Emotional Affairs And Texting | What To Do When Your Partner Is Texting Someone Else
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Hello and welcome to Happily Committed. My name is Coach Adrian. If you're watching this video you're probably going through a very tough time because your significant other may be or may have been emotionally cheating on you. It's very difficult to move past this type of behavior because trust is broken. If your partner has had an emotional affair through texts and you don't know what to do, if you should forgive them, if you should just move past this or not, you're watching the right video. Sometimes love can be messy.
Take a step back and try to understand the reason why your partner may have felt this need to connect emotionally with someone else. Did you become complacent? Did you neglect your significant other? Are they yearning and striving for attention that they are not getting in your marriage or in your relationship? Or did you completely lose yourself? Are you not in a position where you can attract and inspire your significant other because your focus is elsewhere or because you're dealing with other issues in your life? It's important to not just put all the blame on your significant other because if you do you will alienate them. You will not create enough an environment by which they can grow and they can rebuild a new relationship with you. It's difficult because you're tempted to go back and try to understand and analyze everything that went on. You want to read the words that you found or you just want to make sure that you punish them for what they've done.
But that's not the solution. Constantly living in the past or reliving the painful separation that you may have gone through or basically trying to really understand what was said and in that moment and in those interactions is only going to create havoc. Your ego is hurt and you're trying in some ways to soothe that hurt but in the wrong way. The best thing that you can do is try to communicate with your significant other about what their needs actually are, about what went wrong. Are they remorseful or not? If they are remorseful it is your responsibility to try to work with them. It's difficult to just forgive overnight but you have to commit yourself to forgiving them in order to create a new and improved relationship together. If they are not remorseful and they don't want to work on the marriage then you need to ask yourself if this is something that you still want to fight for alone.
We made our living basically helping people who were facing the prospects of a separation and on Love Advice TV we have over a thousand videos of people who are in this type of situation. You need to make sure that you are fighting the good fight, meaning that you're not trying to save this relationship out of fear, desperation, anger but because you truly believe that you can build something greater and better. That you believe that you guys are still compatible and that you can make it work.
If you're dealing with the prospect of an emotional affair that happened through texts I have a lot of empathy and compassion for you because it's not easy, but you can bounce back. I see people who bounce back all the time and the reality is that relationships are hard. Sometimes things get stale and after a while the grass may seem greener. It's a lot easier to succumb to this attraction and carnal desire and to turn to other people outside of your marriage when facing issues. This should be an alarm, this should tell you that things aren't right and that you need to work on addressing and fixing those issues.
There is NEVER an excuse to cheat! Period!!
Excuses, excuses....
Cheaters always have a reason why they aren’t like the other people who cheat lol
No cheaters ever just say “I’m selfish and impulsive”.
SMH Cook! Speak the word.
Totally agree 👍
At what point do they take responsibility for their actions?, all I hear is, justification, minimization and denial. Adults talk, not sneak off creating a secret world!
My wife hasn't physically done anything but flirt and they are saying good night and good morning to each other , should i try and fix or run?
Married almost 44 years. I discovered his texting 4 years ago, actually, Facebook chatting. So I printed it all out, a year's worth! I told him to stop. It slowed down but he never actually stopped for the next 1.5 years when she finally put a stop to it. It totally changed my life. I'm really hoping I can find the courage to leave sometime this year. It's affected my health and I just can't feel peace or happiness anymore. I still cry everyday. I wish it had been a physical affair. I would have been gone. I'm old school with thinking Ive needed to stay and try. I need to leave or I think I'll die an early death. 😢
Wow 44yrs.. ill try marriage counseling/ Exert all options before I leave... pray on it and ask God to reveal
Try asking him his reasons for doing such thing and analyse it wholly with deep thought . Maybe you might be at fault without you knowing and maybe you might not be at fault. So you talk it out with her and analyse it, summarise it then make the decision either to stay for self improvement or to leave in search of peace. Thanks. I pray you overcome this trial in your Marriage. Wishing you all the best to this journey in search of the best for you.
Sorry it happened to you. Nobody should have to go through that.
Omg, I'm sorry you went through that
@@Clearify7 Be at fault ? You’re victim blaming by making that comment. It’s not a reflection of the partner that doesn’t cheat but rather a reflection of the partner that does the cheating that they have no moral standards and that they don’t respect you. Get out while you can , trust me. You aren’t meant to be with someone who WILLINGLY and PURPOSELY does something to hurt you. This isn’t loyalty it’s betrayal and you need to have more self respect for yourself.
You forgot phone chatting addiction is like a drug addiction. Chatting comes first, everything else is forgotten, including your marriage
Going over those texts etc can actually be a trauma response… yes, they cause havoc, but expecting someone to be able to not do that after going through trauma is unrealistic
So, the loyal partner is to blame for the acction of a cheater .... Cheaters must love you
Came here to same the same thing,
Worst position to be in. It will only works out if the person acknowledge their behavior and is wiling to work on changing period. If not it’s a waste of time and not healthy
What if they are denying that it’s an emotional affair? “We’re just friends”…
Smh. I'm telling you. Very difficult.
My opinion is there doesn't need to be anything dismal going on in the relationship. He's going to do it if he wants to do it.
Strangely you used the words "move past this." That's exactly what my wife kept saying to me "can't we just move past this?" I said you can, I can't, at least not yet.
You move through, not past. Your partner needs to go through that journey with you. If they will not, there will not be any healing.
Especially when we are still currently STILL going thru this YEARS later:/
What if you didn't know he was having an affair like this? Apparently my husband was doing this before we got together and married with the same woman and never broke it off. He has known her for 14 years and I just found out 3 weeks ago. I just don't understand, it feels like our entire relationship is a lie.
How it is now?
WHAT I WANT TO KNOW IF THE GIRL KNOWS HE IS MARRIED WHY DIES SHE TEXT MY HUSBAND WHEN SHE KNOWS HE IS MARRIED?
thrill of chase sim situation your NOT ALONE! 30 yrs of the crap hide his phone disable everything on it i did
I dont buy that. Relationships a hard i agree but if it get boring etc most of the time it's because the unfaithful pulled away then blame the betrayed to justification their mess and twisted mindset
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I honestly feel like I'm burning from the inside put. I'm so torn up from him texting with a coworker, and I saw her, she's deff prettier than me. They started talking when she apparently grabbed his phone and put her number in. I just feel like nauseous all the time and I can't even eat anymore. I wish I had emotional support but sadly he thinks it's no big deal
Hey there,
I'm so sorry to hear about this. I know how hard and difficult this must be to go through. I would love to know more about your relationship so I can guide you through this. I highly suggest you book a coaching call with me or my fellow coaches and start working this out together!
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I know the filling and is very Hard to forget.
I found out that my Bf has been obsessed with his phone and always looking at it for notifications lites, then he went to Best Buy and got an SD card for MORE space on his phone for videos and pics, he made all these changes to his phone, and it all raised an eyebrow with me and my gut was telling me things that were hurtful, turns out that I was right all along, as of now he’s completely oblivious to my knowledge as to what he’s been doing, and I’m angry and hurt, I suppose going through quarantine brings out the ugliness in those why supposedly love you, what good is it to have someone physically if their heart and mind is with other women?
Thank you for sharing your story, Faye. I understand what you're going through. Please visit www.withmyexagain.com/coaching/ so that we can help you more on a personal level.
Coach Adrian
I'm going through this same thing right now it has shattered my world,my husband decided to go down this road at a time when my health declining due to hyperthyroidism,I don't wish it on anyone
🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
This sounds like rationalizing and minimizing. Out of the many options to resolve issues in a relationship, a partner or spouse then CHOOSES the infidelity route. That is betrayal and the proposal to " try and understand why they cheated " is irrational. In a committed relationship, people talk, and if one has reached the point where they feel compelled to cheat, they should terminate the existing nonworking relationship and be with the new person where their heart now resides.
I feel for you beautiful! Hang in there there is somebody out there who would love us and only US! ❤️❤️ sending hugs !
You go gurl 😅
It's always someone else's fault for others bad character behavior 🙄
Everybody is going through this. All of us the same in this situation. This is so sad to read as I scroll through the comments, it’s also embarrassing… it’s so harsh the feeling it’s self going through it. I feel like everything is a choice. We are highly aware of what we do, most times people don’t care and by pass it because we are used to the cycle. Time to break those cycles though men and woman. We the people are always in control of our actions.
👏👏👏 seriously
Why do Women think it's totally acceptable to text male friends and when her boyfriend has had enough and calls her out he then gets called insecure, jealous and weak, I think Women have a lot to answer for, if the shoe was on the other foot all hell would break loose, seems it's one rule for Woman they can do and talk to whoever they like and another rule for men
My husband is texting at 3:00 am and then delete the messages. He tell me don't worry everything is fine. This behavior is new in our relationship and I cannot trust him anymore. I almost want out of the relationship. The only think that is holding me back is the we have children and I don't have proof that he is cheating. All I know is that he is texting with someone at 3:00am and he never did that before and he looks nervous whenever am around his phone. I feel like I shouldn't trust him at all, specially with my future.
Your intuition probably isn’t lying to you, but I’m not sure about your man.
If everything was alright, this wouldn’t be happening, after all, right?
Can you say in response to that comment, “Well, it might be alright with *you* but it’s *not* alright with me. It’s completely inappropriate, and therefore it is not alright with ‘us’. Do you wish to continue to be an ‘us’ or do you wish to continue this behavior? Your choice here and now will inform mine. Get it? Thank you.”
Your intuition is designed to be your body’s warning system. We can misread it sometimes but in general if you brush it off and it keeps coming back, then try listening to it.
I happen to be the one who pays the phone bill so I checked text logs going back 6 months to a year. And I saw clearly the patterns change and a specific number emerge as so dominant they take up pages… In fact, once contact was cutoff of just that 1 number, my husbands’ text logs went from 14 pages to 2-3.
Is it proof he was cheating? No. Only that they were communicating. A lot.
And at times it’s first thing in the morning or last thing before bed at least 3x/wk… and once until 2:30 a.m.
Sure they could be just friends, but… none of the other numbers he’s just friends with come up on the log like that. This is at least clearly a significant relationship to him.
I know my hubs so well I can tell through the text log patterns when they argued and how they made up (by sending memes).
Just because others’ are dealing with this though doesn’t mean you are.
In fact, your husband might go back and forth and you might never know for real what’s gone on or any extent if anything has.
The question is, can you live with that?
Would you want to move forward with or without him either way?
The questions now are more about how will you conduct yourself in the face of suspicions like this? How can your needs get met here? What type of support would be most critical to your choices now?
Is he willing to change the offending behavior?
If he does, does your intuition tell you he’s just hiding it better as some men do, or that he realizes what he is jeopardizing by continuing and has stopped?
They key to now and your future isn’t your husband’s behavior. It’s you.
Stay strong. Stay with integrity. Insist you be able to expect that in a marriage.
You can do this.
It hurts like an elephant on your chest and you’ll want to kill him sometimes - this makes even the best, most normal, wonderful, understanding people into crazy nuttzo-putzo’s. That’s normal for the circumstance. Expect a roller coaster of emotions that come along with these suspicions.
Know the key to slowing it down and regaining control will be you - will be practicing self control and integrity as much as you can and forgiving yourself when you can’t.
Always trust your gut. 🙏
And he won't even admit it...he's been infatuated with his female friend for 4 years. .. and he thinks texting his ex's and other females privately is ok and none of my business
I found out texts between my girlfriend of over two and a half years and some guy she met two or three weeks ago. They met for the first time and exchanged numbers. Last weekend she went out with a friend of hers and she texted him to come join then and then go spend the night together. To my knowledge, that didn't end up happening, but the fact that she was willing to go to his place that night is excruciating. She didn't come home and slept out that night. The obvious reaction was I was pissed. My day got interrupted by this and I couldn't focus on my work. Later on through the day, I felt disappointed and betrayed. I genuinely love her and she is the mother of my child. But I don't know how to move past this. Part of me is glad that I found out about this sooner before worse things had happened but how do I trust her moving forward?
Don't.Shes s cheater, period.
YOU DON'T TRUST HERE MOVING FORWARD. CUT HER LOOSE, SHE IS A CHEATER AND MOST LIKELY DID SPEND THAT NIGHT WITH HIM. THEY ALWAYS LIE AND TRY TO DOWNPLAY THE SITUATION AND MIX IN ENOUGH TRUTH WITH LIES TO GET YOU TO BELIEVE THEIR LIES AND DECEPTION.
@@mskrystalqThey can always tag team her
Hello, my name is Ricky. About two years ago I found out that my wife had been texting someone for approximately six and met up with twice. I was told nothing happened when they met up but I was devastated. What makes this really hard me is my last two relationships I was also cheated on. I never talked about it with a professional I just locked my emotions away and hoping that they never come out. But went I found this out it triggered those other two. Even through I stayed with my wife we are now at the point of her feel isolated and shut out. I was unware i was doing those things to her because I still havent talked to someone about my emtional overload. I cant seem to want to trust her even though i want to and i end going through phone records and everything else. She has distanced herself from me and i can see its my fault but how can i pull her back towards me. Thank you for your time.
My husband has been having an emotional affair with a former employee (he retired in June). It started with phone calls last spring 2019. I found out about it last September. The amount of calls that went on was ridiculous. He told me nothing ever happened between them. We were supposed to be working on our marriage, but I’m the only one putting any effort into it. Now the calls turned in texts and I’ve seen them and they are sickening. Makes me want to vomit. I know he meets her and lies and says he going to see his guy friends. It’s been still going on for a year. I’m devastated. We are 69 and been married 42 years
That’s horrible sorry
I am so sorry. We have been married 51 years, and he was in a relationship (sexual and emotional) 17 years. It ended when she passed away. 22 years younger than him and was his direct report.
@@jilliemSounds kinda fun not gonna lie
I have been with the same woman for 20ys and I always trusted her for the most part,until 6months ago a Pandora's box of texts and pics where on her phone, I realized I was lacking with attention and we started to work things out, unit 2weeks ago I found same dude on phone and the 2nd time put things into downward spiral, now I feel like not worth putting effort in cause the deception runs deep,not down for this type of 3way so I will let my nutz hang and make tough decisions for moving on! Not sure what else to do?
Yes, I found messages of my wife of 8 years with two kids and her ex-boyfriend of 15 years ago. They sent Heart emojis and she saying I love you baby to each other. She said she stopped because she realized it was wrong. We do have many arguments and she said I didn't pay more attention to her. She needed some love from someone. She asked for forgiveness but I'm having a hard time forgetting and forgiving her. I know and realized I haven't been lovable to her. I found the messages when I was transferring images from her cellphone to the PC. They were in the Screenshots section in Google Photos. I have two children it will kill me to lose them from not seeing them every day.
Same happened to me, wasn't giving enough attention while the AP took advantage of that via chats.
Still struggling but if you see true remorse from your wife and feel it's genuine it's worth giving a second chance.
Mine cries out of desperation for what she has done. Biggest mistake of her life.
I wanted and kept pursuing him. I told him I wanted him. Over and over. He said he enjoyed being wanted by her. So his cheating was about his own securities. This is how it goes when the betrayed has done healing prior to the cheating and the betrayer hasn’t don’t any because of their own denial.
I'm currently going through this process now. I just noticed my woman texting her ex and delting trying hid it and this breaks me hard and I love her with every once my soul, we have a 3 year old son
Caught my wife doing this while I was sick from covid for a whole month out of work, while I was fighting the sickness she was texting her ex. It sucks, I might just disappear and start a new life leaving both her and my children behind. It stinks a lot and I hate that feeling.
Man the only thing to do is leave id she is entertaining other men she doesnt respect you amd once youve lost her respect the relationship will never work 🤷🏾🤷🏾🤷🏾
With due respect sir may I know how many times we should ignore n move on n for how many years....
I'm going through this right now.. we live together and I broke up with him. Cause of his emotional affair as far as know its still going on. We were having some problems in the bedroom.. he is in his mid 50's. And I was very understanding.. I knew something was off cause he was very distant.. so I found out he is talking and texting some other woman that lives in a different state he says.. I love him and i thought he loved me.. but i guess everything was a lie. Not sure what to do cause i cant afford to move and neither can he.
My boyfriend of 10 years and I are currently experiencing this issue. I found him emotionally cheating on me with a coworker/having lunch with her a few times. We are in counseling right now and really trying to work through our insecurities. I think the hardest part for me is triggers that remind me of what he did. It could be as simple as hearing a song on the radio. We are in a better place than we were when it first happened but the triggers are still there which force me to seek reassurance from him (which is unrealistic). What can we do about triggers and trauma reminders?
Thank you for sharing your story. I'm happy that you and your boyfriend are counseling. Please visit www.withmyexagain.com/coaching/ so that we can help you more on a personal level.
Coach Adrian
What did you end up doing? I am going through this situation right now and it's crushing
i told him
to stop, and he didn’t. i feel as if he is too self-centered to see how this hurts me
selfish narc let him ride he thinks grass greener on other side comes back to you SLAM THAT DOOR!
Husband did this with my manager at my business . He's remorseful but she avoids me. I asked her if there nothing going on show me the texts,she said its an invasion of her privacy. My husband and I are working on us. Selling my business and moving forward.
I’m so miserable. I know he’s calling her and that’s why he’s ignoring me. But I’m not gonna leave cuz last time I left him my life was hell. I need him to be happy but he hurts me so much. God please make him change make him loyal I can’t do this anymore bro
Don’t ask god to change him. Change yourself and stop being codependent. At this point you’re choosing this pain.
Just found out that my boyfriend for almost a year is using tinder when he was overseas and ive seen the messages where he calls them “babygirl” “beautiful” and other sweet things. It hard to make a decision because on how things was so great well, as i thought it was but right now i dont know what to do or what to even say to him. Its heart breaking. And this shouldn’t happen to ppl that gives everything for their partners.
I tend to overthink a lot of things my girlfriend does that to me is suspicious and it quickly upsets me and once I tell her what I'm upset for she argues with me like I'm the problem and she doesn't care how I feel about anything she does so I just keep quiet and hold it all in
where we can see all this seminars?
My partner has been doing this on and off for 6 years..He deletes messages.. It hurts and trust is gone yet otherwise our relationship in every other way is great..I have a hard decision to make.
Thank you for reaching out, Jo. Please watch this video. www.withmyexagain.com/blog/on-and-off-relationship/
Coach Adrian
thanks . gud advice
You're welcome, Julian!
Coach Adrian
Thank you god that helped
5:55 I’ve just found messages on my husbands phone, saying that he is calling regularly with another woman and she seem a to be showing signs of affection, in the tx, and she has also added a kiss emoji to one of his tx . Am I being ott
My wife has been doing it for a year. Wish I could get a printout.
My husband since 6 months...i know his password i sneaked and forwarded to my phone... and read caught him red handed he denied but... all sad later...
@@veenakakade2833 how do you forward the messages to the phone?
@@veenakakade2833 lol i took my husbands phone late at night destroyed it took everything out deleted #;s, changed them added diff #s has no inernet ect! screen shot names& #s. i also called everyone off his phone they thought it was him then i went and sand blasted the womens #;s on his phone saying why are you calling my husband and texting? we been married over 30 yrs ,, i tracked them down and had him come for a ride he had no idea, we approached womens homes he started to sqiggle u asked why ya so jumpy? i had him and me ring the doorbell 1 woman comes out and says my husbands name i said oh looky looky hes married ya wench im his wife! ( i forgot to mention i had set these women up to meet at there homes with me and him) HES NEVER TOUCHED HIS PHONE! I will however be rechecking it ... 1 more shot he goes bye bye!!
I really need advice ... My bf who is the love of my life .. I know he deeply loves too .. But he is talking to this woman more and more he has been. Totally honest with me and has said they have flirty banter but between friends ... Its totally broke me I've been up all night and he said he's spoken to her more these past few days while he's on nightshift
I caught my wife not only texting her ex but also calling him 10 to 25 some days more. My wife's ex Everytime they communicate Protection from abuse orders come upon me. I tried more then several times to communicate it hurts she still deals with her ex on a everyday basis what could I do when I know it may happen this Thursday afternoon when they meet up in Camden at the Walter rand Transportation center in Camden
I wish I could post everything but I can’t. She might see it and family might see it. It’s hard
My spouse I feel is almost “overwriting” deeply felt emotions she’s gained for me in just over two years of our relationship. And with us now long distance (pending a marriage visa), this betrayal of trust I broke will be difficult. It’s hard to convince her “I’ve learned my lesson “ or “If not caught, what else would have happened”.
Thank you for reaching out. I understand the pain you're going through. Rebuilding trust in a relationship after it's broken takes time. Please take a look at this video to understand how to rebuild trust in your relationship.
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Coach Adrian
This happened to me after falling into a deep depression after losing two family members within months apart. I never stopped loving her but we became distant. Part that hurts is she blamed me for her emotional affairs & lied too me.
Just hurts bc for a while I felt like something wasn’t right but didn’t act on it & became complacent.
man we are in the almost exact situation , how's the relationship now i see this was 10 months ago?
@@Commenttrolle I see yours is 11months Old. I'm in same situation. This happened 3yr ago. Got back together, life has gotten better I thought. I am a ass and I'm not affectionate but I'm loyal truthful and hard working. Just found out she's talking to men online. Making dance tiktoks for them and with the intent to hurt me since I hate them. She said she shouldn't of done it. But my actions caused it. I'm to blame...... apparently
@@Commenttrolle what happened with you? 😢
Gotta disagree
I don't think you should question what you did to get betrayed at all
I mean I'm attracted to any woman with a nice body
If I'm in a committed relationship relationship that means nothing to me no matter what my partner and I are going through
If I do cheat it's because I want to period
Well I caught my boyfriend on my birthday texting with another girl on Facebook. He tried to hide it. When I grabbed his phone he said oh do not look it is your birthday possibly knowing he is guilty. Well they are still chatting as best friends. I confronted the girl she said she got boyfriend. They were basically having wild flirting texting. He was calling her wild cat and saying she needs man like him to bring her up. They know each other basically over month and he was still trying to defend their "friendship". Now he wants to come back. He also told me his live won't stop without me when I was wondering why is he going out with his friends while I was in shambles. Lol. He also ghosted me when he promised he will call me to make plans under the pretext of sudden visit of his friends. He managed all of this in one week and he is wondering why I am not happy. :D
@Jakedaquake hello can you help me please i found out my fiance was texting with other guy she was exchanging pics when i found out i fought with her and said tell me all truth she told me all things she also told me she talked with another guy too just out of curiosity or flirting but she loves me i know that, she beg me to not end relationship and promised me she won't do it again, she is just 18 years old i think she did it because of immaturity she has big regart also, now this thing is hitting me very hard what should i do? Should i forgive and trust her again i also love her very much don't want to loose her
I found my boyfriend texting guys he used to date in the past yrs. The first day I left the whole day he came home from work for around and hour and I found 2 clean towels wet and stained. He claimed he blew his nose with one. He is coming home earlier and leaving his job hours earlier. So I don’t really know what time he’s getting out of work. He says he likes me but still is not in love. Been together for 3 months. He tells me he better not find out I was with someone else. He used to go the park on Sunday’s since I stopped attending church he has gone anymore. I suspect he’s cheating. He’s asks how can I love him if I don’t trust him? Every time he gets angry he tells me to leave and when I start walking out he locks the doors cries and begs me not to leave. He says I am drama cause I don’t believe him. I love him very much and don’t know what to do. Can you please help me. I don’t want to hurt myself. He swears crying he has not cheated once and that I should trust him.
So, my boyfriend of the year that I moved in with, I’ve caught him on websites, commenting on girls things like “you’re stunning” “ looking amazing as always” also posting pictures of him with his shirt off at the beach and getting comments back and saying things like “you like Lisa“. I feel like it’s more of attention for him and he admits that it’s an addiction. his past growing up he watched his parents cheat on each other, and then his marriage of 28 years was a life of swinging,it didn’t happen a lot, but they did it. He’s always been one to comment on other girls in front of me even say “can we bring her home“. But since I’ve lived with him which I’m trying to use that as the starting point of when this started, twice I’ve caught him on social media doing these things, I was married for 30 years and we both had long marriages and he is a really good man. He is very good to me and I find everything in him that I expected in my next partner except for this. I’m very forgiving and I take very good care of myself, and I’m very attentive to him, those are definitely not the issues. I don’t bring up the subject I’m not the type of girl that likes to complain all the time about what he did wrong but at the same time I feel like it might be getting swept under the rug. I go to bed at night sometimes and all I can see is these things he said to other women and am I going to spend another five years with someone at my age of 54 and I have to finally break it off and now I’m four years into something that didn’t work and I’m very scared and don’t know what to do. I will say that he has shut down some of the sites and the others that are still open He doesn’t interact with openly what he’s doing behind the door I don’t know.
Girlfriend is a bartender and has a crush on one of her customers. She told me she was texting him. But she denied it many times prior when I had a sense of it.
go with gut! never steers us WRONG💯
He's blowing loads in her eye
Cheating is the onus of the cheater, period. Do NOT tell the cheated on spouse it is their fault.
I gave her the option to be with them over the cheating and then said im moving to Atlanta with or without you and she realized she fucked up and cried but I realized that I wasn't spending time with her and my daughter and was just focused on the money and I was thinking that money
i have a issue i want to change i hurt her an thats not what i wanted to do ive done it more than once an trying to get rid of the nasty habit of mines. i know we belong together an i know we can make it work. but i leave myself to vulnerable to others an made it is easy for myself to go outside my relationship for emotional support from others. I really need help
Guys I need y’all opinion I recently saw texts messages of my boyfriend with other girls he apologized and he dose a lot for me and I don’t understand why he would do something like that to me we have arguments but not to the point where it gets really bad I gave him a second chance but I just can’t forget about it I can’t forgive him I see him differently my trust for him was at a 100 now 0 I love him a lot but I don’t know what to do
I'm in the same boat ...he says he's sorry and it won't happen again yet it still continues. I understand where your coming from.I have been thinking about just letting him go because I don't think I can get over this .That is a hard decision tho .your not alone .
People who lie cheating are coward those fake ass. I don't get why get married if you going to brake someone hart. Also adding i know how it feels and is disgusting when someone tells you they love you and stab you in the back. I'm learning to love myself more and I learn that I cam keep my head high but the one who cheat can't cause coward do things hiding sharing there body. The temple of God nooo they should go to jail. Cause if you not gonna be loyal don't get married or tell the truth if they want you like that so be it but. I know everything has am expiration date amen God bless you all
Cheating is Cheating. I have ask him over n over how can I make it better n he gets mad as heck n tells me to just shut up ! So I'm looking for someone else if I ever find this out again. I've been so good to him n he is just anyways you get the point.
I need help with speaking with my wife on how I truly believe we are compatible and can make this work. I made a huge mistake and I'm remorseful but she doesn't believe it. What do I do? I want to fight for my wife and marriage.
This is hard to say and it’s also humiliating for me. I saw text messages on her iwatch between my wife and Father. Inappropriate text messages and something was sent on Snap chat but I couldn’t prove that one. When I went to show her she erased it from her phone and the messages were gone. I confronted her and she denied it all and said where is your proof.... I no longer speak to my father and I know they talk but I can’t prove anything. I’m broken hearted inside and ask myself is my marriage , home, 8 yr old daughter worth braking up.... it’s so hard I don’t sleep at night and I feel hatred and anger and I’m lying to myself within... I’m confused. Wish I had someone to talk to... Any one with advise or where to talk with anyone with same experiences? Thank you
If you know you saw those text messages and she is pretending to make you feel crazy. Then talk to her, tell her if she wants to work things out. She what she tells you. If she continues yo denies it and you don’t see no change in her then best to leave. Your daughter will always be your daughter, just try to be the best dad you can to her and don’t fight with wife over visitations or anything if you do leave. All those arguments with the exes only affect the children not the parents..
I hope you heal. Its tough.
that all sound great.....but not if they refuse any type of counseling..........
Right smh at that point leave. Have some self respect and self love.
But if the person use harse words and wants to hurt you physical and emotional but does not want to take the first step to ask for a divorce or move out of the house?
In my situation my wife was taking to a guy she works with. It started off flirting then it led to texting over facebook with pictures being sent and then I got suspicious and I checked the phone plan text messages and noticed a number I didn’t know and figured out after confronting her she was talking to another man. She swears there was no sex and she is very remorseful but if I never saw the texts it wouldn’t have stopped in my opinion and that is the question I have and can’t ever be answered. We r seeking counseling now but that’s where i’m at now.
My husband has been texting other women for twelve years, some were inappropriate. Emotional affairs most definitely. He laughs when i cry and says im being jealous and insecure. I want a divorce, but terrified of losing our son 50 percent of the time. I dont know how parents do the visitation thing it seems painful i dont know if i could handle it. A summer where my son is gone away from me... Its hard . If we didn't have a kid together i would have already left.
Found out my fiance was in touch with a guy for a very long time, I had made it clear that I was bothered with this guy a long time ago and I thought they were not talking anymore. It turned out that she was lying to me for almost 8 months. she was remorseful for the first 2-3 days after I found out but then whenever I wanted to talk about it she started snapping at me. I had to call it out. Still don't know if I did the right thing, Not blaming her blaming myself mostly. it is the worst position a man could find himself in. Good luck to whoever is going through the same.
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Good luck 😄😄
It's a horrible feeling 😞
And what if you try to communicate, he fights with me ,so turns to female friend for advise.?
Exactly! And then sticks up for the female friend which makes my feelings worthless.
This is horrible advice to justify a cheating spouse. No way dude
I need help... Can anyone ?😣
sure can let me know are you punhabi? no offense i like all differnet nationaloties
Ok so this did not happen once I confronted him once when I found out about him talking to others girls, and how it made me feel....and he did tell me he is not going to stop on my be half? But would hear me out, So I said ok to see how far he would take this situation. And the next day after I see on his phone he sexting not texting??? S.O.S what does this mean. I have been distance a few months of not being committed in bed or show affection due to not working and moving place to place?
grey rock!
bro...i was abroad for my works for some days 2 months...my wife was in my native country...so that time i could not contact properly with her...so that time a guy used to text her and give her call..she also replied..and enjoyed that..bt it was not any relationship..just she felt good.. because that guy showed her yhat he cares her..he gave her call in every hours..and at late night...my wife aldo felt attractions for him..after i came back.. everything stops..and one day i came to know about this matter..now i am depressed..what should i do now??? plz help...🥺🥺🥺..plzz
Thank you for reaching out, AL. I understand what you're going through.
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I can’t get her to communicate with me she just flips every thing into where it’s all my fault my problem and I need to deal with it not her but I thought I was able to talk with your spouse when You have issues like when you’re sad she doesn’t care when you’re in a good mood and happy she gets angry to ruin it it’s like she’s doing every thing she can to make my life miserable
Its happening to me right know
What must i do now
My husband and I have been happily married 4 a long time but, now R jobs has us separated for 6 days out of the week for over a 23mos. period. He says that he is Truly lonely and has encountered a young woman 2 mentor, he shared this with me after a cpl days of texting with her. How do I handle this? Please help b4 this goes/ gets out of hand!
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My question is what if you were texting a friend of the opposite sex to get some advice because your spouse kept talking about other people who they were with from their past and it seems that all they would do is talk about the people they dated in the past way more than they talk with you about yell current marriage.....now have you, there are no sexual or explicit content in the text to the friend or anything and they are just letting the friend know about the problem and want some advice....is that emotional cheating or just needing to get advice?
...and If you both know that there aren't any feelings between the two of you, I'd say it just advice and not emotional cheating.
My man been texting alot of girls and one is his ex he stayed night at her house last weekend bc we had no where to sleep while we was put of town then next morning I seen text between then that was not appropriate
What if they know eachother in person...
Sir my partner is having a constant emotional txtning /sexting with her businese partner.. even late at night they still talk
I'm sorry but the whole they did it because they didnt get attention from me is bullshit. Would the same thing apply if I didnt get sex from my significant other for a week. Would that be okay?
no offense try marriage for 30 yrs and after 20 it stops! cause i caught mine cheating on fb made a fake acc and he didnt know it was me lol BUSTED! he dont want nothing to do with internet cause i destroyed it !! ( his phone) i check periodically any thing strange aka denis turned out to be denise!! good lock bud
Hi, my wife of 8 years had an emotional affair for 2 months. I found out. And we are trying to work through it. I feel like I want it to work more now. And I feel terrible about the feelings I have because of her texts, my imagination keeps running to the worst situation because I didn't read all the messages. I know I'm at fault for a lot of how she feels but I'm trying to make her feel happy again. But it feels like I'm putting in all the effort. Am I fighting a losing battle ? How do I stop looking for reassurance from her that she's getting back to feeling in love with me ? When I don't see the same coming back from her as much as I'd want ? Please help. Worried I'm messing this all up and it'll break our family up
I know how you feel. It's so hard. I'm going through something similar. My wife has apologized for very inappropriate texting with someone but it feels like it's never enough. I just want her to feel the pain I do. We'll get through this somehow.
You aren't going to find reassurance through her. There is nothing she can do or say that will make you feel better. You are currently obsessing over the relationship due to a lack of trust. It all starts with you and ends with you. Remember this. Do your best. If she decides to stop fighting, then you still have yourself, and you will be fine. Love yourself first. I am currently going through the same thing right now. I was a real dirt bag to my wife in our past and she expressed deep regret over talking with another guy who weasled his way into her life and gave her an outlet that I wasn't giving her. All you can do is work on being a better man every day, not just for her but for yourself. And if you both want the relationship to work, then by all means, do it. You come first, my friend, and your life will move on with or without her. It's hard to say, but our partners are just that...our partners. I love my wife to death and I would kill for her but if she decided she didn't want to be with me than fuck it ill move on.
And remember, Mr. Perfect does not exist.
I'll be here if you need to talk.
@@Jakedaquake hello can you help me please i found out my fiance was texting with other guy she was exchanging pics when i found out i fought with her and said tell me all truth she told me all things she also told me she talked with another guy too just out of curiosity or flirting but she loves me i know that, she beg me to not end relationship and promised me she won't do it again, she is just 18 years old i think she did it because of immaturity she has big regart also, now this thing is hitting me very hard what should i do? Should i forgive and trust her again i also love her very much don't want to loose her
My wife sends kiss face emojis to her male friend and when he would say I love you to her via text she would respond with “I love you more” she claims that they dated once in 9th grade and they never slept together. So what shall I do?
Get up and leave and if she pursues you act casual and hard to get… work on yourself become a better person for yourself and you might want to come back to her or not want her anymore. She needs to stop this behavior bc she definitely is cheating atleast emotionally
I would never put up with such level of disrespect. If my husband crosses my boundaries and im being disrespected I’m out. I don’t have time to be waiting for someone to start acting like an adult.
My partner is txtin a lad that has txt her everyday since aug...and she's goin to invite him round after lockdown...she's told me I'm jealous..no I'm not I'm angry
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This is tough
my wife was having a emotional affair...I hope its over...i dont know for sure...I've confronted him...he says nothing happened but i have recording proof....he is married and begged me not to tell his wife....but my marriage is a constant fight...I'm mad at the world...I cant sleep....I really feel like his wife needs to know....I feel she deserves to know...and like I said idk if its over....they can just be sneakier....advice please???
Thank you for reaching out out, Jessica.
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Tell the wife! Lies live in darkness. Shine the light.
I can’t stand the fact he works physically with other woman , it will bother me forever in any way I see it “ he can switch the job but I don’t want to change his choice so stuck with this 😞 it’s hard because I have no control over it he’s gone all day and when he comes home I treat him bad at times and I’m angry inside with visions in my head that are probably wrong wasted energy I feel tired mentally and physically I’m pretty and smart I don’t like to feel this way it’s like my ego wants to destroy me and tell me he’s doing wrong for working so close to woman 👩 plz help me someone
Ugh girl. You're so not alone. I totally empathize with you. I actually thought I was the only one who felt like this. Driving myself nuts thinking if any one of the females are close enough to smell his body heat and if he thinks the chick smells good if it evokes anything within him when he passes by or talks to whoever she is. I'm right there with you.
I’m in the same place with my wife and her boss
Yeah it sucks, but as women we fought so hard to be able to work with men, now look at the pain, divorce and kids being destroyed by women and men working so close together. They are walking into a a pool of temptation everyday all day. It's disturbing but no body cares! Everyone just allows it to be so.... I guess we just have put up with it.
I believe in a lot of cases. People do things because lack of communication and attention or either there spouse is playing them repeatedly for no reason. So their Subconscious mind feel as if they are not being loved. So they communicated and that’s all it will be. Not trying to enter into another relationship at all. Because the spouse never understood what states they put them in. But only if there partner take the time to give them good communication and understanding and spending a lot of time will heal All wounds. Just stop the lies and physical cheating. Trust will resurface. Be blessed
my partner has messaged a guy saying she liked him and want to know if he likes him.
But saying she loved me.
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This is nonsense, I felt depressed in this relationship he done nothing was financially unstable and I didn’t go talk to another man.Its a no no.
Just get out and leave it’s not your fault.
What do i do if my wife is giving out her numbers to guys she doesnt know on Facebook failing to see reasons
red flag run dude!!
I have a fance .he does not talk on his phone in front of me..he told me who he talk to does not be anything to do with me.l have to learn to mine my benisses .he go to the toilet to ans his phone or ans his phone in the bedroom and I can't hear nothing he said to his friends
hes texting turns off all sounds bust the damn door down say who are you talking to then if u cant be honest theres the door!
Mine always talks to his mates on speaker, but the female friend is never on speaker, he goes outside and talks quiet.
is there any AA online meeting for husbands? i would like to join one. feel im slowing dying
Hi Casam,
Please click on the following link:www.aa.org/pages/en_US/options-for-meeting-online
This should help you find what you are looking for.
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My husband will not end the online relationship with the woman he has had an online affair with for 5 years. I am not sure what to do. He stated she will be upset and her father is dying.
Leave him.
@@carnivoreRon can u say narcassist?
Relationships couple happy Christmas boyfriend people Thanks Family home
If she had been a good wife he wouldntt have been a friend of mine. Thats all we are.
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Ridiculous advice and basically saying “you could be at fault for her cheating”..
Dumb as hell, they have an option to leave as well not cheat
You can not forgive a cheater, because a cheater will never forgive you. Just cut the cable off and move out.
easier said than done esp if married over 30 yrs
In other words, what did you do to make them cheat?
Women have 0 Reason or Accountability.
I cheat by texting another girl, my gf found out that is was 2 years ago and now she want to end everything which i regret texting that other girl cause I was mad it like I wanted attention but I knew I was wrong at the end of the day , I’m telling her that sorry and letting her know that I was wrong and all I want is us to work together through this but it like she hurt that I did that and she just want to end things like I don’t know what to do I need help I don’t want to lose her cause I know she the one I just need help
My husband said it was just for fun and all men play. We are married a long time and have 11 kids. I'm so hurt and he doesn't care. First he texted girls on Facebook 2 years ago. He promised that he would stop. Now asking Uber driver for phone number and texting them and asking them if they want to go eat in the restaurant. when I ask him he says I don't remember. Our youngest is 5 months old. I'm so so so hurt
How’s your relationship now? Did your girl give you another chance?
@akiremorales21She threw him in the Atlantic ocean sorry.