Nearly All Married Men Tell Me Not To Get Married

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  • čas přidán 28. 08. 2024

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  • @regalchange
    @regalchange  Před měsícem +303

    Clarification: out of the 50%+ divorces that occur 80% are initiated by women, therefore 40%+ of all marriages end on behalf of women

    • @outsiderofficialmusic
      @outsiderofficialmusic Před měsícem +62

      Of course, they take the house and half his accumulated wealth/ business..the man rents or goes to live with his parents. I’m not getting married in the eyes of the state.

    • @setthetone6187
      @setthetone6187 Před měsícem +1

      You can't have a sacred relationship with men who fundamentally hate women. Psycopathy exists in both genders. You deal with psychological dispositions not genders, not races etc.

    • @mica7153
      @mica7153 Před měsícem +1

      @regalchange the issue is that people are unawakened to the True Divine. They are brainwashed by media, men are shown to be passive and women are shown that they need to be "strong" In our true divine nature its an infinite double spiral of energy. Men dont know how to lead while at the same time be respectful and women dont know how to submit while being loving. Submission to a man does not make you weak. It makes your bond strong and he becomes your strength. But most men dont know how to be a womans strength, it takes consistency if the utmost level. A level that weve lost over lineage. A woman is not safe to submit if her man can not lead, the life falls to pieces. And a man can not lead if the woman is disrespectful and sneaky, the life falls to pieces. Both genders need help to understand what true union really means.

    • @user-wu8rj7xb2g
      @user-wu8rj7xb2g Před měsícem +20

      69%*

    • @meredith2803
      @meredith2803 Před měsícem +16

      Yeah I know but sometimes someone can change when they get a ring on that finger. It works both ways though, nobody should be abused. We need more respect, if you “apparently love” someone why would you treat them badly?? I’ve seen men and women ungrateful for the help I’ve offered. Not just romantic partners, friends and family.

  • @erichaller2309
    @erichaller2309 Před měsícem +889

    "Happy wife happy life" biggest bullshit saying in history !!

  • @MrHemi4spd
    @MrHemi4spd Před měsícem +1136

    Men will sacrifice their happiness for their family, and women will sacrifice their family for their happiness.

    • @theoneandonly3499
      @theoneandonly3499 Před měsícem +55

      Absolutely brilliant and true.

    • @Noname-bg8sh
      @Noname-bg8sh Před měsícem +32

      for moodswings

    • @courtneyharris1006
      @courtneyharris1006 Před měsícem +57

      Honor and duty are masculine. Women just do anything to survive including manipulation of men to produce for her honor and duty.

    • @rayrwyr
      @rayrwyr Před měsícem

      women sacrifice their family for the excitement/thrill of s3xual attention and validation outside marriage.

    • @Gunsight-One
      @Gunsight-One Před měsícem +16

      It is sad that this is the reality we face, but it is 100% true.

  • @ronlugbill1400
    @ronlugbill1400 Před měsícem +538

    Don’t get married. I was married. Cost me a million dollars. Women start to hate any guy they live with for a long period of time. If you want to be hated and lose a million dollars, marriage is a good way to do it.

    • @user-hf6dw4pc2b
      @user-hf6dw4pc2b Před měsícem +8

      How did it cost you a million dollars can you tell us more?

    • @ronlugbill1400
      @ronlugbill1400 Před měsícem

      @@user-hf6dw4pc2b supported her for 20 years of marriage plus 7 1/2 years of spousal support plus 1/2 of pension. She never worked during the marriage. Refused to work.

    • @inandoutofreal1ty
      @inandoutofreal1ty Před měsícem +9

      Jesus Christ can I have some money? How do you even get cleaned out that badly?? Wow that’s nuts

    • @PoboyMusic
      @PoboyMusic Před měsícem

      ​@@user-hf6dw4pc2bhe had 2 million

    • @chavonjames8941
      @chavonjames8941 Před měsícem +32

      @@inandoutofreal1tyit’s mainly paying off lawyers in court cases, and those cases can be dragged on until you’re left w -$0

  • @connorhayes2711
    @connorhayes2711 Před měsícem +221

    Been saying this for years… the #1 phrase of all married men I’ve ever known has been ‘don’t ever get married.’

    • @StephenWestSyd
      @StephenWestSyd Před měsícem +19

      Practically every married man I've met have told me not to get married

    • @appletherapy
      @appletherapy Před 23 dny +13

      @@StephenWestSydIf they don't say it. You can see it in their soul

    • @connorhayes2711
      @connorhayes2711 Před 21 dnem +1

      @@appletherapy faccctttsss

    • @baldeagle4710
      @baldeagle4710 Před 4 dny

      Women in 2024 don’t act like wives everything is me me me on social media so toxic

    • @bmo5082
      @bmo5082 Před 16 hodinami

      If you find a traditional woman, then I’d say get married. Trouble is, that’s almost impossible these days.

  • @Martin-bj8eq
    @Martin-bj8eq Před měsícem +924

    Guys I lived With a girl for TWENTY years. Great relationship, great girl, we had 3 children, house, business etc, great life. Then after 20 years she said she wants to be married, eventually I said "OK" - 2 years later she divorced me AND TOOK EVERYTHING! House car, children, EVERYTHING. Guys NEVER get married - NEVER!

    • @FantasticMedia3133
      @FantasticMedia3133 Před měsícem +221

      Goddam she played the long game

    • @cool08player
      @cool08player Před měsícem +124

      Holy fk, wmn are so cold and brutal.

    • @jsocials
      @jsocials Před měsícem +66

      Lived together for twenty years? She didnt need marriage to have taken half. Once you live with a woman for 1 year + you are basically common-law. But weird she waited for marriage to only get divorced. Could have saved the wedding funds for the lawyer fees

    • @whiteberry8785
      @whiteberry8785 Před měsícem +54

      Not all states have common law

    • @YellowToucan
      @YellowToucan Před měsícem +32

      @@jsocials Depends on the country/state. USA/NC, for example, doesn't recognize common-law. Australia in contrast, has has "de facto" relationships where you are considered "married" even after a day depending on certain factors.

  • @FestusOmega
    @FestusOmega Před měsícem +753

    I know a man who prayed for love. God sent him a dog.

    • @yagirlsfav6849
      @yagirlsfav6849 Před měsícem +21

      Yesssirrr😂

    • @JA-2
      @JA-2 Před měsícem +7

      Nah, the whole dog is man’s best friend idea is a cope.

    • @sheenestevez1770
      @sheenestevez1770 Před měsícem +49

      @@JA-2someone’s never had a dog 😂

    • @LoafingMushroom
      @LoafingMushroom Před měsícem +35

      ​​@@JA-2calling a cope a cope is silly. If you can't cope you can't function, so how is being mentally healthy an insult? You will never in your life find love as pure as a dog's.

    • @JA-2
      @JA-2 Před měsícem +7

      @@LoafingMushroomDogs only love you because you feed them. Completely incomparable to the love a mother has for her child or a couple in a committed and loving marriage.

  • @jdheryos4910
    @jdheryos4910 Před měsícem +256

    I have been through a marriage and divorce.
    After 28 years of marriage I was fucked over by my ex in courts.
    After I had become a better man.
    Got rid of many of my character flaws.
    Worked and became a millionaire.
    Had children and brought them up well and successfully.
    Before the seperation lost weight and.got fit.
    The ex used the divorce laws and weaponsied legal system against me.
    Took half my wealth created goods and finance.
    Damaged my relationship with children (which I since repaired).
    You can do everything right for decades and improve yourself in all areas.
    And still be fucked over by the government legal laws and courts.
    Don't get married!
    Repeat, don't get married!

    • @whateverhappened2
      @whateverhappened2 Před měsícem +10

      Thanks for sharing brother

    • @typingcat
      @typingcat Před měsícem +1

      How could you become a millionaire again?

    • @mihailcirlig8187
      @mihailcirlig8187 Před měsícem +8

      ​@@typingcatjust hard work and cold showers

    • @stormchaser419
      @stormchaser419 Před měsícem

      Women are a long long long list of liabilities.

    • @RealBadDaddy
      @RealBadDaddy Před měsícem

      Wouldn’t have those children if you hadn’t took the chance. Blessings come with curses sometimes.

  • @Denniss7420
    @Denniss7420 Před měsícem +399

    Just remember this: Tom Brady's wife wasn't happy!! The other problem is - the State will side with your wife Even if she cheated on you.

    • @ruleaus7664
      @ruleaus7664 Před měsícem +2

      "wasn't"

    • @andrewmv8612
      @andrewmv8612 Před měsícem +42

      Kaká's wife said he was perfect, she divorced him anyway. Search for it

    • @DavidWilliams-pb6he
      @DavidWilliams-pb6he Před měsícem +2

      Not in all states. Some states are no fault and some are fault which recognize reasons like adultery. In some states you can sue the person your spouse had an affair with!

    • @Zach-ls1if
      @Zach-ls1if Před měsícem

      Even with a BBC?

    • @xMckingwill
      @xMckingwill Před měsícem

      No

  • @Kristopher-ge7zc
    @Kristopher-ge7zc Před měsícem +366

    43 single and have absolutely no desire to get married or be in a relationship.

    • @vincentharris7909
      @vincentharris7909 Před měsícem +51

      The gym is a much better option.

    • @BrunoBerryhoneybuns1370
      @BrunoBerryhoneybuns1370 Před měsícem +12

      then why are you here in these spaces? Why come here if you are not interested in having a family?

    • @mrtimtom2631
      @mrtimtom2631 Před měsícem

      Why are YOU here?​@@BrunoBerryhoneybuns1370

    • @zs8796
      @zs8796 Před měsícem +6

      Oh nah man rather get married bro, don't u want to carry on your bloodline?

    • @mrtimtom2631
      @mrtimtom2631 Před měsícem +1

      @@zs8796 no one said we don't wanna get married in general.

  • @ty4ler416
    @ty4ler416 Před měsícem +408

    I worked at Hugo Boss for 6 years … had a lot of high profile clients who were men and were wealthy … almost every time even they told me not to get married . Women have the propensity for negative emotions , they don’t apologize for anything or show much humility towards men … they want to wear the pants in the relationship while putting forth as little effort as possible all the while claiming that you don’t work or try . Dealing with something like this on a daily basis would drive anyone crazy ….

    • @JasmineRose-ww5gl
      @JasmineRose-ww5gl Před měsícem +3

      And what do you do?

    • @nachodaisuki91
      @nachodaisuki91 Před měsícem +40

      ​@@JasmineRose-ww5gl
      As if that's got anything to do with the topic at hand. lol

    • @ResisterCIO
      @ResisterCIO Před měsícem +45

      Rings a bell. Married for 13 years. And before that, I was no incel. Was a rave kid and a lifeguard and had plenty of girlfriends starting in HS. I used to write it off as being incompatible. But they really do start blaming everything on you at a point, and the funny thing is it's usually after they've stopped doing the most basic things while you are still shouldering all or most of the iron costs of living (food, shelter, etc.)

    • @balitangkamatis
      @balitangkamatis Před měsícem +12

      don't marry. Let everything go to none.

    • @Chrisicola
      @Chrisicola Před měsícem +27

      Never once had a woman in a relationship apologize for anything- not ONE time, ever. Let that sink in.

  • @BlazingNChilling7s
    @BlazingNChilling7s Před měsícem +121

    I never met a woman more beautiful than freedom.😂

  • @jasonjameson1672
    @jasonjameson1672 Před měsícem +257

    I've told every young man I work with not to get married and to never let a woman tell you what to do

    • @Billy-the-Kid
      @Billy-the-Kid Před měsícem

      True. Wokism and feminism rule now. Let them eat cake and avoid it at all costs. In the long run, men are the KINGS.

    • @Bemmuu-p3m
      @Bemmuu-p3m Před měsícem +25

      Yeah, once you're in a relationship and you let a women tell you what to do, she doesn't respect you anymore. And you need to leave instantly.

    • @marcushennings9513
      @marcushennings9513 Před měsícem +6

      If they really love and appreciate a man, then they will stay close and participate in the relationship. The only reason they bully men for marriage is to ensure they get the majority of assets whenever they get good and ready to leave.

    • @RouVie2001
      @RouVie2001 Před 14 dny +1

      @@marcushennings9513thats why theres a prenup😂 if she wont sign that, she doesnt love you.

    • @aizakku8399
      @aizakku8399 Před 10 dny +2

      I feel sorry for all the households with young men who have narcissistic clinging moms hollowing them out and stripping them of any masculine character.

  • @tomokokuroki3356
    @tomokokuroki3356 Před měsícem +761

    Be careful who you marry. My brother made the wrong choice and now he's going to prison for the rest of his life

    • @Garrett8098
      @Garrett8098 Před měsícem +42

      For what?

    • @Gavi-144
      @Gavi-144 Před měsícem +61

      Tell us the story bro you could really help someone

    • @sandrodahlstrom147
      @sandrodahlstrom147 Před měsícem +33

      I understand that one! Once I was arrested and spent the night at the station.

    • @josephjulianmionie4744
      @josephjulianmionie4744 Před měsícem +1

      Bitches be cray cray..
      .....for real...
      ....for reals... bruh...

    • @truthreigns3465
      @truthreigns3465 Před měsícem

      So your brother is an emotional beta male and killed or seriously hurt his wife , not because of the wife. But becaus he is a BETA and I bet you are too

  • @mcarthurspark8636
    @mcarthurspark8636 Před měsícem +380

    I recently attended an outdoor wedding. Two cars passed with the top down and the male driver’s yelled out, don’t do it. 😅

    • @andrelockridge9109
      @andrelockridge9109 Před měsícem +29

      😆😆😆😆😂😂😂😂

    • @The_Absurdistt
      @The_Absurdistt Před měsícem +23

      I'm dead.

    • @SuperSaiyanMike24
      @SuperSaiyanMike24 Před měsícem +21

      Legendary 😂

    • @dhui2974
      @dhui2974 Před měsícem +27

      We need male support groups that look up weddings and then a whole bunch off guys drive by and tell them. The broke guys that have nothing left and the smart guys in the nice cars that they paid off.

    • @TC-cd5sm
      @TC-cd5sm Před měsícem +4

      Lmao love it

  • @scottjackson163
    @scottjackson163 Před měsícem +466

    Getting married was the worst decision of my life. The primary emotion that I experience in connection with my wife is disgust. I married the enemy of my life.

    • @Gravitywalker20
      @Gravitywalker20 Před měsícem +40

      How many years did it take for her to bait and switch you in the marriage?

    • @rayrwyr
      @rayrwyr Před měsícem +7

      Why don't you leave the marriage?

    • @whateverhappened2
      @whateverhappened2 Před měsícem +7

      Sorry brother

    • @kovenmaitreya7184
      @kovenmaitreya7184 Před měsícem +1

      Yikes

    • @chavonjames8941
      @chavonjames8941 Před měsícem +3

      @@rayrwyras a guy, leaving a marriage leaves you two ways: can’t take care of the women (and being blamed for why the divorce was to happen) and financial-living expenses

  • @naisyjohns
    @naisyjohns Před 24 dny +51

    I was once full of energy. Met my wife. Fell in love. Our entire relationship felt like milestones. She wanted to move in together. Was unhappy until we did, and then she became happy for a few weeks. Then she wanted to get married. Was unhappy till we tied the knot. Next she wanted a baby. Next, she wanted me to sacrifice my career so I could spend more time cooking and cleaning at home. After I gave her everything, she still left me. All because she started making more money than me after I gave up my career. Never. Ever. Get. Married.

    • @MDwng
      @MDwng Před 21 dnem +7

      Very similar experience with myself. I'll never make those kind of concessions again

    • @loveyesmarriageno123
      @loveyesmarriageno123 Před 16 dny +5

      I too have a similar experience after she initially moved in with me. When we bought a house together and I made many concessions for the sake of the family she turned into a total b...h against me cos she was outearning me. Never again

    • @plj103
      @plj103 Před 13 dny

      @@naisyjohns women want to not only take everything, but also want leave you as broken and pathetic as possible. They savor it.

  • @slobo5568
    @slobo5568 Před měsícem +437

    nearly all married men got married while in a scarcity mindset and picked a dog of a wife.. take your time, be picky, and choose wisely.

    • @Guitarcope
      @Guitarcope Před měsícem +30

      The scarcity mindset is a tough one.

    • @FreeAgent99
      @FreeAgent99 Před měsícem +24

      💯 % correct
      And thought „wow, then I can that 🐱 all the time!“
      Little did they know it’s not that special in the end.

    • @Aright231
      @Aright231 Před měsícem +1

      @@GuitarcopeI wouldn’t think wanting to have kids is scarcity mindset though?

    • @fireblade8905
      @fireblade8905 Před měsícem +2

      Facts

    • @jsocials
      @jsocials Před měsícem +13

      "Behind every commitment was an ultimatum"- @Psychacks

  • @shiftedtwistie
    @shiftedtwistie Před měsícem +174

    Hey buddy, I've been married once. Don't get married. I've been "healing" for 8 years.

    • @ScriptUnveiled
      @ScriptUnveiled Před měsícem +8

      Duly noted brother. Best wishes on the rest of your "healing" journey.

    • @rayrwyr
      @rayrwyr Před měsícem +11

      It has been 3 years since my marriage ended. I expected to be healed 2 years ago but I am probably not healed, otherwise why would I be watching this video?

    • @kirkgardner8772
      @kirkgardner8772 Před 24 dny +1

      That’s my story!!

    • @dephitaputrimawardi9503
      @dephitaputrimawardi9503 Před 19 dny

      how is your journey now?

    • @TheWay382
      @TheWay382 Před 17 dny

      What happened? if you don't mind me asking..

  • @Mr.SharkTooth-zc8rm
    @Mr.SharkTooth-zc8rm Před měsícem +95

    70 year old happy single man checking in. Been divorced for 20 years now. SHE wanted the divorce. I'm in California so the court gave her everything and gave me her debt. The house I didn't mind because I didn't want the kids to have to move from where they were born and raised. Move forward to now and I have prospered and folks think I'm 15 years younger. She lost the house and her teeth rotted out. Denture time! She now depends on Section 8 housing. She looks like a worn-out 75 year old. She was a beautiful woman when we married. Think Salma Hayek without the big cheeks and jaw. The worst part for her is that the kids are now grown and know the ugly truth after she had them poisoned against me. So now they spend as much time as they can with me and as little time as they can with her. Karma truly can be a bitch.
    Some un-asked for fatherly advice. My young sons from other mothers, maximize yourselves to the best version of yourself. All else will follow. YOU are now the prize, not the women.

  • @wildbillkerr8041
    @wildbillkerr8041 Před měsícem +34

    NEVER EVER EVER get married. I was married 20+ years, found out she was cheating, went to marriage counseling, said she'd never do it again, she did it again, told her she had to leave, she filed for divorce.

    • @FaithwWorks
      @FaithwWorks Před 16 dny

      I’m sorry to hear that man that does suck. what’s crazy is in 2024 I think most all men in USA have been cheated on at least once for no reason other than lack of integrity & self respect on woman’s part. these women in America have to wake up & grow up.

  • @maladyofdeath
    @maladyofdeath Před měsícem +184

    Dont get married, its a trap. I know no man who is happily married, only married with stress and problems. The divorced men I know which are 10x more in number, got absolutely destroyed in divorce court, losing almost everything.

    • @lordlittletoeq8537
      @lordlittletoeq8537 Před měsícem +7

      the secret there is to have nothing to give to begin with lol.

    • @histreasure3189
      @histreasure3189 Před měsícem

      ​@@lordlittletoeq8537😂

    • @romart03
      @romart03 Před měsícem +5

      How many men do you know ? I know plenty who are happily married

    • @zuhasbekillin3461
      @zuhasbekillin3461 Před měsícem

      Fr

    • @mohamedelsaad4247
      @mohamedelsaad4247 Před měsícem

      ​​@@lordlittletoeq8537nothing to give to begin with, they will throw you in prison and you're still get your life destroyed. There is no chance to escape once you sign that damn marriage paper.

  • @nunu4evaaa
    @nunu4evaaa Před měsícem +473

    “Marriage is a scam” - Rick and Morty

    • @Themilkman95
      @Themilkman95 Před měsícem +17

      Let’s get ridgyyyyyyyyy reckkkk son!

    • @monicacasaleiro9191
      @monicacasaleiro9191 Před měsícem

      Stupidest comment... So common and empty ...

    • @Camryndawn22
      @Camryndawn22 Před měsícem +7

      @@nunu4evaaa it really is mentally and financially

    • @Yanay.A
      @Yanay.A Před měsícem +8

      Marriage is a trap.

    • @knoname7778
      @knoname7778 Před měsícem +2

      That's a fictional cartoon. And a shit 1 at that

  • @timsimmons9995
    @timsimmons9995 Před měsícem +160

    50% chance of failure and huge consequences? You're crazy to get married. Literally.

    • @whatever_shaker
      @whatever_shaker Před měsícem +9

      more than 50% mate;)

    • @drgeek100
      @drgeek100 Před měsícem +6

      @@whatever_shaker closer to 80 or more.

    • @DK-lz7kg
      @DK-lz7kg Před měsícem

      If you are looking in the dumpster for a mate, you are probably a raccoon yourself.
      The problem with these videos is that they are 1 sided and leave out important details. For instance, I know several people who met their wives on “dating apps” such as tinder. If you are looking for a mate on something like that, you most likely picked up a mate who was attention seeking and wanted to hookup. Good men and women don’t sell themselves on platforms like that.

    • @user.NameTaken
      @user.NameTaken Před 21 dnem

      @@drgeek100 if she was whoring around

  • @jcnlaw
    @jcnlaw Před měsícem +194

    Experienced divorce lawyer here (Pennsylvania and New Jersey). Marriage is an outdated technology. Better to stay single and joyfully do the things that you love. You can still have amazing relationships without inviting state law into your life and finances. Stay safe. Stay single!

    • @rayrwyr
      @rayrwyr Před měsícem +2

      What about marriage with solid comprehensive prenup, postnup etc with infidelity clause? Is that legally fully viable? Do judges have the tendency to throw it out? Also, what about live-in-together relationship without marriage? Is that dangerous due to common-law?

    • @judeskylabardooo8286
      @judeskylabardooo8286 Před měsícem +18

      ​@@rayrwyr The moment you start needing a solid, very solid prenup, then you should not even be marrying that person.

    • @MoltenMetalGod7
      @MoltenMetalGod7 Před měsícem +10

      Officed next to a family lawyer, became friends with him some of the stories i've heard (that he was ethically able to tell in general terms) were all i needed to hear. Every man considering marriage should be required to observe a contested divorce proceeding in court and seek legal counsel before being allowed to obtain a marriage license.

    • @MoltenMetalGod7
      @MoltenMetalGod7 Před měsícem +3

      @@rayrwyr prenups aren't worth the paper they are written on (no offense jcnlaw) the first thing the spouse is going to do is try to invalidate it with some ridiculous claim and because the legal system in the US favors women she'll probably have a more decent chance than she should.

    • @theonlyconstantischange123
      @theonlyconstantischange123 Před měsícem +2

      It honestly just sounds like the only reasonable stance men can take is to just not sign marriage licenses. Obviously society will never change the legal system because it's too profitable and too gynocentric. For men that actually do wanna commune with a woman and make it official can't men just not let the state and all those perverse incentives into their life?

  • @Gavi-144
    @Gavi-144 Před měsícem +308

    I've made alot of mistakes in my life but getting married won't be one of them

  • @thirstonhowellthebird
    @thirstonhowellthebird Před měsícem +296

    I never married nor had children because of the toxic, alcoholic and abusive home I grew up in. It was an absolute nightmare! I told myself at a very young age that if I ever got out of such a hideous dynamic, I would never, ever duplicate it in my adult life! I did the opposite of everything I saw. Now, I have a beautiful, wonderful and peaceful life! No chaos, no drama!

    • @bizcota7741
      @bizcota7741 Před měsícem +3

      Drama and chaos are good in proportionality. Or else life would have been boring..

    • @thirstonhowellthebird
      @thirstonhowellthebird Před měsícem

      @@bizcota7741 Wow you came from a toxic family and don’t even know it or won’t admit it to yourself because no healthy person would ever think that life is boring unless there is chaos and drama. I’m sorry my friend, time to head to the therapist chair. Your time for awakening will come and it will be very, very painful for you. I actually remember saying the same thing at one time when I was living in blissful denial of the environment around me and the alcoholism and the drugs and the drama and the fighting and the chaos that surrounded me because it seemed so normal. Without all of that drama things felt slow and I felt lost and useless when ih wasn’t right in the middle of somebody’s bad marriage or horrible life choices to help and try and solve their problems. I was so codependent and such a people pleaser that I had somehow lost who I was in order to help them. their problems and my ability to try to help them gave me the validation that I somehow could not give to myself. I would never live like that again. Never. I got rid of all of those people because they love drama and they love chaos and they don’t want anyone around who is peaceful and kind. It was only until I learned about narcissism and narcissistic abuse that the awakening hit me like a big brick falling on my head.

    • @CA1567-v8p
      @CA1567-v8p Před měsícem

      ​@@bizcota7741you're a kid

    • @magicmarcell
      @magicmarcell Před měsícem

      ⁠@@bizcota7741so make it yourself in a manageable productive way.

    • @skuddingomcwinters6119
      @skuddingomcwinters6119 Před měsícem +4

      I’m the same as far as a toxic drug filled childhood but that inspired me to work hard to make a loving family myself! Although I haven’t done it yet haha

  • @sodone466
    @sodone466 Před měsícem +122

    "There is no wisdom in signing a contract with someone who benefits from breaking it."

    • @tomasrocha6139
      @tomasrocha6139 Před měsícem

      Women's household income declines quite a bit after divorce, they're hardly rewarded

    • @sodone466
      @sodone466 Před měsícem +7

      @@tomasrocha6139 BS! Only if the couple is poor. Any other middle class woman makes out very well in divorce.
      Ask me how I know.

    • @Alazar654
      @Alazar654 Před měsícem +2

      I'm loving the wisdom! Keep it up gentlemen!

  • @richcharvel7162
    @richcharvel7162 Před měsícem +45

    I was told a long time ago that "if you want to know what marriage is like, then hang out with some married couples". Not your parents or aunt/uncle...but a couple that's in the same age group. Be a third wheel. There's SO MUCH b.s that goes on, it's mind blowing. All of my male married friends and male co-workers have all strongly advised me not to do it. Good video.

    • @ViewportPlaythrough
      @ViewportPlaythrough Před 12 dny

      then youd think that 'maybe its just this specific couple?' but then if you hang out with enough couples, youd understand that there are of course unique traits, but there are undeniable universal sad truths...
      whats worst is if you know that bro from earlier before he knew the girl and you know the things he folded to after marriage that he never would before.
      its one of the biggest "oh no.. i dont want a life like that... heck, he didnt want a life like that...." moment for me

  • @AxxelX5
    @AxxelX5 Před měsícem +100

    I did it once, lasted 15 years, and it almost killed me. AVOID

  • @Niko132
    @Niko132 Před měsícem +117

    "he's seen his own darkness and he knows what women are capable of", that's the definition of a man who's been hurt and now healed :)

  • @Punkpsychobilly
    @Punkpsychobilly Před měsícem +28

    I’ve been an auto tech for 26 years, started when I was 20. From the minute I stepped foot into the first shop I worked at, every single guy I worked with drilled “do not get married” into my head. I never did, thank God. Last woman I was with was an absolute nightmare and sent me monk for the rest of my life. My parents are one of 2 couples I’ve known my entire life who were actually happily married long term. Every other guy I have met bitches about his wife nonstop. No thanks.

  • @USNavyVet_STG
    @USNavyVet_STG Před měsícem +56

    I was married for 20 years.
    Happily divorced for almost 2 years now.

  • @cedricbethea
    @cedricbethea Před měsícem +133

    Western married men are the nice guys that most women settled for. A ton of married men have to beg their wives for intimacy.

    • @Denniss7420
      @Denniss7420 Před měsícem

      Interesting......Ain't no Bad Boy going to wife them up! Females should probably stop being deluded by social media and reality tv shows.

    • @laughattack1204
      @laughattack1204 Před měsícem +9

      Yeah, if someone wants me at this point they're gonna have to trick me. It's so f*cked, relationships can't survive unless they're built on at least a bit of disingenuous behavior.

    • @tomasrocha6139
      @tomasrocha6139 Před měsícem +3

      No, married men are happier. live longer, have more sex and over 60% remarry after divorce

    • @cedricbethea
      @cedricbethea Před měsícem

      @tomasrocha6139 according to new studies, a ton of married men are reporting sexless marriages. Also, most married men might be happy, but their wives aren't happy. Women file at a 70 percent divorce rate. Apparently, you and most married men are the last to know these things.

    • @cedricbethea
      @cedricbethea Před měsícem +20

      @@tomasrocha6139 according to new studies a ton of married men are reporting sexless marriages. Also, married men might be happy, but their wives aren't happy. Apparently, most married men are the last to know these things.

  • @Jon-tt9bf
    @Jon-tt9bf Před měsícem +175

    Ive never met a woman I wanted to marry. So Im happily single and I cant even imagine being married. It might be nice, but its almost impossible for me

    • @Danny_Deleto
      @Danny_Deleto Před měsícem +26

      Same here. I haven't even met a woman I've wanted to date.

    • @J4YAH777
      @J4YAH777 Před měsícem +7

      its kinda sad

    • @Camryndawn22
      @Camryndawn22 Před měsícem

      @@Danny_Deleto that’s your own fault for being a fuckboy and getting STDs

    • @Aright231
      @Aright231 Před měsícem +1

      Would you let looks slide if you met a pure and loyal woman who respected you?

    • @lyndellecoats8459
      @lyndellecoats8459 Před měsícem

      Nothing NICE about it ruuunnn

  • @maggieanne3610
    @maggieanne3610 Před měsícem +25

    Bottom line is if you want a successful marriage you gotta basically leave the west.

  • @campelodemagalhaes
    @campelodemagalhaes Před 23 dny +17

    Married man here: Do NOT get married.
    That is a completely unfair contract that you do not want to enter.

  • @michaelspletstoser2170
    @michaelspletstoser2170 Před měsícem +108

    Hi, i didn't watch the video yet, but i got married at 18 and have been married for 12 years and counting. DO NOT. I REPEAT. DO NOT. DO NOT DO IT. DONT.

  • @Carolinaforerunner7
    @Carolinaforerunner7 Před měsícem +72

    Don’t get married in 2024 and going forward. Women only take taking money serious.

  • @theerealatm
    @theerealatm Před měsícem +22

    I used to clean carpets and many married men would tell me not to. They'd ask me, "you got any kids/a wife?" Then they'd tell me never to do it. A couple of men have even told me in front of their wife.
    I've seen wives act very dismissive to their husband. And he was obviously paying every bill they incurred.

  • @plasmaarmelund
    @plasmaarmelund Před měsícem +51

    Even if you find a good one, you gotta understand that people change. It will not be the same person a few years in.

    • @ResisterCIO
      @ResisterCIO Před měsícem +4

      SSM has a story about a man who married his Childhood sweetheart, small town, both families went to the same church and the parents of both knew each other from their school days. She was fine, they had a daughter, no problems. Then when the daughter was about 3, she switched from working at the IGA to getting an office job in a bigger town. A pink hair started whispering in her ear. Within two months she was working "Overtime" (he quickly figured out it was nonsense because the paycheck was the same) and went from a teetotaller to a methhead.
      She began stealing from everybody, holding the infant hostage for $20 until the grandparents colluded to stop her (including the woman's parents, shocked and appalled), and in a year and a half was dead from meth overdose.

    • @ResisterCIO
      @ResisterCIO Před měsícem +7

      "Just choose better, bro" does not prevent problems. Sometimes people are just good because they never faced any temptation.

    • @bn0421
      @bn0421 Před 17 dny +1

      People are not even the same for 5 minutes straight, technically

    • @aizakku8399
      @aizakku8399 Před 9 dny +2

      They didn’t even change, they showed their true colors and who they were hiding the whole time. That’s why it’s imperative you see who they are around other ppl and how they talk about you in front of others.

    • @incognegro2315
      @incognegro2315 Před 8 dny

      BOOM!

  • @dojocho1894
    @dojocho1894 Před měsícem +194

    Married 2x divorced 2x Handsome Cardiologist....Never again...what I Learned? My Parents were a loving couple, married 50 yrs.... never cursed or argured really. I thought that was normal.....LOL Women today feel no remorse to making vows for life then waking up and just burning it all down. There is nothing to gain as a man and much to loose. You want loyalty....? get a dog...or in my case horses. then a boat. I found that with those two things I get as many women as I can enjoy.....on my own terms.

    • @mariemarie3614
      @mariemarie3614 Před měsícem +6

      ...the women you've met and chosen are that way, not all women 💯

    • @Barbwire710
      @Barbwire710 Před měsícem +51

      @@mariemarie3614”not all women” is literally a meme term at this point. Hilarious that you actually said it though. Proves everything people should know.

    • @Aright231
      @Aright231 Před měsícem

      @@mariemarie3614right! I ended through many many women on the casual circuit and then met an amazing woman and got married to her at 41. She’s extremely exceptional though.
      I think men who are talking like this are attracted to toxic-baddies type chicks. They are not meant to be rescued or considered for marriage. Men are just as bad at picking partners as women. It’s all about what their weakness is. And it’s usually extremely sexy looks/body. People possessing those qualities become spoiled when they try to capitalize on it unfortunately.

    • @courtneyharris1006
      @courtneyharris1006 Před měsícem +31

      "Not all sharks bite"

    • @mohamedelsaad4247
      @mohamedelsaad4247 Před měsícem +14

      That "not all women are like that" is a huge red flag 🚩 a huge trap 😂

  • @lili_o_losa
    @lili_o_losa Před měsícem +310

    I was married for 11 years, divorced for 3 and i have to say, marriage is hard. If both parties arent healed from any existing childhood trauma, golden child, and/or scapegoat trauma- then patience needs to be heavily involved but otherwise, marriage will not make you happier.

    • @safeeffective385
      @safeeffective385 Před měsícem +10

      100%

    • @KC-lg8qf
      @KC-lg8qf Před měsícem +8

      So you divorced him...

    • @KC-lg8qf
      @KC-lg8qf Před měsícem +7

      @@lili_o_losa so the vows meant nothing then.....? And the issues were all him? Those things you mentioned.....just him?

    • @lili_o_losa
      @lili_o_losa Před měsícem +8

      @@KC-lg8qf interesting that this is how you interpreted me. Sounds like you have something youre dealing with.

    • @KC-lg8qf
      @KC-lg8qf Před měsícem +14

      @@lili_o_losa I asked a question. You started talking about what issues people have to be able to handle to be married....then you said it was about having kids. Which is it? who had all those issues you mentioned ?

  • @akahina
    @akahina Před 18 dny +9

    Met my wife at 18.
    Moved in together at 20.
    Married at 30.
    She divorced me at 50 to marry her multimillionaire boss after a 10 year affair with him, who happened to be the married dean of a "christian" college.
    Now I'm 70 amd my life is ruined.
    NEVER GET MARRIED!

  • @JamesKonzek-xr5zy
    @JamesKonzek-xr5zy Před měsícem +26

    I'm 55 never been married. I'm very happy. There was always an inner voice telling me 'don't do it' from a very early age.

  • @roygutierrez-qt5pn
    @roygutierrez-qt5pn Před měsícem +183

    Not even woman of god are what you think brother, trust me.

    • @ruleaus7664
      @ruleaus7664 Před měsícem

      what do you mean?

    • @Denniss7420
      @Denniss7420 Před měsícem +1

      @@ruleaus7664 Church women are just as hypergamous as non-church ones. Been there, done that.

    • @J4YAH777
      @J4YAH777 Před měsícem +39

      @ruleaus7664 its just the nature of eve. its the way women operate

    • @AnointedOne4God
      @AnointedOne4God Před měsícem +1

      Bingo

    • @A_n_y_t_i_m_e
      @A_n_y_t_i_m_e Před měsícem +26

      Just a fictional narrative they picked to feel better about themselves. In reality, they're all the same. I'm old enough to say this.

  • @richardross7219
    @richardross7219 Před měsícem +94

    I married my other half 46 years ago. We had 39 good years before she died. We were a team. Since she died, I miss her but, I have no stress in my life now. After she turned 50, she became less rational and liked to shop a lot more. I do not have any social dealings with women now. Good Luck, Rick

    • @Barbwire710
      @Barbwire710 Před měsícem +13

      Thanks for sharing and sorry for your loss.

    • @herethere5637
      @herethere5637 Před měsícem +10

      True love exists, but it's rare

    • @kulentarian55
      @kulentarian55 Před měsícem +9

      True love exists but is rare true and it's even rarer for it too last , at least u got 39 years out of it , most men if not all now won't get a minute of peace with a woman , sorry for your loss and I dont blame you for your decision now to avoid woman

    • @ResisterCIO
      @ResisterCIO Před měsícem +5

      Thank you for the real story, the good and the bad.
      What breaks my heart are the guys on the verge of retirement, or the guys who just saw the kids up and on their own, and he gets the divorce and decades of hard work and assets are knocked out, and he's back to square one at 50-60.

    • @plutoneptune
      @plutoneptune Před měsícem +1

      ​@@kulentarian55 True love is even worse

  • @mutefalon
    @mutefalon Před měsícem +38

    Heard lots of people tell me don’t get married more than I heard get married.Even had a woman ask if I was married or had a gf?Told her no she said I was smart

  • @s1n4m1n
    @s1n4m1n Před měsícem +23

    I’m married 27 years. My advice from my experience, don’t get married. All the “it’s so rewarding” and “you’ll be happier” is all BS. There may be a few really happy marriages out there but they are the minority. And don’t expect much help from the church.

  • @MinimalistBachelor
    @MinimalistBachelor Před měsícem +79

    Same here. Nearly all the men I talk to tell me not to get married and these men are from different ages, different ethnicities and different religions. I am a Taiwanese guy living in Canada.

    • @rayrwyr
      @rayrwyr Před měsícem +3

      It depends on the divorce/family laws of that country. If the family laws are marriage friendly instead of divorce friendly, women won't file divorce like they do 90% of the time.

    • @marse7092
      @marse7092 Před měsícem

      @@MinimalistBachelor rare to hear this from a Taiwanese guy! I wonder your age range. What do your parents think about this? Have you tried geomaxxing?

    • @MinimalistBachelor
      @MinimalistBachelor Před měsícem +6

      @@marse7092 I am 45 now. I have lived in Canada since I was 15. I learned a lot about women from dealing with my own female family members (mom, sisters). I was never married but have dated women from different ethnics and the longest relationship I was in was with a Romanian woman several years back (80% bad memory).
      Where I work now I work with nearly 1000 co-workers and half of them are females and from different countries and different age groups. I have learned that all women are the same. It doesn't matter which culture they are from.
      My mom passed away two years ago. I am all alone now. Canada is not a good place to be anymore. I am looking into moving to Mexico in the near future. Never thought about geomaxxing. Not looking to be with anyone anymore. I just want to leave the rest of my life in peace.

    • @marse7092
      @marse7092 Před měsícem +2

      @@MinimalistBachelor Thanks so much for sharing your experience. Sorry to hear about your Mum’s passing.
      I’m a little surprised that you think that Taiwanese women at your generation were no better. I’d have thought at least in the past, most who are able to immigrate to the West grew up in responsible two parent households, with a focus on family.
      While I no longer idealise Eastern European women like I used to, I still think that geomaxxing is one partial solution, since in certain countries, there is sizable % who prefer the Asian/Kpop look so at least we are not discriminated against like we are in Anglo countries. While female nature is the same, the male competition elsewhere is much weaker economically.
      I’m doing alright in my 30s. I do partner dancing so still have positive experiences and friendships with women. However, what troubles me is that I’d like to have children but as you know the marital vow is a joke these days and there seems to be no defense against bait and switch in long term relationships after boredom. Parental alienation would be hell.

    • @user-Kova15
      @user-Kova15 Před měsícem

      If you’re still believing in religion after seeing how humans truly work then you’re still asleep

  • @neosho3953
    @neosho3953 Před měsícem +287

    I won't get married until the societal rules governing marriage change. I need the authority to rule the family as I see fit. I would never trust a woman to make decisions on behalf of the entire family.
    I say this as a child of divorce. I witnessed my mom divorce my dad at a very young age. It was awful.

    • @user-wu8rj7xb2g
      @user-wu8rj7xb2g Před měsícem +15

      Then qualify your future wife accordingly.
      Societal rules aren’t going to change any time soon bud.

    • @Eye_of_Horus
      @Eye_of_Horus Před měsícem +54

      @@user-wu8rj7xb2g then he shouldn’t marry and neither should most men. There isn’t any amount of vetting you can do that changes the rules. It’s 20 years from now you have to worry about more than now when it comes to marriage. There’s a reason dudes off themselves when their wife leaves them after 20-30 years together. I’ve seen it happen a few times which is enough for me.

    • @aftaflash
      @aftaflash Před měsícem

      You need the authority?! Move to North Korea. You are the authority. Quit with that nonsense

    • @user-ds4gp8dr2q
      @user-ds4gp8dr2q Před měsícem +3

      g
      Get married outside the US.. problem solved.

    • @outsiderofficialmusic
      @outsiderofficialmusic Před měsícem +5

      Once you have kids she can take about 70%, marriage or no marriage

  • @dw4956
    @dw4956 Před měsícem +10

    As a divorced man i can tell you its never worth it. Woman today are not even close to girlfriend material, let alone wife material.

    • @refraf8030
      @refraf8030 Před 11 dny +1

      They never have been we just didn’t expect much from them.

  • @thejakelegion
    @thejakelegion Před 29 dny +12

    I'm 33. Married 9 years to a traditional, wise, submissive, Godly woman. We have 4 young sons together. It's the best choice I ever made.

    • @davidmattax6087
      @davidmattax6087 Před 12 dny +2

      How did you guys meet? I’m a 26-year-old single guy looking for a great girl with a Biblical worldview just as you described. Lord willing there’s still some great girls out there, because I struggle to find them!

    • @thejakelegion
      @thejakelegion Před 12 dny +2

      @@davidmattax6087 well you're on the right track. I met her because she was a friend of my sister. But far more important than that, she shared my worldview and shared my faith. If you're seeking God, better yourself and working to be a masculine man, you'll find her. Go visit churches, go to Christian conferences where young Christians gather and keep an open mind.
      Here's what else I'll tell you. I have 5 sisters. 4 are now married. My youngest sister just turned 24. A real, traditional woman wants a STRONG, MASCULINE man to lead her. My sisters were disgusted by many of the "Christian" men who approached them because they were soft, effeminate man who didn't have their crap together.
      Keep your eyes open. They're out there!

  • @TimBailey-e9c
    @TimBailey-e9c Před měsícem +88

    I'm 28 years old today, just finished my first shift at Jack in the box. I have a highschool education and a healthcare trade that is still current that I have minimal experience in. No wife or children and my logic tells me to keep it that way. I have the moral feeling to have a wife and children someday. But let's face it guys society is perverted and everything is expensive. I am content with working full time and reading and writing. I wish those men and women the best in this crazy world. The beautiful relationship between men and women should not be like this? But until then God bless you all. I hope you have a great day.

    • @CA1567-v8p
      @CA1567-v8p Před měsícem +11

      For a man to succeed he must have money. For a women to succeed in marriage she must know how to submit to her husbands rule, cook, and clean. It won't work otherwise

    • @tom-iv6lc
      @tom-iv6lc Před měsícem

      You have a moral need for a family? WTH does that even mean? Are you Muslim?

    • @Billy-bc8pk
      @Billy-bc8pk Před měsícem +7

      @@CA1567-v8p Sure but submission only works if she hasn't been a garden tool, otherwise it rearranges her expectations in the bed. That's another huge problem.

  • @kentfitzsimmons6872
    @kentfitzsimmons6872 Před měsícem +42

    I am a 59 yr old Christian married man. Two kids, a dog, and own a home. Married 23 yrs. I’m very glad I’m married.

    • @SuperMario-dx3vn
      @SuperMario-dx3vn Před měsícem +13

      Your situation doesn't speak majority of what happens in marriage
      You're just very very very lucky, and even as for now there's no guarantee that you won't get a divorce and won't lose the house you "own"
      In conclusion marriage offers no benefits for men but nothing but risk
      You're still in risk to lose your home if at any time in the future ur wife chooses that she ain't happy

    • @Hopeandredemption
      @Hopeandredemption Před 29 dny

      Amen

    • @socom2173
      @socom2173 Před 29 dny +4

      You are the exception, and it's not over yet.

    • @SuperMario-dx3vn
      @SuperMario-dx3vn Před 28 dny

      @@socom2173 exactly, he celebrates his marriage as if he's secured lol, but doesn't realize he's still in a huge risk to lose his house cuz his wife can still file for divorce anytime in the future😆

    • @DilipKumar-ou6pg
      @DilipKumar-ou6pg Před 24 dny +1

      Well God bless you but he doesn't most of the men .I hope he does bless me with godly wife if not never ever I am getting married

  • @TheBestPill-no2xp
    @TheBestPill-no2xp Před měsícem +47

    1) I have been married for 23 years, and men with the lucky to find a wife like mine. Having said that, marriage is a net negative for men a woman that wants you is trying to Hitch her wagon to you, period. She wants you because of what she's getting from you. She wants you because you are better than her in every way. That's why she chose you! The only thing that she can possibly give you, is what you don't already have (think about it).
    2) In her mind, she's entitled to you and everything that yours. While at the same time, you are not entitled to anything that is hers. That is not a partnership by definition, and worst of all, *_it makes perfect sense to her._* women say it all the time, the only reason they stayed in marriages in yester decade is because they had to. Now that they don't have to, they don't. So they won't.
    3) For all your religious people out there, that is the true meaning of the fall of Man story from Genesis in your old testament. Ancient men wrote down why life is the way it is, and in the Adam and Eve story, ancient men wrote that God can give women paradise, and they will still have a Wanderlust for something else they can't define. Get this through your heads, because you will never hear a truer statement about women. Ready? *Women cannot have both agency and contentment at the same time.*

    • @Noname-bg8sh
      @Noname-bg8sh Před měsícem +5

      The meaning behind the Adam and Eve story is for men NOT to be a doormat and never let a woman take the lead 🎉 have some balls!!!

    • @rayrwyr
      @rayrwyr Před měsícem +4

      Marriage only works well when she is happy. She is only happy when she has found a man she has willingly submitted to.

    • @sabrinagonzales4456
      @sabrinagonzales4456 Před měsícem

      @@Noname-bg8shWomen are the original leaders and everything.

  • @wordup897
    @wordup897 Před měsícem +30

    This world is so dark and life's so full of suffering, I don't know if it's ethical to bring children into it.

    • @shawnshawn1366
      @shawnshawn1366 Před 21 dnem +2

      It’s not.

    • @dozoneil1253
      @dozoneil1253 Před 20 dny

      If you believe you can be saved through Jesus, it’s worth it, for what’s to come after this miserable life.

    • @wordup897
      @wordup897 Před 20 dny

      ​@@dozoneil1253 I've pondered and prayed on it for years but have never picked up a 'response' of any sort.
      While I have gone from agnost to theist based on science (probability of spontaneous generation and Darwinian evolution are nil) and am totally down with the teachings of Christ whatever the source, I've found no proof of the essential claims and am hard pressed to believe a book translation and edit commissioned by a king (render unto Caesar).

    • @dozoneil1253
      @dozoneil1253 Před 20 dny +1

      @@wordup897 Okay, I understand and I won’t judge you for that, I was like you at some point. I’ll pray for you, hoping God will give you the proof you need to believe in Him.
      I started to believe in Jesus when I was desperate, then God started to show me a lot of proof of his existence, which fortified me in the faith.
      But Fr, even without proof, knowing that evil people will pay on day if they don’t believe, knowing that this suffering is not vain, that one day everything will be beautiful, is enough for me to believe in Him, even if I doubt sometimes, it makes life way more easier to believe in God and I don’t care if I look dumb in the eyes of people that have no hope for this existence, which makes them suffer way more than me.

    • @dozoneil1253
      @dozoneil1253 Před 20 dny

      @@wordup897 I don’t believe you have to do works to go to Heaven, if you believe you’re a sinner and that Jesus is God and he died for your sins, that’s enough to go to heaven and once you truly believe, nothing will never ever take this salvation away from you, so please even if you doubt, believe once, then even if you give up on the faith, you’ll still have that.

  • @FantasticMedia3133
    @FantasticMedia3133 Před měsícem +92

    You said “women view marriage as a career option”. That’s the best line I’ve seen on CZcams in years. Well said.

    • @bettedavis45
      @bettedavis45 Před měsícem +6

      Because that's how it should be. Women should be taking care of the home and children. You cannot have a stay at home wife and mother and then shame her for viewing marriage as a career option. Up until the 70s, it was basically the only career option.

    • @FantasticMedia3133
      @FantasticMedia3133 Před měsícem +1

      @@bettedavis45 good point

    • @rayrwyr
      @rayrwyr Před měsícem +5

      Women need 2 things: Alpha Fux (i.e s3x with Alpha/hot guys) and Beta Bux (i.e. provision/money from beta provider type guys). If her husband provides both, she stays in the marriage. If she is missing at least one of the two, she cheats or divorces.

    • @moneylineparlay105
      @moneylineparlay105 Před měsícem

      Yes but when you leave your career you don't get to take their stuff with you. That's the issue​@@bettedavis45

    • @eddieortiz237
      @eddieortiz237 Před měsícem

      @@FantasticMedia3133 🤯

  • @user-Kova15
    @user-Kova15 Před měsícem +19

    Never seen the point im marrying. Especially when hookup culture and adultery is perfectly acceptable and promoted in this decadent society. Im only 21, but the women my age definitely aren’t something im attracted too. The entire culture is just horrendous and the trajectory of society is going downhill anyways so it’s definitely not appealing

  • @williamosgood3565
    @williamosgood3565 Před měsícem +70

    Why Can't men figure this out before walking into the marriage slaughterhouse? I figured this out at 16 and never married. Now at 68, all the pathetic lives I see my friends, family, and coworkers leading convinces me I was right all along.

  • @filmdude5058
    @filmdude5058 Před měsícem +40

    Dated a narcissistic woman for 2,5 years, raised by a narc mom, narc grandmom, everytime i see a woman now i wanna throw up

    • @Noname-bg8sh
      @Noname-bg8sh Před měsícem

      You dated a narc Woman because it felt familiar, stop dating woman that remind you of your mum because you wont fix that either. Break the pattern!

    • @typingcat
      @typingcat Před měsícem +3

      So you gay?

    • @filmdude5058
      @filmdude5058 Před měsícem +7

      @@typingcat why ru interested, cant find anyone on grindr?

    • @user-sf5fk6ox4c
      @user-sf5fk6ox4c Před měsícem +1

      @filmdude5058 Get a boyfriend!

    • @filmdude5058
      @filmdude5058 Před měsícem

      @@user-sf5fk6ox4c jokes aside, there are two types of men in this world, the ones who respect women, and the ones who understand women. Growing up you respect them, because society programs you to think in a certain way. Once you get older, and with experience (which i can tell you don’t have), you start understanding their nature, but start losing respect for them at the same time. I’ve had between 50 to 60 women in my life, from fun to serious relationships, they are all manipulative evil bitches deep inside, every single one of them.

  • @adilbajrai
    @adilbajrai Před 17 dny +8

    I pretended to be someone else and dm'd my ex wife after divorce. I was flexing faking to be a rich guy with a cool collection of cars. Within a day talking she said she wanted to marry the fake me. We've only been divorced for a few months. So trust me guys they aint what they seem. Someone who is true and loyal is a rare find nowadays

  • @73split
    @73split Před měsícem +29

    It’s real simple buddy, a woman’s love is reserved for her children not the man. The best you can hope for from a woman is respect, nothing more. If you want unconditional love, get a dog. Unfortunately, once you learn what female nature is all about they lose any value you previously believed they had. It’s bad, real bad.

    • @fluffycuteish
      @fluffycuteish Před měsícem +1

      Not all of us women want children, you know. So your argument isn’t entirely valid.

    • @73split
      @73split Před měsícem

      @@fluffycuteish as a woman you are incapable of loving a man the way he loves you. That’s a fact!

    • @73split
      @73split Před měsícem

      @@fluffycuteishyou as a woman are incapable of loving a man the way a man would love you. It’s not in your nature and never has been. Once men realize that fact and understand female nature they adjust their expectations accordingly. The best we can hope for from a woman is respect, nothing more.

    • @nerychristian
      @nerychristian Před měsícem +3

      We're talking about the majority of married women. Once they have children, their attention and love is for their children. And the husband becomes an after thought. I have worked around women most of my life. And very rarely do I meet a woman who says she loves her husband

  • @rachidseghir706
    @rachidseghir706 Před 15 dny +4

    My little sister, who is 14 years old, told me that a girl in her class said she's tired of school and just wants to marry a rich man, divorce him, and take his wealth.

  • @socialnetworking4782
    @socialnetworking4782 Před měsícem +21

    My ex wife had affairs multiple times in my marriage. I caught it years after the fact despite my suspicions. Sucks, I had 15 years of wasted time, career moves I wasted and I left military service so I could have more time at home. All that sacrifice and rationalizing to be a better husband, it's hell.

    • @bregjejabra25
      @bregjejabra25 Před měsícem +4

      I had cheating girlfriends. Thanks for sharing.

    • @nerychristian
      @nerychristian Před měsícem +4

      First mistake was getting married while in the military. I've heard horror stories about army wives

  • @PokemonMasterVeryBest
    @PokemonMasterVeryBest Před měsícem +54

    Hey brother man one of the best pieces of advice I read lately for single men like yourself is “Run towards God and when you find a woman that keeps up with you that’s your wife!”

    • @itrow9526
      @itrow9526 Před měsícem +7

      If you found a Woman running towards Jesus would you really want her to run towards you instead?
      She has already found the best husband possible.

    • @dio2076
      @dio2076 Před měsícem

      Already did that.
      She went after a bad boy who cheated on her lol.
      This is the same girl who thought about being a nun and constantly argues about God's existence online with atheists. (She probably still does).

  • @imadie1484
    @imadie1484 Před měsícem +90

    Holy shit you nailed it down perfectly. “You’ll have to become a narcissistic super hero just to keep a woman around”. This is exactly it.

    • @Qdude10
      @Qdude10 Před měsícem +14

      And this is sad, because this isn't who I inherently am. However, I do know how this game works and he's spot on.

    • @ResisterCIO
      @ResisterCIO Před měsícem +14

      My undoing was the whole frame game. It's easy to keep frame when you just need to be stoic with her for 15 minutes when she acts ridiculous or petty, and then say "Well, I'm going back to my place".
      It's a whole other thing when you live together, or more so have kids. You can't just escape and go noncomm for a day or two and let her stew in her own drama making.

    • @sweetsmakemeshredded3672
      @sweetsmakemeshredded3672 Před měsícem

      @@ResisterCIO Yeah, solution is to never live with woman

    • @Hifcrea
      @Hifcrea Před měsícem

      @@ResisterCIOspot on brotha, with a girl 10 years, lived together 2 years. I found myself always wanting to leave for 2-3 days / weeks at a time because she truly was just insufferable and I no longer had the ability to escape.

    • @Alazar654
      @Alazar654 Před měsícem +5

      "You'll have to become a narcissistic super hero just to keep a woman around"
      Exactly, which is why bad boys get with women. Its easier for bad boys to be that way than it is for good men, of course.

  • @artificialunderground
    @artificialunderground Před 23 dny +8

    I’m just here to say that a man who is the father of a West Point graduate and Captain American (Navy Seal and he does look like Captain America) …. He told me that if he had to do it all over again , he wouldn’t get married. And this is from a man in a successful marriage, has three other great grown ok kids and everything. Owns property, has wealth, pensioned, Christian , as in actually are practicing and decent people. He ticks so many other check marks that’s it’s silly. And he looked me straight in the eyes when he told me. So yea, that tells you everything you need to know about marriage, even when it works out, it still sucks for the man.

  • @SquadraCorse
    @SquadraCorse Před měsícem +8

    It doesn’t matter if she’s a good woman when you marry her. She can change her mind any time she wants to and take the kids, the house, and half of everything else.

  • @josephjulianmionie4744
    @josephjulianmionie4744 Před měsícem +69

    DON'T GET MARRIED!!!!
    SAVE
    YOUR
    SELF!!!!!!!! PLEWEEEEASE!!!!!
    OHHHH GOOOODDDD NOOOOO!

  • @user-bm6wu9zw9m
    @user-bm6wu9zw9m Před měsícem +13

    I’ve never married. Life is good. No debt whatsoever. House paid off, fat 401k and stock portfolio. 🤑

  • @tubewatcher3100
    @tubewatcher3100 Před 24 dny +8

    Marriage turns love into loathing. Don't get married. Women want to change their man, they hate him when he turns into a simp, they also hate him when they can't change him.

  • @cyberzonie631
    @cyberzonie631 Před měsícem +16

    In many cases the divorce is planned before the wedding, stay single Gents.

  • @kevinstroup
    @kevinstroup Před měsícem +15

    Marry the RIGHT woman and it's probably the best thing you will ever do. Stop focusing on her looks and start looking at intelligence, character, values. Those are what make a long-term marriage work.

    • @paulcosta8297
      @paulcosta8297 Před 22 dny +2

      Looks are what distinguishes her from the body of another man. So sick of hearing this BS. Looks are equally important as all those other things lest a man debase himself.

    • @davidmattax6087
      @davidmattax6087 Před 12 dny

      @@paulcosta8297I think what he’s saying is that men’s bar for physical attractiveness doesn’t need to be the “porn star bod” or bust. Physical attraction is important yes but character is just as if not more important. Most women are conventionally attractive enough for men to be happy with.

  • @waggytail289
    @waggytail289 Před měsícem +118

    When you look like Jesus and Jim Morrison at the same time, you know the universe is telling you something.

  • @0rbital_nugget188
    @0rbital_nugget188 Před měsícem +60

    Told my brother not to get married. He didn’t listen. A month after the wedding he was texting me constantly talking about how much of a mistake he made. Fast forward 7 years later, he’s miserable. She stopped working and moved her mother and siblings in, sabotages his work, had him surviving off ramen and sleeping in his truck during the winter, she constantly disrespects him; I mean, the list goes on. Sadly, he has Stockholm syndrome, so he’s not leaving her despite all she’s done.

    • @anonymissed3611
      @anonymissed3611 Před měsícem +1

      How did he wind up in truck?

    • @0rbital_nugget188
      @0rbital_nugget188 Před měsícem +12

      @@anonymissed3611 She put him out of the house for the night. Like a far worse version of sleeping on the couch

    • @anonymissed3611
      @anonymissed3611 Před měsícem

      @@0rbital_nugget188 With all her family taking her side, no doubt.

    • @rayrwyr
      @rayrwyr Před měsícem

      @@0rbital_nugget188 -- I have no sympathy for weak men like your brother. For a man, weakness is a sin with a guaranteed heavy punishment during his lifetime.

    • @CyberSecurityFashionDesigner
      @CyberSecurityFashionDesigner Před měsícem +3

      Seriously where do you find these women?

  • @alexvig2369
    @alexvig2369 Před měsícem +13

    I'm 31M, and I had my fiancée leaving me for dead two months before the wedding. I was RP-aware since I was 21, but still had relationships in hopes of getting married. After a decade of relationships lasting anywhere between 1 to 4 years-long and less serious encounters in-between, I can confidently say it's just not worth it to even try. I still want a family, but I'm not willing to pay any cost for it. It just can't cost me my health, sanity and finances, ladies.

  • @Themilkman95
    @Themilkman95 Před měsícem +34

    I’m not paying 10k for a wedding just for one day when I can spend that money on a awesome holiday

  • @romart03
    @romart03 Před měsícem +28

    Happily married for years, feel sorry for the comment section but they don’t speak for everyone

    • @jubaaissaoui5678
      @jubaaissaoui5678 Před měsícem +2

      What do you mean by happily married ?
      Are you guys always happy

    • @fluffycuteish
      @fluffycuteish Před měsícem

      Yeah this comment section is… I hate to use this term but… full of incels.

    • @sabrinagonzales4456
      @sabrinagonzales4456 Před měsícem +5

      Stop lying to yourself, both of u are cheating. U guys hate each other

    • @Zox604
      @Zox604 Před měsícem +8

      Most of men in comments were happily married for years, some for decades. Then .... she had enough.
      Let God help you. I wish you good luck.

    • @Foomanlol
      @Foomanlol Před měsícem +2

      @@romart03 you can have a longterm gf without getting married too and get the same thing without a contract

  • @Mr._Anderpson
    @Mr._Anderpson Před měsícem +14

    What is interesting/amusing is how so many married or divorced men can tell young men "don't do it" and yet each time the hubris of youth assures these young men that they're the ones who will walk through the fire unscathed.
    People also have this hang-up where they focus on divorce rates. Those are annual numbers and they will decrease as the number of men who choose to marry decreases. Focus instead on the how many marriages last X number of years. The odds of marrying and it lasting 25 years or more are vanishingly small.
    Look at the age brackets for the greatest number of divorces. You'll find it highest among women 40+. This should tell you many of these women wait until they can have access to your retirement fund before they cash out. Don't ask how I know this one.

    • @dephitaputrimawardi9503
      @dephitaputrimawardi9503 Před 19 dny

      whew... is it on the america/western countries only?

    • @Mr._Anderpson
      @Mr._Anderpson Před 18 dny +1

      @@dephitaputrimawardi9503 I can only speak about conditions in the US. I'm not a globe-trotter.
      However, I don't think female nature changes depending on geography. The mercenary is what nearly every woman is, exchanging affection, real or imagined, for profit. It becomes difficult if not impossible to love them once you know their nature.

  • @tampatim8232
    @tampatim8232 Před měsícem +13

    Due to the financial and legal ramifications, the only reason to get married is to have children. Go out to eat, hire a maid and a sex worker. It's cheaper and less stressful.

  • @Romeolmoore55
    @Romeolmoore55 Před měsícem +91

    I'll marry my business, I don't want stress and nonsense from a woman.

    • @vincentharris7909
      @vincentharris7909 Před měsícem +4

      Businesses are the best relationship partners

    • @Aright231
      @Aright231 Před měsícem

      I hat stress would a woman potentially give you that you want to avoid?

    • @bettedavis45
      @bettedavis45 Před měsícem

      Darwin award

    • @rayrwyr
      @rayrwyr Před měsícem

      How are you going to deal with all that testosterones in a male body? I found myself a fwb to take care of that.

    • @romart03
      @romart03 Před měsícem

      Maybe she doesn’t want stress and nonsense from you either, ever thought of that

  • @rainn124
    @rainn124 Před měsícem +68

    I’m 21, young and know every way I went wrong now but I was in a relationship for 3 years and as soon as I pulled the ring out she cheated on me and was gone within 4 months, I learned everything the hard way. If they redownload social media that’s a red flag ! And there were many red flags I ignored from the start.
    Now I’m the best man I’ve ever been, started my own business and have beautiful women with boyfriends constantly messing with me and I see through their MESS. Thankful for your content I found last year.

    • @dojocho1894
      @dojocho1894 Před měsícem +12

      hang in there brother....older married 2x a Physician.....my second wife met another Physician planned it all out then told me one morning ...left 3 hours later. thats after 15yrs married.

    • @J4YAH777
      @J4YAH777 Před měsícem

      @@dojocho1894 Wow!

    • @rayrwyr
      @rayrwyr Před měsícem

      @@dojocho1894 -- how is she (second wife) doing now? Has she tried to return? What about your first wife?

    • @Manhwa-recapped
      @Manhwa-recapped Před měsícem

      What kind of business

    • @joncarbone
      @joncarbone Před měsícem +1

      Stay strong. I was in a relationship for 6 years. As soon as I considered marriage is when she cheated on me. Strange how this is a common theme.
      Anyway, glad we dodged them bullets.

  • @egarrett1117
    @egarrett1117 Před měsícem +11

    My best friend told me not to get married and I was the best man at his wedding….I now see why.

  • @Alan-lv9rw
    @Alan-lv9rw Před měsícem +31

    My ex had a dramatic personality change after 15 years. Then she took my two kids and two houses.

    • @regalchange
      @regalchange  Před měsícem +3

      damn

    • @Goodman849
      @Goodman849 Před měsícem +3

      Mine after 3 years .she took the kids another country . A least kept my asset s

    • @mjjaworski
      @mjjaworski Před měsícem +3

      After 10 years here. Took my son

    • @Goodman849
      @Goodman849 Před měsícem +2

      @Alan-lv9rw of course she called the police on me first

    • @BonerGrowingPains
      @BonerGrowingPains Před měsícem

      menopause/female midlife crisis

  • @user-xt8es5nj4n
    @user-xt8es5nj4n Před měsícem +23

    If I could turn back time I would definitely NOT get married

  • @SuperArmus
    @SuperArmus Před měsícem +18

    Right after I got divorced (not my choice), I met this woman we hooked up for a couple of months until I found out she was married with 3 kids. Never at any point she told me her real situation. I thought she was single. Needless to say I stopped seeing her immediately. She was a lawyer too. Which is just the cherry on top.

    • @regalchange
      @regalchange  Před měsícem +5

      So she studies the law but doesn't follow it. Nice

    • @davidmattax6087
      @davidmattax6087 Před 12 dny +1

      You dodged a nuke. Lord knows what trouble you could’ve landed yourself in. Smart man

    • @SuperArmus
      @SuperArmus Před 12 dny

      @@davidmattax6087 Oh I know.

  • @carly102982
    @carly102982 Před měsícem +229

    Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

    • @snoopdoff
      @snoopdoff Před měsícem

      Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!

    • @47151632
      @47151632 Před měsícem

      Yes, dr.porassss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.

    • @peishancraken
      @peishancraken Před měsícem

      I wish they were readily available in my place.
      Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
      He's constantly talking about killing someone.
      He's violent. Anyone reading this
      Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.

    • @snoopdoff
      @snoopdoff Před měsícem

      Is he on instagram?

    • @47151632
      @47151632 Před měsícem

      Yes he is dr.porassss.

  • @delmasnorthrep1248
    @delmasnorthrep1248 Před měsícem +20

    My own father told me not to get married, although he married my mother.

  • @Mr._Anderpson
    @Mr._Anderpson Před měsícem +30

    The Adam & Eve story tells us that you could literally be the only man on Earth, she could be "the one" for you, and she will still be off in the garden chatting up some snake.

  • @TimmyCramer
    @TimmyCramer Před měsícem +24

    Best decision of my life was not getting married. Last week I did a weeklong grand canyon river rafting trip. Tomorrow I head for San Diego to beachside camp for a week. Timmy C Arizona 59.

  • @Runner2000
    @Runner2000 Před měsícem +18

    If she tells you her Zodiac sign and uses the word, “Manifest,” like it can make shit appear out of nowhere….RUN like your hair’s on fire!
    I was a musician, a writer, never got married.
    It just seemed like it’s forever jumping through hoops to keep one side happy or lose everything, “Happy Wife; Happy Life,”and the first hoop goes on the finger.
    And you don’t really know who you’re married to until the ring goes on, because then the power dynamic absolutely shifts, because only one side has the government to back them up.
    Like they say: Women marry men hoping they’ll change, Men marry women hoping they don’t.
    But I’ll say this: back then, women appreciated what we did for them more.
    They didn’t expect it.

  • @crappyfellow
    @crappyfellow Před měsícem +36

    Until someone stops the free reign of Family Court, good men will avoid marriage and women in general. Nowadays, only 6.5 men in a thousand get married due to the following scenario: (1) man gets married, (2) wife refuses to have sex, (3) wife racks up huge credit card debt, (4) wife stops contributing financially, (5) wife stops cooking & cleaning, (6) wife cheats on husband, (7) wife files for divorce and takes the house, cars, savings, and kids, (8) wife falsely accuses husband of abuse and he no longer can see his kids, (9) wife poisons kids against the father. What man in his right mind will sign up for this?

    • @thearch1tect249
      @thearch1tect249 Před měsícem

      Thats all fine and good but even if they fixed all that it still doesn't fix the woman! Who want to be with an insufferable person who you can never make happy no matter what you do! Woman are incapable of love only men can!!

    • @aizakku8399
      @aizakku8399 Před 9 dny +1

      Majority of younger men are invisible to younger women in the dating realm so they are blessed to avoid the festering open would that older men are suffering through.

  • @Schopenhauer69
    @Schopenhauer69 Před měsícem +115

    A lot of people need to read more about the history and origins of marriage. It's literally designed to create stable economies and keep people under control. It's great for the economy. Not so great for the people involved.

    • @vincentharris7909
      @vincentharris7909 Před měsícem

      More so the history of women. It ain’t good fellas.

    • @KC-lg8qf
      @KC-lg8qf Před měsícem

      @Schopenhauer69 it's a way to make sure the betas get a woman..... otherwise all the women would share the top men. Society would indeed crumble. As it is now

    • @Wewereneveryoung
      @Wewereneveryoung Před měsícem +13

      This!

    • @ruleaus7664
      @ruleaus7664 Před měsícem

      God made marriage. Adam and Eve were the first married couple.

    • @pastelmoon9118
      @pastelmoon9118 Před měsícem +3

      This! I always wondered why on earth people wont question " why people must be married tho..." * googled the origin in my teens *
      "....ouh... maybe its not good idea after all NOPE "

  • @raoulhayes196
    @raoulhayes196 Před měsícem +158

    I feel like people who say they have a good marriage just haven't caught their wife cheating yet

    • @RedLegPiper
      @RedLegPiper Před měsícem +17

      Lol who hurt you

    • @masterpoe4942
      @masterpoe4942 Před měsícem +23

      @RedLegPiper
      In all probability..some woman...

    • @rasluffi
      @rasluffi Před měsícem +14

      ​@RedLegPiper validating his assertion by presuming its truth? Good job bro 😂

    • @RedLegPiper
      @RedLegPiper Před měsícem +12

      @@rasluffi acting like all women cheat is a joke.

    • @rasluffi
      @rasluffi Před měsícem +7

      @RedLegPiper that's not what he said nor did he imply that. But I do agree that there are some good marriages out there, and not all women cheat.

  • @Dansyoung
    @Dansyoung Před měsícem +9

    Yup biggest mistake of my life was getting married. Women will pretend to be exactly what you want, and will try to destroy you for their personal gain.

  • @sanjosesharks98
    @sanjosesharks98 Před měsícem +5

    It’s good to finally hear a Christian man speak truth. I get a lot of grief in my church for calling out the way American feminist culture has infected our women.

  • @legendarytonyclutch
    @legendarytonyclutch Před měsícem +41

    I had a few married men telling me the same thing about not to get married

    • @vincentharris7909
      @vincentharris7909 Před měsícem +15

      Believe them my friend. Shyte ain’t no joke! Don’t F around and find out.

    • @legendarytonyclutch
      @legendarytonyclutch Před měsícem +1

      @@vincentharris7909 I made my mind up after 21 to not get married there's no benefit for us my guy

    • @tomasrocha6139
      @tomasrocha6139 Před měsícem

      Married men are happier, live longer, have more sex and most remarry after divorce

    • @ResisterCIO
      @ResisterCIO Před měsícem

      @@tomasrocha6139 These numbers are now being challenged. Insurance companies are being shocked as the actuarial tables are resulting in earlier married male death, Grey divorce (55+) is exploding all over the Western world and in Japan with women dumping men just prior to retirement, and the sex claim is just based on self-reporting by "Dishwashers for Intimacy" copers.

    • @Foomanlol
      @Foomanlol Před měsícem +2

      ​@@tomasrocha6139more sex than who? Single people without stable partners? You can have a gf without marriage and get plenty of sex if you live together. 15 percent of marriages are sex less.

  • @robertdevoy3119
    @robertdevoy3119 Před měsícem +10

    There is an ad on youtube where the guy opens a kitchen cabinet and everything falls apart. Then the wife immediately shows how they can get up to $40k loan to remodel the kitchen. The simp husband agrees. Obviously, she removed some screws for all this to happen.

    • @RedLegPiper
      @RedLegPiper Před měsícem +2

      ant the modern day man will fall for it too.

  • @jedipsen1
    @jedipsen1 Před měsícem +8

    Young women's narcissism, entitlement and delusions are off the chart today. Get the book, The Menu, from Aaron Clarey and live a life without them.