Our 10 Year Old Daughter Is Moving In With Her Dad

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  • What's up Perfectly Blended Family?? Amaya is going to spend more time with her Dad. Watch the video to see how we co-parent Amaya with her new living arrangements.
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Komentáře • 380

  • @yolandabrandon5342
    @yolandabrandon5342 Před 2 lety +119

    She wants to know her Ancestry from her father's side. She has a father and step father. Genetically she wants to know what she is made of. She looks just like her father. Plus she gets to step away from big sister role. She gets take some timeout for self. You should be proud she's trying to nurture herself. She will be back. There is a time when girls really need their mothers. Just like there are times when boys really need their fathers. She is in a good place to have three parent's. Some only have one or none at all. Plus she gets to learn the adaptation of more than one culture or race between and within her family.

    • @trulysensitive5620
      @trulysensitive5620 Před 2 lety +4

      Totally agree

    • @leonietaylor7054
      @leonietaylor7054 Před 2 lety +3

      She could learn that from her mom.Her mom looks African,American to me.Is her dad,Asian?

    • @zayidm3218
      @zayidm3218 Před 2 lety +3

      @@leonietaylor7054 her mom and dad is African American. Some kids just want peace. She probably tired of being with her mom which is ok

    • @jenniesmythe8188
      @jenniesmythe8188 Před 2 lety +4

      Also she looks almost identical to her mother. Just different eyebrows and skin complexion. So...

    • @heathetmitchell9323
      @heathetmitchell9323 Před 2 lety +6

      My daughter is always a daddy girl from birth even when I move from Jamaica to New York with my daughter i thought i would finally get to band with my daughter no she rebel I have to send her back to Jamaica to her dad she stay for 5 months then she said she wants to come back to the USA but even though she returned she still chose to go to her dad every chance she get and now she is almost 30 years old and she still chooses her dad over me and that something i can't understand because I am a mommy girl .

  • @shirleyballard3554
    @shirleyballard3554 Před 2 lety +54

    There’s no need for good byes. She is going to spend more time with her dad. No one is taking her away or giving her away. In fact she will be back…so don’t get use to it! She just needs to get away for awhile.

  • @mariedames3240
    @mariedames3240 Před 2 lety +171

    I pray that everything works out for Amaya she seems to be such a sweet and beautiful child. Mom you still need to keep a eye on Amaya she's still a young child she's only 10.

    • @ShaShaLuva414
      @ShaShaLuva414 Před 2 lety +4

      Yes…..

    • @rachelwhitaker4081
      @rachelwhitaker4081 Před 2 lety +3

      I agree!

    • @shegood7004
      @shegood7004 Před 2 lety +8

      It’s always good to keep 👀 open around stepfathers, before fathers. If she wants to go with her dad and is a daddy’s girl, that’s a blessing . Most girls doesn’t grow up with a step or real and the mother is on good terms with the father. Always talk to your daughter to make sure she is saying everything.

    • @tt6099
      @tt6099 Před 2 lety +2

      Agree 100%

    • @isobelndoro
      @isobelndoro Před 2 lety +2

      @@shegood7004 Thank you

  • @rebeccadixon4645
    @rebeccadixon4645 Před 2 lety +54

    I like that the mom refers to her as "princess", even IF little Amaya THINKS she's a "queen"! She has to GROW into that role, and I PRAY both mother AND father set boundaries to her sense of entitlement: She can't switch off and on if it becomes less ideal.

  • @jasminemohamoud7492
    @jasminemohamoud7492 Před 2 lety +41

    No one can feel the mother's feeling.
    She's actually deeply sad that she's letting her baby girl go away altho she understands everything but still it's hard.
    But I do appreciate their decision that they made it.
    Life is a lesson.

    • @ebonydixon933
      @ebonydixon933 Před 2 lety

      My daughter is the same age and I’m in the same position. My daughter really wants to live with her dad. It’s hard letting her go but her dad is a good parent as well and even though society pushes that kids should be with the mother in reality that’s not really fair. I have to push back my own feelings

  • @andriallatigue7662
    @andriallatigue7662 Před 2 lety +60

    I love the dynamic of the relationship, between you guys (the three adults). That's how it should be. You are great examples of love & forgiveness. The gospel in a nutshell! Thank you for living out what God intended for the world to know & "SEE" 👍

  • @denisewalker7217
    @denisewalker7217 Před 2 lety +26

    So refreshing to see parents who 'Co-parent" in an up beat and positive way with one another. Always having the children as #1 priority! We so desperately need (in this world of ours) more parents onboard with this same mentality & not using children as a pawn against each parent. As grandparents we also want to see this type of co-parenting work! Because it means they will have a wonderful relationship with their grandchildren on both sides of each family.It's a 'Win, Win' for all! Thanks for sharing this amazing video!

  • @user-ci5eu6tn9u
    @user-ci5eu6tn9u Před 2 lety +84

    I have known for awhile that this was coming. Amaya enjoys the freedom and she doesn't have to adhere to house rules. I hope Bryan institute some house rules and make her stick to them. I hope it works out for all concerned. Gregg, you have been a good alternative father to her.

    • @remiem-iw7uk
      @remiem-iw7uk Před 2 lety +5

      So your assumption is that her dad has no rules?

    • @user-ci5eu6tn9u
      @user-ci5eu6tn9u Před 2 lety +21

      @@remiem-iw7uk No, my assumption is that she allowed more leverage and she doesn't have to share attention.

  • @suebell1212
    @suebell1212 Před 2 lety +37

    Kudos to you guys, on the level of maturity in coparenting. I can totally relate, the well-being of the child or children is first and foremost. Amaya is at an age of becoming into her own, and the attention of
    being daddy’s princess is appealing, not having to share. There will be times of her missing her siblings and you guys and requesting to visit. 🙏🥰

  • @redd2sons
    @redd2sons Před 2 lety +65

    She will be back soon she will start missing her siblings, she wants the attention now, she is growing up❤️ Stay safe family. Love your family dynamics.❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • @angulaaagula5926
      @angulaaagula5926 Před 2 lety +5

      I did not have a dad and really want to hear good experience to those have one!

    • @redd2sons
      @redd2sons Před 2 lety +4

      @@jeianalottie From my gatherings from the video it seems temporary, and Mom is allowing her to live with Dad because of her request, I see no problem with this and my comment was not for anyone to draw a negative vibe from it. It’s all a part of maturing. Her Dad is there in her life, she is maturing , she get that special attention from him. She is Daddy’s little girl. She is one lucky little princess that have the best of her blended family and they support each other decisions. That’s why I love the family dynamics and a 70 year old fan forever. Stay safe❤️

    • @tinadavis7016
      @tinadavis7016 Před 2 lety +1

      It's okay for her wanting attention she haves the right to have her parents attention and this gives her time away from her sister's and having to look out for them while parents are doing things around the house

  • @peggydozier9941
    @peggydozier9941 Před 2 lety +11

    Amaya transitioning preteen stage of needs and wants, is very important that all adults are mature and seek guidance during Amaya impressionable years💜. Extol guys you all 1st step is beautiful.😍

  • @MaggieVlogs5050
    @MaggieVlogs5050 Před 2 lety +34

    As long as she's happy it's all that matters!

  • @MissGuantai
    @MissGuantai Před 2 lety +80

    I wish my ex would have just a little space for our son. We live in the same city but he doesn't really care. My son is 10 and the last time he saw him was 5 years ago before he got married which I kinda forced him to. Seeing three adults respect each other's spaces and making co-parenting doable is so admirable. Keep up guys

  • @berlindaburnett6583
    @berlindaburnett6583 Před 2 lety +9

    I love and admire everything about this family... Hello beautiful blended family. I applaud the fact that you all are on common ground with the relationship between all of you. It's a Blessing to see it and to experience it. You all are truly blessed. Children are a lot more responsible, smart and know what they want in these times. Live, Love, and Laugh. Blessings to you all 🥰🙏🏽

  • @dee28708
    @dee28708 Před 2 lety +16

    I wish I was given this opportunity with either of my exs. One left this earth and the other moved across the country and we haven't heard from him since. To have this opportunity is such a blessing.

  • @TealJadeTurquoise1
    @TealJadeTurquoise1 Před 2 lety +12

    Amaya is a very pretty girl.
    I was a big sister to two younger siblings who had a different father. It is always an interesting dynamic that can be good or not so good.
    You guys are doing a good job of managing it. Kudos!

  • @cassified1378
    @cassified1378 Před 2 lety +4

    Aaawwww bless moms poor heart, I can tell she is sad & hurt. Such a great mom to choose her daughter’s wants and needs over her own! Praying everything works out well for both blended families!

  • @myrafarmer5120
    @myrafarmer5120 Před 2 lety +8

    Okay. This is good. She has two parents and loves them both. This is awesome. Ten years with mom and eight with dad. Dads are important also. She will still be in relationship with mom and experience full time relationship with dad. It's a good thing.

  • @chinnystestimonies6841
    @chinnystestimonies6841 Před 2 lety +2

    God bless you all. You guys are the best to your kids. No negativity at all, all love. You'll reap the fruits of your labour of love in your children.

  • @michelepayne3832
    @michelepayne3832 Před 2 lety +6

    Guys its healthy that Amaya has a collection of positive experiences to draw from later in life. She will be a well rounded young lady as a result. You guys are ALL doing an awesome job parenting. Doesnt matter if she chooses to return or not! You all are good parents. Am enjoying it! Keep it up! Continue to make the choices that most benefit your lovely family circle. God bless ALL of you!

  • @euniceobi6477
    @euniceobi6477 Před 2 lety +3

    Well done all of you! What an amazing team of adults you all are. I think you are all behaving in the most responsible way all children need their parents and guardians. When they grow up, they will thank you for raising them with love 💕 and as balanced as you could. You are giving them the tools to be problem solvers in the future. I’m so proud of all you do for all your children. 👏🏾🙏🏾👍🏾Stay well and blessed 😊

  • @renaesimmons835
    @renaesimmons835 Před 2 lety +3

    You All have a very beautiful family. Blended and all. Truly blessed to have what God has blessed everyone enjoyed with.

  • @hpfraser86
    @hpfraser86 Před 2 lety +8

    You made the right decision for your child and family. You are right about keeping the lines of communication open among all parties. What also stands out to me is the respect that you all show to each other. Well done🥰🥰🥰

  • @mercedessl8718
    @mercedessl8718 Před 2 lety +8

    What i love about you guys is the natural interaction between all the dynamics in the family. Watching Amaya and her siblings develop into their own characters is a huge credit to Greg and you. I have always believed it takes a lot of love, patience, money and sheer hard work to raise a family but just one hug from a child makes everything worthwhile. As I have stated before Greg and Amaya ‘s Dad are fathers who give her love and support. Even though Amaya will be with her Dad she will still Love Greg as much as before. Chantel, I know it must be hard because you have a wonderful relationship with all your children and I feel Amaya has become a good friend to you. (My youngest son is a single Dad. He has custody of my Grandson and he is raising his son alone whilst holding a job etc.. I know my Grandson adores his father and he appreciates everything his father does for him.) To me I love the fact that Ryan is still part of her life and not abandoned her. Your Channel is correctly titled you are all Perfectly Blended and I look forward to seeing more from you. Stay safe and lots of love from your friends in London 🥰

  • @isabellarobinson3320
    @isabellarobinson3320 Před 2 lety +8

    Awww.....that's why I love you guys so much.....always thinking of the children's best interest at heart..... putting their needs first......and I hope you guys get an award for teaching others how to bring children up when parents are separated.........Greg you're awesome!!.......I'm sure you'll feel heavy in your heart for Amaya's decision since you've been there right when she was a baby.....as I would ....because looking after someone's child is not easy..... people don't realise what a blessing it is when you wholeheartedly look after a child that isn't yours biological and loving and doing everything as you would to your own.....
    I did have a stepfather who was one in a million ......very honourable peaceful kind hearted gentleman.. and would do all he can for me.......sadly he's no more with us ....and I do miss him dearly......Good to put your feelings aside for Amaya.....she's got years of growing up though....I think she realised how lucky she is .... so she's enjoying having both her dad and you guys around loving her ....and so she should..........keep doing what your are doing......loving each other always .....Good bless you all ..

  • @Neamcel225
    @Neamcel225 Před 2 lety +7

    think that when Amaya's sisters tell her they miss her, she may start to feel differently. The blessings in all of this is that she has a good dad. More people to love her.

  • @lisagab
    @lisagab Před 2 lety +21

    Maybe when dad starts setting some rules especially like how its still sch time she will feel differently about staying with dad full time. Let's hope thats not the case. Good thing is she is close by🤩

  • @mylene6975
    @mylene6975 Před 2 lety +4

    You guys seem like a great family. But to be honest, I agree with some on this post. Amaya may feel out of place in her home with her siblings. Let's not pretend that visually she doesn't stand out as "other." In this world where so much is still happening with the image of black women/girls (especially those richly melinated) could subconsciously influence how she sees herself. I have no doubt she's a daddy's girl, but the positive influence her black father will provide regarding love, support and self acceptance will stay with her a lifetime. She will learn to value her beautiful black hair, skin and spirit through the eyes of the man who helped create her. And for that reason, I'm very happy for her. She is in an enviable position of having a choice most children will never know. I applaud you and her step dad for giving her that space. 👏🏼 That makes you both awesome parents! Best of luck to you all.

  • @zenu2907
    @zenu2907 Před 2 lety

    New to ur channel. So lovely to c that u n her dad r able to remain civil with each other for the sake of ur child. This was what I wanted when I got divorced. However, it couldn't work when the other was unwilling. I admire this!!!!

  • @sybilbailey7178
    @sybilbailey7178 Před 2 lety

    Amaya will come back but don't feel bad from what we can see you are a good mum and she is well adjusted young lady. You and Greg are good parents keep up the good work.👍🏽👍🏽💕💕💕From London

  • @MrMadieu
    @MrMadieu Před 2 lety

    The beauty is when co parenting, the Villan v Hero is dropped & parents step to the side & recognise they are the side characters & the child/ren are the HEROS.
    Kudos Mum for validating Maya’s decision & feelings.
    It was the same for me when choosing to mainly live with Dad & not Mum & my other siblings when they seperated in my childhood.
    They made me to know this is about me & how I best feel in the dynamics of an Adult/Parent seperation, not them.
    Full salutes & well done to you Mama for raising a Princess who can have this authentic transaparency & be heard & validated.
    U have done the BEST job ever to support Maya to reach this space and place.
    Moor Luv💯😘💗💓💓💓💓

  • @joanallison5697
    @joanallison5697 Před 2 lety +9

    This episode has so many lessons. Thanks for sharing.

  • @Dmudahy
    @Dmudahy Před 2 lety +11

    Kuliegirl. Chantel, Greg & Ryan. I was and am very amazed at the relationship dynamics with Amaya’s upbringing. What the three of you do for Amaya is so out of society’s norm that I believe it is an example to others and to Amaya to learn communication and relationship dynamics. You don’t have to be bitter with each other while all parents wants and are doing the best for Amaya interest. She is definitely loved ❤️. I believe she will do great ❤️❤️💖💖🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽💙💙

  • @d.jackson1770
    @d.jackson1770 Před 2 lety +1

    Much blessings on you and your family- it is so inspiring to see how you guys are handling a situation that can be or is difficult for you all. Kudos to you Mom!❤️

  • @janetteosbourne276
    @janetteosbourne276 Před 2 lety +5

    Hey perfect blend fam I can see that amoya love spending time with her dad good for her if it that makes her happy let her go a head thank for sharing god bless you all ❤❤❤❤❤👏😁🇯🇲🇯🇲

  • @lscummings
    @lscummings Před 2 lety +1

    Thanks mom and dad
    Some of us our out here in the same situation.
    Reason I said when people make nasty comments or dislike this 🎥..some can never understand a diverse woman such as this young lady. Beautiful Family! Thanks.for much for sharing.. everyone story matters

  • @josettebyrd7459
    @josettebyrd7459 Před 10 dny

    Have fun staying at your dads house. I'm so glad that you are letting her now because she's a lot older now and she needs that bond and time together. Shell be back when she starts missing that annoyances of her brother and sister. I love the way everyone gets alone. I understand when you younger siblings work on your nerves and you need a break. Thanks for sharing this with us. I know it so hard to let her go Chantel .

  • @carolk1325
    @carolk1325 Před 2 lety

    Am here for the positive energy and a kind world! This is what life should be a about mutual respect!

  • @believegb3691
    @believegb3691 Před 2 lety +21

    It takes courage and maturity to do this. I don't really think I would be able to do this if I was in the same situation. But I guess our children happiness should matter more than anything. Big up to you seriously. I wish you all the best.

    • @Themanuscript250
      @Themanuscript250 Před 2 lety

      Living in and visiting a space is totally different. Let's hope that it works.

    • @shroff3417
      @shroff3417 Před 2 lety

      Same, this is breaking my heart more than it should 😭

  • @letheafloyd1081
    @letheafloyd1081 Před 2 lety

    It is a blessing for children to have both parents in their lives. Whether you are together in the same house or separate. As long as that parent is hands on in the upbringing on the children. You have proven that it can work even when you have a new partner. I did not have that. I wanted it but for whatever reason only God truly knows what made it not work because I tried with everything in me for the most part. Your daughter will get to experience what it truly feels like to been full time with her father regardless of the time involved. I pray that in time she will realize that not all children can say that they know what it feels like to be so loved. I know her siblings will miss her presence in the household. Co-parenting can be a positive experience.

  • @nereidarichardson5710
    @nereidarichardson5710 Před 2 lety +28

    As a mom it’s always though to hear your kid say that they want to go and stay with whichever parent,but she’s at that age and a girl which seems to be a little harder to please mix up moods and attitudes, but you guys are parenting well, it all comes down to the benefit of the kids and their happiness😂but she’ll be back maybe sooner than you think, good job❤️❤️ you guys!

    • @juvaina8336
      @juvaina8336 Před 2 lety +2

      That is just like me with the mix up moods and attitudes just like me but am 11

  • @samanthaholmes186
    @samanthaholmes186 Před 2 lety

    Good answer step Dad she's so bless to have 2 great Dads Mom don't cry, I am so glad you let her go stay with her Dad just let her know when ever she wants to come home the door will always be open and that you love her very much.

  • @Nickyloveslove
    @Nickyloveslove Před 2 lety +8

    Amaya looks
    like a baby
    Kelly Rowland.
    Such a beautiful
    doll Baby.
    Awwwwww I think
    it's so sweet
    but also sad~

    • @crystalb2974
      @crystalb2974 Před 2 lety +1

      Mom kinda favors Kelly Rowland to me also

  • @carroleboursiquot364
    @carroleboursiquot364 Před 2 lety +5

    You guys are such a wonderful family. You are all doing such a awesome job as Co parenting 👏. Amaya have a great father and step father. Like she stated " I'm a "queen ". Stay tight to each other beautiful family. May the good Lord continues to bless you all . Love and respect to you ❤ 💕 ♥ 💯 🙏 😍🤩

  • @annettedennis253
    @annettedennis253 Před 2 lety +14

    Chantelle I give you a lot of credit for being so understanding and cooperative. I’m thinking your daughter wants to have all the attention (she’s at the age) Here’s hoping 🤞 everything works for the best for the children always. You won’t know unless you try.Blessings to the families 🙏🏾

  • @realmommee8093
    @realmommee8093 Před 2 lety +93

    You didn’t raise her alone for 10 years. Seems like dad was right along with it too.

    • @excursionsoflove5200
      @excursionsoflove5200 Před 2 lety +6

      She actually said that several times

    • @doreensmith3423
      @doreensmith3423 Před 2 lety +2

      She did said that her real dad was around too

    • @lscummings
      @lscummings Před 2 lety +1

      Someone seems bitter she did say that

    • @coyoluo
      @coyoluo Před 2 lety

      I just think she uses 'I' a lot instead of US or WE, however, she did acknowledge him.

  • @olivestewart3124
    @olivestewart3124 Před 2 lety

    I like the blend bond...its really positive...love it...be bless always

  • @patriciashawwatkins2901

    Beautiful perspective! Blessings!🙏

  • @virginiadouglas9449
    @virginiadouglas9449 Před 2 lety +2

    A pretty child ..God keep you safe darling ..bless you

  • @cherylmccray7463
    @cherylmccray7463 Před 2 lety +1

    I love how yall share the love between homes with Amaya

  • @nnekaowens1325
    @nnekaowens1325 Před 2 lety +10

    This will be good for her… even if she wants to come back I think she should stay and not go back and forth she’s making this decision she should have to live with the decision through the adjustment period, because this will be good for her!

  • @phyllisferguson3889
    @phyllisferguson3889 Před 2 lety +3

    I like the maturity of this issue. Amaya may feel she wants to return to her mother, step dad and sublings but ar least she has been given the opportunity to see what it's like to live at both parents' home.

  • @nokuthulandlovu9048
    @nokuthulandlovu9048 Před 2 lety +13

    Perfectly Blended family that's so cool though a bit difficult for us mom's to part with our kids even for 10 seconds but you guys you have made the best decision to let her go live with her dad...she will come back home. Well done guys👏👏👏👏💕

  • @charlierlaflosstv
    @charlierlaflosstv Před 2 lety +6

    Beautiful I love the positivity ❤️🥰 and the fact that Amaya gets to have that time with her dad even if it's short lived. At least she has two great dad's in her life. I wish you all the very best!

  • @kiaradoxchannel9871
    @kiaradoxchannel9871 Před 2 lety

    Very good, mom and dads. Thanks for sharing. I wish all of you the best.

  • @rachelcallahan2612
    @rachelcallahan2612 Před 2 lety +3

    Amaya is such a cutie! However, I somehow think that she's going to miss you all but given the fact that she will be living close by I do think that she will be able to enjoy the best of both worlds.
    btw, how utterly refreshing is both you and your exes co-parenting skills. keep up the good work!

  • @eulicehooper6340
    @eulicehooper6340 Před rokem

    I had so many emotions with this. Overall I am so happy to see a blended family seeking to do the best good for everyone involved. This is how communal family should look.

  • @Cislyn
    @Cislyn Před 2 lety +2

    That's so awesomely nice.Chantel Amaya just wants to spread her 10yrs old wing.
    I would suggest Ryan get a CZcams channel for him and Amaya all your subscribers are very inquisitive to watch them including myself

  • @vjobs10
    @vjobs10 Před 2 lety +4

    This is so healthy when I was growing up I wish that my mom had allowed me to do this because I asked her could I go live with my dad and it turned into a big crazy fiasco. I'm glad you guys are taking into account your daughter's mental health and well-being this is always wonderful to see good on you guys!

  • @traceyquarles7960
    @traceyquarles7960 Před 2 lety +14

    Sometimes children go along with that type of plan to get along. A maya reminds me of my granddaughter who was willing to stay with me while her mother and three siblings (different father) move out of state. After her opening up she really was hurt that her mom was willing to leave her. Be careful of how you handle this. God speed

    • @Reallychris_
      @Reallychris_ Před 2 lety +4

      I agree.

    • @zayidm3218
      @zayidm3218 Před 2 lety +1

      Not really. Kids are kids with that being said they are fickle as hell. If your grand was that hurt she should have left. When kids get tired or want a change then they whine. Your grand is whining

    • @vivineblake1021
      @vivineblake1021 Před 2 lety

      I think that's the reason why they give her the platform to express and make sure that is what she wants.

  • @berniceroberts4634
    @berniceroberts4634 Před 2 lety +5

    Step father is a good man GOD bless himoo

  • @shewrt1143
    @shewrt1143 Před 2 lety +1

    Greg is full of wisdom!

  • @vernajohnson2627
    @vernajohnson2627 Před 2 lety

    Hello Chantel & Greg, Amaya is coming back right now she wants to get away but she's going to miss her siblings & going to want to stay a couple of days and go back to the dad just be blessed. 😊

  • @valeriebinns5472
    @valeriebinns5472 Před 2 lety

    Awww! I think Amiya will be fine. It helps her to be independent. She will be able to get to know her dad more.

  • @susiecollins3255
    @susiecollins3255 Před 2 lety +6

    You have to look at this situation from a child’s/Amya viewpoint, although your present husband has been there since she was a baby, changed diapers, dressed, kissed and hugged her, for a black female child she sees the difference in race/color between the father figures and for females the male figure especially father’s has a bearing on their developmental process. Please don’t take her wanting to live with her father as a bad reflection on you or your parenting skills. I thank the bonding with her biological father is different, especially at the age she is now and being black. She probably will be able to see more of her father’s family now that she will be living with him. Don’t start thinking negative about your parenting skills, that she’s been with me since a baby, now she want to leave me, as a mother you will start thinking these thoughts to yourself then you may discuss these thoughts with your present husband, your mother, sister or friends to get some feedback on your thoughts. Her father has been in her life since being born it would be different if she didn’t have any personal knowledge of him face to face and her color. Believe me children know when they are loved. She can see that her siblings have their biological father there with them so she wants to experience living with her biological father of the same color. She knows that you love her, believe me, she knows you love her and your present husband loves her. With girls growing up it’s the father and with guys it’s the mother who they look at as their protector and with children period, it’s the mother who they perceive as their protector. Children growing up experiences can be reflected in their adult life experiences in relationships. Women and men have difficulty with girl friends or wives guit or leave them that’s the mother leaving syndrome and the same with females and the father syndrome. You don’t have to worry about your daughter she will be calling you saying (Mom) I want to come back with you, it’s nothing to do with your parenting. She knows she was well taken care of while in your care. She’s just broadening her growing up experience. Stay safe and love each other!!❤️

  • @munajalloh2
    @munajalloh2 Před 2 lety +1

    you are one of the best mother in the world I love your family so much as a mother we should always put the kids happiness first.

  • @violakabigabwa9240
    @violakabigabwa9240 Před 2 lety +1

    Your husband is so loving and understanding.

  • @joannavievejohn9463
    @joannavievejohn9463 Před 2 lety

    I love the way you'll are that she has three of you'll as her parents , I have a 12 year old son an a 2 1/2 year old daughter but am living with her father an my son hardly sees his dad that often but it's only like recently he started going by him to spend time,but I could never ever remember hi telling me that he would want to go live with him. I always wish to have a good relationship like the three of you ,like for my son father to be talking to my hussy like Greg and Ryan I admire that so much keep it up guys.

  • @cherissebrowne3795
    @cherissebrowne3795 Před 2 lety +4

    Amaya is such a beautiful girl. May God keep her safe always ❤

  • @UnpopularOpinionByNkiruka

    Wow this was such a beautiful mature decision and smooth transition.

  • @marybriggs2936
    @marybriggs2936 Před 2 lety +1

    You all are awesome! Love this. ❤

  • @Jt2REAL1
    @Jt2REAL1 Před 2 lety +1

    I’m happy for you all tackling another giant one day at a time ❤️

  • @ninathompson3280
    @ninathompson3280 Před 2 lety +47

    I think Amaya feels out of place because of her siblings, they have the same mom and dad.

    • @moosieh1
      @moosieh1 Před 2 lety +8

      I was thinking the same thing...she feels out of place

    • @gingerhargraves
      @gingerhargraves Před 2 lety +4

      I agree

    • @karen12280
      @karen12280 Před 2 lety +3

      Exactly what I was thinking

    • @madonnaclark4074
      @madonnaclark4074 Před 2 lety +4

      I don't think she feels left out.She just older watching her siblings getting to see and live with their dad every day.And as nice as her stepfather maybe and loves her.She knows and loves her real dad and most likely gets the attention from him.That she see's her younger sibling get from their dad.

    • @nyreedavion7323
      @nyreedavion7323 Před 2 lety +6

      I was thinking that too.
      Being a child that has experienced this very thing, I felt different or like the different one in the family

  • @mathabo75torolane64
    @mathabo75torolane64 Před 2 lety

    Hey guys,seh will come back chantel,don't worry,you nd greg did good work nd you will still do its just matter of time,everything is gonna be fine

  • @solagesture.9982
    @solagesture.9982 Před 2 lety

    I like how the children because they try foods. Amaya will come back, but you all made the right decision to allow her to live with her dad. Yes, I think she loves children as well because I saw in your order videos how she interacted with Jasmine and 'King'.

  • @MonicaLovelyGant
    @MonicaLovelyGant Před 2 lety

    Love this video! Healthy relationships.... PERIOD 🕊

  • @jeahlashelifestyle6816
    @jeahlashelifestyle6816 Před 2 lety +1

    I admire the love you all have in this beautiful blended family 👋🏽😘🎉

  • @EricaRWeeks
    @EricaRWeeks Před 2 lety +1

    I am a single parent so, I am a 24hr 7day a week parent all day everyday! So, this is a great setup to me and I wish that, I had that luxury at times. My daughter's chose not to be apart of her life at all, but that's his choice to do so and I choose not to even talk about him good or bad unless she ask me questions than I tell her the truth nothing more or less than that and I don't ever tell her that, "He doesn't love her or anything like that either, just because he chose not to be apart of her life because that's not for me to say, whether he was here or not."! Anyways, I like watching the show and its amazing to she how you all work together for the sake of the kids.

  • @maryaparici1476
    @maryaparici1476 Před 2 lety

    She can always try it and if it doesn’t work out she can always back ..
    Sometimes when your not living somewhere full time it feels like a holiday.
    Giving it a chance is the right thing to do . Good luck .. 😉

  • @tudiknight3386
    @tudiknight3386 Před 2 lety +1

    Chantal! Even though it hurts , you’re doing the best for your daughter . It’s especially a plus for a daughter to raise with both parent even if it’s not in the same household . She loves you all You guys are awesome !! ❤️

  • @khanyiswasithole8895
    @khanyiswasithole8895 Před 2 lety

    Good for Amaya to bond with his father sad to me mine fathers child don't want that bond 14yrs till now God bless Maraya father

  • @g.watson5502
    @g.watson5502 Před 2 lety +1

    Thanks for putting the child first.

  • @septemberbrown477
    @septemberbrown477 Před 2 lety +1

    Its so funny she doesn't let him get a word in and he's so used to it he allows her Lol I love them

  • @cynthiajohn4048
    @cynthiajohn4048 Před 2 lety

    Hi guys. The fried onion things are called onion bhajis. They are really delicious when cooked right. But the ones you had looked like they were fried too crispy, to the point where it looked dry and when you bit into it there was a crunch, and there shouldn't be. Love from London.

  • @kellycash4314
    @kellycash4314 Před 2 lety +1

    Awesome video as long as she happy that is all that matters.

  • @jvaughn132
    @jvaughn132 Před 2 lety +6

    As long as they respect each other know whose the child and grownup. They will be fine.

  • @livenowliveright8509
    @livenowliveright8509 Před 2 lety +3

    Whew, I applaud you because I’m crying just thinking about it if my 16-yrs old stated she wanted to go to live with her father.

  • @jeancrain4681
    @jeancrain4681 Před 2 lety +3

    The sweet years are new born to about 12 years of age....then the teenage years (puberty) happen ! Good luck to her father .

  • @johnniejohnson6420
    @johnniejohnson6420 Před 2 lety

    You guys are looking out for the babies...great job on all you guys part.

  • @naturallycurlymama5344

    You are amazing that you guys giving her the option at least to try I am in tears so hard😭

  • @capriajones8367
    @capriajones8367 Před 2 lety

    This is so beautiful I used to feel the same way about my dad

  • @zakila2cute
    @zakila2cute Před 2 lety +2

    This episode was dope!

  • @SonetLandman
    @SonetLandman Před 2 lety +11

    A lot of young kids in divorced families cry after a weekend spent with the other parent. I think it is just the upheaval of it all not that they necessarily prefers the other parent.

  • @1browngirl29
    @1browngirl29 Před 2 lety

    Amaya looks like her dad. It’s good for him to have her fulltime. Kids need to experience all that is good and especially the opportunity to be raised by both biological parents if it is a healthy environment. They couldn’t live under same roof so doing what works is ok. Plus they are still go-parents so it’s not too disruptive for Amaya. Don’t listen to the other people talking about she needs you as mom ( as if she doesn’t also need Ryan). What she needs is healthy environment (amd love of all parents and family).

  • @sharolwashington6345
    @sharolwashington6345 Před rokem

    She might feels she needs some space and she feels she needs some dad time to unravel some things she feeling. Trust her and that you all have her best interests at heart ❤️

  • @sharolwashington6345
    @sharolwashington6345 Před rokem

    I think you all are doing an excellent job.

  • @laneylane8804
    @laneylane8804 Před 22 dny +1

    In England we call them onion bhaji or onion pakora there really nice when you dip them in yogurt mint sauce 😊

  • @annettagross4687
    @annettagross4687 Před 2 lety +2

    That's a good thing she' can see how it is to live with her dad for a while. She can spend some time doing the holidays with you and doing the summer also. And it's a good thing he's only 10 minutes away. See how it works out only time will tell. And good she has her real dad that's willing to co parent also.☺️💞💞

  • @pamelarogers9768
    @pamelarogers9768 Před 2 lety

    Y’all are doing the right thing let her stay with her dad,because if she change her mind she can come back.

  • @peggyvincent2310
    @peggyvincent2310 Před 2 lety +1

    Hi Perfect Blended family, You have a great family dynamic she, will be fine. Like you said “she does does not leave to far from where you live, she just needs space for herself. Be brave mom, she will be alright. She’s just a phone call away. ❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • @peggyvincent2310
      @peggyvincent2310 Před 2 lety

      Hi Family!! Shantel your hair looks very nice, it suits your face. 😀