What Doctors Think about Sex | You Can Sit With Us Ep.
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Executive Producer | Keith Habersberger
Executive Producer | Eugene Lee Yang
Executive Producer | Zach Kornfeld
Podcast Producer | Miles Bonsignore
Podcast Editor | Rainie Toll
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Loved this podcast! I can’t tell you how healing it is to hear women talking about sex in a normal and healthy way, makes me feel so much less ashamed….because I shouldn’t even be ashamed!
These episodes are so important, thanks yall 🫶 I lol’ed when rainie started her story & Dr Jennifer was on the call 😂
It is not an ahole move to let people know that you're awake in a room where they're trying to get intimate. I have also had this happen to me, but I didn't say anything. I ended up cutting that friend out of my life, but I think it is crossing a major boundary to put someone in that position. There were other circumstances that made me cut her out, but this was the straw on the camel's back. I think the only way to approach the subject now is to say like "hey, I understand you're embarrassed, but I assure you it's okay, it's a natural thing. Just please be a little more mindful of who else is in the room next time so you can truly have your privacy!"
For the question about disclosing your sexual history - make it a conversation where you both talk about your history & preferences in order to care for each other in the moment :)
I LOVE this guest you've chosen. I feel like there are so many elements of "women's health"/elements of health that impact people with uteruses etc that we just don't learn about - menopause, pregnancy and birth, PCOS, endometriosis. I'd love to see an expanded series that focuses on other elements of "women's health"/health of people with uteruses ❤
I need to know what Rainie's story is! Also loving Rachel's direct approach to everything
You said that beards or cuffed jeans depend on the person, but if they don't drive it's immediately "not hot".
I don't drive due to an invisible disability and I've definitely learned how off putting it is to people to say "I don't drive." if I don't also explain why, which I don't always want to share. It especially sucks when dating. And I'm damned if I do, damned if I don't. If I say I don't drive, they make all kinds of assumptions about my level of maturity, responsibility, income, etc. but if I explain that I just CAN'T drive due to a disability, then I'm either doubted or infantilized.
I'm still hot, damn it.
I went on a couple dates with a guy when I didn't have a car. After the first date, I left a movie at his house by accident. It was not just any movie I could find super easily. It was Interstellar 5555 an anime set perfectly to the music from Daft Punk's Discovery album. I found it at a local record store where the owner is obsessed with Daft Punk. The first time I saw this movie was the first time I did acid. There was a lot of sentimental value attached, so I went on a second date so that I could pick it up. He had to pick me up for both dates because I did not have a vehicle. I can't remember if he got the Lyfts for me at the end of the evening or if I did, but either way, two weeks later, he calls me clearly drunk berating me for not having a vehicle. Even though he knew the only reason I didn't have one was because I spent a lot of money out of pocket on the one that I wrecked 6 months after purchasing it. I obviously need to save in order to purchase another vehicle at that point. He claimed "He bought a house on his own, so why can't I own a car?" It was such a bazaar experience. He was just drunk, irrational, and pissed he wasn't interesting enough for a third date, and now he's taking it out on a situation I could not control. After explaining twice that he knows the situation and he is out of line for calling out of the blue to bring it up, I just yelled "f*ck you" into the phone and hung up.
I am really sorry that people are not understanding about this issue. It seems really strange to me. It can cost an obscene amount of money just to park your car somewhere in large cities. I just paid $600 for 6 months of insurance. It is expensive to drive and maintain a vehicle on top of the fact that some people such as yourself simply cannot drive. I thought their reaction to that option on the list was really strange and super cringe. It is not that big of a deal if people do not drive. To me, if it means they use a bike as transportation instead, it means they actually are pretty damn hot. We need more people riding bikes instead of adding exhaust to the atmosphere and allowing fuel companies to see record profits while they destroy our planet. Anyway, I hope people start to treat you better instead of judging you for trivial reasons. You deserve better than that.
I’m on my third Mirena IUD and haven’t had a period in years. It’s awesome! I have virtually no negative side effects, compared to other forms of birth control I tried. BUT it’s painful to get inserted and imo you should ask for pain relief beyond ibuprofen.
Love my Mirena! I had two pre baby, and then my third after I had my baby. I love not having a period and not having to worry about birth control for 5 years.
Love mine as well.. the pain wasn't bad for me but everyone Iis different and you don't know until you know
@@doravalencia2214 I was bad the first 2 times, but after baby it was easy peasy!
gen z absolutely does cuff jeans especially ppl who are in the lgbtq community!
Ngl, slightly disappointed that it wasn’t Momma Doctor Jones 🥲
I thought the same thing!!! I think there needs to be an extra sex episode with MDJ!
Same! Only issue is MDJ is currently in another country/opposite time zone. Scheduling a video would be difficult 😢
Same
You know she's in New Zealand, right?
@@lisagreen4956 yeah but video chat is fine. However, I'm almost done with it now. And this OB is great as well.
I love this podcast, and thank you Dr. Lincoln for your wonderful, informative, and empathetically aware answers!
I had tears of validation listening to this. Thank you Maggie, Rachel, Matt, Rainie, and especially thank you Dr. Jennifer
It is so disrespectful to have sex while someone else is in the room without getting their consent. I've heard too many stories of people whose roommates thought it was okay to have sex in the race room that they were sleeping in.
i love this episode! so many important things discussed. i hope you have her on the podcast again!
I love how you guys addressed all the false information about birth control! So important.
Thank you so much for this episode. Its so so so good and important
girl the way i am about to get on birth control after this episode
Really wish she had been there the whole episode! Could have listened to her lay down knowledge all day.
Guaging your last period based on who was president is pretty iconic 😂 I also love my mirena!!!
I got mine put in December 2016. No going back (other than the replacement one I got a year ago, obviously. Ha!).
I loved this one. I am 48 and learned new things. thank you!!
I think it’s kinda gross when guys think it’s hot you’re a virgin. It’s like they get a thrill out of being the first to “conquer” you. And that’s not a thing you should feel about someone if you respect them.
It is absolutely 100% gross.
@@TheShauNanigans Glad I’m not alone in that.
I relate! Especially as someone who is waiting till marriage, guys think they can change that value of mine:/
Favorite episode ever!! Love the Doc ☺️🩷
Love all of your beautiful faces and the laughs you give me!
They way Rachel is so open ❤
Great episode!
My husband and I have always planned on him getting snipped and thought it was totally reversible. I'm happy I watched this!
I'm new to this pod. Not try guys. But never been this early to any pod
Well, WELCOME!
I am 53 years old. I am 5 foot 2 inches. I rock a cuff jean. Gen z is jealous
Haven't been this early in a hot minute! 🤗
Wow I love this doctor so much.
yes I love her! so glad you chose her
Consent👏👏👏👏I had an OBGYN do a membrane sweep with zero warning and without consent! Did not explain the procedure at all just thought it was a normal check during pregnancy. Didn’t explain what or why he did it until he was done!
Anyone know the email people email advice question to? Also do they not have an instagram for the podcast? Always wondered what page they asked stuff on to talk about in the pod
Wait I think pilot/ski style goggles are popular with Gen Z right now though. I went to my nephew's high school graduation and several kids were wearing them when they walked across the stage!!!
Totally random, but shout out to Maggie's outstanding taste in coffee
Great episode. A young friend of mine preferred a woman gyn and it was hard to find one. (a reversed vasectomy can cause low sperm count)
On the ability to drive being hot or not: that can turn ableist really quickly, because some people have conditions that don’t allow them to drive. Also, if you live in a city like New York with very little parking space, and very good public transportation, many of them never learn how to drive.
Cuffed jeans is a queen thing
My problem with all the "Just tell/ask them!" advice is do you remember being a high schooler? No flippin way we could do that! Everything social was HIGH stakes.
I do feel like a lot of the advice is geared toward people in their 20s and 30s. The people asking sound fairly young and scared! Be gentle with them haha
I’m from the south and I actually hate the nicknames from older people. Please don’t call me sweetheart or baby. It makes me feel like they view me as a child
It just feels overly familiar to me, like they think I'm Their child or grandchild when they're just like, next to me in line at Kroger.
Maggie saying cuffed jeans aren’t hot while being Mrs. Hot Ankles
Maggie’s face at 1:00:24 was so darn cute 🥹🥹
Love this but time stamps would be nice.
I cannot be on most birth control due to health reasons. Tried nexplanon cause they said it would be okay. I lost 75% of my hair. :( I have a blood clotting issue so BC can be dangerous for me.
Sadly all hormonal bc doesn't work for me; both the pill and the IUD gave me hideous side effects. I'm impatiently waiting for menopause!
18:00 great info
Can Dr. Lincoln sit with us every week?!
Maggie you're literally married to Hot-Ankles-Kornfeld and you aren't here for cuffed jeans ?! 😂😂😂❤
Marking this for my husband lol 26:16
gen z here 🙋♀ i cuff my jeans sometimes depends on the jean tho
I really appreciate you making this video.
My ex of 7 years cheated and gave me Herpes1&2 during our relationship and I was devastated.
You’ve made me feel so much better doctor Igudia and seeing all these people share their testimonies about your cure.
Thank you so much Dr Igudia for your treatment and your consultations. I’m forever grateful to you. You’ve been such a kind and caring doctor for me during my hard time of Herpes infection. Thank you for doing everything that you do and helping me during a hard time. I’ll definitely spread this to the whole world.
NUMTOT REP RAINIE LETS GOOO
The compassion with which you treat your patients with HSV2 is more effective than any medicine! Thank you Dr Igudia for being the best, truthful, trusted and reliable doctor that you are, keep saving lives.
You’re such a delightful person and a dedicated doctor, you are truly an inspiration Dr Igudia, I’m finally free from Herpes😊 stay blessed sir I’m so happy to came across your CZcams channel
I haven't had a full period since 2016. I have no plans to ever have kids. Highly recommend if your body can handle it. (I understand that sadly some people can't for various reasons.)
I had a roommate in college have sex with her boyfriend while I was across the room and I WISH I had been an asshole and let them know I was awake. It was so awkward! And way worse later telling her that I was awake through the whole thing.
Great intervieuw with the doctor but just wish she would have adressed how unfair it is that man birthcontrol is so behind and give us an update on recent developments in this area which I know there are in England already.
Love me some Rachel!!!
I think it was a big oversight for you all to leave her name out of the video title and description. We as listeners should have easier access to her qualifications and where to find more information about her. Thanks for having her on!
If you listened to the podcast, they had her list her socials for people to follow
i did! that was at the very end though and it wasnt on the screen for us to see, nor was it posted in writing anywhere. Also should have been in the title or description for audio only listeners who may not have been able to stop and write down her socials at that exact moment (i.e. listening while driving)@@madisonlarson146
That’s true! I either pause and go look them up or make a mental note to review it later if it’s someone I wanna follow. But I get having it written would help!
Her name should be in the video title the same way pods usually do when they have guests. @@madisonlarson146
I so much admire your kind gesture Dr Igudia, indeed you are a life saver. Coming across your channel on my worst HSV2 stage was a blessing, your remedies were top notch. I’m grateful to God I made you my physician.
So I was in a relationship with a guy for months, and I started using terms of endearment towards him. He got weird and said that we weren't in a committed relationship, which was news to me. Then he ghosted me. I go on a few dates with others and guess who came back from the dead calling me a whore? .______.
Why are men the way that they are. I’m so sorry you dealt with that.
I feel like gen z do cuff our pants... but maybe that's just because i'm not stylish lol. I know we usually just cut them off but like a rolled corduroy? thats gen z
Thanks a million times Dr Igudia for playing a vital role on my Herpes, you are indeed a dedicated and compassionate doctor, you’ll forever have a place in my heart, Am grateful sir.
Anyone know where Becky has been? Is she okay?
Becky's been posting on Instagram plenty and seems great! Probably just taking some vacation time.
I know she absolutely does not talk about her and Keith's personal relationship.
I know that neither Matt or Maggie has gotten personal earlier but maybe she isn't comfortable taking about
You’re such a delightful person and a dedicated doctor, you are truly an inspiration Dr Igudia, I’m finally free from Genital Herpes virus😊 stay blessed sir I’m so happy to came across your CZcams channel.
Writing a thank you note to you Dr Igudia in a way to let you know that I so much appreciate your hard work, compassion, understanding, and positivity you put to help me get through my tough moments with herpes1&2. I’m grateful doc.
Thanks a million times Dr Igudia for playing a vital role on my herpes, you are indeed a dedicated and compassionate doctor, you’ll forever have a place in my heart, Am grateful sir.
I really appreciate you making this video.
My ex of 7 years cheated and gave me herpes virus during our relationship and I was devastated.
You’ve made me feel so much better doctor Igudia and seeing all these people share their testimonies about your cure.
the f buddy that wants their partner to be obsessed should not engage in fwb situations she's not mature enough to handle it.
Genuinely, like having a healthy FWB dynamic should really come with a mutual understanding not to do this crap. It doesn't even sound like she likes this dude as a friend, based on her saying he has so many icks and red flags.
@@morgueish nah, you can hate a lot of things about a person but still be compatible in bed. sometimes it's just enough to get the stress release and just be on your way. I had a partner that was a probably a certifiable mess and a slob. I finally had to call it quits when she got out of her car and a storm of trash followed her.
@@gilbertjacobs3705 yeah this does not change my mind 😓 if you hate a lot of things about a person and you're just having sex with them for the stress release, that's not a fwb. Because you're not their friend. You shouldn't lie to them and call yourself their friend. You're having a recurrent hookup with someone you don't have any investment in. Not cool to be dishonest about that kind of thing 🤷♂️ I'd be hurt and sad if I found out one of my fwb felt this way about me.
If the world had more people like you, it would be a better place. You make a difference, Dr Igudia thank you for curing my herpes infection and introducing your medical products to the worlds
I am sending the most genuine thanks to you Dr Igudia for saving my life from herpes simplex virus. Your humility, kindness, and strength are greatly appreciated. A good doctor like you is hard to find, difficult to say goodbye and impossible to forget
I so much admire your kind gesture Dr Igudia, indeed you are a life saver. Coming across your channel on my worst herpes stage was a blessing, your remedies were top notch. I’m grateful to God I made you my physician.
Countless thanks to you Dr Igudia for working out wonders with your Herpes virus medicine. Your sincerity, honesty and truthfulness are really appreciated. The world needs more doctors like you
Thank you so much Dr Igudia for your hard work and support during my days of Herpes. It is because of you that I am able to go back to my family, healthy and well. I’ll will always testify of this miracle
The compassion with which you treat your patients with Herpes virus is more effective than any medicine! Thank you Dr Igudia for being the best, truthful, trusted and reliable doctor that you are, keep saving lives.
My heart just keeps thanking you and thanking you Dr Igudia for all you have done for me, you gave me your words that you could heal any sickness or disease, thank you for permanently curing me of my genital herpes you are amazing.
My heart just keeps thanking you and thanking you Dr Igudia for all you have done for me, you gave me your words that you could heal any sickness or disease, thank you for permanently curing me of my Herpes simplex virus you are amazing
I’ll never get tired of telling everyone about you Dr Igudia, you gave me reason to live again with your fantastic and amazing Genital Herpes virus medicine. The world need more people like you, God bless you my doctor
I appreciate all your efforts you put in curing my HSV2 Dr Igudia, you have proven to be the professional doctor that you are. God bless you as you go out there to cure the sick people. Gratitude
Countless thanks to you Dr Igudia for working out wonders with your Genital Herpes medicine. Your sincerity, honesty and truthfulness are really appreciated. The world needs more doctors like you.
Omg am I actually first?
Edit: I'm not, but second is good too xD
I kindly appreciate your kind gesture Dr Igudia, you have always been able to help me with any kind of health issues, the Herpes infection is something the world thought it has no cure, but I’m happy to say today that I’ve been cured and I’m happy to have you as my doctor.
I appreciate all your efforts you put in curing my Herpes virus Dr Igudia, you have proven to be the professional doctor that you are. God bless you as you go out there to cure the sick people. Gratitude.
You have my maximum respect Dr Igudia, I am now negative from herpes virus after I did the test, I wonder what might have become of me it I didn't get the herbal cure From your CZcams channel. God bless you sir.
Don’t get me wrong, I ADORE Dr. Jen. But PLEASE do an episode with Mama Doctor Jones 😩 She’s even reviewed a Lewberger video once 👀
I thought my body would never be the same again, but you fixed it. My heartiest gratitude to you Dr Igudia for helping me cure my Herpes successfully
You have my maximum respect Dr Igudia, I am now negative from Herpes after I did the test, I wonder what might have become of me it I didn't get the herbal cure From your CZcams channel. God bless you sir
God bless Dr.Igudia on CZcams, all my life will keep thanking you for the great help and for your product which actually works in eradicating HSV2 out of my body system.
It was a blessing to have met with you Dr Igudia,CZcams you have brought up a huge smile on my face and it's gonna be permanent, because I never thought I would ever be cured of genital herpes,all I could say now is thank you Dr
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God bless Dr.Igudia on CZcams, all my life will keep thanking you for the great help and for your product which actually works in eradicating Herpes simplex virus out of my body system
I appreciate all your efforts you put in curing my herpes1&2 Dr Igudia, you have proven to be the professional doctor that you are. God bless you as you go out there to cure the sick people. Gratitude.
56:27 As a 25 yr old virgin who has no shame about it, I can STRONGLY say that men LOVE it. It’s kinda like a power move in my opinion haha I’ve told multiple men before and I’ve never had a bad reaction. They usually seem surprised but they’re eager to hear why. Personally, I don’t participate in hook up culture and I’ve never been into someone enough for it to go all the way so I’m just honest about that (: This also lets them know that if they were planning to have a 1 night stand with me, they need to move along because it’s not gonna happen LOL
God bless Dr Igudia for turning up for me when I was down with Herpes simplex virus. you made me believe in you and built my confidence around you and saved me from this mess. Kudos to you doctor, you’re a genius
43:45 Try Guys give vasectomies without training 😆
Thank you dr Igudia on CZcams for all you do, just got my test result today and am now Herpes simplex virus negative. I will keep letting the world know about your good work sir.
Thank you dr Igudia on CZcams for all you do, just got my test result today and am now herpes simplex virus negative. I will keep letting the world know about your good work sir.
I kindly appreciate your kind gesture Dr Igudia, you have always been able to help me with any kind of health issues, the HSV2 is something the world thought it has no cure, but I’m happy to say today that I’ve been cured and I’m happy to have you as my doctor
Other than her assuming that libido is just a physical arousal instead of a mental and physical arousal combo for both amabs and afabs, and then implying that amabs only have physical arousal and that there isn't a difference for all sexes (albeit the disconcordance is different, but there are disconcordances between the two for all sexes), this was great. Appreciate the attempt at inclusion, but there were still misrepresentations. Just because an amab has an erection, does not mean they are mentally aroused, which is a key part of arousal as a term. People can be physically aroused and not have mental arousal and vice versus. Regardless of sex. It is more likely to be congruent in amabs- that is true- but certainly not a given. Good attempt at explaining there are differences, but very ham fisted in the black and white explanation.
Everything else has been great info, and very supportive and solid health (including the mental side) advice. But I think she has been blinded to the patients that she doesn't provide care for, similar to the docs that do basically all research on Amabs. Bit hypocritical, but I can see why she is. Having an erection doesn't mean someone is aroused- they were just physically stimulated, popping a pill to achieve an erection only ensures you have an erection, it doesn't establish arousal. Men get raped too. Just like how some women have gotten wet or had an orgasm during "unwanted sex," and were not aroused, some men get erections bc of unwanted physical stimulation. There are two sides of arousal. Physical arousal is not the only determining factor, and certainly not the defining characteristic.