know anything about me, prayed for my abdominal pain (i did not even told her about it) and by the Grace of God I was healed. I have been free from traumatic pain since end of 2016 by His grace. I just wanted to share this with you. Blessings.
Hi Lydia 💗 i really like this video, i'm happy that more and more bloggers/youtubers are speaking up about the haters; The says that Carrie told you i heard it often from Zoe💗 Lots of love from Italy xx
I'm sorry you had to go through the hate to get to where you are today. I'm also glad you had supportive fellow you tubers to help you through it and now you are using your experiences to reach out to others. I hope anyone out there struggling with anonymous online haters, gains strength from you and this video. Criticism is rarely constructive and more often than not it's just someone trying to make themselves feel superior. Stay true to yourself Lydia and keep surrounding yourself with positive people. You can always make room for positivity if you push aside the negativity!
I would appreciate a video spilling the tea and giving advice on social media, starting up, meeting/connecting w/ other creators, working with brands etc.
I love how you said that your quiet fond of yourself ❤️😊 liked what Lily Pebbles said too: You shouldn’t have to know what someone is going through behind closed doors to have the excuse to be kind to them. Just be kind to everyone. You never know!
It takes just a few seconds to realize what type of woman you are: responsable, worker, and over everything a good person! I love your videos and I hope to work as much as you so I can have that life of dreaming.
I‘m also against hormonal contraceptives unless you need it for medical reasons because it‘s just so bad. It has horrific side effects and most doctors don‘t inform the patients about it unless it‘s too late basically. And some don‘t even listen to the patients when they experience side effects which frustrates me. It needs to be talked about a lot more.
Julia Katarina Karanović Same here! After coming off the pill I’d never go back. And it really takes a long time to bring your system back to balance after stopping it. Healthiest lifestyle possible and lots of patience are the key.
I am so proud of you for posting a raw and honest video regarding your feelings.. I can’t imagine how cruel some people can be. You don’t deserve any of that. Hooray for you and just don’t ever let anyone bring you down!
Lydia, I have a quote that goes “You can’t please everyone, so you might as well please yourself”. Some people are just negative their whole life. It isn’t directed at you but probably just things that have happened to them. I know it hurts, but just keep doing your thing. You are brilliant at what you do and I know you work hard to get that perfection. If possible, try to have sympathy for them. They will never accomplish what you have done. Hope this helps. 🌷
I love your channel and I love your honesty. I too feel like I’m a nice person however people take what I do and say as not nice bc I’m very blunt. This in turn makes me feel like I’m not nice. Makes me feel like I have to pretend. I’m glad you addressed how it effects you :)
Lydia, For those who have followed you since you had black hair would know who you really are and love you. Anyone who came on and saw 3 seconds then commenting hate is all because they see a fierce businesswoman GETTIN HER BREAD!!! Love you so much and you’ll be surprised as to how much you have influenced my life, my career and friendships for the best!
I believe the problem with negativity lies in people being unfulfilled in their lives. I watch GRWM/Travel Vlogs/Style Vlogs/Lookbooks etc. for information, style advice & to watch others BE HAPPY and enjoy life. These people you speak of seem to be so miserable they to want to 'slime' others with their malcontentedness (that is not a word, please do not use it!). As I have matured, I have learned to feel genuine sympathy/empathy for others WITHOUT allowing their issues/negativity to 'invade' my life (trial and error). With that said, I think all of you good people who share your lives and personal experiences with STRANGERS are so brave- VERY brave. Thank you!
Thank you for being so opened with us, Lydia. I know some of these things aren't easy to talk about even after it has happened or even if you know how to handle it now. Appreciate it!
You are such a great heart! It must be so hard and brave to open up on the internet about these topics! I go through similar things... feelings, emotions during before my period, feelings of not being enough. Love the way you talk, you are incredible and soo sensitive person, happy to have someone like you on CZcams!
Hi Lydia, I lost so much hair when I came off the pill for a few months 😢 even though I went back on it like you, my hair never really grew back and I have now accepted the fact that it’ll never be as thick like it used to be - there are worse problems in life and I’m lucky to still have hair 😊
Sian The LGF hi, I’m really sorry to bother you but I was having the same problem while I was on the Yasmine pill, I was just curious as now I’ve come off of it im hoping to see a difference 😊
Thank you for sharing all of this. As I begin my own CZcams channel, this is one of the biggest fears - being torn down relentlessly for simply being myself. This is inspiring!
Hey Lydia! I really enjoyed you talking about these topics and being so honest. It really shows your lovely and extraordinary character and its so fun and inspiring to listen to your story! Could you tell more about your periode/hormonal problems or make a video on that and how you deal with it? I've got the same problems and still trying to figure out how to deal with it in a sensible and effective way...would be very helpful - i know its a pretty girly topic but your advice would be very much appreciated! Have a great day! Take Care! Greetings from Munich xx
Thank you for talking about the pill like this! It's so nice to know other women have had similar experiences. I'm really hormonal sensitive and I've always felt like the pill affected me massively and really badly. It's only in the past few months that considered going off it because it didn't seem like such a weird thing anymore. I've been off it now for about a month and have immediately felt a massive difference! Love your honesty and charm always :) even my 58 year old mum is a Lydia fan now! xo
Honestly, you get so much hate but to me your hauls are some of the very few that are actually interesting and useful. Your style is quite different to mine but as someone who works in fashion I very much appreciate your attention to to detail and how you describe how thighs fit, look and feel, what the possible pros and cons are, etc. Basically any articulation above 'this is amazing, I love it, *state what colour item obviously is in*' So thank you for that. I'm definitely a supporter of your brand of honesty :) P.s. LOVE the 40min+ vlogs!
I am do grateful that you brought up your experience being on the pill. I was on it for years and throughout that time my moods etc were so awful that I ended up on anti depressants- which is soooo not me, I had always been a go getter with a very sunny outlook on life! Then on a whim I went off the pill and could not believe the change in my mental health, absolutely changed my life and I now can’t imagine being back in that awful place. I had no idea that the pill could be the thing causing all of my issues and no doctor ever suggested it as the cause so I feel more people need to talk about it! Obviously the pill is fabulous for some people, but not everyone! 💖
I'm glad I watched this! I started watching ur channel 2/3 yrs ago, but tbh, i slowly stopped as I felt like I was always watching u show or shop for designer/high-end products, which to most ppl isn't a realistic life! After watching this, I kinda see a different side to u, & actually a more relatable one. No one should be bullied or made to feel uncomfortable, online or in person! I agree, there are better ways of saying things that aren't rude or hurtful! I'd luv to see vlogs that show more of ur relaxed life, rather than the bougee shopping & products vibe. (Relaxed grwm/event look, get the designer look on a budget, high end beauty dupes, kinda vlogs) xx
Absolutely LOVE how honest and candid these videos are, Lydia. Thank you for opening up to us in this way and welcoming us to see a side of you we haven't before. Your candor and unscripted demeanor are a breath of fresh air. I can't even imagine how hard living your life online must be, but thank you for sticking with us. There are more who like you and enjoy your content than those who don't, even if our voices are softer than the haters'.
My heart goes out to you- I think you’re doing a wonderful job of being you and doing exactly what you want. I would hate to be criticised to my face and behind my back so I don’t know how you have continued on so beautifully. Much love 💕
if I were asked to describe you in one word, the first one that would come to my mind would be NICE, it's your kindness that keeps me coming back to every single one of your videos
Hi Lydia, you have much more positivity than negativity. A saying my grandmother gifted me is ‘ Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner’. I think never a truer word said!! X
I can not understand how someone would think you are not a nice person. Seeing your flogs, I really was kinda baffled about that, cause you always seem so nice and so warm-hearted.
about the first question i think you're only responsible for what you say you're not responsible for what people understand and what they make it out to be.
Hi Lydia I love your videos. I didn’t see the tweet you are referring to but your subscribers love the content you produce so whatever you need to do to create that we all appreciate whether that’s a photographer or an assisted etc x
Lydia I appreciate your honesty but i think you need to be more care free and not afraid to vocalise your opinions. I can tell you definitely hold back, and this is the internet you are allowed opinions.
Lydia your videos are my absolute favorite! When I see a new one up, it’s time to stop what I’m doing and watch lol! Thank you for being so honest in this video. You help me in more ways than you know ❤️
Love from Australia! It’s 5 am here... was too excited. I’m a newer viewer of your blog/channel and honestly I’m such a fan💕❤️, hope you are enjoying your holiday.
your my biggest inspiration as a fashion student i love everything about you! Most fab sense of fashion, and a beautiful personality to match. Love you beyond words ur the best xxx
I do not know you as a person, and none of your subscribers will ever truly know you completely for the woman you really are. That being sad, I do feel like if a person is genuine, if they have a kind heart, if they are honest, most importantly to themselves, it reflects through them. I don't know whether it is the eyes or somewhere else or the entire aura of a person that gives it away, but, trust me, even without knowing you, and without needing to do so, I know that you are a good person. Thank you for being honest, positive and spreading love instead of hate, which seems to be the realm of the youtube world nowadays. Lots of love, respect, and virtual hugs to you!!
I had an almost identical experience to you with both the coil and the pill! The coil was absolutely horrific, I was in constant pain and my periods would last up to 11 days. The pill just made me feel so awful and low, and I’m so much happier now that I don’t take any hormonal contraception!
I really really appreciate you coming forward and being open and honest about your experience. This is extremely courageous of you and I am so proud of you for sharing and spreading awareness about online life since most people wouldn't dare to shed the light. Sending you only genuine love ❤️
You are a REALLY nice person and you have a lot of insight into your emotions and you use this to help others. You are also honest and relatable and friendly x
I love your videos Lydia! Whenever I am feeling sad or unmotivated I love to go to your channel and find some positivity and guidance in your words and videos. Don't let people's negativity keep you from creating honest, insightful, and engaging content!
Lydia, your videos give me life!! As long as you know who you are, that's what matters. Those of us who follow you gravitate towards your style, your personality, your whole persona. We love you.
You are so lovely Lydia! I don't understand how can people be even mean to you?! Thank you for being yourself because you are a true inspiration for all of us!!!
I am 65 years young and have cancer .I stumbled upon your blog by accident and now watch and listen to u a lot .I think you are amazing inspirational and your laugh always cheers me up .My family can not believe I follow you as I am an ex lead teacher ....you are my not so secret indulgence.
Annette Williams this is lovely x
Annette Williams, I hope your treatment is going very well, I am also that young and am wondering what a lead teacher is there. I am assuming you are in England, I am from the USA and was a Special Ed teacher and was curious about that name. Best of luck.
I’m sorry I don’t comment more, but just wanted you to know how much I appreciated this video!! You explained the online/CZcams/social media world so well! You always articulate your thoughts beautifully and have a wonderful way of making a positive change in this community!! Kudos to you!!🙌🏼❤️
Having a healthy distance between work and personal life has always been considered a smart and practical practice... So it's interesting that there seems to be some expectation for you and others on youtube to not have any boundaries. I think it's very important to have healthy boundaries in every life senario. The fact that you are speaking up and clearly articulating how YOU would like to be treated and owning your personal feelings on how you relate to the world it's quite brave and real and that's a powerful thing! Take care xx
Cha Cha I wish more companies established the boundaries for customers in how they treat their staff. Unfortunately, some companies are so afraid to lose customers that they let being verbally abusive to their employees and the employees would have to suck it up if they don’t want to lose the job.
I always feel you are honest in your videos but this was another deeper layer of honesty, much appreciated. Love your channel Lydia x
@@youtubefanyoutube8468 You are the reason why anonynmity should be banned online.
Looks like the troll deleted their comments. I think ALL the supporters of Lydia and anti-bullying should make an account on Guru Gossip and troll them over there. Seriously, these people are insane. I’d love to give them a run for it.
Lydia I loved the saying "a friendship is either for a reason, a season, or a lifetime." I loved the saying and i think there's so much truth to it!
It’s a nice poem to read.. google reasons, seasons lifetime.
Yes!! This is such a good quote!! Carrie is so wise.
I was too scared to post a public comment until I watched this video. But I watch your videos at lot and look up to you a lot. Stay strong....,you are on the right track. Love you!
Best thing to understand is that negative opinions have nothing to do with you, only with the commentators. If you are happy and balanced person, you will never ever go to someones video and write crap about them.
I love Lydia but I disagree, people can love her but still have a comment that may come off as negatively.
@FizzyGinger Yes I agree with that
@FizzyGinger Some people watch only to make nasty comments. They enjoy inflicting pain on others.
Exactly. "Your opinion about me is none of my business". I had to learn this the hard way.
Hillary Smith if I love someones channel I never pick out the little mistakes that they make or say. They are human like we all are. And I’m pretty sure that all of you have made a lot of mistakes in life but the difference is that you don’t have videos online where everyone can come and judge. Accept yourself and others. ✌️
I've ALWAYS wanted a youtube channel but the thought of receiving hate daily has always scared me away from it. I don't think I could handle it! Thanks for your honest videos always! x
@Laura Lina Beauty :( this makes me sad.
@@13m0ngra5s ah same...
Aww you should do it anyway. I've been doing it for over two years but I've probably only received 6 really mean comments. When you're a small youtuber it doesn't happen that often and the positives far outweigh the negatives. :)
Same!! It so scared.
Oh no I really think you guys should let your fears guide you and start a youtube channel! I believe that the things that you want to do but are too scared too are the ones with the highest reward. At the end of the day the people who are hating are also filled with hatred and I feel sorry for them. They are incapable of loving themselves so they can't love anybody else so they go and spread negativity everywhere! However YOU could actually be a positive force on the internet and a happy place. I can be your first subscriber! 😘
« A friendship is either for a reason, a season or a lifetime » waaaooouw powerful!! I love your channel Lydia, don’t change for anyone dear ✨
I remember the first time someone didn't like me for no reason. And it drove me crazy. I asked everyone who we were mutual friends with to find out why she didn't like me. And I got no answers. Finally my sister said to me,"Listen not everyone is going to like you so just deal with it!" That comment changed everything for me. I was like "oh"!! So when people are nasty just delete because most of them time it's them not you. All you can be is you and it's working!
Hello Lydia , this is a wonderful video. I think everyone has lost the golden rule and that rule is “Treat others the way you want to be treated”. Sometimes it’s hard to do this especially when you work in the service industry or you feel someone is being rude to you hence this cyber bulling. I think you addressed this topic very well. I’m going to watch the rest of this video now hehe :)
Sending you love ❤️
Lydia, this was possibly the most important video you have ever made. You spoke so beautifully and eloquently, you explained you were rambling, but I must disagree, you made yourself and your opinion very clear. I wish that there were more like you on this site!
Much love xx
And don’t feel hated , it’s the price of success in any kind of business! Most people are jealous of beauty and of everything else they don’t have!
Really enjoyed this Lydia 👍🏼
Lily Pebbles thanks lily ❤️
@@lydiamillen I love this video
"I felt like the most hated CZcamsr" the most surprising statement to come out of this incredible person's mouth. I watch your videos regularly, but I never read any comments, so I guess I was totally unaware of this hate. It doesn't seem warranted at all, but being on the internet sometimes means getting a little hate.
With success comes opinions. And I think you're fantastic! 💘 So entertaining and such a fun, driven and inspiring person.
Christine O thank you so much lovely xxx
I am floored that anyone could find fault in the way you express your opinions, views, or life. You are one of the most inspirational and positive people whom I feel fortunate to be able to share a slice of your life with. Know that you are loved and appreciated by most of us. Also, “if it doesn’t apply, let it fly”. 😘
I love these videos! Even though you didn’t put the word “therapy” on it, thanks for sharing the value of speaking to an unbiased person or professional. It’s amazing to hear what it’s done for you and thanks for helping normalize the need to sort through our own stuff!
Lydia, you are truly a treasure here on CZcams! I find you so warm and kind! In the past year since I've found your channel, I've so enjoyed getting to know you a bit more. You are beautiful both inside and out! Sending much love from Canada.💕
Lydia always remember that if you seem different , people are going to hate themselves because they are so ordinary and have no sense of direction and they wish they could have what you have or look like you do and on and on. Just continue doing you and you will be fine. You're on the right track. ♥️
When "slide into DMs" is casually used during a serious topic 😂😂😂🙊
Fear and Faith Oh lol really....I think people use ur more casually now and not sexual.
Both the spilling the tea videos are soo good! I strongly believe that getting personal makes you more relatable and just blurs off that image that people have mentally created in their head of you just because you unbox luxury bags or have expensive things. That dosen't makes you less human nor erases the fact that you have feelings. So glad you shared all of this and looking forward for the next vlog (they are the best!) xx Vic 💕
You are an elegant soul Lydia. I am grateful for knowing you. Count the huge amount of love and admiration you receive from your videos and lose the “nasty” ones... they are a reflection of their level and not you.
Who cares what these losers think! You are doing so well and people just get jealous of your success . You have built a brand around your self and less successful people who feel they have not accomplished enough will gash out their anger towards you! You are a beautiful soul and don’t let trolls get to you ! Loving fun from Northampton ❤️
I honestly can not imagine you getting hate comments. You are literally the nicest, sweetest person on here!! I am binging a lot of your videos b/c I love the positive happy vibes you give off and you are seriously a true inspiration to those of us trying to make it here. The negative comments are honestly jealous people. I think it's a little easier for to me to understand that as I'm a bit (ok, much) older than you and it breaks my heart when I see young creators struggle with the bad comments. Thank you for all your hard work!
I look at your almost 700,000 subscribers as a testament to how you are loved, enjoyed and admired. You go girl!
This was such a sweet and honest video from one of my favorite youtubers :) And wow thank you for sharing about your hormone struggles...my husband looks at me like I've grown two heads when I explain my emotions that have been caused by hormone swings and says "I've never heard other guys say their wives complain about that." Well, he's going to be watching that part of your video because he knows I watch you regularly: you're well-known and successful and have still had those issues. Years ago in my early 20s I had a couple of what can only be described as violent hormone swings because of what they did to me...huge painful cystic acne along the jaw, horrible almost suicidal depression, and a couple of months later, massive hair loss. He could see the physical signs but didn't believe that "just hormones" could be causing my depression as well! Lol! Going to make him watch this! 💕
Even people who aren’t working online can relate to the hate subject. I wish I could say that I was never bullied or harassed or talked about behind my back without giving any valid reasons for it by colleagues and even management, but that’s not the case and I think that the only way to not to encounter that is - to say nothing, to do nothing and to be nothing. Working in a physical workplace could be even worse sometimes because you can’t just click the block button. I guess you are completely right and as long as your intentions are good and you are not doing any harm, you shouldn’t be really concerned how other people take your words and actions if they choose to attack you in a nasty way.
It's eye opening to hear you talk about not feeling like you're a nice enough person when I've always thought you seemed like one of the nicest people in the beauty and fashion community. Another great video and I'm glad you plan to do more of these!
I could not respect or admire you any more than right now watching this video.
Congratulations dearest Lydia you are an amazing person 👏👏👏👏👏
you’ve just responded to some sad and upsetting things with such positivity! i love you so much! you’re attitude is so inspiring!! 💕
It has been so refreshing to hear your thoughts on negativity online, thank you so much for being honest. I often find that this is a taboo subject as people don't want to admit that they receive negative comments, however your openness will help so many creators deal with these struggles. Also, I bloody love all of your content!
Excellent video, Lydia! It’s a real sign of the times that people have lost their manners and kindness. There’s such a sense of entitlement now in some people; in that they think it’s ok to be rude or aggressive and that this is the way to “get their own way” or their opinion heard. You’re so right to say that maybe comments should be read and re-read before hitting “send” it would save a lot of upset. Success is seen almost as a dirty word these days, and it all boils down to jealousy. Some people should put their energy into building their own success, rather than tearing down someone else’s. You brighten up a day with your videos and show people that hard work pays off! Budgets vary, but dreams are the same for everyone.
Im sure you know this already and are thinking of ways to fix it; but just incase you weren't aware, the audio problems are going to be very hard to fix without rethinking the decorating in your dressing room. Its echoing off all of the hard surfaces. I have been dealing with MAJOR audio problems as well and let me just say it is one of the most frustrating things because there is very little information out there for the general public. I bought a $1000 super carotid mic (which is suppose to be the best for echo) and It still echoed. Maybe think about table runners? idk your dressing room is so beautiful the way it is, so its hard. I hope that came across constructive and not rude 😬 xoxo
I'm a nurse on a very busy, high stress acute care floor. We deal with a lot of verbal and emotional abuse from patients and their families. I always try to remember to take off my "me" hat and put on my 'nurse' hat; thereby setting a personal boundary of not taking on another's negativity. Maybe try thinking of YT Lydia as a separate hat you wear from the real you! And just keep shining your little light! xx
I genuinely think you’re such a nice calm forgiving person. I don’t know you personally neither have I been watching your videos for a long time but I strongly sense the type of person you are! I say, continue being you, being true to yourself! Despite the negativity that comes with publicity, you are always inspiring someone somewhere x
Lydia!!! I had the EXACT same experience with the (copper) coil!!!! The WORST periods and pain I’ve ever had, but now I have the mirena coil and it’s an absolute dream, would definitely recommend looking in to that if you were ever looking for some long-lasting contraception in the future 😊 loved the vid! Xxx
I 100% agree with your tweet about needing someone to help with shooting or filming your content when you are on a press trip. I go to blog events by myself and it is such a struggle to take photos of myself at the event when its just me with the camera. I can't even imagine how much harder it is when you are sent on a press trip and you need yourself in the photos.
I really admire how you cope with negative comments, it really does say more about them. You have always created beautiful and inspiring content and I think people forget that you are still a person who reads every single comment that is posted. You deserve every bit of success and your hard work and beautiful content speaks for itself! 💘 💘 xxx
I think it’s important to learn from these things though. Nobody is perfect. If you’re receiving a lot of the same feedback from something you’ve said - albeit negative - there might be something to learn from that. You might mean well but if people find what you’ve said offensive it may be something you should take on board.
Absolutely! If it’s constructive, I always do. X
Absolutely do not agree. There is nothing to learn from what I’ve seen these trolls do to her. I feel awful for her so often in the comment sections of her videos and ALL of them harass her over the smallest most redundant things. It’s heartless and cruel and by no means can anyone learn from people so hateful. Don’t confuse the two.
People dislike something in themselves, but they don't want to admit it, so they reflect that onto someone else
Dear Lydia,
I had the most horrific pain from my periods. I don't have words to express how bad it was, had to go to emergency and miss school/Uni/work for days every month. I cannot put it in words how bad it was, it affected me in so many ways. One happy day a Christian woman, who don't know anything about me, prayed for my abdominal pain (i did not even told her about it) and by the Grace of God I was healed. I have been free from traumatic pain since end of 2016 by His grace. I just wanted to share this with you. Blessings.
Hi Lydia 💗 i really like this video, i'm happy that more and more bloggers/youtubers are speaking up about the haters;
The says that Carrie told you i heard it often from Zoe💗
Lots of love from Italy xx
I just love how eloquently and respectfully you answered these questions. Love your videos
I'm sorry you had to go through the hate to get to where you are today. I'm also glad you had supportive fellow you tubers to help you through it and now you are using your experiences to reach out to others. I hope anyone out there struggling with anonymous online haters, gains strength from you and this video. Criticism is rarely constructive and more often than not it's just someone trying to make themselves feel superior. Stay true to yourself Lydia and keep surrounding yourself with positive people. You can always make room for positivity if you push aside the negativity!
I would appreciate a video spilling the tea and giving advice on social media, starting up, meeting/connecting w/ other creators, working with brands etc.
Lydia, it really comes across how genuine you are in these videos. Very thoughtful video. Really enjoyed it!
I love how you said that your quiet fond of yourself ❤️😊 liked what Lily Pebbles said too: You shouldn’t have to know what someone is going through behind closed doors to have the excuse to be kind to them. Just be kind to everyone. You never know!
It takes just a few seconds to realize what type of woman you are: responsable, worker, and over everything a good person! I love your videos and I hope to work as much as you so I can have that life of dreaming.
I‘m also against hormonal contraceptives unless you need it for medical reasons because it‘s just so bad. It has horrific side effects and most doctors don‘t inform the patients about it unless it‘s too late basically.
And some don‘t even listen to the patients when they experience side effects which frustrates me. It needs to be talked about a lot more.
Julia Katarina Karanović Same here! After coming off the pill I’d never go back. And it really takes a long time to bring your system back to balance after stopping it. Healthiest lifestyle possible and lots of patience are the key.
I am so proud of you for posting a raw and honest video regarding your feelings.. I can’t imagine how cruel some people can be. You don’t deserve any of that. Hooray for you and just don’t ever let anyone bring you down!
Lydia, I have a quote that goes “You can’t please everyone, so you might as well please yourself”. Some people are just negative their whole life. It isn’t directed at you but probably just things that have happened to them. I know it hurts, but just keep doing your thing. You are brilliant at what you do and I know you work hard to get that perfection. If possible, try to have sympathy for them. They will never accomplish what you have done. Hope this helps. 🌷
I love your channel and I love your honesty. I too feel like I’m a nice person however people take what I do and say as not nice bc I’m very blunt. This in turn makes me feel like I’m not nice. Makes me feel like I have to pretend. I’m glad you addressed how it effects you :)
Lydia,
For those who have followed you since you had black hair would know who you really are and love you. Anyone who came on and saw 3 seconds then commenting hate is all because they see a fierce businesswoman GETTIN HER BREAD!!! Love you so much and you’ll be surprised as to how much you have influenced my life, my career and friendships for the best!
I believe the problem with negativity lies in people being unfulfilled in their lives. I watch GRWM/Travel Vlogs/Style Vlogs/Lookbooks etc. for information, style advice & to watch others BE HAPPY and enjoy life. These people you speak of seem to be so miserable they to want to 'slime' others with their malcontentedness (that is not a word, please do not use it!). As I have matured, I have learned to feel genuine sympathy/empathy for others WITHOUT allowing their issues/negativity to 'invade' my life (trial and error). With that said, I think all of you good people who share your lives and personal experiences with STRANGERS are so brave- VERY brave. Thank you!
THE WORDS YOU TYPE AFFECT PEOPLE, IF YOU CANT SAY IT TO A PERSON FACE TO FACE DONT SAY IT AT ALL!! Love you Lydia!
I love you Lyd but I spent half this video watching your reflection in the vase behind you 😂 I don’t know why I found it so amusing xx
Thank you for being so opened with us, Lydia. I know some of these things aren't easy to talk about even after it has happened or even if you know how to handle it now. Appreciate it!
You are such a great heart! It must be so hard and brave to open up on the internet about these topics! I go through similar things... feelings, emotions during before my period, feelings of not being enough. Love the way you talk, you are incredible and soo sensitive person, happy to have someone like you on CZcams!
Hi Lydia, I lost so much hair when I came off the pill for a few months 😢 even though I went back on it like you, my hair never really grew back and I have now accepted the fact that it’ll never be as thick like it used to be - there are worse problems in life and I’m lucky to still have hair 😊
Sian The LGF hi, I’m really sorry to bother you but I was having the same problem while I was on the Yasmine pill, I was just curious as now I’ve come off of it im hoping to see a difference 😊
I lovveee walking in from uni on a Monday to see a Lydia video! Hope you are enjoying your travelling xx
Thank you for sharing all of this. As I begin my own CZcams channel, this is one of the biggest fears - being torn down relentlessly for simply being myself. This is inspiring!
Hey Lydia! I really enjoyed you talking about these topics and being so honest. It really shows your lovely and extraordinary character and its so fun and inspiring to listen to your story!
Could you tell more about your periode/hormonal problems or make a video on that and how you deal with it?
I've got the same problems and still trying to figure out how to deal with it in a sensible and effective way...would be very helpful - i know its a pretty girly topic but your advice would be very much appreciated! Have a great day! Take Care! Greetings from Munich xx
Loving your new set up recently, so so beautiful! X
Thank you for talking about the pill like this! It's so nice to know other women have had similar experiences. I'm really hormonal sensitive and I've always felt like the pill affected me massively and really badly. It's only in the past few months that considered going off it because it didn't seem like such a weird thing anymore. I've been off it now for about a month and have immediately felt a massive difference!
Love your honesty and charm always :) even my 58 year old mum is a Lydia fan now! xo
Honestly, you get so much hate but to me your hauls are some of the very few that are actually interesting and useful. Your style is quite different to mine but as someone who works in fashion I very much appreciate your attention to to detail and how you describe how thighs fit, look and feel, what the possible pros and cons are, etc. Basically any articulation above 'this is amazing, I love it, *state what colour item obviously is in*' So thank you for that. I'm definitely a supporter of your brand of honesty :)
P.s. LOVE the 40min+ vlogs!
I am do grateful that you brought up your experience being on the pill. I was on it for years and throughout that time my moods etc were so awful that I ended up on anti depressants- which is soooo not me, I had always been a go getter with a very sunny outlook on life! Then on a whim I went off the pill and could not believe the change in my mental health, absolutely changed my life and I now can’t imagine being back in that awful place. I had no idea that the pill could be the thing causing all of my issues and no doctor ever suggested it as the cause so I feel more people need to talk about it! Obviously the pill is fabulous for some people, but not everyone! 💖
I'm glad I watched this! I started watching ur channel 2/3 yrs ago, but tbh, i slowly stopped as I felt like I was always watching u show or shop for designer/high-end products, which to most ppl isn't a realistic life! After watching this, I kinda see a different side to u, & actually a more relatable one. No one should be bullied or made to feel uncomfortable, online or in person! I agree, there are better ways of saying things that aren't rude or hurtful! I'd luv to see vlogs that show more of ur relaxed life, rather than the bougee shopping & products vibe. (Relaxed grwm/event look, get the designer look on a budget, high end beauty dupes, kinda vlogs) xx
the greatest youtuber!!! you are so real!
SUCH A RELEVANT VIDEO TO MY LIFE RIGHT NOW!! needed this, such a reassurance! Love you so bloody much
Absolutely LOVE how honest and candid these videos are, Lydia. Thank you for opening up to us in this way and welcoming us to see a side of you we haven't before. Your candor and unscripted demeanor are a breath of fresh air. I can't even imagine how hard living your life online must be, but thank you for sticking with us. There are more who like you and enjoy your content than those who don't, even if our voices are softer than the haters'.
Sit down videos are my favourites! No matter the topic!
My heart goes out to you- I think you’re doing a wonderful job of being you and doing exactly what you want. I would hate to be criticised to my face and behind my back so I don’t know how you have continued on so beautifully. Much love 💕
if I were asked to describe you in one word, the first one that would come to my mind would be NICE, it's your kindness that keeps me coming back to every single one of your videos
Is it weird that I can see/ understand why others may not like you, BUT I really like you ahaha 😂😂
Hi Lydia, you have much more positivity than negativity. A saying my grandmother gifted me is ‘ Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner’. I think never a truer word said!! X
I can not understand how someone would think you are not a nice person. Seeing your flogs, I really was kinda baffled about that, cause you always seem so nice and so warm-hearted.
about the first question i think you're only responsible for what you say you're not responsible for what people understand and what they make it out to be.
Amina Ghemri this is great advice!!!! Xx
You are such an inspirational person! You motivate me more and more to become successful and be proud of myself
This tea was *sweet*. I really enjoy your serious talks. It's such a nice way of getting to know you better.
Hi Lydia I love your videos. I didn’t see the tweet you are referring to but your subscribers love the content you produce so whatever you need to do to create that we all appreciate whether that’s a photographer or an assisted etc x
Lydia I appreciate your honesty but i think you need to be more care free and not afraid to vocalise your opinions. I can tell you definitely hold back, and this is the internet you are allowed opinions.
Lydia your videos are my absolute favorite! When I see a new one up, it’s time to stop what I’m doing and watch lol! Thank you for being so honest in this video. You help me in more ways than you know ❤️
Love from Australia! It’s 5 am here... was too excited. I’m a newer viewer of your blog/channel and honestly I’m such a fan💕❤️, hope you are enjoying your holiday.
I just love you, thank you for sharing your perspectives and being so kind online!
your my biggest inspiration as a fashion student i love everything about you! Most fab sense of fashion, and a beautiful personality to match. Love you beyond words ur the best xxx
I do not know you as a person, and none of your subscribers will ever truly know you completely for the woman you really are. That being sad, I do feel like if a person is genuine, if they have a kind heart, if they are honest, most importantly to themselves, it reflects through them. I don't know whether it is the eyes or somewhere else or the entire aura of a person that gives it away, but, trust me, even without knowing you, and without needing to do so, I know that you are a good person. Thank you for being honest, positive and spreading love instead of hate, which seems to be the realm of the youtube world nowadays. Lots of love, respect, and virtual hugs to you!!
I had an almost identical experience to you with both the coil and the pill! The coil was absolutely horrific, I was in constant pain and my periods would last up to 11 days. The pill just made me feel so awful and low, and I’m so much happier now that I don’t take any hormonal contraception!
Love the honesty in this video. Very well done.
I really really appreciate you coming forward and being open and honest about your experience. This is extremely courageous of you and I am so proud of you for sharing and spreading awareness about online life since most people wouldn't dare to shed the light. Sending you only genuine love ❤️
You are a REALLY nice person and you have a lot of insight into your emotions and you use this to help others. You are also honest and relatable and friendly x
Best way to unwind 💛.
Ah I didn't want this to end. I think you are an amazing person xx
lovedddd this video lyd! perfect to listen to while making dinner ❤️
I love your videos Lydia! Whenever I am feeling sad or unmotivated I love to go to your channel and find some positivity and guidance in your words and videos. Don't let people's negativity keep you from creating honest, insightful, and engaging content!
" A reason, a season or a lifetime " I love it! Karie ( sorry if that is the wrong spelling) is wise beyond her years.
Love that u keep it so real bout the pill
Lydia, your videos give me life!! As long as you know who you are, that's what matters. Those of us who follow you gravitate towards your style, your personality, your whole persona. We love you.
You are so lovely Lydia! I don't understand how can people be even mean to you?! Thank you for being yourself because you are a true inspiration for all of us!!!
You should make this a series. 100%
Lots of ❤️❤️ from Texas to you and Ali and the fur babies! ❤️❤️
Loved this, Lydia! Thank you for talking about the negativity~you helped me! 💋 Lisa