(5c) What She Said -- INTJ cognitive functional analysis
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- čas přidán 12. 10. 2017
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At 3:48 begins Discussion of [dom Ni + aux Te + tert Fi] use in Sallie's planning of living arrangements, and externalized effects of increased tertiary function use that is typical in mid-life and beyond.
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** General video description **
I continue with my breakdown and discussion of moments from the foregoing interview (Parts 2, 3, 4 in the series) that typify INTJ expression of the use of that MBTI type's cognitive functions.
Oh yes! You are so right about how much we are feeling! I know for me that I have always considered myself a very passionate person. It's weird though because nobody sees it. There is a LOT of intense feeling and extremely intense alignment with strongly-held values that is just under the surface. But I don't like to show that. It's just not natural to show it. It would take a lot of energy to push that out. When someone crosses my values however at times, I will express it openly and people are like "okay okay, relax" or "stop being so serious". I can get very upset about things that really matter to me when they are not being respected.
It's so true at least for me about the planning for FAR ahead into the future. I started building my online business in my mid-forties so that by the time I actually retire from my job, I'll have a well-established viable, dependable and fun source of income to get me through the rest of my life. I chose online business not only because I'm passionate about what I do there but also because I know I won't age out of it. I can still design websites and do programming even if I'm 80 if I choose. That gives me a real feeling of security. I also have had and am once again preparing to have a couple of rental properties for passive income.
I also DEFINITELY have tried to figure out ways to ensure that there are people around me (but not too close) as I age, for safety reasons. I'm 50 and live alone at the moment and had back surgery at 45. That left me feeling quite vulnerable and fortunately I had family close by to help me. But the day will come when they won't be there and so I've been fostering closer relationships with my neighbors just in case I am alone. When you live alone, you need to make sure that somebody notices if you are not as active as usual and call or check on you. My neighbor 2 houses down does this all the time. She and i have developed a very close, intimate friendship (she's an INFP) and we always check in on each other and watch out for each other. It's comforting not only because we know each other is there but also because we know we will respect each other's alone time too and not just show up at the door unless it's important or without a call or text first.
I would disagree a bit with your interpretation of it being due to her Fi. I could be wrong of course, but for me at least, I have no greater interest in being around people as I age than I did when I was younger. In fact, the older I get, the more I prefer being alone. In my twenties I felt compelled to be social and tried and succeeded in doing so but that was never natural. I've always preferred my 1-3 close friendships to be enjoyed at distant intervals. At this point in my life, it's simply a matter of practicality for my safety and not being alone.
The way that Fi DOES manifest for me is in the global sense and also being more aware of the feelings of others (not necessarily wanting to spend more time with them though). For about 15 years or so now, I've been getting more and more sensitive to the plight of others (e.g. the poor, the disabled, the disenfranchised, etc.). I'm extremely passionate about these issues and it pains me greatly to see so many people, especially on the conservative right being so devoid of social awareness or basic humanity and compassion. Though starting out as a Republican in the 80's and early 90's, I watched the transformation of the conservatives to become more and more callous and authoritarian while at the same time the religious right has become more extremist. As a result, I've been repulsed by that and have moved much further to the left as I've aged and am a big Bernie Sanders supporter now. I obviously favor being independent financially and not playing a victim, but I feel the right takes that too far. So that is probably due to my Fi development. It has also manifested in close relationships with me learning to be a better listener and consider other people's opinions, even if they may at first seem unintelligent. I've learned to look for the spirit of what someone says rather than their precise wording. It makes true communication so much better and relationships so much happier.
Aubrey, after about 2 years away, I'm getting reacquainted with my channel, including reviewing comments.
I want to really thank you again for your feedback and all your generous, interesting, intelligent, beautifully-written and -structured posts under this series. They've blown me away.
You are so cute! Your hair is always different! I think that is such an ENFP thing. All the ENFPs I know are constantly changing their hair and experimenting with different hairstyles and colors. It's so amusing to me (in a good way)! As an INTJ, that is the LAST thing I would want to do, lol. So interesting though to watch in other people!