Why Am I So Angry? The Underlying Causes.
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- čas přidán 29. 01. 2023
- Therapist breaks down the underlining causes of Anger and recommendations to reduce anger outburst, by integrating Mental Health and Faith.
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I'm not an agressive person at all,i'm calm mostly and a people pleaser but i have so much pent up anger and bitterness at people who have treated me wrong and cant seem to settle boundaries without feeling mean or being gashlighted into being "crazy". When i do express it,people dont seem to care,so i rather stay angry inside to not be alone. i feel as if i always have to be perfect and considerate and all of that for people to invite me to things but i'm so hurt inside. They make me feel as if i'm overly emotional for asking about some reasonable in my opinion levels of basic respect towards me. So i turn all my anger against me. It's like i'm rolling around in anger and screaming on the inside because i dont know where to release it without ruining that perfect,little "good girl" image. i;m so tired
(Writing under my husband’s name)… I’m not an aggressive person either, but… when I get angry I can be terribly rude and obnoxious. a) my poor husband. But mostly-in public settings - I get set off by inconsiderateness of others. It’s tough living around large populations and not being able to handle inconsiderateness, which builds and builds till I let loose on somebody. I’ve been working on it for years and have gotten better and I hate to go through life apologizing all the time, and I have had a couple friends cut me off. Unless you learn to believe how to forgive yourself for having to deal with that emotion and then work through it, it won’t get better. For me, I don’t need a lot of friends and am introverted so I can keep to myself for long periods. But when I do go out, I want to be carefree and light. I’m old. I don’t give a damn much anymore. I enjoy simple things and don’t worry too much about missing out on anything. I’m always blown away by caring and considerate people that now show up all around me at anytime and am acknowledging them more and ignoring the others better. -Kathy
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I’m the same way love
You are not alone.
You have perfectly put into words exactly how I feel every day of my life.
I just could not find the words to describe this phenomenon.
Thank you for sharing and I send blessings of love, respect and healing to you.
Same. It hits different when your mother is the one telling you “you’re too emotional, too sensitive” and you were made to believe emotions are not part of life. The only occasion to cry or be upset is when someone died and even that would not be allowed after the loved one has been buried. Pretty tough but doing somatic exercises now to release grief and anger.
Same
Therapists and anger management classes actually made me worse because 20 years of mental health professionals showed me how badly they suck at their jobs. It's taking videos like this that ACTUALLY do more then any of them ever did.
My anger has gotten worse for the past couple of months, I am normally quiet because I've been taught that I can't be angry, I was never allowed to express it. Everyone else was allowed to do, say and treat me however they wanted but I was expected to be the mature one, even as a child, even when my mother would tell me I was good for nothing. I always had to balance everyone and I'm just so tired. I just want peace.
I don't really know whats wrong with me, literally every inconvenience makes me absolutely livid, I never used to be like that
Same here.. I don’t like this
Seeking out professional support can help identify the root cause of the irritability.
When really upset, ask yourself the question, what am I really sad about?
When taking time to reflect, especially with The Holy Spirit, you will realize that there may be an area in your life that you may be mourning or suppressing, that is coming out in anger outbursts!
Blessings! Praying for peace in Jesus Christ Name!
Sometimes, life events impact us when there have been enough and they reach a particular level. The opposite is true....if you seek out the things that make you feel good and whole again. Love, light and peace.
My anger has consumed me from the inside out and made me into such an ugly person. I appreciate this video and I will have to practice some of these techniques. I’m tired of being such an angry person. It’s exhausting and I want to change 😌
This video really helped me, I dont know what made me look this up but it made me realize what i need to do and God really sent me A message through this video lately i’ve been lukeworm and distant from God and I have been trying to deal with this on my own but there’s only so much A person can do on there own we need God so if you are seeing this comment your not alone God is in us and dont cut him off and open up to him confess dont hold back
I have been told that I'm such a nice guy and kind and am very honest. But I'm also mad, I wake up pissed off.
What makes me mad is "stupidity" in people.
It's like, at times, I'm running faster mentally than everyone around me.
I have to repeat myself all the time.
It angers me when I can't get things planned. I am a scheduler, I need everything planned and set up in time management, and I get more anger when I'm ever late.
It used to be very difficult to tick me off but it's rapidly becoming easier lately. I think mine is stress related. I found that in order to be socially accepted as a man, you can't show weakness by whining about something, or acting like a victim when you're stressed, so anger really is the only option to "vent"
Getting older doesn't help. I can only speak for myself. I don't like this new irritability in me
@@Ohboycommentsection than change it . Control your own emotions.. an drill taught me 30 years ago act on a situation before it becomes a problem.. don't wait for it to be a problem and than over react
I do have negative thoughts, self hatred, a d hidden anger from severe childhood trauma, bullying, religious abuse, betrayal, loss, and many deaths of my loved ones. This has affected my relationship with God. Even though I like my trauma therapist alot I need a Christian therapist that deals with trauma and mental illness so my faith in God and hope in life can be restored. I will keep praying and searching for one.
I have experienced way too much injustice and it’s pure ANGER. I don’t feel fear or sadness. It’s pure angry. Because I need retaliation. Something’s just need to be justified.
I love that this Bible dedicated ❤💪🏾
my anger is self-directed.
I’m scared to tell my therapist that I am very angry all the time. Because I will feel like I’m a bad person. Plus I feel like I can’t trust anybody so that makes me more angry.
This is exactly my problem too… I am angry all the time at everyone, at the world, I feel like a bad person and I feel like an unlikeable person… who wants to be with someone like this??
I'm usually angery I speak up even a bit of what I have in my heart but people still consider me as en amgery and misbehaved person
I want to act smart rather than a emotional fool who gets angery over things and share her feelings with anybody
I am not necessarily angry, but am super irritable often. Usually it comes & goes quickly. Other times it takes longer to move on.
For some reason I’ll go from being fine to so angry I’m nearly seeing red for no reason it doesn’t matter if I’m alone or with my family I’ll get so angry but if I hold it in I genuinely start to feel suicidal
I've been trying to stay calm "mature" since I'm the older sibling but this days I've been getting agitated quite easily and I suddenly burst out earlier idk wat to do anymore
Stop it. Learn how to STOP it. It is difficult. It can be done.
How do you “learn” to stop it?
She’s counseling from a religious perspective and I don’t feel like humoring her right now. She seems nice though. I wish you all courage, vulnerability, peace, and love. ☮️ 💗
Wish me luck on helping my angry dad.
Iam angry, these days and i feel like i have been fighting all the time
Have a honest and caring conversation regarding your boundaries, in hopes that some agreement can be made. Pray before the conversation asking God to bring peace.
Thank you for being so real!!!!!
Honestly you have described exactly how I feel and I literally have every one of those emotions that you just described it is incredibly overwhelming and it just makes you wonder if you actually hate yourself somehow?
You can just imagine how horrible it is to be around you and that makes all those above emotions even worse😢😢😢
I cried while watching
Your damm right I got my defence mechanism up, how could I not when I am being constantly attacked. I can't wait to leave this place
Thank you so much for this!
Literally cried the whole video because you seem to know exactly what I am dealing with. Just started going to therapy and it’s been helping.
I am always irritable I can be sooo irritated at people and I don’t even know why!!! The next minute I’m good the next I’m not. I just want to get to the root of it and be happy! I am going to start journaling about my feelings. I do journal a lot but not about my anger. People say I am so nice and so calm and chill. I also believe in being honest. I come off very blunt and I can not stand liars once some lies to me it become very hard to trust again and to even be around them I don’t look at them the same. That’s why I tell anyone who’s around me be honest with me because I am such an understanding person I don’t judge you can come talk to me about anything and your secret is safe with me I promise. So when others lie it really hurts. Anyways, I don’t mean to rumble but thank you!
I'm not an aggressive person, and I will strike down the first person that says that i am!
Im extremely angry and hateful and i feel a dopamine rush when im mean to others or hateful and i wish i wasn't this way because i can see others view me badly because of it
Thank you so much for your insight into diffusing anger.❤
I just want to hold both your hands and say thank you. I am grateful.
Your anger is the part of you that knows your mistreatment and abuse are unacceptable. Your anger knows you deserve to be treated well, and with kindness. Your anger is a part of you that LOVES you
Thank you so much, this makes sense! 🙏
That is so helpful, thank you!
Thank u for this video. I’ve been nothing but angry lately and it’s so frustrating and I’m tired of it and now that I have an understanding of why hopefully I can put an end to it. :)
Hello As a believer what do if a roommate is causing you to be very very upset and they're being very dark
I HAD to acknowledge my RAGE today and seek out answers here. Thank you 🙏🏼 ❤
Your words, were wise and helpful. I thank you for the messages you give.
How do we give ourselves, hurts, pains and anger to God? I've heard it said to 'GIVE IT TO GOD", how does that work?
This needs to be explained more. It’s not something you could physically hand over so I’m assuming you hand it over by replacing the negative sentences you tell yourself with sentences of truth from the word of God
I don’t know what wrong with me I just was having a fine day then I just have a sense of anger in me and I don’t know why I just I don’t know I don’t get mad and that’s why this is so weird to me I don’t know what’s wrong
Bipolar disorder probably
If you have repressed or dissociated anger like me my experience with these anger flare ups as you sound like you have is simply something inside you has knocked up against something suppressed. This is normal as you start to heal your anger. You may find a million things in 1 day your anger flares then recedes on the positive thing here first off is you're sensing that anger flare that's good this doesn't mean something is wrong with you this means your in a place now in your body system you can start to decode it!
Notice what is making if flare up some like to call this state triggered yet IMO it's not always instant sometimes it's slow and painful so there fore just take note nothing more at first if you can see a pattern for instance: Every time I put out the garbage my anger shows up this is great!
Now after bit of time noticing now self question. You don't want to shame, blame, accuse, excuse, or deflect. You have anger when you take out the trash let this statement just be. You don't have to befriend it, fall in love with it, advocate for it, deny it, suppress it, or make it or you wrong it's a feeling. Feelings are normal humans have them anger is apart of that & those feelings. Anger is a symptom it can mean several things usually yet you can also have it rarely come up as a wild card. Yet violation of boundary, expectations, past hurts, a part of you hates the x in question, a defender part of you has come online in this case the trash is the activator yet it also may have nothing to do with the trash per say.
So you're ready to gently allow the emotion of anger to be ask it why in curiosity. Why does it come when you take out the trash? You want to over time see if you can feel that feeling then ask when was the last time you felt this same anger go back into your mind and feelings and feel it out say the next time back you can trace the trash anger to is when you where a teenager and you felt forced to give your gf a promise ring that anger is the same anger you feel when you take out the trash now. If your ready to probe further ask again when else did you feel this same exact anger? Now you go back to when you were 8 and you were forced to rehome your dog you loved but your father did not. Now you can see if you've got one more if you don't and 8 is where the anger stays ask is this your own or is this inherited cuz you can have one or the other or both!
What is inherited? Inherited means its coming from another for instance if you absorbed the anger of your father here over the dog you took on his childhood anger from him having to put up with things he didn't want in his environment say his home was a horder home he had to put up with floor to ceiling death trap walls of stuff that wasn't his, rats, and ill conditions so as to protect his father from legal actions & prevent himself from being taken away from the only life he knew. this self protection was a aid and harm to your father yet the dog when you were 8 he couldn't stand as it slobbered and shit everywhere and he couldn't take it. If it's not your anger you can release it.
A good way & an easy way to do this is to get the Emotion Code by Dr. Bradley Nelson his Q&A style is the most important part you can either keep the magnets or as I don't use the magnets & can tell you it releases for me via asking the angels to remove & heal the trapped emotions this is an adaptable system so if you don't want to use the magnets ask whomever you wish god, angels, your higherself, it doesn't hurt to do the ask method before magnets yet the book does detail what to do & what precautions to take. With inherited emotions you may also have ancestor inherited & this is vauge all you know is you inherited their anger these folks are super dead meaning you can't ask for details unless you're a medium yourself yet you don't have to! Just acknowledge it's from them acknowledge to your ancestors that whatever happened in their lives caused them to hold onto that anger and pass it to you, thank them for doing this, tell them you forgive them, if needed tell them you empathize with them, do not take any of this personally tell them these things for it loosens the hold the energy has on you then either ask for the inherited trapped energy to be removed or do the magnets if your doing emotion code method OG now it's gone. The energy just wants understanding & acknowledgement in alot of cases it doesn't need you to go into details!
If it's your own you've already traced it to your 8 year old self over the dog rehoming. If you want to do more you can but you don't have to! Release it via what I said before. If you think you need to talk to the 8 year old you can do the samething acknowledge his hurt, empathize with him "I empathize with you, this hurt you so much!" You don't need details, thank him for holding onto it so you can both heal it now! if you want you can ask him if after you both heal this will he be ready to integrate with you? If yes he will if no don't force him just let him be he's not ready yet, let him know you forgive him in general or for trapping the anger in you, if you feel drawn to say more you can, you can even ask him if he's ready to let this anger go if so proceed to release emotions as stated prior same thing ask or magnets.
You can also do the feel method as some emotions need to be felt there are many people on youtube who speak on this but breathing helps, you need undivided you time no distractions they say it takes 20 min but I've spent 2 hours walking the energy out of my body at points! So it can be awhile.
You can also do talk therapy, go get some energy healing & clearing done, do HZ & binaural beats while you sleep for the issues you have like: HZ heal anger sleep, this is put on vol 1 on a device while you sleep you do not need to hear it while you sleep your body will pick it up at that level or less and begin the process of healing you! This doesn't mean avoid doing any Q&A however cuz at somepoint you have to at somepoint the HZ loosens it all it can just like energy work does yet you still need to know yourself some parts need Q&A and other integration methods there is no one size, one and done method for emotional healing you'll work out what you need eventually, you can also try breathing release work but this can really bring emotions up make you cry make you do alot of stuff this is not beginner work, and of course shadow work is also a tool as well. In addition to just coming to vlogs here that will have someone expressing their POVs, their emotions, like the extherapsit youtuber: Daniel Mackler his vids are so valuable to see/hear pain & also what he did to help himself, you may also like some methods from jimhimself or the royal we.
You'll eventually go into looking into your past history and what you truly felt, what emotionally happened to you as well and then later on how you harmed others so you can acknowledge this aspect so you can end the repeat of the pattern if you ignore it then you'll keep doing the pattern gently understanding this will aid you to stop the pattern yet this is way way later in recovery I've only gone into bits of this right now yet with all the content I'm looking at and trying to implement this is apart of it as well it's like the last step so the whole idea is you'll be able to go through all your layers as life goes on to heal new hurts immediately, to see patterns or behaviors your doing and decide is it serving or not and why, ect it allows for faster processing yet while you're living life at the sametime you won't have to keep doing all the pausing it will be rapid in the moment like animals do they run into trauma insta process and are back at life in 30 seconds back to baseline.
My mother blamed my sister and I for things that SHE did wrong...fucked up, yes, but she had a very violent Dad so maybe it was a survival thing. Her husband, my Dad wasnt violent at all though so it was really hard to understand why she was always passing the blame. 😢😢😢
Thank you for what you're doing.
THIS IS AN AMAZING VIDEO, THANKS
Thank you for this.
This was great. Thank you so much . God bless you!❤
Trying understand my mom but for now need to set boundaries with her
This was very helpful ❤
I have noticed this certain type of anger about myself. I don't start trouble with anyone; I do defend myself, I do speak straightforward tactfully; though many do not handle it well. I am not always angry. In fact, it takes time for me to get annoyed and angry. But once I am angry, that person receives sharp but true words and can receive cannons depending on the incident, the person, their spirit, their intent, etc.
Then, there are times when another or even the same person can do the same action but I will hear the Holy Spirit directly me what to say to the person. This latter, I would say happens most and when anger is not present.
G-d and how He works...is amazing. I accepted life in Jesus Christ at 9 yrs of age. I have recently asked YHWH about this during self-examination and asked why. Where does this streak come from, what is it stemming from and what is really the source? I have worked past the rage of being abused as a child in every way except one since I was a teenager, with Yahweh's counseling; and continue moving forward to today and beyond. Though, the rage left long long ago; I was a young adult. Your video came across today and I'm ready to address this area. Thank you and continued blessings to you🙏🏽
I have a question. Is it fair for me to be angry with my boss for *secretly* having a disrespectful perspective of me? She expressed herself at a hypnotist show. See, the hypnotist asked the participants to explain a complex philosophy they each have, and my boss talked about intelligence and hard work. She said she didn't believe that everyone was smart; that only certain people were while others were unintelligent. She also said that hard work does not always make people smart. She used my name as an example. She said some people were smart and hardworking, and thus were successful, e.g., in school. Some were smart but lazy and thus didn't manage what they _could've._ And finally that some people were hardworking...but not smart. She referenced me. She talked about how I was a slow learner at work, got things mixed up, and couldn't seem to do anything right alone. How she didn't think I could manage one-person shifts without someone to guide me. Especially after the time I set a wedding reception with black linens, not white, the official/usual color (though in my defense, black linens were used for *most other* events, so thus it was a natural psychological error.) She mentioned how I didn't have a driver's license and still lived at home with my boss in my late twenties.
The hypnotist, who seemed surprised by her comments, said, "So just to clarify, you don't think he has much honor or dignity in him? That his loyalty, hard work, and diligence is *_all_* he's got going for him? Just choices, no skills or brains?" And to my dismay, my boss said, "Yes, exactly." That hurt so much. So...do I have a right to be mad at her? She didn't say this consciously, let alone to my face, but she thinks that way. Even in private, I think that's disrespectful and shameless. Do you, guys?
Your boss is very toxic. And manipulative.
Yup, ur boss is out of line
@@mn-lw5qvJust for thinking it...having an immoral attitude in private...
@@paulastarkey9973 Wait, why do you say "manipulative"? who did she manipulate? The hypnotist, who was "manipulating" her to express?
@@johnrainsman6650her way of thinking is manipulative and she is gaslighting herself because all of that is just not true. She is ignorant and judging from that is arrogant.
Thanks so much God bless you ❤
This video really helped me today. Thank you
Ive always held my anger or my sadness inside and try to hide it until i cant and then i cut loose. I don't like it.
Loved this 💜needed it
Thank you 😘
This video made me angry
I'm not aggressive nor mean, I'm realizing listening to your video, that I have never had the opportunity to let the person who hurt me so deeply, I've never had the opportunity to let him know exactly what he put me through and how his actions effected and impacted my life. ? Maybe if I write him a letter,some of this anger will leave me? I just thought about this issue while making breakfast and not sure what brought it to mind ?
Your words are not falling on deaf ears. Thank you for this ❤
You don’t have to keep anger, trapped in the body, there’s several techniques you can use I know a lot of them, and sometimes even forget to use them
I have troubles with feeling anger at all, suppressed anger.
It is the former stage I suppose in the work.
Thanks
I love u thank u for saying all that
Unfortunately it’s too late for some of us my anger has taken over who I am. I basically pushed everyone away from me no friends cut off all family but my kids. Yeah I’m piece shit but hey 🤷♂️
I hear you - it's a very strong and intense emotions I also fund hard to control - I heard that Your anger is the part of you that knows your mistreatment and abuse are unacceptable. Your anger knows you deserve to be treated well, and with kindness. Your anger is a part of you that LOVES you
I’m pretty sure I have trama or smt one annoying thing out of a bad day and I get so upset that I almost start crying and I’m throwing pillows and then I head back to where other people are and act like I’m fine
How about seeing injustice
For me I guess just realizing this,I guess it started in 2018 with a great traumatic event ?
Yes! I was like happy go-lucky and blah blah… once I had a traumatic event as well, in 2018, my personality just collapsed and I don’t even know who I am anymore at times!!
I am living a group home with different women with different disabilities and personalities
I Have both AUTISM and Adhd Sometimes I get overwhelmed and I have meltdowns I understand that I am not perfect but some of my housemates drive me insane they press my buttons examples one of the residents uses the bathroom on themselves, another resident becomes to food police telling everyone how much they are allowed to eat they mostly focus on me, one resident has mental health issues
Because of my Adhd and autism I tend to get annoyed easily.
Thank you for this and rhe Christian perspective 🙏
I am angry from last few days even 1-2 months i feel vry angry but i dont respond else i will make a fight. And today i got more clarity why its happening thankyou for the video 🤗
I feel so much anger when the kids I cut in my salon are manipulating their parents and try to manipulate as well and then the parents undermine my authority.
What can I do in these situations?
For example kids who say I hurt them while I am not even touching them and they play pitty party to make me stop the haircut.
Man up and realize they are kids. That’s what you can do.
I want that music please!!
Surprise, it's more anger.
I just broke my phone today because my anger overflowed already. I've been holding my anger for too long. I'm always dissatisfied and nothing can make me feel happy anymore
I still have NO CLUE why I’m so mad right now. I’m rarely angry but this a lame out of NOWHERE. I just became frustrated yesterday and now I’m so angry! It’s rare that I feel this way so there is NO CATEGORY!!!!. I’m just by myself. I tried a meditation and I got really angry
Anger 😡 Happened In Different Lives
Please explain how to “put it in God’s hand” How does that look like?
Accept that you are an angry person, confess to God that you are angry and say why, then ask for his peace. You will have to do this multiple times ovet & over before you get some peace. Do it as often as you get angry.
@@jamaica2010ism thanks, needed this
@bbysootsprite y are you on this page go be with your atheist group
It's just waiting and letting it go and if you believe in God you truly know that you couldn't have it work out without a higher power help
my thoughts exactly..... wow how inspirational
I need your help.❤
You must help and heal Yourself
I am always angry at everything...I enjoy this anger
This sounds alot like me. Anger management classes wouldn't help me.
I’m angry at the audio quality of this video. 😅
I am so angry person sometimes. When ever I become angry I am always hitting my head or face my selfish. I don't know why am doing this.. its happen only short term. Then I become normal. Give some advice to me
I am sorry you are experiencing anger to the point that you hit your head and face. Please try to find a way to channel your anger. Write down everything you are feeling, no matter how bad it sounds. Then, read it, pray about it, and burn it; release it to God and ask him to heal you.
He can help you but it will be a process. If you can, also see a therapist. If not, listen to videos like this one to help you cope.
Maybe start a thankfulness journal where you write down something positive every day. Even if it's only one thing, they will add up and hopefully fill you with joy and peace.
I will pray for you. I wish you health, peace, love, and prosperity in all areas of your life.
I hope this helps! ❤
You could be on the autism spectrum like myself. You should look into autism, pda autism if you then believe you are on the spectrum well then it's working out what your traits and triggers are it is highly likely if you are on the spectrum you may not even notice theses triggers and traits so research as much as possible write all theses traits and triggers down to try and navigate life.
The background music makes me angry
I feel a lot of my questions can be answered if i let myself be under hypnosis
Underlying. Not underlining.
Ngl i love it u should embrace it
I am always angry for silly things i lost many because of this I dono what to do 😢
I dk either
Control your anger. I changed it to motivation
NOT ME GETTING ANGRY OVER U TALKING TOO MUCH LMAO
Anger is everywhere lol 😂
What makes me angry is how slow you talk
Funny enough that annoys me as well. I wonder why? Perhaps because of my impatience.
Ans Love my ghost
There is another way
One does not have to control, suppress, or manage anger or identity with it.
Anger doesn't exist without judgment.
The other way is to choose to face and let go of The and All judgment, choose peace and choose to develop and maintain awareness.
Anger is a symptom or warning sign of judgment which we can become aware of and tend to.
tell me somtimg i dont know already
Wife.
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If i can remember this . Quote.. if it will affect the next 10 years of your. Life get angry. About it .. but if most people will forget about this event in next 10. Days don't all it to make you upset
Horrible music to put on an anger management video
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They's nice before?..
people saying have sex is a stress angery out
The funny one: you may be hungry...is actually not that funny...
Vor allem männer
I think I found my wife lol
You kinda triggered my anger 😂...not another one singing the same song. Where does this fit in the iceberg 🤔
Why Am I So Angry?
Because you WANT to be.
You are an adult now. You own what YOU do.
If you have any sense.
Girl shut up
Nobody wants to be !