I Was A**aulted. + Some Safety Tips for Solo Female Travellers.
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- čas přidán 9. 09. 2024
- (this was really difficult for me to film/edit, so please be kind)
Unfortunately something bad happened to me. you might have noticed that my plans changed and I got a bit behind on uploading - and this is why - I ended up leaving and going to a different country to try to recover and I'm now doing well but I thought it was important to share this story just so that I'm not giving anyone a false impression that everything is all rosey all of the time. unfortunately things like this can happen when you're travelling - and it could happen ANYWHERE in the world - so please don't believe that this has affected the way I feel about the people in this country. I will return and explore it properly for sure :) I just really wanted something positive to come out of this, so i wanted to share some safety tips. If I can help just one person to stay safe then that makes me feel a lot better.
Massive thank you to everyone for your support at this time , much love ❤️
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I’m nimi, a solo traveller from the UK. I love to make videos so I am documenting my journey as I explore other cultures, history and landscapes around the world.
Oh Mimi, so sorry - I am literally crying now. Felt something was wrong. You hang in there girl - you are an amazing strong person. Glad you have a wonderful brother.
Aww it’s okay I’m all good now, and yes I am super lucky!! ❤
Really sorry Mimi. Stay strong and my thoughts are with you.
Thank you ❤
One of the saddest moments I had was having it sink in when my wife explained that constant vigilance is just a "norm" for women... that there is a constant concern about potential assault. I'm about 6ft 1 and not a small framed guy... I've been known (more in my youth) to literally go for hours long walks late at night (I found it quite nice and quiet)... I absolutely take that for granted. You are extremely brave to be turning your situation into something to help others so massive bravo to you for that... look after yourself and do what you need to do for your own sake.
To be honest up until recently I’ve been kind of blasé about walking at night / just generally thinking that nothing would happen, but it’s a wake up call I guess 🙈
@@madmousetales don't beat yourself up about it. There are just some cruddy people out there. Let us know if you need anything (not sure what we can provide... but the offer is there).
Indeed incredibly brave from you Ms. You have to be in order to overcome your distress / egoistic feelings, and share so that other people especially women learn from you experience. Kuddo's to your attitude from a French traveler.
So, so sorry to hear of your ordeal. Like you I tend to trust too easily, but being a highly sensitive type, I also sense people's energy. How terrifying it must have been for you. I am so relieved you are now safe and in a good place. I hope you can process what happened with the best help possible. Thank you for sharing an important message however uncomfortable it made you feel. All the best to you!! and good to hear your brother took such good care of you.
Thank you so much ❤ I am going to try and be more on the ball from now on!!
It's horrible that women need to be so vigilant and defensive at all times. 😓 And that this sort of thing is rarely reported.😓And when it is victims are often not believed, or made out to be somehow responsible: " Well, what were you wearing?" 😓 It's been 40 years, I never reported it, and it still haunts me. I cannot stand to be touched, cannot trust people who do not deserve to be treated so. 😓
I am so sorry 💔
@@madmousetales Thank you. 🖤🤍💜
I am so so sorry that this happened to you. Please know that it was not your fault and you did nothing wrong. I am glad to hear that you are getting good support
Thank you so much ❤
Hi, thank you for your video. As a female traveler, I understand a lot of how you felt, but express my sympathy and compassion for what transpired that was unthinkable, and unspeakable. I support you taking back your thought and speech. This is an invaluable tip by word of mouth for other female travelers like myself. I benefit from being reminded to be more careful, as careful as I already am.
Well done, and also pretty well said, lad!
Thank you so much ❤
Sad it happens but here we have to be honest, if we ARE supposed to be honest: There is no shortage of videos on the great interwebz giving HUGH warnings traveling to certain areas and within certain cultures.
Ofc there wont be many on youtube cus they are cencored when reported but yeah: There are no end to the warnings.
The censorship drives me crazy!!
I’m very sad that you went through that. Harsh lesson to learn that a LOT of strange men have sinister intentions. I don’t even talk to unknown men anymore (also learned the hard way) and get by fine. What a humbling experience, please don’t be hard on yourself because all of us women have let our guard down before and immediately regretted it! 😢
@@marlajacques6947 it’s unfortunate but true sadly .. it’s hard to navigate people’s intentions a lot of the time. They can be so misleading!
I'm horrified that happened to you! I'm sorry, so glad you got out of it when you could and got back home. Thank goodness for Seth. The advice you gave is what women (especially) need to hear and to trust your gut. Take care and surround yourself with people and places you love so you can heal.
@@libbylong9059 yessss my brother saved me for sure! Thank you so much for the support ❤️
Thank you Nimi. May you continue to be You, courageous, intrepid and inspiring.
Thank you so much ❤
So much respect for your bravery in talking about this and so sorry it happened to you. Please consider reporting him because he will do it again and these things tend to escalate in severity, he needs to be known to the authorities.
Take care, it takes time to recover from something so traumatic, and glad you are safe and sound now
This has crossed my mind more than once but at the time I just couldn’t really face it, and now I’m out of the country Imnnot sure how I would even do that but apparently I could report to the UK fcdo, so maybe I’ll do that
@@madmousetales first and foremost do what's right for you, but yeah if you do choose to I reckon the UK police could pass it along.
I am so sorry. I hope it never happens to you (any woman) again. God bless you. You are a very strong woman, I am sure you will get over this trauma soon. 🧿🧿🧿
I'm am so sad this happened to you. You are so brave and thank you for sharing your ordeal with others. I can't think of any words. Cry if you need to, you don't have to be brave all the time my Lovely. I just want you to know your videos have lifted me in some dark times. You are a light in what can be a dark world. Keep shining! Sending love xxxx
Thank you so much 🥰🥰
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I'm so sorry you went through this. It's no comfort to know that every young woman I knew when i was younger who travelled alone in Europe, experienced some form of sexual assault. It's a sad fact that men who wouldn't dream of doing anything like that to a woman from their culture may easily feel that a foreign woman is fair game.
Speaking as someone who did some counselling in the far past... try not to second-guess how you could have reacted differently; you did what you thought was best at the time.
Thank you so much. I really needed to hear that. ❤
@@madmousetales After an experience like that, it takes courage to say to yourself. “It happened but I won’t let that horrible experience taint the rest of my life.” Doing that can take time so be gentle with yourself; those who love you will understand.
P.S. Please forgive me for offering un-asked for advice.
@@mbtaijiit is always very welcome and gratefully received, thank you so much ❤
I am so sorry about this Nimi. I have never felt so ashamed of my country. I am going to Armenia in 2 weeks - please tell me the bus number and his name.
@@Fuezekiel please don’t be sorry 🙏 from what I have heard this is not a really common occurrence and also for the most part I found Armenian men to be polite and respectful! It can happen in any country unfortunately, and it has not changed the way I feel about Armenia, I will go back one day 😃
@@madmousetales you really have a big heart ❤️ god bless you and your amazing brother
You are such a nice person. This should not have happened to you. Please take courage and positivity in the fact that you are so brave and you continue to be you despite negative incidents.
Thank you so much ❤
What a horrible thing to have happened to you, it makes me so sad that there are such unkind people around taking advantage. It's very brave of you Nimi to speak out and warn other solo travellers out there. You will feel much better after talking about it. I'm glad you have been able to move on and put it, as best you can, behind you. Thank goodness your lovely brother was able to help you Nimi. Stay safe, take care and enjoy the rest of your trip. We are looking forward to your upcoming adventures 🥰❤ xx
Yeah I felt I had to really just to be completely honest about the possibility of what could happen even if it is probably a case of me just being really unlucky! Thank you so much for your support, it means a lot ❤❤❤
@@madmousetales You have my support Nimi, my friend 🥰
This is very brave of you! This can happen to anyone. Nimi has travelled extensively to many different countries both solo and in company.
@@Berylthe-peril thank you ❤️
Don’t talk to anyone you don’t know. If you are female say you are waiting for your husband
Hopefully talking about this assault will help with the healing process.like you say listen to your inner self .Good to see you are upbeat about Turkey.l enjoyed my visit there .Stay safe.
@@user-pq4qc8tb7s definitely - and I felt a bit like I had to talk about it on here and not hide a part of myself and my journey on here . Thank you so much for the support ❤️
Horrific to hear that you suffered this and heartbreaking to hear. Women should be safe travelling /out and about, but sadly they aren't.
You definitely did the right thing to give him your number. Better the scumbag thinks you like him and want to see him again, it could have saved your life.
@@Rundogz very true , and yes I think you are right about the phone number thing, cos I was able to block him from contacting me straight away
As a man I feel sad you had to be in such a situation my wife traveled alot and it's always risky
Hope you get healing
Thank you so much ❤
I am so sorry for that experience.....
Nimi I'm so sorry for you. Will keep you in my prayers and thoughts you're not alone.
Thank you so much ❤❤❤
Dear Nimi, please remember that it wasn't your fault, don't blame yourself in any way. Take things slowly, gather your strength, and try to focus on enjoying the rest of your trip. You are a strong young woman, this will make you stronger in the long run. Don't be afraid to use the resources available to you (counselling etc). Also, your brother sounds like a decent chap. I wish you all the best, and look forward to your next vid.
Thank you so much Steven ❤❤
What about an alarm app on the phone, that when pressed immediately alerts the contacts you have programmed in, giving your location and trying each number until there is an answer, including the main police station of wherever you are.
Great suggestion - thank you!😊
ohh my God, awww hun, you are a brave girl, and are you okay now? I guess that is a stupid question, how are you doing now? that must have been such a scary and terrifying experience for you! I am so sorry you had this happened to you! Just glad you are safe now and please stay safe out there, but carry on and enjoy the travel! Hope you look after yourself, sending you so much love and hugs!
I’m okay actually I think I made the right decision in going to a different country to start fresh 😊 and had time to reflect and think how to prevent it from ever happening again . Thank you for your support ❤❤
Unfortunately it’s the norm now.
Europe not generally safe
Armenia is not Europe.
It can happen in any country, unfortunately.
So sorry this happened you are a wonderful girl
What a horrible experience for you, hope you are able to get over it soon
Oh God! This is awful. I’m so sorry this happened. Please reach out to your friends, and please reach out to your CZcams community. Mine have been super supportive. Reach out to me. I’m an ex Samaritan. I’m a great, non judgmental listener.
You have all our love.
Thank you so much 😊 that means a lot!!❤❤
Very brave of you , perhaps consider some counselling/therapy when you get back if you feel it would help , take care and best wishes
@@thehealthanarchist thank you - I’m just seeing how I go at the moment , but you’re right and I’ll probably do that ☺️
You are so beautiful and caring like a sister.
Bloody hell
I'm so sorry..
@@meryuk it’s okay! I lived to tell the tale but I hope to help others to avoid it 😌
That sucks! Some people are idiots!
omg i knew something like that would happen
Hopefully lightning won’t strike twice 🤞🏼
Where you walks God go with you and every woman walk enter Earth.God care every human being forever.Mini soon forget this experience.Be safe
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Did you hook up with him and didn’t enjoy the experience?
There's no reason to ask such silly questions.
What an inane and completely stupid comment
You should stay off social media
So you went to a foreign uncivilized country on your own and you didn't see this coming?
You need to check some statistics on SA incidents by country and year. Then you can tell us some more about civilized versus uncivilized.
Not a helpful or particularly educated comment. Armenia is not uncivilised, it is normally pretty safe.
@@cristiangaban960 I am right on it
@@Berylthe-peril "helpful" & "educated" All she needed to do was scream "Me Too" and that would have stopped it. There I hope that was "helpful" & "educated" enough for ya
You clearly have not listened to the story at all and I stand by my earlier comment