How To End A Relationship With LOVE w/Katherine Woodward Thomas
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Katherine Thomas is one of the best guests you’ve ever had Jonathon. She makes so much sense and is very enlightening. I couldn’t help but to be glued to this discussion. Excellent video! 🙌
She's great!!!
Wonderfully done you two. Jonathan I was wondering what happened to your relationship. Thank you for taking the step of opening up, sharing and discussing many good topics here. This is ground breaking information and discussion that you have addressed.
People need to learn it is ok and that they should be more civil and giving toward the one they so called loved in a break up, instead of throwing their "no longer wanted partner" to the curb like an old broken piece of furniture. May we all teach and live what you have discussed here.❤
WOW! Thank you
This is one of the best convos! You are lovely and valuable contributors to humanity. What authentic friends, conscious partners and interesting dinner guests you’d both be! Thank you!
Thank you so much!
Creating a conscious of kindness! Something that's missing I m society today! Excellent thought provoking video. We need more like this. And kudos to you Jonathan for being on hot seat and displaying your vulnerability! We are all human! So well done today!
Thank you 😊
I think that since the ex is a.Latina, she is probably more attracted to dominant men who aren't so sensitive
This women is lovely, her demeanor, knowledge and kindness is engaging. She had alot of good advice but there was one that I thought was so important: Distinguish what your CORE needs are because, yes, if the other person can at least fill those the other issues will not seem so bad. This was important for me anyway because being somewhat emotionally ,verbally abused by a parent , father has lead me to identify my core needs in a relationship. Sometimes abuse in childhood does not completely get healed all up, it can still show up and making a partner aware of what triggers those injuries is important. And she is right , usually our core needs will have something to do with our injuries in childhood. Very good video Johathon, excellent guest this evening.
Creating a culture of kindness whilst consciously uncoupling... such a lovely perspective from Katherine 🌷🙏🏽
It really is!
Katherine is such a beautiful soul. Thank you Jonathon, for this video and also for your huge contribution ❤
Glad you enjoyed it!
Jonathan, you have hit the spot.While I could finish the relationship with grace, my ex showed his very bad side.I have been traumatised with having new relationship, it still take me ages....and time flies
Exactly!
Awesome video! Thank you for your mission Jonathan!
Glad you enjoyed it!
Step 4 is what I call 'Thank you for breaking my heart' - I find the gifts I got from that experience with that person.
Thank you so much for having Katherine on. I learned so much from the valuable information you both shared. I hope we hear more from Katherine in the future. Thank you again for this what you share with us.
Actually, she's coming back in a few weeks.
@@JonathonAslay That's super! I look forward to what she has to share on her next visit. I always learn so much much. Thank you again!
By the way, Katherine's insight of your calling and impact, Jonathon, I believe is right on target. You have an amazing mission which has helped to restore and rebuild my life along with countless of other listeners. 🌟
Wow, thank you!
Yes Jonathon - being really clear with what we want - but also not be afraid to ask for it - AND not get it. Boy has this journey been expansive!
Exactly Katherine - that model keeps the trauma vibrationally in place. Letting go of that can challenge even shatter that identity and is threatening so people don't want to let go. My work has been about challenging that and moving through it. I LOVE your work!
I've watched a couple of your videos with Marie and she seemed like a beautiful person, but I remember you saying that you felt you weren't aligned in your initial meeting.
Your spirit/ intuition always knows the truth- the way
We need to always listen to it.
( I include myself here)
Every Blessing ❤
Some journeys are meant to be taken for a deeper healing... and that's what I got and I hope she did too.
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Thank you.
Love that!
I agree. I watched a few videos of Jonathon and Marie because I am a new follower (they looked good together) but seemed almost uncomfortable with each other honestly and sometimes threw each other under the under the bus (maybe unconsciously) - sort of like siblings do. It reminded me an ex I had as well - we actually end our relationship healthy and are still friends.
Loved this conversation. Thank you, Jonathon.
The most significant difference between dating in your 20s/30s and older ages is that getting married or having a child is no longer the first priority; in fact, it is probably the last priority for many mid-life daters. For me, I want to find a good life partner who would love to travel or engage in outdoor activities (hiking, road trips, etc.) together. There is a guy likes me and wants to become exclusive with, but since we have gone out as friends many times, I know he doesn’t have the money nor time to go on trips. This makes me think we are not compatible. I would rather find someone who can. I know many guys travel around, but I just need to find one who sees me the same way
Katherine is so real. Jonathan has so much perspective but I sense that he has to do some healing to do. I wish him the best .
Katherine is awesome, which stands to reason since I share two thirds of her name...albeit with a "C" rather than a "K"...LOL 😊
While the only uncoupling, or "Job experience" I've had was with my late husband after he passed away, I know I can apply her teachings towards much of my life before I pursue another significant relationship and successful partnership in the future. I'm grateful that you had her on your program and I'm looking forward to listening to her again! ❤
YES - I am a stand for that kind of love I didn't think was possible - but I KNOW is there somewhere sometime! Love it! But again, I would respectfully say that realizing how I ended up with 'that person' was part of my Soul growth. And I learned a LOT for myself and my relationship journey.
My amazing trauma therapist let me release. She listened to me. At the end she said you are healing. I had physical and emotional abuse. I knew I was good when I was able to forgive him. I don't wish to be friends with him. I have moved on. I'm good. I'm happy now.
Excellent! Thank you so much for this conversation ❤
Glad you enjoyed it!
That hits hard. I just bought that book. I feel like a relationship is a couch and it’s easy to move a couch with two people but so hard when you feel you are the only one “moving” the couch. I feel like dragging this “couch” around is damaging it. So I’m doing a lot of work on hopefully our relationship but mostly myself for incase there is no real commonality for the relationship ongoing. Thanks for the video and the book
Jonathan I’ve been in so many videos with you but Katherine Woodward Thomas she’s great. I saw a great detail of different insights. I’m a heavy reader & I definitely see every point; very certain on her viewing of seeing & explaining things!!❤😊
She's great
Jonathon - this is why I want to create a dating space where there is education/guidance and vetting along with matching people together. Join me in the creation! You too Katherine! You rock!
Exactly!!!
This was Awesome! Helpful and very enlightening! So many gold nuggets to take into future relationships. Thank you both so much!
Glad you enjoyed it!
Very enlightening Jonathon and Katherine Loved the conversation.
I love this! I too went through divorce recently... We were married for 23 years but together for 30.. We have 3 wonderful boys together.. After the mess of it all.. Also I am not from a divorced family so it was very hard for me and wanting to sit down and do a meditation not attorneys involved but he chose the rough way sadly.. I decided I have to come to terms with what is and make my boys first priority .. I needed them to know that just because their dad and I are not together we can co-parent respectively.. We do get together for some holiday celebrations .. Its good knowing we can sit down and have basic conversations yet we still have not had conversations about him walking out . Maybe one day we will .
Thank you for all you do .. I look forward to your videos daily.. Now Im in self reflection mode and wanting to work on myself before dating.. We can all do some work on ourselves. I will definitely look for these books ..❤
Such a fantastic talk- I know I will be rewatching this.
JOHNATHON...... THIS LADY IS GREAT AND EASY TO UNDERSTAND!!!!THANKYOU, FOR BRINGING HER TO US. NOW I NEED TO FIND MYSELF AND NOT TO RELY ON SOMEONE ELSE....FIRST !!!!!
( AUSTRALIA 🇦🇺 ❤❤XOXO)
Oh wow that's was incredible!! I learnt so much...much love from Australia 🤗🇦🇺
Glad you enjoyed it!
Wow...amazing woman with such wisdom! Totally was able to resonate with her views on relationships! Bravo Johnathon on this incredibly amazing interview!
She's great... I agree!
I do really relate to the challenge of having a 'mission' and recognizing when another person might pull me off of that because they don't align or aren't in the same place or share that kind of intention. Arrrggghhh - this is what has me wonder with such a high purpose or commitment to assisting Humanity if I will ever find a true deep partner. WHERE are the men with deep purpose and who can mutually be supportive! And yes yes yes on allowing MY needs to matter instead of questioning if it is okay to ask for them. Thank you Katherine - I am done downplaying my deep needs. I need what I need and it is OKAY and necessary! I also have to say, when I do express needs or set a boundary and the person doesn't respect it, I have had to accept being pushed back upon and be seen as not fun or whatever because I am being the adult. It is so frustrating but I have learned I just have to walk away with grace.
I can't totally agree with Katherine - our brains are being rewired now as we Awaken and raise consciousness - so yes we have to do the work, but we can indeed move beyond our past, we are healing our ancestral legacies and able to rewire at the level of our DNA. I do believe too that this means how we define relationship has changed and is changing. Makes this dating process even more challenging.
This was beautiful to observe 🌹
Glad you enjoyed it
This is the best relationship channel ever ❤!! I loved this too, extremely interesting viewpoints. I have to admit I was left still feeling a bit overwhelmed or confused by all the information, because what Kathryn was saying seemed quite complex. I’ll get the books and see if it will help me get clear on it all. I also don’t fully agree with taking 💯 ownership or fault, because when you’re in abusive relationships, you sometimes have no idea you’re actually being abused, or that the person is a narcissist or whatever. You’re a victim and it’s quite dangerous to place blame on survivors of abuse for example. Would you say this to a child? No you wouldn’t and some of us have childhood wounds we didn’t know we had. It’s only when we go to therapy we recognise that we do. A more helpful narrative may be to congratulate yourself for RECOGNISING or freeing yourself from that and know that although the abuse was traumatising, you can now move on with this knowledge and wisdom to never do this to yourself again Xx
I believe there are clues or compromises people make in the very beginning and yes, owning one's power is part of the process...
@@corgigirluser What specific WORDS came out of my mouth that even remotely suggested I condone or believe a person deserves physical or emotional abuse?
@corgigirluser I've said they are equally responsible for their part... I never said equal and once again, which words did I use to suggest I condone abuse?
@corgigirluser that's your opinion and I am done with this conversation...
@@corgigirluserhe corrected you once that both parties in an abusive relationship are NOT equally responsible so anyone would be done with a conversation once hard headedness is established just to continue to bash somebody. Why don’t you join a political party where this is very much the fashion and leave well meaning people alone.
Heads up. Being alone isn't so bad. And I'm a single widow
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Absofeckinglutely! A best seller. 😂
Some point of view when new journey might'be happily and loyalty endless. Love
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This was a very helpful and healing ❤️🩹 share. Thank you..🙏🦋❤️
Happy to hear
Love you love learning & self growth, love the information. . ...
Don't love all the commercials. This particular video the commercials are excessive and completely ruins the great content.
I appreciate that!
That is very interesting- contraction. I feel I'm going through it. Thank you for your clarification. ❤
Glad it was helpful!
Beautiful!! Thank you, Both! 🫂
Thank you too!
Some has been broken after 19 years
43:46 When did we become a couple? When did we break up? My cousin and I had to start seeing me with another man for him to get angry at me and for me to be interested in him. Now, I'm sitting back in my feminine and maybe he'll tell me if he's is still interested in me. I don't want to be an avoidant, but as an anxious I was making him feel bad. He actually felt that I had more time than I do! He felt bad for not having time to do anything with me! So, I wasn't appreciating that he wanted to use time and money to actually be completely free to be with me and take it slow. Instead of ghosting him, I want to be in a secure place for my busy bee. Prudently, giving him time to declare his true intentions with me or simply for him to show it.
You can't complain to friends/family because they gaslight you into martyrdom! So, they don't know you as much as your partner, right??? I had to hide my marriage to everyone! I wasn't hiding my feelings for my cousin and even he told me that that's why we hadn't been official. My dad is convinced that my cousin just uses me for entertainment, but then he would imagine that I was playing with my cousin's feeling if he weren't my own father!
Exactly!!!
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One answer opens one hundred questions
Interesting
Great guest video, Jonathon! I'm currently fixated on attachment styles! I'd like a book that features an assessment questionnaire and score. I want to use that to keep my mind on secure mode no matter who tempts me to behave with anxiety. There are so many books out there on attachment. Have you seen a book or document with such assessment as I described? I have an audiobook on the one you suggest and a print that is over 860 pages long, but I want a questionnaire. Please 🙏.
Thank you
@@JonathonAslay Thank you, J! Big hugs! 🙏
But Jonathan realize that you don't know it all. I see that you are a relationship coach. You just saw that you can't know it all. What's important is to be new again. When I'm ready again that's what I'm going to try to be. No comparing, no measuring another person against another. Jonathan, have you ever been to therapy?
Yes
People don't understand what REAL love is.
They don't know how to be healthy in love
Sad and often true
Agree. For men it is all about lust and limerance.
❤
Great conversation. I thought Katherine's thoughts on therapy were interesting. I have dated men who made fun of therapy and I was turned off by this - no self-awareness.
Indeed
@@cc-jn4kk I agree somewhat as therapy isn't always the answer, but it does help some people - it did for me. I found a great therapist after having some terrible experiences and I do think it does helps with self-awareness - you chose select partners based on one of your parents. My ex went to one therapy session and stormed out because she was able to figure out his issues right away. My ex is still a self-absorbed narcissist and married a people pleasing doormat to cater to his ego. Some people don't want to deal with their issues and live an unconscious life.
You know what they say the rapist. You have shop around for therapists and or doctors. Not everybody is a good or even knowledgeable person. My mother who graduated first in her RN class got ulcers from watching what she called a brilliant doctor in the scientific arena having the worst bedside manner. She had to quit and they were dealing with cutting edge stuff with transplants and it was exciting. She saw many families suffer losses of young adult family members due to rejection of organs and said these families suffered terribly. She then turned to endocrinology and really enjoyed it but had to have a spiritual awakening to find her true calling and that was in hospice dealing specifically with Alzheimer’s patients and their families and it’s gut wrenching what these families go through and hospice involves the entire family ( not just the patients). My mother learned how valuable her skills were and had a passionate calling after experiencing what horrible bedside manner looks like. So you can make a difference in this world one person at a time. Very simple really and can follow your heart as you do it.
@@cc-jn4kk true about the different deal breaker stuff.
Also some people treat therapy like it’s a recreational activity and the “ in” thing to do. I agree that many folks just vomit out their problems without really engaging in the real work that it takes to improve one’s self. For me it’s what matters most to God that directs me and it still takes willingness on my part. The truth isn’t always pretty. We all have strengths and weaknesses and sometimes you can even use the skill in your strong areas to work on your weaker areas. Balance is also important and can usually be achieved with prioritizing what is important.Nobody is on their death bed wanting just a few more days to work or play. They want any extra time they get to be around the people that matter the most to them. So relationships are the stuff of life and with people having busy lives it can feel lonely for those who are single or even people who are not in a close connected relationship but may even be married.
It’s been a long while since I’ve tuned in. I’m really enjoying this episode. Thank you for still learning and sharing your knowledge with us🙏🏼🤍
Glad you enjoy it!