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Re: "rebellious phase," I didn't really have beef with my parents until I was 35. There's still stigma to treat it like a teenage rebellion phase except delayed. It's just an excuse not to give your argument legitimate consideration.
i had my rebelious phase at 7 months old acording to my mom cuz i didnt wanted to be home alone for more than 8 hours
I had a "rebellious phase" since I was at least 3 years old till I was maybe 14 or so and I stopped arguing with them because I gave up on trying to comunicate with them and I got really distant, lol.
Holy crap! 160 likes in 45 minutes!
Right there with you, almost to the year. 34 for me.
or they will just dismiss it as you acting 'childish' while, usually, they're the ones throwing temper tantrums over petty shit!
"If you are going to be insufferable, at least do it grammatically correct"
- Click 2022
It really just undermines the insult when you're calling someone a disappointment and they are using the wrong 'your'
"If you are going to threaten me, do it properly"
@@taliablack4080 or they're/their/there...
Imagine if he said that grammatically wrong-
@@a_d3mon Yep, those two.
My sister *literally yesterday* told my mom that whenever we tried to discuss an issue with her, she either sent us away or walked away herself, she tried to pin it on *us* by saying “then bring it up when I ask how our relationship is” and so we said that we _do that already_ and I told her she wasn’t *observant* because _shes really not_ and you’ll never guess what she did
_she_ *walked away*
😑
We will understand gravity before understanding your mom
You aren't my sister are you? 💀 We're both adults, youngest being 22, and she still won't talk to us about anything even slightly uncomfy for her, I finally snapped and told her we couldn't trust her because she either turns it on us the second we do or she blows us off. Only thing that happened was I got a week of "Nobody loves me" jabs from her 🫠
@@melrenee5416 What a miracle! separated siblings find themselves through....youtube
One time I asked my mom if I could get tested for ADHD because I relate to a lot of the symptoms, plus my dad has it. She told me no and when I asked why she said “because I would know if you had it! You’re clearly doing this for attention and you just want the medication!”
Um, yeah, it's normal to want the meds for a condition you have.
Only figured it out at 35. You're not stupid, your brain works differently, and reasonable accommodations are not being made. Hugs if you want them.
@@janerecluse4344 omg you’re so nice-
I asked my mum about a month ago and got yelled at for 'diagnosing myself', when I had basically every symptom. She said I had no problems at home so I wouldn't have it
Oof, same boat.
Mines told me to stop trying to include myself with that group and to stop trying to make it seem like there’s something wrong with me. I have symptoms for ADHD and maladaptive daydreaming
I just love how the “I just dont understand how you can be trans!!” people at the same time can watch some stupid body-swap movie and burst out “I would be SO uncomfortable if I suddenly woke up in the body of a *boy/girl.*”
Like...really?!
Lmfao they're functioning off of one brain cell.
@@gayfrogribbit Collectively.
@@DragonPaladin01 and they all lost the braincell
I never understood either side, my gender is meaningless to me, but if someone is not just willing, but excited to go through HRT and surgery to feel like themselves... How could anyone doubt how much it matters to them?
@@esmee6308 I've always thought of it in the context of physical therapy. If I am _this_ excited to be regaining near-full functionality in my hands, then it must be pretty exciting for transgender folks to have transitioned into a state where they too feel "whole".
Sex Ed is critical. I had a friend in highschool who had her first abortion when she was 12. The father was a family member. This is why we need to start Sex Ed earlier. Literally at 10. 4th grade. The irony here in the states is that the same people who want to outlaw abortion are the same people who oppose Sex Ed. You know what the best way to stop abortions is? Teach the kids about sex before they learn it on their own.
Plus they also propagate myths about masturbation being sin, crazy, making you ugly and causing all sorts of health problems and also that coitus interruptus, birth control or even the mere idea of enjoying the act of procreation is degenerate.
They just willfully ignore everything that could _actually_ reduce unwanted pregnancy and instead keep pushing the utterly unrealistic expectation of premarital chastity. As if things like the hormonal chaos and sexual discovery during puberty just wouldn't exist if they don't acknowledge it. 🙈🙉🙊
And to top it off, when the unwanted child is then carried out, many pro-lifers don't give a flying F~~~ about it. They just leave an immature and desperate teenager to figure out parenting on their own and feel high&mighty for having "saved a life".
Freaking religious maniacs!
The same people who are heavily against abortions are those that are for abstinence and no sex ed... They don't stop and think that kids, mainly teens, WILL have sex because they're curious about it, their bodies, and other biological factors...
And if not the education system then at least make it the norm for the parents to teach their kids about safety and consent around that age
@@ream1622 What about the religious nutcases who preach ONLY abstinence and will pull their kids from any semblance of a sex ed course?
THE FATHER OF THE CHILD IS WHAT????
In 9th grade I had a friend with a serious disease (forgot what its called). So basically she has a seriously undeveloped imune system, so if she were to get covid, she would have a 97% chance of death. I wore a mask the entire school year to protect her from that. I got bullied for being a "weirdo" and such, but I never stopped wearing it. Her imune system is still horrible, but good enough that I don't have to wear a mask anymore.
What is wrong with people at your school, like a lot of athletes wore them after the mandates were lifted to prevent from getting sick bc whole games would be cancelled if one team member got sick with covid.
SCID?
Youre a great friend :)
Good job You are an amazing friend
"You're not a caring parent, you're just a stalker." Is a fantastic line. I couldn't have summed it up better
I love the "I paid for your childhood so now you owe me." Frick off! I had no say in the whole "getting born"-affair. That was your decision so own the incurred costs and dont shift it to somebody else.
Also
1. Who paid for them when they were kids? I don't think they got a job just after birth. That's just how it works, your parents pay for you and then you pay for your kids
2. There's a chance their kids will be paying for their meds/treatments etc when they're old, often times they even have to live with their kids
This, mentality of how i owed my parents, has been basically what kept me "trapped". Only managed to escape a few months ago. I had become so close with such dark thoughts and had cut myself a few times. I still see my parents occasionally, but having to only be around the toxic crap in small chunks I can handle it. As for my own personal issues, I can't say how long it'll take to get mentally better, but I am definitely started getting my sh*t together slowly. This video really hit me pretty hard.
@@jagodanowak6351 Accurate. My mom made the mistake of treating us all like shit. I left the country and my sister is leaving the state. Our brother can't leave unfortunately, but he is special needs, so she will have to take care of him her whole life, (assuming she passes before him).
I'm honestly concerned about his safety, but nothing I can do now. I just kinda laugh on the inside that she won't have anyone to fall back on because of her decisions once she gets old. Karma is a bitch. 🤷🏾♀️
Thank You!
I said it before I’ll say it again, we were all born without our consent.
"I don't understand trans people so therefore they don't really exist"
I don't understand nuclear physics but yet it still exists...
i don't understand entitled people but here they are, in existence
I don't understand why they thought to say this instead of learning but it happened
No it doesn't
This is a better representation of boomers in the 21st century than my grandma.
I dont understand karens and yet they still exist
I really relate to the "you can't feel bad because someone somewhere has it worse" part, to this day every time I feel like sh*t I automatically tell myself I have no right to feel like sh*t and basically I end up feeling like sh*t for feeling like sh*t.
yep, so do i
Same here. If you’re still working on it, here’s some things that are helping me.
1. Yes, someone, somewhere, and sometime else may be worse off, that’s true. But misery isn’t a contest, and humiliation isn’t the same as humility. Humility, keeping humble, is about knowing that you’re not inherently better or worse than any other person. Humiliation is feeling like garbage.
2. Think of the opposite. “You can’t feel happy because someone somewhere else has it better.” Silly, right? Someone else might have just won a marathon or beat a world record, but that shouldn’t diminish your right to be proud of your own smaller accomplishments or heck, just to be happy doing nothing in particular.
3. The thing making you feel bad might be no biggie to someone else, sure, but you’re not _them,_ you’re _you._ Everyone has different levels of tolerance when it comes to suffering, and it often fluctuates as you get more experience in life, though not always. Getting screamed at might be unremarkable for one person and trigger an anxiety attack in someone else. Neither person is better or worse than the other, they just have different tolerance levels. This one helped me the most personally, understanding “bad” traits like sensitivity as being part of a spectrum, inherently neutral, and part of myself to be mindful of rather than an enemy has really helped me curb my emotional self-flagellation.
4. If you can, when you catch yourself saying stuff like that to yourself, respond with something like “oh yeah? Watch this” or “can’t tell me what to do, scrub” and let yourself process the sh*tty thing that happened to you. The attitude might break you out of your guilty mindset, even if you don’t end up processing the thing right then and there, disrupting the “you can’t feel like that” thoughts can at least derail your rumination.
If you want/need a channel recommendation for working on wounds from childhood and teen years, Patrick Teahan is awesome. He uploads shorts and posts community posts frequently that make you think about how you were treated when you were younger and how those experiences may be influencing current behavior and insecurities. It helps that he’s a professional in his field and compassionate to boot, having worked through his own wounds.
I struggle with guilt a lot, and that thought still floats around my head sometimes, but challenging the thoughts has helped. I don’t hate myself outright anymore, I’m more compassionate when I talk about and to myself, and I recognize a lot of my flaws as unresolved emotional trauma responses rather than traits of an inherently awful person. I hope I could help in some way, even a year after your original comment.
Ya my dad used to do this
Love the whole 'rebellious phase' thing. My transgender (ftm) 'phase' has been going for about 4 years now, and my parents still say I'm too feminine and was just being 'brainwashed' by a past friend.
I hope your parents come around eventually :( You are valid, brother.
Oof. Pretty sure we already have plenty of evidence that these things are not "just a phase". Sure some may be confused kids, or others simply do it out of a fad which is why we need to be extremely careful with those things as to not ruin the life of someone for a bad decision. But gender dysphoria has been shown by neuroscience as a real thing for years now.
Same thing happend to me. My mom was like " your ex made you trans!" But no he just told me about it and helped me learn. And I found I had the same feelings. Came out at 13, still going strong at 17. I am ftm, Its not a phase at all.
Noooo I hope you get out of there safely soon💞💞
My parents thought it was a phase all girls go through, but they accommodated fully when they realised my trans identity had come to stay.
My dad was not the first to accept me, but his adjusting process was the fastest. It took my stubborn old-fashioned dad less time to adjust than my apparently selfless and understanding mum, who still deadnamed and misgendered me once in a while almost a year after my initial coming out.
My trans “phase” has lasted for 2 years now and I couldn’t be happier🏳️⚧️💞
You realise these are the people that washed you as a baby, right? I mean I realise your feelings are proof enough for you, but they don't have that. All they see is their little princess suddenly detouring into something they never knew was even humanly possible. To them, I think it may sound like you are asking them to believe you are a giraffe. I know that sounds bonkers, but you are breaking their entire understanding of reality, and pretending that's just totally NBD. Can you really not see how that would be heartbreaking and confusing for your parents? If you started up with your giraffe phase when you started hanging out with your giraffe friend, I could absolutely see how they would think this was something that friend coaxed you into doing.
Parents "you will respect me!"
Kid "can I also have respect?"
Parents "HOW DARE YOU!"
When older people say "respect" they mean as an authority, when younger people say "respect" they mean as a person
@@kimarna That just about sums it up
@@kimarna And they also think respect=fear. Which it doesn't.
And then they wonder why everyone is so depressed.
@@ABANDONED23456 that stems from the respect=authority thing, and basically ruling by fear
Also it's obvious that it's those damn phones why everyone is so depressed (sarcasm)
@@kimarna xD
It's oBviOUsLy the 5G towers causing everyone's depression!
The One with the big sister getting her Siblings got me. Because the fact that she legally cannot do anything about her little sister staying in the house until she is 18 is heartbreaking.
If she's in the U.S., she could apply to be an Emancipated Minor at 16, and there's usually a way to find a lawyer who'll handle the paperwork, etc., free of charge. The problem is, a lot of people don't know that possibility is out there, or think they won't be able to afford it. My heart just breaks for those siblings.
I'm in the process of doing something similar. I'm the oldest of 9, 10 including myself. I was raised as a piece of property up until about 13 when I started to make my own choices. I invested myself into the furry and LGBT community. I told my parents I wanted to be a girl instead of a man. My parents berated me constantly about it. They mocked my hobbies and tore down both my sexual interests and gender identity. Every time I go to see my siblings, they constantly tell me stories about how any choice they want to make is immediately shut down, much like mine as a child. They aren't given free will in that household. I've sjnce moved away from my parents and have been taking my siblings into my household instead, where I slowly readjust them to the idea of control and choice. Many of my siblings have followed me into the furry community because of the welcoming nature of the fandom. To this day I'm still hesitant to go through gender change surgeries, not because I can't afford them but because I'm afraid of what my parents would think.
For anyone curious, I'm currently 4 kids rescued, 5 to go
@@bliss3599 ……….wow. I don’t even know what to say except holy sh*t. I mean talk about being helicopter parents, they’re dictator parents. So happy for you and your siblings that you’re rescuing them from that hellhole. And hey, if you wanna get gender surgeries, don’t let others stop you, especially not them. You deserve to be you and to feel good in your own skin, much like how your siblings deserve free will and choice. Tbh I’m glad my dad doesn’t know I’m a furry because he’s already enough of a dick that I’m just now distancing myself from him at 16. Long story, but ye. Wishing the best for you mate.
Godspeed,
Friendly Neighbourhood Furry Femboy
if shes in the U.S she can become a legal guardian of the child since she herself is 18
@@remi5074 that's what I'm doing lol
I was so proud the other day when one of my students (8-9 year old) explained to another kid in the class what periods were. Like, he didn't even blink. It was just natural, and nobody in the rest of the class thought it was weird either. So good. make it normal, people!
That's awesome! Kids knowing about that stuff early on is 100% a good thing, and it's even better when they're that chill about it. Make it normal, indeed!
Calling non-emergency to warn them to expect an insane parent call is a good tip. Thanks internet stranger!
r/insaneparents, always makes me feel better when I think mine are annoying af, it could always be worse
Nice like amount
Always makes me realize how insane my mother is. Seeing her do so many of the things on this sub
Reminds me that my mom stealing my Christmas giftcards is nothing compared to these stories.
Always makes me feel better knowing my mom died before she could do too much damage
Why is this my exact logic?
Saying as a parent you deserve to know absolutely everything about your kid's life even topics that they aren't ready to talk about yet is like breaking into a bank vault once and expecting the vault to have no security measures after the break in and be baffled when you find out they upgraded their security
my mom does this shit. as in, literally zero privacy. 15 year olds need privacy yk and telling them "hey i need to know every detail about your life" is just wrong.
Entitled Parents were covered often
by Telltale and Creaky Blinder,
but they're also just in general all about covering Crazyness.
Parents that feel entitled to their kids time and trust will often end up with kids who RIGHTFULLY don't trust them and spend as little time with them as possible.
Of course you want to know where your kids are and that they are safe, even when they are adults. I still text my mom what I'm doing and where I am, I'm 20, but I do it because I want to.
My mother has made mistakes, but she has NEVER pried or denied my privacy not once, even as a young child.
@@dae.9510 What makes it worse is when they take your door because "it's their house and they deserve to know what's happening at all times"... Didn't happen to me, thankfully, but it does happen and it's one of the best ways to lose ALL trust from your kids.
@@a_d3mon oh mine threatened to do that
13:50 I was raised with this and so was my friend. I grew past this in high school when I realized that pain is pain and all of it is valid and needs to be addressed. Unfortunately, my friend still hasn’t gotten through it completely. Same parents who got angry at her for spending money ON FOOD in college out of state with roommates.
So this is just a friendly reminder that pain is relative, and someone can drown in 7 inches or 7 feet of water, but the level of water does not make them any less dead. Treat people with equity and like actual human beings 💛
That's a good analogy, the drowning in water thing. I might have to steal that one.
Dude, I love that metaphor. I’m gonna go write it down❤
This is EXCELLENT
The "You were a rowdy child, I only hit you out of anger" one really hits close to home. 😭 Such a pity my parents never had the courage to admit their wrongdoings or even apologize for any of it because "I turned out fine". 🤷🏻
My Trans sister once completely and gloriously called out my conservative Mormon grandmother after she said some BS along the lines of "apologize to me" or something, but phrased nicer? any way my sister just like lost it, calling her out on her BS, essentially saying "stfu don't ever speak to me again you warm sour grape" It was glorious
Woah. That's a r/rareinsult
And perfectly used as well!
as a mormon/lds myself, im sry stuff like this happens... im not sure what the whole situation was but good for your sister
Warm sour grape....that's a keeper of an insult. Use that one for all the loud old Karens.
i dont think thats "calling out" thats more just... "breaking" or "having enough" or even "loosing it" but i get you.
The whole pendulum swing between “you’re a child you don’t know any better” and “you should know better than that, why are you so immature” really bugs me. It is not okay for a parent to use their status as your parent to disregard what you have to say if it benefits them.
Dude I wish I knew this when I was a kid, oh wait I did. My dad didn’t like that I knew🤫😬😛
Tell that to my parents
That's how the world works though. Politics on both sides, and authority in general, is literally based up on that mindset.
@@AmyDaisy69 no it isn’t, it’s discouraging and minimizing any effort the child puts forward, dismissing anything they do right or wrong, until it suits them and then they get frustrated with you that you’re so immature. Ignoring the fact that they literally raised you.
It’s when a parent is insecure and needs to feel like they are in control and above their child, so they set up a scenario where you can never win and they will always be right.
If you think that’s how the world works you may not be wrong, but that doesn’t mean it’s any less horrible, especially to do to a child, especially to do to your child.
Being a parent and having a child is not a political system, it is a relationship, which two people build together. The relationship dynamics can change depending on how many siblings you have and how many parents, but the relationship is still between one of your parents and you. Completely disrespecting and invalidating the person you were trying to teach and prepare for life is not A good way to have your child talk to you after they moved out. It is not helping your child and it is only serving you a selfish need to feel like you’re in control. People might do this by accident, I don’t Assume malice of every adult who may not know how to speak to their child however it’s still harms their development. Promote unhealthy thinking of themselves and others, convincing them they could never do anything right, that they will never be mature enough to send beside you and they will never be respected sitting beneath you. That’s a really sad place to put your kids.
By you/your of course I just mean generally not specifically you, it’s just kind of how I talk😅
@@diimidosemineral9261 I didn't mean to minimise the impact it has on children. Some people in politics do treat us all like children. I think it's quite obvious that it's damaging to adults too, especially in more dictatorial nations like North Korea and China. We can at least push back against it here in the west, for now anyway, until the WEF gets its great reset.
Can you please do a insane parents bingo? It’ll be great for people to realise that they’re in a toxic relationship by just seeing someone with leech on. Like people who can’t watch CZcams because their parents are too controlling.
I'm actually tearing up at how nice it is to hear Click talk about how he doesn't need to understand me as a trans woman to show basic respect and common decency. If you find this comment, thank you very much for being such a nice person
I don't understand why people dont understand this. Like you said, you don't have to understand it or "agree" with it to simply treat people with the basic decency they deserve.
I love how The Click calls people “bloorp” when their name is crossed out
bloorp indeed
morp
bloorp
I wish I was bloorp
Clicky absolutely loosing his mind at the 'there/their" grammatical errors is me all the time and im here for it
I’d lose it too ngl
Let’s not forget “they’re”
21:35
XD
and I'm over here losing my mind at your spelling of "loosing" :'D /lh
Your/you're
Their/there/they're
Honestly, with the conservative Christian Republican parents story, I'm glad that the older sibling of them is getting their siblings out of that house. I'm hoping that those kids now have a happy and healthy life away from their parents. Props to the older sibling on getting their younger siblings outta there one by one.
Thanks for being like a father figure and helping me with myself. My dad is homophobic and transphobic. You make me feel alot better
Are you still with him?
@@primeyoriichi yes, sadly i do not have the priviledge or the metallity of being able to leave him
@@Snoopy_Nerd Are you still with him?
@@Samorutt1324 yea, just gotta ignore to talk about some things, thanks for the concern
@@Snoopy_Nerd That's sounds sooooo bad!!!!!!!😔
The baby article was about protecting pregnant women (and doctors) against murder charges for having still-borns, miscarriages, and abortions. People blew up at it, saying it was letting women get away with infant murder and "being awful mothers".
I was wondering why a niche Miami magazine was clearly clickbaiting something in... Maryland
Didn't know women can control miscarriages like what do they want the women to do? Wait until the Miscarriage Stops So she can give birth? Do people even Try to understand What things are
wait... who the fuck is gonna sue for child murder on a miscarriage? on abortion, sure i get it, and support it. But miscarriage? thats just fundamentally stupid
@@sonofsparda657 abortion shouldn't be criminalized either. abortions aren't infant murder because the embryo isn't an infant.
@@CaptainVaughn0 youre arguing semantics, which is a REALLY bad idea if youre trying to give me the notion youre not grasping at straws.
Heres the actual answer to the abortion question: if you get raped, if you fucked up and are too young to sustain a child (once okay, second time youre a cunt) or if you stand chance of dying during pregnancy, you should definitely be able to get an abortion. HOWEVER if youre a fucking cunt and simply view abortion as a form of contraception you should be abortet post nataly.
And your "not an infant" argument is real stupid, because its like with cake, it doesnt matter if its batter at some point if you dont take it out the oven and chuck it at a wall, thats gonna turn into a cake at some point, same with kids. So playing the semantics argument to make it more morally acceptable is kinda.... well its the same argument the nazis had with disabled people (they are non-human and should be killed)
hot take: just because you once donated DNA to create a person doesn't give you ownership of that person or entitle you to their time/love/etc, no matter what age they are. 😘
Yeah, this isn't some like weird religion. Like I created you so therefore you must do everything I say ALL THE TIME!
n-no thanks :)
@@danal..8831 fr like we didnt really consent to being born lmao
the opposite kinda applies too, besides what's required by law parents don't really need to love their kids and just do the minimum. Then kick them out immediately at 18.
... I remember Carrie and the impetus of the story was her period and her freakout because she panicked because momma was too fundie to tell her about it
30:18 I love how their name is "person who just so happened to birth me"
Wouldn’t life be better if we all had The Click as our parents?
It would be so much better OMG
Yes I would love it :)
yesss
His may not be
We are family now :)
I got banned from r/insane parents because my stories weren’t “insane” enough after I talked about my parents gaslighting me and gatekeeping me every time I get sick, and how they get physically made at me. At one point my dad got upset I couldn’t make it to my previous booked doctors appointment to get meds for my headache so he threw my new meds away 😐
Bro that's child abuse! What was the sickness that you would get?
The problem is, quite a few people see anything that isn’t as bad as their own suffering as “not insane” there. Gaslighting parents *are* insane parents. What your father did *is* insane.
R/insaneredditmods
Bruh the whole point of that sub is to share stories. It helps people to know that there are other people out there who have similar experiences. I'm sorry that they banned you, that's so stupid
probably just a grumpy reddit mod who wanted to ban someone for some dumb reason
What makes me absolutely rage with these parents is that my only parent did suddenly die. I didn't even get to see them off that day. I went to bed and when I woke up I learned she died. Using that fact to try keep power over a child is absolutely abhorrent.
The worst thing my mom has said to me about my Sexuality(Bisexual) was that I have mental problems because I'm confused between boys and girls to my face. She has also said a lot of homophobic remarks but she says she's not because she doesn't care who we're with as long as we're happy. Also, brings up her cousin in any conversation about the alphabet mafia lmao.
The mother who spent her children's money on shampoo not only eroded any trust they might have had in her, but also demotivated them from working to earn anything.
And now they'll likely not want to wash as often or as efficiently (like using not enough soap bc they're afraid to waste it)
Brush imagine stealing money to use it on shampoo literally so lame
Imagine the grandparents who gave those kids the gift cards for their birthdays, holidays, or Christmas. Then they check Facebook and see “Oh wow Nevermind. Mom used them to buy 60+ $ worth of shampoo. Guess all these kids are getting is physical clothes and toys so mom doesn’t steal them.”
I have ever since one of my best friend gifted me a hundred pounds as a birthday gift, so I could upgrade my hardware to hangout with my friend group that would always play games that were way beyond my reach, then in a desperate act from my father, unemployed, used it all to pay the bills, I've been highly insecure about working to achieve anything as the constant fear of having it heaped away from me keeps overloading my mind. All that because I trusted to put the money in his paypal account. Even now that he's out of that control, I wouldn't trust him with money nor want to work for cash myself.
All that while he could've instead asked my sister for assistance, he decided to steal it from me.
I... I would use up an entire bottle of shampoo in a few days when I was small because I used it to make bubbles
I watched turning red with my kids this week (both boys 5 & 8) and they loved it so much that it went back on immediately. I think the problem for a lot of the parents who hate it is that one of the big lessons in the film is that if you are too controlling of your children and don't give them any privacy or freedoms then you will alienate you. Seems like some parents have a problem with that message 🤷♀
I thought the Grammer was off, but actually " then you will alienate you" does kinda make sense in this context.
It's that old saying. "Strict parents raise sneaky kids"
Absolutely!
@@adambomb1553
My mom did that during my middle school being emot. abused by the principal. It’s hurt us both but I’m glad she finally began to realize I’m my own person
My parents did a pretty good job of teaching me how to think for myself, making logical choices, etc. It seems like the normal is closer to total control when It comes to parenting these days. I've known far too many that think they are bad parents if they don't investigate and sniff out every single little thing their kids are doing 24/7. Their justification is simply how else will we know when our children have problems...
Ok believe me on this one, try building trust, use actual communication, and above all else allow them a say at the very least in what happens with their own life. Let them make choices on their own and let them experience the consequences of poor choices (with reason of course, no silver in outlets) and help them get back up afterwards. Explain where they went wrong or why it happened if needed, so without judgement because it's a learning experience not punishment. Accept the fact they are going to do stupid things from time to time just as you did and general speaking they will be comfortable and willing to come to you with the important problems on their own seeking advice because they don't know what to do themselves.
My parents don't always agree with my choice, I've certainly made some very foolish choices, but I've always gone to them when I'm stuck and just can't figure out what to do and yes I've gone to them even when it involved things I'd much rather take to my grave. That's because I trust them enough to be more concerned with my well being rather than fixated on my stupidity that got there.
The incident that convinced me my mom was actually toxic and abusive was when my brother threw a stool at my legs in an attempt to break them and she brushed it off. She overlooked so much casual bullying between me and my siblings that I thought whacking each other in the head with sticks was normal sibling behavior until I was in my teens.
By comparison, my father's concept of a 'punishment' [for bad grades] was to tape a 100$ bill above my desk and inform me that if I got above a C average I could have it. I had severe issues focusing in school and having a solid goal really helped me focus and get my stuff together. He also took me out to parks so I could practice playing the flute without people looking at/staring at me.
Later down the line we found out I have ADHD and autism [both undiagnosed when living with my mother] and that was why I had trouble socializing. When I brought this up to my mom she went on a half an hour long tangent about 'autism symptoms' and how I couldn't possibly have it because I can [barely] function in social situations. She's also tried to convince me that he lied to get money for my disabilities. Meanwhile, my dad and I have had several long chats detailing out social situations and how I should respond to people.
Some people just shouldn't be parents.
Glad you had your Dad there for you. Sucks about your Mom though, and I hope you're doing better now.
As a ftm trans kid.. your voice gives me life and if I had your voice then I would never shut up lol
The amount of red flags here would be enough to let the entire world's population play minefield for 10 hours.
@@Passive_Observer a lot of the bible belt in a nutshell... not all... but definitely the most vocal ones...
@@Passive_Observer I always like to come back with according to the bible if a woman is a virgin and she dies, she goes to hell but if she has sex before marriage she also goes to hell. Basically the only option for a woman is get married or go straight to hell. It's amazing how many don't know about thay or act like it doesn't apply to them. That's actually part of the reason nuns are married to God....wish I was joking.
man I loved that game...
now I feel old...
@@Passive_Observer HALF?? That's a weird way of saying 95%...
okay, to be fair, it's because of all the different versions of "the god fanfics" because all reIigions are toxic.
I’ve heard of Minesweeper, not of Minefield, is it another name for the same game or is it different?
Insane Parents: Let me see what you have
Struggling Child: Depression!
Insane Parents: NO!
me: *shows obvious signs of mental illness*
my parents: you're just being immature!
sToP bEiNg So LaZy!1!11!1!1!!1
On the bright side, my mom understands!
On the downside, it’s because we have the same mental health problems.
@@criticalroleace2846 Ahhhh that's not fun
I'm not sure what the issue is, but please take care
*cries and sleeps for ten hours*
37:09 this happened with my first brother, my aunt and uncle shared the news before my parents were ready. My mother had previous miscarriages and wasn't comfortable sharing the pregnancy yet out of fear of another miscarry. Long story short we basically disowned them, because they couldn't see why it was a big deal! They even went to far as to not send him any Christmas gifts, but send everyone else in the family one, needless to say, we returned them and wouldn't open them until there was one for my brother too. I think it this was because of the mentality of "well if you didn't want us to share that he exists then he might as well not exist at all" And we never told them about any other babies in the future lmao
The greatest lie a child will ever hear is there mom saying "don't worry, if you tell me the truth I won't be mad"
Remember once he gets a million subscribers he has to make the Emotional Support Demon plush for Makeship
Awesome
If I could subscribe more than once I would 😃
Great now all I need to do is get the 54k people I know to subscribe!
We're getting close ! * maniacal laughter *
Dude, it's so close. I'm so excited.
That "Four down, one to go" was brutal, hope the last sibling has gotten out now
Me too. No one deserves that kind of parent
“I don’t want them to learn about periods!”
I swear, soon it’ll be…
“I don’t want them to learn about using the bathroom!”
As an abuse victim who has had a hard time accepting I’m being abused these videos make me feel a bit better weirdly, it’s like yeah, this stuff isn’t normal and it’s not ok that my mom berates me and has wanted me to be responsible for all my younger siblings since I was 11. I’m getting out soon and I’ve gone back and forth on it since I don’t want my siblings to lose the cushion I provide by taking the brunt of the abuse, but I know if I can get out I’ll be able to help them out too. I hope that I can one day get my parents to respect me and use my pronouns/name, it would be nice to have a good relationship with my parents.
this has made me realise my parents are abusers.I have been struggling with things like depression and anxiety and my parents took me away from therapy, they yell at me and gaslite me because im trans. I cant contact a crisis center as they see everyone I call and see all my texts. its insane
Factory reset your device. It will remove the locks and you can contact whoever you need to then
I hope you can get away from them ❤
I can't really say much else 😅
CALL 911. Give them your address first, and then speak if they take your phone away the operator will see you.
Like someone else said factory reset and delete any spyware they have on your phone
in case you haven't gotten this problem fixed, just call the center in a locked room. tell them what's happening in your house, whatever you need to say to the center to get help. I really do hope you get safe.
"You don't have proof of this" - That's an admission of guilt in itself. They're not worried about it being true, They're worried about others finding out.
As someone who was tortured (think "Geneva Convention," not mere child abuse) I verily appreciate you posting this. It just now clicked that "you don't have proof" means different things in a courtroom vs a social situation. I think of myself as pretty competent at identifying deception but it appears I can still learn new things from time to time.
@@Mavendow Personally, I learned that most innocent people don't start with a statement like this and those who do; not only (more than likely) did something shady but did everything they could to cover their trail. It's usually said out of fear, as they worry about any loose ends they could have possibly left behind. Then again, I'm stating this; only from personal experiences.
@@Roman_Adrian Like Click said, in social circumstances, it's the personal experience that matters. Thanks.
This is insane 22:40 kids can't clean themselves properly without being taught and they have no concept of eyeballing or knowing how much product is needed...YOU HAVE TO TEACH THEM!!! My daughter is almost 8 and just recently started washing her own hair and all i did was get shampoo and conditioner bottles with the pumps and helped her figure out how many she needed of each. You can't punish kids for shit YOU should be teaching them...well you can, but i wouldn't expect great results🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
Ah yes, my favorite subreddit.
100% honest,it's always reassuring to see that people know what I'm going through and got out of it. Being abused, emotionally or physically, is awful. Being a horrible parent is like being the lowest scum on earth. Thank you for being so respectful on the topic and being serious when you need to be. It's calming to me. I'm almost old enough to move out at the moment and this is making me a lot more comfortable with my decision.
Hey, I just want you too know, that you are a wonderful person, and no matter what your going through, you can make it through! Never give up on your dreams, and have an amazing day/night
As someone who did get out unless you have a concrete safety net that your parents can't rip away the first many years are gonna be hard you're gonna struggle with everything don't be afraid to take advantage of everything your government has to offer such has food stamps and section 8 or other types of house assistance (I'm in the USA so these are what's available to me might be different for you) no matter how much you struggle don't go back to your parents not only will your life be worse but will reinforce their wrongful mindset that they're right and you're wrong
@@heatherquinn777 As someone who went through that, I 100% agree with you. The first years are going to be extremely hard, because you have to build a new life with no backup whatsoever, but in the end it's worth it. There were times that I didn't have enough money for food, but that was still preferable to having enough food and also having my relatives in my life.
I'm here for ya. I'm a survivor myself. Don't ever be ashamed.
Oh yes same. Moving out soon and all of the sudden my parents act like they will miss me lmao
I'm schizophrenic, I think some of these insane parents are unmedicated schizophrenics. It hurts how much of these bad takes I know I've done while psychotic.
Mental healthcare should be a human right.
I think it is
just one of the ones that gets ignored.
It is, comes under health
I agree with the thing about access to healthcare being a human right, but don't let genuinely awful people abuse your sympathy
How to stop insane parents call cps which is child protective services
@@Clanngabang Yeah because that whole system isn't one big mess rife with corruption
21:31 , I literally cannot EXPRESS how horrible this is for a parent to do, that is money that we have been saving up for, probably for years! You are the parent, not us. and on top of that, if they are younger kids who cant have a job, then they REALLY have to do a lot of chores even for just a few dollars. YOU have a job and its YOUR kids. don't make us pay!
That awkward moment when you call your 12 year old daughter the B word for her sexuality, then take her privileges and forms of communication away, then say that she was acting up and disregarding her authority.
That story at the 10 minute mark? I'd immediately take those DMs to the police. Every abuse survivor I know, myself included, who was not able to get all their original documentation back from their parents, ended up becoming victims of identity theft and tax fraud. Their parents used their child's information like a paycheck, collecting money in order to do harm to their child who moved away. I've still yet to prove in a court of law that my parents have been committing identity theft for years, so my parents were able to collect every single one of my stimulus checks and all my tax returns for the past 6 years.
Stand up, get help, and NEVER let abusers keep your papers.
Holy shit, that's insane. Imagine choosing to have a child only to steal their identity in the long run. I'm sorry you have to live through this, and I hope at some point you get the justice you deserve.
I'm assuming you can prove ANY of this? You can't? Yeah that's what I thought...
@@jho7659 Have you also thought about that thing people say about assuming?
@@jho7659 That's the point. Sigh, some people.
I use to essentially worship my parents. They were divorced but I still revered them both as all knowing, always right, great parents. After I met my now husband I saw just how bad and abusive they were. Worst thing I can't forgive my mom for, after staying overnight at my boyfriend's house when I was told not to, the only rebellion I ever did, (note my brother has been to jail before and they got him out) she threaten to kick me out and get angry because she felt like she couldn't discipline me because I was depressed and could commit suicide.
she has memory problems now and probably doesn't even remember that. I'm trying to distance myself but it's hard when our lives are tangled together so much. sorry to vent, it just hurts so much sometimes.
stay strong everyone ❤
You too stay strong out there hun 🌷🐛
:( stay strong
remember
when your parents ruin the fun, you best get the gun
@@vincentdreemurr No no no no not good
I hope you are doing alright, and its ok if you aren't too. I hope your husband will help you if you need it
42:40 with telling them you don't have it. It either results in you getting yelled at, called a liar, or that what you spend money on is a waste and or pathetic.
I haven't lived at home for a few years and I'm still expected to be a care giver and not provide stability for myself, only my mother.
5:43
this actually hit different. my dad consistently says "i fought tooth and nail to keep you in school, you better be grateful and show me respect" while constantly manipulating me, gaslighting me and abusing my trust in general. not to mention, when i came out as trans to him, he LAUGHED at me, and asked me "when the circus would be over".
shit like this actually happens. i can't wait to move out on my own and get away from him, but i can't at the moment. im so glad you talked about this, click. you've given me some hope.
*The Click's videos getting progressively longer and longer*
me procrastinating: how thoughtful.
Why did you call me out like that.
Me at 2AM: how thoughtful!
Whenever it’s time for my partner and I to go to bed but we wanna watch one more CZcams, we always put in one of Click’s long best videos because:
a) they are interesting and fun
b) more time with each other 😂
Me, playing games and wanting background noise: huh well I’ll add you to the playlist that last longer than the amount of gameplay this game has.
It really makes me sick that parents just discord their child's health concerns. A few years back I had anemia. I experienced female pattern baldness and found large clumps of hair after a shower. I was pale and lightheaded. I also went half of a year without a cycle. After finding out what was going on, via my sibling taking notice, my mom told me that it was all in my head. I was nearly 70% bald when I was only 22, but according to her, there was nothing wrong with me, and I was only seeking attention. Moved out at 24 and never spoke to her again.
AS YOU SHOULD!! why are you supposed to take care of them when they're old and sick when they WOULDN'T take care of YOU
@@purpleweirdothecutie yeah
if your parents dont even try to take care of you then you have the absolute right to not take care of them either
@@vannillaAJofficial204 Literally!
Punch her
Are you okay now? Like from the anemia
0:17 sir I’m a minor
Since the age gap between me and my sisters is 11, 13, & 16 years individually, I have a motherly view of them. Our parents can be insufferable sometimes, but not to the degree of the one story... we all still at least know we're cared about... If my parents would have treated my sisters like that, I'd be doing the same thing. That post made me cry. Sometimes... the older sibling is a better 'parent' than the actual parent - just sayin.'
My dad's way to send me into tears during an argument is to say "I feel like I failed you as a parent" while knowing damn well how much uncontrollable empathy i have.
Is this emotional abuse or manipulation?..because this happens to me a lot
@@cajunvedafox5557 i do not know either
He’s fishing for sympathy. Don’t fall for it. As someone who also has uncontrollable empathy, stay strong.
@@kaybadberg534 Thanks for the support! I'll do that!
I'd recommend searching the term hyper-empathy, I have this myself and it seems like you might benefit from researching it.
I feel like if the click has children he'd know exactly what not to do because of all of these reddit videos and would therefore be a great parent.
Thank you for always being so supportive, Satan.
Hai bestie, what temperature is the hellfire today?
Thank you Satan. Hows my dad doing
Yeah, that and common sense mixed with some healthy human decency.
Hi, Satan! Just wanted to say I'm a huge fan of your work, and that I wholeheartedly agree!
I feel so sorry for the op's who are part of the LGBTQIA+ community. I am Bi and my mom is trying to understand and support me, I wish other parents were like this. One friend of mine is trans and got kicked out because of it.
For 10:23 it's the same for me. My parents refuse to give me any info on my records or papers as "it's not my business" I am old enough to know and even so there are things about my physical appearance that don't make sense. They refuse to let me get a DNA test as it's unimportant and have always been incredibly rude when I bring up the topic.
"You're not allowed to feel bad about something because somebody might feel worse" has been the story of my life with my "mother". She's even told me to unalive myself to make her life easier.
Probably because she has seen the parents of other children who have unalived themselves get lots of attention and sympathy and she wants tht for herself...
@@SevCaswell damn, you made this even darker than it already is
@@foxinabox5103 never under-estimate the selfishness of a narcisist. Also this is essentially what munchousen by proxy is, except they get the attention for having a sick child.
@Bluejay Productions one person’s suffering is not comparable with another person’s suffering. Everyone’s feelings are valid. Your feelings are valid, and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Take care x
Live a better life than her to make her jealous. You get to be happy and she gets it rubbed in her face. Win win
If someone gets pregnant, the first person to break the news is the pregnant mother. If you try to steal that, you deserve to be cut off and shunned.
I agree with this, it's like coming out, unless you have direct permission from the other person (because similarly to coming out, sometimes people are too scared to tell someone and want someone else to, or write it down and have someone else deliver it)
Both of these are accurate, but we could go even farther. The moment someone's life changes drastically (whether illness, accident, self-discovery, exciting development) they know what they feel comfortable sharing. They either do it themselves or give permission to someone they trust. That should be the norm for everything, no matter how insignificant it may seem.
i know this is a weird thought but i saw it in a book. what if every person who had gotten someone pregnant gets a mark on their skin so that they would be identified as a parent and not just the woman?
@@ianrose6218 Everything?
Fun fact:She finds it out on her own because she is having the baby so she is gonna know its in there first if you can detect that before she does then you might want to get some medical help...
The grandmother posting about her DIL's pregnancy was literally my mother and sister with mine, to the point I really don't talk to my mom and my sister isn't even in my life. They're insufferable and abusive people who don't deserve to be near my child when she is such a beacon of light
Seriously, Click. Watching these kinds of videos has been really helpful to me. My mother is an emotionally and financially abusive narcissist (fortunately I've been NC for 3+ years now), and your comments and explanations have helped me feel validated and heard - way more than my parents ever did for me. So, thanks, Click. You've really helped me be able to move through the healing process (alongside therapy and going no contact and such), from uncertainty and pain to being able to see the humour and ridiculousness in these situations. Feels like having a comedic older Swedish brother. Thank you, The Click.
Really glad to see you're healing. Keep it up.
33:20 I didn't really understand that people wanted to transition until I heard a friend talking about it. I always respected pronouns and whatnot but just couldn't wrap my head around it. Then I heard a friend talk about HRT surgery etc and I just thought "this isn't exaggeration this is actually how he feels". I realized being trans (masc) isn't "sometimes I don't want to have boobs" or even about passing. It's legitimately feeling in the wrong body and being willing or even excited to surgically change that. (PS I know not all trans people surgically or even hormonally transition.)
As a not cis person this is so heartwarming.
Even if you didn't understand as you do now, you still listened and supported the people around you for who they are.
Thank you for being such an amazing human being.
thank you so much for respecting people even tho you didn't understand it, and thank you for trying to understand! it's really nice to see people who do this
Thank you for doing the bare minimum to support people...
@@SevCaswell I'm not even upset with the sarcasm because you're not wrong. Respecting pronouns is the bare minimum and people (myself included) don't deserve praise for basic human decency. I was just sharing my experience of understanding hoping that other people might relate.
I do wish we could live in a world where gender identities meant nothing.
The story with the sisters and the nonbinary person and their wife made me cry.
Entitled Parents were covered often
by Telltale and Creaky Blinder,
but they're also just in general all about covering Crazyness.
22:22 spot OMG Click is reminding me so much of my mother and myself, having the bad grammar meltdown. I bought my mom a shirt once that said, "Silently correcting your grammar". She wore it a lot.
Thank you so much for these videos, knowing I'm not the only one dealing with parents like those (although mine are definitely better in many ways) really helps when I'm feeling down after interacting with them.
I feel like ranting a little bit, so sorry for anyone who's searching for funny comments. I feel so angry and helpless living with them. The only people from my closer family that I actually like are my grandparents' dog and my sister. The worst thing is, that my sister doesn't see these problems in our family and therefore unintentionally hurts my feelings sometimes, since she sees my parents doing it. When I was younger I always thought my mum was the "bad one" in our family, since she had a mental condition and was doing really messed up things when I was like 10 years old. But even though it was really traumatizing and she still isn't the best mum (she talks a lot about me behind my back, tells me that she supports my career choice, but also talks with my grandma about how she's disappointed) she isn't the worst one in the family and I actually pity her. My dad is more to blame, which is awful because when I was younger I treated my mum like the villain and my dad like this perfect, amazing person. He has always seemed like a perfect dad- says a lot of dad jokes, buys stuff for me and my sister, seems like the "cool dad", but only recently have I realized that he also messed up our family quite a lot. Since I remember, I can't recall a single moment when he actually looked like he cared about my mum. I don't even remember them holding hands or hugging. He also turns everything into a joke. My insecurities. My mum's insecurities. My sister's insecurities. My career choice. All the things that hurt. He never asked about our feelings or expressed his, the exception being anger. He was angry yesterday and almost rode over my sister's foot with the car, a minute later he almost did the same to me. I just hate him. But I also love him because he's my dad. And it sucks. He's also homophobic, he watches conservative youtubers and tv channels which often spread hurtful messages. I just hate this family and I want to move out asap. Thankfully I'll leave this year and I hope my sister will be okay.
I'm sorry if it made someone feel bad, I just really needed to rant since there has been a lot of emotional weight on my shoulders recently. And I know it's not really the best place for it, but I didn't know where else to write it. Hope you'll have a nice day and love u all
I hope you've made it out by now. I regard moving out of my mother's house to be by far the best mental health decision I've ever made, rivalled only by the complete cutting of contact with her shortly thereafter. Best of luck out there in the "real world", friendo. And I hope your sister eventually realizes her mistakes.
Don't say they are "better". They are still horrible people for doing that!
They sound horrible. You are valid and the internet people love you, you WILL get through this and escape them. ❤
Parents who expect their kids to repay them never wanted to be parents, they wanted to be landlords. And they shouldn't be allowed to be either.
I'm autistic and have had problems my whole life. My mother: you're lazy
Same! But with ADHD- (and 2 other mental disorders, and other issues)
I've had many arguments with my mom about this. She doesn't believe I'm autistic because she won't educate herself about it and her mental image of autism is...well, I'm sure you know what I mean. No, I'm just a lazy, antisocial, quirky "absentminded professor" not living up to my potential, and I should really do something about that anxiety and anger issues (aka meltdowns). I mean, I guess I should feel proud that I learned to mask so well...?
It's places like this that helped me realize the bad situations I've had with my parents. It wasn't until seeing these crazy conversations like this and hearing that it isn't okay, to understand that I'm not in the wrong in feeling mistreated. Because it was happening my entire life and it's considered 'normal' behavior to the others around me, that you're not even aware that it's possible to not feel like you shouldn't exist. Sometimes it takes one person to say "that's messed up..." to change your reality.
This video makes me so more glad that I have a healthy relationship with my parents, I can't even begin to understand what these stories feel like.
Things I learned after -therapy- a lot of time living with parents similar to this:
You do not owe anyone an explanation for who you are. If someone refuses to listen to information or having their viewpoints explained as *wrong, they are not worth the fight. You do not owe anyone your time or energy regardless of you situation.
You are loved and worthy. You are more than your family. Drink water and stay safe.
I will drink water
@@paulolsen2197 YES! Hydrate. Don't Die-drate.
hydrate or die straight
Screw it, I’m thirsty as hell and this wonderful, inspiring comment is going to make me to go take a damn drink, as well as giving me the advice I needed while you’re at it. Thank you.
Honestly, an Insane Parent Bingo shirt would actually be a good idea as there are people who don't realize they live with these monsters. It would give a hint to people and hopefully help them get out of that toxic environment. Make the shirt.
it needs to have velcro cross-offs too. “MOM,THATS IT.” *Slaps an X on the gaslighting square on the shirt*
you need to get into contact with like makeship (i dont know if that's how you spell it) because that is a great idea it will be both useful and how i Invision it fashionable
19:42 fr, my psych told my mom I am probably authistic and that's causing me to have a lot of social anxiety, and that's why I can't get myself to get motivated and do things, that I need some help planning etc etc.
She told him she doesn't think I am because I'm not like thos authistic kids (?????) and keeps telling me to stop being lazy. Bruh wtf, who else needs to tell her before she finally gets it?
b r u h.
your mother is just ableist
Regarding video cameras in classrooms, I really think if I'd had footage to show of how I was treated in school, which I could have shown to my parents (who always claimed my problems were my fault and never once stuck up for me), police and lawyers, a number of people would have been in a lot of trouble. Then maybe they'd have known what they were doing was unacceptable, and possibly illegal, and would have treated me like a human being!
Lady trying to call the police on her child for a wellness check is literal stalking.
It reminds me of a story from when I was 19-20. I served a mission for my church in Montreal. One of my jobs was receiving and sorting requests from people for a visit or materials, and there was one house we had to blacklist because some creep from f Florida would send these requests in for them to 'check up on them' and would sometimes call us with a sob story about how the mom living there was unwell and he was worried about her daughter.
I talked to him on the phone briefly once, and his voice gave me bad vibes before I even realized who he was. What an atrocious, disgusting human being.
who was he?
I really like the way Click reacts to that type of content. A lot of people only get sad, depressed or upset, which I understand, but Click makes it feel like he's the OP old's friend who has heard a thousand messed up story and helps OP cope with humour, kindness and good advice.
35:00 Reminds me of my sister. In the past she kept insulting me, looking down on me etc. and one time I told her that her words are hurting me. She responded then with "Well, what you just said (said "accusation") hurt me!!". Nowadays she uses her daughter as a fighting point "You are forcing me to break off contact with you! Do you not want to see your niece grow up?!". We barely have any contact now that we're adults.
I think the reason most parents are like this is that, because they are older and therefore our superiors, it is especially hard for them to accept that they are wrong
As a person who has lived all his life around mental health problems in my family and my own, it really saddens how easy is for people just write off these issues as just a lack of character, a weakness. I really hope we grow to see mental health issues as any other health related problem.
I know the feeling, even people that experience those things can ignore others having them. Years of thinking I was bad but it's just the same mental illness and disability much of my family has and mentioned having but they never actually gave any advice on how to deal with it or even noticed the signs.
mom -we have depression and adhd.
also mom- why are you so lazy and can't do anything!?
And some of them are literally physical and tangible, visible through brain scans or hormones or neurotransmitters. Mental health is still health.
@@unslaadkrosis9435 Exactly. Is just that we don't know as much yet; during all history physical ailments were related to the same character weakenesses, or even weirder reasons like epilepsy being caused by demonic possesion.
@@MalakianM2S and ending one's own life being referred as "the demon taking over your body and making you do things you wouldn't do".
My english lecturer literally told me this today. I kid you not! Its kinda funny but also WHAT??!
Agreed. Sometimes being "lazy" is actually a symptom. Personally I have anxiety, depression and adhd so being "lazy" is kinda the norm for me, but I'm not really "lazy"
Kids, disabled people, animals, elders and basically anyone more vulnerable than the general public are being taken advantage of WAY TOO MUCH. We need stronger laws, and we need to ENFORCE them, FF'S.
The issue is that kids don't have rights.
@@VelaiciaCreator except they do.
@@kissit012 They really do not. You are thinking of parental rights. Or arbitrary protections that do not take into account what the kids themselves want. Those are not rights.
@@kissit012 Don't bother about him he is a boomer living under a rock with internet access
@@VelaiciaCreator UN has established rights for children, it includes right against many of the thing mentioned in the videos
It reminds me of my mother trying to test me and my sister. Pretty sure my sister blocked her but I just laugh every time she says some variation of 'I miss and love you' and she never asks what she did wrong as to why we won't answer. Even when I admitted to the mother son therapist that she had beat me because I had pushed back her plans to move to the other side of the country and rip my sister out of her support network and leave me with my grandparents. I love my grandparents so I got the better life while my sister endured being left with hopefully her aunt or unfortunately left with random coworkers while her mother dated random dudes.
dude i swear parents are doing the worst things possible to their children and then expect them to forgive them and just pretend that it didn't happen, etc. 💀
The "I'm the only one on your side/that could love you" is such an effective gaslighting method. My mum started it with me extremely young, as long as my dad was around it wasn't effective but it planned the seeds. Then he passed away and she easily build upon that. She'd push everyone out of my life she could and anyone that showed me any kindness just 'pitied me' or felt obliged or was doing her a favour and secretly hated me. Which were already the minority since who fights through being told not to interact with someone's child? (Grandma and one of my dad's sisters in my case.)
Even though I got away from her at 18, I was isolated because I kept that believe, only people breaking through that were those using the same tactics and landed me in a few very abusive relationships, one nearly killing me. I was 28, twenty-freaking-eight, when someone finally broke through that. Having seen herself in my mother's public and private venting about me. I doubt she realises she probably saved me life and definitely the quality of life. The thoughts still nag (heck, I keep thinking my uncle hates having to spend time with me, it's so strong atm I think I need to voice it to my aunt) but at least they're not crippling my whole life anymore.
And the shit that came to light reconnecting with my dad's sister... I have so many regrets towards my grandmother which I can never make up for. My aunt and I are close now, she's helped me a ton as well. It's so easy for parents as well, she just told my aunt I didn't wanna sleep over anymore and told me my aunt no longer wanted me to sleep over... who questions that? Even her own mother didn't since I suspect the same trick was used.
My own insane mom and I got into a fight regarding my mental health a few days ago and my Mango showed up in the mail yesterday so honestly this is perfect timing for me because I needed to not feel alone lol
I feel for you buddy, I've been there. just remember one day you won't have to put up with that bullshit anymore
Mango is such a serotonin boost.
What's Mango?
@@cookiecraze1310 Mango is a Landshark plush that The Click developed and held a Makeship funding campaign for
How is she concerned about fruit shark...?
2:25 OH GOD my mom read this and I literally had to spend an hour convincing her to read the bill, and that this wasn't on it. Worst part is that knowing Americans I allowed myself to be gaslit for a second like, "would they? nah... or...? WTF AM I THINKING"
That "Bye A-hole" was so unexpectedly funny that I rolled off my bed. xD
Kinda had an experience with this kind of stuff
My parents aren't insane per se, more of misinformed
So apparently I was getting my eye checked and I found out I was colorblind for the first time
My mother instantly thought it was because I play with my phone a lot
Me and the doctor reacted with a "What?"
So that day my mother learned that colorblind is actually hereditary
Thanks for the story made laugh
The well-meaning-but-backwards make for heartwarming stories.
My mom did the same thing when I found out I might have glaucoma. She immediately went ‘’I told you to not play so many games on the computer! You kept doing it for so long and now look what happened !!’’. Glaucoma is hereditary
Reminds me when I had a boil on the inner shell of my ear and my Mum took me to the doctor to ask if I was gonna get an infection and go deaf like she'd constantly told me I might. He informed her that was an old wive's tale.
Thankfully, she's not an insane parent, just was deeply concerned about my extreme acne as a kid which, truthfully, was really, _really_ bad... to the point one doctor of mine theorised I might be allergic to my own sweat!
Hey, Click. I actually do recommend making a bingo card for this subreddit. You can sell them for a couple of dollars per card, and maybe allow the proceeds to go to a charity for children who have escaped or are trying to escape a tough situation.
There was a homophobic preacher at my university once, and my friend and I sold bingo cards based on what he says. We donated the funds to charities and resource centers for LGBTQ+ people.
I know this is supposed to be a helpful comment but that second story is funny as hell lol
To anyone who has to go through this bull****,
I'm sorry and I wish I could help you go through this.
31:46 Wait... Y'all get an allowance?
Isn’t everything a phase? Some just last longer or have more of an impact than others. Phase doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll move out of it, the last phase of something is still a phase.
Technically, breathing oxygen is a phase.
That's a good take!
"life is just a phase"
Life itself is "just" a phase. Specificially, the phase of history during which you are alive.
@@LRM12o8 _it will end soon enough_
also what's up with your name I'm curious
@@kiraoshiro6157 If a translation for a video title (and description) is available, CZcams offers *no option* to view the original text instead, even if the "translation" is just nonsensical garbage. Even at the best case they're cringe.
I could only change my app language and location to English in order to get the original title displayed, but then I'd have the exact same problem with content in my native language that has been translated to English.
It's really frustrating and that's why I hope creators/volunteers stop providing these translations. Who would want to watch a video in a foreign language, if they don't even understand the video title in said language, anyway?!
Makes me wonder if nobody at CZcams speaks more than a single language... 🤔