How to Handle Anger and Irritability | (When Depression Comes with Anger)

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  • čas přidán 9. 12. 2018
  • Irritability is a common symptom of depression. In some people, especially children, it may be more prevalent than feelings of sadness.
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    Welcome! I am a licensed psychotherapist and adolescent expert. While some things I share may apply to all ages, most of my videos are about adolescent mental health. Keep in mind these are very brief videos only skimming the top of complex issues.
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Komentáře • 125

  • @sarahjanewdc
    @sarahjanewdc Před 2 lety +387

    Except for when ur so depressed you can't move and have no energy but also feel angry , you get no pleasure or enjoyment out of anything in life

    • @Jack574.
      @Jack574. Před rokem +15

      Stop being weak and find the energy. You have to make your on motivation, stop waiting for it to be given to you.

    • @mvision3840
      @mvision3840 Před rokem +3

      Facts

    • @evadebruijn
      @evadebruijn Před rokem

      Have you already tried microdosing with psilocybine?

    • @arturoortiz8372
      @arturoortiz8372 Před rokem +2

      Exactly, l feel anger about my life ,and everything l went through recently...🥱

    • @Vohcals
      @Vohcals Před rokem +2

      I feel the same

  • @maxg2335
    @maxg2335 Před rokem +242

    Being irritable is me at my worst. I'm scared of forming certain connections because I'm afraid of how I might act in a given situation when I'm irritated.

    • @sandyavalos3305
      @sandyavalos3305 Před rokem +4

      Me too. It has partly held me back from opportunities as well

    • @lindelwadzanibe163
      @lindelwadzanibe163 Před 11 měsíci +6

      This is me right now. I feel like I’m losing my mind

    • @calvinjames7032
      @calvinjames7032 Před 7 měsíci +2

      I feel you. I’m the same way 😔

  • @fable_enthusiast
    @fable_enthusiast Před 2 lety +127

    Felt super angry since my childhood, now I get that this is related to my current state of numbness

    • @Thomas-pz7ww
      @Thomas-pz7ww Před rokem +3

      It definitely is. I dealt with a
      Customer that had such bad anger issues every time he would enter the store I work at. He always looks for a problem, everything always upsets him every single time he comes in. I could breathe the wrong way and he would probably glare at me. He would go back and forth with sounding numb just by his voice and then getting super defensive over minor inconvenience, you can't do anything to satisfy this person. He definitely deserves a good ass whooping or better yet, stay in jail because society doesn't need to tolerate that bs

    • @flutterkitty53
      @flutterkitty53 Před rokem +3

      @@Thomas-pz7ww tf

  • @luwalhatiaap1585
    @luwalhatiaap1585 Před 2 lety +111

    I think I'm easily irritated because of my anxiety and health issues. I don't wanna be like this forever. 😩

  • @TheLumpyShield
    @TheLumpyShield Před rokem +53

    I'm angry and irritable when people do really stupid things that are common sense or act out in a way that if I did that, I would be chastised. Also I get really annoyed when I want to be left alone and everyone and their mother wants to bother me. Especially when I want to be alone because people piss me off.

    • @serzaryan2142
      @serzaryan2142 Před rokem +4

      This is exactly how I'm feeling for the last 2 weeks or so. I have got some help from meditation and breathing exercises.

    • @Bright4Grammy-Awards
      @Bright4Grammy-Awards Před rokem +1

      Exactly when people act great and are so mean and hiding them self and then I’m of God and pisses you off how can you not to be angry and just shut up them😢😢😢

    • @cordellis8935
      @cordellis8935 Před 7 měsíci +5

      Literally the common sense things. Why does that bother me SO much?

  • @swimminginthestars_
    @swimminginthestars_ Před rokem +59

    i become so angry and irritated in the mornings i hate it so much and it creates this cycle of rage and i just can’t

    • @sandyavalos3305
      @sandyavalos3305 Před rokem +3

      me too and is why I dread getting up on the mornings

  • @schwarzer9523
    @schwarzer9523 Před rokem +24

    I don't want to talk to anyone and I hate people coming to sooth me.

    • @LilLone9
      @LilLone9 Před rokem +7

      Facts. I don’t wanna fawkin talk to no one

  • @theblackest0
    @theblackest0 Před 8 měsíci +17

    1. Write how you feel. Write it out
    2. Exercise
    3. Avoid people with a lack of empathy even when you live with them:)

  • @davidzheng2119
    @davidzheng2119 Před rokem +17

    I had to watch an ad before this video started. Made me angry. Video didn’t get straight to the point. Made me angry. I’m still angry. Made me angry.

  • @daniellejohnson2373
    @daniellejohnson2373 Před rokem +56

    It’s hard when you live with someone who can care less about your feelings and lacks empathy

  • @TweakoTheSecond
    @TweakoTheSecond Před rokem +11

    I feel I have valid reasoning to be as angry as I am, but I don't feel its a valid when I lash out. Im scared of myself.

  • @Kr_pushpendrasingh
    @Kr_pushpendrasingh Před rokem +9

    Extremely Irritable and Anger related to ignorance, misunderstanding and loneliness as evidenced by me

  • @calvinjames7032
    @calvinjames7032 Před 7 měsíci +6

    I struggle with feeling angry and irritable a lot of the time. I sometimes don’t even understand where all my anger comes from. It sucks but I really am trying to be less angry 😌

  • @marktaylor2087
    @marktaylor2087 Před 2 lety +30

    That little tip at the end is possibly one of the most helpful tips I've ever had. I'm going to try and put it into practice and see how it goes.

  • @Vexaris_a_god_
    @Vexaris_a_god_ Před rokem +7

    If angry i forget me my slef and my mind telling me kill someone 😠 but still control my angry at least i hitt on the walls and broke something but still i cant feel nothing

  • @mohsina400
    @mohsina400 Před 11 měsíci +4

    I don't know why is this happening i feel angry with little things and i am controling my emotions i feel like cry i feel like scream i feel like empty but i can't cry anymore with my heart out sometimes i wanna ruin everything which is going around sometimes i feel nothing to do this is happening with me for five days and it's burning my chest,eyes

  • @dealex08
    @dealex08 Před 2 lety +3

    Very simple but seem easy to complete. I will give it a shot thanks for sharing

  • @nickfairbairn2618
    @nickfairbairn2618 Před 2 lety +17

    I’m more of a physical person. I never feel relieved or anything when I write

  • @brighteyes6585
    @brighteyes6585 Před rokem +9

    Something I do is collage, I use magazines, or whatever is around and just let the process take over, I've learned a lot from what catches my attention when making collages. Like , what made me use a picture in what I'm making. It doesn't have to look fancy, it's your thing. You made it and it means something to you. I hope that helps.

    • @singk4maxx
      @singk4maxx Před rokem +1

      tysm for sharing :)

    • @antonypastrikos7036
      @antonypastrikos7036 Před rokem

      Thank you for sharing! Having hobbies and doing things you enjoy in general seems like the way to go!

  • @cam1259
    @cam1259 Před rokem +4

    Very to the point! Thank you!

  • @Meskuzze420
    @Meskuzze420 Před 2 lety +4

    I tried to write out everything that made me mad on a note in my phone. My phone ran out of memory

  • @Number_1_ghost_fan
    @Number_1_ghost_fan Před 10 měsíci +3

    What if writing doesn’t help? What if I don’t have the energy to get up? What if I want to vent to someone but can’t? I have a situation that idk what to do abt. My dad murdered someone for drugs, he beat them to death. I learned that the day before yesterday and I’ve been crying almost none stop bc idk what to do. My mom put me in counseling. I want to talk to someone about it but I don’t at the same time.

  • @pizzalover239
    @pizzalover239 Před 2 lety +33

    but what do you do if you can’t do these things in that moment of time when these emotions uprise?

    • @samiryan214
      @samiryan214 Před 2 lety +4

      Suffer alone

    • @PaulFE7
      @PaulFE7 Před 2 lety +19

      Just all of a sudden, BOOM!, you've lost your "control" and flipped. Then you wear the robe of shame, embarrassment...not wanting to show your face.
      I feel ya.
      Help.

    • @kaaajeee
      @kaaajeee Před 2 lety +3

      push ups. rarely you are unable to do pushups, or squats, etc.

    • @thatpersonyoudontknow4509
      @thatpersonyoudontknow4509 Před 2 lety +10

      @@kaaajeee oh sorry clients I can't take your phone call. I was doing pushups. Oh sorry coworkers. I couldn't help. I was doing squats.

    • @mamat1213
      @mamat1213 Před rokem +5

      @@thatpersonyoudontknow4509 not exactly lol. That specific tip will not work for EVERYONE in EVERY situation but can still be helpful. If you didn’t have legs it may be difficult to work out but assuming you do, it could be as simple as taking a 5 min ‘breather’ and briskly walking around the office. You could take a bathroom break and literally just do quiet calf raises or half squats in the single stall. It’s been helpful to me. I came upon this after a frustrating moment with my kid and while I can’t stop making breakfast and go for a run, it is a tool I can use later. I am about to go ‘take the trashI’ which will get some cold air in me and a bit of blood flow. Very simple but useful especially for those of us who deal with this terrible sensation often and want to escape it

  • @Lyrawolfbane
    @Lyrawolfbane Před rokem +2

    Thanks for this idea.

  • @lrowe272
    @lrowe272 Před rokem +7

    I am angry because my personal belongings were mistreated, thrown away and damaged due a jerk roommate, one of my roommates even stole from me .

  • @BOSSLOVEU-SV
    @BOSSLOVEU-SV Před 2 lety +5

    Thank you.

  • @starteamplus
    @starteamplus Před rokem +1

    Not bad idea. Thank you ❤️

  • @Scoofus_
    @Scoofus_ Před rokem +9

    It's all the time though. Holy hell I'm so angry. I'm a ticking time bomb and that shit scares me.

  • @humairahabiba4364
    @humairahabiba4364 Před rokem +2

    I worked hard to make notes, not to give away them like they're nothing 😑" If you want good grades, work on your own" I wish I could say this.

  • @jtlege
    @jtlege Před rokem +2

    "Anger is more useful than despair" Terminator 3

  • @rp_designs11
    @rp_designs11 Před 3 lety +1

    Thanks

  • @amitbhattacharyya5925
    @amitbhattacharyya5925 Před rokem +1

    great suggestions

  • @Mardoux-yu6iu
    @Mardoux-yu6iu Před 9 měsíci

    How to deal with person that is irritable and angry and always using bad words when they were angry and irritated,coz i have one in my house he's always been like that like morning to evening, what should I do, I don't feel so relaxed about that?

  • @maybedavidforsure
    @maybedavidforsure Před 9 měsíci

    Thank you ❤

  • @tiyashabanerjee8278
    @tiyashabanerjee8278 Před 10 měsíci +1

    But I don't even know why I am irritated ..... sometimes after waking up in morning...I feel sudden waves of anger and irritation with jerk movement in one hand and shivers ...what can I do to control it?

  • @mexspiteri615
    @mexspiteri615 Před 2 lety +4

    The problem is I am a super soilder I never get tired 😔

  • @ayushgupta8364
    @ayushgupta8364 Před 10 měsíci +1

    According to this would I have to workout all day ?

  • @jonathanhillman1710
    @jonathanhillman1710 Před rokem +3

    I get so angry and pissed off. I have throw my shit iPhone out the window while doing 90. Ran others off the road. Smashed walls. Lit houses on fire. We just need to thin the Hurd. Purge.

  • @melkerner
    @melkerner Před 8 měsíci +1

    Long term rejection of any physical intimacy in marriage for years and years results in depression, frustration and anger. Also doesn't help when your feelings and concerns are dismissed along with being treated as not needed because the children are the only priority.

  • @akira6743
    @akira6743 Před rokem +1

    thanks my whole guild got fucked in etris and this really helped with how we were feeling!!! the deep calls once more!!!!!!

  • @dipabegum4318
    @dipabegum4318 Před 11 měsíci +2

    I am so angry that restaurant depot got closed

  • @toriambrr
    @toriambrr Před rokem +4

    now i’m pissed cuz this video was only one minute long 😂

  • @thepsychic736
    @thepsychic736 Před rokem +4

    i am angry all the time because i hate all people who change me for who I am
    i will take them dowm

  • @RodneyJonelle
    @RodneyJonelle Před rokem +4

    I write tweets to get my feelings out. I say what I need to in the least words possible and then delete it. Most of it time.

  • @otorishingen8600
    @otorishingen8600 Před rokem +2

    Im super fit cause of my anger 😂

  • @johnrainsman6650
    @johnrainsman6650 Před 8 měsíci

    I have a question. Is it fair for me to be angry with my boss for *secretly* having a disrespectful perspective of me? She expressed herself at a hypnotist show. See, the hypnotist asked the participants to explain a complex philosophy they each have, and my boss talked about intelligence and hard work. She said she didn't believe that everyone was smart; that only certain people were while others were unintelligent. She also said that hard work does not always make people smart. She used my name as an example. She said some people were smart and hardworking, and thus were successful, e.g., in school. Some were smart but lazy and thus didn't manage what they _could've._ And finally that some people were hardworking...but not smart. She referenced me. She talked about how I was a slow learner at work, got things mixed up, and couldn't seem to do anything right alone. How she didn't think I could manage one-person shifts without someone to guide me. Especially after the time I set a wedding reception with black linens, not white, the official/usual color (though in my defense, black linens were used for *most other* events, so thus it was a natural psychological error.) She mentioned how I didn't have a driver's license and still lived at home with my boss in my late twenties.
    The hypnotist, who seemed surprised by her comments, said, "So just to clarify, you don't think he has much honor or dignity in him? That he's a dimwit and a joke?" And to my dismay, my boss said, "Yes, exactly." That hurt so much. So...do I have a right to be mad at her? She didn't say this consciously, let alone to my face, but she thinks that way. Even in private, I think that's disrespectful and shameless. Do you, guys?

  • @VanMan89
    @VanMan89 Před rokem +1

    Is this the Theranos girl??

  • @noahr.7144
    @noahr.7144 Před 3 lety +8

    That probably wont help me sadly

  • @Deathanist
    @Deathanist Před rokem +1

    Hmph if only these suggestions actually worked

  • @DanielTejnicky
    @DanielTejnicky Před rokem +1

    What if I am a man and nobody care?

  • @abovewongart
    @abovewongart Před 11 měsíci

    I scream till my throat bleeds in the car

  • @nikkic4661
    @nikkic4661 Před rokem +2

    People that yell and hit for no reason are probably in need of a psychiatrist

  • @lisa-se6dp
    @lisa-se6dp Před 9 měsíci

    I get irritated by the moat stupid things. Does my head in

  • @k_a_t_i_e999
    @k_a_t_i_e999 Před rokem

    BRO I AM IN MY CUBICLE. WHAT DO I DO IN MY CUBICLE. IM GONNA RIP THE PAPER IF I WRITE.

  • @dougcrouse73
    @dougcrouse73 Před rokem

    Don't want time

  • @frankk8095
    @frankk8095 Před 2 lety +3

    Starts with ads lol

  • @1nePercentJuice
    @1nePercentJuice Před rokem

    FML

  • @joebrowning3433
    @joebrowning3433 Před rokem +1

    Bro this video makes me so angry

  • @thatpersonyoudontknow4509

    But that doesn't do a damn thing

  • @mayunaise7714
    @mayunaise7714 Před rokem

    so angry right now like I'm gonna kill something Infront of me

  • @9tarko
    @9tarko Před 10 měsíci

    work out is a terrible advice. How about the old and the disabled?

  • @trinitypunk7102
    @trinitypunk7102 Před 2 lety +1

    Your intro irritates me

  • @sneakerbabeful
    @sneakerbabeful Před rokem +2

    I take 300mg of Venlafaxine and I turn into a terrible person if I miss one dose.

  • @GeraltOfRivia99
    @GeraltOfRivia99 Před rokem +2

    Yeah this doesn't help me I'm so fatigued I can't just go run. I'd rather try tms or something more medical. Get your brain right and the thoughts follow

  • @yobrox11
    @yobrox11 Před rokem +2

    tbh everything you said to do will make me even more angry especially the writing about it. I can’t seem to find ANYTHING to help 🫠