Do not be deceived people… Marriage is a LIFELONG commitment. Before you jump the broom to say I do, you better make sure that it’s with the person you plan to commit to for a lifetime! This society has normalized divorce and it’s sad. I don’t get how a failed marriage can be considered a success??? That’s madness!
you do understand people change their minds and get tired. and sometimes the people they married prob aren’t the people they are now? who said a failed marriage is a success ?? she obviously said she was sad over it but girl is moving on to big and better things . why stay sad ?
I will say some marriages absolutely need to end and its not always a failure. But yes I don't understand this notion of I was unhappy so we got a divorce. Did your spouse do something wrong amd inexcusable? Did they cheat? You can't just wake up one day decide/realise you are unhappy and think the solution is to get a divorce. Nobody is happy all the time you know, you go through periods of highs and lows but like you said marriage is a life long commitment for better or worse you can't just leave because you felt unhappy
Unfortunately people change. The person you might’ve made that lifetime commitment too could’ve changed. I remember hearing a woman call a man she’s been married to for 40 something years unrecognizable.
She trying to not speak bad on him… she said a lot of nothing but it’s clear she wasn’t happy bc u don’t divorce someone bc u wana focus on u and career u can do that with a husband and kids still. It’s more to the story but she doesn’t owe us that
Exactly. 'Cause she said all that to say nothing lol. Happiness and self-love is not exclusive of the other people you've been focusing on. If that were the case, she would've given him full custody of the children so she could really focus on herself. Of course she wouldn't think to do that because the reality is that most women aren't going to "self-love" way away from children or girlfriends. They realize the value of their life growing *with* them... Her IG posts used to mainly be goofiness and fashion, now she turned up the sex appeal...I think she really looked at herself. Looked at him and believed she could do better lol. So she got rid of the dead weight and she's putting out the signal lol.
my grandparents had moments where things went horrible yet they grew and matured through the storms of life as grandma said we didn’t always like each other but at the end of the day we loved each other
@@salomekabinga3282 - When she said “know your value, know your worth” it became clear to me that he was cheating on her. She is just trying not to say it explicitly because she is a classy woman and good mother and doesn’t want to air her family’s dirty laundry or publicly trash talk the father of her children.
I thought I was in the same place and almost ended my marriage. I then realized my husband had nothing to do with my happiness- that was all on me. I was happy before I met him, and I was happy when I met him, so he nor the marriage subtracted from my happiness. I was almost deceived to think he was the reason I started feeling unhappy. Through Jesus and therapy, I found my happiness again with him being by my side to enjoy it with me. Now, we’re happy together again! Sometimes, weathering the storm isn’t easy, but the sun does eventually shine again. I noticed Tia hasn’t professed to be Christian in years. That may have something to do with it too.
Yes because all people and all people that aren’t christian will get a divorce/ be unhappy.. Or they must be damned to divorce if they’re not Christians. Religious ppl’s thinking is so one tracked and ignorant, smh.
@Serve and Rejoice that’s really too bad if she’s messing my w that if that is true. That’s an abomination to G-d. Hollywood is difficult and there’s a lot of pressure. I used to work in the industry and it can be very soul draining!
So what abt the husband?? He need support too, he's human being as well, However, Hollywood relationship don't normally last anyways maybe just 1% does.
Sometimes there is nothing to bash about. It seems like she decided to leave the marriage solely based on her unhappy/emotions. That does not mean that her husband played a part in that.
Marriage isn't always about happiness, especially if you're wanting your spouse to make you happy. People tend to confuse happiness with marriage then get disappointed when it doesn't happen.
I love this comment.... I always say and try to live by 'it's not healthy to depend on someone else for YOUR happiness.' I want to be happy single or married🙂
The problem is sometimes the spouse is the source of your misery when they’re tormenting you every day, which was why I left mine. I realized there was no point sticking around to be tormented and abused. Could never be happy in that whether I looked to him as the source of happiness or not.
The exact same thing happened to me a year ago. I lost my brother and then the following spring my cherished uncle who was like a father to me. I too realized that life is far too short to be unhappy and have no peace. Needless to say changes were immediately made.
@@travelseatsyellowlab I thought so too.... however, the relationship was emotionally, mentally, and fiscally abusive for years... I didn't have the courage to leave when I should have.... for all the reasons women in those situations don't. It was a long time coming and losing two of the closest people to me was beyond reflective. It made me realize I'd rather be dead than simply exist in misery and depression. Compiling the existing emotional and mental state and then adding grief and extreme loss was something I could not sign up for. I wouldn't have made it through. I needed support and a safe place to grieve.
@@beautiful_wonderfullymade no I left because I had been being abused for years. I thought I had made that clear. I stayed because I thought it was best for my family but losing those that truly loved me made me realize I was teaching my children not to love themselves and to accept abuse for the sake of others.
I will Never Normalize unhappiness. Seasons change. People change… What you Put up with in your 20’s and 30’s Seems Different in Your 40’s. She Looks Way Happier Now then when she was with Him. Marriage is Not for Everyone. And Hear this Women. The Only One who will Ever Love ❤️ You Unconditionally is Jesus! He Literally Died 4 You. Respectfully Single.Happy.and Proud🙏🏾
It’s the character and integrity for me. There are some things that should be kept private and she is doing an awesome job at protecting that. I wished they could have made it wk but God knows what go’s on behind closed doors. I am wishing her nothing but the best!
Tia is just jealous that Corey is working and she is not working. He is on the number-one show in the nation right now. She is the only one out here trying to bash him so he could get canceled from his job. She needs to go and find several seats. Cory is working with a strong cast and they will support him no matter what Tia.
@@millihuggins1688...Tia is not Jealous of her ex husband and his job now...She has several businesses and still making money in her sleep...so all that your saying pls stop it...she never bashed Cory...these outlets trying to get blood from a Turnip...and far as Cory is on a show now...FINALLY...IM SURE SHES HAPPY N HE IS TO...BUT NEVERTHELESS...SIS IS JUST NOW LIVING LIFE...AND JUST ENJOYING THE FRUIT OF HER LABOUR
It is ignorant to marry for happiness. Happiness is a result of what is happening. Been married 16 yrs, challenges have come but instead of focusing on trying to be happy in those challenges, we focused on our love, true commitment to God and our vows. And NO he or I never cheated but even if that was the case, I’m committed to my vow, hard work, love, growth and joy which my Bible tells me that this world didn’t give and cannot take away.
I feel the exact same way I’m 28 I been with my husband since I was 16 got married at 25 with him I always pray the lord keeps us grounded and surrounded by him we always put him first ! We pray !! But I totally agree with you ❤🙏🏼💫‼️
Maybe ignorant to you ... Whatever people's reasons are .. it is THEIR reasons why they get married .... someone could easily say that it was ignorant of you to get married at 16 too . .. however that is YOUR business ... That is why it is called life ... we figure it out ...
I agree that it’s ignorant to marry for happiness but i would never and could never stay committed to a cheater, that’s flat out disrespect and i would never be able to respect him after that.
You have to love yourself. Because people pleasing will kill you. The more you do the less they do. That not living that surviving. Peace is priceless.
How relationship can steal your joy.? You are the one that creates joyful environment in your marriage. And that's the mission of a feminine, friendly and fit woman.
When she said “know your value, know your worth” it became clear to me that he was cheating on her. She is just trying not to say it explicitly because she is a classy woman and good mother and doesn’t want to air her family’s dirty laundry or publicly trash talk the father of her children.
I'm seeing a lot of post concerning marriage and it being a life long commitment, but I have seen and known way too many women/men who have tried and tried in their marriages and wasted so much time trying to stick with a marriage that is no longer serving it's purpose. People are unhappy trying to MAKE it work.
been there done that so after 32 years I gave Kenny the divorce he wanted. after 4 marriage therapist later I was done trying and he had given up along time ago. So he moved into assisted living...then to a nursing home then in 2019 he died. I played wife til then end of his life...we got along better that way...sad but true.
That's because neither one of them were marriage material or one of them was never marriage material. Who filed? 85% of women file men are leaving their family. The Modern Woman are home wreckers because they walk away so easily. Then they go on healing journeys and my truth tour's. The women of old were made of better stuff than today's modern women. PERIOD!!!
Tia is handling this very well and i applaud her. She is not acting bitter or like a woman scorned. I believe she is giving women who are in toxic marriages feeling stuck hope again. To stay in a marriage for image or convenience is unhealthy. She realized life is short and if she isn’t getting what she wants now then she most likely never will. If she doesn’t look out for her happiness who will.
She handled it terribly because that's 14 years he could have had children with a real women that could handle staying. Everyone really thinks he didn't have the same thoughts if leaving. Always remember that when you are looking across the room at your man. Thinking I'm tired of his ass and want to leave. He is looking back you saying I would really love to have a young Thang jut stays because of duty to you and his kids.
@@kevinmcghee8935 she wins because she has her peace!! Peace is priceless. He can chase young woman for the rest of his life if that’s what makes him happy. She has her kids, her money, her career, her dignity, and sanity. It’s really sad when people stay around and they are not happy that leads to emotional and health issues.
@@DarlingWheresthecoffee That's a good question I am not going after her just because she us a women. We as men have to also take accountability when Ieaving our marriages. You and I both know that's not usually how it goes. Women get bored 80 percent of the time just like her. Most if you women waste our time and years then leave like you are now some kind if new women. More like a new fool nobody wants her old ass but she, you, and many other women break up homes everyday. Knowing it will get boring soon or later uts life.
My parents are almost in their 70’s, they coexist in the same house and live a very separate life from each other. They do have the same friends from 60 years ago and will attend events with each other. It works for some people but if you are ready to really move on and start a new life, do it for your own sanity.
@@travelseatsyellowlab but aren't they? I'm sure they still love each other but they gave up a long time ago actually being with each other. The go through the motions of living life together while in reality living it separately. No offense to the person who commented. But they gave up in other ways whether they simply drifted or stayed out of obligation. That isn't really a successful marriage if you're just married just to be married. Like the commentor said some people can do that but others just can't especially if they feel trapped
@@terynb4407 exactly that’s what I understood from the original comment. Her parents live together but are living separate lives. That’s not a marriage.
@@terynb4407 that happened to my grandparents too. They we’re legally married but lived apart. My grandma lived with one of my aunts and my grandpa lived with one of my uncles. When my grandpa passed my grandma was sobbed so hard. It wasn’t that she didn’t love him but the romantic part was gone decades ago
I'm so happy for her. No need to stay in a non full filling relationship. I admire how she's keeping whatever that went wrong under wraps because she's aware that her children will see this and how she handled it and out of respect for her ex. It really isn't any of our business to know what really happened but Im sure she sought help and advice and concluded that her reason was serious enough to come to end it. No reason to stay miserable to prove to the world that your happily married. Good on her.
@@allyssacook5350 Well said. I'm so happy to see people now embracing mental, spiritual health over keeping up with the Jones'. You only have this life to live...if the season has come to an end, learn the lessons, take stock and....respectfully bow out. People are in your life for a reason or a season.
Marriage failure should not be something we praise. Sad. My husband and I are married for the long haul. I like Tia but she make it seem like she's so strong....it's OK to stay positive and cry.
@J D if it was toxic, she wouldnt be praising him and still posting i love you to him. Please, ive been in toxic abusive realtionships. Shes part of the agenda of singleness over marriage for "true happiness". Shes a false christian.
I agree, why married women can't get this much support WHILE married, I love th empowerment but it says that the only way to accumulate this is to leave. Now, if its dangerous, mentally and emotionally unstable..GO! but to reach that evolution of self, it is possible to do so while married. just my perspective..
Thé deaths she is talking about happened over five years ago. So if that caused her to take a deeper look at her life and marriage also means she’s been unhappy for sometime and tried to work it out for awhile before leaving, that’s why she seems to have processed the ending of her marriage quickly, but it wasn’t a quick decision.
I’m married for 36 years, me and my husband just Tom and Jerry but the end sweet to each other, because God is in the middle of us and we bless 4 beautiful children.
Big up to people when their marriage is facing the storm they stick through it I was watching how people who are celebrating 50 and 60 add years in marriage and just say to myself these are people who stay in these long marriages go through for better and for worst they stand firm in their commitment I just say this is type of marriage I want to have .
Tia seemed like she was holding back tears. Like she really wants to cry. She is trying really hard to remain strong. That's good but stop coming on these shows, social media and doing interviews. Then you won't feel the need to prove to everyone that your fine. Divorce is hard and unpleasant enough. Without having to explain and convince everyone that your good.
How is , being married for 14 years, waisting each others time and putting kids in the middle of it, a successful marriage? How did you , after 14 years, decide that it was time to put yourself first? That should've happened BEFORE marriage and children. I wish the best for the family but this just breaks my heart. Then on top of that, your getting so much attention from it... This world glorifies divorce and a whole lot more things that are just down right sad
Why can’t people have self love and still maintain a happy and healthy marriage? So many people get married/even get into a relationship because the person “ makes them happy” you have to be genuinely happy with you, your husband/wife should only add to your happiness, they should not be the ultimate reason your happy. This is why divorce rate is thru the roof. When you have learned to truly be happy with yourself, your can then enhance your happiness as a collective
If you read between the lines you can tell that Corey was good to her. She was dealing and possibly still dealing with the loss of close loved ones and now shes dealing with her own mortality so she wants to live her life for her. Women are celebrating her actions and missing what marriage is all about. 14 years is a long time and to leave your partner who loved you and did right by you and his children is not something to celebrate. I empathize with her cause many of us deal with loss. Some more than others. We all cope with loss differently. I feel sorry for Corey that he lost the love of his life. Sending healing energy to both of them.
@@jayybabiimusic1315 we are all in some degree selfish. I totally understand why you feel that way and about her being a narcissist. One thing about narcissist is they also make their faults the faults of others. Pointing the blame on others for their issues. She never said a single bad word about her ex husband which she had every opportunity to do so rather it was true or not. I think she wanted to be able to do what she wants with no guilt or restrictions before her time expires. I could be wrong. You very well could hit the nail on the head.
@@jayybabiimusic1315 take two seconds to check the definition of basic English words before you use them in the wrong context. You sound utterly ridiculous and it’s clear you have no clue what narcissism means.
I’m tired of women breaking up their marriage, to “love yourself” or “find themselves” that’s bs! Just say the truth, you don’t love your spouse anymore and that’s it! I don’t understand how they can just break off their family like that, such a selfish choice.
Yes I just went through the same thing I started traveling with my sista circle and I loved it. I was married to a Narc. He traveled and when I decided to put me first after 25 years he couldn't handle it!
Hard thing because yes, we as women need to focus on our happiness, but be careful. Your kids’ happiness also matters. Hardest thing I ever had to witness was what leaving a relationship did to our kids.
What is right for you is what is right for your children. If you are unhappy, it will bleed to their lives. Fights and energy can lead to children feeling. Anxiety and a feeling of constantly walking on eggshells can appear.
When you know, you know, the realization came to me when I was looking at old pictures of me how happy and how much I smiled on those pictures compared to my pictures a couple of years after I got married I was barely smiling and you could see the unhappiness on my face. I wasn’t my old self, I was changing who I was to make someone else happy but I was miserable.
Wow. That can happen at times. Maybe you just need to regroup and know your are while in the marriage. Therapy for yourself and you guys together that can help and along .
Well said Ma'am! Nowadays being a divorced woman is a trend. Mariage isnt about happiness but duty towards each other. Only in disney movies happiness is what marrying is for. What if you marry someone and after 1 year he become sick? You'll leave because you dont feel happy? Being married is a duty. I'm a married man and every morning I have to go to work even though I dont want to but I have to do it to keep my family running.
@@bigjude100 going to work to support yourself and family is not synonymous with her decision to divorce. You’d have to still work regardless if you’re married or not.
One of the biggest problems today is SELF LOVE!!! Everyone is so caught up in selfishness, selfies, self happiness, and everything SELF that they are self destructing.
That's deep. When she thought about HER she knew it was time. So for so long she never put her 1st but put sadness first. Now she's free. We-as women, do this all too many times.
I think all that means is she realized she deserves someone who really wants her. Not that she was sad. She may have been happy for a long time because she was pushing down her subconscious knowledge that he was not fulfilled/truly happy
I read that he wouldn't help pay bills, and I read something about an allegation of him cheating. I don't know that to be true, it was something read, but kudos to her for not speaking badly about him, because all that matters are the kids, and her happiness. I wish her nothing but the best, and I'm sure that she will find happiness again, if she isn't already happy.
This self love she is talking about...in more transparant words: She realized that Corey wasn't contributed to her happiness nor to their union. she was making the sacrifices...
We should allow God to choose our life partners. Never jump into a marriage just because you want a ring because you never know what the future looks like and it’s sad when things have to end
If you think marriage is about happiness you are sadly mistaken. Marriage is about most importantly the stability of children in a society, everything else comes after, she's a fool for destroying her marriage because she's not grown or mature enough to seek counselling so both her and her husband die to self and surrender their egos.
“But understand this, that in the last days there will come times of difficulty. For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, proud, arrogant, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy,” (2 Timothy 3:1-2 ESV)
I love how Tia is getting her life back if she was sad and felt like her happiness didn't matter so she did what was best for her kudos to her I wish her and Corey the best co-parenting their beautiful children
I'm sure God, who is totally not known as a vengeful dude, will make sure she gets what she deserves, I mean it's not like she took vows or made promises in his eyes or anything...
This situation is between her and her husband, the most important in a marriage is to put God first, and communicate, communicate, communicate. Couples today seem like they like the easy way out, if you aren't being abused verbally and physically, understand to get out And f it can be worked out, try to work in it, and if you love the person which is more important as well, then it can work. But today divorce is so glorified and if I'm unhappy, get out of it. That is your choice, but no one gives marriage a chance anymore, seem like some goes with the flow, everyone else getting a divorce, so I guess I will also.. Pray Tia find happiness in whatever she is seeking.
I definitely understand your perspective but because she was raised Christian, got married young, I’m sure she didn’t make this decision over night. 14years isn’t something you end because of just happiness- she must have been very unhappy for a long time. Also, no telling all of what we don’t know. From outside looking in (again, I don’t know) she always showed she adored him, him not so much. We never truly know but I get your perspective in general.
Communication doesn't always help. Sin is the problem. The solution is humility. To humble oneself or both selves and work to maintain the marriage... flat out neglecting your partner sexually or even refusing to listen to them is sin. People are not as good as one thinks... we are vile, selfish, and unloving sinners. The Bible says this, not me.
@@mybigfatexpatlife6865 The Bible is abusive so no surprises there. But what can you expect from a glorified EVOLUTION? What is the difference between the story of creation and evolution? I'd say there are the same. Being made of mud and being called DUST is no better than evolution.
I get it. It doesn’t matter how much money I make, even if it’s legacy money I want a man actively contributing to the household not thinking it’s okay to live off me while they try to save their money and lead a selfish life because “I can afford it”. Tia did the right thing. No matter how nice of a guy he is, financial abuse is a real thing
Hmm his net worth states he’s a millionaire.. do you reckon that still constitutes ‘financially abusing’Tia. I think a million is a fine contribution to the household if you ask me😂
I believe most wealthy women that really built their own wealth don't see a value in marriage. Marriage is great for two people that has an average income and want to come together and grow but if you're very wealthy man or woman you don't see the value of marriage.
I'm in that phase of really checking in with myself because I feel that same sadness she was talking about and always taking care of other people and not myself. Luckily im not married nor have kids , so my decisions wont effect others around me and it's easier to make those changes. Please take.your time in life and don't rush to have all the things ppl are told we should have. If we're meant to have a family and kids it will happen when it happens. Find who you are and chase after that first.
When you get married you make a covenant not only with the person but God. It's not about self, it's about each other... better or worst, sickness and in health... If he did not abuse her, or cheat... just walking away to find yourself with two children seems very self-absorbed. Ijs... since she continues to put this narrative out there. Marriage is not until you want something different or now I'm different.
I'm so proud of Tia ,she is admitting this is a challenge. But at the end of the day. Cory is no longer her parents. But her children's father for life. That still makes him family with all that she is looking ahead ,and working on loving tia as a single mother , and human beings. She is choosing to be happy. I'm loving her strength right now. Many prayers of strength Tia❤❤❤
Those vows are to be acted upon. It's not about a feeling. Feelings come and go all the time for many reasons. For better, for worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do you part. People only go by feelings. Marriage is work, 24/7 365 days a year. If it's abusive or there's habitual cheating, then yes, leave it. Otherwise, work it out!
It's so sad how the media rushes once marriages are broken and not care about the kids.when you are depressed they hide while taking videos of your breakdowns
Marriage was a horrible experience. I felt invisible. I'm happier divorced. Because at least now I'm in control and can meet my needs when and how I decide.
A marriage is the joining into one, so if you felt "invisible" you didn't understand a basic principle of being of spouse. The duty of a wife is not about you as an individual at all. Your whole reasoning for breaking a covenant with the Most High sounds incredibly selfish.
I admire her strength to put herself first. She gave it a long run. 20 years is long enough to do anything. She gave it her all until she couldn’t give to that relationship anymore. Wishing her the best :)
Why glamorize failure. Yes everyone deserves to be happy but to glamorize a failed marriage is ridiculous. Most marriages fail because of selfish reasons and lack of compromise
Tia and Tamera both are such amazing women and mothers. You can tell just how great their parents were at raising them as well as their brothers. I’ve been a fan of them ever since Sister, Sister and all of the other roles they had especially when I was growing up. I loved their episode of “Are You Afraid of the Dark” and I loved their reality show they had. I’m still so bummed that The Real was cancelled as well. I know Tamera had left by the time the show ended but I absolutely loved that talk show. I wish Tia all the best! ❤ She seems like she has a great outlook on life. I’m sure her and Cory will be great at coparenting.
@@HurtButNotDefeated yeah, so inspiring that she would break her marriage vows over the flimsiest and selfish of excuses. This generation of women is in serious trouble.
I'm not going to argue with people in the comments but for the people that don't seem to get it here's the bottom line..she was already a successful actor who married a man who was broke at the time and settled for him, he didn't contribute much to the marriage and she was carrying a heavy load of basically providing for her whole family for years with no help from him, she also loved him more than he loved her which never works out. She obviously can see that it's time to move on and possibly find a better man who will actually provide for her and truly love her for who she is and not what she can give him. Women do deserve happiness you know.
@@theoo149 its was very obvious. Watch any interview with them and it was very obvious by the way she talked and looked at him she was more invested than him. He always looked like he was on some other planet
Wow this is what happens when society is obsessed with their own happiness. I wonder why don't they add that line to the vows moving forward, "You need to be happy and it's all about your happiness in this marriage" and the moment you dont experience happiness, get a divorce. Marriage is about dying to self. I wonder if her children are happy? Is Corey happy? But as long as she is happy that's all that matters right? Mxm New Age has damaged the way people think. The Bible says in the last days man will be lovers of themselves
Good for you Tia. Folks do what’s most healthy for yourself and ultimately that decision will be best for everyone else involved. Definitely more to the story. What I will say is that once you start doing that internal work, your soul will not allow you nor want you to remain in the same energy/position/environment. It will force you to move forward, especially so if that other person isn’t on the same path. Everyone we get involved with and even marry isn’t meant to be “forever” sometimes they are lessons. We learn and move forward.
Her sister Tamera did the work and joy, peace, self-confidence and calmness shows on her face. I hope Tia finds joy and love within herself. The Hoda and Jenna interview was a little unfair because she does not appear ready to talk about her relationship ending.
So she's saying she wasn't happy in her marriage... 🤔 I work on myself while I'm married, I find peace, joy, crazy days, no perfect day, I love being married... this sounds like an excuse... 🙄
I don't understand her, she made a mistake if she thought self love meant breaking up your home , she just needed therapy. That self love won't be looking good in a few years
Marriage is not meant to be self fulfilling…..it’s SO sad to see this over and over again. I can not imagine breaking vows I made before God and my husband because I don’t ‘feel’ happy all the time. I’ve had dark days in my marriage and wanted to escape but there is a greater purpose than myself. I’m not the center of my world. My son and my husband and my testimony are SO important to me, I fiercely protect my marriage.
Getting legally married is just a social convention, so the customs and rigidity of it don't have to be that way. Just because vows say 'for better, for worse' isn't a convincing argument because those words were put in the vows by other people and we shouldn't just keep a social convention when it doesn't serve us anymore. The point of our lives is to make ourselves happy, contribute to the happiness of the people around us and leave the world better than we found it. It can be so easy for people to grow away from each other without either of them doing anything wrong. If you and your partner haven't grown together and it ruins your compatibility and that causes long term unhappiness for you both, why on earth would you stay together? And why would you teach kids that sitting in your unhappiness is a good way to live your life?
Tia went from an Adorable Twin to a Fully Grown Woman who is a Classy Top Shelf Act. She is being fair with the Public without allowing it to invade her personal Peace or violating the wellbeing of her Family. Mama Bear vibes stay on high at all times. Even though their marriage is no more, they are learning to become family in a new way. I'm glad she is going to allow herself to enjoy her own energy, it's well deserved. Divorce isn't the resolution in all relationships but if it has to be may it be amicable.
My husband is from Turkey and he told me that foreigners think all Americans are always get divorced and that we truly do not value marriage and family. I understand why they have that perspective of us.
I CANT REALTE. ME AND MY HUBBY WENT THE OPPOSITE. WE WENT THRU SHIT WAS DAMN NEAR ENEMIES FIRST 10 YEARS. THEN I CHANGED HE CHANGED. WE GOT COUNSELING TOGETHER AND SEPARATE. AND EVERYTHING NEGATIVE TURNED TO POSITIVE .WE KEPT FAMILY AT ARMS LENGH.BECUASE ITS ALWAYS DRAMA.I HANDLED MY VUNERABILITY ISSUES OPENED UP.AND THE FLOOD GATES OPENED.I PRAYED EVERY DAY.NOW WE HAVE SO MUCH PEACE AND SO MUCH NASTY FREAKY ASS SHENANIGANS. WE GREW THE FUCK UP FOR REAL .AND IM SO DAMN HAPPY SO IT HE.WE LEARNED TO RESPECT EACH OTHER DIFFERENCES INSTEAD OF TRYING TO CONTROL ONE ANOTHER. BEEN TOGETHER SINCE 19 SO WE GREW UP.THATS MY BEST FRIEND IM HIS
Y’all pay attention! Way before they divorced she was serving herself on a silver platter on social media. It was obvious by her actions she has been screaming for attention for a long time. Maybe he wasn’t giving her the attention she wanted. Not certain, but I can definitely tell when someone has placed themselves back on the market.
I know there's more to it than what this sip of info she gave. However, you can work on your happiness while being in a committed relationship. It's called making room for growing. Both people must commit to this more than anything, because we don't know what will come at us in life. So, allowing people to conform to the new part is necessary. I believe there's more layers to this than "I need to be happy". No, I'm not hinting at anyone cheating.
I love Tía, and I wish her the best. But literally grew up watching her ACT and she is staying strong and she is giving us her best…. But we know she is acting. It’s too much too soon and maybe she never really tells us and that’s okay. But stuff she mentions would usually bring a couple closer….. UNLESS something did happen. Either way I myself am sad about it bc had to be something huge. Hope she heals soon and continues stronger 💕🙏🏽
Do you Tia❤. When a chapter ends it ends and you the author of your own life. Falling out of love with someone is a natural feeling and it’s not always about them but it could be about yourself. The world is big and there’s a lot to explore and experience and sometimes we just need that independence to do it. ❤
Such a great thought and being able to realize and do something to make changes to better your life is awesome thanks I needed that reminder that I'm more then just a mother sister aunt wife friend....I'm me and I need more self love.... God bless all woman.... we are strong for so much more then what we think
When you say you want to seek happiness and grow ,I think that can be done within the confines of marriage. If you find out you've been leaving for your husband, children, friends and siblings and you say you want to start living authentically then you leave a marriage but don't leave your siblings and children then it's not authentic living that's the problem. Ten there's something about the man she isn't telling us. Nevertheless,I wish them well individually
Marriage is hard but I think she realized that she didn’t really live life and date pre married life… now she wants to yolo as she hits her mid 40s ion why blame it on self love & empowerment it is what it is 🤷🏾♀️
It's the Awakening for me, I'm here now. Leaving a seven in a half yrs relationship,We have no kids together,So it's more easy to move on with our lives. I couldn't take another day of him throwing up my past,I couldn't take it another day of him telling me I'll never be nothing more than a piece of a##,It was years of hearing those words,So I finally said enough is enough,And he's still trying to figure out ,Why I chose to walk away🤦🏽♀️🙏🏽umm sir I'm 41 years young, and My peace means everything to me. I am really happy for her ,Praying for the both of them in Jesus name amen 🙏🏽💪🏾💫💗.
I so understand what she’s saying not know who you are as a woman when you are helping everyone see who they are and your lost… it’s time for change because life is to short and you want to be happy don’t settle that’s not life …
He said something to the effect of making decisions based off emotions will hurt you everytime. Think a lot of these women are playing themselves with this I wasn’t happy stuff because of all these outlets where they are stacking all this fake validation and these gurus who tell you your not happy and there is always something better instead of having appreciation for what you have. It’s going to be somebody out there checking for her because she’s a celeb, but if she wasn’t then she might have a lot of regrets.
A supportive, present partner makes it possible for you to have enough self-care in the balance. When that's missing and it's not changing after 2 decades together, people just have to accept that she made the best choice for her and her family and stop trying to impose their own values & decisions on others.
She spoke but said nothing at all. After having children and spending that long with another human choosing to walk away is not an easy decision. She appears almost relieved to be honest. Good for her. Lol could have just declined to speak on the matter because she said nothing. You can be happy with a husband and kids while also being an individual in your own right if there is teamwork and you two have the same relationship goals. O well.
I totally understand. What I have chosen to do is stop living for myself/others and live for God which is what I was created for. So I am looking to do what God wants because He knows the beginning to the End. I am still working on me but I have slowed things down to hear from God.
Honestly I’m so sick of the story! OK Tia we get it you divorced Cory you’re happy that’s awesome. Girl move on please can we talk about something else!
Do not be deceived people… Marriage is a LIFELONG commitment. Before you jump the broom to say I do, you better make sure that it’s with the person you plan to commit to for a lifetime! This society has normalized divorce and it’s sad. I don’t get how a failed marriage can be considered a success??? That’s madness!
you do understand people change their minds and get tired. and sometimes the people they married prob aren’t the people they are now? who said a failed marriage is a success ?? she obviously said she was sad over it but girl is moving on to big and better things . why stay sad ?
Notice how Big Mikes wife is absent in the conversation lmao @ this boomer rationale.
I will say some marriages absolutely need to end and its not always a failure. But yes I don't understand this notion of I was unhappy so we got a divorce. Did your spouse do something wrong amd inexcusable? Did they cheat? You can't just wake up one day decide/realise you are unhappy and think the solution is to get a divorce. Nobody is happy all the time you know, you go through periods of highs and lows but like you said marriage is a life long commitment for better or worse you can't just leave because you felt unhappy
Unfortunately people change. The person you might’ve made that lifetime commitment too could’ve changed. I remember hearing a woman call a man she’s been married to for 40 something years unrecognizable.
I agree! Note to people, these so called celebrities are NOT role models. Look to Jehovah God !
She trying to not speak bad on him… she said a lot of nothing but it’s clear she wasn’t happy bc u don’t divorce someone bc u wana focus on u and career u can do that with a husband and kids still. It’s more to the story but she doesn’t owe us that
That's exactly what I was thinking
exactly! she dont owe us nothing! bottom line is she wasnt happy, she did what was best for her and i dont blame her!
Exactly. 'Cause she said all that to say nothing lol. Happiness and self-love is not exclusive of the other people you've been focusing on. If that were the case, she would've given him full custody of the children so she could really focus on herself.
Of course she wouldn't think to do that because the reality is that most women aren't going to "self-love" way away from children or girlfriends. They realize the value of their life growing *with* them...
Her IG posts used to mainly be goofiness and fashion, now she turned up the sex appeal...I think she really looked at herself. Looked at him and believed she could do better lol. So she got rid of the dead weight and she's putting out the signal lol.
You're absolutely right ✅️
True she said nothing
my grandparents had moments where things went horrible yet they grew and matured through the storms of life as grandma said we didn’t always like each other but at the end of the day we loved each other
These people don't take their vows seriously it's insane 💔💔.
@@salomekabinga3282 - When she said “know your value, know your worth” it became clear to me that he was cheating on her. She is just trying not to say it explicitly because she is a classy woman and good mother and doesn’t want to air her family’s dirty laundry or publicly trash talk the father of her children.
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They also had to remain married.
Both people have to want to do the work.
I thought I was in the same place and almost ended my marriage. I then realized my husband had nothing to do with my happiness- that was all on me. I was happy before I met him, and I was happy when I met him, so he nor the marriage subtracted from my happiness. I was almost deceived to think he was the reason I started feeling unhappy. Through Jesus and therapy, I found my happiness again with him being by my side to enjoy it with me. Now, we’re happy together again! Sometimes, weathering the storm isn’t easy, but the sun does eventually shine again. I noticed Tia hasn’t professed to be Christian in years. That may have something to do with it too.
Sometimes spouses can contribute to the other's unhappiness.
Thank you. You decide to be happy. It’s a choice 😂
This sadly isn’t taught anymore.
Yes because all people and all people that aren’t christian will get a divorce/ be unhappy.. Or they must be damned to divorce if they’re not Christians. Religious ppl’s thinking is so one tracked and ignorant, smh.
@Serve and Rejoice that’s really too bad if she’s messing my w that if that is true. That’s an abomination to G-d. Hollywood is difficult and there’s a lot of pressure. I used to work in the industry and it can be very soul draining!
I love how she responds without being messy or accusatory. Very mature and classy.
I definitely agree, she kept it classy and I admire her not bashing him. But at the same time she said a bunch of nothing.
So what abt the husband?? He need support too, he's human being as well, However, Hollywood relationship don't normally last anyways maybe just 1% does.
@@360returns2 Well......I'm surprised they even lasted for 14 years.
Sometimes there is nothing to bash about. It seems like she decided to leave the marriage solely based on her unhappy/emotions. That does not mean that her husband played a part in that.
@@SonnyDaysAreHere Facts.
Marriage isn't always about happiness, especially if you're wanting your spouse to make you happy. People tend to confuse happiness with marriage then get disappointed when it doesn't happen.
I love this comment.... I always say and try to live by 'it's not healthy to depend on someone else for YOUR happiness.' I want to be happy single or married🙂
From the start they weren't a match
The problem is sometimes the spouse is the source of your misery when they’re tormenting you every day, which was why I left mine. I realized there was no point sticking around to be tormented and abused. Could never be happy in that whether I looked to him as the source of happiness or not.
I think that in a marriage people should make each other happy or there is no point.
Right and she’s not saying she depends on him to be happy but if someone doesn’t make you happy staying could be toxic.
The exact same thing happened to me a year ago. I lost my brother and then the following spring my cherished uncle who was like a father to me. I too realized that life is far too short to be unhappy and have no peace. Needless to say changes were immediately made.
Sadly your husband's emotional, mental and fiscal health took a hit because of your discontentment. That's sad.
@@travelseatsyellowlab I thought so too.... however, the relationship was emotionally, mentally, and fiscally abusive for years... I didn't have the courage to leave when I should have.... for all the reasons women in those situations don't. It was a long time coming and losing two of the closest people to me was beyond reflective. It made me realize I'd rather be dead than simply exist in misery and depression. Compiling the existing emotional and mental state and then adding grief and extreme loss was something I could not sign up for. I wouldn't have made it through. I needed support and a safe place to grieve.
So you broke up your family because “life is too short?” If anything that should’ve taught you to hold on tight to those you love.
@@beautiful_wonderfullymade no I left because I had been being abused for years. I thought I had made that clear. I stayed because I thought it was best for my family but losing those that truly loved me made me realize I was teaching my children not to love themselves and to accept abuse for the sake of others.
@@beautiful_wonderfullymade no she was depressed and being abused
I will Never Normalize unhappiness. Seasons change. People change… What you Put up with in your 20’s and 30’s Seems Different in Your 40’s. She Looks Way Happier Now then when she was with Him. Marriage is Not for Everyone. And Hear this Women. The Only One who will Ever Love ❤️ You Unconditionally is Jesus! He Literally Died 4 You. Respectfully Single.Happy.and Proud🙏🏾
It’s the character and integrity for me. There are some things that should be kept private and she is doing an awesome job at protecting that. I wished they could have made it wk but God knows what go’s on behind closed doors. I am wishing her nothing but the best!
Tia is just jealous that Corey is working and she is not working. He is on the number-one show in the nation right now. She is the only one out here trying to bash him so he could get canceled from his job. She needs to go and find several seats. Cory is working with a strong cast and they will support him no matter what Tia.
my exact thoughts!
@@millihuggins1688...Tia is not Jealous of her ex husband and his job now...She has several businesses and still making money in her sleep...so all that your saying pls stop it...she never bashed Cory...these outlets trying to get blood from a Turnip...and far as Cory is on a show now...FINALLY...IM SURE SHES HAPPY N HE IS TO...BUT NEVERTHELESS...SIS IS JUST NOW LIVING LIFE...AND JUST ENJOYING THE FRUIT OF HER LABOUR
she really did say a whole lot of nothing 😂
@@noelkamara8025 My thoughts exactly. Wtf is she talking about living in her authenticity 🤷😒
It is ignorant to marry for happiness. Happiness is a result of what is happening. Been married 16 yrs, challenges have come but instead of focusing on trying to be happy in those challenges, we focused on our love, true commitment to God and our vows. And NO he or I never cheated but even if that was the case, I’m committed to my vow, hard work, love, growth and joy which my Bible tells me that this world didn’t give and cannot take away.
I feel the exact same way I’m 28 I been with my husband since I was 16 got married at 25 with him I always pray the lord keeps us grounded and surrounded by him we always put him first ! We pray !! But I totally agree with you ❤🙏🏼💫‼️
Completely agree🎉
Maybe ignorant to you ...
Whatever people's reasons are .. it is THEIR reasons why they get married .... someone could easily say that it was ignorant of you to get married at 16 too . .. however that is YOUR business ...
That is why it is called life ... we figure it out ...
I agree that it’s ignorant to marry for happiness but i would never and could never stay committed to a cheater, that’s flat out disrespect and i would never be able to respect him after that.
If my husband cheated on me I wouldn’t be able to trust him ever again.
You have to love yourself. Because people pleasing will kill you. The more you do the less they do. That not living that surviving. Peace is priceless.
Life is too short to be unhappy.
Any relationship that steals your joy, release it!
The kids are next!
@@MPPG663 😮😮😮
@@MPPG663 Nope! Kids are for life. Dusty men are always temporary 💕
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How relationship can steal your joy.? You are the one that creates joyful environment in your marriage. And that's the mission of a feminine, friendly and fit woman.
There is NOTHING like peace of mind. Good for her!
Good comment. Sick of seeing ppl say she should have stayed.
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Love this comment.
Fully agree
When she said “know your value, know your worth” it became clear to me that he was cheating on her. She is just trying not to say it explicitly because she is a classy woman and good mother and doesn’t want to air her family’s dirty laundry or publicly trash talk the father of her children.
I'm seeing a lot of post concerning marriage and it being a life long commitment, but I have seen and known way too many women/men who have tried and tried in their marriages and wasted so much time trying to stick with a marriage that is no longer serving it's purpose. People are unhappy trying to MAKE it work.
Hello Jackie, how are you doing today, hope you’re fine and safe from the Virus??
I sell life insurance and trust me happy people live longer
been there done that so after 32 years I gave Kenny the divorce he wanted. after 4 marriage therapist later I was done trying and he had given up along time ago. So he moved into assisted living...then to a nursing home then in 2019 he died. I played wife til then end of his life...we got along better that way...sad but true.
That's because neither one of them were marriage material or one of them was never marriage material. Who filed? 85% of women file men are leaving their family. The Modern Woman are home wreckers because they walk away so easily. Then they go on healing journeys and my truth tour's. The women of old were made of better stuff than today's modern women. PERIOD!!!
Tia is handling this very well and i applaud her. She is not acting bitter or like a woman scorned. I believe she is giving women who are in toxic marriages feeling stuck hope again. To stay in a marriage for image or convenience is unhealthy. She realized life is short and if she isn’t getting what she wants now then she most likely never will. If she doesn’t look out for her happiness who will.
She handled it terribly because that's 14 years he could have had children with a real women that could handle staying. Everyone really thinks he didn't have the same thoughts if leaving. Always remember that when you are looking across the room at your man. Thinking I'm tired of his ass and want to leave. He is looking back you saying I would really love to have a young Thang jut stays because of duty to you and his kids.
@@kevinmcghee8935 how do you know he’s not the one who actually asked for a divorce?
@@kevinmcghee8935 she wins because she has her peace!! Peace is priceless. He can chase young woman for the rest of his life if that’s what makes him happy. She has her kids, her money, her career, her dignity, and sanity. It’s really sad when people stay around and they are not happy that leads to emotional and health issues.
@@kevinmcghee8935 Real woman? Lol you haven't had a successful marriage so how can you say this?
@@DarlingWheresthecoffee That's a good question I am not going after her just because she us a women. We as men have to also take accountability when Ieaving our marriages. You and I both know that's not usually how it goes. Women get bored 80 percent of the time just like her. Most if you women waste our time and years then leave like you are now some kind if new women. More like a new fool nobody wants her old ass but she, you, and many other women break up homes everyday. Knowing it will get boring soon or later uts life.
My parents are almost in their 70’s, they coexist in the same house and live a very separate life from each other. They do have the same friends from 60 years ago and will attend events with each other. It works for some people but if you are ready to really move on and start a new life, do it for your own sanity.
Your parents aren't quitters and are a true example of making it work no matter what.
@@travelseatsyellowlab but aren't they? I'm sure they still love each other but they gave up a long time ago actually being with each other. The go through the motions of living life together while in reality living it separately. No offense to the person who commented. But they gave up in other ways whether they simply drifted or stayed out of obligation. That isn't really a successful marriage if you're just married just to be married. Like the commentor said some people can do that but others just can't especially if they feel trapped
@@terynb4407 exactly that’s what I understood from the original comment. Her parents live together but are living separate lives. That’s not a marriage.
@@terynb4407 that happened to my grandparents too. They we’re legally married but lived apart. My grandma lived with one of my aunts and my grandpa lived with one of my uncles. When my grandpa passed my grandma was sobbed so hard. It wasn’t that she didn’t love him but the romantic part was gone decades ago
If you have children...they will be affected so much....they should have sought therapy for the marriage, individual, and family counseling as well.
I'm so happy for her. No need to stay in a non full filling relationship. I admire how she's keeping whatever that went wrong under wraps because she's aware that her children will see this and how she handled it and out of respect for her ex. It really isn't any of our business to know what really happened but Im sure she sought help and advice and concluded that her reason was serious enough to come to end it. No reason to stay miserable to prove to the world that your happily married. Good on her.
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And sadly there are lots of marriages that appear to be happy but are actually dysfunctional and toxic. It's all about appearances.
@@allyssacook5350 so true sadly.
@@allyssacook5350 Well said. I'm so happy to see people now embracing mental, spiritual health over keeping up with the Jones'. You only have this life to live...if the season has come to an end, learn the lessons, take stock and....respectfully bow out. People are in your life for a reason or a season.
Marriage failure should not be something we praise. Sad. My husband and I are married for the long haul. I like Tia but she make it seem like she's so strong....it's OK to stay positive and cry.
But what about A toxic marriage?
@J D if it was toxic, she wouldnt be praising him and still posting i love you to him. Please, ive been in toxic abusive realtionships. Shes part of the agenda of singleness over marriage for "true happiness". Shes a false christian.
Life is too short to stay in a unhappy marriage
@Ruthie Bella by that logic, yas queen, you do you, get the bag sis. See how that goes 😒
I agree, why married women can't get this much support WHILE married, I love th empowerment but it says that the only way to accumulate this is to leave. Now, if its dangerous, mentally and emotionally unstable..GO! but to reach that evolution of self, it is possible to do so while married. just my perspective..
Thé deaths she is talking about happened over five years ago. So if that caused her to take a deeper look at her life and marriage also means she’s been unhappy for sometime and tried to work it out for awhile before leaving, that’s why she seems to have processed the ending of her marriage quickly, but it wasn’t a quick decision.
I’m married for 36 years, me and my husband just Tom and Jerry but the end sweet to each other, because God is in the middle of us and we bless 4 beautiful children.
Big up to people when their marriage is facing the storm they stick through it I was watching how people who are celebrating 50 and 60 add years in marriage and just say to myself these are people who stay in these long marriages go through for better and for worst they stand firm in their commitment I just say this is type of marriage I want to have .
She gave a lot of non information but somehow ET got what caused the divorce
Tia seemed like she was holding back tears. Like she really wants to cry. She is trying really hard to remain strong. That's good but stop coming on these shows, social media and doing interviews. Then you won't feel the need to prove to everyone that your fine. Divorce is hard and unpleasant enough. Without having to explain and convince everyone that your good.
She does truly feel good 2 me.🤷🏾♀
You so GET IT. I mean you can see it
How is , being married for 14 years, waisting each others time and putting kids in the middle of it, a successful marriage? How did you , after 14 years, decide that it was time to put yourself first? That should've happened BEFORE marriage and children. I wish the best for the family but this just breaks my heart. Then on top of that, your getting so much attention from it... This world glorifies divorce and a whole lot more things that are just down right sad
Grief will make you rediscover what’s important
Why can’t people have self love and still maintain a happy and healthy marriage? So many people get married/even get into a relationship because the person “ makes them happy” you have to be genuinely happy with you, your husband/wife should only add to your happiness, they should not be the ultimate reason your happy. This is why divorce rate is thru the roof. When you have learned to truly be happy with yourself, your can then enhance your happiness as a collective
If you read between the lines you can tell that Corey was good to her. She was dealing and possibly still dealing with the loss of close loved ones and now shes dealing with her own mortality so she wants to live her life for her. Women are celebrating her actions and missing what marriage is all about. 14 years is a long time and to leave your partner who loved you and did right by you and his children is not something to celebrate. I empathize with her cause many of us deal with loss. Some more than others. We all cope with loss differently. I feel sorry for Corey that he lost the love of his life. Sending healing energy to both of them.
She’s a Narcissist in my opinion I believe Corey was good to her she’s just selfish 🤦🏽♀️
@@jayybabiimusic1315 we are all in some degree selfish. I totally understand why you feel that way and about her being a narcissist. One thing about narcissist is they also make their faults the faults of others. Pointing the blame on others for their issues. She never said a single bad word about her ex husband which she had every opportunity to do so rather it was true or not. I think she wanted to be able to do what she wants with no guilt or restrictions before her time expires. I could be wrong. You very well could hit the nail on the head.
@jayybabiimusic1315 Agreed, but it's always painted as being authentic and courageous. It's sickening.
@@jayybabiimusic1315 take two seconds to check the definition of basic English words before you use them in the wrong context. You sound utterly ridiculous and it’s clear you have no clue what narcissism means.
I’m tired of women breaking up their marriage, to “love yourself” or “find themselves” that’s bs! Just say the truth, you don’t love your spouse anymore and that’s it! I don’t understand how they can just break off their family like that, such a selfish choice.
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Yes I just went through the same thing I started traveling with my sista circle and I loved it. I was married to a Narc. He traveled and when I decided to put me first after 25 years he couldn't handle it!
Hard thing because yes, we as women need to focus on our happiness, but be careful. Your kids’ happiness also matters. Hardest thing I ever had to witness was what leaving a relationship did to our kids.
They want you to stay unhappy with their dad while they receive their happiness.
as a child who suffered all kinds of abuses because of her parents' lack of courage to get a divorce, BOOO!!!
What is right for you is what is right for your children. If you are unhappy, it will bleed to their lives. Fights and energy can lead to children feeling. Anxiety and a feeling of constantly walking on eggshells can appear.
Yes but staying in a unstable relationship for your kids also causes damage to them
@@constantnipples2428 source? The data is out about fatherless home aka single mothers home; it’s horrific.
Oh, how she sounded like me some eleven,twelve years ago… the awakening, my peace joy and happiness. Way to go Tia🙏🏼❤️🌹
When you know, you know, the realization came to me when I was looking at old pictures of me how happy and how much I smiled on those pictures compared to my pictures a couple of years after I got married I was barely smiling and you could see the unhappiness on my face. I wasn’t my old self, I was changing who I was to make someone else happy but I was miserable.
Wow. That can happen at times. Maybe you just need to regroup and know your are while in the marriage. Therapy for yourself and you guys together that can help and along .
@@jennifersunkett-jones8393 we tried counseling, we tried to make it work a few times, in the end it didn’t work.
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@@maggiesamson337 I cared.
@@s.m6605 amen. That's the point. God bless u.
When u marry u need to remove selfishness not saying u should not be happy but why can’t you have both
Well said Ma'am!
Nowadays being a divorced woman is a trend. Mariage isnt about happiness but duty towards each other. Only in disney movies happiness is what marrying is for. What if you marry someone and after 1 year he become sick? You'll leave because you dont feel happy? Being married is a duty.
I'm a married man and every morning I have to go to work even though I dont want to but I have to do it to keep my family running.
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@@bigjude100 going to work to support yourself and family is not synonymous with her decision to divorce. You’d have to still work regardless if you’re married or not.
I think she’s too Hollywood, women empowerment minded.
Not saying her marriage was perfect, no marriage is but something about her isn’t right either.
@@poeticlovee He's trying to say you don't give up and don't get married if you won't take it seriously
One of the biggest problems today is SELF LOVE!!! Everyone is so caught up in selfishness, selfies, self happiness, and everything SELF that they are self destructing.
She seems truly happy though.
Yup. I wish that Tia would just handled this privately. Even though she is " happy", I wonder how her children are doing?
@@sonyvalencia not to me, she looks sad.
That's deep. When she thought about HER she knew it was time. So for so long she never put her 1st but put sadness first. Now she's free. We-as women, do this all too many times.
I think all that means is she realized she deserves someone who really wants her. Not that she was sad. She may have been happy for a long time because she was pushing down her subconscious knowledge that he was not fulfilled/truly happy
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She likely felt abandoned first. Then she decided well ok, just focus on herself.
I read that he wouldn't help pay bills, and I read something about an allegation of him cheating. I don't know that to be true, it was something read, but kudos to her for not speaking badly about him, because all that matters are the kids, and her happiness. I wish her nothing but the best, and I'm sure that she will find happiness again, if she isn't already happy.
This self love she is talking about...in more transparant words: She realized that Corey wasn't contributed to her happiness nor to their union. she was making the sacrifices...
We should allow God to choose our life partners. Never jump into a marriage just because you want a ring because you never know what the future looks like and it’s sad when things have to end
I love this for her! She looks really happy and I’m rooting for each and everyone to find their happiness.
If you think marriage is about happiness you are sadly mistaken.
Marriage is about most importantly the stability of children in a society, everything else comes after, she's a fool for destroying her marriage because she's not grown or mature enough to seek counselling so both her and her husband die to self and surrender their egos.
She’s an actress.
I love it for her children that can now gain the character only possible when you grow up in a broken home. What a sacrifice she's made. So brave.
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I take it that's sarcasm 😂
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“But understand this, that in the last days there will come times of difficulty. For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, proud, arrogant, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy,” (2 Timothy 3:1-2 ESV)
I thought of that scripture too when she was mentioning her reasons.
I love how Tia is getting her life back if she was sad and felt like her happiness didn't matter so she did what was best for her kudos to her I wish her and Corey the best co-parenting their beautiful children
I wish her happiness. She deserves it.
I'm sure God, who is totally not known as a vengeful dude, will make sure she gets what she deserves, I mean it's not like she took vows or made promises in his eyes or anything...
This situation is between her and her husband, the most important in a marriage is to put God first, and communicate, communicate, communicate. Couples today seem like they like the easy way out, if you aren't being abused verbally and physically, understand to get out And f it can be worked out, try to work in it, and if you love the person which is more important as well, then it can work. But today divorce is so glorified and if I'm unhappy, get out of it. That is your choice, but no one gives marriage a chance anymore, seem like some goes with the flow, everyone else getting a divorce, so I guess I will also.. Pray Tia find happiness in whatever she is seeking.
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I definitely understand your perspective but because she was raised Christian, got married young, I’m sure she didn’t make this decision over night. 14years isn’t something you end because of just happiness- she must have been very unhappy for a long time. Also, no telling all of what we don’t know. From outside looking in (again, I don’t know) she always showed she adored him, him not so much. We never truly know but I get your perspective in general.
Communication doesn't always help. Sin is the problem. The solution is humility. To humble oneself or both selves and work to maintain the marriage... flat out neglecting your partner sexually or even refusing to listen to them is sin. People are not as good as one thinks... we are vile, selfish, and unloving sinners. The Bible says this, not me.
@@mybigfatexpatlife6865 The Bible is abusive so no surprises there. But what can you expect from a glorified EVOLUTION? What is the difference between the story of creation and evolution? I'd say there are the same. Being made of mud and being called DUST is no better than evolution.
so true. marriage takes work. but it can be done.
The fact that selfishly breaking a family is celebrated really signifies flaws in our society.
I get it. It doesn’t matter how much money I make, even if it’s legacy money I want a man actively contributing to the household not thinking it’s okay to live off me while they try to save their money and lead a selfish life because “I can afford it”. Tia did the right thing. No matter how nice of a guy he is, financial abuse is a real thing
Is that what he did tho...?
@@sobeliever1638 these people really out here acting as if what they’re insinuating is a matter of fact
Where did you get that from?? Total projection Lmao
@@Kukuak82 I read that somewhere. I totally didn’t just make that up 😂
Hmm his net worth states he’s a millionaire.. do you reckon that still constitutes ‘financially abusing’Tia. I think a million is a fine contribution to the household if you ask me😂
I believe most wealthy women that really built their own wealth don't see a value in marriage. Marriage is great for two people that has an average income and want to come together and grow but if you're very wealthy man or woman you don't see the value of marriage.
Such an elegant and classy woman. She will find love again because she seems like a great person.
I'm in that phase of really checking in with myself because I feel that same sadness she was talking about and always taking care of other people and not myself. Luckily im not married nor have kids , so my decisions wont effect others around me and it's easier to make those changes. Please take.your time in life and don't rush to have all the things ppl are told we should have. If we're meant to have a family and kids it will happen when it happens. Find who you are and chase after that first.
When you get married you make a covenant not only with the person but God. It's not about self, it's about each other... better or worst, sickness and in health... If he did not abuse her, or cheat... just walking away to find yourself with two children seems very self-absorbed. Ijs... since she continues to put this narrative out there. Marriage is not until you want something different or now I'm different.
Good thing you know exactly what she’s going through and not judging her. 😤
Agreed.
@@poeticlovee 😂
You do not know exactly what led to their marriage ending
So you can stay in an abusive marriage to make God happy and the rest of us will choose happiness 😊
I'm so proud of Tia ,she is admitting this is a challenge. But at the end of the day. Cory is no longer her parents. But her children's father for life. That still makes him family with all that she is looking ahead ,and working on loving tia as a single mother , and human beings. She is choosing to be happy. I'm loving her strength right now. Many prayers of strength Tia❤❤❤
Watch how shocked she’s gonna be when she realizes she’s still unhappy after the fact
@@theoo149 or maybe she'll be happy 🤷🏽♀️ not sure why you're such a negative person
@@jackiemaldonado7777 why are you invested in my comments? , just scroll
@@theoo149 leave public comment, expect responses 🤷🏽♀️ that's how the internet works
@@jackiemaldonado7777 can you read? Why are you invested not why did you reply omg Did you finish highschool? Lmao
Those vows are to be acted upon. It's not about a feeling. Feelings come and go all the time for many reasons. For better, for worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do you part. People only go by feelings. Marriage is work, 24/7 365 days a year. If it's abusive or there's habitual cheating, then yes, leave it. Otherwise, work it out!
It's so sad how the media rushes once marriages are broken and not care about the kids.when you are depressed they hide while taking videos of your breakdowns
Marriage was a horrible experience. I felt invisible. I'm happier divorced. Because at least now I'm in control and can meet my needs when and how I decide.
A marriage is the joining into one, so if you felt "invisible" you didn't understand a basic principle of being of spouse. The duty of a wife is not about you as an individual at all. Your whole reasoning for breaking a covenant with the Most High sounds incredibly selfish.
I admire her strength to put herself first. She gave it a long run. 20 years is long enough to do anything. She gave it her all until she couldn’t give to that relationship anymore. Wishing her the best :)
Why glamorize failure. Yes everyone deserves to be happy but to glamorize a failed marriage is ridiculous. Most marriages fail because of selfish reasons and lack of compromise
Im so glad this appeared on my CZcams feed. It's time. Yay! Let's do this.
Tia and Tamera both are such amazing women and mothers. You can tell just how great their parents were at raising them as well as their brothers. I’ve been a fan of them ever since Sister, Sister and all of the other roles they had especially when I was growing up. I loved their episode of “Are You Afraid of the Dark” and I loved their reality show they had. I’m still so bummed that The Real was cancelled as well. I know Tamera had left by the time the show ended but I absolutely loved that talk show.
I wish Tia all the best! ❤
She seems like she has a great outlook on life. I’m sure her and Cory will be great at coparenting.
Such a great mother to teach her small children the valuable lessons imparted by a broken home. So amazing. So inspiring.
@@HurtButNotDefeated yeah, so inspiring that she would break her marriage vows over the flimsiest and selfish of excuses. This generation of women is in serious trouble.
I'm not going to argue with people in the comments but for the people that don't seem to get it here's the bottom line..she was already a successful actor who married a man who was broke at the time and settled for him, he didn't contribute much to the marriage and she was carrying a heavy load of basically providing for her whole family for years with no help from him, she also loved him more than he loved her which never works out. She obviously can see that it's time to move on and possibly find a better man who will actually provide for her and truly love her for who she is and not what she can give him. Women do deserve happiness you know.
You was the family counselor? You just randomly thought of a scenario lol you don’t know what was going on
@@theoo149 no it was pretty fucking obvious to those who paid attention lol
How do you know all this you don't live in the home smh
@@theoo149 its was very obvious. Watch any interview with them and it was very obvious by the way she talked and looked at him she was more invested than him. He always looked like he was on some other planet
@@ashlouw5350 “it was very obvious”? Until I hear it from either of them, you people and your speculations can shut the hell up.
Wow this is what happens when society is obsessed with their own happiness. I wonder why don't they add that line to the vows moving forward, "You need to be happy and it's all about your happiness in this marriage" and the moment you dont experience happiness, get a divorce. Marriage is about dying to self. I wonder if her children are happy? Is Corey happy? But as long as she is happy that's all that matters right? Mxm New Age has damaged the way people think. The Bible says in the last days man will be lovers of themselves
You'll only understand her if youve been thro this or going thru it.
i feel like she’s talking in code and i don’t get it. then again it’s not for anyone to get
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Good for you Tia. Folks do what’s most healthy for yourself and ultimately that decision will be best for everyone else involved. Definitely more to the story. What I will say is that once you start doing that internal work, your soul will not allow you nor want you to remain in the same energy/position/environment. It will force you to move forward, especially so if that other person isn’t on the same path. Everyone we get involved with and even marry isn’t meant to be “forever” sometimes they are lessons. We learn and move forward.
Good luck Tia 🙌🏼
Her sister Tamera did the work and joy, peace, self-confidence and calmness shows on her face. I hope Tia finds joy and love within herself. The Hoda and Jenna interview was a little unfair because she does not appear ready to talk about her relationship ending.
Yes
So she's saying she wasn't happy in her marriage... 🤔
I work on myself while I'm married, I find peace, joy, crazy days, no perfect day, I love being married... this sounds like an excuse... 🙄
BOOM
Everyone is on board for this bs as well🤦♂️💡
I don't understand her, she made a mistake if she thought self love meant breaking up your home , she just needed therapy. That self love won't be looking good in a few years
She's looking rough now, in a few years she'll be botoxed.
Marriage is not meant to be self fulfilling…..it’s SO sad to see this over and over again. I can not imagine breaking vows I made before God and my husband because I don’t ‘feel’ happy all the time. I’ve had dark days in my marriage and wanted to escape but there is a greater purpose than myself. I’m not the center of my world. My son and my husband and my testimony are SO important to me, I fiercely protect my marriage.
Not all vows are the same, and not everyone believes in a god.
It's called self care,self value, self protection. I could not wait for my mom to divorce my abusive father.
Getting legally married is just a social convention, so the customs and rigidity of it don't have to be that way. Just because vows say 'for better, for worse' isn't a convincing argument because those words were put in the vows by other people and we shouldn't just keep a social convention when it doesn't serve us anymore. The point of our lives is to make ourselves happy, contribute to the happiness of the people around us and leave the world better than we found it. It can be so easy for people to grow away from each other without either of them doing anything wrong. If you and your partner haven't grown together and it ruins your compatibility and that causes long term unhappiness for you both, why on earth would you stay together? And why would you teach kids that sitting in your unhappiness is a good way to live your life?
Many women believe in SUFFERING. And that’s their problem, not ours.
Tia went from an Adorable Twin to a Fully Grown Woman who is a Classy Top Shelf Act. She is being fair with the Public without allowing it to invade her personal Peace or violating the wellbeing of her Family. Mama Bear vibes stay on high at all times. Even though their marriage is no more, they are learning to become family in a new way. I'm glad she is going to allow herself to enjoy her own energy, it's well deserved. Divorce isn't the resolution in all relationships but if it has to be may it be amicable.
PRAYING FOR HER, HER FAMILY, HER CAREER, HER FUTURE, ETC...
My husband is from Turkey and he told me that foreigners think all Americans are always get divorced and that we truly do not value marriage and family. I understand why they have that perspective of us.
Self love leads to selfishness and selfishness leads to divorce.
I CANT REALTE. ME AND MY HUBBY WENT THE OPPOSITE. WE WENT THRU SHIT WAS DAMN NEAR ENEMIES FIRST 10 YEARS. THEN I CHANGED HE CHANGED. WE GOT COUNSELING TOGETHER AND SEPARATE. AND EVERYTHING NEGATIVE TURNED TO POSITIVE .WE KEPT FAMILY AT ARMS LENGH.BECUASE ITS ALWAYS DRAMA.I HANDLED MY VUNERABILITY ISSUES OPENED UP.AND THE FLOOD GATES OPENED.I PRAYED EVERY DAY.NOW WE HAVE SO MUCH PEACE AND SO MUCH NASTY FREAKY ASS SHENANIGANS. WE GREW THE FUCK UP FOR REAL .AND IM SO DAMN HAPPY SO IT HE.WE LEARNED TO RESPECT EACH OTHER DIFFERENCES INSTEAD OF TRYING TO CONTROL ONE ANOTHER. BEEN TOGETHER SINCE 19 SO WE GREW UP.THATS MY BEST FRIEND IM HIS
As much as I loved seeing her and Cory together we ALL on the outside looking in. That’s their life and their decision. 🤷🏽♀️
Tia is such a strong beautiful and godly woman. Such an inspiration I wish I had a friend like her
godly?
Y’all pay attention! Way before they divorced she was serving herself on a silver platter on social media. It was obvious by her actions she has been screaming for attention for a long time. Maybe he wasn’t giving her the attention she wanted. Not certain, but I can definitely tell when someone has placed themselves back on the market.
Yup!
I think she does too much on social media. All of that dumb dancing.
I just don’t get it.
She is an attention seeker. Talks too darn much. When there are kids involved all this frivolous behavior is destructive for the children
Ding, Ding, Ding, Ding!!!! We got a winner folks. 💯
I *just* commented the same observation!!
I know there's more to it than what this sip of info she gave. However, you can work on your happiness while being in a committed relationship. It's called making room for growing. Both people must commit to this more than anything, because we don't know what will come at us in life. So, allowing people to conform to the new part is necessary.
I believe there's more layers to this than "I need to be happy". No, I'm not hinting at anyone cheating.
I love Tía, and I wish her the best. But literally grew up watching her ACT and she is staying strong and she is giving us her best…. But we know she is acting. It’s too much too soon and maybe she never really tells us and that’s okay. But stuff she mentions would usually bring a couple closer….. UNLESS something did happen. Either way I myself am sad about it bc had to be something huge. Hope she heals soon and continues stronger 💕🙏🏽
Do you Tia❤. When a chapter ends it ends and you the author of your own life. Falling out of love with someone is a natural feeling and it’s not always about them but it could be about yourself. The world is big and there’s a lot to explore and experience and sometimes we just need that independence to do it. ❤
Nah she need to do church. Problem is yall getting away from God & want to spew egotistical rhetoric. Pride comes before the fall...
Such a great thought and being able to realize and do something to make changes to better your life is awesome thanks I needed that reminder that I'm more then just a mother sister aunt wife friend....I'm me and I need more self love.... God bless all woman.... we are strong for so much more then what we think
Life is short. Happiness is a must for us all and no one shld negotiate on tht. So if she is good, thts what matters most.
When you say you want to seek happiness and grow ,I think that can be done within the confines of marriage. If you find out you've been leaving for your husband, children, friends and siblings and you say you want to start living authentically then you leave a marriage but don't leave your siblings and children then it's not authentic living that's the problem. Ten there's something about the man she isn't telling us. Nevertheless,I wish them well individually
I agree!
"Authenticity" good answer.❤️✊🏽
Struggle love affect mental health in the long term. Sometimes, the other person cannot get past the struggle even when things turn around.
God bless her and wish her the best
Good for you Tía. ❤❤❤❤❤
So proud of her ❤ Love her & her sister 👯♀️
Marriage is hard but I think she realized that she didn’t really live life and date pre married life… now she wants to yolo as she hits her mid 40s ion why blame it on self love & empowerment it is what it is 🤷🏾♀️
She ain't saying nothing! You mean you can't go to marriage counseling with someone you call your best friend? Make it make sense.
She doesn't want counselling.. just the easy way out!
It's the Awakening for me, I'm here now. Leaving a seven in a half yrs relationship,We have no kids together,So it's more easy to move on with our lives. I couldn't take another day of him throwing up my past,I couldn't take it another day of him telling me I'll never be nothing more than a piece of a##,It was years of hearing those words,So I finally said enough is enough,And he's still trying to figure out ,Why I chose to walk away🤦🏽♀️🙏🏽umm sir I'm 41 years young, and My peace means everything to me. I am really happy for her ,Praying for the both of them in Jesus name amen 🙏🏽💪🏾💫💗.
Yep she on her shit I feel she speaks for so many of us going through this right now today
Top 10 to watch and first to comment..Love from Kenya
Marriage is WORK, it’s not easy.
I so understand what she’s saying not know who you are as a woman when you are helping everyone see who they are and your lost… it’s time for change because life is to short and you want to be happy don’t settle that’s not life …
He said something to the effect of making decisions based off emotions will hurt you everytime. Think a lot of these women are playing themselves with this I wasn’t happy stuff because of all these outlets where they are stacking all this fake validation and these gurus who tell you your not happy and there is always something better instead of having appreciation for what you have. It’s going to be somebody out there checking for her because she’s a celeb, but if she wasn’t then she might have a lot of regrets.
A supportive, present partner makes it possible for you to have enough self-care in the balance. When that's missing and it's not changing after 2 decades together, people just have to accept that she made the best choice for her and her family and stop trying to impose their own values & decisions on others.
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Exactly! 💯🎯👍 Very wise words.
The BEST synopsis of all the comments ‼️💯‼️
She spoke but said nothing at all. After having children and spending that long with another human choosing to walk away is not an easy decision. She appears almost relieved to be honest. Good for her. Lol could have just declined to speak on the matter because she said nothing. You can be happy with a husband and kids while also being an individual in your own right if there is teamwork and you two have the same relationship goals. O well.
I totally understand. What I have chosen to do is stop living for myself/others and live for God which is what I was created for. So I am looking to do what God wants because He knows the beginning to the End. I am still working on me but I have slowed things down to hear from God.
She’s so beautiful and smart! Keep going girl!
Honestly I’m so sick of the story! OK Tia we get it you divorced Cory you’re happy that’s awesome. Girl move on please can we talk about something else!