If a kid turns out to be a messed up adult, it's apparently the kid's fault. But if the kid turns out normal, then he apparently needs to worship his parents for doing everything right.
Unironically how it is. You have control over your brain but not as much when you're a child. Sometime in your late teens, it becomes entirely your fault if you're still "dealing with trauma." If you didn't have to deal with it, thank your parents for putting in the work.
Maybe it's not your fault but it's your problem, the only way to do that is to grow up forgive them and move on. You will never be able to grow up until you forgive and forget
@@JFrameMangas huffing take, proper parenting isnt a heckin chungus reddit gold earner its the bare minimum, and people who arent capable of that need to not reproduce
Spoken like a definite non-parent. Yeah just because someone has a kid doesn’t mean they are all knowing and all seeing. The true mark of whether or not you were raised right is how you handle adversity. No one can give you all the information (especially when said information is being washed through an entire lying healthcare industry by trusted doctors), *but we can give you the tools to be able to handle that information, no matter what it is.* And FYI, this dudes parents didn’t just have google and CZcams the way we do now.…. Typing in new pills online did Not used to bring a result…. So you tell me, if any of your family got vaccinated in the last few years then yall fell for the EXACT Same Lie. Congrats 🎊.
I had both biological parents in the home every day of my upbringing and have concluded that being present virtually 24/7 is required to inflict maximum damage. That being said, too much discipline is better than not enough imo.
The second your child does something disruptive or antisocial in public school they start handing you business cards from psychiatrists that sponsored the playground. This is not an exaggeration. It literally happens every day.
I am so glad my parents didn't medicate me to death I went to a Private school that had a lot of kids with social problems and ADHD and the like me included the kids that were medicated were so noticeable it really does not help at all, all it does is shut you up as much as I don't like the hippy medicine part of my mom, that shit saved my ass DON'T send your kids to public school, all they do is push you through the system my mam later told me that the public school I went to before the teacher would pressure her saying "your son is too disruptive in class if this goes on you have to look for a different school" Stuff like that, thankfully she took offense to this and looked for a place that cold manage kids like that.
@@darkplasmo7921 ADHD literally does not exist The Jewish doctor who invented it admit it was fictitious on his death bed It was invented in the 90's to prescribe all white male children with amphetamines
And to think that men used to spend their entire life building a cathedral knowing that many of the builders will never live long enough to enjoy the finished product for people they will never meet to enjoy, and boomer parents say we're selfish for expecting anything from them.
God told Abraham to plant seeds for his children to have shade trees. The boomers are the generation of sinful revolt against God in the current paradigm
the modern world is hell. i used to think “man all those people who think things were better before industry are just idiots listening to youtubers too much” and these days idk anymore
@@smangosmooly9538It wasn’t better it was different there was eminence suffering mortal suffering with few reprieves not much was better we just had much simpler problems
I am a shrink. (PhD not MD.) I used to get asked all the time what I thought of the various medications that my (predominately white young male clients) were taking. Though some should be on medications in my view most were for various forms of very loose diagnosis of ADHD and lvl 1 ASD. 90% of the time the parents would say it is to prevent disruptions in class. I would ask 'do you think it is typical for a 12 year old boy to not want to spend 8 hours a day in a classroom'? The conversation would go from there. I am proud to say I now am the director of my own company with a 95% positive reporting rate (industry standard is ~60%) and the number of kids we have gotten off meds by just giving young people a creative and social outlet is wonderful and terrifying.
I have a serious question for you. What percentage of depression and adhd diagnoses do you think are misidentified sleep deprivation? I ask, because apparently schools used to start at 9am or later to better suit children's circadian rhythms and I understand that the symptoms of extended sleep deprivation are indistinguishable from depression and adhd.
My dad wasn't around, always working. When he was home he was so grumpy from working all the time it was suffering to be around him. My mom went to work again as soon as I was able to look after myself and my little sister. But she didn't teach anything to actually be on my own. They just expected me to grow up and go to work but I grew up watching them at work all day and miserable as a result. I have a relatively high IQ and struggled through school because I thought school was a waste of time. Ended up joining the Marines, which was a mistake. I'm only now in my mid 30s really figuring out how to navigate life and what I want to do with my time. My parents birthed me, gave me what I needed to survive and nothing, then got upset when I turned 18 and had no idea what was going on.
Kinda the same for me, but my dad realized he was fucking up as a parent when I started to get into my goth/emo stage and by then it was far too late... I had already lost any respect I had for him by that point because all he did was work and drink, I even had to sleep on the couch because he let the leaking roof in my room get so bad it was soaking my bed. He would try to get me to do little projects with him, but I didn't want to be around him because I didn't respect him and I thought/think spending time with other men is gayaf. So to avoid being screamed at or have him be demeaning towards me, I had to help - usually running for tools, which I had no idea what was what because he hadn't tried to teach me anything since I was 5 (was around 14 or 15 at this time) so any time I brought up the wrong tool, I got yelled at anyways. I kinda feel bad for him because he has MS now, but at the same time it's almost like instant karma for being such a cocksucker to me my whole life. "When I was your age, I used to carry 300lbs on my back like it was nothing!" Yeah, well, when I'm your age I'll still be walking independently instead of rotting in a mobility scooter.
How do I forgive my parents? I try to be like. “Hey what you did was fucked up, I get you tried ur best and you love me. But your best left me broken” the fuckin boomers respond with “oh you think that’s broken, try growing up where women weren’t allowed in the Air Force”
I know it makes no sense. If their time was so difficult why would they just repeat the regressive behaviours and pass it onto their children. This proves that they didn’t “try their best” and that they know they’re damaging their children but they don’t care as the alternative of actually improving as a human being is sickening to rhem
@@tomocchii my mother her ego is really balanced on “I’m the smartest person in the room” it’s really important to her that everyone thinks that. So early childhood I was essentially a monkey that performed whenever she turned the crank on the music box. Later on when I developed my own things to do she crippled my confidence by pretending to be an expert on whatever it is I wanted to do “did you consider this, or that” filling my head with nonsensical useless worries until I just folded and did whatever she wanted. The most annoying thing is she is so full of herself that she still can’t accept she did anything wrong. Because I don’t know what it’s like to have a child.
Bro that sucks, my parents made mistakes but those mistakes didn't fuck me up. Made me appreciate them even more now that I got a kid, made me understand some stuff. Good thing was that I hated that my dad smoked and I threw his cigarettes in the garbage, made me never want to smoke.
People still think giving drugs to kids is acceptable, it should not be normal. When it is mention, people’s first reaction should be “wow everyone involved should be serving time” but no. People blindly listen to authority’s figures without a second thought.
I think it's even worse now, I know men in their 30s-40s who are depressed with their life being told "oh you jsut have adult ADHD! You need Ritalin!! Pleas explain how one goes through 40 years of life, then magically NOW they have adult add because hey don't love their jobs, a little depressed - maybe their wife is a complete coont... hey its medication time!!!
my mother literally kept me from the outside world, shot down any attempt at me trying to express myself (like career interests I expressed in), and threatened me if I did take those paths. Her and my stepdad found out I watched a “P” video when I was like 12. So they grounded me for over a year, and would not let me leave my bedroom for that entire period for any reason other than to eat or go to school. I had zero contact with the outside world for over a year. so lots of social aspects grew to terrify me. not that I wasn’t already introverted. all I had to keep my mind occupied for a year were the few books in my room. Re-read the first Harry Potter more times than I can count. When I was 13-14, there was an incident a few weeks before Christmas wherein my stepdad was blackout drunk, and got arrested for the attempted murder of myself and my little sister. Chased us around with a machete, yadda yadda. Barricaded himself and threatened the cops, didn’t get hurt somehow though. My mom let me stay home from school for one day after that. Then after my day off, everything was back to normal like nothing happened. My mother constantly told me I “didn’t have to testify”, so I didn’t. That resulted in him not being charged. Because none of the victims testified. My mother did that so that my two youngest siblings (his children) would have a father and never find out. Thanks mom. She sends them off to stay with him every other weekend. When I was 14, my mom wasn’t happy with my report card. I didn’t fail, but she wasn’t happy. So she went through my devices, and found my girlfriends nudes. She was my age. My mother sent them to herself, and blackmailed me under the threat of sending them to her parents if I didn’t break up with her over text immediately. I was restricted to my bedroom for another year. By the time I was 15, she came home one day and saw that I forgot to put a single small container in the dishwasher. So she kicked me out. I would’ve been on the streets if my girlfriends parents didn’t love the hell outta me and take me in. I lived with them for maybe a year and a half. Somewhere through that, I reached out to my real dad. I hadn’t met him before. My mom ran away with me when I was 4. When he showed up, he was high on meth. But we still chatted regardless. that girlfriend started sleeping with other guys, so i left and stayed with my dad for a bit. then my mom took me back in. I was with her for under a month before she kicked me out again. She randomly texted me one night about how me and my siblings are so ungrateful. Completely unprompted. So I responded with something along the lines of “maybe we would be if we actually had anything to be grateful for & our child support didn’t just go to your pockets & dumb shit you don’t need”. She was getting thousands a month from child support alone, yet we never had food in the house. To this day I’m 6’2 and 125 pounds. My growth is absolutely stunted. I packed my bags immediately after that because I figured she’d kick me out. She didn’t reply. But she busted into my room at 2am and told me to pack my shit. Which I had done already. She didn’t like that. So she woke up everyone in the house and started telling them in “losing my mind and going crazy”. She dumped me in the most dangerous area of the city my dad was in, at 3am, with a massive hockey bag on my back. thanks mom. I had to find my dads apartment and chuck pinecones at the window, hoping they’d notice. things didn’t get better from there but im gonna stop typing now. My parents put me and my siblings through hell, and whenever she brings her little friends over, she always feels the need to point out to them how “None of her kids smile anymore” like it’s funny to her, as if it makes HER look good or something.
Fellow framelet here. I'm sorry for your situation, man. Definitely not ideal. Not having proper nutrition as a child is definitely bad. I grew up in a single parent working class household. I love and get along with my mom, but I still harbor this resentment for people who have kids they don't plan on and can't afford.
@@michaelgregor1640 I try my hardest not to hold any resentment. But it’s hard not to when she DID plan to have every kid, and COULD afford it. But still did everything in her power to fuck everybody over.
Your mother has narcissistic personality disorder.. look in to it . Watch a video of the symptoms and you’ll think the video is talking directly to you .
I’m the person that wrote this. I just turned 30. I got a few revenge conversations in with my folks so they know they fucked up. I have a handful of failed businesses and I still live at home and life is pretty good with them tbh. They’re willing to keep helping me as recompense, but I pay my own bills and do all the chores at home. I’m finally settling into a groove with a sales job. I’m too scatterbrained to be an actual owner so I’ve given up on contracting business, at least for now. But nonethless money is starting to get good and consistent and I’ll be finally caught up as an adult thanks to the internet and relentless self-improvement. I’m struggling with high functioning mini-addictions because the vyvanse fried my dopamine and I only feel “normal” when I’m a little drunk or high on something. But I’m working toward figuring that out. Still I am consistent every day and perform and am pretty happy, again thanks to relentless self improvement, staying in therapy, and not being a pussy. Could’ve been raped as a kid or grew up in the hood or be low IQ or some shit. Ain’t that bad. We’re gonna make it bros.
Sam nailed it when he said everyone feels the same as u. Be the bigger man and leave your parents instead of asking for reparations like some other ppl
I was just thinking about how our grandparents were forced to desegregate at gunpoint from the us military, and school teaches us that our grandparents were just a bunch of morons for being racist. How fortunate are we that the good guys have always won throughout our history, am I right?
I had an amazing mum. She fought for me tooth and nail through adhd. Didn’t let me start taking any medication for it until I was 17-18 and stopped me taking it when she saw any symptoms she didn’t like. Encouraged my creativity and let me do anything I wanted. Stopped me from smoking weed and getting drunk when I was 20. Pulled me into the gym and communities. Didn’t stop feeding me good quality organic food. Hearing these stories suck because I had a staunch supporter the entire way through. I wish you all had a person like that in your life. You deserve better.
My dad lied to me and told me we were buying organic food when really we were buying from a discount produce store, where larger grocery stores send produce that is about to go rotten.
At 13:00, I'm so glad Sam brought this up, H3H3 Productions Podcast was also talking about adderall prescriptions where they were all just spreading misinformation about adderall use and actually believing that just because a doctor prescribes adderall it must be okay for a child and this just goes to show the difference in intelligence Sam Hyde has versus Ethan Klein.
Ritalin, Buspar, Trazadone, Dexedrine, thirteen others, plus several separations from my family to be placed in "psychiatric observation" for months at a time because my parents couldn't handle having all the kids they had, so "Let's just get rid of the oldest one for a while". That wasn't 'your best', Mom. Knowing that I'm not the only one doesn't help.
yup, hey my 8 year [me] is always talking and wants my attention all the time, better give him amphetamines! Let's hope that crushes his soul just enough to enjoy being in time out --- spoiler alert I am pretty fucking not oaky as an adult. But Sam is right, I do have to let it go and get over it, but its drilled so deep into my core - I had like 5 or 6 good years then the hammer dropped...its good to hear Sam and Co talk about this - I always feel so alone in my fucked up childhood
Yeah, so what if your mom just worked 5 days a week including Saturdays and Sundays, watched TV and did basically nothing else the whole time you grew up. And she always had some boyfriend or husband ruling over you like some communist dictator. Yeah, she really put in the effort
Because everyone knows how easy it is to live with bitterness. As you mature you get over that teen angst and learn to deal with your emotions. You're just signaling immaturity and a lack of self improvement by complaining to people about things that happened 10 years ago.
The biggest thing I'm doing right now is trying to stop dwelling on shit and giving myself a pity party. I'm 24, and I'm getting shit in gear now, completing my GED and going to the trades to be an electrician. I went from Adderall, Riddalyn, and finally Vyvanse from ages 6-14... that shit is no joke.
Anyone else think these issues are only going to become more prevalent because of kids whose formative years were during lockdowns, and their parents put them into daycares where they had to wear masks, and the "caregivers" were in masks, too? I have friends who are convinced their barely-five-year-old has ADHD and speech delays, and they're chomping at the bit to get her analyzed so they can put her on the same drugs her dad takes.
2nd grade here, they called it "The Swish", was pink and bubblegum flavored. The powers that be create the enemies that they so clearly fear. When the lights go out, if by some MIRACLE you find yourself within reach of people complicit in the fall of the west, remember how they poisoned us all and treat them accordingly. Make it slow.
I took it for a year in 6th grade. It got me top scores in the classes I took but I stopped taking it over the summer and I didn’t recognize myself or any of my behavior when I looked back on the school year. It was pretty strange.
It made me pull a 4.0 gpa but all my conversations with friends felt like i was on meth and i sucked at basketball and got benched. Week after i was off i was starting again. Shitty drug
Been taking it since 8th grade, it is good for me luckily. I always had a cognitive dissonance between what I wanted to do, and what I did, but Vyvanse bridged that gap and now my intentions get followed through on its pretty decent.
Whenever my mother brings friends over, she always gets drunk with them and feels the need to point out how “none of her kids smile anymore” like it’s funny to her. As if it makes her look good or something.
my parents would do something similar. any time they talked about me or my siblings to other parents they would completely trash us in this weird half joking way.
My parents put me on some medication for a couple of weeks when i was in elementary school but they took me off it because they cared that it was affecting my personality.
If you can't learn what to do at least learn what not to do. You are ultimately responsible for how you respond with shit that's happened. Sometimes you have to be your own parent in situations and rebuild yourself.
Just today I saw a post on Twitter by a woman who took her daughter to Build-a-Bear Workshop and she didn't let her daughter get the bare that was rainbow colored. It wasn't more expensive or anything like that, the mom just didn't want her daughter to have a teddy bear that looked "gaudy." Now the replies were filled with people calling her a shitty mother, obviously, but what really bugged me is the amount of people who worked at Build-a-Bear (or similar "make your own"-thing shops) who ssid that is a regular occurrence. Apparently its very common for people to take their kids to a place to make their own stuffed animals and veto their kid's choices not because what they wanted was expensive, but because it clashed with the parent's personal taste. And of course, the woman's response was a long the lines of "well I guess I'll give in to all of my daughter's whims," which is such a bitch move. We all know women who say shit like that. They get called out for being terrible and then go all reacto ad absurdum in an attempt to maintain some semblance of rationality, even though they never had it to begin with.
My mother was the polar opposite. She refused to ever take me to a doctor. Be it for medication, or for serious injuries. And I spent my whole youth forcefully isolated from the outside world for my “wrongdoings”. I had zero understanding of my constant anxiety or feelings as a whole before I was 18 and I could get help myself. I don’t take medication, I don’t like the brain fog from it all. But at least I understand myself now & I can keep myself grounded.
We weren’t medicated either but our dad kept us from the outside world & now I’m socially retarded. I’m essentially a mute in public unless I’m around my wife & her family. Don’t even know how I ever got a chick to marry me. I have a few friends but we all have families now so we don’t see each other much.
I look back on my childhood and there were about 5 times they definitely should have taken me to the hospital but didn't. I'm not sure if we were too poor or didn't have insurance.
Yeah we had the fluoride shots in elementary school in florida. My mom made sure we weren’t allowed to get them. I used to get so jealous of all the other kids getting there root beer and bubblegum shots lol
Mom just built a new house with pulte homes and they offer a hardwater filter for the showers but no filter of any sort for drinking water whatsoever. Im forcing her to put a 3rd party one in lol. So fugging rediculous.
@@kobold7466 I always gotta tell my dentist not to put that fluoride polishing stuff on my teeth after a cleaning and they always gotta be annoying about it, like stfu and do what I'm asking it makes no difference to you
@neonmoon9205 In that situation it's going directly on your teeth though, your not ingesting it constantly like you would if it's in your drinking water. I'm with the dentist on this one you're going a bit too far there schizo
I quit energy drinks and all caffeine and I had 5 days of terror. Pure "I am dying" terror, and racing heartbeat didn't help that psychology when you are just sitting there not moving and thinking you are dying.I thought I really had fucked my brain over permanently. Apparently the anxiety from caffeine withdrawal is especially hard when paired with sugar. Luckily it all went all away, and now zero anxiety whatsoever. Get off the caffeine it's wacking you out and you don't even know it.
I'm not Christian, but I think this is the OG reason why they're always going on about forgiveness. You have no choice about the treatment you experienced in the past, but you do have the choice to forgive and move on as the first true act of personal agency you ever take. you don't have to forget, you should hang on to the lessons you've learned, and you may never get an apology, but you can choose to forgive and move on.
Being able to forgive those who've truly wronged you is probably one of the hardest things to do and should be more respected in todays society. Things would be alot better imo
Yes... Forgive and move on... Just forgive people who traumatize you! Hahahaha! Just forget! Haha! Just hide your emotion and pretend nothing ever happened like a loser! HAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHAH
They had us do the fluoride shit at my school too. Every week we would swish fluoride for 60 seconds and then spit it back in the cup. I remember vividly being grossed out seeing other kids foaming backwash sitting in those plastic cups.
My parents had me on ritalin at 7 and the maximum possible dose of vyvanse by age 12. And my mom is a doctorate level psychologist. She shouldve known better. I got of the stuff the moment i turned 18. I wonder if my dopamine receptors will ever allow me to feel the happiness and satisfaction i see other people experience.
the fact you think your lack of happiness has to do with your adhd meds is very laughable. it’s called being sober and having to pay bills, what, you think people should be happy working multiple jobs and being unable to even afford housing and food?? you look like the type to think people are actually happy lmfao.
“psycdalex” your name probably indicates heavy psychedelic use which probably is why you can’t experience the happiness you fantasize about others having.
You already qualify to be an American therapist. Do you have any kids with behavioral problems? Because if so you get a raise for that, paid for by the gubmit.
Almost the same as the first guy, the only difference is that at least my parents realized that the 'ADHD' medicine was screwing me up and stopped giving it to me a few weeks after they started.
I wish my dad taught me things as a kid or I was put into Boy Scouts. Instead he just climbed the corporate ladder and only now has started saying I’m an adult and gotta learn stuff but where was that rhetoric 15 years ago? I wasn’t even allowed to watch ICarly or other sitcoms on Nick when I was young cause my parents thought it was an adult show lel. I grew up way too sheltered
@@Slim333yBoi the human mind is like the stomach; it gets hungry and needs to be filled. learning is as essential for happiness as material means, and material means is actually easier to come by
I don’t know if it’s a bad thing to have been sheltered from cultural sewage and junk (not saying iCarly fits that bill, I wouldn’t know, but I’d bet it does). anytime you get FOMO look at the character of those who sought the experiences you’re jealous of - chances are u will see it reflected in their vices and virtues
@@horsymandias-ur iCarly was a pretty humbling show. It wasn't like a lot of these other shows that just showed families tearing each other apart and unrealistic expectations.
@@Slim333yBoi i trust u, even if profile avatar is slightly troubling. i was only ever allowed Animal Planet and History channel growing up. probably explains why i am a raging zoophile now.
I have like 10 major interests and my dad immediately becomes annoyed whenever I would talk about any of them. This killed any interest I had in what is now my primary occupational skill, forestry work, until I was well into being 24 years old. Thanks. The ag class I had in high school where we watched movies 90% of the time and went to the greenhouse one time? Yeah, that too. You're throwing away your best and brightest. This is embarassing.
As a child I was always the smartest kid in my class, was in the gifted program, read at a 6th grade reading level in 1st grade but was always "disruptive" to my other classmates. Looking back I can definitely see that I was a little hellion that didn't get enough attention from my alcoholic parents but I don't think that's an excuse to put a 10 year old on speed pills. Fast forward 14 years and my brain has been whammo clobbered by the Ritalin and whatever other stuff I ended up experimenting with after thinking "well these pills make me feel funny, maybe acid make me feel funny." I think everybody involved with the peddling of amphetamines to children needs to be put through the legal wringer, lawsuits abound, however I know they will never see justice as the people responsible either roll heavy with politicians and the like or have plausible deniability. Either way I fantasize daily about a life where I wasn't systematically sabotaged by my parents, doctors and school system.
Mushrooms were actually great for me, they allowed me to experience what love and happiness felt like after being a traumatized anti-social sperg for my entire adolescence and young adulthood.
Raising kids like a free range chicken farm, is negative. But raising kids like a soft core, school grade heavy boot camp. To the point that you’re in your 20’s and still asking your dad or mom, if you can hang out with your friends after 9 pm, and have to FaceTime them in order to buy anything including ice cream. Not to mention to be brain rotted thinking college is only truly way for a successful life. While you’re barely passing pre med courses, because your dad is forcing you to become a doctor no matter what. Not to mention you’re struggling with a shitty monthly car payment, because your dad forced you to buy a new car, that he himself can’t afford, because he wants you to look cooler so you can do better in college. Please pray for my friend…
You have to be an adult and move on + take responsibility for yourself but at the same time, the negligence from your parents probably did affect you in a very serious way that could haunt you for the rest of your life. So recognize the damage from your upbringing and make peace with it. Forgive your parents but learn to identify areas of weakness your parents failed you in and forgive yourself when you fall short of your expectations. If your parents didn't teach you a strong work ethic for example, work on it. If you fail, remember you aren't starting on the best foot and forgive yourself.
Todays parents: didnt learn nothing in school you shouldve kicked me out first year high school Same parents: imma send my kid to school at 2 yo i want him to be smart (also im busy lmaoo)
Nah, forgiveness is the only way that something like that doesn’t fester. It isn’t pretending like something didn’t happen, it’s releasing yourself from the bondage of hurt that person did to you. You can absolutely forgive someone and still think they are a pos and not ever associate with them again.
@@monkeykong6230Can you give a definition for the word "forgive"? I ask because I'm amazed at how many people say that forgiveness "isn't pretending like something didn't happen" when that's the whole point of it. I get that Jesse Lee Peterson most likely made this sentiment popular with his retarded take on forgiving your parents and all that, but forgiveness implies that things will go back to the way they are and any punishment will cease to exist for the forgiven person. Even if you say "you can forgive someone but still never associate with them," that is just a retarded statement because cutting someone out of your life is a form of punishment, so you aren't forgiving them (and there's many situations where that is an appropriate course of action). Define "forgive".
@monkeykong6230 then there's functionally no difference between forgiving and not forgiving if you're not gonna associate with them anyway. Please dude enough with this view of forgiveness as some giant weight being lifted off your back, forgiving your abusive father will not shatter your current mindset and open your eyes to the beauty of the world, it's not some transcendental experience, it's just some words and a change of outlook.
Most parents will work, buy and debt themselves into a situation in which they no longer simply take care fo their kids and teach them more than how to fry chopped chicken on the stove and boil frozen peas.
why did i allow a 16 year old boy come over and play with my 7 year old son unattended everyday for months??? I let my blonde haired son get babysat by my single black coworker who lives in a ghetto next to the train tracks and just has black guys come over randomly at all times of the day, why did i do iiiiiit??? atleast im a good person
My parents had me taking fluoride pills for a few years as a kid. Suddenly it makes sense why I was so compliant with them despite getting beaten and mistreated all the time. It really messed up my teeth and ability to socialize though. Basically I was so autistic and lacking social development that I sat at the retarded kids table because I didn't recognize they were at first glance. Even they looked at me like I was crazy. Was still otherwise considered a "good" boy who never got in trouble and was a 4.0 student until puberty and extreme depression kicked in. After the military I stopped drinking from the tap because I got into health improvement and stumbled upon an article about teeth health and fluoride. Waking up slowly after years of being fluoride brained was horrifying. All the horrific things you put up with, all the feelings that just sat there bubbling but unable to be expressed come out like it's your first time popping a stiffy. I'm honestly surprised I didn't off myself which I considered multiple times. The worst part though is they never gave it to my brother and he grew up pretty normal. He's now a narcissistic golden child and my parents worship him.
Nothing is scarier than realizing your parents didnt need to take a class or buy a permit or license to have you and your siblings. But you need it to fish...
My school had the swish. I can remember it being in the back of the room on Wednesdays. Nearly all my classes had sinks in them so it usually sat right there for the kids to spit into. I think it was from 2nd to 4th grade. My mom wouldn't let me participate 😂 because "We take you to the dentist"
I definitely don’t blame my parents but fuck that teeth grinding shit is so real, dentists said if I don’t get a sleep mouth guard I won’t have teeth by 30 : (
Get one. Life long tooth grinder here. 36 and just had the rest of my top teeth removed. Shit sucks and you don’t stop grinding when they are gone. No one ever told me it was bad or to get a guard though lol.
Todays parents: do what my parents did Also todays parents: do what my parents did (I do not want to be vulnerable in the Sam Hyde comment section so I will disguise my issues with my parents as issues I have with society at large)
This happened to me. I was put in hundreds of medications as a child because I was “too rowdy”. Now I have a permanent twitch in both my legs and my personality just died. I feel nothing and it just gets worse the more I age
You never have to give anything back to your parents, life is suffering and they brought you into it, the least they could do is look after you for a while and most dont even manage that.
My mom put me on ritalin when I was younger and I stopped taking it cuz it made me depressed and she never pressed me on not taking it and was pretty supportive. I don't blame her for putting me on it cuz back then who the hell else were you supposed to trust if not doctors Even these days when information is at our fingertips, it's prob just more misinformation coming from reddit users and wikiheads. I guess you can form something resembling a conclusion with tabbed browsing but at the end of the day, you really just have to pay attention to your kids and trust them when they say they don't like meds
I was on ADHD meds and quit in high school my senior year. I went off the meds without a doctor order and just refused to take it. It was really impacting my appetite and growth. No muscle low testosterone and stuff like that after the ADHD meds from 3rd grade to 10th grade. I was barley 150 pounds.
I didn't hit puberty until I was almost 16. And that only happened because my doctor got worried and hit me with the testosterone. I had been on ADHD meds since I was 8...... Come to find out years later after I stopped taking them that (according to the ad for concerta i read) they stunt growth. Immediately picked up the phone and called my mom, got a bullshit story that the school said I had to take them or I couldn't go to school. Bullshit. My folks just didn't want to have to deal with my hyper ass. Now me and my other brother who was on the same meds are 4" shorter than all the men in my family. My brother is 28 and is still having problems focusing without it. All because my parents couldn't be bothered.
I feel like i'm the only one who did the healthy thing regarding bad parent, i cut ties with my father in my teen years and now i'm nearly 30. (we moved across our country) Rarely think about my dad these days and i have no "normal crippling trauma/inconsolable sadness" around it either. We have access to so much information yet every generation keep losing themselves in bad relations with family/friends, DONT!.
Been watching these while wearing pseudo-audiofile headphones at a pretty decent volume, and I have NO fucking clue what you're talking about. Is the ringing in the room with us now? lol
If a kid turns out to be a messed up adult, it's apparently the kid's fault. But if the kid turns out normal, then he apparently needs to worship his parents for doing everything right.
Unironically how it is. You have control over your brain but not as much when you're a child. Sometime in your late teens, it becomes entirely your fault if you're still "dealing with trauma." If you didn't have to deal with it, thank your parents for putting in the work.
That's how it be when you are a mistake born out of low impulse control. You need to be greatful for being allowed to live.
Maybe it's not your fault but it's your problem, the only way to do that is to grow up forgive them and move on. You will never be able to grow up until you forgive and forget
@@mochamochamatcha677 how
@@JFrameMangas huffing take, proper parenting isnt a heckin chungus reddit gold earner its the bare minimum, and people who arent capable of that need to not reproduce
Negligence is abuse. People don’t seem to understand this concept
Spoken like a definite non-parent. Yeah just because someone has a kid doesn’t mean they are all knowing and all seeing. The true mark of whether or not you were raised right is how you handle adversity. No one can give you all the information (especially when said information is being washed through an entire lying healthcare industry by trusted doctors), *but we can give you the tools to be able to handle that information, no matter what it is.* And FYI, this dudes parents didn’t just have google and CZcams the way we do now.…. Typing in new pills online did Not used to bring a result…. So you tell me, if any of your family got vaccinated in the last few years then yall fell for the EXACT Same Lie. Congrats 🎊.
Doing nothing is also abusive. Doing nothing with the child, teaching them nothing. Yeah you fed them and kept them clothed but that’s it(Me btw)
I had both biological parents in the home every day of my upbringing and have concluded that being present virtually 24/7 is required to inflict maximum damage. That being said, too much discipline is better than not enough imo.
Negligence is awesome as a kid wtf do you mean? You get to do whatever you want
@@NoXo_xousername checks out
Millenials should give cards to their televisions on Mother's Day and Father's Day.
For me, it's CZcams and Hugo and Nebula award winning books.
Gen z right behind em giving cards to computers
Underrated comment
@@nigerianprincewithaidsat least we curate what we watch
Im writing mine to the musical artists I listened to as a kid. "Thank you for being there for me Chingy."
The second your child does something disruptive or antisocial in public school they start handing you business cards from psychiatrists that sponsored the playground. This is not an exaggeration. It literally happens every day.
I am so glad my parents didn't medicate me to death
I went to a Private school that had a lot of kids with social problems and ADHD and the like me included
the kids that were medicated were so noticeable it really does not help at all, all it does is shut you up
as much as I don't like the hippy medicine part of my mom, that shit saved my ass
DON'T send your kids to public school, all they do is push you through the system
my mam later told me that the public school I went to before the teacher would pressure her saying "your son is too disruptive in class if this goes on you have to look for a different school"
Stuff like that, thankfully she took offense to this and looked for a place that cold manage kids like that.
I love this world where not being a carbon copy of the normie douche next to you means you’re sick and need pills.
@@darkplasmo7921 ADHD literally does not exist
The Jewish doctor who invented it admit it was fictitious on his death bed
It was invented in the 90's to prescribe all white male children with amphetamines
What fancy dystopian are you from? That’s some weird rich people stuff
@@darkplasmo7921 My parents didn't medicate me to death but I did
“I did the best I could”
Consequences don’t care for your intentions.
Yeah that's what mine said
And to think that men used to spend their entire life building a cathedral knowing that many of the builders will never live long enough to enjoy the finished product for people they will never meet to enjoy, and boomer parents say we're selfish for expecting anything from them.
God told Abraham to plant seeds for his children to have shade trees. The boomers are the generation of sinful revolt against God in the current paradigm
the modern world is hell. i used to think “man all those people who think things were better before industry are just idiots listening to youtubers too much” and these days idk anymore
@@smangosmooly9538It wasn’t better it was different there was eminence suffering mortal suffering with few reprieves not much was better we just had much simpler problems
@@nothanks9503suffering is good that’s the problem with todays world nobody is willing to face the fact that life is about striving through challenges
@@nothanks9503 yeah was just kind of making a point about modernity more than returning to agrarian life
I am a shrink. (PhD not MD.) I used to get asked all the time what I thought of the various medications that my (predominately white young male clients) were taking. Though some should be on medications in my view most were for various forms of very loose diagnosis of ADHD and lvl 1 ASD. 90% of the time the parents would say it is to prevent disruptions in class. I would ask 'do you think it is typical for a 12 year old boy to not want to spend 8 hours a day in a classroom'? The conversation would go from there. I am proud to say I now am the director of my own company with a 95% positive reporting rate (industry standard is ~60%) and the number of kids we have gotten off meds by just giving young people a creative and social outlet is wonderful and terrifying.
Don’t know if this is AI generated or not but I smiled
@@horsymandias-ur no cap king.
I have a serious question for you.
What percentage of depression and adhd diagnoses do you think are misidentified sleep deprivation?
I ask, because apparently schools used to start at 9am or later to better suit children's circadian rhythms and I understand that the symptoms of extended sleep deprivation are indistinguishable from depression and adhd.
@@nonsensicalrants1703 Interesting question: I bet being prescribed CNS stimulants doesn't help this recurring cycle of sleep deprivation either.
@@horsymandias-ur GPTZero says this is 99% human.
Crazy that parents make their children feel not entitled to a home.
Or to kids, car, we'll anything
It would be like raising a dog then randomly dropping it in woods one day and forgetting about it
"BuT tHaT WAs 30 yEARs aGo" preach brother i hear that all to often
My dad wasn't around, always working. When he was home he was so grumpy from working all the time it was suffering to be around him. My mom went to work again as soon as I was able to look after myself and my little sister. But she didn't teach anything to actually be on my own. They just expected me to grow up and go to work but I grew up watching them at work all day and miserable as a result. I have a relatively high IQ and struggled through school because I thought school was a waste of time. Ended up joining the Marines, which was a mistake. I'm only now in my mid 30s really figuring out how to navigate life and what I want to do with my time. My parents birthed me, gave me what I needed to survive and nothing, then got upset when I turned 18 and had no idea what was going on.
Kinda the same for me, but my dad realized he was fucking up as a parent when I started to get into my goth/emo stage and by then it was far too late... I had already lost any respect I had for him by that point because all he did was work and drink, I even had to sleep on the couch because he let the leaking roof in my room get so bad it was soaking my bed. He would try to get me to do little projects with him, but I didn't want to be around him because I didn't respect him and I thought/think spending time with other men is gayaf. So to avoid being screamed at or have him be demeaning towards me, I had to help - usually running for tools, which I had no idea what was what because he hadn't tried to teach me anything since I was 5 (was around 14 or 15 at this time) so any time I brought up the wrong tool, I got yelled at anyways.
I kinda feel bad for him because he has MS now, but at the same time it's almost like instant karma for being such a cocksucker to me my whole life.
"When I was your age, I used to carry 300lbs on my back like it was nothing!"
Yeah, well, when I'm your age I'll still be walking independently instead of rotting in a mobility scooter.
How do I forgive my parents? I try to be like. “Hey what you did was fucked up, I get you tried ur best and you love me. But your best left me broken” the fuckin boomers respond with “oh you think that’s broken, try growing up where women weren’t allowed in the Air Force”
I know it makes no sense. If their time was so difficult why would they just repeat the regressive behaviours and pass it onto their children. This proves that they didn’t “try their best” and that they know they’re damaging their children but they don’t care as the alternative of actually improving as a human being is sickening to rhem
@@tomocchii my mother her ego is really balanced on “I’m the smartest person in the room” it’s really important to her that everyone thinks that. So early childhood I was essentially a monkey that performed whenever she turned the crank on the music box. Later on when I developed my own things to do she crippled my confidence by pretending to be an expert on whatever it is I wanted to do “did you consider this, or that” filling my head with nonsensical useless worries until I just folded and did whatever she wanted. The most annoying thing is she is so full of herself that she still can’t accept she did anything wrong. Because I don’t know what it’s like to have a child.
@@CorneliusBogfrollupFitzgerald they aren’t focused on being good parents but rather seeming like it. As if they’re competing for the parent d’or
You arnt broken my friend, do not let them nor there actions have that hold over you. Rise above it, you’ve already taken the first step!
Bro that sucks, my parents made mistakes but those mistakes didn't fuck me up. Made me appreciate them even more now that I got a kid, made me understand some stuff. Good thing was that I hated that my dad smoked and I threw his cigarettes in the garbage, made me never want to smoke.
People still think giving drugs to kids is acceptable, it should not be normal. When it is mention, people’s first reaction should be “wow everyone involved should be serving time” but no. People blindly listen to authority’s figures without a second thought.
I think it's even worse now, I know men in their 30s-40s who are depressed with their life being told "oh you jsut have adult ADHD! You need Ritalin!! Pleas explain how one goes through 40 years of life, then magically NOW they have adult add because hey don't love their jobs, a little depressed - maybe their wife is a complete coont... hey its medication time!!!
my mother literally kept me from the outside world, shot down any attempt at me trying to express myself (like career interests I expressed in), and threatened me if I did take those paths. Her and my stepdad found out I watched a “P” video when I was like 12. So they grounded me for over a year, and would not let me leave my bedroom for that entire period for any reason other than to eat or go to school. I had zero contact with the outside world for over a year. so lots of social aspects grew to terrify me. not that I wasn’t already introverted. all I had to keep my mind occupied for a year were the few books in my room. Re-read the first Harry Potter more times than I can count. When I was 13-14, there was an incident a few weeks before Christmas wherein my stepdad was blackout drunk, and got arrested for the attempted murder of myself and my little sister. Chased us around with a machete, yadda yadda. Barricaded himself and threatened the cops, didn’t get hurt somehow though. My mom let me stay home from school for one day after that. Then after my day off, everything was back to normal like nothing happened. My mother constantly told me I “didn’t have to testify”, so I didn’t. That resulted in him not being charged. Because none of the victims testified. My mother did that so that my two youngest siblings (his children) would have a father and never find out. Thanks mom. She sends them off to stay with him every other weekend. When I was 14, my mom wasn’t happy with my report card. I didn’t fail, but she wasn’t happy. So she went through my devices, and found my girlfriends nudes. She was my age. My mother sent them to herself, and blackmailed me under the threat of sending them to her parents if I didn’t break up with her over text immediately. I was restricted to my bedroom for another year. By the time I was 15, she came home one day and saw that I forgot to put a single small container in the dishwasher. So she kicked me out. I would’ve been on the streets if my girlfriends parents didn’t love the hell outta me and take me in. I lived with them for maybe a year and a half. Somewhere through that, I reached out to my real dad. I hadn’t met him before. My mom ran away with me when I was 4. When he showed up, he was high on meth. But we still chatted regardless. that girlfriend started sleeping with other guys, so i left and stayed with my dad for a bit. then my mom took me back in. I was with her for under a month before she kicked me out again. She randomly texted me one night about how me and my siblings are so ungrateful. Completely unprompted. So I responded with something along the lines of “maybe we would be if we actually had anything to be grateful for & our child support didn’t just go to your pockets & dumb shit you don’t need”. She was getting thousands a month from child support alone, yet we never had food in the house. To this day I’m 6’2 and 125 pounds. My growth is absolutely stunted. I packed my bags immediately after that because I figured she’d kick me out. She didn’t reply. But she busted into my room at 2am and told me to pack my shit. Which I had done already. She didn’t like that. So she woke up everyone in the house and started telling them in “losing my mind and going crazy”. She dumped me in the most dangerous area of the city my dad was in, at 3am, with a massive hockey bag on my back. thanks mom. I had to find my dads apartment and chuck pinecones at the window, hoping they’d notice. things didn’t get better from there but im gonna stop typing now. My parents put me and my siblings through hell, and whenever she brings her little friends over, she always feels the need to point out to them how “None of her kids smile anymore” like it’s funny to her, as if it makes HER look good or something.
Fellow framelet here. I'm sorry for your situation, man. Definitely not ideal. Not having proper nutrition as a child is definitely bad. I grew up in a single parent working class household. I love and get along with my mom, but I still harbor this resentment for people who have kids they don't plan on and can't afford.
You already sound like a loser so what difference will it make
@@txblly1055 you literally have a Pokémon as a pfp
@@michaelgregor1640 I try my hardest not to hold any resentment. But it’s hard not to when she DID plan to have every kid, and COULD afford it. But still did everything in her power to fuck everybody over.
Your mother has narcissistic personality disorder.. look in to it . Watch a video of the symptoms and you’ll think the video is talking directly to you .
As cold as it is, there are some people that never should have been parents
I’m the person that wrote this. I just turned 30. I got a few revenge conversations in with my folks so they know they fucked up. I have a handful of failed businesses and I still live at home and life is pretty good with them tbh. They’re willing to keep helping me as recompense, but I pay my own bills and do all the chores at home. I’m finally settling into a groove with a sales job. I’m too scatterbrained to be an actual owner so I’ve given up on contracting business, at least for now. But nonethless money is starting to get good and consistent and I’ll be finally caught up as an adult thanks to the internet and relentless self-improvement.
I’m struggling with high functioning mini-addictions because the vyvanse fried my dopamine and I only feel “normal” when I’m a little drunk or high on something. But I’m working toward figuring that out. Still I am consistent every day and perform and am pretty happy, again thanks to relentless self improvement, staying in therapy, and not being a pussy.
Could’ve been raped as a kid or grew up in the hood or be low IQ or some shit. Ain’t that bad.
We’re gonna make it bros.
Hell yeah. Keep going man. Proud of you
do you live in the South
Sam nailed it when he said everyone feels the same as u. Be the bigger man and leave your parents instead of asking for reparations like some other ppl
@@dominicdeluca6378 Nah, he shouldn't feel bad for getting compensation, it's the very least boomers can do to atone for their lack of good parenting.
I love you
I was just thinking about how our grandparents were forced to desegregate at gunpoint from the us military, and school teaches us that our grandparents were just a bunch of morons for being racist. How fortunate are we that the good guys have always won throughout our history, am I right?
The good guys totally won WWII… right? Right?!?
@@kaj7135wouldn’t call them “good”
@tomocchii its sarcasm. the bad guys won.
@@FredDurst1 I wouldn’t call them bad either, they’re just guys. Whether they’re bad or good depends on your political beliefs
@@tomocchii they're bad and so are you
I had an amazing mum. She fought for me tooth and nail through adhd. Didn’t let me start taking any medication for it until I was 17-18 and stopped me taking it when she saw any symptoms she didn’t like. Encouraged my creativity and let me do anything I wanted. Stopped me from smoking weed and getting drunk when I was 20. Pulled me into the gym and communities. Didn’t stop feeding me good quality organic food. Hearing these stories suck because I had a staunch supporter the entire way through. I wish you all had a person like that in your life. You deserve better.
Based mom
My dad lied to me and told me we were buying organic food when really we were buying from a discount produce store, where larger grocery stores send produce that is about to go rotten.
Helicopter parenting and negligence create narcissists and cluster B personality disorders jn general
Psychiatry! That's all nonsense. That's nothing but a racket for the jews!
“Dad! Dad! Dad! Dad!”
Go play in your room!
shut up! my favorite show is on
WHEN THE CITY FALLS TONIGHT WHEN THE CITY FALLS TONIGHT
im bein a monkey
@@gtmaniacmda aren’t boomers heckin awesome?
At 13:00, I'm so glad Sam brought this up, H3H3 Productions Podcast was also talking about adderall prescriptions where they were all just spreading misinformation about adderall use and actually believing that just because a doctor prescribes adderall it must be okay for a child and this just goes to show the difference in intelligence Sam Hyde has versus Ethan Klein.
Ritalin, Buspar, Trazadone, Dexedrine, thirteen others, plus several separations from my family to be placed in "psychiatric observation" for months at a time because my parents couldn't handle having all the kids they had, so "Let's just get rid of the oldest one for a while". That wasn't 'your best', Mom. Knowing that I'm not the only one doesn't help.
yup, hey my 8 year [me] is always talking and wants my attention all the time, better give him amphetamines! Let's hope that crushes his soul just enough to enjoy being in time out --- spoiler alert I am pretty fucking not oaky as an adult.
But Sam is right, I do have to let it go and get over it, but its drilled so deep into my core - I had like 5 or 6 good years then the hammer dropped...its good to hear Sam and Co talk about this - I always feel so alone in my fucked up childhood
It’s always “hey they’re your only parents” and “they did their best” and never “what did they do to make you hate them”
Pedantic BS. I've heard it all before. "What did they do?" NOTHING. That's the point.
Yeah, so what if your mom just worked 5 days a week including Saturdays and Sundays, watched TV and did basically nothing else the whole time you grew up. And she always had some boyfriend or husband ruling over you like some communist dictator. Yeah, she really put in the effort
Because everyone knows how easy it is to live with bitterness. As you mature you get over that teen angst and learn to deal with your emotions. You're just signaling immaturity and a lack of self improvement by complaining to people about things that happened 10 years ago.
@@ReginaApple007 how very catholic
@@williamshakemilk2192 That's supposed to be an insult?
"Here, take 3 boosters of RNA-editors, the dyin
The biggest thing I'm doing right now is trying to stop dwelling on shit and giving myself a pity party. I'm 24, and I'm getting shit in gear now, completing my GED and going to the trades to be an electrician. I went from Adderall, Riddalyn, and finally Vyvanse from ages 6-14... that shit is no joke.
I miss weckingball
Sad because he was so young really, he will be missed
@@HughJanus9999 tragic results of turkish taint smoothening surgery
@@TerryWhisk i heard they made the incision in the wrong taint 🥶
Where has he been? This is an older podcast right?
@@aaronb5161 yeah this was like 2 years ago or something, one of the early PGLs
the forgotten capital is such a great song to get into doomer stuff to
I love how Sam always pulls deep FF cuts for background music.
Anyone else think these issues are only going to become more prevalent because of kids whose formative years were during lockdowns, and their parents put them into daycares where they had to wear masks, and the "caregivers" were in masks, too? I have friends who are convinced their barely-five-year-old has ADHD and speech delays, and they're chomping at the bit to get her analyzed so they can put her on the same drugs her dad takes.
Two years of college lockdown fucked me up so im sure that young children got seriously debilitated
No lie I remember the Floride wash. It was during elementary school.
2nd grade here, they called it "The Swish", was pink and bubblegum flavored.
The powers that be create the enemies that they so clearly fear.
When the lights go out, if by some MIRACLE you find yourself within reach of people complicit in the fall of the west, remember how they poisoned us all and treat them accordingly.
Make it slow.
Same they had us drink it.
We got tablets every morning throughout elementary school, I believe it went on until 3rd grade
I remember it too, vaguely
Bruhh you unlocked a repressed memory, now I need a beer.
I have the exact same story with an italian friend of mine. he knows the ritalin fucked him up and turned him into a some type of sociopath.
Being Italian is already enough for that
Real.@@Ssethtzeentach_enjoyer
I took it for a year in 6th grade. It got me top scores in the classes I took but I stopped taking it over the summer and I didn’t recognize myself or any of my behavior when I looked back on the school year. It was pretty strange.
It made me pull a 4.0 gpa but all my conversations with friends felt like i was on meth and i sucked at basketball and got benched. Week after i was off i was starting again. Shitty drug
Been taking it since 8th grade, it is good for me luckily. I always had a cognitive dissonance between what I wanted to do, and what I did, but Vyvanse bridged that gap and now my intentions get followed through on its pretty decent.
Whenever my mother brings friends over, she always gets drunk with them and feels the need to point out how “none of her kids smile anymore” like it’s funny to her. As if it makes her look good or something.
Is she single?
Of course we don't smile, we pay taxes now.
@@Kromsmitesyou 40 and single with 4 kids from two baby daddies yep, surprising hey?
my parents would do something similar. any time they talked about me or my siblings to other parents they would completely trash us in this weird half joking way.
It’s like they get high off you being as miserable as they are
My parents put me on some medication for a couple of weeks when i was in elementary school but they took me off it because they cared that it was affecting my personality.
If you can't learn what to do at least learn what not to do. You are ultimately responsible for how you respond with shit that's happened. Sometimes you have to be your own parent in situations and rebuild yourself.
Just today I saw a post on Twitter by a woman who took her daughter to Build-a-Bear Workshop and she didn't let her daughter get the bare that was rainbow colored. It wasn't more expensive or anything like that, the mom just didn't want her daughter to have a teddy bear that looked "gaudy."
Now the replies were filled with people calling her a shitty mother, obviously, but what really bugged me is the amount of people who worked at Build-a-Bear (or similar "make your own"-thing shops) who ssid that is a regular occurrence. Apparently its very common for people to take their kids to a place to make their own stuffed animals and veto their kid's choices not because what they wanted was expensive, but because it clashed with the parent's personal taste.
And of course, the woman's response was a long the lines of "well I guess I'll give in to all of my daughter's whims," which is such a bitch move. We all know women who say shit like that. They get called out for being terrible and then go all reacto ad absurdum in an attempt to maintain some semblance of rationality, even though they never had it to begin with.
I saw that, and couldnt believe it was real. A lot of people see their kids as extensions of themselves and nothing else.
@@thesleepypiggythe parent is a narcissist
Bro the kids don't even know what that represents until like 12 or 15.
@@shroomer3867 unfortunately that age is getting lower and lower. my sister knew what it “meant” at 8 (sorry for stalking u via comments)
My mother was the polar opposite. She refused to ever take me to a doctor. Be it for medication, or for serious injuries. And I spent my whole youth forcefully isolated from the outside world for my “wrongdoings”. I had zero understanding of my constant anxiety or feelings as a whole before I was 18 and I could get help myself. I don’t take medication, I don’t like the brain fog from it all. But at least I understand myself now & I can keep myself grounded.
This is the better of the two negligences.
Damm like bad boy bubby?
We weren’t medicated either but our dad kept us from the outside world & now I’m socially retarded. I’m essentially a mute in public unless I’m around my wife & her family. Don’t even know how I ever got a chick to marry me. I have a few friends but we all have families now so we don’t see each other much.
I look back on my childhood and there were about 5 times they definitely should have taken me to the hospital but didn't. I'm not sure if we were too poor or didn't have insurance.
JUST DO BETTER IN SCHOOL
YOU SHOULD HAVE YOUR HEAD IN THOSE BOOKS
JUST SHUT UP AND DO YOUR HOMEWORK
I'm so glad I didn't take school that seriously, what a waste of time looking back on it
Ikr, im so glad i never cared about it lol @@CivilizedWasteland
How do we get doctors and engineers then?
@@KromsmitesyouBy watching Rick and Morty.
@@Kromsmitesyou Being born black helps.
Yeah we had the fluoride shots in elementary school in florida. My mom made sure we weren’t allowed to get them. I used to get so jealous of all the other kids getting there root beer and bubblegum shots lol
Couldn't even imagine _NOT_ being concerned about fluoride in the water I drink...
How self-loathing would I have to be??!?
sodium fluoride was literally classified as a toxic pesticide for rats before they oked it to be put in drinking water
They lobbied for it so hard, with the equivalent argument of lobbying that eating soap protects your skin.
Mom just built a new house with pulte homes and they offer a hardwater filter for the showers but no filter of any sort for drinking water whatsoever. Im forcing her to put a 3rd party one in lol. So fugging rediculous.
@@kobold7466 I always gotta tell my dentist not to put that fluoride polishing stuff on my teeth after a cleaning and they always gotta be annoying about it, like stfu and do what I'm asking it makes no difference to you
@neonmoon9205 In that situation it's going directly on your teeth though, your not ingesting it constantly like you would if it's in your drinking water. I'm with the dentist on this one you're going a bit too far there schizo
😂 my parents tried to drug me, i would slip the pills under my tongue & spit them out
I quit energy drinks and all caffeine and I had 5 days of terror. Pure "I am dying" terror, and racing heartbeat didn't help that psychology when you are just sitting there not moving and thinking you are dying.I thought I really had fucked my brain over permanently. Apparently the anxiety from caffeine withdrawal is especially hard when paired with sugar. Luckily it all went all away, and now zero anxiety whatsoever. Get off the caffeine it's wacking you out and you don't even know it.
If I might ask, do you know about how much caffeine you consumed on a daily basis?
You gotta change that profile pic lmao
@@TheSquidNinja between 350 and 550mg
@@SargentandGreenLeafgod damn🤣
Are you ready to let go of the profile picture?
I'm not Christian, but I think this is the OG reason why they're always going on about forgiveness. You have no choice about the treatment you experienced in the past, but you do have the choice to forgive and move on as the first true act of personal agency you ever take. you don't have to forget, you should hang on to the lessons you've learned, and you may never get an apology, but you can choose to forgive and move on.
Based and Christpilled
Being able to forgive those who've truly wronged you is probably one of the hardest things to do and should be more respected in todays society. Things would be alot better imo
God forgives, but I don’t ;)
For "give" is the present tense of "get".
For "got" is the past for "give".
Yes... Forgive and move on... Just forgive people who traumatize you! Hahahaha! Just forget! Haha! Just hide your emotion and pretend nothing ever happened like a loser! HAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHAH
Wait till you learn that doctors recommend women on adhd medication to continue as normal when pregnant
Epic final fantasy 7 music, I bet this was jet Neptune.
Ah Costa Del Sol. Relax and enjoy.
I can't believe there's kids out there that actually swallowed those pills. I just spat them out at the drinking fountain
This guy obviously didn’t have bad parents. He asks, "Do you try talking to them?"
They had us do the fluoride shit at my school too. Every week we would swish fluoride for 60 seconds and then spit it back in the cup. I remember vividly being grossed out seeing other kids foaming backwash sitting in those plastic cups.
Ew why were they keeping it? Why not have you spit in a sink? Government schools are so sketchy omg
@@ReginaApple007 I don’t know, they collect them up on a cart and take them away.z
My parents had me on ritalin at 7 and the maximum possible dose of vyvanse by age 12. And my mom is a doctorate level psychologist. She shouldve known better. I got of the stuff the moment i turned 18. I wonder if my dopamine receptors will ever allow me to feel the happiness and satisfaction i see other people experience.
My parents started me at 7. I'm 26 now.
Just curious how is you're relationship with your mom nowadays.
@@Ash7thst its gotten a lot better. Im 24 now.
the fact you think your lack of happiness has to do with your adhd meds is very laughable. it’s called being sober and having to pay bills, what, you think people should be happy working multiple jobs and being unable to even afford housing and food?? you look like the type to think people are actually happy lmfao.
“psycdalex” your name probably indicates heavy psychedelic use which probably is why you can’t experience the happiness you fantasize about others having.
@@LIVEMETRIX187 I am pretty sure it was the ritalin at age 7
YOU CAN'T HATE YOUR PARENTS FOR GIVING YOU A SHITTY LIFE BECAUSE..... UH.... YOU JUST CAN'T OK!?!??!
You already qualify to be an American therapist. Do you have any kids with behavioral problems? Because if so you get a raise for that, paid for by the gubmit.
@@MK_ULTRA420 Ok cool
I asked them why they did that to me and the reason was so fucking stupid it gave me a new low to consider
Almost the same as the first guy, the only difference is that at least my parents realized that the 'ADHD' medicine was screwing me up and stopped giving it to me a few weeks after they started.
We did the fluoride cups thing on my elementary school. Pretty fucking funny looking back at it
GATE?
G8 program?
I wish my dad taught me things as a kid or I was put into Boy Scouts. Instead he just climbed the corporate ladder and only now has started saying I’m an adult and gotta learn stuff but where was that rhetoric 15 years ago? I wasn’t even allowed to watch ICarly or other sitcoms on Nick when I was young cause my parents thought it was an adult show lel. I grew up way too sheltered
Learning is bull he should of set you up for a career.
@@Slim333yBoi the human mind is like the stomach; it gets hungry and needs to be filled. learning is as essential for happiness as material means, and material means is actually easier to come by
I don’t know if it’s a bad thing to have been sheltered from cultural sewage and junk (not saying iCarly fits that bill, I wouldn’t know, but I’d bet it does). anytime you get FOMO look at the character of those who sought the experiences you’re jealous of - chances are u will see it reflected in their vices and virtues
@@horsymandias-ur iCarly was a pretty humbling show. It wasn't like a lot of these other shows that just showed families tearing each other apart and unrealistic expectations.
@@Slim333yBoi i trust u, even if profile avatar is slightly troubling. i was only ever allowed Animal Planet and History channel growing up. probably explains why i am a raging zoophile now.
Poor one out for Arthur. I experienced something similar.
Armenian cory
You like baseball now?
I dont remember writing this but this is weird cause hes describing me 80% accurately
Sam is diablo IV nightmare tier smart.
It's like whoa man
I have like 10 major interests and my dad immediately becomes annoyed whenever I would talk about any of them. This killed any interest I had in what is now my primary occupational skill, forestry work, until I was well into being 24 years old. Thanks. The ag class I had in high school where we watched movies 90% of the time and went to the greenhouse one time? Yeah, that too. You're throwing away your best and brightest. This is embarassing.
"3 million cubic gallons"
As a child I was always the smartest kid in my class, was in the gifted program, read at a 6th grade reading level in 1st grade but was always "disruptive" to my other classmates. Looking back I can definitely see that I was a little hellion that didn't get enough attention from my alcoholic parents but I don't think that's an excuse to put a 10 year old on speed pills. Fast forward 14 years and my brain has been whammo clobbered by the Ritalin and whatever other stuff I ended up experimenting with after thinking "well these pills make me feel funny, maybe acid make me feel funny." I think everybody involved with the peddling of amphetamines to children needs to be put through the legal wringer, lawsuits abound, however I know they will never see justice as the people responsible either roll heavy with politicians and the like or have plausible deniability. Either way I fantasize daily about a life where I wasn't systematically sabotaged by my parents, doctors and school system.
Mushrooms were actually great for me, they allowed me to experience what love and happiness felt like after being a traumatized anti-social sperg for my entire adolescence and young adulthood.
Raising kids like a free range chicken farm, is negative. But raising kids like a soft core, school grade heavy boot camp. To the point that you’re in your 20’s and still asking your dad or mom, if you can hang out with your friends after 9 pm, and have to FaceTime them in order to buy anything including ice cream. Not to mention to be brain rotted thinking college is only truly way for a successful life. While you’re barely passing pre med courses, because your dad is forcing you to become a doctor no matter what. Not to mention you’re struggling with a shitty monthly car payment, because your dad forced you to buy a new car, that he himself can’t afford, because he wants you to look cooler so you can do better in college.
Please pray for my friend…
You have to be an adult and move on + take responsibility for yourself but at the same time, the negligence from your parents probably did affect you in a very serious way that could haunt you for the rest of your life. So recognize the damage from your upbringing and make peace with it. Forgive your parents but learn to identify areas of weakness your parents failed you in and forgive yourself when you fall short of your expectations. If your parents didn't teach you a strong work ethic for example, work on it. If you fail, remember you aren't starting on the best foot and forgive yourself.
I wrote the submission and this is it.
Todays parents: didnt learn nothing in school you shouldve kicked me out first year high school
Same parents: imma send my kid to school at 2 yo i want him to be smart (also im busy lmaoo)
I had the same thing in elementary school. "Swish day"
You don't need to forgive anyone to move on in life, just don't let your anger consume you.
Be sure to let it out in a controlled manner against things and not people! ❤
Nah, forgiveness is the only way that something like that doesn’t fester. It isn’t pretending like something didn’t happen, it’s releasing yourself from the bondage of hurt that person did to you. You can absolutely forgive someone and still think they are a pos and not ever associate with them again.
@@monkeykong6230Can you give a definition for the word "forgive"? I ask because I'm amazed at how many people say that forgiveness "isn't pretending like something didn't happen" when that's the whole point of it. I get that Jesse Lee Peterson most likely made this sentiment popular with his retarded take on forgiving your parents and all that, but forgiveness implies that things will go back to the way they are and any punishment will cease to exist for the forgiven person.
Even if you say "you can forgive someone but still never associate with them," that is just a retarded statement because cutting someone out of your life is a form of punishment, so you aren't forgiving them (and there's many situations where that is an appropriate course of action).
Define "forgive".
@monkeykong6230 then there's functionally no difference between forgiving and not forgiving if you're not gonna associate with them anyway.
Please dude enough with this view of forgiveness as some giant weight being lifted off your back, forgiving your abusive father will not shatter your current mindset and open your eyes to the beauty of the world, it's not some transcendental experience, it's just some words and a change of outlook.
@@WhayYay Someone finally said it. Forgiveness only applies if the person who's being forgiven actually changes.
Love the FF7 music in the beginning
Most parents will work, buy and debt themselves into a situation in which they no longer simply take care fo their kids and teach them more than how to fry chopped chicken on the stove and boil frozen peas.
The ringing noise in this is insane.
great clip, thanks for posting
Bro you just described and brought to light my situation like no one else has before. Thank you.
good music choices
late GenX, we raised ourselves.
How could I be so stupid and hire a male babysitter?!
why did i allow a 16 year old boy come over and play with my 7 year old son unattended everyday for months??? I let my blonde haired son get babysat by my single black coworker who lives in a ghetto next to the train tracks and just has black guys come over randomly at all times of the day, why did i do iiiiiit??? atleast im a good person
The teeth grinding got me. That’s so involuntary. I think they skimmed over that, some things you cannot take back or change.
maybe projecting but I get the sense Weck can empathize with the parent role than the child role
My parents had me taking fluoride pills for a few years as a kid. Suddenly it makes sense why I was so compliant with them despite getting beaten and mistreated all the time. It really messed up my teeth and ability to socialize though. Basically I was so autistic and lacking social development that I sat at the retarded kids table because I didn't recognize they were at first glance. Even they looked at me like I was crazy. Was still otherwise considered a "good" boy who never got in trouble and was a 4.0 student until puberty and extreme depression kicked in. After the military I stopped drinking from the tap because I got into health improvement and stumbled upon an article about teeth health and fluoride. Waking up slowly after years of being fluoride brained was horrifying. All the horrific things you put up with, all the feelings that just sat there bubbling but unable to be expressed come out like it's your first time popping a stiffy. I'm honestly surprised I didn't off myself which I considered multiple times. The worst part though is they never gave it to my brother and he grew up pretty normal. He's now a narcissistic golden child and my parents worship him.
Nothing is scarier than realizing your parents didnt need to take a class or buy a permit or license to have you and your siblings. But you need it to fish...
In the south NC at least we did the floride rinse at school
Sad Final Fantasy background music?
My school had the swish. I can remember it being in the back of the room on Wednesdays. Nearly all my classes had sinks in them so it usually sat right there for the kids to spit into. I think it was from 2nd to 4th grade. My mom wouldn't let me participate 😂 because "We take you to the dentist"
More clips please
What ep bro
Is this PGL 080? When on gumroad?
I definitely don’t blame my parents but fuck that teeth grinding shit is so real, dentists said if I don’t get a sleep mouth guard I won’t have teeth by 30 : (
Get one. Life long tooth grinder here. 36 and just had the rest of my top teeth removed. Shit sucks and you don’t stop grinding when they are gone. No one ever told me it was bad or to get a guard though lol.
magnesium-glycinate
This whole clip is canon in our lives
I had the fluoride day shit too. Wicked weird looking back on it now. Northeast CT
Todays parents: do what my parents did
Also todays parents: do what my parents did
(I do not want to be vulnerable in the Sam Hyde comment section so I will disguise my issues with my parents as issues I have with society at large)
why is there a high pitch screech? like an old tv?
This happened to me. I was put in hundreds of medications as a child because I was “too rowdy”. Now I have a permanent twitch in both my legs and my personality just died. I feel nothing and it just gets worse the more I age
I love the pitched assault on my psyche edited into the audio of this clip
You never have to give anything back to your parents, life is suffering and they brought you into it, the least they could do is look after you for a while and most dont even manage that.
That FF music is earkino.
My mom put me on ritalin when I was younger and I stopped taking it cuz it made me depressed and she never pressed me on not taking it and was pretty supportive. I don't blame her for putting me on it cuz back then who the hell else were you supposed to trust if not doctors
Even these days when information is at our fingertips, it's prob just more misinformation coming from reddit users and wikiheads. I guess you can form something resembling a conclusion with tabbed browsing but at the end of the day, you really just have to pay attention to your kids and trust them when they say they don't like meds
I was on ADHD meds and quit in high school my senior year. I went off the meds without a doctor order and just refused to take it. It was really impacting my appetite and growth. No muscle low testosterone and stuff like that after the ADHD meds from 3rd grade to 10th grade. I was barley 150 pounds.
BOSHY, you're BACK, i knew not even the Two ton terror could keep you down. WE STAND AGAINST CHOW DUNG LOVER
I hear a high pitch ringing when turned up at high volume
o7
thats the brainwash tone just get used to it
I didn't hit puberty until I was almost 16. And that only happened because my doctor got worried and hit me with the testosterone. I had been on ADHD meds since I was 8...... Come to find out years later after I stopped taking them that (according to the ad for concerta i read) they stunt growth. Immediately picked up the phone and called my mom, got a bullshit story that the school said I had to take them or I couldn't go to school. Bullshit. My folks just didn't want to have to deal with my hyper ass. Now me and my other brother who was on the same meds are 4" shorter than all the men in my family. My brother is 28 and is still having problems focusing without it. All because my parents couldn't be bothered.
Damn thought I was alone.
I remember fluoride day
bro the doctors in the 90s..
I feel like i'm the only one who did the healthy thing regarding bad parent, i cut ties with my father in my teen years and now i'm nearly 30. (we moved across our country)
Rarely think about my dad these days and i have no "normal crippling trauma/inconsolable sadness" around it either.
We have access to so much information yet every generation keep losing themselves in bad relations with family/friends, DONT!.
Why the fuck do his podcasts have a loud ringing tone like a dog whistle in the background I can’t watch this without getting a headache lmao
Its probably all those fucking tube tvs behind them. Sounds like an electronic store.
if you hear anything, it means you are dog.
Good boy, someone should go get you a treat
Been watching these while wearing pseudo-audiofile headphones at a pretty decent volume, and I have NO fucking clue what you're talking about. Is the ringing in the room with us now? lol
don’t focus on that bro focus on their cool tvs and lighting
@@georgefloydsforceghost thanks I’m not schizophrenic u hear it too lmao