We Don't Tell You Everything, But Should We? From @HMAY Ep.146
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- čas přidán 25. 04. 2024
- A Clip from Episode 146 of our How Married Are You Podcast.
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'My entire life has been lived considering other people before myself.' I FEEL you. ❤️
Yvette is right on the money!!! 🙌🏾 I’m that next generation and we are listening for the full story. That’s why I follow your channel even though I don’t have a husband or family yet. I appreciate the candor and wisdom that y’all always graciously provide.
This is a KABOOM of TRUTH it’s explosive and FREEING!
I’m such a huge fan. I hope people know that you don’t have to be married to get something from this loving and intelligent couple ❤❤
Agreed! I'm single with no children and I LOVE THIS CHANNEL. ❤
@@alishak4061 I’m not married either but old enough to be their mother. My daughter is 37 and recently married, I have her hooked on this channel!
@@MsFrazier222 that's so cool!!!
🙋🏾♀️ agreed 💯 👍🏾
@@alishak4061 Same ❤️❤️❤️ I choose this channel over many. It's so wholesome. It just cements my desire to be a mother even more
Kind of crazy I already have this mindset even though I don't have kids of my own just yet. Just shows me that I'm on the right path. Thank y'all for always being so open 💛
Smh honor and protect ! Y’all speaking good
Don’t tell everything you know. It’s a lesson but express what feels comfortable and uncomfortable, and will result in positivity. You guys have a tight relationship. It seems so work it out amongst yourself. You guys are doing an awesome job. In my opinion I’ve learned from you and my son is a teenager so you’re doing something right I believe people some that look at you also wish they had parents that were so involved so loving admitting to mistakes it’s a joy for me to watch you guys.❤❤
Whoa 🤯 “my entire life I’ve been considering people before myself”
You said it perfectly, Yvette 💯❤
That’s right Yvette. We have to heal our generational wounds so we don’t pass it forward. The more we heal our self the more we heal our mothers mothers mothers mothers. We are multidimensional beings so as we heal in the present we also heal in the past and heal the future.
That makes 100% sense.
This was deep, I agree wholeheartedly with this conversation. More of these conversations must be had.
There is NO GETTING right. Breaking the mold is a beneficial life. Know change is the beauty.
Yes, say that Glen 💯❤️
Checking in from the DMV.
I agree with you so much !!
So true! Well said Yvette!!👏🏾💯❤️👍🏾 #facts
Thank you 4 being wholsome. Makes me feel better about being blk
YESSS!!!!! speak your truth on everything Yvette!!!
Is shielding someone from the truth a good thing? TRUTH, so long as it's objective truth, should be spoken.
Yes, Yvette!! Say it louder for the ppl in the back!
This generation is so self aware that they will be willing to allow their kids to hold them accountable for f'ing them up in some places but it will be done with an even higher self awareness and kindness which your grandchildren will take that even further.
You are absolutely right! 100% Seeing this reflected in the relationship with my mom and elder relatives.
When you spoke of people becoming aware of themselves, it made me think that perhaps on a soul level then we are about 18 months old. That’s about the age at which babies are aware of themselves and how they impact their surroundings. It’s as if our development is like peeling back the layers of an onion. Intriguing 🤔
Imo the only way forward to real healing is full transparency from us and the previous generation.
I’m of course not saying you all individually need to bare it all out there. You both have done so much in the way of healing for those of us who follow by being as open and candid as you both have been
Thank you for sharing your insights! This content is so appreciated, validating and helpful.
I'm fortunate to have found this channel, always happy to be welcome black.. keep being great
Such a thought-provoking and important conversation. Thanks for sharing!
WOW, all I can say is that I love this. Thank you both so much! 🙏🙌🙂
Love this.
Ouch. Implication is unpredictable. Not everyone receives the same message. That is the issue.
Wow‼️ Powerful Truth‼️ You guys are so needed in our World ‼️ Thank you🙏✝️🕊🙌
Wow, sometimes you say something and it hits so hard. As I work to better myself as a mother and a fiancé, I'm addressing all of my issues.
But it's hard to not give my sisters the same wisdom when it comes to our parents, while trying to not hurt them. It's starting to waterfall onto my daughter, but I'm a lot more open with educating my child .
I don’t necessarily agree with that. Let’s say not all of them! I have confronted and dealt with things from my past! I have received inner healing and will continue to as the Lord brings these things to me. Or if I’m triggered I’m like ok why did I react like that! I’m not going to hold on to generational curses or anything that deeply hurt me! Life is too short! I don’t care how ugly it gets it’s coming out of my heart soul and mind! I’m 55 and I work on my thoughts and my mind constantly! With Jesus of course! I have been delivered of many things! You two are awesome! Life is hard but rewarding when you can be real and heal 🙌🏽❤️
I think that we must get them to a mindset of listening. That’s something that’s no longer done. Once their mindset of knowing everything changes to I could learn from a previous generation, there might be some significant growth. I love y’all’s discussion. 🤗🥰
YVETTE!!!! 🔥 🔥 🔥 🔥
I’m 35. Our parents generation mannnnn whew… I wanna say more but where do I start?!? I can’t get a word of truth out of my mom it’s very frustrating and feels like it’s hindering my own healing.
yup!! i’m 34. recently started the process of according that i cannot change my moms truth/reality, i can’t make her validate me.
*EXCELLENT* and *POWERFUL* and essential conversation. Continue your boldness and keep up the work!
AS A BABY BOOMER WHO HAS FACED HER DEMONS ....10 YEARS OF THERAPY ...AND STILL GROWING...
ALTHOUGH I CANNOT SPEAK FOR ALL OF MY GENERATION...SOME OF US "DID" TELL YA'LL ....BUT NO ONE LISTENED!!!
I AM 63 YEAR OLD MOTHER OF TWO.. MAN 43 AND WOMAN 32 YEARS OLD ...THE GRANDMOTHER OF 14...AND THE GREAT GRANDMOTHER OF 1...
AND THE STORIES I COULD TELL YOU🤣
BUT REMEBER MY GENERATION .. LIKE ŸOUR GENERATION ...ARE FIRST AND FOREMOST HUMAN BEINGS WITH NEEDS...FEARS...WANTS...AND DESIRES...
I HAD TO GRASP THAT ABOUT MY PARENTS WHILE GOING THRU THERAPY ...
BEFORE YOU BEAT UP ON US TO BAD🤣
P.S. SORRY ABOUT THE ALL CAPS ...OLD LADY TRYING TO SEE WHAT IM TYPING WHILE ON A 2 1/2 SCREEN...
There are people in every generation that stagnate, shamed, and or selfish. And because you lay a new path doesn’t mean the new generation will take it. For good and bad reasons.
This is so wonderful ❤. I wonder if there is a way to honor the older generation without implicating them in our story. I’m in the generation that you speak of now, I’m in the middle trying to understand the deep things that shape me and how to translate this to my child who is now an adult. I’ve told him many things but like Yvette said, I can’t tell everything for the sake of those before me. It is frustrating and I don’t want my child to feel lost trying to get it right and be my age still trying to figure it out.
Love this ! We have to be transparent and straight up, regardless. Talk your talk hun ❤
My mom was born in the 60s and you would think she didnt have a mom. I know nothing about her parents. She never talks about them and its hard because its like there is no legacy or nothing to learn from the past because its so secretive or nonexistent. I have to literally do genealogy research and come back and ask her to confirm what I found to uncover info. Be nice to your kids to those reading this. Y'all parents from the 60s and 50s, geeze!
Best podcast ever. First time hearing this but watch your vlog
AMEN!!!
You could’ve said it better Amen 😀💯‼️
Girl! This thing called Life can be a beautiful experience 24/7 but unfortunately there are assholes that like dysfunction at a moments notice.
This is truth on BIBLICAL proportions. Because the sins of the fathers. . .
#iykyk
I am from the generation before you. Quite a large number of my generation and the ones before are 'there', are seeking therapy, various healing modalities to learn, grow, break the cycles of intergenerational traumas, addictions and prejudices in all it's various forms and flavors.
But okay, love been marginalized, categorized as less than and dismissed to make a point....again.
🙏💜😔
If it does not apply to you, then let it go. This is an experience, based on the comments, that is very common for people of our generation with parents a generation above. we aren’t saying it to victimize you. it is what it is. every generation has done what has needed to survive and adapted in its own way to its obstacles.
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I wish they would have been honest with Us. Like it's crazy
Good stuff
Yvette. I hear you being high drama. There us balance. You have to serve others. Tell the story on the backend with perspective. You can't guarantee outcome or results Yvette. Telling it all but absolutely no guarantees.
Yea I know the amout of disclosure through content is'nt realistic, but as a gen z adult we don't really want to do anything unless we see as many benefits drawbacks as possibe for us to choose whether it's something that you want to commit to or not
Woooooowwww 👏🏿
Glen no no no. You don’t share everything. You r a couple. No no. You , your children and your friends need privacy. Please have privacy ……I don’t expect to know everything. That’s not fair to others. No be considerate
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@@doll.ov.poetrii4682 thanks. I wouldn’t want to be friends with someone who is going to tell the whole world and those kids also deserve privacy and respect. Example if they r grumpy one day they don’t need to be filmed. God almighty. They r little people and need breaks and love and guidance ect. Not ok wait I will get the camera example when Uriah was to clean a mess he made and Glen said come a do a better job the kid called him boy. I didn’t like it and Glen called him out on it and that’s ok. But at the end the child was crying and to me if Uriah said dad I don’t want everyone to see that respect him . I think already Theo is figuring it out and he might eventually say no dad I don’t want this to go out to the world. And he has a right to his opinion in his own space
@@sharonbrown6595 I agree! I still remember when Glen posted Theo had stolen a toy from his friend. I felt so bad for the child and that’s out there FOREVER!!
@@eve438 yes I forgot about that one too. Glen has to think about that. And as those kids get older they will want more privacy and if you can’t get it in your own home or room whatever than where can you????? Glen and yvette can say and do whatever they want with their lives but there has to be a limit for those children. I said I would like some bracelets and I live in Canada. Until my brother and I were talking and same in my family we made those crocheted dish cloths and sold them at a stand like glens kids did with bracelets. People in town wanted more and more of them, then people started complaining. We were kids and they were not the best made so they didn’t stay together well or they gave money and no product and then the craft became a chore for us kids. We didn’t want to do it anymore. It ended up my dad got mad and said my god people these r little kids and they don’t need a job. That’s why I said there r laws in Canada for just this idea in mind. FOR CHILDREN. and I don’t know if the law states this is “ child labour or child slavery “ I don’t remember. now I don’t know the laws of the USA but I do know in canada. Children have to be protected ..kids in Canada can not work unless the school says they r keeping up their marks or have the time. My girls tried at 16 and the school said no. Only one day of the weekend. My girls wanted to work the whole weekend and after school . It’s to much. They need time to be teens or kids ect ect
So I told Glen when the bracelet making becomes a chore for them and they don’t want to do it anymore. It’s ok I don’t need the bracelets that badly, when Glen was with his daughter and asked her how many they had made and she didn’t know. That’s a kid for you so Glen said to her about 20 and you need to make 60. That little girl has no clue what time , effort and dedication she needs for make 40 more. Does that make sense. .???
I really thought about this. When these kids r to make brackets but they instead want to play ball ride a bike swim whatever. Let them do things they enjoy. They will be working soon enough in life. What my dad did was he let us make these dish cloths for special occasions like a table at a flea market or at Christmas time for example but no more making them all the time. It was to much and then the craft becomes a chore not fun anymore. I love their bracelets but I am not going to say make them and sell them to me. Let these kids make money in their hometown not all over the world. It’s best to keep the projects small as they r young small people. And this way they can have spending money. They r beautiful children and I want them to enjoy their childhoods while they can because time goes so fast and soon they will be grown up and leave home.
All they need to know now is we all love the bracelets I do I think they r beautiful
I hope this makes sense. Sorry for the long rant. I am trying hard to make this understandable and my English is not the best
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You do not have to sacrifice yourselves. Other people can take up the cause as well, yes?
As a Christian, you seem to be taking on a bit of a worldly mindset instead of biblical understanding. We are told about the si ful nature and the last days how the generations would worsen and be lovers of self, sexually immoral, greedy etc. And we are to follow Jesus and be as he's asked us to be, even in the face of persecution. It's frustrating for sure. But we need to pray for them and for the Lord to be reveal to them. We are to embody Christ and share the gospel. We've been given all this information and wisdom and understanding. We are not to be of the world and the world is foolish without God/Christ as their saviour.