Movie Boyfriend of the Year: Wade from Pixar's ELEMENTAL

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  • čas přidán 31. 05. 2024
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    How do you connect with people and draw them in?
    Licensed therapist Jonathan Decker and filmmaker Alan Seawright are reacting to Pixar’s latest movie, Elemental. They take a look at Ember’s relationship with her dad and how Wade models emotional openness. Jonathan talks about what it means to be angry and what Ember is really feeling, as well as Ember’s complicated emotions about the shop and her dad’s sacrifice. Alan talks about the stunning and challenging visual effects work to create characters made of elements. And he wonders why Pixar movies make him cry so much. Wade looks like Jonathan but acts like Alan... do you think Pixar is watching?
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  • @CinemaTherapyShow
    @CinemaTherapyShow  Před 8 měsíci +245

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    • @g.d.graham2446
      @g.d.graham2446 Před 8 měsíci +9

      Totally agree with the marketing being terrible for this movie, because once I finally got to see it, let's just say it's in major competition for favorite MODERN animated movie of all time, alongside Zootopia and Puss in Boots 2!
      So glad you enjoyed this movie as much as I did 😁

    • @varadimarjerie3386
      @varadimarjerie3386 Před 8 měsíci

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    • @moxmox8058
      @moxmox8058 Před 8 měsíci +1

      Will you be posting the Anakin & Padme therapy on your channel?

    • @jordonavant5153
      @jordonavant5153 Před 8 měsíci +2

      Awesome video I love this movie can you guys do Spider-Man Across the Spider Verse and Josee the Tiger and the Fish please! 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

    • @haleycastillo5097
      @haleycastillo5097 Před 6 měsíci

      This might be a silly question. Wade had many good traits and a good boyfriend and person(element?) but there were many times when Ember said it wouldn’t work. There was the scene where she said it wouldn’t work and she decided that she would run her father’s shop. So she had ended it and then during the shop ceremony he interrupted and then she told him to leave again. Isn’t Wade crossing big boundary? And or is being taken advantage of because he’s putting more work in to maintaining the relationship especially if Ember keeps pushing him away?

  • @rogeralexander_
    @rogeralexander_ Před 8 měsíci +4448

    When Wade said "you must have felt so scared" that really stuck out to me. I thought it was really cool to see that kind of empathy represented.

    • @Blue-mj5gm
      @Blue-mj5gm Před 8 měsíci +245

      Exactly!! She was talking about how angry and embarrassed his dad was, how disappointed she was herself, but Wade just saw straight through it: above all, she was scared.

    • @Kleptocow
      @Kleptocow Před 8 měsíci +149

      This was the moment that really sold them for me. ♥ Wade doesn't see young Ember's face in the flashback, he only sees and hears her being angry in the present as she recounts it. And he looks past that to really see her, in a way that even she has trouble doing.

    • @adammarch9604
      @adammarch9604 Před 8 měsíci +8

      It doesn't feel real, that's like something a therapist would say

    • @ChimeraLotietheBunny
      @ChimeraLotietheBunny Před 8 měsíci +4

      agreed man!!

    • @goawayleavemealone2880
      @goawayleavemealone2880 Před 8 měsíci

      WOW... he does all the things that will eventually make her cheat on him and be absolutely remorseless if she's caught.

  • @teresac-n4214
    @teresac-n4214 Před 8 měsíci +3839

    I SOBBED when Ember got on her knees and honored her father. That was healing for both of them.

    • @lilianlopez9687
      @lilianlopez9687 Před 8 měsíci +161

      I sobbed when she honored him too! And when he returned it, I reallly couldn’t keep it together.

    • @shieldgenerator7
      @shieldgenerator7 Před 8 měsíci +72

      i thought i was going to make it through the whole movie without crying, and then that scene happened

    • @Patmax17
      @Patmax17 Před 7 měsíci +14

      I knew that was bound to happen, and I STILL teared up!

    • @SecretKeeperForever9
      @SecretKeeperForever9 Před 7 měsíci +70

      It wasn't Ember doing it that got me but her father. Just an instant generational trauma breaking there. It was the active choice to be better than his father.

    • @misscandy5409
      @misscandy5409 Před 7 měsíci +1

      Me too 😢😢😢

  • @kimmico123
    @kimmico123 Před 8 měsíci +1769

    Can we take a moment to appreciate that when Ember plays the crying game instead of wade using her pain and her issues to push her to cry (which is what i initially expected to happen) he opens himself to her and confesses his honest feelings towards her, which in turn causes her to cry because she too feels the same way 😢 ugh SO PERFECT!

    • @elizabethavictorianor
      @elizabethavictorianor Před 7 měsíci +171

      I expected the same thing! And was also touched when he didn't. Man's EQ is so high it's off the charts. Was not expecting someone as genuinely tender as he is to show up in a movie like this

    • @frankinsaneandmyrrh1202
      @frankinsaneandmyrrh1202 Před 6 měsíci +70

      yes pls! I was nervous that he would expose her fears to everyone to make her cry but instead he says something sweet to make her happy. geez, that one really got me.

    • @798jeremy
      @798jeremy Před 6 měsíci +3

      If only...if only being able to open ourselves to others and having the guts to confess our feelings towards others would be enough to change someone or to trigger love for someone we love to ourselves in return...but that's just too easy, and life just doesn't work that way. These movies are too simple. It's just way too much like all black or all white...people are NOT like these characters! It's unbelievably more subtle and complex than that...but no, of course:
      Every freaking time, in movies like that, they just can't help themselves to make people believe it's just all that easy, to get along and falling in love for each other, that all it takes is just compassion and emotions...I'm sorry, but I'm 35, and I've already gone way too far to buy these bullshit of magical feelings that suppose to fix everything in a blink of an eye!
      And even by giving us more time, even while letting time pass on, in order to build a decent relationship, even that isn't always enough...and this is the truth, the real one.

    • @missobvious5436
      @missobvious5436 Před 6 měsíci +28

      @@798jeremy The movies aren't really supposed to fix anything or seem realistic, it's escapism. Of course it's not as easy irl, but I suppose the movies at least show a way to open up to others a little more, kinda like they're telling you to not give up. It may seem as if they're constantly dangling an impossible happily ever after right in front of you, but once you start believing it's possible to have this again you'll hopefully feel different.
      I'm sorry if life hasn't been kind to you and I wish you all the best. Know you're not alone.

    • @Glarbledorf
      @Glarbledorf Před 5 měsíci +15

      It's nice and beautiful, but it still made me mildly uncomfortable, not for the words, but the fact that something so intimate was said in front of an audience.

  • @peacebaby8693
    @peacebaby8693 Před 8 měsíci +2309

    I loved this movie so much. My favorite part about the Vivisteria scene is how Wade wasn't even focused on the injustice of her not being able to see the flower. He's focused on how she was unsafe in the face of prejudice. I thought that was so beautiful and masterfully done.

    • @paperboy1116
      @paperboy1116 Před 8 měsíci +265

      "You must have been so scared" was such a BRILLIANT line and it's also so absurdly subtle.

    • @peacebaby8693
      @peacebaby8693 Před 8 měsíci +137

      @paperboy1116 omg literally. The writing of this movie was phenomenal. Ember was probably used to either having her feelings dismissed or people just sorry she couldn't see the flower. But Wade was concerned for HER. Brilliant.

    • @blueflare3848
      @blueflare3848 Před 8 měsíci +61

      I will say, despite some of the issues I have with this movie, I really like his response in that scene. I like that it's not "You must have been so upset." Like you said, he wasn't focused on the injustice of her not being allowed to see the flower, but rather how unsafe she must have felt.

    • @peacebaby8693
      @peacebaby8693 Před 8 měsíci +55

      @blueflare3848 right. The focus wasn't how disappointed she was to not see the flower, but how unsafe she was. I even wonder if Ember thought of it that way, at least fully. She was so young she probably didn't understand the gravity of what was happening. Or maybe knew she was scared but couldn't figure out why.

    • @ophelia.13
      @ophelia.13 Před 7 měsíci +17

      ​@@paperboy1116 all of the writing was so amazing :((

  • @mikemakesmusic7
    @mikemakesmusic7 Před 8 měsíci +3735

    What I realized while watching your video, is the scene with Ember admitting to herself that she doesn’t want the shop, Wade doesn’t say a darn thing! He doesn’t say “so don’t run the shop“ or “ what do you want?“ he just listens. Period. 10/10

  • @LivingFire_BurningFlame
    @LivingFire_BurningFlame Před 8 měsíci +12711

    People were saying this was going to be generic and "Pixar's biggest flop", then they actually saw the movie and it turned out to be a great romantic comedy! It’s not subtle with its fire and water metaphor for characters from different cultures falling for each other but it’s very heartfelt and sweet. Such a great time!

    • @CinemaTherapyShow
      @CinemaTherapyShow  Před 8 měsíci +762

      It really is!

    • @gRinchY-op5vr
      @gRinchY-op5vr Před 8 měsíci +526

      Problem was it was not advertised enough, we always got the short ads of them on the train meeting. Only film that suffered more than Elemental did through advertising was Strange World, but this one at least blew up big time when it hit Disney+.

    • @KitsukiiPlays
      @KitsukiiPlays Před 8 měsíci +44

      I was one of those people saying those. I watch, I was right. Movie is super bland and not needed to be made

    • @newsance2u
      @newsance2u Před 8 měsíci

      ​@@gRinchY-op5vrironically it blew up before it even hit Disney plus it only hit plus a week ago but whils it was still in theraters it made a ton of money due to word of talking about it and people going to see it

    • @Dairunt1
      @Dairunt1 Před 8 měsíci +307

      @@KitsukiiPlays
      A movie doesn't "need" to be made. Even bad movies are art and can have even some sort of value.
      Elementals might have its flaws, yet it's made from a very humane place, and people reacted to it as such. As long as some people relate to it and like it, then it earned its right to be made, even if it's not your cup of tea (which is very understandable as well).

  • @fancifulfoxtale
    @fancifulfoxtale Před 8 měsíci +2274

    The line that got me was when Ember tells her Dad she doesn't want to run the shop, which was his dream. And he says, "That was never the dream, you were the dream".😢❤

    • @RB01.10
      @RB01.10 Před 8 měsíci +56

      One of the most emotional and best lines in the film 😢
      The voice acting in that scene was very well done too

    • @Nahuelindomable526
      @Nahuelindomable526 Před 7 měsíci +23

      Bernie, one of the Best dads of the fiction.

    • @Rosawuzhere
      @Rosawuzhere Před 7 měsíci +2

      I don't get it

    • @liv7511
      @liv7511 Před 7 měsíci +38

      @@Rosawuzheredad's dream was to see his daughter be happy, not to see her run the shop

    • @agenttheater5
      @agenttheater5 Před 7 měsíci +30

      I guess that was the point behind him expecting her to run the shop - wasn't so much that the shop was 'dream of our family', it was more than the dream was to see his daughter prosperous, thriving and independent through running the shop so she'll never have to worry about being forced to leave everything she knew behind or about doors slamming in her face.

  • @chantebrand1581
    @chantebrand1581 Před 8 měsíci +1694

    SPOILER WARNING! I wish you guys had covered the scene in the end where Ember bows to her father and he bows back. The fact that his father did not return his respect hurt him deeply and she gave him the opportunity to heal that wound by not repeating the trauma behaviour. That scene hit me so hard for such a small detail.

    • @sephardiris
      @sephardiris Před 6 měsíci +31

      That was beautiful ❤

    • @cs4887
      @cs4887 Před 6 měsíci +2

      I agree 👍

    • @princessnature1
      @princessnature1 Před 6 měsíci +48

      They didn't talk about it because it was supposed to be about ember and wade. But that scene hit me so hard, through similar experiences I ended up crying that scene 😭😭😭😭😭

    • @bigfanofstuff3266
      @bigfanofstuff3266 Před 5 měsíci +7

      @@princessnature1 tell me about it. only the billionth time this movie made me cry. (I saw it twice in one week and wept throughout both times)

    • @allysontousignant591
      @allysontousignant591 Před 5 měsíci +3

      I KNOW! That was beautiful, made me emotional seeing it🥺

  • @anon2659
    @anon2659 Před 8 měsíci +2777

    wade and ember’s relationship has to be the most compassionate yet realistic relationship i have seen in disney. instead of arguing or dismissing ember’s experiences and culture, he says he doesn’t understand but still tries to connect with her like he does with everybody. he doesnt want her to change herself and rather loves ember as she is. i love wade so much. 😭

    • @damonlam9145
      @damonlam9145 Před 8 měsíci +164

      Funny thing is that I heard a lot of people tend to viewed Wade and Ember as friends more than lovers, but personally it's perfectly normal for Lovers to act more like friends because some people just want to express themselves romantically while not changing how they hang out together.

    • @morgandiaz6822
      @morgandiaz6822 Před 8 měsíci

      ​@@damonlam9145exactly!!! Im my bf best friend and he is mine! We hang out, we go do stuff together and that's good. We are supposed to be friends with out partners, that's the healthy thing to do

    • @Amanecer458
      @Amanecer458 Před 8 měsíci

      ​@@damonlam9145they are friends and lovers

    • @maddykrantz
      @maddykrantz Před 8 měsíci +39

      Yeah! I am Jewish, and I am dating someone from Puerto Rico, and when we watched it together when he came to visit me in California, it reminded me a bit of us because we both come from very diferent backgrounds and cultures.

    • @peterp4k
      @peterp4k Před 7 měsíci +1

      Imagine if the movie was about how Ember would never date another fire because she hates herself and her parent's expectations of her. Basically WMAF daddy issues.

  • @vulpes6144
    @vulpes6144 Před 8 měsíci +3052

    I would like to stress how supportive Ember's dad is, when through the whole movie you are convinced that he probably would not giving his own trauma. No, he is a much bigger man than his father was. And that is all what truly wonderful parents want: their child happiness.

    • @Dairunt1
      @Dairunt1 Před 8 měsíci +259

      It's so healing that, even if you don't have a dad as supportive as him, you CAN be the supportive dad for your kids. He left on bad terms and his dad didn't reciprocate the salute, but it was beautiful that in the end, her daughter did that for him.

    • @Sam..123
      @Sam..123 Před 8 měsíci +126

      Yes, he's an active part in breaking his family trauma and not putting it onto his daughter. I love how this avoids the Disney trope of the strict father standing in the way. It's leaning into it and you think they're going to go there and then they don't ❤😊

    • @damonlam9145
      @damonlam9145 Před 8 měsíci +39

      Funny because I heard some people said that Ember's dad was manipulative and pushy (or something between those lines) and didn't apologize to Wade once for what he did. But can you blame him, since Ember never open up to him about what she want and mostly saw her enjoy working at the shop, he assume that's what Ember wants. Plus, he was mistreated for being a fire person and Wade was no expectation and most likely didn't bother to remember him, and later when he saw Ember and Wade together he was slowly giving up his hatred of them.

    • @Nightmareprinny
      @Nightmareprinny Před 8 měsíci +35

      ​@@damonlam9145and during the end credits when the art is somewhat simplified and we see Bernie finally retire and relaxes we see him interact, and visit wade's family^^

    • @brittanyapplewhite2534
      @brittanyapplewhite2534 Před 7 měsíci +13

      His support as Ember’s dad also comes in the way he sacrifices his health to support her in running the store. He really takes pride in carrying the weight of the family for as long as it takes for them to be successful in their new homeland. He built the house brick by brick, he handles the many different roles of the family store every day, he protects his family from outsiders trying to ridicule his family and community for being Fireish, and his store really is the crux of community gathering in the Fire Island neighborhood. Ember’s dad carry’s a lot of weight on his shoulders and he’s willing to do that because of his love for his daughter and the way his father’s lack of support really impacted his parenting style. Ember’s dad is the tall barrier between his family and community, and the outside world. I think it’s amazing to see a form of masculine energy, as a protector, on the big screen in that way.

  • @anactualswamp
    @anactualswamp Před 8 měsíci +1024

    When she tells him about the vivisteria and she's angry and he just says "you must have been so scared..." reminded me of my therapist when I tell him things that are absolutely scary but I have resolved them into a funny anecdote or a grievance. Beautifully written.

    • @CinemaTherapyShow
      @CinemaTherapyShow  Před 8 měsíci +133

      The writing is excellent!

    • @AleshaM30
      @AleshaM30 Před 7 měsíci +39

      Tfw you tell a humorous anecdote from your childhood and the response isn't laughter. Or worse "Wow... I'm sorry that happened to you." And you never read the anecdote as trauma before that.

    • @anactualswamp
      @anactualswamp Před 7 měsíci +21

      @@AleshaM30 exactly. The power of people reacting in a real way rather than reacting in the way they know we expect them to is enormous.

    • @kitsunemoon3005
      @kitsunemoon3005 Před 6 měsíci +8

      @@AleshaM30 Same as me casually telling people that I'm fine being alone because I've been constantly bullied in school and no one wanted to be friends with me so I'm just used to being alone and it feels weird to have a friend because of it.

    • @AleshaM30
      @AleshaM30 Před 6 měsíci +8

      @@kitsunemoon3005 I know that feeling too. I hope eventually you find people worthy of your trust. I did, but it took a long time to feel ok enough to try. And it's ok to be alone and feel safe until you are ready.

  • @stevenmoffett3460
    @stevenmoffett3460 Před 8 měsíci +751

    Ember is her most open, and able to connect, when she is creating something. She's closed off with Wade's family until she makes the pitcher, she is hiding under her hood until she wants to blow smoke rings for the kids nearby. Even when she is running the shop, her most comfortable is when she is making charcoal, or fixing damaged metal or glass.
    Wade connects to people through raw empathy, ember connects to people by her creations and how that makes others feel.
    Which is what ultimately drew themselves to each other. Wades ability to emote freely unrestrained was what ember loved him for, Wade talks about how her light changes everything around her, the light she gives off.

    • @purplewarrior107
      @purplewarrior107 Před 8 měsíci +32

      You described them and their relationship perfectly, love that! 🙌🏻

    • @maynot
      @maynot Před 7 měsíci +11

      You are a genius!!

    • @NeroMai
      @NeroMai Před 7 měsíci +7

      I just realized this is exactly how I open up to people as well, when I'm creating and showing my work! I emphasized with Ember a lot during this movie, but I never made that connection until now. Thank you for pointing that out!

  • @sofialozano24601
    @sofialozano24601 Před 8 měsíci +3121

    As the daughter of immigrants, watching this with my boyfriend of a different race, it was interesting seeing where we both cried in the film. Every time Ember talked about being a bad daughter and asking how do you prepay a sacrifice that big, I was sobbing because I have asked myself that question a million times over. When Wade and Ember would fight and he’s trying to understand her and she’s just blowing up at him and saying how different they are, my boyfriend cried because he said he knows what it feels like to be on the other side of that fight, of just trying to understand the girl he loves. Once again, Pixar nailed representing complicated relationships in a meaningful way!!!

    • @maddykrantz
      @maddykrantz Před 8 měsíci +77

      Same! My boyfriend is from Puerto Rico, and I am a californian girl who is Jewish, so I agree!

    • @damonlam9145
      @damonlam9145 Před 8 měsíci +155

      Funny thing is that I heard a lot of people tend to viewed Wade and Ember as close friends more than lovers, but personally it's perfectly normal for Lovers to act more like friends because some people just want to express themselves romantically while not changing how they hang out together.

    • @lizzyrank5405
      @lizzyrank5405 Před 8 měsíci +81

      ​@damonlam9145 exactly,like the saying goes: "Be in a relationship with your best friend." At the end of the day, it'll be just you two experiencing a lot together and SHOULD be one of the people if the one person who you'll be close to. Why be I a relationship where you don't even wanna hangout and do nothing?

    • @damonlam9145
      @damonlam9145 Před 8 měsíci +4

      @@lizzyrank5405 where did you that quote originated from?

    • @notbot2648
      @notbot2648 Před 8 měsíci +50

      ​@@damonlam9145I'd argue that's how a good (romantic/married) relationship should be. If you don't like each other's company and don't like supporting one another, how can you build a life together? More importantly: why on earth would you want to?

  • @trinaq
    @trinaq Před 8 měsíci +2048

    I love that Wade doesn't hesitate to comfort Ember during her breakdown at the beach, and reassures her that she's doing her best. Even when she states that she's a mess, he retorts that she's EVEN MORE beautiful, since she's opening up to him, and not bottling up her emotions. May we ALL have a partner like Wade. 😍

  • @hiccuphufflepuff176
    @hiccuphufflepuff176 Před 7 měsíci +721

    One thing that struck me as Wade being really insightful and empathetic when I saw the movie was his response to Ember's story about not being allowed to see the flower when she was little. My mind would have gone to a kid in that situation feeling disappointed, heartbroken, angry, etc. but Wade said
    "you must have been so _scared."_
    A little girl seeing all the other adults being hostile to her and her father, her father getting angry and raising his voice... That could be terrifying to a little kid. I would never have thought of that.

    • @danielleking262
      @danielleking262 Před 6 měsíci +48

      I thought the same thing!! It seemed strange to me he used the word "scared" when I would've said "upset" or "disappointed". It didn't seem like they were in any DANGER for her to be scared. I never thought about it in terms of being treated like you don't belong or are not welcome!

    • @mykodibear17
      @mykodibear17 Před 5 měsíci +27

      Same here! It hit me the exact same way where his response took me back, but also immediately made sense. I was thinking of it through my current adult perspective, where while I may be scared my immediate response would still have been anger for the obvious prejudice and mistreatment, but in the moment a kid isn't going to see it that way. If it's their first time being exposed to that they're just going to be confused and upset and *terrified.* Very insightful on Wade's part

    • @THE_VOID_14
      @THE_VOID_14 Před 4 měsíci +15

      When I saw this movie I thought of how confused she felt, cause she was just a kid who probably didn’t understand the intricacies of the elemental racism that was prevalent in that moment

  • @foofyflutie87
    @foofyflutie87 Před 8 měsíci +800

    Crying can be a physical release for overflowing emotions, even happiness. So Alan, maybe Pixar makes you cry so much because the beauty makes your happiness overflow (except for the gut wrenching tears). I think you feel emotions very intensely, and the tears are literal overflow. It’s absolutely beautiful.

    • @Shrooblord
      @Shrooblord Před 8 měsíci +18

      Fellow PIXAR crier here, +1 to all that

    • @inebyine
      @inebyine Před 6 měsíci +9

      I am a big crybaby myself, in Pixar and in life, and I second that! Feeling emotions so strongly is hard sometimes, but is IS beautiful.

    • @spartanwar1185
      @spartanwar1185 Před 6 měsíci +4

      I don't cry often, but god the few times i have cried lately are both because of happiness
      Can confirm the comment

  • @djmutt2000
    @djmutt2000 Před 8 měsíci +1395

    My partner is real life Wade. He’s the sweetest, kindest, most caring person I know. He helped me cope with my anger attacks, he’s always there to comfort me, and he helped me overcome my fears of cats and being on Ferris wheels.
    We met in the dorm we shared, and he… well, he was scared of my “explosive personality”. But time went on and we bonded over interests we shared, we began to talk about our insecurities to each other.
    Babe, if you’re reading this, thank you for everything. You got my back, and I got yours too. I love you.

    • @mipsan
      @mipsan Před 8 měsíci +108

      my partner is a Wade too! I grew up poor and traumatised and my mom had just died so I was a sad angry emotional wreck when I met him. He accepted me completely and I've been able to heal. We complement each other and have grown to be better versions of us.

    • @BrandonMinor-dv6vj
      @BrandonMinor-dv6vj Před 8 měsíci +51

      This is wholesome thanks for sharing sounds like a dream

    • @SillySunday0
      @SillySunday0 Před 8 měsíci +37

      Gawd, you both deserve each other! ♡

    • @jamiekeller9915
      @jamiekeller9915 Před 8 měsíci +1

      @djmutt6566 How physically attractive is he, compared to movie stereotypes? I'm always curious if physicality drew people to each other. Or did he become attractive to you, over time? Thanks!

    • @jamiekeller9915
      @jamiekeller9915 Před 8 měsíci

      How physically attractive is he, compared to movie stereotypes? I'm always curious if physicality drew people to each other. Or did he become attractive to you, over time? Thanks!@@mipsan

  • @Mikyboy1860
    @Mikyboy1860 Před 8 měsíci +763

    The first thing I thought when watching this film was "Wade is such a manic pixie dreamboy". He is an incredibly healthy representation of masculinity and I strive to be more like him.

    • @aisha02a
      @aisha02a Před 8 měsíci +26

      not sure u know what manic pixie means,,,

    • @Mikyboy1860
      @Mikyboy1860 Před 8 měsíci +65

      @@aisha02a I should have made clear that this was just my first impression

    • @RemAtmos
      @RemAtmos Před 8 měsíci +4

      I have no idea what that means but fuggit!

    • @idenpoelchau1656
      @idenpoelchau1656 Před 8 měsíci +36

      *Manic Pixar Dreamboy :-P

    • @JaneMagdalena
      @JaneMagdalena Před 8 měsíci +53

      @@aisha02a It refers to "manic pixie dream girl" which is a trope female character that exists only for the purpose to help the protagonist find himself/fulfill his purpose yet lacks own peronality, goal, arc etc.

  • @poppyfrancis7338
    @poppyfrancis7338 Před 8 měsíci +389

    I feel so validated finally seeing someone like Wade on the big screen. Most examples of positive healthy masculinity are large and stoic, a rock. That's not me. I'm not able to carry the weight of others on my shoulders. I am a skinny guy who sees the struggles everyone around me goes through and just wants to give them a hug they're too afraid and hurt to realize they need, because I'm right there with you.

    • @junco88
      @junco88 Před 6 měsíci +37

      Wade is a beautiful example of that. His gentle, soothing presence, voice, and empathy really drew me in, which was exactly what Ember needed. This character is a wonderfully written example of a realistic, non-toxic male individual.
      If you need to cry, cry, my man!

  • @memoreno9
    @memoreno9 Před 8 měsíci +358

    I put this on for my 2 year old but ended up learning that I need to practice more empathy towards my daughter & wife. Pixar being Pixar with this Gem.

    • @NameNik223
      @NameNik223 Před 7 měsíci +39

      Same here. I walked out with a thought: "I could be kinder to people around me in life".

  • @MichaelGustavson
    @MichaelGustavson Před 8 měsíci +580

    Every time Ember tells her dad she's a bad daughter I start to ugly cry. I really connect with the feeling of inadequacy

    • @frostsong9921
      @frostsong9921 Před 8 měsíci +18

      I feel this too. I am grateful to them but I don’t think I will ever be able to give back enough to feel sufficient

  • @Rembreiker_lychec9257
    @Rembreiker_lychec9257 Před 8 měsíci +869

    A sensitive, adorable, kind guy, breathing the joy of living, attentive to others and in love. A really endearing character that we love right away.

  • @mr.thumbsup8335
    @mr.thumbsup8335 Před 8 měsíci +179

    One thing in this movie that I feel is overlooked or even completely misunderstood was Ember's realization that she didn't want to run the shop. I've seen people say that it came way out of left field 'cause Ember showed no sign in the start of the movie that she wanted anything else, but that's the thing: She never ONCE thought of doing anything else. Even though deep down, running the shop is something that scares her and isn't something she wants, Ember feels like its the only option in her life and is quick to turn down or even get offended at any other options, including the one Wade's Mom gave her. That feeling of thinking you're trapped in an endless debt from your parents sacrifices, is something I, and many others can relate to

    • @selfiestick1589
      @selfiestick1589 Před 3 měsíci

      The counterpoint would be;
      If they wanted that to be an important plot point they should and could have set it up with a scene or couple of lines explaining this.
      Set ups and payoffs are an integral part of storytelling for a reason, if something is purposeful then is shown through the stablishing of patterns.
      In storytelling:
      If there are no patterns, there is no evidence of it being on purpose.

    • @lindensalter6713
      @lindensalter6713 Před 2 měsíci

      ⁠@@selfiestick1589​​⁠​⁠​⁠trust me the evidence is there. I called it before that scene because it was so obvious to me. Maybe they were too subtle for people who can’t relate on a first watch but I don’t know how you would make it more obvious while still being realistic. This isn’t a case where she longs for something else but feels she must suppress it to not let down her family. This is something she has been fed is her life and she has not stopped and questioned it yet. She is feeling that she doesn’t want to run the shop but isn’t thinking it. There is no words she would say before that moment because where are the words supposed to come from if she isn’t thinking them? She says it as soon as it finally clicks. Wade let her see a future outside of what she was told and now she can finally long for something else. The setup is in how she acts about it that seem to contradict her words. I can’t remember many specific examples tho because it has been a minute since I watched it.
      She says she wants to run the shop but can’t without a surge of emotions she can’t explain. She has low emotional intelligence from her bottling up her feelings for so long because they don’t align with what she thinks she is supposed to feel. That’s why she is so prone to outbursts that seem over dramatic for the things happening there and then.
      All her reasoning for wanting to run the shop surrounds her family especially her father. He is getting too old and needs to retire, he left his country for this dream, she doesn’t want to let him down, and on and on and on. She never gives a reason why she wants to do this outside of him.
      She has never thought about a life outside of this one that when she is offered one she is terrified. She makes art but thinks nothing of doing anything with it because that is not what she is supposed to do. But once she if offered something to do with art she is in major conflict. This is the first time she thinks about more than one possible future and when she wants the other one she doesn’t know what to do. Emotions swell up as she is finally forced to be aware there is a conflict between her wants and expectations put on her.
      As someone who personally relates this comes off as a very realistic portrayal of this experience

    • @selfiestick1589
      @selfiestick1589 Před 2 měsíci

      @@lindensalter6713 too subtle for a setup imo, but I see your point
      My problem with setting up arcs with feelings is that they are too vague sometimes, doesn't feel as a proper promise for a character arc
      But I totally see storytelling aimed only at a subset of the population that can empathize with a specific feeling to be a thing, that actually sounds cool ngl

    • @lindensalter6713
      @lindensalter6713 Před 2 měsíci

      @@selfiestick1589 yeah but idk how you would make it less subtle without changing the character arc. Like how are they supposed to hint at it more while the character is still in the unaware stage? I didn’t even realize it could be considered subtle because it felt like it was yelling as loud as it could

  • @CathemeralGaming
    @CathemeralGaming Před 8 měsíci +269

    I feel like it's a huge sign of emotional maturity that Alan not only cries about so many things but that he was able to forge a relationship with another man strong enough that he's comfortable crying around him. Everyone needs a safe space and everyone needs a tribe.

  • @gurglequeen433
    @gurglequeen433 Před 8 měsíci +2470

    I finally sat down and watched Elemental the other day and the romance between Wade and Ember just made me so happy. They were so cute together and the fake out scene had me bawling. I didn't think Disney had the balls for that but the longer the scene went on the less sure I got about it.

    • @iclynnx
      @iclynnx Před 8 měsíci +170

      Exactly how I felt. The scene went on for long enough to make me tense. Would Wade actually survive? Deep inside you know, but some fake out deaths hurt either way. It's the tension that makes it work. Really hard to write well. It was the same with Nimona, she was gone for so long, I started to wonder if she was genuinely gone for good.

    • @danielpleitez-martinez7638
      @danielpleitez-martinez7638 Před 8 měsíci +7

      Fake out of?

    • @mikazuki1003
      @mikazuki1003 Před 8 měsíci

      ​@@danielpleitez-martinez7638Wade's death

    • @gurglequeen433
      @gurglequeen433 Před 8 měsíci

      @@danielpleitez-martinez7638 .... Wade's death fake out.

    • @iclynnx
      @iclynnx Před 8 měsíci +22

      @@danielpleitez-martinez7638 I'll put a spoiler alert in case you don't want one
      Wade's death is a fake out.

  • @alexishurtado6183
    @alexishurtado6183 Před 8 měsíci +564

    I was so mad people were putting Wade down. As someone who is sensitive and cries often, Wade meant everything to me. I started tearing up when he said, “You must’ve been so scared” when Ember talked about being discriminated as a kid. That’s the kind of validation I wish I’d had as a kid.

  • @destanialapa9266
    @destanialapa9266 Před 8 měsíci +482

    14:36 I feel like how they animated embers anger and sadness is phenomenal. It’s perfectly depicts how it’s almost easier for some people to be angry than it is to be sad and depressed because *at least* when you’re angry you have a force giving you energy. It’s resentment but it’s igniting your spirit and driving you towards something. Vs when you’re sad, that flame slowly dies, and you shrink into something so small. You lose that motivation and it feels like you’ve failed and there’s nothing worth fighting for anymore. As far as I’ve seen, that burst of anger is always followed by a deep sadness or fear. It’s almost cathartic to see this emotional process animated in this way. I feel so seen. If that makes sense. Well done Pixar. Pay your writers and animated better.

  • @pro100olga
    @pro100olga Před 8 měsíci +701

    I am so happy that kids will see a character such as Wade. He is such a great role model! Thank you for covering that! ❤

    • @CinemaTherapyShow
      @CinemaTherapyShow  Před 8 měsíci +54

      You are so welcome!

    • @Shrooblord
      @Shrooblord Před 8 měsíci +11

      #Wade4All

    • @maxenemayescalante6938
      @maxenemayescalante6938 Před 7 měsíci

      Evlgnouno
      Ltgoyhoyno😊😢

    • @RB01.10
      @RB01.10 Před 7 měsíci +12

      Years from now, this film will be a nostalgic classic

    • @RB01.10
      @RB01.10 Před 7 měsíci +4

      @@o82633 That wasn’t the point at all, you completely missed the point.
      The point was that sometimes your temper tells you something isn’t right, but it should still be controlled, which Ember ended up doing because of Wade.
      And no, Wade wasn’t a bad person for being emotional. Not at all.
      A true man is being respectful etc

  • @AliAngelpie
    @AliAngelpie Před 8 měsíci +696

    The fact that the director based most of this story off of his parents’ story and their immigrating to America from Korea really represents how people of different cultures, especially those who are not born Americans, are still judged before really given a chance and they can often return that bitterness due to generational trauma and prejudice. I loved that. Disney has done racism before but to have the characters be elements is clever. But Wade is perfectly written. He is awkward and clumsy, but everyone is at times and he has a big heart. He invites Ember in, doesn’t judge her, helps her and builds her back up, even bringing her to his family as a friend first and not a girlfriend, observing the boundaries she made and not immediately jumping on the love bandwagon. His family is also great, his mom helps Ember with her glass blowing career, advises her when she can’t talk to her own mother, is supportive and accepting right away. I love that. Plus we have a gender fluid character in a Disney movie now and not just a TV show!! I love it! Oh, and Ember’s mom cracks me up with her side matchmaking business and her insistence that Wade and Ember should be together because it really represents eastern cultures and their traditions with the older family members wanting their children to settle down and marry. That was definitely for the adults and it worked. And at the end, when Ember is leaving with Wade and she bows to her dad as is traditional in their family and he bows back, touched after he tells her he didn’t receive a bow from his own father, I had tears in my eyes

    • @ArtificialPerson
      @ArtificialPerson Před 8 měsíci +12

      Wait who's the non binary character? I watched it when it came out I might be forgetting some details by now

    • @AliAngelpie
      @AliAngelpie Před 8 měsíci +50

      @@ArtificialPerson It’s a very brief appearance but it’s Wade’s youngest sibling, Lake, who appears with their girlfriend, Ghibli. They are Pixar’s first non-binary character

    • @antoniomv9444
      @antoniomv9444 Před 8 měsíci +65

      @@AliAngelpie you could say they are "gender fluid" haaahaha...i know the exit thank you

    • @LunarNicotine
      @LunarNicotine Před 8 měsíci +40

      I loved how they dealt with the unspoken expectations of immigrant families, where often the kids see themselves as needing to look after their parents after a time, when in reality they want whats best for their kids. I felt encanto spoke to a different core of immigrant families and generational trauma, but this movie was just something I could relate with more.

    • @nicholauscrawford7903
      @nicholauscrawford7903 Před 8 měsíci +7

      I've heard it also reflects the experience of immigrants TO Korea. After all, people migrate to countries besides the US as well.

  • @Anamainiac
    @Anamainiac Před 8 měsíci +548

    What makes me so mad is that it failed at the box office. They worked on this movie for years! I went and saw it at the theatre four times. I adored how beautiful the animation was and how healthy the relationship was. I vried every time. Gosh, this movie was beautiful to me!

    • @Mikura39
      @Mikura39 Před 8 měsíci +84

      It didn’t fail at the box office actually.
      Tons of articles were created regarding its box office comeback and it made around 480M worldwide and even Pixar’s president considers it a profitable film.

    • @lizard3755
      @lizard3755 Před 8 měsíci +50

      I think if it had been marketed differently there probably would have been more interest in the beginning. The trailers I've seen weren't very engaging to me but after seeing the clips in this video and understanding what the movie is about I can't wait to watch it

    • @theredeft5319
      @theredeft5319 Před 8 měsíci +58

      The marketing is what screwed it over. They made it look so generic and boring, when it had such a great emotional story to tell.

    • @BelBelle468
      @BelBelle468 Před 8 měsíci +11

      @@lizard3755 also the fact it came out around the time Spiderverse came out.

    • @hollyberry0602
      @hollyberry0602 Před 8 měsíci +7

      @@lizard3755 I completely agree. I think the advertising absolutely didn't do it justice, in fact I wouldn't have even bothered to see it myself had my sister not convinced me we should at least give it a try. Absolutely LOVED it!

  • @damonlam9145
    @damonlam9145 Před 8 měsíci +58

    In the official novel of Elemental, it goes into more depth of Wade relationship with his dad. Wade and his father had a similar relationship as Ember to hers - Wade's father wanted him to choose one career path and focus on it for his life, and would even make sacrifices just to get Wade into sports teams as he himself was a sportsman. But Wade didn't like that because he wanted to explore many fields of interests instead of sticking to one, and this disagreement caused them to fight a lot. Wade's father died before Wade could ever make up to him, and since then, Wade was filled with regret. He became aimless in life and hopped from job to job, struggling to keep each of them.
    When he meets Ember, he sees himself in her, and knows that although he can't bring his father back to life and reconcile with him, he can help convince Ember to communicate with her dad. Really sweet and it also shows a lot more untapped depth in Wade's character. In the movie, we only see Wade's impact on Ember, but I think Ember's impact on Wade is that he can finally reconcile with himself and come to terms with what he's lost.

  • @tommyb3110
    @tommyb3110 Před 8 měsíci +144

    I love that every time Ember is vulnerable and talks about her fears her flame dies down, but the light she emits becomes prismatic ripples around her. It’s like a metaphor for the beauty in vulnerability, and Wade sees the beauty in it.

  • @Jonathan_Collins
    @Jonathan_Collins Před 8 měsíci +360

    The point of Elemental is to demonstrait how victims of passive- and micro-aggressive racism can often be left feeling helpless, as these offenses often go unnoticed, ignored, or simply dismissed through plausible deniability. This can often result in minority groups, who have experienced this form of racism, developing their own racial bias against either their own race or the races of others.
    Then there is Wade's family, who may have stumbled onto some racial biases due to their own ignorance of the Fire culture but ultimately did their best to address their own ignorance. They accomidated Ember and her parents in their home, included her in sharing in their food, culture, & traditions, and do their best to be as openly curious and apologetic in acknowledging their own ignorance.
    Wade was brought up to be open, inclusive, and empathetic, so he did his best to be mindful by politely trying her culture's food (despite finding his own way to enjoy it), and being respectful of Ember's cultural and personal boundaries. However, Ember grew up to be scared and suspicious of Water people. Not only because of the experiences her parents had with Water while emigrating to the city, but also because-- Water being the first to found the city and the Fire people emigrating last-- Water had a certain level of power within the infrastructure and management of Elemental City that not only did very little to accomidate the needs of Fire people but also seemed to outright neglect them. They clearly possessed the power to destroy the livelihoods of Fire people living in the poorer neighbourhoods. This would make anyone bitter towards the feeling of helplessness, living in a city which doesn't even care if its railway could snuff out the Fire citizens below seems pretty callous.
    As a result, and in a bit of irony, between the two of them, Ember was the one with the most racial bias and preconcieved notions about who Wade was. She assumed that simply because his family is Water and comes from wealth, Wade was incapable of empathizing with her and what she was going through with her Fire family's traditions. The truth is, it wasn't Wade's Water culture which gave him the ability to see beyond the limitations Ember's traditions placed upon her to focus on what was important. It was his family's traditions and good upbringing! The point of the scene with the mother reading their smoke is meant to demonstrate they were made for each other because Ember has the burning passion which keeps Wade focused and inspires him, while Wade has the flexibility, resourcefulness, and empathy to keep Ember grounded, calm, and adaptable. We overcome racism by teaching our children to have empathy for everyone!

    • @jennyspeicker4712
      @jennyspeicker4712 Před 8 měsíci +27

      I loved this as an under tone to the movie and when Wade's dad talks about her language skills and she just hits him with sarcasm, he realized it was an idiot comment and they just moved on. His mom is my favorite though.

    • @jennyspeicker4712
      @jennyspeicker4712 Před 8 měsíci +12

      Sorry sorry i forgot that was his uncle not dad

    • @krw5723
      @krw5723 Před 8 měsíci +19

      When my kids encounter people who are super protective of their culture and traditions and are wary of other people, I want them to remember this and have empathy. Understanding. Not just react to feeling rejected or discriminated against with anger, but with compassion for what led to those things.

  • @mzamnesia7190
    @mzamnesia7190 Před 8 měsíci +792

    YESSSS. I've been screaming about this movie since the night it premiered. Wade is teh BEST EXAMPLE EVER of an emotionally intelligent character and healthy masculinity

    • @ultimatebishoujo29
      @ultimatebishoujo29 Před 8 měsíci +18

      He really is

    • @CinnaBonXoXpRetzEL
      @CinnaBonXoXpRetzEL Před 8 měsíci +12

      YESSSSSS

    • @Chubbasaurus
      @Chubbasaurus Před 8 měsíci +22

      The only way they could have improved it in my opinion is if they HAD made him this big buff guy rather than play it as a joke.

    • @ThatGothicArtist
      @ThatGothicArtist Před 8 měsíci +13

      YES!!! He is so sweet and calming, everything! I have a guy like that in my life. He’s my best friend ^^

    • @ThatGothicArtist
      @ThatGothicArtist Před 8 měsíci +16

      @@Chubbasaurustrue. Buff Wade hits different.

  • @estrellitadelmar2547
    @estrellitadelmar2547 Před 7 měsíci +86

    There's this beautiful metaphor in the movie early on, during the chase scene. Ember sees her reflection on the back of Wade's head in the dark. It was the beginning of her really seeing herself for the first time, through somebody else, in her darkest moments.

  • @manyfacesofsean
    @manyfacesofsean Před 8 měsíci +174

    "instead of being interesting be interested" and "we enjoy stories for the escape of it, but we enjoy the best stories because they teach us to be better people" are amazing quotes Jono was on one this video.

  • @lemoon4521
    @lemoon4521 Před 8 měsíci +389

    Wade's whole character made me cry in the theater full of kids.

    • @ultimatebishoujo29
      @ultimatebishoujo29 Před 8 měsíci +21

      That’s understandable

    • @fruitbouquet5479
      @fruitbouquet5479 Před 8 měsíci +20

      Wade: “I really do love it when your light does that”
      Me: *Bawling my eyes out 😭*

  • @blsmcherry789
    @blsmcherry789 Před 8 měsíci +381

    This movie both destroyed and validated how I feel as the eldest daughter of an immigrant Asian family 😩😂 Wade being so emotionally positive & understanding the source of Embers anger also made me cry so much.

  • @Ngamotu83
    @Ngamotu83 Před 5 měsíci +21

    One thing that really makes Wade a stand-up guy is that he does something that is so often lost today, which is that he listens. When he and Ember are on the beach, he just sits there a lets her express how she really feels and doesn't interrupt her at all. He sits in silence and just takes in what Ember is saying, rather than feeling like he has to get a word in at that exact moment. Wade understands that what she is going through is more important than anything he has to say.
    The other thing worth noting is that during the scene when Wade is trying to get Ember to cry, as he begins to finally make that connection with her you literally see the light from her reflecting in Wade's eyes. It's a nice and simple way of signaling that a connection really is building between the two of them.

  • @Vellona
    @Vellona Před 8 měsíci +196

    Another thing I love about the scene with the mom is that it subtly hints how water can create a "reflection". The scene carefully points out how Wade sees Ember as a strong, passionate, and powerful person. He reflects how he sees her in their conversations and shows that Ember can see herself in a different way because Ember kept losing herself as she kept trying to fulfill her father's wishes.😭It's beautiful.

  • @heathercontois4501
    @heathercontois4501 Před 8 měsíci +351

    Watched this with my girls 2 days ago. My teen is now praying for a boyfriend like this. Or partner, if it's a girl. I don't care as long as she's in a healthy relationship.

    • @jaimicottrill2831
      @jaimicottrill2831 Před 8 měsíci +56

      then you are a great parent!

    • @pluvia5431
      @pluvia5431 Před 8 měsíci +10

      ​@@KafuKemehif, its a possibility. They aren't forcing their kids to be with a specific gender.

    • @WritingandMore
      @WritingandMore Před 8 měsíci +15

      Love you mom. And thanks. Also i pray that little sibling gets a relationship like wade and ember one day too. No matter the gender identity.

  • @rafaelmatos5851
    @rafaelmatos5851 Před 8 měsíci +400

    One thing I also love in Wade (besides what you beautifully explained) is how he doesn't want Ember to experience the same pain he did. I am refering to each other's relationships with their respective fathers. Wade had a very difficult relationship with his father and he died before they could sort it out, what caused him to be filled with regret over it. With Ember, he can see that she also has issues with her father that she can't bring herself to address and solve, what eventually will lead to regret when the time comes when it will be too late. Wade can see that Ember has the chance to express her true feelings to her father and urges her to do it, because he knows from personal experience how painful it will be the regret of losing that chance.

    • @Dairunt1
      @Dairunt1 Před 8 měsíci +49

      Wade has the emotional intelligence of someone who went to therapy after a traumatic event.

    • @gigikju9934
      @gigikju9934 Před 8 měsíci +12

      And he never projects his own issues onto Ember and completely respects her dad (and dads in general, according to his like, first line) even though he didn’t have the best relationship with his own dad. In conclusion, he’s just the general polar opposite of Lily from Princess Diaries and I love it.

    • @gigikju9934
      @gigikju9934 Před 8 měsíci +7

      @@Dairunt1 …That’s actually a really good observation!

    • @carsfan1995
      @carsfan1995 Před 8 měsíci +2

      After walking a deleted scenes, I feel like the fallout between Wade and his dad might’ve been because Wade is bi.
      In a deleted scene, he has a crush on a fire guy that him and Ember were helping out. I can understand why they cut it out since it really didn’t add anything to the story, but I feel like maybe Wade being bisexual could’ve been the reason for him and his dad. While we see Wade has a loving supportive family including a non-binary sibling and their partner, we don’t actually know much about his dad in relation to the family. His parents could’ve been divorced and thus one parent being accepting while another parent isn’t is a high possibility why Wade has a good relationship to the other members of his family.

    • @jamiekeller9915
      @jamiekeller9915 Před 8 měsíci +4

      Wade's mom and supportive family is a HUGE reason why he's healthy. He has people to fall back on. Ember, not so much.

  • @jessicaburns7605
    @jessicaburns7605 Před 8 měsíci +179

    Pixar and Ghibli have SO MUCH heart and passion and emotion in their movies that just punches you in the heart every time

  • @MyssyMystery
    @MyssyMystery Před 8 měsíci +46

    "For some of us, we get from movies, what we can't get in real life." Alan coming in with a punch to the gut.

  • @rachelnorthauthor
    @rachelnorthauthor Před 8 měsíci +517

    I watched Elemental in theaters after a bad “situationship,” and Wade and Ember’s relationship was sooo healing. I’m so happy you’re talking about this film!

    • @SweetLikeKiwi
      @SweetLikeKiwi Před 7 měsíci +1

      I just ended a situationship too and I cried so much during this movie, it was very healing and got me all excited for the next romantic chapter of my life

  • @annikah.3924
    @annikah.3924 Před 8 měsíci +146

    I love that Wade cries so much and when him and Amber play that cry game she says she never cried. Then he is the reason she sheds her first tear and later on when she thinks, that Wade died, she just in full of tears.

    • @RB01.10
      @RB01.10 Před 8 měsíci +8

      Not only that but I love how she used his own words in that game to help revive him
      Very heartwarming

  • @tacklebox5374
    @tacklebox5374 Před 8 měsíci +61

    Wade reminds me of my partner. He's sweet, empathetic, comfortable with his emotions, cries freely, and always talks me through my panicky/nervous episodes. I'm so thankful I found my Wade. 💙

  • @excessivelyfangirlingbookw3339
    @excessivelyfangirlingbookw3339 Před 8 měsíci +82

    I get the "inexpressable joy" part. I'm the same, I tear up very easily during scenes that manage to grip your emotions and make you feel so strongly that you're heart is nearly bursting with compassion and companionship. It's truly a wonderful feeling.

  • @luiiiandmovieee
    @luiiiandmovieee Před 8 měsíci +86

    I loved that they made the boy water and the girl fire because it'd be more typical the other way around. But it's such a great message for boys that it's good and healthy to be vulnerable and tender and that it doesn't make you less of a man when you cry

  • @16fireheart
    @16fireheart Před 8 měsíci +147

    My favorite scene in this movie has got to be the bow at the end. She gives her father the bow of utmost respect and he gives it in turn. Something his own father never did for him, he strives to be better parent then what he had. That was the perfect ending.

    • @RB01.10
      @RB01.10 Před 8 měsíci +4

      I like many got very emotional at that part, perfect way to end the film.
      It was also like a full circle moment. The film began with her parents stepping off the ship for their new life and now it ends with Ember walking on for hers

  • @nil.2713
    @nil.2713 Před 8 měsíci +124

    I just watched Elemental with my family the other day and we all loved Wade. He is the sweetest. The whole movie was actually quite good which I did not expect. Your video was as immaculate as always. This is by far my favourite CZcams channel.

  • @bigjclv
    @bigjclv Před 8 měsíci +39

    For me what really struck me about the movie was the themes of love as mutual transformation. Neither changes themselves for the other, but together each of them is changed by the other. That we don't remake ourselves for love, but love itself touches us and changes us in an undeniable way. And it only happens in moments of uncertainty, in moments where they are both open and vulnerable. A really amazing story. Disney really wiffed the marketing on this one.

  • @absolutelynot.3739
    @absolutelynot.3739 Před 8 měsíci +105

    Something that I loved about Wade was that when he doesn't understand why someone felt some way, he just straight up says "I don't understand". He's incredibly honest and he asks to understand something when he doesn't; he doesn't get defensive or confused, he just asks to know. I loved that about him

  • @carleeelders875
    @carleeelders875 Před 8 měsíci +753

    Everyone needs a Wade in their life 💙 One of the best Pixar charecters every created

    • @ultimatebishoujo29
      @ultimatebishoujo29 Před 8 měsíci

      So true

    • @CocoKoi321
      @CocoKoi321 Před 8 měsíci

      Bot

    • @CocoKoi321
      @CocoKoi321 Před 8 měsíci

      ​@@DontReadMyProfilePicture.185bot

    • @lCoolPartner
      @lCoolPartner Před 8 měsíci +1

      But WHY? Not everyone is like him

    • @TheMonacleSpy
      @TheMonacleSpy Před 8 měsíci +29

      ​@@lCoolPartnerThat is true and not everyone cries as much as Wade does. It needs to be stated that being friends with someone who wears their emotions on their sleeve and actively listens adds so much to quality of life. It's like they act as an emotional barometer so we know we're loved and important without going too deep.
      And if you can't find someone like that then try to BE that person to someone. It's worked for me.

  • @KoBxElucidator
    @KoBxElucidator Před 7 měsíci +39

    More people need to see this film. It was incredible.

  • @kirakoyukichi12345
    @kirakoyukichi12345 Před 8 měsíci +48

    My boyfriend and I went to watch this. I’ve been through many toxic relationships and ended up a lot like ember with problems at communication and expressing my emotions. My current boyfriend is so much like wade it’s crazy. He’s said things that wade has said word for word to me and its helped me become a much better partner in our relationship. I loved this film more than I thought would :))

  • @katemiller4084
    @katemiller4084 Před 8 měsíci +192

    14:33 - I never noticed before until watching this episode, you see actually see Ember when you are looking at Wade, you see her reflection. It’s a clever close up shot where you see both the emotion and reaction on Wade’s face, but also see Ember talking and her emotions at the same time, without it having to be a wide shot to fit in both characters, so you are more focused on both of their facial expressions. It’s a very clever way of utilising the characters unique physical characterisation in this scene.

  • @moonbreeze7619
    @moonbreeze7619 Před 8 měsíci +264

    This movie is honestly amazing! My mom and I had gotten into a bit of heated fight before we watched the movie and we were slightly upset with each other. With Wade said that “I think my temper is me trying to tell me something” I saw my mom pause out of the corner of my eye and look at me. After that she paused the movie to apologize to me and I did the same! This movie is WAY better than I thought, there’s so many good messages within it

    • @meldixj
      @meldixj Před 8 měsíci +13

      I had a very similar experience when I watched Brave with my family. I had recently quit college, and my mom was very upset with me, woried about my future and what not. We watched together, and cried a lot about how she just wants what it's good for me, even sometimes not understanding my life choices

  • @Akins560
    @Akins560 Před 6 měsíci +23

    WADE IS THE DEFINITION OF THE PERFECT BOYFRIEND 🥰 ❤
    And props to Wade's mom for helping Ember find a job she is going to enjoy 😊

  • @emmettofswedeland
    @emmettofswedeland Před 8 měsíci +74

    A huge reason to why I cry easily at beautiful scenes is because of its representation, and as you said Alan, the joy of that. The absolute joy of seeing empathy and healthy love represented and displayed for millions of people to see and learn from melts my heart. The facts that creators care to teach these values is such a reminder that people are decent and loving at the core, and that's the world I want to live in.

    • @aniisammy
      @aniisammy Před 7 měsíci +5

      nah cause just reading your comment made me tear up ToT

    • @emmettofswedeland
      @emmettofswedeland Před 7 měsíci +4

      @@aniisammy And your reply is making me tear up!! Hahah what a beautiful circle!

  • @ultimatebishoujo29
    @ultimatebishoujo29 Před 8 měsíci +343

    Wade is such a sweet and caring boyfriend!!!!!!

    • @trinaq
      @trinaq Před 8 měsíci +18

      Agreed, we'd all be lucky to have a partner or spouse like him in real life.

    • @lCoolPartner
      @lCoolPartner Před 8 měsíci +2

      ​@@trinaqSO everyone should be like him? Not everyone has the same personality

    • @ultimatebishoujo29
      @ultimatebishoujo29 Před 8 měsíci +1

      @@trinaqthat’s true

    • @ultimatebishoujo29
      @ultimatebishoujo29 Před 8 měsíci +28

      @@lCoolPartnerI think they mean by the way Wade is so caring and compassionate

    • @Shimmernist
      @Shimmernist Před 8 měsíci +30

      ​@lCoolPartner No you don't have to be exactly like him. Just be caring and compassionate. Not that much to ask for

  • @riloretro7821
    @riloretro7821 Před 8 měsíci +811

    My wife and I have probably watched Elemental over 20 times now. We saw it in theaters twice. I absolutely love the dynamic between Wade and Ember, and there are so many scenes in this movie that are healing for me. Super glad y'all did an episode on it.
    I also wanted to say that for the first time in years I've started going to therapy and I probably wouldn't have done that if not for this channel (at least partially). Thank you guys, you've helped me be healthy and happy through one of my favorite mediums, MOVIES!

    • @poycixyz4614
      @poycixyz4614 Před 8 měsíci +15

      Hey. As a faceless nobody on the internet who bears no meaning to you, I wanna let you know that I'm proud of you.
      This channel has been very therapeutic for me too, so I can definitely relate. Remember to always love yourself!

    • @fruitbouquet5479
      @fruitbouquet5479 Před 8 měsíci +2

      You too? 😅

    • @carleeelders875
      @carleeelders875 Před 8 měsíci +5

      I haven't watched it 20 times over, but every time I do I always find more things to love about it. Its just that GOOD! No shame😁

  • @ecasaigne
    @ecasaigne Před 8 měsíci +26

    My parents too sacrificed so much to move to this country with all of us. The moment when the dad says “you were always the dream” breaks me every time. Especially now as I have daughters of my own, I get it.

  • @aen9321
    @aen9321 Před 8 měsíci +22

    I watched Elemental a year after going through an incredibly difficult, harmful relationship. I spent the last year in therapy and am learning to open myself to love again, but I find so much relatability in Ember. Wade, and his relationship with her, was such a healing experience for me to watch. I cried and felt hopeful about love for the first time in a long time after finishing the movie.

  • @jadetheace
    @jadetheace Před 8 měsíci +378

    Among the comparisons between Wade and Alan and mentioning how Wade crying is seen as endearing definitely reminds me of Alan when he tears up: it’s always endearing and wholesome☺️

  • @Slippyjerry
    @Slippyjerry Před 8 měsíci +1452

    I’m so glad you guys are talking about him, he deserves the love ❤️

    • @ultimatebishoujo29
      @ultimatebishoujo29 Před 8 měsíci +19

      He definitely deserves the love

    • @Slippyjerry
      @Slippyjerry Před 8 měsíci

      @@ultimatebishoujo29 he reminds me of my bf, he’s stationed right now for the airforce so this is a big comfort movie for me 🥲❣️

    • @deesam1253
      @deesam1253 Před 8 měsíci +23

      Came here to say the same thing- Wade’s emotional nature is not depicted as a flaw, but something that makes him great.

    • @WilhelmRillhelm
      @WilhelmRillhelm Před 8 měsíci +7

      Neither he, nor the movie he‘s in deserved any of the hat eIt got. Sure, the movie as a might have been more mediocre than expected, but it‘s still a marvellous topic to explore, and the those visuals,

  • @SquigglyWigglyPigs
    @SquigglyWigglyPigs Před 8 měsíci +11

    In terms of those little Pixar nuggets of hidden meaning Alan was talking about - the fact Ember's passion was glass-blowing, and 'tempered' glass having another meaning besides temper/anger was such great symbolism for how 'temper' isn't always a negative. Made the connection when Gale says "You used glass to mend the dam?! Tempered glass! :)"

  • @alittlebithailey5994
    @alittlebithailey5994 Před 8 měsíci +12

    The ending, I knew they were setting up for her to do the special bow like her father had done and that he was going to bow back unlike his father. And I still SOBBED like a baby when it happened

  • @macattack161
    @macattack161 Před 8 měsíci +388

    This is beautiful. Thank you. One of my beautiful daughters has a "fiery" personality and I'm more like water. We adopted her out of foster care and she used to just explode about everything. It took me some time to realize that she was just processing this in a different way than me and her sister does. We have been working on the emotions behind the anger and i have had to be more vulnerable with her than i would want to be. I have had to show her that she is truly wanted and loved. I was taught that as a parent you have to be brave ( or tough) for your kids and I've realized that the most brave that i can be for them is to be vulnerable to them. It has been hard but so helpful. I'm sorry for the long post but Kids that seem like "hard cases" are usually just hurting. My daughter is a passionate, protective person with a beautiful heart. The "Hard cases" are worth it.

    • @raeg1100
      @raeg1100 Před 8 měsíci +26

      Thank you for sharing. I have done childcare with kids and I totally agree with you, the kids people think are "hard" or "problematic" are usually the sweetest once you make it clear that you are there for them and that you care. It isn't an easy road to get to that point, but it is so so worth it once you do.

  • @zackariasbesson2824
    @zackariasbesson2824 Před 8 měsíci +88

    I haven't connected to a character in a long time like I have to Wade. I'm a very sensitive guy and cry at everything really easily, good or bad. I'm not very manly in the macho sense and people can't grasp that it's not something I strive for. It doesn't make me a lesser man or a lesser partner. I honestly feel like it makes me a much better person and partner. To see him not played as a joke is really sweet.

    • @Riverrunzred
      @Riverrunzred Před 8 měsíci +14

      We need more people like you ❤

    • @zackariasbesson2824
      @zackariasbesson2824 Před 8 měsíci +8

      @@Riverrunzred thank you so much! ❤

    • @calviv1
      @calviv1 Před 8 měsíci +4

      My father is emotional and strong. It’s hard to find a man that can be that vulnerable. That is his strength and like wade he connects with everyone so easily and is so
      Gregarious. I wish I could be more like him.

    • @zackariasbesson2824
      @zackariasbesson2824 Před 8 měsíci +2

      @@calviv1 @calviv1 It's awesome that you have such a good role model ❤
      My dad is also like that, but he has a calm about him that I just don't have. I admire it and strive for it, but at the same time I have to remember that my hyperactivity is a part if me too.
      I think that striving to be like him is super, but just don't be to hard on yourself, you are your own person to! ❤

  • @dylanbass8451
    @dylanbass8451 Před 8 měsíci +17

    14:22 I love the way that she’s animated here. Her flame and smoke is dying down, and she just looks so small! It’s brilliant!

  • @MagdalenaMantler
    @MagdalenaMantler Před 7 měsíci +15

    Pixar is just magic... They really have some of the greatest people working there, to be honest.
    Pixar has such a deep understanding of emotions, how we as people work, relationships... This breaks me also everytime. Alan, you are not alone in crying...

  • @Squirrelrides
    @Squirrelrides Před 8 měsíci +185

    The scene where the dad bowed back had me crying. I moved to the US two years ago and he has been so supportive of all my life choices, it just reminded me how lucky I am and how greatful I am to have him as a dad. ❤

  • @momochanjones7302
    @momochanjones7302 Před 8 měsíci +77

    The scene at 20:05 I relate to sooooo much, because I don't cry when someone insults me, but when someone either compliments me or reassures me, I'm a wreck.

  • @Dennyspuncakes
    @Dennyspuncakes Před 7 měsíci +9

    Coming from immigrant parents, I think a lot of us, especially eldest daughters can understand where Ember is coming from. It's so hard when what you want in life isn't what they exactly envisioned. And I think a lot of us feel like we owe our parents everything and more, and we just can't ever do enough. I can't even begin to start with how I've heard the line "and this is how you repay us". The overprotectiveness and "helicoptering" is totally true too, especially considering what they may have experienced in the past themselves. I absolutely sobbed watching this movie, and it's really nice seeing a character that I can see my experiences in.

  • @mh.4816
    @mh.4816 Před 7 měsíci +3

    You know what was cruel about this movie? The fact that they played that Up short film before it. They had me sobbing before the movie even started.

  • @bd1293
    @bd1293 Před 8 měsíci +76

    I had no interest in Elemental because of the "opposites attract 😮" trope from the teaser trailer. So pleasantly surprised by the movie!! The story of Ember being a first generation kid and her relationship with her dad, the romance between her and Wade. It's truly 😚👌🏼 chefs kiss

    • @heathersmith4042
      @heathersmith4042 Před 8 měsíci +2

      i'm a sucker for elemental magic stuff and the trailers were so bad they killed any interest i had in the film too and i almost didn't bother to give it a chance (though i loved it when i did). the marketing just didn't accurately portray what the movie was about at all

  • @danisdcpdiary
    @danisdcpdiary Před 8 měsíci +99

    I knew I had picked the right partner when I watched Elemental and realized my boyfriend is literally Wade and I’m from a very emotionally unavailable family so he was exactly what I needed 💕

  • @0ptixs
    @0ptixs Před 8 měsíci +13

    Man I really thought this movie was going to be a generic zootopia, I honestly didn't even know Pixar made it. So angry at the marketing for this movie.
    When ember said that she was a bad daughter and that she didn't want to run the shop. My God that buried deep in my soul and just released a knot that I didn't know I had, I cried before I even knew it was coming. God bless this movie and the team creating these masterpieces

  • @anastasiafedorova2101
    @anastasiafedorova2101 Před 7 měsíci +9

    "Elemental" is truly one if the best animated movie experiences I've had recently, I love this movie, it's touching and beautifully made. And Wade is amazing, I'm happy we finally get to see more male characters like him ♥️

  • @nickieb7100
    @nickieb7100 Před 8 měsíci +130

    What I liked most about this movie is the depiction of Ember's father. He's so supportive and compassionate at the end. Not all of us experienced that growing up and its really awesome to see those kinds of parents in movies like this. Their bow at the end of the film gets me going every time 😭

  • @Leopardeye
    @Leopardeye Před 8 měsíci +145

    Ember is the most relatable character-EVER. That temper… 😭😭😭 I need to work on mine. lol

  • @Andieperry428
    @Andieperry428 Před 8 měsíci +8

    You missed the moment when they both touched hands and embraced. Something about it was so powerful to me and yes, it did make me cry. 😭😭

  • @skiri987
    @skiri987 Před 8 měsíci +31

    I didn't watch the movie, but at 26:20; "I'm sorry, I'm a bad daughter" I cried SO HARD.

  • @margar3181
    @margar3181 Před 8 měsíci +159

    I was meh about this movie just with the trailers, but I was a blubbering crying mess watching it. It was FANTASTIC! I ❤ Wade!!

    • @CinemaTherapyShow
      @CinemaTherapyShow  Před 8 měsíci +51

      The trailers didn't do the movie justice!

    • @arianabell9351
      @arianabell9351 Před 8 měsíci +17

      Pixar trailers never do tbh. Remember the Up trailer had Carl blowing a raspberry instead of the actual plot point he says, “I’ll send you a postcard of Paradise Falls.” Can’t believe it’s taken people this long to realize Pixar doesn’t advertise what their movies are actually about, and they don’t put the plot points in the trailers usally.

    • @erikagholston6610
      @erikagholston6610 Před 8 měsíci +7

      The trailers didn't do this movie any justice. I almost skipped watching it and I'm so glad I saw it.

    • @Mr.Board_
      @Mr.Board_ Před 8 měsíci +1

      @@CinemaTherapyShowoutside the first teaser and the initial poster that came out a year before the movie the marketing was the worst I’ve seen from Disney

    • @whistlebird
      @whistlebird Před 8 měsíci +2

      Agree! I miss the Pixar trailers they used to do, where it was less random scenes from the movie and more a small scene involving the characters and what they do that isn't in the movie but encapsulates who they are and piques our interest. Monsters Inc specifically comes to mind. I feel like that would have worked better for Elemental.

  • @Cesia_B
    @Cesia_B Před 8 měsíci +24

    This movie is an animators dream!!!!!! The texture, the colors THE DETAILS! the way amber glows brighter when doing glass, the way her steps light when they hit the ground, the way his body lights brighter when breathing, like actual fire!
    The way wade is a constant current of water which later plays on the "touching"
    Scene. The way the frames per second changed when they danced! UGHHHHHHH

  • @legacyoflore1597
    @legacyoflore1597 Před 3 měsíci +2

    22:05 I love how her flame seems to calm down, and then briefly flickers blue/purple again as she unloads. I think it is just so well done and shows us exactly how her emotions are "pinging" around back and forth

  • @erikaangelina4703
    @erikaangelina4703 Před 4 měsíci +7

    I can definitely relate to Wade (and Alan too) because I cry at everything. I also cry at every pixar movies no matter how many times I’ve rewatched the same movie again and again

  • @CameronMetrejean
    @CameronMetrejean Před 8 měsíci +67

    I didn’t particularly like this film, but even I was like “YES! Show that men can be emotional.” As a guy who used to cry very easily it was nice to see that.

  • @ArchonKain
    @ArchonKain Před 8 měsíci +168

    I honestly don't know why everyone said this movie was a flop, it's genuinely incredible!

    • @Mikura39
      @Mikura39 Před 8 měsíci +15

      Just to hate, I guess.
      Even though in the end, the movie ended being a box office success worldwide. (Though maybe barely) But it’s definitely not a flop anymore.

    • @kaylabounds0615
      @kaylabounds0615 Před 8 měsíci +33

      Mostly marketing. They definitely didn't market it well. Plus Hating on Disney/Pixar movies for some unknown reason has become a cool thing to do idk why tho...

    • @Miss_Myth
      @Miss_Myth Před 8 měsíci +9

      Calling something a flop doesn't mean it's a bad movie! There are plenty of films we see as Classics now that had really poor box office returns. Sometimes it takes time for people to really appreciate something.

    • @maninanikittycat4238
      @maninanikittycat4238 Před 8 měsíci +10

      the marketing made it look generic

    • @RB01.10
      @RB01.10 Před 8 měsíci +11

      It started off slow, but it eventually made a huge comeback at the box office. It has now made $489 million worldwide and is now Pixar’s highest grossing post pandemic film.
      It is a gem of a film, and we need more original content

  • @Bllue
    @Bllue Před 8 měsíci +8

    I absolutely loved how you could see ember reflected in Wade. It is such a beautiful bit of animation throughout the film. You can see her through his eyes based on the reflection

  • @raemondrose3349
    @raemondrose3349 Před 7 měsíci +4

    When I was watching Elemental with my friend, I had mostly kept it together until "the shop was never the dream, you were"
    That's when the waterworks started

  • @ryanedwards7487
    @ryanedwards7487 Před 8 měsíci +73

    I just watched this movie yesterday on Disney+ with my little girls. This had me wishing I was as much a Wade for my wife and kids as Wade was. I clearly need to work on this.

  • @kyleigholmstead6792
    @kyleigholmstead6792 Před 8 měsíci +80

    I was so upset with the marketing of this movie. I'm a huge fan of cute romance. But I was super reluctant to watch it cause it felt a lot like zootopia and unoriginal. I'm so glad my partner pushed me to watch this movie! It's so cute ❤😭

    • @CinemaTherapyShow
      @CinemaTherapyShow  Před 8 měsíci +22

      It’s very cute! So glad you enjoyed it too!

    • @gRinchY-op5vr
      @gRinchY-op5vr Před 8 měsíci +13

      Yes we kept getting the same short ad of them on the train, if my son hadn't wanted to see it I'd have probably skipped it thinking wow Pixar are running out of ideas...but its a cute romance and message on racism and differences between people and cultures.

    • @kobemarion1137
      @kobemarion1137 Před 8 měsíci +1

      ​@@gRinchY-op5vrEventually, we're ALL gonna run out of ideas, so take what you can get, I suppose.

  • @princembat
    @princembat Před 8 měsíci +10

    this movie is so so amazing and im so glad wade exists for several reasons. hes so fun to watch and hes so cute and empathetic and sweet and im also glad hes allowed to be super emotional as a guy, and its not punished!

  • @JanKalama
    @JanKalama Před 8 měsíci +5

    For all of the people wishing they had a Wade, I think the point is that WE’RE meant to be Wade.

  • @charlottefuller1340
    @charlottefuller1340 Před 8 měsíci +17

    I love that the guy is the emotional one while the girl is the fiery/angry one because its often women being more stereotypically emotional while anger us thought of as a more masculine trait but they switched it in this which is nice

  • @zacharynaragon7313
    @zacharynaragon7313 Před 8 měsíci +67

    When I watch this movie for the first time, I got to the part where Ember is talking about her and her dad being turned away and his only focus was “you must have been so scared” and said out loud, at home alone, “oh cinema therapy is gonna be all over that”
    Ps-“the shop wasn’t the dream, YOU were always the dream” gets me every single time.

  • @BalthusHomewood
    @BalthusHomewood Před 8 měsíci +9

    I streamed Elemental on a whim and I really wish I'd seen it in theatres! The migrant family metaphor, the conversation it has about empathy and emotional expression, the really cute romantic comedy at its core, all strengths I never saw in the ads or even from reviewers. As simple as the story appears, the writing is as sharp as the visuals.
    I love the way Wade helps Ember find value in her passion, in her art, in her own sense of self, and the way he's awe-struck by her without objectifying her.
    I also love how Ember learns from Wade, how she values his empathy and adaptive nature, and how clearly he communicates.
    If you can, watch Good Chemistry, the featurette about the director Peter Sohn. You'll see where this story springs from.