Dr. Gabor Maté ~ Who We Are When We Are Not Addicted: The Possible Human

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  • čas přidán 11. 01. 2012
  • Dr. Gabor Maté gives us clues as to who we are when we are not addicted. Filmed January 9th, 2012 in Vancouver, B.C. as part of a launch for Beyond Addiction: The Yogic Path to Recovery.
    For more information about the Beyond Addiction program created by Sat Dharam Kaur N.D. and featuring Dr. Gabor Maté, see beyondaddiction.ca.
    Dr. Maté also teaches an online course on his approach to therapy called Compassionate Inquiry, learn more at compassionateinquiry.com
    For more information on Dr. Maté, please see drgabormate.com/

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  • @AuggieX1
    @AuggieX1 Před 11 lety +114

    At 19:06 He quotes: 'All the difficulties you experience. All the problems you have. Exist quite simply because you don't want to grow up.........' On some level.......we don't want to take responsibility. Amazing!

    • @Faithgrace295
      @Faithgrace295 Před měsícem

      Agreed. However what happens when we accept responsibilities and stop son want to grow up. love live life fully be kind show love

    • @Faithgrace295
      @Faithgrace295 Před měsícem

      We are all one, love every beings, animals the planet earth we are all connected to this planet. Respect yourselves and the higher spiritual value

  • @cdavies7115
    @cdavies7115 Před 3 lety +449

    I have just found Gabor Mate. I'm 62 and he has literally just changed my world. What an exceptional human being. ❤️❤️❤️

    • @BarbraBarbour
      @BarbraBarbour Před 3 lety +11

      When you're done with him, check out some Robert Sapolsky.

    • @aminahbergliotrolsdorph7557
      @aminahbergliotrolsdorph7557 Před 3 lety +4

      Yes he really is.. Deeply so human and scientific updated.. So great teacher being so real and honest apparently 💜

    • @rhondajordan2591
      @rhondajordan2591 Před 2 lety

      So true how the drs don't believe the answer is inside of us we wonder why addiction has gone on for years we also know when we aren't getting the help we need this is why I respect this man because he speaks from truth and compassion but how can we get help from drs when they probably have experienced some kind of trauma themselves and have not did the internal work as dr.Gabor has

    • @rhondajordan2591
      @rhondajordan2591 Před 2 lety +4

      It takes a lot to wake me up and then I want to go back to sleep

    • @stephenfermoyle4578
      @stephenfermoyle4578 Před 2 lety

      me to and Gabor has changed my life

  • @danielhamilton5094
    @danielhamilton5094 Před 10 lety +659

    Wow, powerful. "Our addictions come because we don't want to grow up."

    • @irenemax3574
      @irenemax3574 Před 4 lety +23

      Ah, that may explain why some addicts move beyond total abstinence to moderate use of alcohol etc. They have grown up.

    • @pereraddison932
      @pereraddison932 Před 4 lety +18

      Daniel Hamilton ... no... it simply means that addictions are inherent, not acquired. All beings naturally crave comfort, and will do whatever is requured to achieve it. There is nothing in existence that is not of God, the creator of ALL THINGS. That is the TRUTH. So help me, God. So...
      GOD BLESS EVERYONE BLESS EVERYTHING ALWAYS AMEN
      Love Humility Gratitude Confidence Prowess Love
      Is the activation key... signed...
      Rock, the beloved sun of man...

    • @bluejay6904
      @bluejay6904 Před 4 lety +36

      @@irenemax3574 i have not had an alcoholic drink since 2014. still addicted to caffeine and my phone. digital addiction is very real. there's no digital addictions centers in the area.

    • @irenemax3574
      @irenemax3574 Před 4 lety +17

      Blue Jay Thanks for post! I’m clean (alcohol, pain pills and recreational substances) since July 2nd 2014, still overusing caffeine and CZcams. I keep threatening myself with cancellation of my Internet package: that kinda works sometimes...

    • @liambrereton4343
      @liambrereton4343 Před 4 lety +16

      Taking responsibility for one's own actions is all that counts. This is karma.

  • @drpatrickj-hart2918
    @drpatrickj-hart2918 Před rokem +11

    We admitted we were addicted to Gabor and that our consciousness is becoming increasingly refined in Truth.

  • @c.weidenmann7477
    @c.weidenmann7477 Před 4 lety +376

    After numerous therapies without any impact on me, the lectures of Dr. Maté opened myself up for life. After decades of suffering and blaming myself of being weak I now can understand. I can understand myself, my parents, my fucked up life as of now. I can forgive me and I can forgive them. It is like stepping out into the sun light. I barely recognize myself. Thank you so much, Dr. Maté.

  • @herbalpeace
    @herbalpeace Před 11 lety +309

    " Attachment leads to jealousy. The shadow of greed that is. Train yourself to let go of everything you fear to lose." Master Yoda

    • @namastetyson6267
      @namastetyson6267 Před 4 lety +6

      Beautiful ❤️🙏🏽

    • @davidsharp2050
      @davidsharp2050 Před 3 lety +18

      Take something that means something to you
      n just give it away
      Watch how you feel.
      N not to someone who you know.
      A stranger...
      Try it .

    • @madeyalook2041
      @madeyalook2041 Před 3 lety +3

      I read this in the yoda accent 🤣

    • @moondancer9066
      @moondancer9066 Před 3 lety +6

      We all let go of all things of this world when we are dying. I witnessed this myself when my husband chose to die at home. Granted, it was a very traumatic experience for me from which I shall never recover BUT I UNDERSTAND WHY a person must let go of this world. Otherwise"crossing over" is a MUCH HARDER thing to do.

    • @mariamkinen8036
      @mariamkinen8036 Před 3 lety +1

      I lose what I love in all possible cases anyway.

  • @rudypasquale2976
    @rudypasquale2976 Před 3 lety +100

    I have been listening nonstop to Gabor Mate for over a week. Mind blowing insight into my addiction, codependency issues from childhood trauma carried over into 40 year marriage. I’m breaking free from this trauma!

    • @nancun2837
      @nancun2837 Před 2 lety

      Change the channel and quit whining

    • @exscapegoatpowerfulhealer9685
      @exscapegoatpowerfulhealer9685 Před 2 lety +2

    • @robertyates
      @robertyates Před rokem +2

      That’s beautiful, I wish you all the best. If you haven’t already, see the work of Scott Kiloby for skilful ways to reveal and let go of repressed trauma ❤️

  • @incognito3620
    @incognito3620 Před rokem +14

    The beauty of his thinking is that it is actually so simple and clear that I mistrust my own mind and find reasons to reject it basically because it sounds so simple and my addiction to complexity keeps me from readily accepting it.

  • @Victoriaeveable
    @Victoriaeveable Před rokem +14

    Is anyone else wondering how they've missed Dr. Mate before now? As much reading, listening as I've done in my life, I did not know of his work until the past 6 weeks or so. He's a game changer.

    • @rbg7408
      @rbg7408 Před rokem +3

      He's like the missing puzzle for those who are seek understanding of their pain.

    • @robynhope219
      @robynhope219 Před měsícem

      His so called work isn't really original. He is doing other ppl's work and calling it his own.

  • @2biicoachingformndkarlotto317

    Me sober 20 year 19. Feb. 2023.
    Gabor is spot on ❤🙏

  • @alizadevries1876
    @alizadevries1876 Před 8 lety +2422

    What happens if I'm addicted to Gabor Mate?

    • @chancho2223
      @chancho2223 Před 8 lety +254

      +Alexandria Madison That's so funny. So am I. Maybe we can start a support group.

    • @JoeMcKenzie888
      @JoeMcKenzie888 Před 8 lety +39

      +Alexandria Madison serious problem.

    • @BettinaAscaino
      @BettinaAscaino Před 7 lety +73

      Alexandria Madison that's the problem he faces himself. I'd say he is your "attachment" from the outside, just as his ego is for him and most of us. Just as any substance, relationship, object or idea we hang on to instead of being still and present with ourselves. :)

    • @gabydewilde
      @gabydewilde Před 7 lety +34

      Abandon all hope

    • @meenakshi9208
      @meenakshi9208 Před 7 lety +6

      Ginny Madison I

  • @manwithavoice
    @manwithavoice Před 3 lety +23

    52:26 addicted to love, too nice
    53:16 loss of who you are is the big loss
    54:36 wont come from the head, needs to come through the body and the core of your being
    55:48 don’t shut off your pain, discovery of what lies behind, and experience; “the surest way to get to hell is to avoid going to hell
    57:07 interconnection arising; without one there cannot be the many and without the many there can’t be the one

  • @kevinkiso7197
    @kevinkiso7197 Před 8 lety +653

    I just detoxed from a thirty five year addiction to heroin, methadone... My mom let me kick here in the serene beauty and safety of her townhouse on Bainbridge Island, WA., and she gave me Dr. Nate's book "In The Realm Of Hungry Ghosts," it's such a great read.

    • @Normenian
      @Normenian Před 8 lety +19

      Good Luck Kevin! Much love to you brother!

    • @whirledpeasfursure7320
      @whirledpeasfursure7320 Před 7 lety +12

      Congratulations on your changes.. right on

    • @reflectingqueen
      @reflectingqueen Před 7 lety +7

      lucky you!! I was on Bainbridge for just one month....wish I could stay....not possible for foreigners apparently....what a wonderful place to be reading books, and than walking and or swimming in the pool....

    • @RantTherapist
      @RantTherapist Před 7 lety +3

      That's a beautiful place, beautiful state. You got a little cabin there?

    • @reflectingqueen
      @reflectingqueen Před 7 lety +1

      nope, do you?

  • @vivienrhodes4248
    @vivienrhodes4248 Před 3 lety +11

    My father was a new man I got to know and it was so good He gave up alcohol and cigarettes at age 70 and 10 years free and loved life for a change.So well worth it

  • @DavidJeromePutnam
    @DavidJeromePutnam Před 5 lety +46

    Reconnecting to your inner godliness, not to outside attachments.

  • @terry-lynnmurray2034
    @terry-lynnmurray2034 Před 6 lety +393

    I have a low grade of education, but I find alot of he says is common sense so that I can even understand what he is saying as an ex- addict with only 6 mnths clean. thankyou

    • @widdershins3476
      @widdershins3476 Před 5 lety +28

      that's the beauty of deep truths. complexity is useful for expressing truths about details, but the larger picture (which is the more important view) can be expressed with simplicity

    • @widdershins3476
      @widdershins3476 Před 5 lety +42

      so don't underestimate your own ability 😊 you have the ability to appreciate this lecture and have 6 months clean - you're a very capable person

    • @freethoughts2898
      @freethoughts2898 Před 5 lety +31

      Don't know you, but I am very proud to just read that! Go you!!

    • @katieseverin4364
      @katieseverin4364 Před 5 lety +13

      Congrats!

    • @Toby3610
      @Toby3610 Před 5 lety +15

      He has a great way of relating to everyone, I believe. I'm Australian with a moderate amount of learning. I was also addicted to Heroin. I love the way he phrases things.

  • @violettegand
    @violettegand Před rokem +7

    I had that experience with the trees when I was about 10 years old, and I had never taken Ayahuasca or any mind altering drugs. But I knew from that point onwards that trees were beings that wanted to communicate and felt empathy!

  • @missheather4487
    @missheather4487 Před 4 lety +35

    My names Heather and I'm an alcoholic..
    Sober today and for the last 15 years
    Thanks to a power greater than me..
    I say this to remind me of the hell I came from..and I'm a quick forgeter.!
    Joyous happy and free..day at a time
    From bonds I alone could not see..
    Love and blessings to all.
    Great video ..thank you 💜

    • @carlyross8344
      @carlyross8344 Před 3 lety +2

      Congratulations Heather xx

    • @respeezy
      @respeezy Před 2 lety +4

      I think he just explained to you, why you are not an alcoholic

    • @backfru
      @backfru Před rokem

      good morning Miss Heather
      What are you wearing right now?

    • @Verawnique
      @Verawnique Před 4 měsíci

      Hello and bravo to you, Heather. Just remember you are so much more than an alcoholic.

  • @Asgoodasgod
    @Asgoodasgod Před 11 lety +13

    For me, loving yourself is like not being in conflict with yourself, not being in constant opposition with yourself, being at peace with who and what you are. It can be quite difficult to attain this state, though.

  • @woodbell67
    @woodbell67 Před 12 lety +51

    44:00 it's difficult to think outside the box because thinking IS the box

    • @monazeidan3049
      @monazeidan3049 Před 3 lety +1

      Who's the Michael Braun who's quoted to have said this? I can't find him!

  • @Oscarpinedas
    @Oscarpinedas Před 3 lety +13

    I deeply admire his humility when he says "How can I talk or give you that when I have not been there" and then he actually gives us something as deep.

  • @seanwaideman2539
    @seanwaideman2539 Před rokem +5

    I'm 37yrs old and I'm so glad i found Dr Gabor Matè, your books and lectures and the way you talk and present yourself is amazing 👏🏼
    You definitely deserve a Noble Peace Price! I have so much respect for this guy.❤

  • @ginawhoever9734
    @ginawhoever9734 Před 7 lety +692

    one of the quotes of Jesus that he talks about, he only gives you the gist of... it is a quote that is far too wise and beautiful to only get the gist of, and it has gotten me through so many crises i cant count. so, i wanted to share the whole quote in its entirety exactly as it is written... i hope it touches at least some of you the way it has me.
    "If you Bring Forth what is Within you, what is within you will Save you. If you do Not Bring Forth what is Within you, what is within you will Destroy you." --Jesus of Nazareth

    • @freeflyer9412
      @freeflyer9412 Před 6 lety +15

      n/a n/a 💖 thank you. Authentic Self!

    • @astorrin532
      @astorrin532 Před 6 lety +21

      n/a n/a: I love that quote and have never come across it before. I will remember it ... thank you.

    • @stelladonnelly2832
      @stelladonnelly2832 Před 6 lety +38

      Yes I have come across this quote - it means to me that we must not reject or repress what we don't like within ourselves - when I have a "bad" dream I say - welcome into the light, thank you.

    • @ashleybutlet1378
      @ashleybutlet1378 Před 5 lety +12

      I have never heard of that before.it feels so true and beautiful,where is it in the bible please? Thank you x

    • @happylindsay4475
      @happylindsay4475 Před 5 lety +5

      Thank you so much. Peace and love.

  • @nefertariwhite
    @nefertariwhite Před 9 lety +218

    I like how real he is

    • @johnjakle943
      @johnjakle943 Před 5 lety +2

      AA isn't

    • @pereraddison932
      @pereraddison932 Před 4 lety +1

      EllaParaQuien El Sol Brilla ... really? ...

    • @chaosdweller
      @chaosdweller Před 3 lety +1

      A Mexican told me that once, although I must admit it look me over a decade to figure out, what exactly that meant haha, just being honest.

    • @ellahill6559
      @ellahill6559 Před 3 lety +1

      He is real and the best

    • @ellahill6559
      @ellahill6559 Před 3 lety +1

      I love u Gabor Maté

  • @lisaj5769
    @lisaj5769 Před 4 lety +46

    i like that he was vulnerable and open about his own experience about his recent several weeks of being in a deep funk. That really makes it even more relatable and make me realise that WE ARE ALL REALLY IN THIS TOGETHER AS HUMANITY. This is a human struggle, not an isolated, individual struggle. Good talk. Thank you.

    • @bobwoww8384
      @bobwoww8384 Před rokem

      @Lisa J We are not an individual, the interconnectedness of being is who we are. Evolution is based on the extension of generosity. That is not my quote, wish I knew who said that🌈

    • @carollong7941
      @carollong7941 Před 19 dny

      HE ALSO HAS THAT VERY SADDEN FACE AND A LOW VOICE, who makes us want help him. TRIGGER FOR UNMET “ needs “ of our own. 🥲

  • @ryanhancock1234
    @ryanhancock1234 Před 10 lety +237

    This amazing being picked me up hitch Hiking 4 years on Hornby Island in British Columbia.

  • @davidfarrall
    @davidfarrall Před 2 lety +7

    Gabor Mate is a man who understands egoism and addiction intimately because he’s lived it. And he keeps his ideas beautifully simple.

    • @robynhope219
      @robynhope219 Před měsícem

      He is still living it...far from healed. Idk why ppl are so impressed with this guy 😮

  • @SolidSiren
    @SolidSiren Před 3 lety +18

    The idea of "being still" is the one, ultimate truth I have found in life that brings a person to the place of peace. The place of still, peaceful, oneness with everything. Your breathing slows. You do not thinks thoughts anymore...You just....ARE. Learning how to just simply sit with myself, and just BE was the most amazing thing I ever learned. It was so incredible that once I learned how to just BE, I was no longer depressed. I was no longer anxious. And not just in that moment...nearly all moments now.
    I dont even have to try anymore to get to that place, I just go there. If I notice myself feeling anxious, giddy, wanting wanting wanting, needing this or that, etc, I go to that place. It centers me. It grounds me in the real world. The one that my mind covers up and lies about so often to me.

    • @brandondarby5821
      @brandondarby5821 Před rokem +1

      Beautifully put. I would like to know more, does one get to the place of “being still” by physically being still? and just letting go of the craving to give in to distractions, and ultimately facing yourself in that moment? Whatever’s going on in your mind. Or do you mean something akin to something like a mindfulness present moment awareness? I’m really curious, as a practitioner and follower of Buddhism, meditation such as metta and vipasanna. I’m interested in your explanation and want to figure out what you mean. Thank you.

    • @SolidSiren
      @SolidSiren Před rokem +1

      @brandondarby5821 Well I know I did begin my journey to peace by literally sitting still. Just with myself, my thoughts, no distractions, no fidgeting.

    • @SolidSiren
      @SolidSiren Před rokem +1

      @brandondarby5821 and the mindfulness awareness of the present came naturally from it.

  • @kimberlieweaver2624
    @kimberlieweaver2624 Před 4 lety +59

    "All addiction is about the 👉conditioned👈mind controlling you"

  • @darrenwalshe8513
    @darrenwalshe8513 Před 3 lety +6

    Addictions are escapism, when we're not addicted we're enlightened xx 😘

  • @grazianop2706
    @grazianop2706 Před 3 lety +11

    I did a lot of speaking and liked it. I realized it was like an addiction. I let it go, and focused in another area. In retirement, I took up making art. I gave all my work away. I let it go. Now I live in another country with a large family that will not even kill an ant, no exsggeration. My family is very beautiful and I am learning.

  • @desmondsparrs
    @desmondsparrs Před 11 lety +87

    I just realised that I have more addictions than Ive thought I had. Im addicted to feeling smart, being wise, talking about these things and Im also addicted to lots of other things(drugs too, not in any severe way though but bad enough).Gabors books have truly enlightened me and this seminar enlightened me further.

    • @nalydamuttah1
      @nalydamuttah1 Před 4 lety +10

      I am addicted to going to the toilet, breathing air and taking showers.

    • @PriyankaGupta-ew1li
      @PriyankaGupta-ew1li Před 3 lety

      @@nalydamuttah1 Lmao😂😆😁

    • @xlrcsamshikhbahaei4661
      @xlrcsamshikhbahaei4661 Před 2 lety

      I see I feel that as well.
      thank you

    • @momoso143
      @momoso143 Před 2 lety

      How has this realization made your life better/improved? I’d love to hear about it

    • @f.schmid468
      @f.schmid468 Před 2 lety +4

      Sounds dangerously like your first 3 addictions you mentioned;)
      Just kidding! Sometimes humor helps alot to deal with serious topics! I have compassion and understanding for you. I hope you keep on understanding and unleashing your attachments one by one.

  • @kimberleyb4002
    @kimberleyb4002 Před 5 lety +18

    I focus...and then refocus on what I can do that brings me joy, it brings me out of depression. What makes me feel good... I think about it... what I will do that makes me feel good. I imagine Simple little things like having a nice relaxing shower, tidy my room, organizing my clothes. Also I try to only keep things that I really enjoy. Good feelings, baby steps.

    • @dinomiles7999
      @dinomiles7999 Před 5 lety +1

      Kim Biro I wish you the best Kim. How are you doing today ?

  • @annejohnston8696
    @annejohnston8696 Před 5 lety +83

    This is an exceptional talk, he moves through it so effortlessly and beautifully. , His quotes from Joan of Ark, Camus, Buddhism.
    He speaks for All of us., And we get it, don't we? His honesty we recognise in ourselves. Sublime X

  • @moka91808
    @moka91808 Před rokem +5

    I have watched this lecture over and over since my breakdown in 2019. I always learn something more every time I listen. Thank you Dr Mate. You are a treasure for seeing the deep truth so clearly.

  • @DavidKelleherArtist
    @DavidKelleherArtist Před 3 lety +8

    If I could only watch one talk for the rest of my life, it would be this.

  • @sarahmeyers1773
    @sarahmeyers1773 Před 4 lety +12

    “Habit energy” dragging you off the cliff. What an incredible image of unintentional living!

  • @Light-oz5pv
    @Light-oz5pv Před 2 lety +3

    This video was almost an hour and it didn’t even feel like it. It felt less than. I only recently discovered Gabor Mate and I feel seen and guided listening to him. For that, I am grateful.

  • @DublinParigote
    @DublinParigote Před 11 lety +11

    I wish Gabor Mate's talks got translated so that many more people get to hear them. So few people have this combination of competence and the balls to be honest about how things are really like.

  • @DonkeyChins
    @DonkeyChins Před 11 lety +177

    "The very culture that we live in denies that there's truth, makes people hungry, hurts people, leaves them isolated, therefore empty, therefore wanting satisfaction from the outside, therefore addicted, and then it creates all these products, and all these activities, and all these cultural diversions to fill the very emptiness that it creates. And then they say, "That selfishness is the nature of human beings." And there's the complete circle of the ideology." 47:25

    • @color-head1696
      @color-head1696 Před 4 lety +1

      47:25

    • @judiechamblee9581
      @judiechamblee9581 Před 3 lety

      So greatful for gabor mates studies and work so we may be free to study behind him and therefor be free to "catch onto" our real lives..every talk he has is priceless towards our advancement in being whole and finding peace within befor passing on..i treasure his works..

    • @judiechamblee9581
      @judiechamblee9581 Před 3 lety +3

      I feel everyone needs to take a class in high school or college called "gabor mate works and wonders"...this way we can enlighten the people of the world to rethink the world and set it in a better safer path

    • @SolidSiren
      @SolidSiren Před 3 lety +4

      Yep. But humans are more than capable of getting out of that ideology. You just have to reject it. Just be.

    • @BC-gu8vs
      @BC-gu8vs Před 3 lety +1

      This was brilliant wisdom

  • @susanrocca6108
    @susanrocca6108 Před 3 lety +5

    Here at minute 20:38 I'm just overwhelmed by this man's beauty of mind-he speaks of how people being benefitted by Aids or cancer by their own admission. It goes against the grain of our whiner-type culture with an extremely gentle integrity. He claims to have an unspiritual mind, but unbeknownst to himself he is spiritual beyond most.

  • @naturterapi
    @naturterapi Před 7 lety +71

    Another wonderful thing about Canada.... Gabor Maté :)

    • @balwc147
      @balwc147 Před 5 lety +6

      He's hungarian

    • @KayKayBayForever
      @KayKayBayForever Před 4 lety +1

      balWC He lives in Canada.

    • @mariamm109
      @mariamm109 Před 4 lety +4

      balWC he’s Hungarian speaking Jewish born in Hungary with a Hungarian name. Very brilliant man.

    • @JuxJacy
      @JuxJacy Před 3 lety +2

      @@mariamm109 He is Canadian.

  • @hs6404
    @hs6404 Před 2 lety +12

    I love Dr. Maté's lectures. Write these lessons on your soul. This lecture is nearly 10 years old, and the material is timeless.

  • @Intuition11111
    @Intuition11111 Před 10 lety +337

    It is a shame there has been a large amount of disinformation spread about Dr Gabor Mate's work (such as psychology today, which coincidently is the first thing which appears when his name is googled)
    I think he is spot on about the trauma but the current societal paradigm defines trauma as some big event that happened to a child however, it can be defined as anything really which leads a child to maladaptive behaviour in their adult life (such as many small events).
    The entire definition of trauma needs to be clarified and broadened widely. Most people don't seem to understand what it is and it is their ignorance on the matter that brings about criticism of his theories

    • @rafaelmarchanteangulo4582
      @rafaelmarchanteangulo4582 Před 5 lety +45

      he's too much of a threat because he's so spot on

    • @gryphon8483
      @gryphon8483 Před 5 lety +10

      Absolutely agree, (You are spot on) this is why the disinformation / demonization. @@rafaelmarchanteangulo4582

    • @timacree7177
      @timacree7177 Před 5 lety +36

      the funny (sad?) thing about that Psych Today takedown is that if you watch the author in interviews, he seems miserable and almost seems like a prime candidate for someone with suppressed childhood trauma. Additionally, I looked further into the study that he mentioned in that PsychToday article, and watched interviews with the conductor of that study -- let's just say I was uninspired and unimpressed. On the other hand, my intuition about Gabor Mate is that he is hitting on some profound, tragically-unspoken truths. Honestly if I had to ascribe anyone as my "hero" it would probably be him.

    • @anastasiabeaverhausen.
      @anastasiabeaverhausen. Před 5 lety +8

      I saw that article last month and was bothered by it...I was like who is this dude?! I as well took it with a grain of salt. Thank you for posting this (5 years ago..lol), I thought I was the only one who was irritated.

    • @timacree7177
      @timacree7177 Před 5 lety +3

      thanks for the reply :)

  • @alinaivanus
    @alinaivanus Před 4 lety +16

    I just found Gabor Mate these days.... and he changed my thinking, understanding and hopefully feeling. This came at the right time for me. Many blessings!

  • @MirandaKenttheone
    @MirandaKenttheone Před 10 lety +28

    Gabor, thank you for your book "When the Body Says No". Possibly a life-saver. Thank you

  • @gryphon8483
    @gryphon8483 Před 5 lety +29

    "Thank God I am out of my mind" I love it!

  • @darrellgarner4352
    @darrellgarner4352 Před 9 lety +160

    I traveled once , a dusty road,
    Extending from my sight.....
    Young and strong, full of life,
    I journeyed with delight.....
    The rain it came, washed away,
    The path I had desired....
    Searching left, spying right,
    Soon finding myself mired....
    With bliss at stake, decisions made,
    To take another course....
    Need take a chance, become not idle,
    Dwell not on remorse.....
    Trials arose , on my sojourn,
    That kept me from my path....
    Fate convened, to set me straight,
    Lest I should feel its wrath....
    Suns return, healing warmth,
    Drying mud from feet.....
    Feeling stronger, ever lighter,
    Leaping from defeat.....
    Lifes ups and downs, ins and outs,
    Lead us not in vain....
    Joy and love, not all there is,
    We must embrace our pain.......

  • @mitramalekzadeh9988
    @mitramalekzadeh9988 Před 4 lety +8

    This cancer has been the best thing happened to me or the addiction. Its the necessity to love themselves or live in the alienation as we are. He's a genius. Wow. It's all awakening, it's all God's given gifts 🙏🦋👌🌺🌹😘😘😘😘

  • @coolwater55
    @coolwater55 Před 5 lety +21

    Compassion for self..is critical..but also for others.

  • @jan-martinulvag1953
    @jan-martinulvag1953 Před 5 lety +77

    When you learn how to suffer you will suffer no more

    • @claudiacaceres2580
      @claudiacaceres2580 Před 3 lety +1

      how please?

    • @jan-martinulvag1953
      @jan-martinulvag1953 Před 3 lety +1

      @@claudiacaceres2580 The reward is high. You learn a lot, and its not going to destroy you its going to save you and heal you. Allow yourself to feel. Dont be afraid, just be thankful. Its a gift. Not learning or growing is much worse than surrendering to the information that comes your way disguised as pain. It is only perceived as pain before the information is realised. The joy of the gift is much greater than the pain of the change. Just let it take you over. And remember the most important thing. The energy of spirit. Trust spirit to know what is right and good for you. You dont know. Only spirit knows.

    • @claudiacaceres2580
      @claudiacaceres2580 Před 3 lety

      if only spirit knows how come you know? Just beig naughty , thank you :)

    • @jan-martinulvag1953
      @jan-martinulvag1953 Před 3 lety

      @@claudiacaceres2580 I miss my naughty girl. She followed and identified with ego, not spirit. Like most people . I have a bit of Stockholm syndrome, you know. Everyone does.

    • @claudiacaceres2580
      @claudiacaceres2580 Před 3 lety

      @@jan-martinulvag1953 Interesting, I have met people who love pain, some physical and others mental. I think poorly of this addiction to pain. With all respect, I ve heard that if you identify with anything you are bound to the ego, even spirit, because its a mental construct. Now I know spirit is real but its beyond description and duality so its beyond good vs bad beyond pleasure vs pain. I heard there are ways of getting out of suffering , the buddhist eightfold path, its my humble opinion . All my love spiritual brother Jean- Martin .

  • @emmanuelweinman9673
    @emmanuelweinman9673 Před 2 lety +8

    God I wish we had more teachers like him ❤️🙏🏼

  • @tonilucas4464
    @tonilucas4464 Před 2 lety +9

    I just discovered him a month or so ago. I just love listening to him. He has such a gentle, but wise, and real persona. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge and insights with us.

  • @yoashab690
    @yoashab690 Před 8 lety +43

    dr.Gabor your vibrations reach my soul. my inner dilmas and weaknessess with a great hope to reach the state of possible human loving myself and others. Thank you.

  • @SethGavriel111
    @SethGavriel111 Před 3 lety +13

    Think this is one of the best lectures I’ve ever heard in my life. I’m speechless, and that’s not easy to achieve for someone as garrulous as myself!

  • @AdventureswithAixe596
    @AdventureswithAixe596 Před 4 lety +15

    I don't like this man - I just love him! What a beautiful mind inspiring gentle and with all freedom in thought thinking deeper.

  • @harmonikan
    @harmonikan Před 11 lety +16

    I love this guy's honesty and openness.

  • @bluejay6904
    @bluejay6904 Před 4 lety +14

    Please allow Closed Captioning for people with hearing loss.

  • @FlaminggMoe
    @FlaminggMoe Před 3 lety +5

    He really has great comedic timing. Can see him being a stand up in a different life

  • @quasimchambers
    @quasimchambers Před 5 lety +4

    (Deletes 300 word essay on how great this is and describe it in one word) ....PERFECTION!

  • @srinidi679
    @srinidi679 Před 6 lety +5

    This man is enlightened. No joke,he is teaching beautiful things as it as. Thank you doctor

  • @georget.6357
    @georget.6357 Před 3 lety +9

    Grateful for my traumas and addictions because now I know how to heal myself, others, and listed to my inner true needs.

  • @thetaeater
    @thetaeater Před 2 lety +1

    Ahh those darn samskaras! His presentation/interpretation of ancient concepts applied to everyday life if just magical.

  • @Herkimerdiamond
    @Herkimerdiamond Před 3 lety +2

    I love this man!!!!! It drives me crazy too all the spiritual stuff that Adyashanti and eckart tolle talk about. They look like in another planet and not resolving anything.

  • @sarahtisme
    @sarahtisme Před 4 lety +3

    Time is never wasted listening to this remarkable teacher

  • @nicholasusansky9073
    @nicholasusansky9073 Před 7 lety +41

    what a beautiful and profound speaker

  • @lindaforzani8215
    @lindaforzani8215 Před 3 lety +3

    I am so grateful that I have found Gabor and to now understand childhood trauma for my own childhood and for my grown children.

  • @user-iu7xt7uy8o
    @user-iu7xt7uy8o Před rokem +2

    They way he talks always make me calm down and relax! He is a genius man who can point at problems in recent society . I can't believe how calming his voice is 🥰❤️

  • @lilywhite8157
    @lilywhite8157 Před 5 lety +9

    Gabor is really deep and funny at times, incredibly open, easy to listen and understand I think I am addicted LOL

    • @bobwoww8384
      @bobwoww8384 Před rokem

      He really makes it easy to understand my humanity

  • @catbookfashion
    @catbookfashion Před 8 lety +25

    Thank you, Gabor Mate, your videos have proven extremely life enhancing to me at this time.

  • @wachsamesbewustsein8025
    @wachsamesbewustsein8025 Před 2 lety +1

    "Its difficult to think outside the box, because the thinking is the box" - genius realization.

  • @CC-nd1lg
    @CC-nd1lg Před 3 lety +1

    I clicked on this by mistake with my clumsy thumbs but stayed for it all. Such a captivating man and brilliant talk. Thank you for sharing

  • @justinevirtue1755
    @justinevirtue1755 Před 9 lety +32

    Most excellent! So much condensed wisdom, humor, and encouragement in one segment. Seems long. But passes quickly. Much love!

  • @prajnabala
    @prajnabala Před 8 lety +74

    Great talk! One of the few people talking about spiritual seeking as an addiction, which I can totally relate to!

    • @truthlivingetc88
      @truthlivingetc88 Před 4 lety

      It is better to assume that there is no such thing as spiritual seeking than to want to be sure that there is such a thing. I am quite enlightened. You can listen to what I have just said. I have helped you out here. I don`t need a reply.

    • @pereraddison932
      @pereraddison932 Před 4 lety +1

      My Fake Name ... enlightenment is the "see" of awareness in which everything exists... It is eternal... and, we are all dying to awaken to IT...
      GOD BLESS EVERYONE BLESS EVERYTHING ALWAYS AMEN...

    • @truthlivingetc88
      @truthlivingetc88 Před 4 lety +1

      ! -_- ?

    • @stevenbaker799
      @stevenbaker799 Před 2 lety

      The spirit lies between us

  • @Monyia
    @Monyia Před 11 lety +18

    Great speech! Thank you so much! I am having spiritual experiences, it is most beautiful thing that could happen in my life! I love Eckhart, Adyashanti and other spiritual teachers but it's true that someone who doesn't experience inner self naturally will have no clue how to even practice it and the mind will trick on you again. For me it is a blessing in my life journey. This blessing will come to everyone "sooner or later".. . Wishing you all best and much love!!! :)

  • @dunciepunkie76
    @dunciepunkie76 Před 4 lety +7

    God I'm gonna have to listen to this talk again sober tomorrow

    • @stefbaws
      @stefbaws Před 3 lety

      So are you sober now?

    • @dunciepunkie76
      @dunciepunkie76 Před 3 lety +1

      @@stefbaws I am actually. Forked up during the christmas holidays, but tomorrow (almost midnight here) will consecutive sober day nr 141.

  • @79wouter
    @79wouter Před 12 lety +5

    Our lives mainly resolve around making money. We cannot ever hope to realize our potential when almost all of our time is spent extrinsically motivated. First you have to become financially independent. Then you can live your life intrinsically motivated, your journey will begin, and maybe if you are lucky you can reach enlightenment. And even that is not the end stage. After this period of calmness, the storm will pick you up.

  • @rebeccaz994
    @rebeccaz994 Před 7 lety +9

    someone finally got it right. I love gabor

  • @dougantelope5013
    @dougantelope5013 Před 2 lety +1

    “It’s hard to think outside the box, because thinking is the box”

  • @chasityj.4130
    @chasityj.4130 Před 6 lety +9

    Has tears in my eyes!! So much truth!!!

  • @mariolastepaniuk4957
    @mariolastepaniuk4957 Před 3 lety +4

    I love and admire Gabor's honesty, and humour of course! :) I can listen to him for hours.

  • @LarvaSolar
    @LarvaSolar Před 5 lety +49

    Wounded healer

    • @jenniferlee5871
      @jenniferlee5871 Před 4 lety +5

      LarvaSolar True, the best kind of healer.

    • @juliedorman1858
      @juliedorman1858 Před 4 lety +4

      We all are

    • @davidsharp2050
      @davidsharp2050 Před 3 lety +1

      A Sharman is someone who has been "almost '
      Killed but survived.
      Thus having a foot in both Worlds.
      Just take my word for it.

  • @Known-unknowns
    @Known-unknowns Před 3 lety +1

    I’ve listened to this talk several times. If you’ve listened to it once, you didn’t get it. Trust me. This must be the sixth time for me and I still have moments of understanding. If you’re above average intellect you’ve still missed a lot.

  • @lightofEarendil
    @lightofEarendil Před 11 lety +2

    when said "addiction is not a person,nobody is an addict" he means the very essence of a human. in our essence we are pure human beings.but to once again become one, we must face our flaws inside us - inside our corrupted nature, which is just "a part" of a human's pure essence.

  • @gabormate4207
    @gabormate4207 Před 11 lety +151

    I can't justify it. I was just plain wrong, reacting to the book's title rather than its content. Even Dawkins, of course, has acknowledged how his title may be confusing: "In the foreword to the book's 30th-anniversary edition, Dawkins said he "can readily see that [the book's title] might give an inadequate impression of its contents" and in retrospect thinks he should have taken Tom Maschler's advice and called the book The Immortal Gene." Still, the mistake is my responsibility.

    • @liambrereton4343
      @liambrereton4343 Před 4 lety

      What the funk are you even chatting about ??? Dawkins lacks Spirit.

    • @pereraddison932
      @pereraddison932 Před 4 lety

      Liam Brereton ... only because of his relationship to Dawk-ins... !!!

    • @stevemartin4249
      @stevemartin4249 Před 4 lety +14

      This apology is so YOU, so don't be hard on yourself. Whatever Dawkins claimed to have thought about, post-hoc, and tried to correct in his forward, his CZcams videos show him in real time as a very shallow, egoistic, and mean-spirited man. And there ... I have just demonstrated how mean-spirited I can be, but in my defense, it was made in the spirit of defending you from yourself. Love you, mate ... uh ... I mean Maté. 😂

    • @neidermeyer9361
      @neidermeyer9361 Před 4 lety +7

      Gabor have you read something about Taoism? I think you will find very helpful and I would like to know what do you think about it

    • @ElaHumanRightLawyer
      @ElaHumanRightLawyer Před 3 lety +7

      Are you really Gabor Mate?

  • @lynkent677
    @lynkent677 Před 7 lety +21

    This man is an abtract of spiritual awakening

  • @alichebry
    @alichebry Před 6 lety +2

    Gabor is a gift, so raw, so real, so easy to listen to and learn from.

  • @pandaena1
    @pandaena1 Před 4 lety +1

    How ruthlessly honest Dr. Maté. You silenced me. ♥

  • @nicm1411
    @nicm1411 Před 7 lety +9

    Absolutely right on the mark about so many things. Incisive. Condensed wisdom.

  • @lotushands0
    @lotushands0 Před 12 lety +12

    YES!! The nugget is there: "You can only get there through the body." AMEN. So wonderful to have Gabor as a fellow pilgrim on this journey. Wahe Guru!!

  • @darlenealessio7609
    @darlenealessio7609 Před 3 lety +1

    I love that Gabnor Mate' can be honest and being honest is connecting to the best form of our inner child, honesty and honestly he can get as many people to understand that there are no exact answers. But we can work on finding them at least in doing so become our better self. Thank You Gabnor Mate' Love his sense of humor

  • @philliasphog6689
    @philliasphog6689 Před 2 lety +2

    I love how academics are attached to knowledge, an addiction that can only be solved with meditation. 'It's not for me' ... when will you be brave enough and so certain in yourself that you are willing to allow yourself the experience to be fairly evaluated by the id.

  • @Magda_li
    @Magda_li Před 3 lety +5

    as always amazing speech. i love Gabor's honesty and sensitivity. thank you 🙏🏼💖

  • @Jesushealing
    @Jesushealing Před 11 lety +3

    How humble he is....

  • @lindacianchetti3599
    @lindacianchetti3599 Před 4 lety +2

    Yes! I 100% agree! That statement has always stirred me.
    I am ..NOT the experience.

  • @LunaFly906
    @LunaFly906 Před 11 lety +1

    one of the best, most compassionate person the entire Earth! Namaste! you r a hero indeed!

  • @scottiusnevious5143
    @scottiusnevious5143 Před 4 lety +3

    I'm glad I found this guy.

  • @TheirIAre
    @TheirIAre Před 4 lety +3

    Wow.. Just wow. What great wisdom and perspective that he offers us.

  • @sharon9270
    @sharon9270 Před 4 lety +2

    The way he explains addiction is such a new concept for me. The answer to all our struggles lies within not the external.
    As within So without.
    Peace, love, blessings and healing to All.

  • @evesprouserowe8256
    @evesprouserowe8256 Před 2 lety +1

    After those 3 long replys... I love your WORK! YOU are one of the bright lights helping heal our world! I pray we all find our personal work as you have and also find our peace.
    Love to you...and peace deep to our souls!