Jay, it’s interesting to Review this information. Not very long ago I ended a 14 year relationship which for 9 of those years we were engaged. Our first year we read the book together and we were able to recognized our love languages. To me it was very obvious he was a solid words of affirmation. He became overwhelmed through out the years because he thought I was all of them, to which I still don’t agree. To make a long story short what I have found after 8 months of introspection is that: 1) even though I knew that i underestimated how much he needed, 2) when you can’t read the other person and think that what they need is what you think they need and therefore love him/her the way you want to be loved it creates a dissonance in the relationship and void, 3) through out the years your experiences may lead you into a path that may change your needs leading you to value other ways to be loved. This is if I started 14 years ago being a physical touch for example now after reflecting in the importance of being present in the days of so much distractions and work demands I am now a quality time person. What I mean is who you are and value may change along with your love language. Geraldine Thank you for giving your audience the time and help us grow.
I got a copy of the 5 Love Language on my birthday from my sister. I stored it away n found it one time n read through it. I can tell you. It is really an inspiring book. Simple and easy to understand with true stories from people to illustrate each languages written about. This is my 11th time to read the book. 1. Makes me realise why I am still single 2. Makes me understand why there r so many failed relationships, marriage failures, divorces and shattered family relationship. 3. Gives me knowledge on whom to choose as THE ONE. 4. Inspired me to cement n mend broken family ties. Life is awesome only if we not rush into emotional feelings but instead wisely choose the right path.
Why relationships are failing is extremely simple. There's no common goal. If you're going to the same place, there is almost never a reason to break up. It's because people stop going to the same place. Most likely because their kid starts being able to sort of take care of themselves and no longer link the need for a relationship. So they drift away, following their own personal goals that don't require their spouse. If there's no need to work together, there's no need to be together... It's that simple. I think it's being over complicated here. This whole love thing must really screw with people's sensibility. You can only try to please your partner for so long before you start feeling like you're not living true to your own self. Living for each other doesn't work because it's driven by the desire to keep the relationship and if there's no reason to keep the relationship then there is also no desire to keep it, obviously. You need to agree on common goals that you actually need each other in order to accomplish, such as raising a kid.
Then how do you explain that a lot of people are breaking up even when the kid(s) is (are) still young and still need(s) his(her) parents? They still have a reason to be together but they don't.
Easy! They don't care about the kid. The kid is seen as a liability rather than an opportunity to teach and assist. Or maybe they think the other person can raise them through that stage all by themselves, aka they're stupid. OR perhaps they do "love" the child but they love whatever they're excuse to leave is significantly more. Basically they either don't value their kid enough or they are misinformed about how much it takes to raise a child. There might be a reason to stay, but there's a bigger reason to leave. For those who are misinformed about the effort it takes- A child cannot be raised correctly by a single parent on child support, welfare, or constant work without care. That child will grow up screwy in some way or another. Two parents are practically needed at the beginning at the very least. Once they're old enough to understand, it might hurt their feelings, but at least they won't be an entitled savior of the earth who refuses to work, or various other possible problems.
So, it is sounds like you know alot about Relationships. So, Can I ask you, WHAT IT TAKES TO MAKE A HAPPY RELATIONSHIP ?? It is just the question, okay....🤗😀
1. Words of Affirmation and Quality Time were tied for 1st 2. Pysical Touch was in a close 2nd 3. Acts of Service 4. Recieving Gifts. It was so great to see more ways to see how to see someone else's love language and things you can do. Thanks for sharing all your videos and wisdom.!
1. affirmation through words 2. physical touch 3. gifts as top priority 4. quality time 5. acts of service - a small favor etc 2... 4... 5... My most important I think
1. Quality time. 2.acts of service. 3. Affirmation. 4. Physical touch. And well I'm always into giving ppl things but never really been given anything at all! But if there was someone who had given me a gift then I would be quite surprised as to the fact that someone really went out of there way for me!.. which is highly rare!
All of these words are important in a relationship but the most important of all is 'quality time'. It is because spending time together is something valuable and irreplaceble.
I am all 5 love talk. I love to touch and hold.I love do things for my mate and to people too. i want to be together and do things together and give them space if they want it.. My mate love gifts.I love build people up not tear them down all the time it hurt them and hurt you too. I want to be good to my mate and everyone too. I don't want anyone abuse me in my life. thank you . very much reading this. god bless all of you.
What if you are all 5? I love quality time when there are geuinine exchanges of words of affirmation and affection. Receiving gifts that are thoughtful and kind always make me happy. Physical touch being used for love, care and affection makes me extremely happy. But so does acts of service, like when my partner notices what chores I do and does small thing to make it easier on me. Like putting his laundry in the basket ready to go, or carrying the basket to the laundry, or putting dishes away and putting all the condiments of the kitchen away so it's all tidy so I wont have to spend more time doing that and can instead spend quality time with him. Is it possible to be all 5? My priorities exist between quality time, words of affirmation, and physical touch.... but I value acts of service and gifting just as much as if they were second priority. So if all 3 physical touch, words of affirmation, and quality time were my number 1 all together.... Acts of service and gifting would be my number 2. I'm unsure if it's weird or perhaps I'm just complex and different. But I love all those languages of love. Thanks for reading and thank you for any replies! -Angel
Hi Jay, love each and every one of your videos. Thanks for sharing your wisdom with all of us. watch each and every episode of weekly wisdom. Just want to add one more element to it that I learned from Prof. Clay Christensen of Harvard business school. He says that just like customers don't buy a product or services, they hire them to make progress in their life. They hire them to do certain jobs that they are struggling in their life. And we can also apply this principle in our relationships with our friends and families. if we ask ourselves "why would a girl/boy hire you as a girlfriend/boyfriend?" What progress are they trying to make in their life by hiring you as a husband/wife ?" Understanding this can help us to make a deeper long term meaningful relationships with our family, friends, our communities etc. I hope this information is helpful.
Sorry, Tracy, I can't able to explain it well. What I really mean is think for a second " Why do a boy/girl need a girlfriend/boyfriend? Why does someone need a wife/ husband? If we can understand why our friends/families need you/me in their life, we can make a better relationship with them. Understanding the "Why" is the most important thing. I hope this explain what was I trying to say earlier.
I think my ex girlfriend was the same type, our love was pure but my laguages were compleatly different. She just wanted me to spend time with her and be there for acts of service, I wanted her to support my passion in sports and encourage me to get better. We broke up still loving each other, but unable to be together.
An awesome video... I wish u uploaded this at least one month ago when I was struggling to make my relationship a successful one.. I wish I could make everything alright...😔😔..but I doubt now Quality time!!-1st priority
Can you please make a video about ''Must read books in your lifetime?" I really NEED recommendations please 😩 I want books that inspire and give you advice!! Books like the one Jay showed by Gary Chapman! That is fine
Books I need to buy: The alchemist The denial of death by Ernest Baker They say I say The myth of Sisyphus So you want to talk about race -ljeoma Oluo Scythe- Neal shusterman Bone by yrsa Afterland Mai der Vang The hand maids tell
Physical touch & Quality Time are honestly TIED for 🥇🏅🏆👏🏻 & then words of affirmation are second. Acts of service 3rd and then gifts last. I love your videos Jey!!!
IF you like physical touch don't go into a long distance relationship. I haven't see my long distance boyfriend over 2 years now. IT hurts you can't be together and touch each other and other thing too. THING twice before you get into it.. thank you..
Just don't let ur love fade away b'coz of any one out of these urge/want... Love truly and faithfully and one day all u need will come to u with never lasting happiness...😊😊
Hoping to meet you one day. You heals millions of hearts. Giving hope and inspiration. You know what you dont know how much you have contributed to entire humanity through your words of wisdom .
Nasser Al-momen uhm... that's not far fetched. I need quality time, to be touched, affirmation, i love when my partner does something nice for me, and especially feel loved if he buys me something i needed. So yes, i need all 5.
What he said is “get them into a bit of priority order so that you can understand yourself better”....He’s trying to get you to understand what kind of person you are, what is important to you, what do you require etc and then figure out why and then it can help you understand that maybe your partners priority is different from your own ....if that helps.😘
Take the test! We are all a combination of all 5, but the test helps you find your top #1 & #2, that's your most imp. For example, I.am 9 points in Acts of Service, but 11 in Physical Touch
What is crazy is that I read that book like 2 or 3 years ago, and it made so much sense in my head. I thought at the time my love language was words of value, but actually after a intense and heartbreaking relationship that ended last year, I understand now that my love language is gifts, because I bought my ex so much great gifts super accurate for him, and he was more into quality time.
Hello jay thank u for all ur videos.They really help me a lot.Please come to mumbai and do a meet up.We all want to meet u.I am very desperate to meet u.Lots of love from india.♥
My priorities 1. Quality time 2. Appreciation, Encouragement 3.physical touch 4. Gifts 5. I don't need any act of service for him His priorities (according to his activity) 1. Gifts 2. Physical touch 3.Appreciation, Encouragement 4. Acts of service 5. Quality time Thank you my relationship is not gonna work... Thanks for making that clear to me..
1. Words of affirmation (I have pretty bad social skills so reading from cues isn't exactly my strong suit) 2. Quality time 3. Acts of service 4. Physical touch 5. Gifts
Agreed Jay 👌👌 There's no perfect relationship Knowing the love language of your partner is gonna make the relationship work Thanks for sharing your wisdom 😍
1. Acts of service 2. Physical touch..... then I guess 🤔 3. Words of affirmation 4. Quality time (this one I’ll appreciate more once or son is all grown up) last for me is gifts but I do love a thoughtful gift especially if it shows you’ve been paying attention 🥰
I ended up buying all 3 books because it was like a lightbulb had switched on, it helped me work out what each of my children needed from me in order to feel loved and they all have a different love style! Revolutionary stuff because it applies to not just the intimate relationships but every relationship in ones life!
I found one of the best ways to find out someone's love language is asking them what is the best gift they've ever received/given? Or when they felt most loved by their loved ones. Few people will say I just liked how they showed up on my birthday (quality time), some might say my grandma wrote me a letter (words of appreciation), or 'I love it when someone surprises me at work with food' (gifts), they may recall the time when someone went out of their way to fix their car, or help them with a project (acts of service), people who's love language is Physical Touch is always affectionate (they hold your hand, get excited and grabs you, hugs you tightly, gives you a high five, fist bumps, etc).
Hi, Jay. I love how you break down things and explain them so well, with such effort. I know there are thousands of people showing love to you. But I thought, I wanted to thank you for taking the time and sharing all your ideas, experiences and stories with us, for helping thousands of people understand and realize things that we don't often do. Your words and the way you express them, makes me realize so much about myself and about alot of other things. Thankyou so much for all the hard works that you do for us. Your words has helped me alot in life and I wanted to let you know that. I know you probably wont even go through this comment, but that's okay. And, the book may have explained about the 5 languages, but I think there's one more type of person other than those 5, and those are the people who prioritizes loyalty over everything. Thought of sharing this, since I think, I fall into one of those people.
This is #1 most helpful thing I found, The 5 Love Languages! It was.life changing at the time! This is crucial for two equally important aspects: 1. Knowing yourself (when you understand your needs, you know what u r looking for, and what to stay away from - if u r high scores on Physical Touch, you need a cuddler, stay away if someone says they are not comfortable being touched) 2. Knowing the other person(when you understand ur partner u can give them what they need, vs what u r projecting they should be needing)
I think last time I took one of these tests I ranked number 1. For physical touch, tied at number 2 for quality time & acts of service followed closely by words of affirmation. Gift received zero... not that I don’t like gifts, I just get anxious w/ too much stuff so a gift has to be purposeful, meaningful, symbolic &/or functional w/o excess. I don’t want a barrage of presents on my birthday or on a holiday.... a book, a movie, art, something nerdy or handmade, I can use or wear or a gift card... and the occasional surprise is nice, but the my top 4 languages are the greatest gifts of all
1 and mostly 5 for me. For my boyfriend, he's 2 and 4. It's so true because we've had this talk before even watching this video. He mentioned not needing words to affirm love, but the acts that portray love. Meanwhile, I need words of affirmation sometimes. Since, we show we care for each other by affirming it in a way each other needs & understands. For this to go more in depth & provide types, I must give me kudos. 👏🏾
My love's LOVE LANGUAGE is words of affirmation! He experesses himself better through TALKING💎💌 I'd genuinely remind him how handsome he's! How goodhearted he's, how great son he's, how he takes care of his mother and deeply loves his sister, and how kind he's, even though it's hard for him to show out his kindness more often. Especially when he's going under pressure! Or frastration, when his bosses don't appreciate his loyalty and hard work. I'd always love to praise his authenticity and true passion towards his career, providing great service to people and take care of business for the corporate locally.
There is an unprecedented level of narcissism in the world today. Relationships need to be "others" centered & NOT "me" centered. We have to find someone who is a great friend first. Someone we genuinely enjoy being around even when there isn't anything significant taking place. We need to think well of the other person & NOT look for them to hurt us, cheat on us or do something that would be detrimental to the relationship. And we also need to have a shared purpose in life. When you both are unified through a daily goal that will keep your relationship close, intimate & full of joy. Achieving one common life goal together will give you a reason to show up each day & give 100% to the relationship.
1. Quality Time
2. Acts of Service
3. Physical Touch
4. Words of Affirmation
5. Gifts
Lol only slow people need lists like these, fuck relationshits.
Same
I have all 5❤😘
@@nefelibata4190 lmao
Same with me :)
1 quality time
2 words of affirmation
3 physical touch
4 acts of service
5 gifts
These are from the book, the "5 Love Languages" by Gary Chapman
"We accept the love we think we deserve."
Why most relationships fail? There are many NATURAL REASONS why relationship don't work. I share this in one of my videos on my channel😊
Mine is loyalty. If I am loyally thought about and it shows. I'm all good. Through thick and thin
It's basic in relationship often forgot by today's generation
Quality time; Words of affirmation; physical touch; service; gifts.
Jay, it’s interesting to
Review this information. Not very long ago I ended a 14 year relationship which for 9 of those years we were engaged. Our first year we read the book together and we were able to recognized our love languages. To me it was very obvious he was a solid words of affirmation. He became overwhelmed through out the years because he thought I was all of them, to which I still don’t agree. To make a long story short what I have found after 8 months of introspection is that: 1) even though I knew that i underestimated how much he needed, 2) when you can’t read the other person and think that what they need is what you think they need and therefore love him/her the way you want to be loved it creates a dissonance in the relationship and void, 3) through out the years your experiences may lead you into a path that may change your needs leading you to value other ways to be loved. This is if I started 14 years ago being a physical touch for example now after reflecting in the importance of being present in the days of so much distractions and work demands I am now a quality time person.
What I mean is who you are and value may change along with your love language.
Geraldine
Thank you for giving your audience the time and help us grow.
I agree totally. Nothing is set in stone. People change due to circumstances and we need to change with them.
I got a copy of the 5 Love Language on my birthday from my sister. I stored it away n found it one time n read through it. I can tell you. It is really an inspiring book. Simple and easy to understand with true stories from people to illustrate each languages written about. This is my 11th time to read the book.
1. Makes me realise why I am still single
2. Makes me understand why there r so many failed relationships, marriage failures, divorces and shattered family relationship.
3. Gives me knowledge on whom to choose as THE ONE.
4. Inspired me to cement n mend broken family ties.
Life is awesome only if we not rush into emotional feelings but instead wisely choose the right path.
Am definitely number
1. Physical touch and quality time matters most to me.
quality time >physical touch > acts of service>words of affirmation>gifts
•Quality time
•Act of service
•Words of affirmation
•Gifts
I need: quality time, affirmations, and physical touch.
1. Words of affirmation
2. Quality time
3. Acts of service
4. Physical touch
5. Gifts
Why relationships are failing is extremely simple. There's no common goal. If you're going to the same place, there is almost never a reason to break up. It's because people stop going to the same place. Most likely because their kid starts being able to sort of take care of themselves and no longer link the need for a relationship. So they drift away, following their own personal goals that don't require their spouse. If there's no need to work together, there's no need to be together...
It's that simple. I think it's being over complicated here. This whole love thing must really screw with people's sensibility.
You can only try to please your partner for so long before you start feeling like you're not living true to your own self. Living for each other doesn't work because it's driven by the desire to keep the relationship and if there's no reason to keep the relationship then there is also no desire to keep it, obviously. You need to agree on common goals that you actually need each other in order to accomplish, such as raising a kid.
Then how do you explain that a lot of people are breaking up even when the kid(s) is (are) still young and still need(s) his(her) parents? They still have a reason to be together but they don't.
Easy! They don't care about the kid. The kid is seen as a liability rather than an opportunity to teach and assist. Or maybe they think the other person can raise them through that stage all by themselves, aka they're stupid. OR perhaps they do "love" the child but they love whatever they're excuse to leave is significantly more.
Basically they either don't value their kid enough or they are misinformed about how much it takes to raise a child. There might be a reason to stay, but there's a bigger reason to leave.
For those who are misinformed about the effort it takes-
A child cannot be raised correctly by a single parent on child support, welfare, or constant work without care. That child will grow up screwy in some way or another. Two parents are practically needed at the beginning at the very least. Once they're old enough to understand, it might hurt their feelings, but at least they won't be an entitled savior of the earth who refuses to work, or various other possible problems.
So, it is sounds like you know alot about Relationships. So, Can I ask you, WHAT IT TAKES TO MAKE A HAPPY RELATIONSHIP ?? It is just the question, okay....🤗😀
Mirrors This is a very interesting and raw truth of your statement There is so much more to relationships than what is being mentioned. I agree.
I agree with what you said: "They have to be going to the same place."
1. Quality time
2. Words of affirmation
3. Gifts
1. Words of Affirmation and Quality Time were tied for 1st
2. Pysical Touch was in a close 2nd
3. Acts of Service
4. Recieving Gifts.
It was so great to see more ways to see how to see someone else's love language and things you can do. Thanks for sharing all your videos and wisdom.!
Words of affirmation then quality time, physical touch, then acts of service and last...gift giving!
5 types of love languages
1. words of affirmation
2. Love through touch
3. receiving gifts
4. spending quality time
5. acts of service
Jay good T-SHIRT printed as INDIAN 😁😁😁
Anish alter ..punjabi im thinking
It doesn't say anything. He has reached a different level, he has transformed. Learn!
That's what I noticed 😍😍
I want that t-shirt😅
A hug means more than anything to me. Doesn’t matter if its from a friend, family or other half. It shows love and care.
Acts of services. Quality Time. Vocal affirmations. Touch. Gifts
For me:
1. Touch & quality time
2. Verbal
3. Gifts
4. Favors
Quality time & Words of affirmation
1. affirmation through words
2. physical touch
3. gifts as top priority
4. quality time
5. acts of service - a small favor etc
2...
4...
5...
My most important I think
1. Quality time. 2.acts of service. 3. Affirmation. 4. Physical touch. And well I'm always into giving ppl things but never really been given anything at all! But if there was someone who had given me a gift then I would be quite surprised as to the fact that someone really went out of there way for me!.. which is highly rare!
1. Quality time
2. Words of affirmation
3. Physical touch
4. Act of service
5. Gifts
All of these words are important in a relationship but the most important of all is 'quality time'. It is because spending time together is something valuable and irreplaceble.
So you are number 4
thank u jay for all these inspiring and motivating videos
Important to you.
1. Acts of service
2. Quality time
3. Physical touch
4. Words of affirmation
5. Gifts
Quality time Jay!😊 Awesome video!❤
Quality time and words of appreciation means alot to me... :) ...you really explained things soo well... 💝😊
You can have that from a Casanova too.
1. Words of Affirmation
2. Physical Touch
3. Quality Time
4. Acts of Service
5. Gifts
1)Quality time
2)words of affirmation
3)Physical touch
4)Acts of sevice
5)Gifts
Please never stop these talks!! So very needed!!!
I am all 5 love talk. I love to touch and hold.I love do things for my mate and to people too. i want to be together and do things together and give them space if they want it.. My mate love gifts.I love build people up not tear them down all the time it hurt them and hurt you too. I want to be good to my mate and everyone too. I don't want anyone abuse me in my life. thank you . very much reading this. god bless all of you.
1) Physical touch
2) Words of affirmation
3) Quality time
4) Acts of Service
5) Gifts
1. Gifts
2. Acts of service
3. words of affirmation
4. physical touch
5. quality time
Physical touch and word of affirmation
What if you are all 5?
I love quality time when there are geuinine exchanges of words of affirmation and affection. Receiving gifts that are thoughtful and kind always make me happy. Physical touch being used for love, care and affection makes me extremely happy. But so does acts of service, like when my partner notices what chores I do and does small thing to make it easier on me. Like putting his laundry in the basket ready to go, or carrying the basket to the laundry, or putting dishes away and putting all the condiments of the kitchen away so it's all tidy so I wont have to spend more time doing that and can instead spend quality time with him.
Is it possible to be all 5? My priorities exist between quality time, words of affirmation, and physical touch.... but I value acts of service and gifting just as much as if they were second priority.
So if all 3 physical touch, words of affirmation, and quality time were my number 1 all together....
Acts of service and gifting would be my number 2.
I'm unsure if it's weird or perhaps I'm just complex and different. But I love all those languages of love.
Thanks for reading and thank you for any replies!
-Angel
Your voice and your every sentence are so meaningful❤️ keep going
Hi Jay, love each and every one of your videos. Thanks for sharing your wisdom with all of us. watch each and every episode of weekly wisdom. Just want to add one more element to it that I learned from Prof. Clay Christensen of Harvard business school. He says that just like customers don't buy a product or services, they hire them to make progress in their life. They hire them to do certain jobs that they are struggling in their life. And we can also apply this principle in our relationships with our friends and families. if we ask ourselves "why would a girl/boy hire you as a girlfriend/boyfriend?" What progress are they trying to make in their life by hiring you as a husband/wife ?" Understanding this can help us to make a deeper long term meaningful relationships with our family, friends, our communities etc. I hope this information is helpful.
bhola prasad Sorry, but that’s ridiculous!
Sorry, Tracy, I can't able to explain it well. What I really mean is think for a second " Why do a boy/girl need a girlfriend/boyfriend? Why does someone need a wife/ husband? If we can understand why our friends/families need you/me in their life, we can make a better relationship with them. Understanding the "Why" is the most important thing. I hope this explain what was I trying to say earlier.
I lyk it
1) Quality Time
2) Physical Touch
3) Acts of Service
4) Words of Affirmation
5) Gifts
Mine are in this order:
quality time
acts of service
words of affirmation
receiving gifts
physical touch
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I think my ex girlfriend was the same type, our love was pure but my laguages were compleatly different.
She just wanted me to spend time with her and be there for acts of service, I wanted her to support my passion in sports and encourage me to get better.
We broke up still loving each other, but unable to be together.
Thank you Jay.
1. Quality Time
2. Words of Affirmation
3. Acts of Service
4. Physical Touch
5. Gifts
1.words of affirmations
2.gifts
3.quality time
4.physical touch
5.acts of service
Jay are you an Indian? •-•
I'm getting positive vibes since I started watching your videos!
An awesome video... I wish u uploaded this at least one month ago when I was struggling to make my relationship a successful one..
I wish I could make everything alright...😔😔..but I doubt now
Quality time!!-1st priority
Life is nothing or everything it's you decided..... To how can deserve it
I am a person who wants affirmation... I always get those words of encouragement from brothers
This is great Jay .
Can you please make a video about ''Must read books in your lifetime?" I really NEED recommendations please 😩 I want books that inspire and give you advice!! Books like the one Jay showed by Gary Chapman! That is fine
Dale Carnegies book about stop worring changed my life :)
The Bible
Bible is the best book referred ever.
@@hunter1029016 your right 😇😇
Books I need to buy:
The alchemist
The denial of death by Ernest Baker
They say I say
The myth of Sisyphus
So you want to talk about race -ljeoma Oluo
Scythe- Neal shusterman
Bone by yrsa
Afterland Mai der Vang
The hand maids tell
2 and 4
me too XD
Wow You Simplified the most complicated thing.
Physical touch & Quality Time are honestly TIED for 🥇🏅🏆👏🏻 & then words of affirmation are second. Acts of service 3rd and then gifts last. I love your videos Jey!!!
Words of Afirmations, Quality Time, Receving Gifts, Touch, Acts of Service
Quality time ! amazing video jay
2
So... physical relationship?🤔🤔
What if it's a long distance relationship 😓😥😥
You don't need that.
IF you like physical touch don't go into a long distance relationship. I haven't see my long distance boyfriend over 2 years now. IT hurts you can't be together and touch each other and other thing too. THING twice before you get into it.. thank you..
@@barbarahammer9037 😓😓😓
Just don't let ur love fade away b'coz of any one out of these urge/want...
Love truly and faithfully and one day all u need will come to u with never lasting happiness...😊😊
@@parveenlathar9235 🌹🌹ok
Hoping to meet you one day. You heals millions of hearts. Giving hope and inspiration. You know what you dont know how much you have contributed to entire humanity through your words of wisdom .
I'm all... Now what???
Styleby Cre no human is everything. The question is to dig deep and understand what it is you truly want. What truly moves you
Nasser Al-momen uhm... that's not far fetched. I need quality time, to be touched, affirmation, i love when my partner does something nice for me, and especially feel loved if he buys me something i needed. So yes, i need all 5.
What he said is “get them into a bit of priority order so that you can understand yourself better”....He’s trying to get you to understand what kind of person you are, what is important to you, what do you require etc and then figure out why and then it can help you understand that maybe your partners priority is different from your own ....if that helps.😘
Hey the point here is to understand Wt ur partner is and do accordingly.
Take the test! We are all a combination of all 5, but the test helps you find your top #1 & #2, that's your most imp. For example, I.am 9 points in Acts of Service, but 11 in Physical Touch
quality time
1. Quality Time
2. Physical Touch
3. Act of Service
4. Words of Affirmation
5. Gift
What is crazy is that I read that book like 2 or 3 years ago, and it made so much sense in my head. I thought at the time my love language was words of value, but actually after a intense and heartbreaking relationship that ended last year, I understand now that my love language is gifts, because I bought my ex so much great gifts super accurate for him, and he was more into quality time.
Hello jay thank u for all ur videos.They really help me a lot.Please come to mumbai and do a meet up.We all want to meet u.I am very desperate to meet u.Lots of love from india.♥
Mangesh. ..mumbi? Sweet☺
Master n all those things!
Arun K
Agreed. A real relationship should balance all them together
My priorities
1. Quality time
2. Appreciation, Encouragement
3.physical touch
4. Gifts
5. I don't need any act of service for him
His priorities (according to his activity)
1. Gifts
2. Physical touch
3.Appreciation, Encouragement
4. Acts of service
5. Quality time
Thank you my relationship is not gonna work... Thanks for making that clear to me..
I need quality time. I just want him to give me that :')
I was thinking that you are Indian, Today your T-shirt said it..😇😇🇮🇳🇮🇳
1st apriciation 2nd physical touch 3rd quality time and 4rth gifts💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕
1. Quality Time
2. Physical Touch
3. Words of Affirmations.
4. Acts of Service
5. Gifts
4th
Indian 😁👌👍
WHO ARE TOM ALTER AND RUSKIN BONDS?? EXCATLEY
Words of affirmation
Physical touch
Receiving gifts
Quality time
Acts of service
1. Words of affirmation 2. Quality time 3. Acts of service Thanks, Jay!
1. Words of affirmation (I have pretty bad social skills so reading from cues isn't exactly my strong suit)
2. Quality time
3. Acts of service
4. Physical touch
5. Gifts
Agreed Jay 👌👌
There's no perfect relationship
Knowing the love language of your partner is gonna make the relationship work
Thanks for sharing your wisdom 😍
1. Acts of service 2. Physical touch..... then I guess 🤔 3. Words of affirmation 4. Quality time (this one I’ll appreciate more once or son is all grown up) last for me is gifts but I do love a thoughtful gift especially if it shows you’ve been paying attention 🥰
I ended up buying all 3 books because it was like a lightbulb had switched on, it helped me work out what each of my children needed from me in order to feel loved and they all have a different love style! Revolutionary stuff because it applies to not just the intimate relationships but every relationship in ones life!
My three are words of affirmation, physical touch, and quality time in no particular order.
Quality time, physical touch, words of affirmation, then gifts and acts of service.
Mine is Quality time, affirmation, physical touch, acts of service and gifts. Awesome video Jay!❤
I found one of the best ways to find out someone's love language is asking them what is the best gift they've ever received/given? Or when they felt most loved by their loved ones. Few people will say I just liked how they showed up on my birthday (quality time), some might say my grandma wrote me a letter (words of appreciation), or 'I love it when someone surprises me at work with food' (gifts), they may recall the time when someone went out of their way to fix their car, or help them with a project (acts of service), people who's love language is Physical Touch is always affectionate (they hold your hand, get excited and grabs you, hugs you tightly, gives you a high five, fist bumps, etc).
2-Physical touch
3- recieving gifts
1- quality time
4- active service 😊😍😘
Hi, Jay. I love how you break down things and explain them so well, with such effort. I know there are thousands of people showing love to you. But I thought, I wanted to thank you for taking the time and sharing all your ideas, experiences and stories with us, for helping thousands of people understand and realize things that we don't often do. Your words and the way you express them, makes me realize so much about myself and about alot of other things. Thankyou so much for all the hard works that you do for us.
Your words has helped me alot in life and I wanted to let you know that. I know you probably wont even go through this comment, but that's okay.
And, the book may have explained about the 5 languages, but I think there's one more type of person other than those 5, and those are the people who prioritizes loyalty over everything. Thought of sharing this, since I think, I fall into one of those people.
Quality time is the most precious Gift that you can receive
Mine is definitely words of affirmation and a close second is acts of service.
affirmation, then touch, then quality time! Great video!
1. Quality time
2. Words of affirmation
3. Physical touch
Though I think those 3 are closely tied
4. Acts of service
5. Gifts
Mine are the following:1.Words of affirmation2.Quality time3.Physical touch
1. Physical touch
2. Quality time
3. Acts of service
4. Words of affirmation
5. Gifts
Affirmation,physical touch and quality time
This is #1 most helpful thing I found, The 5 Love Languages! It was.life changing at the time!
This is crucial for two equally important aspects:
1. Knowing yourself (when you understand your needs, you know what u r looking for, and what to stay away from - if u r high scores on Physical Touch, you need a cuddler, stay away if someone says they are not comfortable being touched)
2. Knowing the other person(when you understand ur partner u can give them what they need, vs what u r projecting they should be needing)
1. Quality of Time
2. Words of Affirmation
3. Physical touch
4. Acts of Service
5. Receiving Gifts
mine are in this order:
1. words of affirmation
2. physical touch
3. time
4. gifts
5. acts of service
I think last time I took one of these tests I ranked number 1. For physical touch, tied at number 2 for quality time & acts of service followed closely by words of affirmation. Gift received zero... not that I don’t like gifts, I just get anxious w/ too much stuff so a gift has to be purposeful, meaningful, symbolic &/or functional w/o excess. I don’t want a barrage of presents on my birthday or on a holiday.... a book, a movie, art, something nerdy or handmade, I can use or wear or a gift card... and the occasional surprise is nice, but the my top 4 languages are the greatest gifts of all
1 and mostly 5 for me. For my boyfriend, he's 2 and 4. It's so true because we've had this talk before even watching this video. He mentioned not needing words to affirm love, but the acts that portray love. Meanwhile, I need words of affirmation sometimes. Since, we show we care for each other by affirming it in a way each other needs & understands. For this to go more in depth & provide types, I must give me kudos. 👏🏾
My love's LOVE LANGUAGE is words of affirmation! He experesses himself better through TALKING💎💌 I'd genuinely remind him how handsome he's! How goodhearted he's, how great son he's, how he takes care of his mother and deeply loves his sister, and how kind he's, even though it's hard for him to show out his kindness more often. Especially when he's going under pressure! Or frastration, when his bosses don't appreciate his loyalty and hard work. I'd always love to praise his authenticity and true passion towards his career, providing great service to people and take care of business for the corporate locally.
1. Physical Touch
2. Quality time
3. Words of affirmation
4. Acts of service
5. Gifts
1. Quality time 😍2. Acts of Service 3. Words of Affirmation 4. Physical Touch 5. Gifts
Words of affirmation
Physical touch
Quality time
Acts of service
Receiving gifts
1.Quality time
2.words of affirmation
3.acts of service
4.physical touch
5.gifts
There is an unprecedented level of narcissism in the world today. Relationships need to be "others" centered & NOT "me" centered. We have to find someone who is a great friend first. Someone we genuinely enjoy being around even when there isn't anything significant taking place. We need to think well of the other person & NOT look for them to hurt us, cheat on us or do something that would be detrimental to the relationship. And we also need to have a shared purpose in life. When you both are unified through a daily goal that will keep your relationship close, intimate & full of joy. Achieving one common life goal together will give you a reason to show up each day & give 100% to the relationship.
1. Words of affirmation 2. acts of service 3. quality time 4. physical touch 5. Gifts