There's no shame in taking care of your mental health | Sangu Delle
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- čas přidán 7. 09. 2024
- When stress got to be too much for TED Fellow Sangu Delle, he had to confront his own deep prejudice: that men shouldn't take care of their mental health. In a personal talk, Delle shares how he learned to handle anxiety in a society that's uncomfortable with emotions. As he says: "Being honest about how we feel doesn't make us weak - it makes us human."
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As a black African, it's incredibly hard for people to seek help for mental health issues. This is a BREAKTHROUGH
Faith it's totally a shame that we're in the 21st century and we're still racists. A black man is a totally normal man... Black as white as red are just colors. All human beings, as we're thought at ethis in medical schools, are supposed to be treated the same, no rationality when in comes to color or religion. So if you black people don't get your rights or being well treated go fight for it. And if a doctor refuses to, then he must be a big liar and no longer considered as a doctor or even as a human being.
Faith I’m thinking about getting some
If you aren’t black are African?😂 but actually though it is the same in Samoa and it is good to eliminate stigma over mental illness.
who asked
Same for Egypt
I'm feeling this talk. Without mental health, EVERYTHING ELSE BREAKS DOWN. When I deal with stress, I distance myself from the stress...take a vacation, take time for self. And be with family.
My heart sank when the audience clapped for when he said African men don’t express or process their feelings at 2:11
I looked at it as the audience recognizing a brave needle standing up in a haystack evoking words that are not usually spoken by people like him.
A weak man will brag that he can be strong. A stronger man will admit that he can be weak.
confidence is the food of the wise man , and the liquor of the fool.
I’m watching this in 2021
This doesn’t actually make sense.
@@igneousorgan6435 how?
I know I’m late but the is great
Just 2 days I nearly ended my life. This was my 3rd attempt within 7 months. Yesterday I made a appointment for a therapist that specializes in cases like mine. And now this video came into my notifications. :)
I'm glad that you got help, it can only get better from here. Stray strong! :)
GalaxyEspeon I'm so so glad you are still here and reaching out for help! Things CAN and WILL get better!!! You should be so proud of yourself for going into therapy! I wish you the very best of luck, you can make it!!
4th times the charm
Thank god 💛💛
Happy you're still here buddy
Great message that applies to everyone. Men especially need to hear this.
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"Being honest about how we feel does not make us weak, it makes us human" SO TRUE. Thank you Sangu Delle.
I really needed this. Perfect timing.
TheDangerWolf I couldn't agree more...I believe we can heal the world with vulnerability, stay strong and keep the peace✌
Jacob Baity That was beautiful.
TheDangerWolf me too
Honestly so did I. This is a godsend.
Great message for anyone. Mental health is still very much stigmatized in many parts of the world, even as the number of those living with mental health issues increase.
What a beautiful talk given by a lovely human being. I've watched *countless* hours of documentaries & talks on mental illness & suicide. I've attended university lectures on human psychology & read dozens of books. And yet, this man's vulnerability, courage, & honesty brought tears to my eyes.
I lost my father to suicide when he was only 47 & I was 24. I had no idea he had been suffering in silence. He never got to meet any of his grandchildren or my husband.
Untreated mental illness causes unspeakable pain; it can also lead to death. Please speak up & speak out -- you might save lives.
"Untreated mental illness causes unspeakable pain"
Totally right
I know that i cannot entirally relate due to my circumstances, however as somebody who's diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder, i found your talk so meaningful, especially when you spoke about being there for your friend, so many people are quick to judge and label people as crazy once they feel the label gives them license to. Great talk, thank you.
This had a huge impact on my heart. Thank you sir for a much needed message
Thank you so much sir. As a Nigerian I can so relate to much of what you spoke about, I have seen loved ones suffer in silence. Known loved ones who have died by suicides and also had my battles with anxiety and depression. You don't know how impactful this TedTalk is. Well done sir.
You are absolutely right. Mental health is as equally important as physical health. We must take care of each other as human beings. Love and only love will always be the answer to our survival.
Beautifully articulated. Such an important message that impacts millions of people worldwide.
Unfortunately, the stigma of mental health is pervasive in the Black community in the States but I think it's changing. The younger generation is willing to talk about it openly and seek help.
this is honestly one of the best ted talks I've watched yet !!
I can relate to this so well. I suffered from anxiety and depression in 2014.
I hope you are doing better these days. Take care.
It is important to understand yourself emotionally, if you don't give it a watch.
People think that talking and dealing with mental health is something taboo but we all need help and should speak to somebody. This is a great video
Real talk, respect for the shining eyes of those who serv with passion.
An incredibly aware, honest and real talk. Very empowering.
We need people like him in every african country.
I was listening to a podcast that said, “it’s important to live life by design rather than emotion. Basically, sticking to a routine is what allows us to be the healthiest version of ourselves (especially when you're fighting these demons ex. OCD for me).
I’ve had to overhaul how I approach taking care of my brain (exercise, journaling, studying etc) by practising mediocre consistency. Now I try to put in consistent 50-60% effort into my habits - to make sure I do it I began recording it and posting it on youtube channel.
Historically I have a habit of going too hard, not being able to sustain the Herculean effort, giving up and hating myself. So now I’m trying to give a small, consistent small effort everyday. And its crazy how it adds up.
I loved it. This is what I was needing.Many times throughout our lives we believe with the idea that the only way to deal with our emotions is to try to be strong and overcome difficult situations.Many times due to social or cultural issues, it is very difficult for us to ask for help when dealing with our personal problems or simply stress. That is why taking care of your mental health does not simply mean "not being crazy" goes beyond this and I love the way he talked about it.
Very well spoke. I agree, you are not weak when you express your emotions, you are being human.
Thank you for being so vulnerable and honest.
Just a reminder that here in the uk some teens / people failing to receive nhs psychological help "When they most need it" usually urgent ) some kids are being let down and parents are at their wits end. Teenagers are especially vulnerable and require professional URGENT help program. Great to talk about this subject still much to be done. Great talk here.
You are not your thoughts. You are stronger than you think. You can stay mentally strong through meditation. Findings ways to relax in any situation can make your overall mental fortitude stronger. You're able to focus more consistently. 🕊
Take care of your mental health it's one of the best and most important things you can do for yourself take breaks enjoy the things that excite you go to places where you can feel happy and smile help take care of others in little ways it can mean the world to them and can make you feel better
I worked in Liberia for 2 years and travelled all over Wester Africa and have seen the horrendous treatment those who suffer from mental health. The people are doing the best that they can with what they have. They need more government support
I am so glad I came across this video.
So happy more people are speaking up about this pandemic.
Seeking for help is seen as useless, time and money wasting because only God can reverse it as it is seen as a spiritual attack, divine punishment or karma.
No one wants to understand or listen to the truth about all this issue, but we wouldn’t stop!
Thanks for sharing🙏🏽
strangers people o the internet willing to listen tbh, g0d not here to help to solve the problem
The change starts with conversations within our community. We have to stir the point of change. Embrace, eat it and share it amongst ourselves. Beautiful presentation. He bore no signs of shame. :)
The way this message broke me down and made me cry. I’ve suffered in silence for years
Great presentation. Love his vulnerability. Ironically enough some drugs can actually relief or even cure mental ilnesses like depression.
Thank you for sharing your truth and it’s great for you to take a stance in spreading awareness and helping others
So powerful but yet so vulnerable. Excellent!!!!
Beautiful speech. I hope you find your peace.
Wonderful talk! Thank you so much for the rawness & honesty of this talk. 😊
Your explanation of mental health really resonated with me. It's a topic I'm passionate about too. Let's continue the conversation and promote mental well-being together! 💬
Strong man! great Talk! 10/10
Thank you for the video and inner peace to all!🙏♥
Beautiful Talk.
Not only is there no shame in taking care of your mental health. It's absolutely necessary to do so. That's something i had to learn the hard way.
This is very powerful. "Being honest about how we feel does not make us weak, it makes us Human".💌🤝💪💪💪💪💪
Talking about mental health is essential to raise awareness, improve treatment, and build support networks for those who struggle with mental health issues.
Not to diminish the talk, it was very good and the stigma issue is important to highlight. What I think is missing though is advice on how to maintain mental health. What can we do day to day to improve it.
But if I were to make such a list it would begin with 'ignore barely literate trolls on the internet'.
I appreciate this speech so much!
Well spoken!
Thank you for this. We Africans in Africa have a long way to go.
We live in a society where teasing is considered harmless, but this is antagonistic behavior that is unacceptable. We live in a society where we are being manipulated to think and believe certain things and behave in certain ways. We also live in a society that does not like people being different from what they have deemed appropriate. "They" are people who pull the strings of society. They are society and they tell us what to do. We are puppets and it's no longer a madman's fantasy. Life has become a caricature of itself.
What a powerful message so well spoken
Great talk Sangu. Message received sir! Thank you.
yes besides physical health is mental health important too. 👍👍
You are so brave for standing up and being real
Love this 💕
Thank you for such and wonderful, open, moving, and talk!
thank you for such a wonderful, open, and moving talk!
society has gradually degraded my mental health to the point that there is little hope left. But on the plus side, this has resulted in me taking more attention and care to my own mental health, because no one else ever will, not your loved ones, not your bosses, friends, co workers, nobody. Only you can actually care about your own mind.
The problem is that in me taking care of my mental health, it means that everyone else has to go second. And people don't take that too well. Try telling your employer you need time off to work on your mental health, they will take it the wrong way and look to replace you in no time, leaving you unemployed. So this entire idea is great as an ideal, but in practice people don't accept it. They will take care of their mental health and happily sacrifice yours for their benefit. Welcome to exploitation and hypocrisy at its best.
That's not entirely true. Help and support from family and friends helps a lot. I'm sorry that you haven't been able to reach out to your loved ones. But there is still hope. I really hope you are able to come out of this. And not just by yourself... :)
I know what it's like to feel as though you're battling it alone, but don't ever get discouraged. Don't give up on yourself. You deserve to feel good about yourself. Keep fighting. All the best 👍
hmmm, people do try to help...
If they are not helpful, then try another method that also works well for them or avoid who dot want to cooperate
This is beautiful. Thank you so much for sharing this!
This weekend really needs to happen every weekend. This world is in a lot of pain right now and no one wants to notice it.
the last line made my emotional man .. such brave words..woww !!!
THANK U FOR THE INFORMATION, I THINK MENTAL CARE ITS VERY IMPORTANT.
Mental health is serious is not something that you take for granted.
Very powerful, thanks!
Watching this in psychology class in college, very nice video!
These Ted talks are really good stuff.
well spoken brother
Johnny simon I suffer from depression and anxiety and you help me cope
Mental health is coping with everydays Stress
You just can't make the end of this speech any better
Just the right time
That last line was incredible.
BRAVOOO!!!!! Sangu I will definitely think of you while spreading the same awareness in Mauritania!
Best Regards,
Good talk, good intent
SER HONESTO COM O QUE VOCÊ SENTE NÃO O TORNA FRACO ; O TORNA HUMANO !
Really needed this coz wow life is showing me flames.
So touching
My family would just say he is focusing too much on unnecessary details or he's influenced by the wrong people and ideas and look down on him like he's a 'sensitive little girl.'
why parents think by that pattern?
beautiful! Thank you
Such a great talk!
Excellent.
2:20 who ever started clapping😂😂 I’m dead
Even the clapping when talking about African men not showing emotion means the stigma still exists. The stereotypes of men needing to be emotionally made of steel still exist. There is a long way to go but I'm glad people are becoming more open about mental health.
Thank you for being so brave
In love with this speech
Fantastic ❤
Thank you.
"our ignorance eviscerates our empathy"
Brillant. Thank you
As an Indian it's very difficult to face mental health illness.
lovely!
I love how as soon as he even mentioned Africa, his accent thickend
Great talk sir.
The comments about his friend after they are diagnosed with schizophrenia are so heartbreaking....so common. But utterly heartbreaking.
Perfect.
excelllent , greetings from argentina!
In my experience, i don't think family do really help. In many cases, family is also the one of the mainly reason of mental diseases. They do not believe their behavior can effort or cause our diseases directly. So if we decide to tell them, we may suffer more misunderstand, more painful in the early phase at least.
Something actually intelligent and important.
Powerful words