TO BEAT OR NOT TO BEAT YOUR KIDS || CONTROVERSIAL OPINION || Parenting Alphas S1E7 || Soila & Curtis
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African mother's way to say sorry:
Siwewe nimechapa nimechapa makosa😅
It's also good to tell your children why you have punished them. After beating them don't go silent try to strike a conversation with them or engage with them.
Exactly! Communication is key! Punishment without communication is just abuse.
The extent of trauma and socialization we have as Kenyans highly reflects on the discipline measures effected,most believe in punishment first, sprinkled with anger and marinated in verbal abuse
This is the unfortunate truth. And especially so because its a vicious cycle passed down from one generation to another.
My mum’s beating was abuse. It adversely affected my relationships when i became older. I knew violence was the only way to be heard. When i think about it, i always shed a tear! I am not a parent yet, but please if you need some time to heal before getting babies, please do and get therapy 🙏
Interesting! 😅 Rhemani could distract himself from the temptation. Praying he turns out an amazing young adult someday. Good job wazazii😊
Thank you for your prayers Gladys.
You guys handled this sensitive topic very well. Self control and emotional awareness is key in my view. We need to consider the age of the child and their personality type when deciding what type of discipline to met out. My son is a pleaser and sensitive so I chose time outs and talking rather than spankings. I only spanked him maybe 3 times in his life and now he's a well adjusted adult. The only times I spanked my child were when he did things with friends that he knew were wrong. Like breaking the water meter glass or sneaking up on the neighbours house. Some kids however have different personality types and also carry different spirits. Like the spirit of kindness, boldness, jealousy, envy, entitlement, consideration, empathy, people pleasing, servitude, others have psycopathic tendencies that cause them to harm animals, pets, other children and to be destructive. This is what makes disciplining especially for step parents a challenge. Loved the studio set up and your babies are growing so fast and beautiful. 🎉❤ congratulations 🎊
Love this! ❤
Balanced and whole 👍
I love this video. Very eye opening. It just hit me I wasn't disciplined much as a child and I see my daughter doesn't need much disciplining as well. She listens well ❤
The intro is lovely! Good job guys 👍
Thank you Eddah.
On Kitt's channel her mom asked "if you practise gentle parenting, why are the kids not gentle?" 😂 I personally think it depends with the child. There are some who respond to beating others respond to other forms of discipline anyway I am waiting for your opinion on this.
That's a really good question. I beleive every form of parenting when taken to the extreme can be detrimental. Whether it's gentle parenting or a stricter one.
😂😂😂😂 don't bite the child according to the words you speak 😂😂😂 ohh my God so true
I cant express how hard I laughed on this one!! Love this
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This was an interesting one today..... beating the child with the amount of words coming out of your mouth 🤣🤣🤣🤣we have heard...thank you teo beautiful souls
Thank you for watching love.
I watched a video by Celestine with paediatrician Dr. Wachira where he explained that there are things children learn faster from their fathers or father figures being present compared to their mothers because they view mum as first a source of food and comfort and it's hard for them to see past that to learn things. Hence why fathers are needed to step in and bridge that gap and teach those things. I hope I'm making sense
A lot of sense actually! Thank you for this insight. I love it!
I am one whose mum used to cane as she talked😂😂😂😂. Thanks for sharing guys 😊
That is me beating while speaking😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
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I was sweating those 5mins were the longest 😂😂 good job Mani ❤ 👏
He made it. 😄
The conversation is profound ❤
Thank you Becky.
Great work there! This is taken me down memory lane hilariously. With my Level 5 curiosity, I'm grateful my mother administered spanking. My father on the other hand never lay a finger on me which I've never understood. This phenomenon is shared also amongst my friends where we wonder, are mothers generally responsible for spanking?
Hey Briano. Yeah, it happens like that at times. I also think discipline is also dependent on the personality of the parents. Sometimes one tends to be more of a disciplinarian than the other.
love, love how you tackled this topic. Nuggets of wisdom here🙂
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 this was fun!
The number of words part 😂😂😂😂😂
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I used to say I will be doing timeouts with mine it felt the safest according to me 😂😂 let's say we are learning 😂😂....love the whole aspect of discipline and discipleship 😊
Sometimes you keep trying until you settle on the right one.
I've loved this ❤
And laughed hard as well 😅😅
Not close to being a parent yet, but I'm glad I've learnt this now.
29:16 Awww good bou🎉
Aki Curtis is so extraaaaa😂😂😂😂😂😂.I have been struggling with th8s discipline thing...but i hope to figure it out soon
😂😂 You gat this!
@@SoilaandCurtis Thank you
For me I wasn’t caned
Though my siblings were 🤭
I was somehow very agreeable personality wise from a young age and also I was aware how conflict looks like and I was sure I never wanted to be on the other side of the consequences
Mostly for me a talk would help and I didn’t need canning for direction which my parents didn’t use but they did discipline my siblings
Love this conversation and thank you for welcoming us to your beautiful home ❤️
God bless
This makes plenty of sense and describes how different kids require different approaches. Thank you for this.
Ooh Rhemani
This 👏🏾 is 👏🏾 good 👏🏾
To beat.
Hahaha
Relationship is key❤️❤️
Yeii to the Marshmallow challenge 🎉🎉🎉..
I usually talk when i spank 😅😅😅😅..i will stop..
Awesome video kama kawaida..
Hahahaha. Let us know how it goes.
Hehehe wow this is so interesting.....learning so much....wah my dota has a strong personality we apply all the discipline measures depending on the issue.....really applied the one of them choosing the punishment and I can say there is a great change .....on discipline.....wow learning about rewarding....
Curtis that one for words when beating had me in stitches....😂😂😅😅😂😂
Curtis you have the facts 😅😅 that part of beat a child while talking yo him or her 😅😅😅😅😅love l this video
But growing up i experienced such harsh beating being the first born and being blamed for my sister's mischievousness cause i was the first born hata akiumia nachapwa it was so bad. But verbal abuse was much worse, i think for me when it'll come to disciplining my kids ill just use words unless a cane is needed and also jold each child accountable for their misgivings.
But i agree with discipleship,its very key and eye opening.❤
Nice episode caning is good slippers
Am a culprit beating while talking 😂😂😂
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Wueh!! I was beaten proper, intact abused but God
Even in school, we were beaten abused but we turned out okay however, I have realised that my nieces, nephew and little beasties fear me coz am harsh. This reality has changed the way I interact with them. My behaviour to them was moulded by the way I was brought up.
Am afraid to use the marshmallow test on mine😅
I should sue someone venye i was beaten growing up not only by my mom buh hata my unties and uncles wah trauma...now i dodnt even know what to do about my baby😭🥺
My baby girl will eat when being fed by the dad buh with me it's always a tussle woah I relate
Aki vile tuliundwa na maneno😂😂😂...mpaka shule banaa😂😂😂
Kwanza hiyo ya kula kwa neighbor kaaai...imagine niliacha😂😂😂ama nikikula i would make sure i leave space for food for momma😂😂
One time i was called to a neighbor's home(watoto wa ploti😂haloo) so i was given chapatti and there was always this competition in plots and moms mmoja akipika chapo mwingine ndio huyo😂..and u know kids love chapos i mean...😂.
Sasa wacha this one time vile nimeandika nikaitiwa chapo in my close friends' home sasa tulikua tunaishi juu ya balcony so their house was under,mom calls🌚mom knows where i am🌚mom looks over window 🌚 daughter is tensed🥺daughter has hot chapo in hand😂daughter decided to put hot chapo in between shirt and short😂daughter is burning 😢daughter rushes home😂mom beats daughter in rythtmic pattern(ni🥿li🥿ku🥿a🥿mbi🥿a🥿 a🥿je🥿)😢...Chapati falls down due to pain💔mom sees🌚mom angry🌚mom says to finish chapo and stay home😂mom cooks❤daughter is full😂daughter cant eat..momma gives me bombastic side eyes🌚daughter has to eat😂😂😂 waah.