Life AFTER DELETING Social Media: Here's What I've Realized
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- čas přidán 4. 06. 2024
- It's been two months since I deleted Instagram and Tik Tok and there have been some real eye opening moments. Here's a recap of what life has been like without these social media apps in my life - the good and the bad. Watch until the end for a mention of the new photo sharing app I'm loving!
00:00 // here we are
00:47 // 2 weeks - replacing one bad habit with another
03:06 // 4 weeks - identifying why I was reaching for my phone so much
06:59 // 8 weeks - feeling the benefits
📲 WHY I QUIT SOCIAL MEDIA
• Why I'm Quitting Socia...
🌱 7 WAYS TO SIMPLIFY YOUR LIFE FOR BETTER MENTAL HEALTH
• 7 ways I SIMPLIFIED my...
💸 HOW I'M SAVING MONEY THIS YEAR
• 14 Things I'm NOT Buyi...
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Have you quit any social media apps? How do you use your scroll-free time now? 🤳🏽
Complete school assignments early.
i started learning different languages again and knowing the patterns of myself and focus on studies.
I got off of Facebook due to my insecurity and jealousy arising due to guys liking girls that are but naked and I knew that I didn’t wanna be those type of girls so my way of solving the solution was getting off of Facebook and then after getting off of Facebook, I was more of an Instagram person, and I rarely see naked people on Instagram if they’re like at the beach but other than that no way so I was good. I was happy. I felt better now here I am on Instagram. I was going back down at spiral I took a short break for about a week and I came back. I felt refresh so I decided to do, one day as social media for about 20 minutes and get off, but that didn’t last too much longer. I got a couple of days now on it pretty much every day now, but I do want to take a break and see what more could happen if I take a month or two off, and if I find it lovely, even though I’m gen z maybe I will find some sort of detachment by me you know taking a break and realize and come into real life that I don’t really need this that this is toxic and if that then I would pretty much get off of Instagram, but I love posting, of course my generationbut I’m on Pinterest. I can create some cute little things and post and I love the fact that Pinterest lets you customize what you see.
I definitely feel CZcams is a place to escape to,at the same time you learn something while being on it.
Agreed 👍🏽
It’s been over 2 years since I left social media. I have no regrets at all.
I used it in my early teens as I thought it was good to unite with people who I’ve met during school and college, and I thought it was going to bring people together. but after a while in my late teens, there was a lot of things that I realised that we’re not good and was having an really negative impact on me.
I got sick & tired of people gossiping, causing drama, negativity & people faking their lives & friendships and sharing everything that should be kept private or craving attention with provocative pictures, posts & selfies.
A number of things I realised:
1. People who added me as “Friends” didn’t really care about me. They were “So called Friends” it was just to increase their friends list.
2. When people were going through their hardest times of anxiety, trauma and upset, I went out of my way & made an effort by helping & supporting them. But when I was going through my hardest times, including anxiety, trauma and stress. The people who I helped & supported never reached out to me to help or supported me even when I struggled. Everything has become one sided.
3. Certain posts or videos get blown out of proportion or completely taken out of context even if it’s nothing negative.
4. People lie about the amount of friends they REALLY have. Who in the REAL world has 100s or 1000s of friends WHO??
5. Communication is very one sided. The same person had to make the first move to start a conversation as the other person doesn’t make an effort themselves or just can’t be bothered.
6. People lie about their lives, they only show the positive side of theirs lives which doesn’t show the REAL truth about the person. You can’t tell and don’t see if someone is REALLY depressed, upset, isolated, lonely, feeling suicidal or what’s actually going on in their actual lives. Even if people post it on social media on how they REALLY feel, people don’t always care or not interested.
7. It makes people fake and insecure. It’s not just school kids or teenagers in schools, colleges, universities or workplaces doing it, but grown adults as well are also being fake & insecure, especially managers.
8. People compare themselves to others just to get loads of “Likes” & comments.
9. Social media has increased loneliness, isolation, anxiety and depression which can be severe, and sometimes suicides
10. Due to social media and the increase in technology, it’s causing destruction & destroying peoples lives in the sense of their is no sense of unity, community, love and nobody wants to help each other. If they see someone doing something constructive and productive and they’re doing well in a community or society, people will laugh at them in an act of ignorance, and cannot wait for them to fall down. Social media is dividing people, not bringing people together.
11. Having a proper conversation or being real is considered not normal and people think it’s creepy. People don’t like having real conversations.
12. It’s made people to be narcissists, entitlement, ignorant, prejudice and bullies.
13. People can say things or make comments that are abusive, racist, sexist, ignorant, prejudice, misogynist, homophobia, xenophobia, discrimination openly online, rather than to your face.
14. I have seen Boys & Girls take provocative, selfies / pictures just to get attention from so called friends / strangers, sometimes in a negative way, for example, woman having their boobs / chests hanging out, body image, men & women showing off muscles, six pack & more. Why would you do that to 100s or 1000s on your friends list that you don’t really know. Even if you post it in public.
15. Businesses and companies like theatres, special effects companies and more are now doing this as well, they will sometimes arrogantly post positive images of the work they do. And sometimes they will post things that they think they do, but they don’t, for example, some companies say that they support mental health and care for peoples mental well-being. Or they support women in work, claiming to be Disability confident. People have to REALLY question why they would put that on there social media post. As it could be because they are not doing it and that’s their way of saying that they are doing it, but in REALITY they are not or don’t REALLY care. In businesses and with companies people have to ask themselves are they presenting? or are they advertising?
16. With social media & the young generation with regards to friendships, people feel that if they add someone as friend request and they accept it, or meet someone & they click with them straightaway they automatically think that’s “friends for life” people need to realise that’s not how friendship REALLY works.
Friendships are & should always be a 2-way street. Real friendships would make the effort to support & be there for each other through the good times, fun times but also through hard times, sad times, upsetting times (even if your friend was in hospital going through surgery or operation) & more. Communication & making an effort should be equal on both sides. Not the same person who always makes first contact. The other person should also make an effort too.
We need to ALL learn the skill set of when we suffer from stress, anxiety, trauma, facing problems & more, that we should reach out to our friends, family or professionals for help & support, NOT turn to social media, drugs or Alcohol.
17. Our young generation has grown up addicted. They have been addicted to mobile phones, alcohol, drugs, social media & more at a young age It’s very sad.
We are seeing the negative impact of what social media is doing, but we are not really reacting to it.
I never had TikTok, Twitter or Instagram. Glad I didn’t sign up to any of them. Facebook was the only social media platform I had and it was recommended to me back when I was in my teens.
I only use CZcams as I can look at interesting things like cooking recipes and motivation videos and music videos of festivals & concerts and more fun stuff.
I enjoy going out in nature walks, bowling listening to music and learning new hobbies and watching movies.
Since leaving it’s been the best decision of my life. I enjoy life more, I can now enjoy doing the things I do or want to try without being judged or told what to do without being made to feel guilty.
I feel more happier and a massive weight has been lifted off my shoulders.
I think if social media disappeared forever, I can guarantee people will spend REAL quality time with friends and family. People will know who their REAL friends are and that they will do things together and have a good time doing it. I also feel that people will have proper conversations and listen and engage.
I do feel sorry for our young generation. The young generation is lost. There is so much talent and ideas in young people and they need to show that in a positive & constructive way. We can make change for the future. The young generation needs real positive role models to look up to, for them to succeed in life & beyond.
Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts. You’ve made some really great points and I agree it’s extremely disheartening to see the negative effects of social media. I relate to being able to enjoy life more fully now that I’m off Instagram and Tik Tok, and most especially the weight that has been lifted since leaving the apps!
Would argue most men post muscles to show off their achievement that they worked for, can't compare it to boobs unless they worked hard to pay for a boob job :D
I deactivated my social media recently. My brain was foggy, I especially didn’t realize how depressed I was, and now a couple weeks, it feels so free. Being addicted to shopping as well, I became more aware of how I’m spending my money, I got addicted to reading ACTUAL books, focusing on graphic design and writing. Every day has gotten more enjoyable. ❤
I'm so happy for you that you're experiencing so many positive effects from deactivating your social media accounts! Thanks for sharing 🫶🏽
I deleted my Facebook two months ago and I just deleted my Instagram for the tenth time, yesterday. I’m just tired of posting for others who I barely talk to. I had to realize that people on Instagram aren’t my friends.
Good for you! Hope the IG delete works for you this time 🤞🏽
I been saying this for years, I removed social media, built my own website, I removed my TV and all my services subscriptions, I listen to music on vinyl and journal a lot, read books and study and write, in the process of writing a self help book and workshops, I use a Polaroid camera to take pictures, I send post cards to people friends and family, I use a dump flip phone, but use a iPad Pro and MacBook Air for my business and general life. I trail walk with a pack ride a motorcycle and exercise regularly. I listen mainly to music on CZcams and set a time limit. If I buy an item I need to use it.
The thing is if people would be allowed to use it only 2 hours a day, the content would be much better quality, more engaging, less spaming.
Less spaming in videos, less desiformation and less spaming in comments.
Thats great!!
Awesome!
I've had literally enough.
I met so insanely rude people on social media that a kindergarten throwing a fit over some nonsense is nothing.
I'm considering quiting.
I deleted my socials and fell in love with journaling again. When i was younger i used to journal and stopped and now i know why i enjoyed so much back then. To reflect and express my deepest thoughts and feelings on a nonjudgmental way on a piece of paper.
The impulsive shopping is one of the lesser known and under appreciated aspects of our time on social media. And not just shopping but seeing food and all kinds of things that come into our awareness that we now suddenly crave.
I love this so much! Especially because I recently logged out of all of my social media accounts a week ago. I am much in control of my time, and more present with my husband and my dog. I am focusing on educating myself more instead of just doom scrolling. I do not like how social media makes you think you need “more” when you have everything in front of you. Comparison is always gonna be there. I agree with your statement towards the end of the video, “my life as it is enough” ☺️ We all just need to have that sense of ‘enough’.
Thank you for watching! It’s awesome to hear that you’re having a similar experience, super happy for you. We’ve got everything we need 🫶🏽
It’s funny because when you said you noticed you started using CZcams a lot more, I remembered that that’s also how I am. I deleted my most used social media app and immediately CZcams shorts and entertainment videos on CZcams started taking my attention. Thank you for this video. It brought back my awareness 😅
Starting this journey TODAY!
GET IT! I hope you find so much peace and contentment being off of it! 🫶🏽
starting today. hope things are well for you ❤
Great job. 👍
1:13-2:03. I personally believe a person should be "present", being on social media isn't "being present." A phone will always be there. People die.
I love what you say about creativity. People will have more problem stealing your ideas/intellectual property if the information isn't readily available.
Plus, no cyberbullying/grooming/harassment, etc. Existing is less drama.
I'm so proud of you. Keep it up. 💯
Ive been free for only 2.5 months so far (January 2024).
I made some mistakes going back on some platforms, since January 2023.
You are 100% right about the addiction. Anyone can do it. They just have to want to.
Thanks for sharing that app! I used to love Instagram when it was only still photos. I found it very calming & inspiring. Now, influencers pitching products have taken over the app along with reels. Ugh! I have gone long lengths of time inactive on fb but I’ve joined a few fb groups I do enjoy a bit. I mostly was on fb to follow family but I’ve really noticed that very few of my peers (I’m in my 50’s) are sharing anything personal & authentic any more. So I’m thrilled I turned to CZcams a couple years ago. I agree, I find long form content much more thoughtful & insightful. Glad I found your channel!!
My pleasure! Thanks for watching and sharing your experience. It’s true, if we really take a good look at the content we consume on these apps (like FB as you mentioned) it’s amazing how much extra there is that we don’t really care to see! Welcome to our community 🤗 happy to have you here.
Yes to everything you said, I too am 50. I am so over instagram trying sell me something. I like to live a quiet private life.
Ironically, it was tiktok that lead me to the decision to quit/detox from
Social media. I came across a video of a lady who was doing a social media detox after reading Dopamine Nation. So, I ordered the audible version, listened over Easter weekend and committed to no social media for 90 days. Today is day 7. Day 4 I was crawling in my skin, which surprised me.
As I watched your video today, I’ve noticed that
A) I watched the entire video without feeling distracted.
B) I felt it was helpful and I wanted to engage and share my thoughts and say thank you for sharing your experience.
I look forward to each day and how it will transform because of this one simple choice I made, and kept.
Thank you so much for sharing your experience! I haven’t heard of that book but I’m adding it to my reading list now. Glad to hear you’re reaping the benefits of the detox 🙌🏽 cheers!
Social media is just a toxic place. I never really liked instagram or any other social media platform. It’s just a place to compare yourself and it gives low self esteem. I lost so many people because of it. People just like go stalk people on their socials. It’s simply annoying and a waste of time.
Thanks for sharing Ana, very valid thoughts 🙌🏽
Smartest thing I've done in a long time. Been off social media for 2 years. I wish I could quit my phone.
I deleted mine last month.💯😊
I deleted my Instagram, it’s actually is in the process of deleting, Instagram tells me that I still have time to keep it until April 9 but I’m definitely gonna leave it so it’s deleted and I really don’t feel like going back to it
I loved this❤️ Thank you for sharing
Thanks for watching and supporting 🥰 hope you have a great day!
For me, it's not just Instagram. It's the fact that I spend so much time on my phone, I am not looking at the sky and my surroundings anymore. I can feel how disconnected I am from reality. My head is heavy and my entire body feels overwhelmed because there's too much noice and unnecessary never ending consumption. My mind feels sooo unstimulated when I managed to pull myself away from my phone, I feel like I am breathing and alive again.
I deleted ny Facebook around four months ago. A few people tried convincing me to keep it for marketplace. I can sell cars and parts in Craigslist. The time saved by not having Facebook has been great for reading, gardening, and spending time in person with family and friends.
Love this! I felt God calling me to take a break from Instagram specifically, probably because it’s the one I just aimlessly scroll on the most. I deactivated it for now, it’s a nice break. It’s hard to feel like we are ever doing enough while watching everyone’s highlight reels on a daily basis. 💞
Couldn’t agree more. I hope you find peace without it! Maybe you won’t even end up going back to the app 🙆🏽♀️
I am deleting mine as you speak, i´ll update you all in like a month.♥
Goodluck 🫶🏽
CZcams people share how they achieved things meanwhile instagram users are showing off how rich and happy they’re.
Which also not always true.
So definitely CZcams is the best platform to use .
Agreed - Instagram is notorious for constant highlight reels which is seen way less in long form videos on CZcams!
I only have tiktok now. I don’t see CZcams nor Pinterest as a social media. Everything else I either deleted or never had.
It’s amazing to delete social media because it’s so much peace.
Agreed - so much peace!
@@HaleyVillena Yes! I actually would like to delete tiktok sometimes but I’m not sure since I’m an upcoming author.
I deactivated my personal FB account in mid-September. We moved to a new area in June, and I use fb to buy plants and meet new people and learn about activities and market my business. It's really helpful, but then I get tired of being on there. I stay in a few group with my business account and only access it from my laptop.
I stopped posting to IG a little later. About once a month, I'll go in and check all the messages from my family and friends of just funny or interesting reels. So instead of being on it each day throughout the day, I'm probably on there for an hour a month.
I started my CZcams channel right away, posting the first video on October 10...so less than a month after I quit fb! I also started doing more puzzles. It's great to just sit and think my own thoughts while bringing some chaos to order with some lovely pictures.
Man, I just love all of your content! Thank you for all you share!
Thanks for sharing your experience with us! ☺️ Using Facebook only on your laptop seems like a great way to reduce time spent on it. I’m trying to do the same, but I find I haven’t even had an urge to go on it because I only really use the platform for marketplace. I used to scroll the marketplace on my phone just for fun - and now I realize how much time I wasted creating a desire for things I didn’t need!
So grateful to be able to connect with you on here💓
I deleted my social 2 years ago only use messenger from FB as now you don't have to have access to FB to have Messenger so that's briliant as I live in UK but all my family is in Poland so I don't have a choice unfortunately 😑 Only use YT for podcast or my fav yt creator's. My life changed so much that I'm more peaceful. Don't need attention from strangers to like my photos is so stupid for me I never understand idea of Instagram. I highly recommend trying if you spend more than 6h on socials ❤
Hey I have a question just need other people point of view
Till now I didn't have any social media account except yt What'sapp etc for use
So my question till now I didn't felt need of it but recently I feel like I am not connected to people and feel the urge to see whats happening around with them on maybe insta, like I don't gonna meet them frequently and I feel guilty no using Insta I feel if I use it I will somehow connected to them?
What you think about it or it is just my overthinking
And also I like to take pictures of me and family and feel like to post it recently but at the same time I feel why do I need to do it, is it because I see others doing it
@@SR-pw8no me personally I share with people some of my pictures if I feel like it but is only on messenger I don't need to proof no one nothing and I don't want to Share my personal life moments to expect some stupid comments or likes from someone I don't even know but this is my opinion.
@@SR-pw8no me personally I don't like to share my personal life with strangers I don't need attention and trust me you don't missing nothing for me a lot of this is false anyway sharing pictures on ig is just waisting time i share only moments with my family and close friends like i always say if you don't have my number you are not my friend so i don't need to show of or share my life with strangers my life is so much better without attention of people I don't know. But this is my opinion only.
@SR-pw8no I don't think you missed something. I only share my life with my close circle I don't need attention from strangers but this is my opinion only.
I have just deleted my social media yay!! I’m keeping Pinterest, Facebook and CZcams though
3:18 i also feel that ! 😢
I’m trying to do this, TikTok is so addicting n I’m having hard time with it. I also feel like I I compare myself to others when it comes to social media
Awareness was my first step! Maybe try a detox first and see how you feel 🤗
I have found tick tock, gives me personally a ton of anxiety. Lots of fear mongers on there. I want only peace in my life!
@@kmars3239 I definitely agree, I deleted it the other day and haven’t been on it since
I have too many social media apps what im using. Twitch, youtube, tiktok, instagram, twitter and facebook. I just ordered new stream pc so after that im thinking to leave facebook, tiktok and twitter. My goal is just keep twitch, youtube and instagram. Twitch when im streaming, youtube for watching videos (maybe some content) and spending time here while im eating. Instagram only when i try to promo my twitch channel or just when i posting some photos/clips. So i dont need tiktok because instagram gives me same things to do. Snapchat i deleted five years ago. Scrolling feeds like 2-3h per a day is the biggest problem what i have to wasting my time and looking for other people profiles everyday.
Sounds like you have a solid plan! 🤗
Hi, i have a question, is it a trend to delete social media this year ? I also delete all my social media several years ago, I use until my ig for my business & my clients
I would not say this is a trend. I think people are just realizing how harmful social media can actually be, and deciding to make a life change.
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As a Dj i deleted for second time the fb profile but i kept the messenger.
Also i deleted the instagram and i will use my youtube channel for uploading videos and i wll have the gmail and viber for communicate.
Lets do it!!
Great video! Do you mind sharing the name of the wallet ❤
Thank you! It's the small Prada Saffiano wallet ☺️
I couldn't ever do youtube on the phone...why? No adblocker. that's an automatic nope for me. Not watching it on phone because no ads...also shorts are awful
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Thanks for watching!
It’s been one month for me since instagram…my account is deleted and gone. It’s been 30 days already. Now if I can leave twitter.
The best thing I did
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❤get off social media before you get addicted ❤
I'm not sure how old you are but there's this scene from an episode of Catfish where this guy said, "That's the thing, she doesn't have social media. Who doesn't have social media nowadays??" and Kamie said, "Exactly!" Hahaha I mean, nowadays many people are on it so when I meet somebody new and we click, I want their social media so we can keep up with each other and if they don't have it then, I just don't know. lol I showed that scene to my best friend (26 and no social media). Catfish LITERALLY says that it's a red flag if you don't have social media. I mean 🤷♀Haha Social media has become pretty big over the years and is essential some people's careers. Artists use it to promote their music, actors use it to promote their movies and tv shows, companies use it to get ads about their businesses out there to attract potential employees. Social media isn't all bad. It's just how you use it. It's better to use it too much than it is to use for bad. I'll admit I should use it a little less than I do but, it's fun and I'm not giving it up. I don't know how those who got rid of it all completely can do it. I'd lose my mind. Haha
Thanks for sharing your take on this Linda!
@@HaleyVillena You're welcome. I probably sound crazy. lol
Deleted mine today. Wish me luck!
Good luck! You got this 🤞🏽
Sure are a LOT of folks doing this lately lol
For very good reason!
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