STEPMUM LOST HUSBAND WHILST FIGHTING IN COURT
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- čas přidán 30. 12. 2023
- Very intense episode where we hear the story of a stepmother from the US who supported her husband through the UK family courts, fighting the Narcissist ex wife for child access.
Sadly during this journey she lost her husband to cancer, very intense story and difficult podcast to get through.
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Keep going Faroukh. We shall support you in whatever way we can. 👍👍👍
Great studio Farook. Sasha seems like a very respectable and wise guest, I wish her the best
Lovely lady, we spoke for a while off camera. Really feel for her.
Just watched the whole podcast and I have to say this was very heartbreaking and I felt connected to the father on so many levels May God give him peace. He was a perfect example of a father who simply wanted best for his children. He tried to maintain contact regardless of a system that was against him from day one and a mother who stooped to evil on levels we cannot even comprehend. It’s sad and triggering. What’s important to also emphasise is Sasha’s love and support throughout this entire ordeal and she stuck by her man when others would have probably fled. It opened many realisations for me that someone that you were once married to, had children with, and had goals and dreams with, can now become so evil that they'll not allow you to see your children even if you're dying or on your last days on this earth. The damage of parental alienation is evident in the children who go through it and they'll grow up resenting the alienating parent. Research today shows this is factual. I was in tears listening to this podcast. Praying for those children and Sasha to get through this testing time.
Yes it was a very intense and difficult podcast to conduct and talking to Sashaa on and off camera, listening to her commitment to her man and those children was and is highly commendable.
Thank you for supporting, this just highlights we have to continue working and pushing to expose parental alienation and fight In every way we can.
Sasha comes across as such a kind and compassionate person! Wish her the best
Yup she is an absolute amazing lady.
Thanks for this moving podcast. This was so sad, painful, and outrageous.
There are two sides to every story. Shame we can't get the mom AND the children's side.
But this experience for the children is loading up so much trauma UNNECESSARILY...
Saschas account was being really supportive, being positive in mood and atmosphere, and always trying to do good and avoid trauma and emotional pain.
Maybe the CZcams title should be 'Dad had alienation of his children even with terminal cancer...' But have to respect the wishes of stepmom too.
Alhamdulillah you are very watchable Faroukh. That was a rollercoaster of a podcast. Once you start watching, you can't stop.
Yes had a chat with sashaa off camera.
Have to say she was very supportive of her husband throughout this period, always trying to avoid conflict.
I probed more into the circumstances and to get a full picture,
and it was clear that baby mum was suffering from a personality disorder, caused by generational trauma, which seems to be the common pattern and theme with a lot of these family breakdowns.
And the hadith that says to help the oppressed and the oppressor. The Sahaba said how do you help the oppressor? And the Rasool said by stopping the Oppressor doing his oppression.
These damaged people e.g. mom, need help but the mom needs to be STOPPED from harming others i.e. good dad's. But the family courts SUPPORT this oppressive behaviour from mom's with mental disorders...
I’m actually one of her step sons, I’m not actually allowed to give my side.
@@genetwd we tried to keep you guys from being in the middle and court never had the people over lockdown to give you and your siblings your chance. 😢 We also know to respect your relationship with your mom. So we never crossed the line of bringing you into an argument. xxx
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Timestamps
1:50 introduction by guest Sasha
3:10 How Sasha and Andy met, and his divorce and co-parenting.
5:50 Access issues of the children from the beginning. Primary carer mum holds all the cards, so dad and his family tried to appease her walking on eggshells.
9:16 Being a stepmum
13:55 Decreasing child access with petty vindictive games
17:00 Vindictive games get worse. Dad rented car, told to BUY a car. Dad staying at his mums, told FIND another home. Then mum said they don't like coming to see you!!!
18:15 Mum ignores dads parental responsibility wishes on important matters; phones, ear piercing, moving schools moving home.
22:30 How these games affect Sascha and Andys relationship.
24:20 Things get worse. Teenage Daughter tantrum incident. Allegation of force feeding and bullying by dad. Last time dad saw his daughter.
30:30 All contact stopped by mom unilaterally.
35:00 c100 form filled in to the family court.
41:10 School sided with mom and local council advised to stop contact with dad. Even though school did not investigate mom's claims of abuse against dad.
48:00 In court, dad Andy countering historic allegations of abuse by dad.
53:00 Managing this stress. Being litigant in person at the 1st hearing.
56:55 Contact centre experience really stressful and depressing for dad Andy. Contact centre HAPPENING FOR NO REASON.
1:02:00 2nd court date. Court could not force daughter to have contact.
Daughter submitted to court a letter that dad was a bully.
Other children said contact centre was a PRISON and instead wanted to visit dad's home.
1:04:30 mum did not agree at court to regular access at dad's home, but to keep visits to the contact centre.
1:06:00 Andy's health starts deteriorating badly.Grieving as not able to see daughter. Emotionally distressed.
1:11:45 Andy diagnosed with stage 4 terminal bowel cancer
1:14:00 Stepmom meets mom face to face, and child contact restarted as dad is terminally ill.
1:18:24 Alienation started again with the boys. Dad battling contact with children and battling cancer at the same time.
1:26:00 Dad said to mom on phone, I only get 90 days in a year. Mom said court gives you every other weekend. And if you miss it you miss it. (!)
1:26:40 Oldest son understood dad is really ill.
1:28:00 Oldest son asks stepmom what do I need to do to live with dad 😢
1:28:47 Dad Andy with terminal cancer has to explain to oldest son, that son has to wait till son is aged 14 before you decide where to stay, and mom has to agree too.😢😢
Son asked why wouldn't mom agree 😢😢😢 Dad Andy had to explain to son that mom had denied contact.
1:31:00 Son spoke to mom about son moving in with dad. Mom said you can't get move in because if you get close to him then he will die!! (This is OUTRAGEOUS).
Mom not just taking away contact from dad, but also saying don't get close.
1:34:10 Dad Andy admitted into hospital, cancer moving into end of life phase.
1:36:20 Dad Andy asked to see daughter. Dad hadn't seen daughter in two years and was terminally ill. Daughter sent a letter to dad saying she didn't want to see him but she loved him...... Dad Andy passed away at home.
1:40:10 Children weren't at the funeral!! (This is OUTRAGEOUS).
1:41:20 Stepmom and Andy's family haven't had visits from the children for 8 months. Children can't connect to Andy through Andy's parents and Uncles & Aunts.
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Plenty of notes, and make sure you watch through, very sad intense story.
Great Podcast Farouq.
Continue with the amazing work.
A truly moving and heart touching experience on many levels.
Such contrasting behaviours from humans beings throughout this incredible incident.
My deepest thoughts and prayers be with Andy, saasha and the innocent children.
Despite the heartbreak of losing their father, the stepmother emerged as an exceptional role model for the children who had also experienced the pain of alienation. Through her unwavering love and support, she not only helped in trying to heal the wounds caused by alienation but also showed them the resilience to overcome adversity through her conduct along with Andy. Both Sasha’s and Andy’s actions became a silver lining, illustrating the transformative power of compassion and strength in the face of life’s challenges, leaving an enduring legacy for the children and us(the listens) to carry forward.
Thank you for sharing.
Yes this is a very moving story, thank you for your feedback, very well articulated.
Time to watch this one.. great shows so far! Loving the momentum.
Thanks brother, she’s from the US Florida. Your country woman, show support baby. ✊✊✊
My sister Sasha has been through hell with "the mom". It breaks my heart watching this podcast and reliving this situation all over, but I understand this is her reality. Andy (may he rest in peace) was a saint; he was always concerned about the kids and a very hands-on dad. The kids were always his priority. He made several sacrifices to give the kids a normal life and at one point took them to Disney World for a family vacation. Andy could not bear the stress with the court systems, lawyers and the constant threats this evil woman placed upon him knowing he was battling cancer. In my eyes she killed Andy! - Yes, I said it and mean every word of it. Constantly lying in her emails and taking the case to court can cause havoc/stress on anyone especially with someone battling a degenerating illness. When Andy passed the children were not in attendance to his service. Why not let the children give their father a proper goodbye. To this day this evil woman continues to alienate the children and will one day or not will realize the damage she has done to all 4 of them.
I feel your pain, and understand where your coming from.
I know the immense pressure and pain Andy felt going through the family court system, the sort of wild games an allegation’s mum can seemingly get away with.
It’s chews away inside your soul everyday, and the feeling of helplessness and feeling demasculated eats away at you.
It is truly evil that a system like this exists.
God rest Andy’s soul.
I pray for his children.
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1:31:20 what an absolute disgusting thing to say to a child. Surely, that in itself, is a form of child abuse?
Yes it was difficult to listen to. It was a tough podcast. Was choking up inside at times.
I think the presenter here interrupts more than Pierce Morgan😂
Just trying to get the details of the story.
My story was very dense. He did a good job keeping me going. I could ramble for ages and go off in a tangent. He was great 👍🏼
Do you ever write anything in that book?
This cracked me up, on a serious note please keep up the good work Brother we all appreciate it
Looking more Hench, bro! Mashallah!
Will be hitting gym harder new year. Watch this space baby.
So basically the husband kept accomodating to it and didnr want to lose contact. But ultimately he lost his kids and more. I geniunely believe he was more likely to see his kids without as many obstacles if he didnt want to see them. She did this because he wanted to see his children.
Yea poor Andy just got caught out by the system and the ex.
He tried his best for his kids.
How do we get this guy to talk less?
😂😂 get me a latte during the podcast.