HOW EXPENSIVE IS DATING A FILIPINA? | Filipino-Foreigner Dating
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When I was young, I see so many Foreigners dating a filipina here in the Philippines going out with the whole town . I just want to stress this out because it still happens today and I find it really cool and fun but it is really surprising for some foreigners.
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A true Filipino women dont beg for money!!!!I married my wife and she never asked me for money and is the best wife a man could ask for for Filipino family values!!!!!!!
Not beg for money dear, she stated when u meet and greet the family. They throw a big party to meet each of the family members and the extended family and friends of the family , it would be a big feast though it doesn’t happen often.
That’s the Filipino way to welcome and entertain a new comer .
I agreed with you Randy your filipina wife is a decent woman usually most pinay’s that don’t ask money are the one’s who are independent working girls.
Wow! So they expect $$$$
@@jimc3672 my wife didn't want any money only wanted me.we have 2kids been married 10years and happy as can be my wife is awesome!!!!!👌👌👌👌👌👌
The problem is Jen come over and meet a Filipina in bar then are having sex within the 1/2 hour. The man falls in love and when the girl starts gold digging and money grubbing the guys says ALL FILIPINAS ARE BAD ? 🤣 no. You don’t base all Filipinas/Thais on the bar girls
I had lived in and out of the Philippines for 8 years now...I have seen this happen to many foreigners including myself when I first started coming to the Philippines...from what I have seen is alot of the Filipinos think foreigners are rich and expect you to spend money on the family unless they are upper class families....they don't realize that we have different cultures and westerners usually only deal with immediate family not extended ones..my advise is always take gifts to mom and dad and something to share with the immediate family..food and alcohol seems to be appreciated if in the province...be polite and get yourself a hotel close to her family.. So you and your Filipina can leave after a few hours..and visit depending upon your schedule.. Enjoy your visit but set your limits ...you do not have to be an ATM for people you will never see again..
First time I met my Filipina girlfriend who is now my wife of five years she invited me to meet her family and relatives. I got surprised when she had a welcome party for me and had lots of foods and drinks. My girlfriend found out I loved seafoods and had lots of that cooked for me. I wanted to help pay for the foods and drinks but her and her family wouldn't let me since they said I was their guest. They treated me like a king then and they still do today. Many Filipinos want to get things from foreigners but her and her family are givers who are too shy to ask me for help even if they are struggling. I am very happy and willing to help them if I find out they have some problem especially if they have a health problem and need to see a doctor and get medicine. I was very lucky I met her because my previous girlfriends always asking me to buy lots of expensive things and go on expensive trips and expensive restaurants. My wife and her family were happy and excited if I took them to MacDonalds because they were poor and couldn't afford to go there.
That is a respectful family and a good girl.
Wow you really found a good one that's a rare find indeed in the Philippines I also think I found a good one but we're still in the beginning stages and I'm not going to jump the gun that's for sure but so far so good
This is how filipinas and Filipino family's are. They don't cheapen the Philippines with demanding u pay for everything. This female in this video was raised by scammers and is a fool and wrong.
@@Rubeauti my fellow citizens lmao I live in the Philippines in cebu
@@Rubeauti this video u should be ashamed putting out this advice. U know better saying this. It is shameful. Makes philipines look bad. Speak for your own family maby huh. Not for filipines. This is shameful behavior. U know this.
I could have thrown a party for her family for $500 or I could have used the same $500 to create a "Free Library" for her entire village to enjoy for years. Hmmmm????....Which one did I choose??? I chose the Filipina who wanted me to create a library and a future for her people.
Wow a 500$ party? Thats one hell of a party. I think most i ever spent was 175$. And that included a 50-60 kilo live pig. Plus Videoke, tuba, and the works. I believe that was my 65th birthday.
@@eugenel.ferguson3110 You get 120lbs of pork for $175… seems suspicious
I am one foreigner that stood tall and educated my wifes family in the school of hard knocks!
They learned very quick this ATM is offline!
I would love to know more about how it went if you don't mind?
Good for you man otherwise you be in financial trouble now
@@nathiibex621 Filipinos perception of foreigners are we are rich. My response to them is "because we are smart with our money"
Its worked out well for 10 years!
My tradition is that I don't take extended family and their friends and neighbors out to eat and fancy resorts.
Men need to start out the relationship the way they wanted to go the rest of their lives because if they start throwing money around in the beginning then it's going to be expected forever. Have the conversation with your Filipina and let her know that you don't mind occasionally doing something for her parents but also let her know that you don't like the idea that anything is expected of you. You want to help the parents or whoever else because you want to and not because you're expected dude to tradition. Two people coming together in a relationship needs to respect each other's cultures and find a happy middle ground.
Yes this "it's tradition in the Philippines" is a load of crap. There's no such tradition. If anything the opposite is true. A good Filipino family will throw a party for you, feed you until you can't eat any more.
I think this is a tradition that started after after during the first the second world war when the army had lots of supplies and the Philippines and it was everybody's job to get as much as I could
@@MrWaterbugdesign lol, yes, I'm coming to visit, and they throwing a party for your and I got to pay. Sounds crazy
So, if she is dating a Filipino man do they do the same thing make him pay for everything? Lol, I understand a celebration!
I wholeheartedly disagree. There's nothing wrong with throwing a decent party, or taking the entire family to a resort. Why won't you? Most of us can afford it easily and isn't it a nice way to get acquainted with the extended family? I think it's a mindset that we have in the US - to penny-pinch when it comes to people who aren't wealthy. Look at our tax code - all the billionaires pay literally no tax while, I think most of us would agree, the rest of us "regular" folks pay fairly high tax. This is a fact and isn't my main point here - my main point is that do you see any of US getting bent out of shape and asking our representatives to correct that? Hell no! But if we ever get the sense that some "poor" guy got a break that we, the "regular" people, don't get - Lord have mercy! We'll raise a din. I think the same mentality is in play here. Spend money after "poor" people? You gotta be kidding! We love to oil the oily back. By the way, I personally have taken the entire extended family of my Filipina to a resort in Batangas for 3 nights: We rented a large transport van, rented two adjacent houses (each has several bedrooms and kitchen), and we had a blast. I am glad that I did it, and no, nobody took that as a sign of my "unlimited wealth" and started asking for help/loan/etc.
I think what a lot of Filipina fail to understand is that most foreign men are coming to the Philippines to retire. Their on a budget and not all foreign men are rich and I think expectations are way to high . We are generous for the most part but have already been taken advantage of by western women and will move on if they feel they are back in that situation. As you know foreigners can't own property in the Philippines so asking them to buy land and build a house is out of the question unless married and have proper prenuptial agreement. These are facts and hard truths that need to be expressed as we foreigners are coming for a better life in our retirement. Western countries are expensive to live in and the Philippines and other Asian countries offer more affordable living but if a man has to start supporting a Filipinas extended family then there is no point coming. What happens is the foreign men end up moving the Filipina to the other side of the country away from her family and will offer occasional visits but no more than that so to mitigate the constant berage of people with their hand out .
You realize that older men don't induce romantic love especially in younger ladies. Hot young dudes can get it anywhere and pay nothing because it's love (requires infatuation). So, it's either retirement (possibly cheaper than the West) you're going for. Or, it's about dating which means $$$. These poorer families are using their daughters to bring them money (a part of their culture). Their retirement plan is finding Western sucker(s) to pay the bills. Peace.
@@MyksPhilippineJourney Mike... I just posted - You gotta be kidding. The first time I met my asawa's family in Davao many many years ago, they threw and paid for a party for the two of us. Since then, none of them expected me to pay for them. In fact, most of the time they won't even let me pay my share when I am out with my buddies having a beer. The family and friends treat me as kuya, tito, daddy or grampa depending on their ages. I am not seen as a puti with a wallet. I am family...
@@bobbruce4135 that is understandable as there isn't a social safety net there. It's the guys who choose to reside close to or in proximity to the family that get sucked dry . The Philippines is a big place with 7000 plus islands. All though not are inhabitable but still you can put distance away from them and still enjoy your retirement. The two island rule is real and I personally have no intention of living in a rural province when I can afford to live by the ocean in a higher class neighborhood. If she doesn't want to go that is her choice, more fish in the sea .
@@MyksPhilippineJourney as you know we have been paying whether married or dating for women our entire lives in one way or another so for us older men it's no surprise that younger Filipinas are looking for financially stable men . The power comes from having the knowledge of this and not letting the L word divert divert you from the facts . A marriage is just a contract and they get broken everyday but it's how you write the contract (prenuptial agreement)that matters. I almost got caught in that trap and I set her straight emediatly that what she thought was going to happen wasn't. I was polite but firm and I have no intention of becoming a welfare program.
@@gailmaplesden7380 Good advice. Since I know it's not love (requires infatuation both ways) and refuse to be told I'm loved (I'm not delusional), I keep it purely transactional which means I refuse marriage (not love based). But, finding a hot holiday GF isn't easy with all the Only$imps sending money for nothing. Even in the pen-pan catalog days, most of the ladies had zero intention of marrying or being romantic with the foreign suckers that visited them, it was all to just ask for money or costly "dating" with their barkadas. Finding and negotiating a holiday romance in a luxury destination isn't easy and what I like doing. I can't tolerate living there full-time (I get nauseated around churches and babies). Any tips? Peace.
I think boundaries need to be set in any relationship. Good intensions can be interpreted for weakness and stupidity. If you can't be smart about your finances everywhere you travel to, then you will be that foolish foreigner who is broke in their retirement years with nothing to show for their hard work.
@@Rubeauti Let me ask you something, Would you live with a foreigner that didn't want any children nor wanted to get married, but was comfortably rich and promised to take care of you and your family? Of course you would have to be attracted to each other.
@@Rubeauti No matter what couple means two people no more, the rest that compose the couple's families (inlaws) have any right on the couple's economy, any help to the inlaws must be voluntary and not expected as an obligation: Why waisting time flirting and playing a game if we can buy what we call love?
Good point Sir.
Well, seems crazy to have to foot the bill for the entire family, the extended family, the cousins, any friends they might have, and whoever else might be around. I would even venture to say that in most cultures, the visitor is often extended every courtesy. So, to ANY foreigner, this “tradition” may seem backwards. Thanks for the heads up.
I am sorry: however, my Dad married my Filipina Mom and he said he went to the province where her whole family lives and they did have most of the families and friends to greet & welcomed him and had a party, and never in the 6 times he visited did he pay for what you called "expected to pay for every cent" and he thinks that the only time that he paid was when he volunteered and invited the family for a gathering but not the whole town but just the immediate families! I agree that helping out with the expenses is the right thing to do and you can't generalize your statement as if all Filipinos demand nor expect what you just said in your topic! Just to let you know my Dad was a USAF pilot during the Vietnam war & well off and my Mom was a seamstress and very poor and so is her family. She is dismayed and a little upset because not all Filipinos are with that unacceptable trait!
@@Rubeauti I understood what you said but many also may mean a lot. How can you quantify the word "many" means not all? Is it 99% or is it 1% of Filipinas that are seeking a soul mate for life? You don't know exactly the number of women or do you?
Treating the whole family is nonsense, meeting a foreigner shouldn't be seen as Santa clause coming to town, that can only happen to some men that can't control their situation.
As a person that dated 4 Filipino I have never heard of this and if I had to do all this when we first met I would of got the hell out of there. I did not even meet the family until the first week just me and her... One girl did try to get me to build her a house 🤣🤣🤣
When I went there I didn't meet the whole family. It takes time to meet a hundred million people. I did meet her uncle who was the retired former head of the police. We sat down and had a nice interrogation.
Ha ha ha. Thats great. I've lived here 7 years and i know a good many of her family. And love them all, some more than others for sure.
Okay that's funny right there 🤣😂
I passed the test.
I would disagree with you, what you are describing is a foreigner being scammed. I have have dated numerous Filipinas and know of many married friends, but have never experienced this party requirement. In fact I notice how at parties Filipinos seem to be keen to show you that they don't need your money, and I had to insist of buying something for the parties, even if it was just a few crates of beer! I am sorry but a guy who falls for this 'pay for everything' is on the road to poverty.
The FLEECING of a Foreigner! Precedence is set once a foreigner boyfriend pay the entire bill. This act will be expect of him in the future events. The family will think of him as Santa Clause. Since we talking about culture, I see the customs are different for a foreigner versus a local national. If you are invited to meet your girlfriends relatives, they are the host ... NOT the other way around. I always ask myself, "Would they do this, whatever it is (i.e. vacation) on their own peso?" The boyfriends needs to set BOUNDRYS and LIMITATIONS. We all have budgets! The family will also pressure the WIFE for money when the HAT is passed around. The only one paying is the HUSBAND. Do NOT be afraid to walkaway if your treated like an ATM.
You're absolutely right I would do an about face and walk away because I would find that very ignorant in my culture the guest doesn't pay for everybody's meal
Any respectable Filipino family will not do what this scammer suggested in this video. The opacity to say she expects it is despicable and for her to even put this type of video out dictates the charictor to her upbringing. Screams scammer
@@mr.firmhand1949 thank you
@@mr.firmhand1949 Right on 👍I have been to other developing countries and the poorest will share whatever they have WITHOUT expecting anything from you
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My advice would always be, start as you mean to continue. Don’t throw lavish money parties for extended family or provide alcohol unless you expect to keep on doing it every time you visit. There will be enough other requests for money and family support in due course without all that as well.
I 100% agree with you do not let any of them take advantage of you you give them an inch they'll want to take a mile
@@lovemyFilipina Facts 👍
I am married to my Filipino wifey, and I did as a common courtesy take the family out to the Moon Café in Dumaguete, Philippines. It only costs me $22.50 in American money. It was an honor to spend the time with my family. The time together was worth more than the money spent. So, it is also important to understand what priority is most important. I have decided to invest in the future of our family, than to give our wealth away to others. We started 2 businesses, to support the family with jobs and continual income. We believe in the principle of teaching a man/woman how to fish. So that way we can live for a lifetime. Thanks for sharing this principle.
That's exactly how I want to do it. What kind of businesses are they?
Whew I was scared there for a minute. Big baller time!!
@@Nobumblegumforyou If you need help just thinking of a business- business is not for you.
@@TheK-PopInPublicAuthority funny
This bullshi*, I have traveled to the provinces three times. The family expected nothing!
I date and engaged to a wonderful Filipina I met last summer and have visited her twice now and about to make my third trip for Christmas. My first visit I took her and invited her mom on a 8 day 5 star trip to Cebu and happily paid everything. My second trip I stayed with her and her mom at her home and paid for all the food and utilities and happy to do so. Unfortunately her mom apparently didn't think I was doing enough since I wasn't also handing her over pesos in addition to everything else I was doing so she decided to go around town in the province and tell everyone that her daughters Foreigner bf was greedy which was the furthest thing from the truth. I am the least greedy person you would ever meet. Her and her daughter argued about this and her mom continued to call both of us greedy. We decided separate ourselves from the home and travel to give them space for a few days and I felt very uncomfortable. When I left to return back to the States her mom kicked her out of the house along with her four-year-old son with nowhere to go. I love the Philippines and I love the Philippines culture but some of this crap has to change. People should not expect something from other people just because they have more. I am the most giving person but when someone starts expecting something from me just because I have something that is too much. I now support my fiance and while I'm happy to do it it has caused a strain on a relationship all because her mother is a greedy person.
There is a Filipina living with her American husband in the USA and she tells of her family greeting her with 'What did you bring us?' rather than 'How are you?' or 'Good to see you! We missed you!'. She has basically abandoned her family as a result.
The takeaway from this video: date yourself a girl who is an orphan
Wow, if a girlfriend surprised me with a bill for 30 people I don't know at a resort or restaurant, she would not be getting another call or text from me. I'd walk out and leave right there. Also, if her father was a beggar and expected money out of me the first time we met, that would cancel my chances of ever starting a family with them.
Paying for a meet and greet meal for the entire family "initially" doesn't sound like a bad thing.... I personally wouldn't have a relationship with a Filipina who expected me to foot the bill every time we visited her family. I also wouldn't have a relationship with a Filipina who expected me to pay a monthly allowance to her family.... My ideal Filipina should have a decent job, and a family who have the means to take care of themselves..... The idea that I can take a goat, 2 chickens, and a handful of Peso in exchange for their daughter is cringe worthy.... Personally I`ve never been the type of person to pay for anyone's respect or affections... Just my humble opinion.
They will expect her to share the blessings. I don't mind buying a couple bags of rice, kick in on the electric bill, and pay for grand pa medicine, every month. If ur that cheap maybe the warmth of a Filipino family isn't for u.
@@eugenel.ferguson3110 Or maybe when I arrive in the Philippines in 3 weeks I`ll look for a Filipino with a decent job, and a family who have the means to take care of themselves..... You do you, and I`ll do me... Just sayin'
There are 2 sides to every coin. There are families both in the Province & the Cities that push their daughter's into a relationship with a Foreigner. Many use the potential Foreigner as the Families new ATM machine. Then there are other's that show restraint. It can get really bad with the onslaught of financial support requests. Especially when the family is obvisously living beyond their means. Ie: A family of 5 with a large house in an expensive area plus the fact they have 6 new cars. Plus you must beware of extended family members that expect for you to fork over the money to start a new business venture. Then the family trying to get you to buy land to build a house for your girlfriend so that she will have a place to live. Then you find out the cost of said land is 4 to 6 times the price per square meter than land offered by a Real Estate office not even 200 meters down the street. You must know when to say No and walk away.
@@fredjohnson4772 been here 7 years, i love it. And love all my family, well most all of them. Anyway Good luck and god bless. Curious to know where u go. Cause its a whole different world between the big cities and the isolated provinces. Since im not too into the night life i found a small island was the best fit for me. And most of the foreign guys I've met start out on the bigger cities. But eventually move on down to the more sedated life style. Have a good trip, and luck to you my friend. Im lucky i knew the family i got into for awhile. Her Dad Captain of big fishing boat. So pretty much free fish everyday. And are a very simple family. Don't want a big house or cars, etc. But i know some that expect you to give them the world yesterday. I guess I'm lucky in that regard. Have fun.
@@LibertyLover5103 exactly right.
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Most foreigners don't realize that it's more difficult dating of Filipina than any other because not only are you dating the Filipina you dating the family
I think this tradition is also for the family to figure out what kind of a future husband you will be to their daughters, the family members are somewhat trying to study your character on how you go about greeting and respecting the mum, dad and elders too and lastly to see if you are financially stable to provide a comfortable life like food and necessities to your future wife to be. I had a close friend who experience these things with his girlfriend and revealed his experiences when he got there to marry his girlfriend who was basically a nice province girl. He was lucky and had lovely kids after 10 years still being married 👍🏻❤
Yes, also dating the family, that it sounds like is grooming you for marriage from the minute you walk in the door, whether you know it or not!
No so sir, it what you make it.
Nick your fulla it. U are dating the wrong filipina then. Because a real filipina never puts someone she loves into a financial burden like that. It's wrong and shuned apon if your considered a SPONCER and not a BF. Your not family your a fool. Your being acammed.
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Hello maganda, nice video. I think the important thing on this subject to remember, is what you also mentioned - communication! Not all foreigners are rich and most certainly shouldn't be taken advantage of. But, I think most will be kind and generous (within reason) if shown respect and given proper communication for any expectations.
Having friends and family come along on a first date is not normal for westerners. If a filipina would feel more comfortable having someone with them on a first date, I think this would be okay for any respectable foreigner, but with advance notice.
I remember a foreigner vlogger mention he took a filipina on a first date and the whole family showed up without prior notice. To do that to someone is rude and might create an uncomfortable environment.
As far as paying for a big party, why not, but within reason. Like I said, not all foreigners are rich, but communication is key!
My friend i live very well on SS, 1100 a month. But i live simple life. Have modern apartment in small town. 160$ a month. Includes everything. Unlimited wifi, air con cable tv. Hot running water. But i built for 1500$ a nippa house about 150 yards off the beach. When im bored with one i go to the other. But most people might not like this simple of a life.
Sounds like you should have kept their destination a secret
My mother is from Philippines.
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I love watching your videos.
That's completely fine,it's better to have that connection with her family and you get to show them all who you are and the love you have for her. ♥️
I have a problem meeting the whole family first time I go out with a person!! 1. You really don't know the person (most likely) 2. It would be pretty uncomfortable 3. What if the relationship doesn't work out specially if you know it isn't going to work out at the very beginning. Might be some shame put on her cause it didn't work out!!! I guess I would prefer to meet a call center worker at a coffee shop while she is away from her family. Then maybe ask her out for a daytime meal out in public and a stroll on a public beach to get to know the person first!!! I would make it clear that a chaperone really wouldn't be needed cuz we are just gonna get a roadside snack and a little walk on the boardwalk in public view!!! No expectations just a bite to eat and a walk then decide if we wanted to maybe meet up again before we part ways for the day!!! No reason to bring the whole family in the mix for something that may or may not go anywhere after that!!! Just my thought on that one!!!
You just saved me a lot of typing...exact same sentiment here
Yes that’s a good idea and never meet the family unless it gets serious ,relationship wise.
I truly understand the reasoning behind the family wanting to meet the foreigner and having a big party gathering. I also believe with the foreigner paying for the event its sets a precedent that the foreigner always pays and that could be a responsibility a foreigner may not want to keep forever.
They are mostly poor. 30-40$ goes a long way at gatherings. Chump change to an American. More than a lot of these people make in 5-7 days. The make about 5-6$ a day on the small island i live on. And work damn hard for that.
If u pay for the event say fine, every female at the event at the end meets I the room at the end and bends over. Keep it in the family right. Fairs fare. They expect the money u expect the sex. They understand. It's the way. I mean she's saying it plane as day. From granny to neice They all get a peace of the beast.
Dude people are rwading the comments you cant this week and a simpin this is not how a filipina acts this woman is a liar
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Very informative, thank you🤗
No way would I be an atm machine for her and her ENTIRE family. Sounds like manipulative exploitation by the Filipina and especially her family. Absolutely ridiculous.
It's not fair for the poor guy to be "USED"
Paying for the WHOLE family when they're barely getting to know each other.
I agree this tradition is not real sorry .. with respect . Cause why my Filipina says is not true at all. Big huge turn off for a nice foreigner to come to the Philippines.
As long as the Relationship is in a Balanced Equilibrium. Time with my Filipina Alone would be important to me personally.
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You like to loose money and simp lol got it
Natural story teller..smooth, engaging, proper annunciation when emphasizing key topics. YTube is a great platform for your talents. The expectations of the extended and immediate fam should be understood upfront so no one is left on the wrong side of expectations. After all , Pesos don't grow on trees....
Again when I went there...her brother in law borrowed a car and he and her sister took us everywhere the whole time so I had no problem paying for meals which were excellent btw. Not pricey but incredible food. It was a great time. I can't remember laughing so much in my whole life. Most of the time we feasted at her family's house. In the province. More food than I'm used to. Her family was surprised as they thought Americans were fussy about food etc. Arrogant etc. Bear in mind they are poor. But instantly when we met it was an instant connection. So much fun, laughter and love...how could anyone not love that. Six years later and I still get text messages from aunts, uncle's and lola's I've never even met yet. They are my family.
Many are. I come from a big family. But what you realize is that people around the world are all the same but with different cultures. As long as you respect that you can fit in with people anywhere.
Exactly. Same here. I moved to the province, then met my GF. So know most of her family. Very comfortable.
Because a true Filipina never demand how much amount they want its depend on the foreigner
It means they expect Support
Dating a filipina now. She is the love of my life. Your channel is full of good information. Thank you for what you do as it helps me understand her better and her culture. Many smiles and good thoughts too you.
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Hello and a Happy Easter to you :) Another interesting topic and in most cases I agree with what you are saying , but on the other hand I have had friends that are living or doing long stays and they feel that they are been taken advantage off , every case is different of course. Many people who come on there trip are also on a budget and yes it is much cheaper to come and have a holiday in the Philippines for sure and if you take a family out best to go to a park or a beach resort and have a picnic that really does not cost that much , just don't go so somewhere like Vikings hahahaha . In all the yrs I have been coming only once did I get caught out not only did I have to pay for all the people I was ok for that but what I thought was wrong they ordered a very large take out to me that was taking advantage , but you live and learn. Keep up the great videos enjoy your Easter weekend take care .
Good topic. If she expects her family to go with to all places, she should make him aware that he is obligated to pay for everything before asking the family. Taking the family out once and awhile its ok, but there should also be limitations on who comes with. Once you do that all the time it will become expected.
A lot depends on the family, and where u live. A family outing where i am is a day at the beach. (Which we live right on)
I appreciate how knowledgeable you are... I've learned a lot JS
Thank you for the valuable information. Keep up the good work.
You gotta be kidding. The first time I met my asawa's family in Davao many many years ago, they threw and paid for a party for the two of us. Since then, none of them expected me to pay for them. In fact, most of the time they won't even let me pay my share when I am out with my buddies having a beer. The family and friends treat me as kuya, tito, daddy or grampa depending on their ages. I am not seen as a puti with a wallet. I am family...
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@@Rubeauti funny you generalize and speak for alll of filipines. That is shameful. You should be ashamed. You are a lier and very wrong. So so shameful.
I wouldn't mind going to my girlfriend province to meet her family and feed them like a barbecue or something. We do that here in Texas a lot. However I could never see myself taking the whole family to a resort because that's personal time I need with my lady. LOL
Exactly taking the entire extended families and barangay to party to "welcome yourself" is a freeloading scam.
I saw foreigner taking the whole brgy ,jeepney is super full .poor guy
Yes thankyou for your honesty and a foreigner expected to pay everything was very much a surprise to me because I wasn’t warned about this before it happened the first next time I had to discuss it with her and tell her I didn’t first understand this different culture and that I couldn’t really afford to this , and if possible on a smaller scale . Thankyou for this vlog your the first to explain what is expected from foreigners in the Philippines when dating and or married to a Filipino lady !
Ruebeauti you are correct with many of your comments. I wish your video/advice was around the first time I visited the Philippines back in 2015. My first Filipina GF and her family saw me as a walking ATM. Needless to say, I ended that relationship quickly. When I told her that I was spending too much money, she got mad at me and pouted the rest of my visit. The next Filipina I dated was the complete opposite, in fact, she and her family always wanted to pay whenever we went out. Both she and her family are awesome. She and I are still going strong some for years later. If one finds the right Filipina one has found the best woman in the world. Keep posting great videos!!!
@@Rubeauti Maraming Salamat Rubeauti po!
These expectations are why most western/phillipino marriages fail I support my family that's my wife and children. Not not extended families cousins etc.
A true family gathering all contribute
U are judging by American values, doesn't work in other places. Their values more down to earth.
@@eugenel.ferguson3110 I'm not American.
@@eugenel.ferguson3110 have you been to the Philippines if not you voice an opinion.
Nice video Rubeauty, off subject but sorry to hear about the recent landslides in the Philippines my heart goes out to those affected and who lost loved ones. One man said he doesn't have one Piso he lost everything!
Leyte got hit hard. But two whole days of dry weather in a row now. I think that's a record for 2022.
@@woodspirit98 i live on a small island connected to Leyte by bridge, people in the next Barangay (village) got killed, lots of house gone. Not to bad where we were. This time.
Nice to get such a good information!
Hello Rubeauti,
How are you together with your loved ones?
Thank you for the very informative videos that you are producing.
Keep up the good work.
Stay healthy and safe.
Hi Rubeauti, My name is Michael.
I've watched all of your videos; great content. I think you have a very down to earth channel. I am very much into fitness as well.
I find it hard to meet women if I'm not willing to commit to someone before I meet them in person. being in a relationship is not at the top of my list of priorities but I am open to exploring a good healthy relationship if I met the right woman. I have been a single parent for 17 years. What I'm looking for is a trusted friend who will honestly look out for my best interest when I move to the philippines. Someone I can depend on to help me get settled. I want to buy a condo in the city and build a house in the province.
really enjoy how sincere you are about helping respond to thoughts and questions foreign men need to know. thank you
It's false information. Your not a simp, if a filipina acts like this. Tell her to go somewhere eals. Ur being scammed.
If you take a woman on a date to dinner and a movie in a big city in USA it will cost you easily more than $100. Remember for that $100 in the Philippines they will take you to the market where they know the best places to buy all the food ingredients and drinks for the best prices and they will be able to feed 30+ people and have a great time.
I must say that I find your videos very informative and direct to the point of the topic. I also must add that filipina girls are extremely attractive, just by looking at you. I await patiently for your next topic.
I cant to visit the Philippines. It seems like such a beautiful country with gorgeous ladies.
Not all foreigners can afford to entertain an entire family. I know I couldn’t. I’m a poor foreigner.
This helps me alot thank you
I never had difficulties with the idea of the occasional small gift at special occasions, but when it becomes a regular expectation there is a problem. When meeting someone new, this can be a good test of honesty if handled properly.
I still remember during my first visit to the province to see my ex girlfriend to meet her family, we stayed at her house I gave her a couple of hundred pounds for expenses. I was very surprised how she handled money sparingly. She really kept tabs on how she spent. To me it wasn’t a big deal because I was on holiday but all to her credit I couldn’t fault her on how she handled cash.
@@Rubeauti A bit too smart, and that was her downfall. She thought that because I was in the Uk she could cheat without being caught. But I had the support of my many Filipino friends here in the Uk.
You where being simped and she was trying to play ya and scam ya it sounds. When they take a money they are fulla crap. Real true filipinas don't accept or ask for money. If it's true love they and there family pay for u not the other way around. 💯
My husband handed me his vacation money and he is surprised i knew how to handle money ,and now in our marriage im the bank manager when get our salary every month 😅
So if you have a Filipino wife, you don't know if her family like you for what kind of person you are, or if they like you because you are an ATM machine for them.
You will know it ,the way they treat you ,,if they treat you like a walking atm then ruuuunnn
Oh and also I am a new subscriber 👍🙏
Love your videos sister!
My wallet prepared,lol i dont think so,huge Red Flag there,would say goodbye to her,not her ATM.
This must be why parents push their girls towards trying to marry foreign men. I personally think it's ridiculous to expect your man to start flipping the bill for all these people. Not happening. It's their tradition...not ours. So much for your Filipina loving you. Your just a debit card for her family.
It’s never a Filipino tradition Randy. Never a tradition and will never be mandatory.
I have seen plenty of your videos. Enough to know your great . A good person. Keep going forward
i never been there yet . Watching U Tubers for imformation and differences . Great Job explaining very important point . probably should be at leased be mentioned before you two meet or start Dating . point being every one is still different . Great that you have the traditional Family way Life . Also i perfer the high elevation Same old Story communication First
There is no way I would pay for the entire family friends extended family neighbors and everything else to go out to eat at a restaurant not going to happen and my Filipina wouldn't expect me to do that and as far as loans borrowers not going to happen I've already told my Filipina I will not be her family's ATM nor should I have to be out of my girls five other siblings she is the only one helps her father out with food and money and she doesn't ask me for it
@@Rubeauti funny that is NOT what your video is about nor is it what you where explaining in your video. But boy o boy do u flip flop your answers fast in the comments you scammer
@@mr.firmhand1949 Exactly...this vlogger flip flops and contradicts her video. Clearly a gold digger lol
@@mr.firmhand1949 What's your problem man? I've seen your other negative comments. If you don't like the content, go somewhere else. No need to be so negative.
Nice video I have been sending and feeding people over there I share you are so sincere you have a very nice voice Always Remember You Are Not Alone
@@Rubeauti I'll be over there pretty soon I'm going to stay there for a while and rest I'm tired of working
Thanks Rubeauti..as a foreigner wanting to meet & possibly marry a filipina i think 1-2/year is great to focus on the family with good food & meeting up together.
Thank u to share that idea & discuss expectations from a filipinas point of view which can go along way to help your gf or wife show u also care about her AND her family
Dont show off because once you pay ,they will take you for granted and will treat you like walking atm ,,so you must have limit and communicate your filipina when it comes to mone
You have a nice pleasant manner and have some fun too. Good luck with your channel and stay safe.
I have a question that maybe someone else has already asked you. I've heard a lot about Filipinas being with "older" western men. But what is "too old"? In your mind, how much of an age gap is too much?
I've seen age gaps of 40 years or more.
I was 60 when i first arrive. My GF 42. She cleaned me out. The girl I'm with now 23. Been with her 5 years. Wasn't looking for a young girl but its what i found. Curiously when i was leaving Washington state, my dr who was a Filipino, which I didn't know that, was from Manila. Told me dont get an older girl they know too many scams, go younger your better off. He was right.
@@eugenel.ferguson3110 I guess you don't always have to travel. I met a man in his 80s in Lake Elsinore, CA. His wife and her parents now live with him. His "father-in-law" is 20 years younger than he is.
@@eugenel.ferguson3110 I think they can all be a little scammy if you get the wrong one I've seen scammers and all age brackets be careful out there man it's the wild West LOL I mean East
I have not done this, but it would be OK within reason. It also depend on how long you have been seeing her.
Thanks for your help
100 to 500 usd is fine for a grand party - if the gal is in agreement. in that will come out of HER monthly budget- and if she wants you to send money home to her family that too is fine- if it comes out of her monthly budget for hair, nights out with friends etc
What you are saying now is absolutely wrong. it is certainly NOT mandatory to invite her family and extended family, if you give information than also do this in a honest way and not let the poor foreigner pay for the entire family that is really bola bola story. I am married for 12 years and lot of my friends are also married with a filipina but none of us had to do this! And, since you marry the girl does not say you marry her family. This sounds to me like gold digging and girls who doing this are using the guy as a walking ATM shame on them!
My ex-filipina didnt tell me this so when i was visiting her family in the province for the first time, and we were all snacking and drinking beer in local hotel, I didn't realize I was footing the bill the next morning, lol :(
Yeah I can see why she's an ex
Red flag mate
One of the common scams they usually do is bringing you to an expensive restaurant. Unknown to you, almost everyone there is a relative. You pay for everyone. They want to see how easy a $ucker you are to fleece in the future. It's never actual romantic love (only hot young dudes can create that) which is the part we often forget. Peace.
@@bobbruce4135 it was like $20 extra dollars, calm down, shes not for me, but shes not a straight up scammer.
Red flag dont be a simp any filipina asking for this walk away and let her go
Happy Easter weekend with your family and friends.
What a way to receive the family orientation. It seems that the word "orientation" should be Tagalog due to it's complete expression of the experience
sorry darling you would need to be ALOT more pretty for me to make such a investment
It cost money to date anywhere in the world . It is not guys responsibility to feed the village . I would have no problem taking Mom and Dad for a nice meal but refuse to be a bank for everyone . I would already expect to pay for my girlfriend for life but NOT neighbors friends or extended family . The only way I would do that , would be on a wedding day maybe . And no , I am not a cheap man . I just will not be used !
I guess the old misconception is all foreigners are rich and are expected to provide for the future wife parents and siblings like food, electricity, water bills or even their schooling needs.A good decent man will provide whatever he can but only to a certain extent when he realised that his kindness is being taken for granted and then decided it’s Sayonara 😢 because it’s not worth it anymore🤭
Looking great 😊
I love and admire the culture of the close-knit Filipino family.
I would not want there to be an “ expectation” of paying full amounts to anyone……….my Filipina would be first……always.
I believe I would feel more comfortable reserving the right to help family when I believed it was truly warranted and of my own…….and my Filipina’s, free will.
She comes first……..every time. If I could reasonably help the family with a problem or pay for a celebration, that would be good, any expectation of a monthly allowance, per se, would make me uncomfortable.
Thank you for sharing this Rubeauti. I enjoy your honest sharing of your culture and your thoughtfulness.❤️
Dating a Filipina only cost me 500 peso in makati . I love Filipinas ! One after another 😍
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I would be happy to pay for food at her home but I'm not taking the whole province to a restaurant
Thank you so much
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Interesting topic.....I'm a firm believer in showing respect to the parents so I would prefer to go out with her and just her parents on the first date. In the future once we've solidified our relationship then we could invite the rest of the family for a cookout. I have not been to the Philippines before but I plan to visit this October for two weeks to begin my research on whether or not your country is a good place for me to retire. I liked and subscribed to your channel wish you much success.
Have fun. I prefer the provinces. Dont like cities. Ha ha ha you get used to the roosters.
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Not all flipinas are the same...she is just sharing from her experience...note that
Hello Rubeauty, I like the way you do your videos, you give useful tips . I'll get my retirement in August an d as I have been in tropical climates a lot in the past, I have come to love them, so I was hesitating between central america@and the Philippines
Normally when the daughter brings home her new boyfriend and potential husband.
The family throws the party and everyone pitches in.
The family covers the party because the boyfriend didn't invite everyone.
This sort of "expectations" can really put off a lot of foreigners.
They may feel like an ATM or taken advantage of.
Of course the Filipina doesn't see it as a big deal. But in the boyfriend's eyes. He may see it as an ongoing thing forever. What's going to happen when the cash runs out or he needs to return to a normal daily life budget?? What then? Is he kicked to the side??
I'm also curious. Does this apply to any guy she brings home? Or just the foreigners?
Me spending a $100 on a meal for several people on vacation isn't a big deal but it is a big deal for a local guy meeting the family.
These girls meeting guys that are on their vacation have to realize.
He is spending vacation money. That's probably not his daily life money. Most of us save up for a vacation. We spent freely because we budgeted for it.
This expectations thing is a little one sided it seems.
@@Rubeauti
I understand the custom.
Just think it's very one sided.
The locals should really try to understand that this custom can push a good man away.
It would be the same in the US if the new boyfriend felt as if the girl's family was taking advantage of him.
I will be visiting a friend in Nov. We're not romantically involved just close chat buddies.
She is a dear friend and I'm comfortable covering the costs of going out for her and her kids.
I already explained that I will be on a budget and her other family members are responsible for themselves. "Separate checks please" 😆
I wouldn't voice my opinion on this "make the foreigner pay for everything" situation. It's not my country, I just wouldn't get involved.
Similar to a lady having children.
One child might be acceptable and not a problem. 8 children can be a deal breaker.
Taking responsibility for the entire family, including uncles and aunts and cousins and on and on, might be a deal breaker.
Girls that are seriously attracted to foreign guys.
Should really think about this custom and maybe change their expectations.
Would benefit everyone involved.
The guy might even feel better about OFFERING to help or cover some expenses.
Just one guy's opinion.
@@franktaylor7617 I fully agree with you. Here in Brazil is the same as you say it is in USA. i lived in USA for almos 3 years. One of the differences i could notice was that in US everybdody had his own car, and when we all went out to a restaurant or movies, beach, whatever, everybody used to go on ther own car. In Brazil as not everybody has a car, some go by bus, others by taxi and the one who had a car usually takes friends in the car. But according to this culture habit in Philippines, as you, i can't criticized to a point i will be rude, but for me it doesn't work, i will feel exploited and this feeling will spoiled my relationtship.
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I was in the Philippines about 6 years ago to meet a girl.
Typical story. Get her processed and brought her her. It didn't work out.
Nevertheless, when I was there. I paid for most everything when we all went on an day trip.
Her family covered the first night's dinner. All home cooked, all hand made. It was really nice.
They never asked for anything but the new wife certainly did. The family was cool. The new wife wasn't.
She was a fish out of water. Her whole world changed and she couldn't deal with it. She also wouldn't go home when the relationship failed. It's a long story.
I think the Filipinas have a skewed impression of foreginers. Too much TV and fales rumors filling their heads with the wrong ideas.
@@franktaylor7617 I have never been there, but i understand your side of your story, your position. Sadly to hear that!!! i believe and cultures, habits and all are different we may face problems, and bumps along the road, some people i know in my country call it "unven yoke" (translation from google)
It can happen from one state to the other in the same country, now imagine from one country to other, western to eatern.
It is like a relationship between people of different religion, different ethnicity a big age difference and so on. In fact, it varies from individual to individual, but the social and cultural habits of a group, a commonwealth or a nation that go through generations, may be a rock along the way, an obstacle.
@@franktaylor7617 i dont let my husband take out my fmily or relatives for a dinner its expensive ...
Its always depend ,if filipina is genuine or a scammer
Hmm. I don't spend $100 dollars on myself, much less other people. Anyway, men all too frequently think that money makes them loveable. This is a mistake I would like to avoid. I guess if I were dating a Filipina, we would have to have that "talk" 🗣💬
Totally agree real relationship is mutual respect and if they keep asking for money it could be 2 main reasons the family pressure making her ask for $$$ or the girl living a lifestyle she cannot afford.. if they expecting you to pay... that's the biggest warning sign... I married a filppina 9 yrs ago still very happy she now with me in Australia and she's the best thing in my life..
You are doing very well ,
This is true. I just got back from meeting my wife and her family for the first time. Of course I was prepared because of watching videos like yours so I was not surprised about this custom. We had a great time.
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Here is what I know when you are to visit a filipino,
When a filipino is expecting a visitor,
They were the ones who prepares everything and pays for everything..
What this beautiful girl had said on this video about paying everything, "maybe" she got it wrong cause she didn't experienced it herself and she based it from what she had seen from others, what I know of about it is, it was the foreigner who "voluntarily" pays all the bill..
Cause Most of the foreigners who comes here in the philipppines are "more kind" than us filipinos..
We don't force someone to pay what we have consumed for ourselves, unless someone voluntarily does it....
If you're a filipino would you do this kind of thing or is that how you treat a visitor???
Edit: I Consider this video as a "false information" even though what this pretty girl had said on the last minute of this video was on point..
I still consider it as a " false information" because she is talking about a "whole country" without a strong/solid proof of what she's talking about..
Its not only for her but it's for everyone who is using a "country" a subject, to put a "lot" of effort on studying, observing, researching on a certain topic, to avoid spreading false information...
False information can destroy everything and a source of conflict..
Just spreading awareness..
No hate...
@@Rubeauti ok! Understood
@@Rubeauti I’m dealing with this now, I’ve had to say no a few times. I appreciate the video. 👍🏻
Salamat for your interesting videos
Thank you for this interesting vido.