66 - Dating a single parent/dating as a single parent with therapist Quinn Padilla!

Sabrina and guest Quin Padilla discuss navigating life and love after divorce. Quin Padilla is a therapist and wellness coach specializing in nervous system regulation and trauma healing. She shares her experiences of dating, finding love, and marriage as a single mom after her divorce. As a single parent, it includes navigating taboos about dating too soon after your divorce, being transparent about being a single parent, and telling your date right away that you do or don’t want more children. It’s a lot. Then, while dating, you meet someone long enough to know it is time to introduce that person to your kid(s). There is a way to create a neutral and social space for a short meet and greet. Kids are very intuitive, and involving them in the decision about your current partner is essential because they will pick up on the fact that you are dating.
Quin advises remaining confident as you talk to them before introducing your partner and not giving in to the guilt that makes you feel you don’t deserve happiness. She reflects on her now husband Ryan taking on the role of a stepparent to her three children; they are three unique individuals still growing and changing; they might not always click with their stepparent, and that's ok. Another factor that causes chaos is a toxic ex-spouse that misinforms the children to trigger them and vilify the other parent. She is a firm believer and practiced validating her children's feelings when they expressed them first, which is crucial before discussing her choice to date and not wanting to be a single parent all her life. Multiple conversations are the best way to determine the root cause of the child's hesitance, resistance, or negative feelings about their parent dating or choosing to date. Quins' final message is of hope and a reminder to all single parents: the right person can come into your life to become your life partner and value you and your children.
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[@sweetpea6835]

I can’t thank y’all enough for this episode. As a single mom with primary custody whose children’s father is barely in the picture, dating and mom guilt has been so real. And getting other people’s harsh opinions has been a whole other thing. This episode has given me some hope.

[@tthesweetestthing]

i appreciate this episode so much, single mama here & trying to date after divorce is really tough. love you ladies 🌸 thank you

[@marcruz6701]

Single mom my choice here! This was a great episode! Thank you ❤

[@PunkieMuse]

Loved listening to you and your guest... but she didn't understand your question about when you said, the kids a priority...will the partner ever be. I was really excited you asked that bc I did want to hear the answer... and she just talked about her kids being the priority and didn't get what you were asking.

[@geenastorch2609]

Needed this single mama struggling ❤

[@jaimiemainberger5039]

How can I work with you one on one?

[@rereAL205]

She kept comparing kids to dogs 😬 but this was still a great interview