Oh my god I literally did the exact same thing with my mom the other day! I’m nonbinary and I sidestepped my way out of some really awkward questions by saying, “Oh, yeah, it’s just a *really* good sports bra.” I don’t know if she actually bought it, but it seemed to work. 😅
I GOT MY BINDER TODAY. I went a size up because I was about one inch away from being a size and I want to be safe. It is really breathable. It is a lot more comfortable than the sports bra that I used and I can breathe better in it :)
Y’all, I cannot stress enough how important it is that you do NOT bind with duct tape or ace bandages or anything like that. Seriously. I tried it once, I was desperate, young, closeted and uneducated on the risks, and I took it off after about 5 minutes because it was getting hard to breathe properly and it started to hurt. I’ve heard horror stories from friends about how people messed up their ribs, back, and even lungs, and you could permanently end your chances of getting top surgery later on (if you want it). Like, seriously. You don’t want to know how much broken, or even BRUISED, ribs hurt. It hurts when you cough or even inhale and exhale deeply. Do. Not. Do. It. Your health and safety is more important. I know it’s tempting, believe me, but for the love of god, you HAVE to bind safely and with an actual binder.
Thank you so much I was going to bc I have homophobic conservative parents that raised me to hate trans ( im secretly trans) again tysm for saving me XD
Like i just replied to another poster. If the seller provides good fitting instructions and has tons of positive feedback then hopefully you be alright. But any sign of discomfort take it off.
Well if you got an underworks binder on amazon then that’s safe, since it’s a trusted company, but if you order one with hooks on it, or some kind of band wrapping around it, then that’s unsafe (a few unsafe brands are jarazin and xuji)
I just got my first binder ( I’m a Demigirl but for some reason I am Sooo dysphoric with my chest. ) and I’m literally crying while watching this video. It makes me so happy. Thank you so much
No Zoe. THANK YOU for saying what you said. As you may of seen below Ray's family are having a really bad time today and seeing you post that has given me the first smile that i have had today. So thank you again. Col aka Ray's mum
My college sent out an email about a binder fitting session you can schedule to see what size you'd need or what style you find most comfortable. I cried when I saw how flat my chest was under my sweater and just kept running my hands over my chest because i couldn't believe it felt so flat (im a bit bigger and have tried using compression sports bras but all they did was make them a bit smaller and really hurt my back) they werent giving them away and ive never been able to afford one, it was just for sizing but one of the staff at the LGBTQ+ center emailed me a gift card to buy one. Im so happy and cant wait to get it
@@transwomenaremale our LGBTQ+ club hosted the event. They did not touch anyone, they just have you a range of sizes and styles to try on until you found one that fit right and felt good. They then gave them away for free to us
oh wow i remember watching this before i ever started binding now i’m 2 1/2 years binding solid (i am feeling the affects :( but also i’m so much happier now!!) saving for a GD diagnosis now so i’ve come a long way!!
I’m thinking about buying a binder. I’m gender fluid and I’ll love to have a binder. And I’m planing on buying waist trainer too to other days I wanna wear that. Maybe a corset too in the future. My style is really mixed on being boyish and girl ish. So it will be amazing having these
I have both a binder and a corset, and Im very happy when I use either of them on my fem and masc days. I will admit for me it's a little harder to bind because my chest size is kinda beyond that most trans people I see online have (J...) So it's not easy for me to get my chest situated.. However I use the corset because I have a bad back and it's ~amazing~
I got a gc2b after 2 months of a side clasp amazon binder and oh my god it makes all the difference. It's so comfortable, it fits so well and my ribs don't get even a little bit achy until about 7 hours of binding (at the 8 hour mark i take it off) So much chest dysphoria has been relived as someone with a somewhat larger chest (38D) and it's been so euphoric that I've now started having dreams of being totally flat without it. It's been incredibly beneficial and affirms that i am in fact the gender i thought i was (genderfluid/genderflux with periods of leaning towards one gender or the other more for a bit)
My mom wont by me a binder cuse she says its not safe and i know there are safe ways i think she just hates the thought of me using it even if its just for cosplay
Same, I was killua and my twin, natsuhi was gon and I had 4 tank tops on to cover my chest, my sister is flat so whatever. I am not trans or non binary tho
It's trans day of remembrance today. So sending hugs to those that have lost a loved one. To my son Ray who i know is thinking of his friend who took his life a couple of years ago. And due to covid will not be able to be with his LGBTQIA+ family today. Remembered you are all loved, even if you don't feel acceptance from your own family, there is someone out there in the wider world that does love ,accept and support you. Be Safe.
I’m not trans or nb but I really love going on walks at night and my body is pretty curvy so I’ve been trying to find ways to present as more masculine so I can go outside at night
one of my friends found out that I wanted a binder and she came up to me and was like "I have this almost black market type thing for binders, if you have the money I can get you one" and I'm so so happy because my parents are so queer phobic and I wouldn't have been able to get one otherwise. I love my friends so so much
Mum ordered me one off amazon after literally a massive argument that me being trans was stabbing her in the back. It probably ain’t the right size I ain’t a clue and it don’t feel like it works
My friend has about 3 binders and is offering to give me one when we go back to school! Since the ones they used to use are too small. They’re letting me have one of them so I’m super grateful, this is a very helpful video!
Spectrum outfitters if your in the UK are having a free giveaway at the moment. Also if you have got a good friend or neigbour that can buy it for you and you give them the money. So it gets sent to their house.
(Paragraph about unasked venting warning!) I’m not sure of my sexuality or gender as far as I’m concerned, but for the longest time, I REALLY wanted to flat out my chest. I’m not comfortable with my chest size, and I rather be flat chested than to be with big breasts
Who you are doesn't matter in regards to wearing a binder. There have been cis people on here wanting advice about binders. Just look after your health as big breast can cause a lot of issues
I thought i posted a reply to this? Not showing up. So don't do what Ray did and that is leave it in the bathroom. At the time i didn't know Ray was trans, I thought it was because he was self conscious as he is big chested.
on a birthday party of my friend i was experiencing dysphoria and my non binary friend offered to buy me one (my parents r transphobic) and im so nervous
i was extremely nervous too when my friend offered to get me one. at the time i was binding with ace bandages and when i went into a bathroom stall to put that binder on for the first time it felt illegal to breathe but i was so relieved with it :]
I can't afford one sadly. I cry a lot because of the dysphoria of my chest. But seeing others be able to bind and feel better in their bodies always brings my spirits up. ❤
It might help to check on second-hand or thrift sites to find one! I got a gc2b binder in my size for less than $10, but it can be difficult finding correct sizes since in my experience binders can get sold VERY quickly. I felt sad about not being able to afford one for a long time, so if you’re lucky with what’s being listed/up for sale right now, it might help! 💖
I can’t wear binders because I had pretty bad lungs (hard time breathing, ect.) but I got a compression sports bra which doesn’t flatten as much but definitely looks pretty flat and I’m really happy about that :) hope everyone’s day is going really well
I thought i posted a reply yesterday but was so sleep deprived forgot to press reply. Anyway really glad that you have found a solution that your happy with. Anyway Ray is coming home later so fingers crossed that's he's able to do so. As he's got to travel 70 miles via public transport. He's had his first covid jab the other week. So i hope he remembers to bring his card incase he gets stopped by the cops. The dogs are going to go ape shite.
I got mine yesterday from a friend and I couldn't be happier! I've always been really dysphoric about my chest, even when I didn't know I was a trans man. It's really comforting to know that- well I can be comfortable in my body y'know? :)
I hate being young and finding out you’re trans cause people immediately assume it’s a phase or you’re confused It took me 5+ years to find out I was trans
hugs first. www.uber.com/en-GB/blog/the-many-voices-of-pride/ scroll down to Ray's story. What hurts is that Ray felt that he couldn't come out to us. And oh boy did he fuck up his eyebrows!! And they were so nice.
@curious little raindrop Why do you feel that you made the wrong choice? There is no set time limit on who you want to be inside. You can take all the time in the world to decide. You can be gender fluid. Clothes and make up have no gender. I have changed my profile picture. So that you can see Ray wearing make up and some fluffy thing round his neck. He's wearing a jacket as i think he may of gotten bollocked by the vice president of his uni's LGBTQIA+ society as he's covering up a 'homemade' t-shirt that says "you're not gender critical your a cunt!" on it!!!!!This is at trans pride event. Have you read about this guy? www.boredpanda.com/confident-man-wears-heels-skirt-markbryan911/?
I ordered my first binder ever on Christmas and it’s coming next week or the one after so this is really helpful! I’m a little stressed though because I’m scared people might notice 😭
This was a great video. I’m 19 years old and just realized that I’m non-binary. I really want a binder but my parents are transphobic so that won’t happen right now unfortunately. I’m thinking of having a friend secretly get me a binder once I’m back at college.
Guessing your in the states? Although you could easily be in the UK. Honestly don't know what to say when someone writes about their parents being transphobic. Apart from given time, you will make friends that are so close that they will become your family. When you get your binder, just don't leave it out if your parents are around.
@@col795 I’m in the USA. I’ve already started to make friends with other trans people from my college and we’ve formed a trans support group. I’m not sure how long I can keep this a secret from my parents. I’ll probably just hide my binder in with my sports bras once I get it. I’m still financially dependent on my parents so I don’t want to make them angry since they are paying for my college education.
@@NatureLover-pj2qe Make sure that each time you use your computer that you clean your history of anything trans related. My fave saying apart from "fuck a duck!" is 'cover your arse!!!' So i don't know how long you have got left at college as the UK is different. But you have got to prepare yourself for a worse case scenario. Hopefully you never have to use it. But the information that you find out could help someone else. So finance aid, healthcare, a room, part time jobs. Any LGBTQIA+ charities that can offer support. A burner phone. If your bank account is anyway linked to your parents then a different bank account. If they are paying for your car, then access to a friend car or know your bus routes(Sorry, i like to read m/m romance books and get ting most of my ideas from them).How to remove oneself from 'the sperm and egg' so that one can get the finance support. Set up a contact tree (is that what you usa lot call it?) Tighten up all your social media. But also keep your head down and concentrate on your studies (i know its hard- with covid and being at home, lack of support and understanding) . Any way what are you studying and hoping to do after college. Or you have no idea yet?
@@col795 Thanks for the advice. I am currently majoring in environmental engineering and when I’m done with college I want to work for an environmental firm to improve air and water quality. I have 3 years left of college since I am pursuing a masters degree.
My mom thinks it would give me cancer if I wore one. I’m not out yet, I had one but my mom found out and she took it away from me. It was one of the worst days of my life.
oh bloody hell seriously? It doesn't. "Binding and Breast Cancer There is no evidence to suggest that chest binding increases the risk of breast cancer. Whether you choose to bind or not, you should always be concerned about the health of your chest tissue. Unless you initiate testosterone therapy or undergo FTM/N chest reconstruction surgery, you maintain the same risk for breast cancer. Even after FTM/N top surgery, you still have a small risk of developing breast cancer. Performing monthly self-chest exams and undergoing recommended mammograms with your physician are the two best ways to detect cancer early. If you have concerns regarding chest tissue health or chest binding, discuss them with your primary care physician." Basically he says you got the same odds before binding, after binding or having them chopped. Which transphobic site did she get that information from?
UPDATE, I got another binder, I was trying my best but my mom was moving the collar of my shirt and then saw my binder, she dug through my room, found all of my binders and tighter sports bras and cut them up
I want to buy a binder but my parents dont know im lgbt plus my familys kinda poor, and if I did end up buying one my parents would buy it off Amazon even if I told them not to (yes thats happened multiple times) and I just dont know what to do :')
If you do need to buy off Amazon, make sure it's Underworks. They're a safe, reputable brand that offers binders on Amazon. Unfortunately, they're a bit more expensive than some of the other binders on there-- around $30. When people say to stay away from Amazon binders, they mean the cheap ones from weird Chinese companies no one has ever heard of that don't put a priority on safety or comfort the way brands like Underworks or GC2B do.
I came out to my friend that I’m trans or gender fluid and she was so freaking supportive and said she’s gonna buy me a binder… some days later she actually got one for me 😭 I feel so bad but she said it’s for my birthday that she missed… love her and as for my parents, they already know but… I don’t feel as comfortable yet to tell them I want a binder even though they are very supportive
Luv your friend. She sounds amazing. I'm so glad that your parents know. As long as you are careful with your binder. And that you do listen to with your body. Hopefully by the time they find out then they should be ok. If your worried at all. Just start researching information and if u have a computer. Just store all your info that you collected and give it to them. Slightly different situation. But when Ray came out, he gave us some links about trans. I didn't look as I didn't feel the need. But his dad did and i think it was either the same day or within a few days. His dad was getting him some binders. I got him some about a year later and that's another story. And oh boy Ray deserved a 'jeffro gibbs' for not listening to his mum.
im genderfluid, and I cant get my hands on a binder (don't really wanna explain it to my parents) so Im just using sports bras as a substitute, but seeing all these comments about people getting their binders just make me really happy :))) Stay strong all you queer folks :))
Binders are so expensive, I use a pair of leggings which work great! But I wan’t a proper binder! But I’m scared to ask! :( I GOT A BINDER, AND IT WORKS SO WELL! YAY! ❤
I am a trans boy I'm going to be getting a binder soon, I wanted to watch this because I needed to know how to bind safely because I don't wanna cause damage
@@col795 it's gonna have to be a little while longer before I can get it T-T I'ma try and get it ordered in the next few days but after that, it's still gonna be a week or twp
@@col795 really? Just like that? I thought it should be a specific fabric so it doesn't get damaged with the salt or the chlorine (depending if you swim in the sea or in a swimming pool).
@@LluviaSelenita I double checked and both gc2b and spectrum outfitters are both suitable for swimming. Just use a size up and only use that binder for swimming. Any concerns check their FAQ first and it you still have concerns just email them. Or ask the question on their social media pages. As that way your more likely to get replies from other users. Maybe even tips on how to take it off after you been swimming etc.
How do ur chest place cuz i got my first binder today and idk the most comfortable place meant of ur chest especially for someone like me with a rather big chest area 𝙴𝚍𝚒𝚝: 2 𝚖𝚘𝚗𝚝𝚑𝚜 𝚠𝚒𝚝𝚑 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚋𝚒𝚗𝚍𝚎𝚛 𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝚖𝚢 𝚐𝚘𝚍 𝚒𝚝𝚜 𝚐𝚛𝚎𝚊𝚝 𝚕𝚘𝚕 𝚙𝚛𝚎𝚝𝚝𝚢 𝚖𝚞𝚌𝚑 𝚐𝚘𝚘𝚍 𝚋𝚢𝚎 𝚋𝚒𝚐 𝚌𝚑𝚎𝚜𝚝 𝚕𝚘𝚕
man my future self will bind their chest. although i recently identified as non-binary, i wouldn’t come out to my parents until the late future since i would never want to find out that my parents are actually lgbtqphobic right now. but this video is useful! thank you ❤️❤️
I'm not a trans or nonbinery or anything like that, but I need a binder so I can cosplay male character is it like safe to use it for only cosplay? And is it safe to use it on the age of 11-14 years old? And I live in the Netherlands so where can I buy a binder?
If you find a reputable binder company. Measure yourself properly. Use their sizing guide and up to 8 hrs a max a day you should be good. If your going to be doing any form of exercising. Then go a size up. Binders can be expensive tho, about £30 upwards (for a decent one from a rep company). Have you tried sports bra's or minimiser bra? Where to get one, in the netherlands? No idea. May be worth asking on your local social LGBTQIA+ media groups. Good luck!
my binder is on the way now and i cant wait to be able to bind i cant wait to finally be able to feel like me in my own body, gender is confusing for me because the way i experience it is weird to say the least, but im hoping that binding will relieve some of my gender worries
a regular binder is actually made to bind. ace bandages are used to compress injuries so that they wouldn't swell, and it's not safe to use that on your chest; it hurts, it just isn't as effective, and it can cause long term damage to your chest.
This reminds me of how the Chinese tied up girls feet for esthetic reasons. Maybe visit a psychologist or a body therapist and talk to your friends and family to get more comfortable in your own body before buying a binder. Your body are ment to breathe freely. A binder should only be a contemporary crutch until you learn to love your body as it is and I'm convinced that everyone can do that with support from ones love ones❤
I've just bought my first binder, got it today. Unfortunately the fabrics is quite uncomfortable for me, but it does work well. Next time I'll pay more attention to sort of fabrics the maker uses.
Just a heads up if anyone is going private for top surgery. Nuffield Health in Brighton has apparently upped their prices by 3k at least. Hoping that will see sense and lower them back down so fingers crossed.
I only want to wear a binder because I get really nervous when I just see my chest jumping here and there I just feel weird and always thinks someone might judge or look at me at a way that I find uncomfortable.
my mom seems to be okay with the idea, i told her i dont want padded bras and dont want to bring attention to my chest/boobs. I havent told her i want a binder tho. Im currently using a strapless bra without the padding, and ilove how much flatter my chest looks.
It is normal to feel that it's a little bit harder to breath when u are wearing a binder, but you are still gonna be able to breath without much effort. The binder is supposed to compress your chest a bit so that you appear flat, that's the main reason you would wear it. And as they say, don't wear it all day, take it off and let your body rest when it's possible.
Got a 13$ binder at walmart from a giftcard because my guardians are homophobic I guess as well as transphobic, but I read all the reviews lots of people said it was really good and fit correctly I also measured myself, trans tape doesnt work sometimes for some people and it can hurt some people
Hey good luck with it. Hope it fits and at least in the future you know which brands to go for. But please listen to your body and stick to the 8 hr max rule. Take care.
I like to be feminine, but I just hate having a big chest. I just don't feel comfortable with my body, so I wanna wear a binder. My family is extremely homophobic so they start assuming things :(
Binder sites always recommend going up a size. Also could try a few recommended binder sites fitting instructions. As you may be lucky and find one where both measurements are the same
LMAO i exercise a lot, so my transphobic parents are letting me buy a binder because I convinced them it was a sports-bra.
Seriously thank you for this. I was feeling down and you just made me chuckle.
ima dude born male and i have women sized breasts for my age its genetic i want to get one to feel normal
@@crusadertwo239 if your parents will let you, you should get one
@@aster9809 they will but not of 2b2b so I will look for a good Amazon one lol
Oh my god I literally did the exact same thing with my mom the other day! I’m nonbinary and I sidestepped my way out of some really awkward questions by saying, “Oh, yeah, it’s just a *really* good sports bra.” I don’t know if she actually bought it, but it seemed to work. 😅
I GOT MY BINDER TODAY. I went a size up because I was about one inch away from being a size and I want to be safe. It is really breathable. It is a lot more comfortable than the sports bra that I used and I can breathe better in it :)
love love love love this!!!! So happy for you
How's it going?
yooooo good for you! i wish i could bind my chest rn but im just too scared to come out of the closet
Where did you get yours from??
Y’all, I cannot stress enough how important it is that you do NOT bind with duct tape or ace bandages or anything like that. Seriously. I tried it once, I was desperate, young, closeted and uneducated on the risks, and I took it off after about 5 minutes because it was getting hard to breathe properly and it started to hurt. I’ve heard horror stories from friends about how people messed up their ribs, back, and even lungs, and you could permanently end your chances of getting top surgery later on (if you want it). Like, seriously. You don’t want to know how much broken, or even BRUISED, ribs hurt. It hurts when you cough or even inhale and exhale deeply. Do. Not. Do. It. Your health and safety is more important. I know it’s tempting, believe me, but for the love of god, you HAVE to bind safely and with an actual binder.
Thank you so much I was going to bc I have homophobic conservative parents that raised me to hate trans ( im secretly trans) again tysm for saving me XD
one of my bfs friends nipplles were ripped off from unsafe binding/srs
Binders are so exspensive 😿
@@col795 They won’t give them to us who don’t identify as trans. Those who identify as non-binary are excluded ):
@@adoreyou7449 they also allow people who are androgynous to get one. What do u identify if u don’t mind me asking? maybe I can help. :)
Aren’t they 16€ on Amazon or something
@@milomiles4005 never bye a binder from Amazon
@@ReaderAres13 oh ok. I’m actually looking for binders rn can you tell me where I can buy good binders?
Yes ray please buy me a proper binder I’m currently wearing multiple sports bras
That's unhealthy
Same
You poor babies...
*haha tatas go s q u i s h*
i’ve got a proper one now:)
They’re both so beautiful and well spoken, listening to them is somehow..comforting?
Just read that to Ray, although for the life of me could not pronounce comforting. Ray smiled and says that's nice.
@@col795 aww🥺🥺
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... I had an amazon binder...
NOW I HAVE A GC2B ONE THO!!!
Congrats. Just follow the safety rules.
I’m sadly currently using a amazon binder, but I do have a gc2b ordered so hopefully it’s comes soon :)
Yeah, hopefully it comes in soon because amazon binders hurt.
Caden Dobbs mine luckily isn’t that bad, it’s pretty comfortable but it doesn’t bind very well so I’m exited for the gc2b one
_Husk_ Yeah, my amazon also had clips and it dug into my skin.
Me watching this after buying a binder from amazon 👁👄👁
Like i just replied to another poster. If the seller provides good fitting instructions and has tons of positive feedback then hopefully you be alright. But any sign of discomfort take it off.
Well if you got an underworks binder on amazon then that’s safe, since it’s a trusted company, but if you order one with hooks on it, or some kind of band wrapping around it, then that’s unsafe (a few unsafe brands are jarazin and xuji)
MY FACE EXACTLY 😭
SAMEEEE Its the only place i could find one💀
same-
I just got my first binder ( I’m a Demigirl but for some reason I am Sooo dysphoric with my chest. ) and I’m literally crying while watching this video. It makes me so happy. Thank you so much
No Zoe. THANK YOU for saying what you said. As you may of seen below Ray's family are having a really bad time today and seeing you post that has given me the first smile that i have had today. So thank you again. Col aka Ray's mum
What in the name of god is a demigirl?
@@transwomenaremale Literally look it up bruh.
IM SO RELIEVED I'VE FOUND SOMEONE TO RELATE TO THIS! [happy-crying emoji]
My college sent out an email about a binder fitting session you can schedule to see what size you'd need or what style you find most comfortable. I cried when I saw how flat my chest was under my sweater and just kept running my hands over my chest because i couldn't believe it felt so flat (im a bit bigger and have tried using compression sports bras but all they did was make them a bit smaller and really hurt my back) they werent giving them away and ive never been able to afford one, it was just for sizing but one of the staff at the LGBTQ+ center emailed me a gift card to buy one. Im so happy and cant wait to get it
That there, that’s my dream college 😭
Um…why is a college having breast binder fitting sessions?
@@transwomenaremale our LGBTQ+ club hosted the event. They did not touch anyone, they just have you a range of sizes and styles to try on until you found one that fit right and felt good. They then gave them away for free to us
oh wow i remember watching this before i ever started binding now i’m 2 1/2 years binding solid (i am feeling the affects :( but also i’m so much happier now!!) saving for a GD diagnosis now so i’ve come a long way!!
Thank you for this! My binder is coming!
Congrats. Your post makes me so happy!!
From where you buy this??
@curious little raindrop happy for you!!
@@trishamarik8975 gc2b!
I'M SO HAPPY FOR YOU
MY MUM WANTS TO CHECK IN WITH MY DOCTOR FIRST
I’m thinking about buying a binder. I’m gender fluid and I’ll love to have a binder. And I’m planing on buying waist trainer too to other days I wanna wear that.
Maybe a corset too in the future.
My style is really mixed on being boyish and girl ish. So it will be amazing having these
I’m the same way 😭
Me too, sometimes I want a binder and sometimes I don’t but I think I’ll get a binder one day
Me too mate. Me too. It's good to find my people...
I have both a binder and a corset, and Im very happy when I use either of them on my fem and masc days. I will admit for me it's a little harder to bind because my chest size is kinda beyond that most trans people I see online have (J...) So it's not easy for me to get my chest situated.. However I use the corset because I have a bad back and it's ~amazing~
@@ladymycelia damn, that gives me hope. I'm still 14, gotta wait 4 more years but thanks for sharing!
I got a gc2b after 2 months of a side clasp amazon binder and oh my god it makes all the difference. It's so comfortable, it fits so well and my ribs don't get even a little bit achy until about 7 hours of binding (at the 8 hour mark i take it off)
So much chest dysphoria has been relived as someone with a somewhat larger chest (38D) and it's been so euphoric that I've now started having dreams of being totally flat without it. It's been incredibly beneficial and affirms that i am in fact the gender i thought i was (genderfluid/genderflux with periods of leaning towards one gender or the other more for a bit)
Hugs. So happy for you. Just keep an eye on the pain. If possible take a day off now and then. But congrats, seriously!!
Are side clamps bad??? I'm kinda worried I'm wearing a side clamp binder rn
Why can’t you just accept the fact that you’re a female?
My mom wont by me a binder cuse she says its not safe and i know there are safe ways i think she just hates the thought of me using it even if its just for cosplay
How are things with your mum now?
I use two bras and a tank top. I put one bra on backwards. This is my second time ever wearing any type of binder. I love it,I'm nonbinary btw
me too :(
Same, I was killua and my twin, natsuhi was gon and I had 4 tank tops on to cover my chest, my sister is flat so whatever. I am not trans or non binary tho
@@luciafromwiisports37 same
(Im also non-binary)
It's trans day of remembrance today. So sending hugs to those that have lost a loved one. To my son Ray who i know is thinking of his friend who took his life a couple of years ago. And due to covid will not be able to be with his LGBTQIA+ family today. Remembered you are all loved, even if you don't feel acceptance from your own family, there is someone out there in the wider world that does love ,accept and support you. Be Safe.
I’m not trans or nb but I really love going on walks at night and my body is pretty curvy so I’ve been trying to find ways to present as more masculine so I can go outside at night
Thank you for this. I'm Non-binary and my binder is finally coming in this week!
Take it easy at first and stick to the guidelines. Good luck!!
Has it arrived yet and how are you doing wearing it?
Personally I can't afford one but I got my friends old Amazon one it like a lage tho I'm a xs im using sewing pins so it fits me lol
one of my friends found out that I wanted a binder and she came up to me and was like "I have this almost black market type thing for binders, if you have the money I can get you one" and I'm so so happy because my parents are so queer phobic and I wouldn't have been able to get one otherwise. I love my friends so so much
How do you define “queer phobic”?
@miles ღ same-gender relationships? You mean same-sex relationships?
Mum ordered me one off amazon after literally a massive argument that me being trans was stabbing her in the back. It probably ain’t the right size I ain’t a clue and it don’t feel like it works
I hope you and your mum is doing better. Fights are the worst and remember to drink water. ☺️
I’m sorry to hear that, hun. Try to give her some time, but stay true to yourself. You are who you are and that’s great.
Reminder: you’re not a disappointment and you deserve to be happy.
Thank you 🥰
Amazon binders aren't safe
My friend has about 3 binders and is offering to give me one when we go back to school! Since the ones they used to use are too small. They’re letting me have one of them so I’m super grateful, this is a very helpful video!
I guess thats where I went wrong, I bought mine from Amazon and I hate it so I guess I have to get a new one without my parents knowing yayy~ 😞
Spectrum outfitters if your in the UK are having a free giveaway at the moment. Also if you have got a good friend or neigbour that can buy it for you and you give them the money. So it gets sent to their house.
if you still need help i think I can help:)
(Paragraph about unasked venting warning!)
I’m not sure of my sexuality or gender as far as I’m concerned, but for the longest time, I REALLY wanted to flat out my chest. I’m not comfortable with my chest size, and I rather be flat chested than to be with big breasts
Who you are doesn't matter in regards to wearing a binder. There have been cis people on here wanting advice about binders. Just look after your health as big breast can cause a lot of issues
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same, flat chest felt comfortable for some reason
I’m just wearing an extra small sports bra
Lol
dont hurt yourself tho!!!!
@curious little raindrop
I only wear it for 1-6 hours
HA I DO THAT-
I do that
I just got mine today and my mom doesn’t know anything about it and we also have a bad relationship between us so I hope she doesn’t find out 🤠💃
I thought i posted a reply to this? Not showing up. So don't do what Ray did and that is leave it in the bathroom. At the time i didn't know Ray was trans, I thought it was because he was self conscious as he is big chested.
How are things?
@@col795 Well in general things are going alright but imma wait until i know for sure that my mother is supportive
on a birthday party of my friend i was experiencing dysphoria and my non binary friend offered to buy me one (my parents r transphobic) and im so nervous
Loving the fact that it sounds like you have got an amazing friend. Feeling sad that your parents are like that. Sending you a virtual mum hug.
Col i met them for the first time a few days ago, I rly never expected them to buy it for me but yesss they’re very loving they’re the best ever
i was extremely nervous too when my friend offered to get me one. at the time i was binding with ace bandages and when i went into a bathroom stall to put that binder on for the first time it felt illegal to breathe but i was so relieved with it :]
I can't afford one sadly. I cry a lot because of the dysphoria of my chest. But seeing others be able to bind and feel better in their bodies always brings my spirits up. ❤
Point of pride charity and trans Santa on Instagram may be helpful. Sending you hugs as it hurts that your crying.
It might help to check on second-hand or thrift sites to find one! I got a gc2b binder in my size for less than $10, but it can be difficult finding correct sizes since in my experience binders can get sold VERY quickly. I felt sad about not being able to afford one for a long time, so if you’re lucky with what’s being listed/up for sale right now, it might help! 💖
I can’t wear binders because I had pretty bad lungs (hard time breathing, ect.) but I got a compression sports bra which doesn’t flatten as much but definitely looks pretty flat and I’m really happy about that :) hope everyone’s day is going really well
I thought i posted a reply yesterday but was so sleep deprived forgot to press reply. Anyway really glad that you have found a solution that your happy with. Anyway Ray is coming home later so fingers crossed that's he's able to do so. As he's got to travel 70 miles via public transport. He's had his first covid jab the other week. So i hope he remembers to bring his card incase he gets stopped by the cops. The dogs are going to go ape shite.
Great job! Thank you for making sure we stay safe :)
If it doesn't make you feel really uncomfortable, you might find it comfortable.
I got mine yesterday from a friend and I couldn't be happier! I've always been really dysphoric about my chest, even when I didn't know I was a trans man. It's really comforting to know that- well I can be comfortable in my body y'know? :)
i just bought my first binder and im really excited for it to come!!
its from gc2b btw!
ooohohhhhh good luck and let us know how you do with it.
Thank you for this! My friends bought me a binder for Christmas and it came today :D
Love reading posts like this. Just carefully work up to the 8 hr max. And congrats
BYE ASF I THOUGHT YALL WERE TALKING ABOUT SCHOOL BINDERS GSJHSGDH😭 then i saw and im like oh im dumb ik what it issss😀👏🏼
Ahaha
I hate being young and finding out you’re trans cause people immediately assume it’s a phase or you’re confused
It took me 5+ years to find out I was trans
hugs first. www.uber.com/en-GB/blog/the-many-voices-of-pride/ scroll down to Ray's story. What hurts is that Ray felt that he couldn't come out to us. And oh boy did he fuck up his eyebrows!! And they were so nice.
Yea.
It’s a social contagion right now
@@transwomenaremale what?
@@itzmadi0626 Exactly what I wrote.
Gc2b doesn’t stretch in the front so i’ve never been able yo use them i use underworks
did you measure tho..
underworks is a good make as well
@curious little raindrop Why do you feel that you made the wrong choice? There is no set time limit on who you want to be inside. You can take all the time in the world to decide. You can be gender fluid. Clothes and make up have no gender. I have changed my profile picture. So that you can see Ray wearing make up and some fluffy thing round his neck. He's wearing a jacket as i think he may of gotten bollocked by the vice president of his uni's LGBTQIA+ society as he's covering up a 'homemade' t-shirt that says "you're not gender critical your a cunt!" on it!!!!!This is at trans pride event. Have you read about this guy? www.boredpanda.com/confident-man-wears-heels-skirt-markbryan911/?
my cousin said she wants to buy me a binder and honestly i just broke down in tears she's so sweet
Love ❤️❤️❤️ comments like yours. Your cousin sounds the best. Hold on to her.
As a trans boy, I love this 😂
I ordered my first binder ever on Christmas and it’s coming next week or the one after so this is really helpful! I’m a little stressed though because I’m scared people might notice 😭
This was a great video. I’m 19 years old and just realized that I’m non-binary. I really want a binder but my parents are transphobic so that won’t happen right now unfortunately. I’m thinking of having a friend secretly get me a binder once I’m back at college.
Guessing your in the states? Although you could easily be in the UK. Honestly don't know what to say when someone writes about their parents being transphobic. Apart from given time, you will make friends that are so close that they will become your family. When you get your binder, just don't leave it out if your parents are around.
@@col795 I’m in the USA. I’ve already started to make friends with other trans people from my college and we’ve formed a trans support group. I’m not sure how long I can keep this a secret from my parents. I’ll probably just hide my binder in with my sports bras once I get it. I’m still financially dependent on my parents so I don’t want to make them angry since they are paying for my college education.
@@NatureLover-pj2qe Make sure that each time you use your computer that you clean your history of anything trans related. My fave saying apart from "fuck a duck!" is 'cover your arse!!!' So i don't know how long you have got left at college as the UK is different. But you have got to prepare yourself for a worse case scenario. Hopefully you never have to use it. But the information that you find out could help someone else. So finance aid, healthcare, a room, part time jobs. Any LGBTQIA+ charities that can offer support. A burner phone. If your bank account is anyway linked to your parents then a different bank account. If they are paying for your car, then access to a friend car or know your bus routes(Sorry, i like to read m/m romance books and get ting most of my ideas from them).How to remove oneself from 'the sperm and egg' so that one can get the finance support. Set up a contact tree (is that what you usa lot call it?) Tighten up all your social media. But also keep your head down and concentrate on your studies (i know its hard- with covid and being at home, lack of support and understanding) . Any way what are you studying and hoping to do after college. Or you have no idea yet?
@@col795 Thanks for the advice. I am currently majoring in environmental engineering and when I’m done with college I want to work for an environmental firm to improve air and water quality. I have 3 years left of college since I am pursuing a masters degree.
I had no idea this even existed. This was super interesting to watch.
Me who was about to sleep in my binder but making sure it’s safe 👁👄👁
There's no safe way to sleep in a binder I'm afraid dude. It's the only time your body gets a rest from the binder if your wareing it daily
So proud of you my sonxxx
My mom thinks it would give me cancer if I wore one. I’m not out yet, I had one but my mom found out and she took it away from me. It was one of the worst days of my life.
oh bloody hell seriously? It doesn't. "Binding and Breast Cancer
There is no evidence to suggest that chest binding increases the risk of breast cancer. Whether you choose to bind or not, you should always be concerned about the health of your chest tissue. Unless you initiate testosterone therapy or undergo FTM/N chest reconstruction surgery, you maintain the same risk for breast cancer. Even after FTM/N top surgery, you still have a small risk of developing breast cancer. Performing monthly self-chest exams and undergoing recommended mammograms with your physician are the two best ways to detect cancer early. If you have concerns regarding chest tissue health or chest binding, discuss them with your primary care physician." Basically he says you got the same odds before binding, after binding or having them chopped. Which transphobic site did she get that information from?
UPDATE, I got another binder, I was trying my best but my mom was moving the collar of my shirt and then saw my binder, she dug through my room, found all of my binders and tighter sports bras and cut them up
Gc2b is so gooddd
My mom says that if I do research, and as long as it's safe (and as long as I take the right precautions), she'll get me a binder 🥺
My gc2b binder came today and I couldn't be happier
I want to buy a binder but my parents dont know im lgbt plus my familys kinda poor, and if I did end up buying one my parents would buy it off Amazon even if I told them not to (yes thats happened multiple times) and I just dont know what to do :')
If you do need to buy off Amazon, make sure it's Underworks. They're a safe, reputable brand that offers binders on Amazon. Unfortunately, they're a bit more expensive than some of the other binders on there-- around $30. When people say to stay away from Amazon binders, they mean the cheap ones from weird Chinese companies no one has ever heard of that don't put a priority on safety or comfort the way brands like Underworks or GC2B do.
@@noahahaustin8892 Hi, they could be from the UK. So spectrum outfitters and the europe version of GC2B. But thank you so much for helping.
Apparently (as of 2022-2023) GC2B has caused bruising and harm when binding! Please bind safely and research the companies before buying!
I just got my first binder today!! :)
yayy me too!!!!
@@myjigjawdropped Yay!!
I came out to my friend that I’m trans or gender fluid and she was so freaking supportive and said she’s gonna buy me a binder… some days later she actually got one for me 😭 I feel so bad but she said it’s for my birthday that she missed… love her and as for my parents, they already know but… I don’t feel as comfortable yet to tell them I want a binder even though they are very supportive
And thank god she bought one for herself 😌✊
Luv your friend. She sounds amazing. I'm so glad that your parents know. As long as you are careful with your binder. And that you do listen to with your body. Hopefully by the time they find out then they should be ok. If your worried at all. Just start researching information and if u have a computer. Just store all your info that you collected and give it to them. Slightly different situation. But when Ray came out, he gave us some links about trans. I didn't look as I didn't feel the need. But his dad did and i think it was either the same day or within a few days. His dad was getting him some binders. I got him some about a year later and that's another story. And oh boy Ray deserved a 'jeffro gibbs' for not listening to his mum.
I’ve bought a binder from Amazon
Thoran EH lol yep
Is it good? Lmao
The only brand you should buy on amazon is underworks
im genderfluid, and I cant get my hands on a binder (don't really wanna explain it to my parents) so Im just using sports bras as a substitute, but seeing all these comments about people getting their binders just make me really happy :))) Stay strong all you queer folks :))
Me who just bought a binder off amazon: 👁👄👁
Binders are so expensive, I use a pair of leggings which work great! But I wan’t a proper binder! But I’m scared to ask! :(
I GOT A BINDER, AND IT WORKS SO WELL! YAY! ❤
I am a trans boy I'm going to be getting a binder soon, I wanted to watch this because I needed to know how to bind safely because I don't wanna cause damage
So how's it going?
@@col795 it's gonna have to be a little while longer before I can get it T-T
I'ma try and get it ordered in the next few days but after that, it's still gonna be a week or twp
Thank you! I didn't know there were specific binders for swimming. I'm totally going to find those.
You can use a binder that is a size up for swimming.
@@col795 really? Just like that? I thought it should be a specific fabric so it doesn't get damaged with the salt or the chlorine (depending if you swim in the sea or in a swimming pool).
@@LluviaSelenita I double checked and both gc2b and spectrum outfitters are both suitable for swimming. Just use a size up and only use that binder for swimming. Any concerns check their FAQ first and it you still have concerns just email them. Or ask the question on their social media pages. As that way your more likely to get replies from other users. Maybe even tips on how to take it off after you been swimming etc.
@@col795 awesome. Thanks a lot for your help. I'll follow your advice.
How do ur chest place cuz i got my first binder today and idk the most comfortable place meant of ur chest especially for someone like me with a rather big chest area
𝙴𝚍𝚒𝚝: 2 𝚖𝚘𝚗𝚝𝚑𝚜 𝚠𝚒𝚝𝚑 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚋𝚒𝚗𝚍𝚎𝚛 𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝚖𝚢 𝚐𝚘𝚍 𝚒𝚝𝚜 𝚐𝚛𝚎𝚊𝚝 𝚕𝚘𝚕 𝚙𝚛𝚎𝚝𝚝𝚢 𝚖𝚞𝚌𝚑 𝚐𝚘𝚘𝚍 𝚋𝚢𝚎 𝚋𝚒𝚐 𝚌𝚑𝚎𝚜𝚝 𝚕𝚘𝚕
Down towards your armpits, i just got told but if its a legit website then there should be information.
@@col795 thx
@@flyingpotatogamer0336 so happy for you!!!
2:46 I never put 2 and 2 together that upper body workouts could help with this, thank you!
man my future self will bind their chest. although i recently identified as non-binary, i wouldn’t come out to my parents until the late future since i would never want to find out that my parents are actually lgbtqphobic right now. but this video is useful! thank you ❤️❤️
Heres hoping that when you do come out, your parents will surprise you. Until then stay safe.
I have just got my 1 binder today and I love it and this video has helped me lots!
I am not trans but I dislike my chest so can I still use a binder without offending anyone?
Binders are for everyone! Of course you can
Ofc! Binders are for everyone, if you don’t like your chest wear a binder!
Of course :) in fact if cis women start doing it then they will become more readily available. Everyone wins.
i got my first binder today (im 12) and i just want to see the safety precautions of it
I'm not a trans or nonbinery or anything like that, but I need a binder so I can cosplay male character is it like safe to use it for only cosplay? And is it safe to use it on the age of 11-14 years old? And I live in the Netherlands so where can I buy a binder?
If you find a reputable binder company. Measure yourself properly. Use their sizing guide and up to 8 hrs a max a day you should be good. If your going to be doing any form of exercising. Then go a size up. Binders can be expensive tho, about £30 upwards (for a decent one from a rep company). Have you tried sports bra's or minimiser bra? Where to get one, in the netherlands? No idea. May be worth asking on your local social LGBTQIA+ media groups. Good luck!
@@col795 thank you
Nnekas voice is so calming
Thank you
my binder is on the way now and i cant wait to be able to bind i cant wait to finally be able to feel like me in my own body, gender is confusing for me because the way i experience it is weird to say the least, but im hoping that binding will relieve some of my gender worries
Have you received it yet?
@@col795 yes ive had it for about 2 weeks now and im very happy
I don’t get it. What’s the difference between using a regular binder and using an Ace Bandage?
a regular binder is actually made to bind. ace bandages are used to compress injuries so that they wouldn't swell, and it's not safe to use that on your chest; it hurts, it just isn't as effective, and it can cause long term damage to your chest.
@@loudespierre5680 thanks Lola for helping Claire out.
I’m watching videos on how to bind safely even though my parents won’t let me get a binder 😃
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I have worn a binder for 2 weeks straight without taking it off once.
please dont, that can really hurt you in the long run
That sounds so uncomfortable and painful I hope you're not doing this anymore
Please don't do that that's *extremely* dangerous you may not be able to get top surgery if you over stretch your skin
Please PLEASE take it off. That is not healthy at all.
*wanna bet on who can do it longer*
This reminds me of how the Chinese tied up girls feet for esthetic reasons.
Maybe visit a psychologist or a body therapist and talk to your friends and family to get more comfortable in your own body before buying a binder.
Your body are ment to breathe freely.
A binder should only be a contemporary crutch until you learn to love your body as it is and I'm convinced that everyone can do that with support from ones love ones❤
Me who bought a binder of amazon thats realy comfterble and good. 👁👄👁
I just bought my first binder spent all my money on. I bought the gc2b and I'm so excited for it come.
I love Nneka's accent AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHH
I've just bought my first binder, got it today. Unfortunately the fabrics is quite uncomfortable for me, but it does work well. Next time I'll pay more attention to sort of fabrics the maker uses.
I need to buy a better binder, because yes, I did end up buying mine off Amazon because I didn't do any prior research
Just a heads up if anyone is going private for top surgery. Nuffield Health in Brighton has apparently upped their prices by 3k at least. Hoping that will see sense and lower them back down so fingers crossed.
just a question, do you think i could bind at school? i know for pe i should take it off, but what about a regular 8 hour school day? Is it okay?
Yes :) if you take some days off for eyample at the weekend it should be safe (if it doesn‘t hurt)
Thanks! I'm Nonbairy still a preteen and i have been thinking about it for a bit and i wanna try one out i wanna have a more flat chest
i got mine today. it makes me feel so good
Watching this after I got my first binder from Amazon 🙃
As long as it fits ok and you stick to the guidelines on here.
I just got my first binder today :DD
I made a binder out of my leggings and I’m watching videos on binding so I can make sure i don’t get hurt my first time binding
I only want to wear a binder because I get really nervous when I just see my chest jumping here and there I just feel weird and always thinks someone might judge or look at me at a way that I find uncomfortable.
Sending hugs as its not a nice feeling
Watching this after being gifted a binder at school
How?? 👀 dream school
@@R4ts_ My friend gave me a binder, but yes dream school
My friend is getting me a binder and I absolutely needed one
i so love reading posts like this. Your friend sounds fantastic
Any update?
Once on of my friends was wearing 3 binders EVERY DAY 😭
They now only wear one THANK GOD
my mom seems to be okay with the idea, i told her i dont want padded bras and dont want to bring attention to my chest/boobs. I havent told her i want a binder tho. Im currently using a strapless bra without the padding, and ilove how much flatter my chest looks.
That's good that your mum seems ok with you being your true self.
omg i need u guys in my life so much in this moment, thank you so much...
A few months ago my friend got me a binder and I almost cried bc of the euphoria :,)
It is normal to feel that it's a little bit harder to breath when u are wearing a binder, but you are still gonna be able to breath without much effort. The binder is supposed to compress your chest a bit so that you appear flat, that's the main reason you would wear it. And as they say, don't wear it all day, take it off and let your body rest when it's possible.
Yes a little is okay
Just got my binder and my friend said i should do research before wearing it. I did most of it but thiis video did help a bit more
Glad the video helped. Just remember to work up to the 8 hour max limit. And generally follow the safety guidelines in the video.
@@col795 i am! I just took it off. I had it on for 3 hours cause of personal reasons
@@col795 not that it hurt just fear of getting yelled at
@@Kay-mv9un :'( family not supportive then?
@@col795 saddly no.but its alright:) i got supportive friend
Got a 13$ binder at walmart from a giftcard because my guardians are homophobic I guess as well as transphobic, but I read all the reviews lots of people said it was really good and fit correctly I also measured myself, trans tape doesnt work sometimes for some people and it can hurt some people
This will be my first time so Thank you for this advice I on the safety of using a binder and sorry had to use Amazon to get my
Hey good luck with it. Hope it fits and at least in the future you know which brands to go for. But please listen to your body and stick to the 8 hr max rule. Take care.
Yesssssssss I'm enby and just got a binder but I wanna be safe while wearing it
I like to be feminine, but I just hate having a big chest. I just don't feel comfortable with my body, so I wanna wear a binder. My family is extremely homophobic so they start assuming things :(
I bought a binder and it doesn't really bind my chest. I feel worse than i did before now..
If I have one with clips that has enough room for my chest and it's on one clip and it's the loosest one will I be ok?
What to do if my shoulder is L and my chest is XL
Binder sites always recommend going up a size. Also could try a few recommended binder sites fitting instructions. As you may be lucky and find one where both measurements are the same
not me getting a binder off AliExpress 💀