I am 30 now, I been waiting to get married since I was 24, for me itâs the hardest thing I have to go through. Not knowing what your future holds, wanting to complete half your deen, wanting to be a mother. I know marriage isnât plain sailing but itâs the most loneliest feeling in the world when all your close ones are married and busy with their lives. You feel left behind and you feel like a burden to your parents. But as time went by, Allah swt has truly helped me, heâs delaying everything for a reason and maybe marriage isnât meant for me in this world, but whatâs better? Having Jannah or happiness in this temp world? I shifted my focus on striving to become a better person so Allah swt can grant me Jannah.
This comment touched my heart. Your frame of mind is absolutely exactly where it needs to be. The fact that you are shifting your focus, as much as you can, from marriage to focusing on Allah and your Deen is perfect. I know the struggle you feel and I wholeheartedly know it will work out in the end for you. Because no matter what we plan, we are imperfect planners. We are so lucky Allah plans for us and He is The Best of Planners. Insha'Allah I will keep you in my duas and I, a complete random stranger, is telling Allah will make everything right for you. Put your trust in Him. Sending so much love đ
Don't worry just keep making dua and please dont give of what you really want! Allah will surely grant you a spouse that will be more better than your expection.(93:5) Verily your Lord will soon give you so amply that you will be well-pleased Tahjudd can really help you too. May Allah accept our duas and grant us our wish as soon as possible Ameen.
Allah SWT always wants the best for us. He holds all knowledge and wisdom. Trust in his plan, as you are. I will keep you in my duas sister. Sending love and light â€ïž
Sis thank you for sharing! I'm literally in the same boat. I'm now turning 31 in the New Years and its been tough watching loved ones often much younger, move on and settle down in marriages and babies etc. I've had to do the same as you and remind myself there is a purpose for everything. Hindsight has definitely shown me he is the best of planners and I've been protected from harm in the past. But its very easy to go back into the 'sad' loop again. Seeing messages like yours are really helpful in reminding me to shift my focus and just enjoy and appreciate the life I Do have! Emotions come in waves but I pray we all find our pockets of sukoon x
I completely understand what you're saying about the age and path thing. I know so many people getting married and having children, some who are so much younger than me. I sometimes feel societal/cultural pressure as an Asian Muslim making me think 'I'm so old! I need to get married' but that's mainly cos of my parents and the 'what will people say' mentality. Otherwise, it doesn't bother me too much as I am focusing on my career and other aspects of my life at the moment, I've never thought marriage is the be all end all. I am comfortable and happy with where I am alhamdulillah. We are all on our own path and when God wills, inshAllah it will happen! đ
I'm 27 and not married, some of my friends are and some aren't. I did always hope to be married by 26 but as you get older you realise that life isn't a check box, if all you're looking for is a husband/wife you can easily get married, but if you want the right partner who makes you happy, that's worth waiting for (and lets be real - people settle a LOT and not everyone who is married is happy). Don't feel pressured by what others are doing, we all have our own timelines in life. I'm more afraid of settling and realising I've made a mistake than getting married at a later age. PS - it is very common for asian girls to be getting married later nowadays, as you say, we have other things going on such as careers, travelling, hobbies etc and aren't just waiting around for a husband so we can start 'living'. xx
Yes...I completely understand what you mean regarding age and marriage...all my friends were married and mother's by the age of 25 my other siblings who were younger than me included....I didn't get married until 31 but in my 20s I was always looked down upon by family friends even being told i will have to just marry anyone as I'm getting older ...but alhamdulillah I met the best person at 30...so trust in Allah's plans x
Totally feel you Zahra, im 25 now thought id be married with a kid at least but i trust in gods timing too. We need to have that mini crisis before we realise, we have achieved so much already! Marriage isnt everything but it will come were all in the same boat x
Iâm 26 right now, and I totally understand what youâre saying. Also, being the eldest child and grandchild doesnât help. Iâve gone through those exact thoughts but Iâm also just going to trust the timing.
Please never forget that being in a bad marriage is one of the worst situations to be in, as our prophet Mohammed PBUH has said. So always be thankful for not being in that situation rather than being sad that you are not married.
I completely understand what youâre saying Zahra . Iâm soon turning 23 and already some of my friends are married and have babies or some are engaged while effortlessly managing to continue with college . Its just sometimes feels like Iâm being left behind . Itâs not true but it feels like Iâm not going ahead with my life while people around me are moving on .
I totally agree w your point about the 20's lol I'm 23 and def feel the pressure a lil bit, it's just weird. I'm also not in any rush bc I wanna focus on figuring myself out first but it's def interesting how everyone our age is at different stages, but dw iA everything will go well!
omg thank you for mentioning this in your video, so relatable and something my mind is also transitioning with đ„ș everyone around is getting married and it feels like âthe pressure is getting WORSAHâ. always trust Allah swtâs plan, there is goodness in delays always and use this time to work on yourself
The cream pasta looks so good! I totally understand how you feel! Iâm 21 and people are already getting married, engaged, having kids and getting jobs. Itâs like you said itâs all about trusting in Allah(swt)†love the vlog!
Sooo many of my close friends and cousins are getting engaged/married + having kids and it's WILD. My brain can't comprehend it lol. Although I'm soooo happy for them, I mourn our friendship (only a little bit) from when they were single. I'm only 24, but I feel like I'm in a transitional stage in my life. Everything is changing! I don't worry about marriage/kids, because it is not a priority for me at the moment and Allah (swt) has a plan for everyone. P.S. Your hair looks so healthy, MashaAllah!
Defo experiencing marraige anxiety but I 100% trust Allah with the process alhamdullilah Also I do believe getting married young should be something girls should think about because of the blessings that come with it But that doesnât mean that getting married at a much more mature age takes the value out of the woman
I love baby related things hehe!! And omg Iâm a secondary school teacher. Iâm currently in my 1st ECT year. Plan to complete my 2nd InâshaaAllah then just do supply or teach abroad or just not work in teaching at all n chill x
Similar to me . Inshaallah in time soon by the grace of god⊠itâs also frustrating when people want to speak or mess around and are not mature or serious about commitment⊠which I just ignore or block because their intentions donât seem genuine đđ„°
I understand how you feel about marriage Iâm 30 unmarried and I have lost both my parents too not that long ago life is really hard just donât want to go on anymore.I know itâs bad to say but true no one gets me at all siblings ainât the same as mum and dad I hope and pray no one is in the same boat as u. Now everyone says u should of got married before when they were both here I hate life feel like happiness and me ainât going to happen.
Salaams Sis. Your words are so sad. I pray Allah grants you ease & peace very soon. Ameen. I would like to suggest, if you haven't already, that you do get some type of support or reach out & talk to someone. This all seems so difficult to cope with all alone. And if you think a chat may help, if you are based in the UK there are loads of helplines for bereavement/ Samaritans is absolutely free to call & confidential. Sending you love Sis x
Hi sis - so sorry to hear that ! May Allah swt bless you with immense sukoon and happiness in both worlds Ameen ! Happy to support if you need someone to speak to :) xx
okayyyyyy!! so seeming as you were talking about marriage i thought i was the only one going through the same thing im happy to know there are others in this situation im also 24 but inshallah we all are blessed with someone rightious love u girlies â€
Im 23 and Im honestly so so stressed and feel so much pressure about marriage all the time? I mean I havent even have my career figured out yet so I feel extremely stuck at the moment. All my friends my age are engaged and married and I try not to think about it but its always in my mind and time seems to be running.
Hi Zahra I have been watching your vlogs for 3 years now I think but this is my first comment. I don't know if it's me but in today's vlog you look really disturbed as if you are mentally somewhere else but still vlogging for us â€ïž I hope Allah takes all your worries away. Ameen. An other thing The feeling you get when you see others married and stuff I feel the same when I see your vlogs. I wish I had done all that you are doing before I got married.
curious to know whos baby shower it iss i thought you would vlog it đđđđ but anyways i hope you recorded the mehendi for real my fav are the wedding vlogs .... Lots of love from Malaysia
which app you use for editing? i swear i recommend everybody i know to watch your videos when i watch your video that gives me a fantasic vibe i wanna make a vlogging channel but i don't have good phone camera
I am 30 now, I been waiting to get married since I was 24, for me itâs the hardest thing I have to go through. Not knowing what your future holds, wanting to complete half your deen, wanting to be a mother. I know marriage isnât plain sailing but itâs the most loneliest feeling in the world when all your close ones are married and busy with their lives. You feel left behind and you feel like a burden to your parents. But as time went by, Allah swt has truly helped me, heâs delaying everything for a reason and maybe marriage isnât meant for me in this world, but whatâs better? Having Jannah or happiness in this temp world? I shifted my focus on striving to become a better person so Allah swt can grant me Jannah.
This comment touched my heart. Your frame of mind is absolutely exactly where it needs to be. The fact that you are shifting your focus, as much as you can, from marriage to focusing on Allah and your Deen is perfect. I know the struggle you feel and I wholeheartedly know it will work out in the end for you. Because no matter what we plan, we are imperfect planners. We are so lucky Allah plans for us and He is The Best of Planners. Insha'Allah I will keep you in my duas and I, a complete random stranger, is telling Allah will make everything right for you. Put your trust in Him.
Sending so much love đ
Don't worry just keep making dua and please dont give of what you really want! Allah will surely grant you a spouse that will be more better than your expection.(93:5) Verily your Lord will soon give you so amply that you will be well-pleased
Tahjudd can really help you too. May Allah accept our duas and grant us our wish as soon as possible Ameen.
Allah SWT always wants the best for us. He holds all knowledge and wisdom. Trust in his plan, as you are. I will keep you in my duas sister. Sending love and light â€ïž
Sis thank you for sharing! I'm literally in the same boat. I'm now turning 31 in the New Years and its been tough watching loved ones often much younger, move on and settle down in marriages and babies etc. I've had to do the same as you and remind myself there is a purpose for everything. Hindsight has definitely shown me he is the best of planners and I've been protected from harm in the past. But its very easy to go back into the 'sad' loop again. Seeing messages like yours are really helpful in reminding me to shift my focus and just enjoy and appreciate the life I Do have! Emotions come in waves but I pray we all find our pockets of sukoon x
Thank you all for your beautiful comments and grateful for your duas â€â€â€â€
I completely understand what you're saying about the age and path thing. I know so many people getting married and having children, some who are so much younger than me. I sometimes feel societal/cultural pressure as an Asian Muslim making me think 'I'm so old! I need to get married' but that's mainly cos of my parents and the 'what will people say' mentality. Otherwise, it doesn't bother me too much as I am focusing on my career and other aspects of my life at the moment, I've never thought marriage is the be all end all. I am comfortable and happy with where I am alhamdulillah. We are all on our own path and when God wills, inshAllah it will happen! đ
I'm 27 and not married, some of my friends are and some aren't. I did always hope to be married by 26 but as you get older you realise that life isn't a check box, if all you're looking for is a husband/wife you can easily get married, but if you want the right partner who makes you happy, that's worth waiting for (and lets be real - people settle a LOT and not everyone who is married is happy).
Don't feel pressured by what others are doing, we all have our own timelines in life. I'm more afraid of settling and realising I've made a mistake than getting married at a later age. PS - it is very common for asian girls to be getting married later nowadays, as you say, we have other things going on such as careers, travelling, hobbies etc and aren't just waiting around for a husband so we can start 'living'. xx
Can you get Shafa to do like a girl talk video about marriage? Been feeling exactly the way you described xxx
And mariyah! I love all 3 sisterâs perspectives
Yes...I completely understand what you mean regarding age and marriage...all my friends were married and mother's by the age of 25 my other siblings who were younger than me included....I didn't get married until 31 but in my 20s I was always looked down upon by family friends even being told i will have to just marry anyone as I'm getting older ...but alhamdulillah I met the best person at 30...so trust in Allah's plans x
Totally feel you Zahra, im 25 now thought id be married with a kid at least but i trust in gods timing too. We need to have that mini crisis before we realise, we have achieved so much already! Marriage isnt everything but it will come were all in the same boat x
Iâm 26 right now, and I totally understand what youâre saying. Also, being the eldest child and grandchild doesnât help. Iâve gone through those exact thoughts but Iâm also just going to trust the timing.
Please never forget that being in a bad marriage is one of the worst situations to be in, as our prophet Mohammed PBUH has said. So always be thankful for not being in that situation rather than being sad that you are not married.
I completely understand what youâre saying Zahra . Iâm soon turning 23 and already some of my friends are married and have babies or some are engaged while effortlessly managing to continue with college . Its just sometimes feels like Iâm being left behind . Itâs not true but it feels like Iâm not going ahead with my life while people around me are moving on .
I get your point Iâm 29 and still not married but everyone will get in this own time donât stres just enjoy the time yo ave leftâ€
You in U.K.?
I totally agree w your point about the 20's lol I'm 23 and def feel the pressure a lil bit, it's just weird. I'm also not in any rush bc I wanna focus on figuring myself out first but it's def interesting how everyone our age is at different stages, but dw iA everything will go well!
omg thank you for mentioning this in your video, so relatable and something my mind is also transitioning with đ„ș everyone around is getting married and it feels like âthe pressure is getting WORSAHâ. always trust Allah swtâs plan, there is goodness in delays always and use this time to work on yourself
I'm.35 still waiting. But remember Allah swt knows best
The cream pasta looks so good! I totally understand how you feel! Iâm 21 and people are already getting married, engaged, having kids and getting jobs. Itâs like you said itâs all about trusting in Allah(swt)†love the vlog!
Sooo many of my close friends and cousins are getting engaged/married + having kids and it's WILD. My brain can't comprehend it lol. Although I'm soooo happy for them, I mourn our friendship (only a little bit) from when they were single. I'm only 24, but I feel like I'm in a transitional stage in my life. Everything is changing! I don't worry about marriage/kids, because it is not a priority for me at the moment and Allah (swt) has a plan for everyone.
P.S. Your hair looks so healthy, MashaAllah!
Omg the baby mobile looks ADORABLE!! How did you make the rainbows?
Defo experiencing marraige anxiety but I 100% trust Allah with the process alhamdullilah
Also I do believe getting married young should be something girls should think about because of the blessings that come with it
But that doesnât mean that getting married at a much more mature age takes the value out of the woman
Everything you said about marriage really resonated with me, but itâs nice to know that weâre not alone
Omg the baby gift is soooo amazing
I love baby related things hehe!! And omg Iâm a secondary school teacher. Iâm currently in my 1st ECT year. Plan to complete my 2nd InâshaaAllah then just do supply or teach abroad or just not work in teaching at all n chill x
I totally get you as I am 33 and younger people then me. Are married and have babies. Itâs crazy. But yep when ever allah wills đ
Similar to me . Inshaallah in time soon by the grace of god⊠itâs also frustrating when people want to speak or mess around and are not mature or serious about commitment⊠which I just ignore or block because their intentions donât seem genuine đđ„°
Absolutely love your video so much đđđ
Omg I actually wish my life was so aesthetic>>>>>đ
I understand how you feel about marriage Iâm 30 unmarried and I have lost both my parents too not that long ago life is really hard just donât want to go on anymore.I know itâs bad to say but true no one gets me at all siblings ainât the same as mum and dad I hope and pray no one is in the same boat as u. Now everyone says u should of got married before when they were both here I hate life feel like happiness and me ainât going to happen.
Salaams Sis. Your words are so sad. I pray Allah grants you ease & peace very soon. Ameen. I would like to suggest, if you haven't already, that you do get some type of support or reach out & talk to someone. This all seems so difficult to cope with all alone. And if you think a chat may help, if you are based in the UK there are loads of helplines for bereavement/ Samaritans is absolutely free to call & confidential.
Sending you love Sis x
Hi sis - so sorry to hear that ! May Allah swt bless you with immense sukoon and happiness in both worlds Ameen ! Happy to support if you need someone to speak to :) xx
May Allah grant you ease sister, and may he grant you happiness and contentment. Ameen â€ïž
Loving the autumnal content â€
okayyyyyy!! so seeming as you were talking about marriage i thought i was the only one going through the same thing im happy to know there are others in this situation im also 24 but inshallah we all are blessed with someone rightious love u girlies â€
That baby mobile looks so professional! â€
Everything you said I completely agree and Iâm glad you brought it up !
Im 23 and Im honestly so so stressed and feel so much pressure about marriage all the time? I mean I havent even have my career figured out yet so I feel extremely stuck at the moment. All my friends my age are engaged and married and I try not to think about it but its always in my mind and time seems to be running.
My local Hobbycraft ;) there's now a home sense there too!
Does anyone know what vegetable paste is that she added with the crĂšme fraiche and passata? X
Hi Zahra
I have been watching your vlogs for 3 years now I think but this is my first comment. I don't know if it's me but in today's vlog you look really disturbed as if you are mentally somewhere else but still vlogging for us â€ïž I hope Allah takes all your worries away. Ameen.
An other thing The feeling you get when you see others married and stuff I feel the same when I see your vlogs. I wish I had done all that you are doing before I got married.
Comfort vlogs â€
just started following you :) love your videos
That mobile is stunning â€
Hi Zahra â€đhappy autumn đ â€ïžpasta bake meal looks yummy.
Cute vlog :)
Masha Allah I Admire You đ„°đđđâ€ïžYou r Creative May Allah bless ur Lifeđ„°đ€Čđ€Čđ€Č
Pls tell us about ur uni experiences and what course have u done?
curious to know whos baby shower it iss i thought you would vlog it đđđđ but anyways i hope you recorded the mehendi for real my fav are the wedding vlogs .... Lots of love from Malaysia
which app you use for editing? i swear i recommend everybody i know to watch your videos when i watch your video that gives me a fantasic vibe i wanna make a vlogging channel but i don't have good phone camera
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I want to immigrate to London đ„°
Lol guys just CZcams 'diy mobile baby' .. that will give you a tutorial on how to make the baby mobile!
Hiii zahraaaa pin â€