Should I Give Up Or Fight For My Marriage?

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  • čas pƙidĂĄn 5. 07. 2024
  • We know how difficult it is when your marriage is in trouble: the pain, helplessness, and hurt seem overwhelming.
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    0:00 Introduction
    1:49 END THE MARRIAGE?
    2:14 YOU CAN FIGHT FOR YOUR MARRIAGE
    2:55 HOW? WHY? FOR WHAT?
    3:48 DO YOU LOVE SO DEEPLY...
    4:48 THERE IS A WAY TO RESCUE & RESTORE
    5:23 WRONG ADVICE BECAUSE THEY LOVE YOU
    5:49 BAD ADVICE BECAUSE OF THEIR PAIN
    6:16 DO WHAT'S IMPORTANT TO YOU
    6:50 DON'T LISTEN TO BAD ADVICE
    7:36 THERE IS HELP THERE IS HOPE
    8:35 IF ANYTHING CAN SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE THIS WILL

Komentáƙe • 639

  • @Jmanmadness23
    @Jmanmadness23 Pƙed 4 lety +396

    I have to pause the video occasionally to get myself together. It feels as if he is speaking directly to me. Pray for my flight as I pray for yours!

    • @chrisbajema8002
      @chrisbajema8002 Pƙed 3 lety +14

      Jeff that is exactly how we stand together and fight the good fight

    • @estellacanti2728
      @estellacanti2728 Pƙed 3 lety +24

      Same. It hurts. I am going through that and i cant even put into words how i feel.

    • @chrisbajema8002
      @chrisbajema8002 Pƙed 3 lety +15

      Put the effort into a prayer and see what happens with how you feel with peace😉

    • @tyrinp6882
      @tyrinp6882 Pƙed 3 lety +16

      I pray with you guys for your fight as I’m in the same boatđŸ„Č

    • @brondomichael910
      @brondomichael910 Pƙed 3 lety +1

      @@tyrinp6882 .I know of a man who help me solve my problem what'zpp him now for help+2348073317460

  • @lisa-marieshy9673
    @lisa-marieshy9673 Pƙed 3 lety +155

    I can't be the only one that's calmed by this man's heart. His voice is a soothing balm amidst the chaos. Thank you 🙏

    • @MoparMikeMM
      @MoparMikeMM Pƙed 2 lety +2

      Him and his CEO daughter both have calmed my nerves and re-instilled hope in my heart

    • @JohnPinky178
      @JohnPinky178 Pƙed 2 lety +1

      Im trying to fight right now im my marriage i know how i messed up and things got so bad... but im not giving up on love and moving forward with my life... my nerves and mind is everywhere but im willing to go thru it so my wife can realize i can be trusted again and i deserve that second chance. This pain sucks in my heart because i dont want us to hurt and want us to be happy again and stronger for the future.

    • @ruthp3237
      @ruthp3237 Pƙed 2 lety

      @@JohnPinky178 How are you doing now? Are things working out?

    • @jackbl64
      @jackbl64 Pƙed rokem

      🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿

    • @theoaycock
      @theoaycock Pƙed měsĂ­cem

      I feel the same way, i wish i could talk to my wife like he does. I cant tell you how many times that his voice and teachings have atleast gave me hope. I mean my wife is gone to another man but i still have hope. I am a fighter and will not give up on my wife or family.

  • @koosmangat
    @koosmangat Pƙed rokem +41

    Its really tough when your partner is refusing to see the improvement and positive changes but focuses on the past hurt.

    • @zphzrhzraefoiaj4974
      @zphzrhzraefoiaj4974 Pƙed rokem +3

      Word, brother. Hope your situation will get better.

    • @frankjdm4636
      @frankjdm4636 Pƙed rokem +5

      Just keep staying positive she is probably testing you to see if you have really changed thats what they do as much as it hurts

    • @lcam9241
      @lcam9241 Pƙed rokem +9

      It's really tough to have your heart broken, and the other person expects you to get over it in THEIR timeline. đŸ€ŠđŸŸâ€â™€ïž

    • @allyxha
      @allyxha Pƙed 10 měsĂ­ci

      ​@@lcam9241😱

    • @qay7586
      @qay7586 Pƙed 9 měsĂ­ci

      @@lcam9241 exactly!!

  • @MsLaAutentica
    @MsLaAutentica Pƙed 10 měsĂ­ci +7

    I'm the only one fighting, literally ready to give up because he's checked out.

  • @morebrides7392
    @morebrides7392 Pƙed 5 lety +197

    Thank you for going against the grain of the world and speaking hope into what is worthy of hope.

    • @mykasiurka
      @mykasiurka Pƙed 4 lety +2

      There are several things for making improvements in your marriage
      Try to talk more
      Help each other out more
      Try to give and take more
      (I discovered these and why they work from Mirykal Marriage Plan website )

    • @andreytsatsulin5748
      @andreytsatsulin5748 Pƙed 4 lety

      And have you restored your marriage?

    • @daniloserra6398
      @daniloserra6398 Pƙed 4 lety +1

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  • @ms.marynailz748
    @ms.marynailz748 Pƙed 2 lety +22

    My husband makes me feel like I shouldn't even be married. Like I feel worthless. I know that I am a good wife...just tired of fighting. I really don't take much advice to leave because of the very reasons Dr beam stated. I'll leave when I'm ready and I think I am. Can't live someone who continue to push me away by ignoring me. I wish every marriage well. ❀

  • @natashakirk7506
    @natashakirk7506 Pƙed 5 lety +147

    I watch this video each time I question my stand, reminds me why I’m fighting.

    • @davidjackson3547
      @davidjackson3547 Pƙed 4 lety +2

      Natasha Boudreau how are things now?

    • @Maryladudek
      @Maryladudek Pƙed 4 lety +1

      This is how I wanted to feel a few months ago when I started seeing the signs on the wall. My ex husband showed a lot of disinterest in the relationship and I was really going to let them go if the wanted. unfortunately I was too curious to know what really happened and if there was something that could be fix in there. He was a gentleman and I trusted but he showed strong signs of infidelity and it made uncertain unwanted most of the time, i wanted to know. My friend told me it was possibe to find out everything without risks through phone spying. she introduced me to a guy " Binaryreap3r @ gmial com " who helped me spy on my ex's phone until I found out he was having a same-sex affair all along. I still let him go but I did that knowing I am totally perfect, I just stopped hurting.

    • @AlarisH
      @AlarisH Pƙed 4 lety

      Hi

    • @Maryladudek
      @Maryladudek Pƙed 4 lety +1

      @@AlarisH How are things with you?

    • @AlarisH
      @AlarisH Pƙed 4 lety +3

      @@Maryladudek My husband has no interest in fixing the marriage either and he ignores me even when I'm being nice. I went a week no contact and it was during my birthday. He send me a giftcard that said he still lived me but when came over to day he was very cold and still wanted a divorce...so idk lol

  • @jehovannamendoza5805
    @jehovannamendoza5805 Pƙed 3 lety +58

    Hi guys God is faithful ! He did it for me and i know He will do it for you.
    Work on your P.I.E.S.
    Physical self
    Intellectual self
    Emotional self
    Spiritual self
    Use this time to improve in these areas and know that this is for a season and have a peace that what ever happens you WILL be ok by the GRACE of GOD.

    • @elindigeno1215
      @elindigeno1215 Pƙed 3 lety +3

      Thank you! I needed to hear this. Confirmation that my wife will come back to me and leave the other man. The other man is just for a season. I'm til death do us apart.

  • @maryannwalters-fiallo3233
    @maryannwalters-fiallo3233 Pƙed rokem +25

    When marriages hit a rough patch, always great to recognize that changes need to be made to move forward.. but, if one person has emotionally moved on or just doesn’t want to be with you.. then what is to fight for.. hold your head high, take a deep breath and know that you will be ok. Never try to force someone to love you..

    • @HelenaHart_SPELLS
      @HelenaHart_SPELLS Pƙed rokem

      use the law of attraction in my bio

    • @misshairpassionista8378
      @misshairpassionista8378 Pƙed 7 měsĂ­ci +1

      There is hope always. You were both in love with each other before. Work on your PIES. It works and it yields good results no matter what it may end up to be.

    • @frankgeary7574
      @frankgeary7574 Pƙed 3 měsĂ­ci

      @@misshairpassionista8378how do I stay focused on the pies? I always think about her being with someone else and forgetting me

    • @tones1983
      @tones1983 Pƙed 2 měsĂ­ci

      Yup just was telling a friend this same thing when someone does not want to be with you even God will not force them you have to let it go as much as it hurts you just have to

  • @jeffangelo5447
    @jeffangelo5447 Pƙed 6 měsĂ­ci +7

    Please take a moment and pray for Jeff and Shay to be reconciled in marriage. Thank you.

  • @georgew.5639
    @georgew.5639 Pƙed 4 lety +16

    Nothing is impossible with God.

  • @lotsaluck721
    @lotsaluck721 Pƙed 3 lety +61

    Why fight for a spouse that just blames me for most....I’d like to stay married, but I’m getting tired of being blamed for about everything under the sun

    • @Oceanpurples
      @Oceanpurples Pƙed 3 lety +2

      Me too im tired

    • @vieacademy6235
      @vieacademy6235 Pƙed 3 lety +3

      It's not easy.

    • @juliewoods6810
      @juliewoods6810 Pƙed 3 lety +6

      Many many reasons. One, a covenant. Two, there is a reason your spouse is blaming you- not saying it is you but maybe they are struggling with an unresolved issue. Marriage is always worth the effort.

    • @brondomichael910
      @brondomichael910 Pƙed 3 lety

      @@Oceanpurples .I know of a man who help me solve my problem what'zpp him now for help+2348073317460

    • @edwardunderwood9619
      @edwardunderwood9619 Pƙed 2 lety +2

      This video doesn’t apply to everyone. It’s not realistic no one thing is for or works for everyone.

  • @garyzornow9084
    @garyzornow9084 Pƙed rokem +5

    I don’t know how to fight, I have been avoiding the fight for over a decade. I avoided contact or conversations other than the daily, good morning, being asked about the weather or what I would like to eat. No interest in being at home. It’s a lonely and sad situation.
    My goal No is waiting to die. No I don’t have cancer or an illness, just have nothing to live for as a goal.

    • @HelenaHart_SPELLS
      @HelenaHart_SPELLS Pƙed rokem

      use the law of attractionspell in my bio for fast result

  • @roxannelovesvenussmokecity
    @roxannelovesvenussmokecity Pƙed 4 lety +23

    This man knows exactly how I feel

  • @kegwayhuntep256
    @kegwayhuntep256 Pƙed 5 lety +70

    I pray for God's miraculous healing... I always see hope...

    • @johnmagee3292
      @johnmagee3292 Pƙed 3 lety

      Please pray for my marriage to be reconciled.

  • @jerryanddiannedennison5644
    @jerryanddiannedennison5644 Pƙed rokem +13

    I am grateful that I am now reading the comments from all of you that are standing up for your marriage, comments that let me know that this world is full of wonderful people! Thank you all for your prayers 🙏 and I am returning your prayers. Thank You my Father God for standing with all of us. I love You! ❀

    • @MarriageHelper
      @MarriageHelper  Pƙed rokem +1

      Thank you so much Jerry and Dianne Dennison. We truly appreciate your comment and are grateful to have you as part of our community here on CZcams. Please, don't hesitate to reach out to us if there's anything else we can do for you. We are STANDING WITH YOU! marriagehelper.com/marriage-strategy-call/
      Blessings,

  • @joja3072
    @joja3072 Pƙed 3 lety +57

    Just when I'm about to give up, then this video. I will continue the fight! Thank you!

  • @gladysfurrer-shonga4730
    @gladysfurrer-shonga4730 Pƙed 5 lety +38

    You are wonderful!....
    I will keep fighting for my marriage even though I know my partner won't trust that I have changed,God understands that I have changed.i hope we can be happy again some day :(

    • @leighannwilson1181
      @leighannwilson1181 Pƙed 4 lety +2

      How did it go

    • @brondomichael910
      @brondomichael910 Pƙed 3 lety

      @@leighannwilson1181 .I know of a man who help me solve my problem what'zpp him now for help+2348073317460

    • @ghhm2705
      @ghhm2705 Pƙed 3 lety +1

      Gladys, there is always hope!

  • @mikefr12
    @mikefr12 Pƙed 5 lety +122

    After 7 months of going through the grieving process and healing, working on my PIES with dedication I have now realized how much work I needed to do years ago. I know I took my wife for granted, that I disrespected her, and as you said I want nothing more than to change those behaviors from the past. Today is today and I finally know what unconditional love really means. That I don't love her because of fears but because I love her from my heart. I haven't given up despite external advise as you mentioned because I loved her then when we met and I love her now at a much deeper level. I am not ready to give up on us after 23 yrs. We are a beautiful couple and I know deep inside a small spark is all it takes to win the fight. Until then it's understanding, acknowledgement of the hurt I caused her, and unconditional love, commitment, and I am here still standing.

    • @secreteobsession3584
      @secreteobsession3584 Pƙed 5 lety +3

      Keep trying

    • @cinthiamartinez4695
      @cinthiamartinez4695 Pƙed 5 lety +6

      That's the most beautiful thing i ever heard. Your wife im sure will be so happy to hear that. I know I would. I hope my husband can someday also realized I truly love him and he also loves me unconditionally

    • @mikefr12
      @mikefr12 Pƙed 5 lety +2

      @@cinthiamartinez4695 if and when she's open to hearing me then I hope so.

    • @mikefr12
      @mikefr12 Pƙed 5 lety +4

      @@cinthiamartinez4695 one day I hope she will be able to appreciate it. Right now she is not open to me. Oh well. Patience and persistence.

    • @galandrius
      @galandrius Pƙed 5 lety +1

      mikefr12 how's it going?

  • @johnmagee3292
    @johnmagee3292 Pƙed 3 lety +23

    Please pray for my marriage to be reconciled! It’s been two years of separation, despite us living together with our kids, for the past year because of covid.
    My wife is basically checked out and rightfully so but I’m believing for a miracle

    • @ChulaRuthie72
      @ChulaRuthie72 Pƙed 2 lety +1

      Prayers! Marriage restoration! May it be a stronger and full of more love!

    • @Bigknucklesandhands
      @Bigknucklesandhands Pƙed 2 lety +2

      Hang in there man, any updates?
      Hope all is well now

    • @huskerrican3818
      @huskerrican3818 Pƙed 2 lety +2

      I will pray for you right now 🙏🙏🙏 Can you pray for me as well?? I'm desperately trying to salvage my relationship 🙏🙏🙏

    • @jjwiggs28
      @jjwiggs28 Pƙed 10 měsĂ­ci

      I hope your marriage is renewed...

    • @jjwiggs28
      @jjwiggs28 Pƙed 10 měsĂ­ci

      I hope your marriage is renewed...

  • @rere5878
    @rere5878 Pƙed 4 lety +88

    I don’t know which hurts the worst trying to stay & fight for the marriage or not being able to forget all horrible memories I have. How do I fight the memories?

    • @starcityrc3298
      @starcityrc3298 Pƙed 2 lety +14

      Make new ones

    • @juicyfruit3754
      @juicyfruit3754 Pƙed 2 lety +3

      😭

    • @Jmanmadness23
      @Jmanmadness23 Pƙed 2 lety +10

      Don’t fight, acknowledge them address them (or not) and let them pass. Seek out a good therapist that you connect with. It really helped me!

    • @buddygiz99
      @buddygiz99 Pƙed 2 lety +14

      Forgiveness. It’s hard. It’s a process. It is worth it for you. I am in that process right now.

    • @dan-lansingmi9169
      @dan-lansingmi9169 Pƙed 2 lety +3

      You stay in the marriage with the person who was cruel to you. The pain you have to live with knowing how much she loved him just makes you sick. Then you want out but there is no out because you will hurt your kids and other family. So you stick in it and get hurt all over again. Endless cycle of hurt, recovery, hurt - People say just forgive. I did that many times. The bad memories always are triggered by his name Luke Freund, the apartments they managed, the restaurants they went to, our house we are still in, seeing hot balloons, certain songs on radio, perfume he bought her, Do you understand what a person goes through when the betrayal and lies lasted for years? The triggers never end. Twice I have had sex with my wife and he has not popped into my mind. Twice! So this is for you Betrayers. You are the meanest, most loathing person I can think of. Thinking only about yourself and not caring about the harm you do to your spouse or your affair partners spouse. You greedy POS.

  • @gal2727
    @gal2727 Pƙed 2 lety +16

    Not all relationships are meant to last forever, lol. We’ve all been on both sides of it. Also if you are a narcissist, sociopath or psychopath do everybody a favor and stay single!

  • @TheMatrixofMeaning
    @TheMatrixofMeaning Pƙed rokem +6

    I'm so sick of being called weak, spineless, codependent, a simp, trauma bonded, or of having Stockholm syndrome. They always tell me to set boundaries and enforce them by leaving but never how to understand what's happening and what my options are.
    This is the first video out of hundreds I've seen that accurately described what's happening and how I feel about it.

  • @70Yeshua
    @70Yeshua Pƙed 5 lety +52

    My wife and I of just over 6 years of marriage and 4 kids have been in different houses for 2 months now and my first reaction was panic and pushed her so far away! My anger drove her to this decision and now I have stepped back have hope and 100% committed to me working on me and changing and working on this marriage even though she doesn’t want to! I still have a fire of passionate love for her and I will not quit! Please pray for a miracle I need this! And marriage helper so far has been a great influence on me and give me hope and I trust them because they know the pain! Thank you marriage helper. I can fully relate to this video because so many people tell me you’re over and leave her and you will never change but I have never been so committed to changing me and working on my marriage in a smart way

    • @70Yeshua
      @70Yeshua Pƙed 5 lety +2

      Dillards Shopper you will be happy to know i didn’t cheat on my wife! Thank God . Me not taking my anger issue seriously pushed her to this point. And thank you for your kind words and please pray for this miracle of my marriage being saved

    • @brads6304
      @brads6304 Pƙed 4 lety +3

      I'm there but not seperated. I can only offer my own experience. I'm reading and have been growing so much in my understanding of how God designed us to do relationship, from the book: How To Stop The Pain by Dr. James Richardson. It is so helpful. Very instructive and it's helping me change. Me. Forget about the other person, they are truly not my problem, even though they do things that hurt. We all do. My reactions and how I handle myself and others has to change, and by God's help it finally is. Peace and much love to you and your precious family. In Christ Jesus forgiveness and mercy and rebirth for all. Amen.

    • @carlwilliams7028
      @carlwilliams7028 Pƙed 4 lety +3

      70yeshua i am in the same situation, married for ten years have some anger issues in the past but never beat her up or nothing like that, i am very ashamed of myself and the way i have been, i love her more than anything willing to do anything to sort this out but i will never give up and need to sort my anger out if it is to last forever which iam going to. You never relise how precious sumthing is untill theres a threat of it being snatched away i am in pieces.

    • @chantelsmith5441
      @chantelsmith5441 Pƙed 4 lety +4

      I'm in this position now I don't want to leave because I really love him but he gets angry easily for simple things n it scares me sometimes I know he loves me but idk what the problem it's like he refused to understand what I'm saying we argue all the time I just don't know what to do anymore I want to leave because I'm unhappy n I don't want to leave because he's a great person just his anger drives me nuts n I don't want to hurt him yet I'm hurting

    • @mile3018
      @mile3018 Pƙed 4 lety +2

      Ugh. I want to learn where the communication broke down; I'm guilty of the unresolved anger and 6mo separate.
      It's going around a lot it seems.

  • @jessecunard6544
    @jessecunard6544 Pƙed 5 lety +50

    Since she walked out it is now 2 months and I continue to work on myself and use PIES. Thanks to marriage helper I have found strength.

    • @mile3018
      @mile3018 Pƙed 4 lety +2

      That's basically all that got me through the first three months. Thinking about anything outside that inevitably slid(es) back to that pit. Six months now and still dying over this. Pies...

    • @andreytsatsulin5748
      @andreytsatsulin5748 Pƙed 4 lety

      Any updates?

    • @andreytsatsulin5748
      @andreytsatsulin5748 Pƙed 4 lety +2

      Mile30 any progress, I’ve rarely seen anyone actually succeeding been doing it for 5 months now

    • @jessecunard6544
      @jessecunard6544 Pƙed 4 lety +2

      @@andreytsatsulin5748 I am now divorced, I continue to try my best but sometimes fail yet I don't give up. I have gained peace of mind too and know I did absolutely everything and she did nothing to make it work

    • @andreytsatsulin5748
      @andreytsatsulin5748 Pƙed 4 lety

      Jesse Cunard yea man I have done literally everything. My wife and I are physically separated and no children. She told me she wants a divorce back in February and won’t respond to any of my messages I’ve stopped reaching out for any reason. I pray for hours a day, I have yet to see a success story with no children, physical separation and an intention by a wife to divorce

  • @christinar5893
    @christinar5893 Pƙed 4 lety +5

    I needed this 💚 I haven't stopped yet!

  • @natashakirk7506
    @natashakirk7506 Pƙed 4 lety +15

    This video is my lifeline, thank you Dr. Beam! I re-watch this every time I think of giving up. Your line in here about do what’s important to you is at the heart of my fight. Thank you and MH for everything you do!

  • @antoniobarros1979
    @antoniobarros1979 Pƙed 3 lety +30

    How to fight for someone when you feel constantly depressed and sad when you see this person?

    • @SherryTaylorReynolds
      @SherryTaylorReynolds Pƙed 3 lety +4

      You don't, you quit fighting.

    • @jerryanddiannedennison5644
      @jerryanddiannedennison5644 Pƙed rokem +2

      Depressed because of why? Unrequited love? Hang in there. Yes I know. Amen! Just last evening God worked a miracle for my spouse and me! Thank You my Father, God! Praise God!

    • @davidm4566
      @davidm4566 Pƙed rokem +1

      @@jerryanddiannedennison5644 praise God.
      You're right- God never gave up on our unrequited love for Him.

    • @mace2gorc872
      @mace2gorc872 Pƙed 10 měsĂ­ci

      Get some help, work on yourself to cope with these emotions so they don't get the best of u.

    • @mace2gorc872
      @mace2gorc872 Pƙed 10 měsĂ­ci

      Keep praying too that does work.

  • @bontlemaluleka8000
    @bontlemaluleka8000 Pƙed 2 lety +6

    Thank you, I choose to change my decision and be a fighter. Thank you for reminding me that the is still hope and I don't have to make the decision while am still angry.

  • @TheSPOONFED01
    @TheSPOONFED01 Pƙed 3 lety +5

    This speaks volumes to me right now!!! 💯

  • @abdullahshaikh.5042
    @abdullahshaikh.5042 Pƙed 4 lety +16

    Its Been 3 Years & Still i am Waiting for that Beautiful Day to Regain My Love to Hold My Wife in My Arms. Its Almost Finished Everything but still i believe in Allah (God) to Help Me And Bless my Family to Reunite for this Relationship.
    Please Let me know what have to do 🙏

  • @kiransharma7848
    @kiransharma7848 Pƙed 4 lety +5

    I'm 58 married and I am a warrior I'll fight for someone I love whose 76 and a widower thank u dr for sharing thisâ€đŸ˜˜

  • @mattschad6048
    @mattschad6048 Pƙed 2 lety +11

    My wife filed but I want to keep fighting. I know we can make it work. I truly love my wife!

  • @angelabrown4478
    @angelabrown4478 Pƙed 4 lety +50

    I’m going to need to listen to this everyday.

    • @andreytsatsulin5748
      @andreytsatsulin5748 Pƙed 4 lety +1

      Have you made any progress?

    • @maxreviews3418
      @maxreviews3418 Pƙed 4 lety +1

      Same im sorry

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    • @Eklectic_Afro
      @Eklectic_Afro Pƙed 2 lety

      Same....

  • @gloriatucker9796
    @gloriatucker9796 Pƙed 4 měsĂ­ci +1

    Let us pray that my spouse will agree to this.
    Im a fighter.

  • @abbitaleb76
    @abbitaleb76 Pƙed 5 lety +6

    I love how you can read my mind,
    Without ever having met

  • @colachance4118
    @colachance4118 Pƙed 3 lety +3

    He's talking directly to me..... I'm hurting so badly right now!!!! NO MATTER HOW HARD I TRY!!! Yes, it seems it does get WORSE!!!

  • @andrewbrown1051
    @andrewbrown1051 Pƙed 2 lety +7

    I am told over and over again to run for the hills. But I love her. I see her pain. I see her struggle. And I want to be there for her and help her to get through it. I took a vow. Not many people seem to respect those vows now a days. Thank you. I am fighting for my marriage and my family with everything I have.

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      @tracyspencer1674 Pƙed 2 lety

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    • @MarriageHelper
      @MarriageHelper  Pƙed rokem

      Thank you so much Andrew Brown. We truly appreciate your comment and are grateful to have you as part of our community here on CZcams. Thank you for being transparent and vulnerable with all of us! Please, don't hesitate to reach out to us if there's anything else we can do for you. marriagehelper.com/marriage-strategy-call/
      Blessings,

    • @davidm4566
      @davidm4566 Pƙed rokem

      Vows mean something. So many people have no honor and think that vows mean nothing.

    • @dreuaustin
      @dreuaustin Pƙed rokem

      100% exactly where I am at, Andrew. I hope whatever happened you found some peace and happiness.

  • @moniquejimenez5518
    @moniquejimenez5518 Pƙed 4 lety +2

    I needed this today.

  • @chantalkellyman4591
    @chantalkellyman4591 Pƙed 2 lety +2

    I was just about to give up when I saw this, thank you

  • @ingridaccount
    @ingridaccount Pƙed 3 lety +1

    So glad i found you. This is a dark moment in life. But you walked the walk.

  • @George-Aguilar
    @George-Aguilar Pƙed 4 lety +2

    Amazing motivational video!

  • @belindanalavwe8
    @belindanalavwe8 Pƙed 3 lety +2

    I needed this đŸ™â€

  • @zingasinsurance
    @zingasinsurance Pƙed 8 měsĂ­ci

    Thank you, needed this.

  • @charlenepatton4052
    @charlenepatton4052 Pƙed 4 lety +7

    Omgosh my husband is and has done everything is said Except for cheat. He said "I love you but I'm not in love with you" I have every single emotion that he has talked about. I wanna,fight but he doesn't. 😱

  • @nelmarlope3807
    @nelmarlope3807 Pƙed 4 lety +1

    I wanted to say thank you for this wonderf advice and encouragement.. I found new hope to save my and wanted to my wonderful wife...

  • @veeraljani
    @veeraljani Pƙed 2 lety

    Excellent and enlightening video

  • @lobsterface1175
    @lobsterface1175 Pƙed 5 lety +9

    Deep ache... what a great description :(

  • @sharathnb
    @sharathnb Pƙed 4 lety +1

    U r so good. Firstly when u feel sorry for the person who is hurt, that's exactly how a councillor shud be. Sadly a lot of therapists try to find out what mistakes of victim that pushed the other one into infidelity.. I know it's important, but first empathizing with Victim is so important

  • @user-ys8li2jw2m
    @user-ys8li2jw2m Pƙed 4 lety +16

    I've been married for 16 years and in a weeks time would be 17 years. We have been together for 24 years. 2 months ago I found out my wife was involved in an affair for about 2 years already and she moved out with my daughters to move in with the other man who himself is also married but going through a divorce. I love my wife dearly and am willing to fight but she says she has moved on and feels nothing for me. She has completely cut herself off from the rest of the family and friends, stopped working, given up everything to be with another man and I feel so hopeless yet I don't want to give up. I pray everyday for a change but don't know if I should just quit and give up because I am getting no encouragement from my wife or kids. What else can I do? My hope is fading.

    • @cappy5634
      @cappy5634 Pƙed 3 lety +4

      Married 15 together for 24 years so I feel you exactly. Very similar situation and I don't know what to do. We speak daily and I'm still showing my affection. I wish us both luck to our situations.

    • @jerryanddiannedennison5644
      @jerryanddiannedennison5644 Pƙed rokem +3

      Praying 🙏 for you and your family.

    • @analizamendiola762
      @analizamendiola762 Pƙed rokem +2

      Don't give up and keep on praying...I'm in the same situation and I'm keeping the faith that he will change

    • @shelli523
      @shelli523 Pƙed rokem +1

      I’m sorry Will! I pray she came back.

    • @shelli523
      @shelli523 Pƙed rokem +2

      @@analizamendiola762 We can talk because I’m in it now. But I don’t want to give up.

  • @graceconde7623
    @graceconde7623 Pƙed 4 lety +5

    Because of this video i can see a hope..i will fight for my marriage.

  • @PJHEATERMAN
    @PJHEATERMAN Pƙed rokem +1

    I had to at least try and save my marriage. If it didn't work out then that's on her.

  • @freechild1566
    @freechild1566 Pƙed 5 lety +9

    God bless you and I will always love you I respect your decision and remember I Always Forever

  • @mimik375
    @mimik375 Pƙed 5 lety +8

    This video is great!! It's my standing mantra. When I feel like giving up..this keeps me fighting.

  • @chrishendriks9291
    @chrishendriks9291 Pƙed 3 lety +4

    Please pray for help for me and my wife , I want help so badly I do not want to give up on my marriage

  • @MalcolmWong
    @MalcolmWong Pƙed 4 lety +1

    Thank you very much.. I do my best

  • @markcost547
    @markcost547 Pƙed 2 lety +4

    The first minute and a half described exactly what I'm feeling. I accept blame. I didn't listen. She told me what was wrong and I didn't listen. I'm praying hard that I'm not too late. I love her with all my heart and soul. I just want the chance to prove to her that I'm the good man she married

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      @reallove675 Pƙed 2 lety

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  • @WendySyron_10.
    @WendySyron_10. Pƙed 2 lety

    Great writing.

    • @MarriageHelper
      @MarriageHelper  Pƙed 2 lety

      Dr. Joe Beam actually films all of his videos off the cuff! He is just that great of a public speaker! But we appreciate the comment! Let us know if there's anything we can do to help you! ❀

  • @therealdjesom8861
    @therealdjesom8861 Pƙed 2 měsĂ­ci

    This is exactly the feelings I've had and have. I just want to get back to feeling okay inside. I'm definitely fighting in the feelings of hurt and hopefulness!!!!

  • @DaveMSippel
    @DaveMSippel Pƙed 3 lety +3

    This man has a great voice.

  • @jaivocals
    @jaivocals Pƙed 3 lety +6

    i feel like i want to die. this pain is unbearable. if anyone has any pointers on how i can save my marriage please oh god please let me know. i dont wish this pain on anyone. no one deserves to feel like this

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      @darciarernarr5447 Pƙed 3 lety

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    • @Lexilea68
      @Lexilea68 Pƙed 3 lety +4

      May God place upon you supernatural peace beyond your understanding and heal your relationship.

    • @ghhm2705
      @ghhm2705 Pƙed 3 lety +1

      James, there is hope in Christ. He has restored worse marriages than yours. There is power in His name.

  • @dontevergiveup4416
    @dontevergiveup4416 Pƙed 3 lety +3

    Hey doc, what if I have already fought all the fights I can and my spouse seems uninterested in fixing the issues. I feel like we both love eachother, but are both silently dissatisfied. What if im the only one putting in any work at all?

  • @mrindiha4325
    @mrindiha4325 Pƙed 2 lety +2

    I will fight for her till i get my wife back because I can't survive without my jaan

  • @caydewalker9449
    @caydewalker9449 Pƙed 3 lety +10

    My spouse divorced me while deployed. She’s still gone. I’m doing everything I can to fight for my marriage and my relationship. I’m still fighting. It is hard. These videos have helped me and I keep hope and I keep doing what I can for my family. She gets home in a week or two and I will never give up on her.

    • @Lexilea68
      @Lexilea68 Pƙed 3 lety +1

      Read Scripture on God's commands against divorce. Tell her you want to be the man she needs.

    • @ConceptHut
      @ConceptHut Pƙed 2 lety

      Update?

    • @caydewalker9449
      @caydewalker9449 Pƙed 2 lety +2

      Yeah
. Should’ve given up, still pending divorce and lost custody after being a single parent for a year because I had a job.
      Sadly this stuff does work and speaks true. And there are some people, even loved ones, who have nothing good in their hearts.

    • @davidm4566
      @davidm4566 Pƙed rokem

      @@Lexilea68 unfortunately many women make up their minds and that's it.
      We can turn to God and work on ourselves but can't convince them. Leave that to the Holy Spirit.

    • @S10Blazen
      @S10Blazen Pƙed rokem

      Don't waste your time fighting for it, It's dead she more than likely cheated on you trust me it's female nature.

  • @makhrr30
    @makhrr30 Pƙed 3 lety +1

    Marriage helper helped me a lot..

  • @michellemwilliams8264
    @michellemwilliams8264 Pƙed 2 lety +2

    Sometimes divorce is like just replacing on set of problem s for another....the bible says that there is only one ground for divorce adultery.....but it also says if one can forgive the error it something beautiful.....

  • @steveh1289
    @steveh1289 Pƙed 3 lety +6

    Sir I can't tell enough how much this video resonates with me and how much I needed to hear it. Thank you so much.

    • @faithwoss8294
      @faithwoss8294 Pƙed 3 lety

      Never give up on your marriage especially when children are involved.

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      @faithwoss8294 Pƙed 3 lety

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  • @hooyahzero1987
    @hooyahzero1987 Pƙed 5 lety +4

    This is simply a 10 mins advertising, don't waste your time

  • @mamanene5557
    @mamanene5557 Pƙed 4 lety

    New subscribed to your channel 😍

  • @Seven.And.The.RaggedTiger
    @Seven.And.The.RaggedTiger Pƙed 3 lety +10

    I'm here now.. after 26yrs,I've never been soo hurt on a day after day basis.. its painful to the point I won't say things I sit here and think.. but something inside keeps telling me "don't give up,she's going through a phase" but im being destroyed inside,i dont know who I'll become after

    • @carolhouston4071
      @carolhouston4071 Pƙed rokem

      Am in same boat

    • @Seven.And.The.RaggedTiger
      @Seven.And.The.RaggedTiger Pƙed rokem +1

      @@carolhouston4071 I am sooo sorry you have to go through this.. I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy

    • @frankjdm4636
      @frankjdm4636 Pƙed rokem

      How did it go? Its been 2years since your comment I hope you never gave up and got her back

    • @Seven.And.The.RaggedTiger
      @Seven.And.The.RaggedTiger Pƙed rokem

      @@frankjdm4636 I replied to Carol in above posts..
      Update is in there also

    • @frankjdm4636
      @frankjdm4636 Pƙed rokem

      @@Seven.And.The.RaggedTiger sorry don't see any comments was just wondering how possible it was I've been on track for almost 2months and she is starting to act very warm with me now but still no intimacy yet

  • @angelamaro3480
    @angelamaro3480 Pƙed 3 lety +5

    I've been called selfish by my fiance for wanting to keep our union together. I love her and we have a young daughter together. I rarely see them and I'm told I'm controlling for wanting to get back together and remain a family. It hurts so much when she tells me that she doesn't want me anymore but I'm using SMART contact and working on my PIES. I come back to this video every single day to maintain my strength.

    • @chrisharris2367
      @chrisharris2367 Pƙed 2 lety

      Are you controlling? Do you try to tell her what to do?

    • @angelamaro3480
      @angelamaro3480 Pƙed 2 lety +1

      @@chrisharris2367 nope. I gave her all the freedom she needed as far as not telling her what to do. Never told her to cook or clean. I think she was projecting her own negatife personality traits on to me to make me the enemy and justify her reason to leave.

  • @nicoleroseberry7951
    @nicoleroseberry7951 Pƙed 2 lety

    I am a fighter! I fight alongside my Lord for I know that scripture says, “Let no man separate what He has joined together”.

  • @DanielleBraiden
    @DanielleBraiden Pƙed 4 lety +1

    100 percent agree!!😊

  • @robc3887
    @robc3887 Pƙed 2 lety +1

    I won’t give up on her, she means the world to me


  • @ronaldvanengen1887
    @ronaldvanengen1887 Pƙed 8 měsĂ­ci +1

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  • @jelloonthego
    @jelloonthego Pƙed 5 lety +9

    Amen fight for your marriage. I'm using smart contact and pies are working out great for me. Right now it's all about me and getting through this.

    • @theshield1613
      @theshield1613 Pƙed 5 lety +1

      how do you use smart contact

    • @mskathryn32
      @mskathryn32 Pƙed 4 lety +1

      @Dillards Shopper in a situation where you are living together but 'separated' under the same roof. No kids. I want to save my relationship. What do I do. How do I apply the pies? I'm determined to save my relationship

    • @mskathryn32
      @mskathryn32 Pƙed 4 lety +1

      @Dillards Shopper is there a more private platform I can reach you on?

    • @mskathryn32
      @mskathryn32 Pƙed 4 lety +1

      @Dillards Shopper we don't talk much. Hell only talk when I talk to him. The much he will say is hi and bye. We used to hug and kiss goodbye when he is leaving, then reduced to hug when thinks got shaky, then now it's nothing. No hug no kiss.

    • @mskathryn32
      @mskathryn32 Pƙed 4 lety +1

      @Dillards Shopper no there was no infidelity. And he ain't seeing anyone. It was more of control issues. I always wanted things my way. Plus I think I listen alot to people whose advices threw me off the cliff. My actions towards small differences hurt him. He is a cool composed guy but heck he too is human. So I think they pilled up, until he couldn't take it no more. During the time of my drama he was composed and still loved me. So after he couldn't take it any more he was like 'I've given up on relationships'. Even now as I plan to move out he is concern of where I'll be going to stay. He is still caring but he says he has given up completely on relationships and doesn't see himself going back😭. I've learnt my mistakes and I wanna appreciate him more. He is so broken

  • @00Kath
    @00Kath Pƙed 2 lety +6

    When there is abuse including emotional and physical abuse you need to walk away and not tolerate that. Boundaries and self respect are paramount. Working on a marriage is fine but putting up with any type of abuse is not.

    • @MarriageHelper
      @MarriageHelper  Pƙed rokem

      Our FIRST Rule is to GET SAFE FIRST! If you are experiencing some sort of abuse, we tell you to get safe, and once both parties are safe, an are WILLING to work on the marriage, THEN you can start to try to reconcile. But GET SAFE FIRST.

  • @tonyg9519
    @tonyg9519 Pƙed rokem +1

    The thing about help is, both parties gotta want it or else no help works! Very unfortunate!

  • @jackbl64
    @jackbl64 Pƙed rokem +1

    How do you deal with the pain while you work on saving it?

  • @freddavidson286
    @freddavidson286 Pƙed 25 dny

    My wife of 43 years left its been very hard i will always love her and wish nothing but the best for her

  • @chicabebeh2135
    @chicabebeh2135 Pƙed 3 lety +1

    This is always I’m asking by the way I order from marriage helper that PIES I hope it helps myself to hope and progress

  • @lalitasingh8043
    @lalitasingh8043 Pƙed 3 lety

    Thank you for your advice

  • @gregorynyamas1234
    @gregorynyamas1234 Pƙed 4 lety +3

    thanks..... personally its painfully to loose or discover that your wife or husband, is having affairs, outside marriage, it's unbelievable. thanks for advise.Gregory penn

  • @pumkinlove6056
    @pumkinlove6056 Pƙed 4 lety +10

    Hope. Faith. Is all I have for my marriage. My husband is telling me to wait he will come home when he's ready. I don't know how to take it. But I wait patiently. Even tho it's defiling at times. Its very satisfying at the same time cuz I know I'm being a good woman. If he doesn't appreciate it now. He will one day and know what real love is. Some pole don't know how to love.

    • @angelorivera4187
      @angelorivera4187 Pƙed 3 lety +1

      Your a good women..

    • @shireenaricksamy2858
      @shireenaricksamy2858 Pƙed 3 lety +1

      I’m in the same position. After 26 years he left without any discussion and it’s been 8 months since my Counsellor advised divorce. He’s been cheating for years and I was blind to it as all I did was work and work some more to keep our dream alive and for our children and our family. I don’t want to give up but can’t hold onto hope if there isn’t any. It has shattered me.

    • @blessed7fold
      @blessed7fold Pƙed 2 lety

      Pumpkin Love where are things now with your marriage?

  • @balotpinoy3428
    @balotpinoy3428 Pƙed 3 lety

    Thank you for this video,I will never give up.I love too much my husband.

  • @skitzld3386
    @skitzld3386 Pƙed 4 lety +2

    Fighting to save my marriage

  • @lizwhite396
    @lizwhite396 Pƙed 4 lety +2

    Thank you for this. I am fighting 👍

  • @lillyofthevalley208
    @lillyofthevalley208 Pƙed 4 lety +2

    You are a very wise man. God bless you for it! I hate seeing families fall apart. I love the thought of restoring family. We should build on relationships.

  • @lincolnearnest8910
    @lincolnearnest8910 Pƙed rokem +3

    How does one fight for something that nobody wants him to have? How do you hope everyday, just to have your dreams crushed by the person you care the most for? How do you hold on, praying for something when all everyone does is try to sabotage it, and ruin things for you? It makes it very, very, very hard.

  • @chantelsmith10
    @chantelsmith10 Pƙed 4 lety +2

    What if your not married do you walk away i need help i honestly dont know what to do

  • @ossiet2797
    @ossiet2797 Pƙed 3 lety +4

    )-; praying marriages get restored this 2020

  • @dimpol335
    @dimpol335 Pƙed 3 lety +1

    You knows exactly how I feel 😌đŸ˜Ș

  • @kathywebb6536
    @kathywebb6536 Pƙed 4 lety +7

    Dr. How do I fight? We’ve been together 25 years and I’m sure my husband has Limerence behavior, within two weeks he leaves everything we have built over the years. Without pestering him and pushing me farther away from him? I love him to my core and want him back so much. He left me two months ago and went back to California to be with her. I want to fight for him. She is married as well and left her husband as well.
    How do I fight?

    • @cynthiaoffor7918
      @cynthiaoffor7918 Pƙed 2 lety +1

      Do you believe in prayers? Fight with prayers and the scriptures.

  • @rshunter9155
    @rshunter9155 Pƙed 2 měsĂ­ci

    My wife and I have been separated for nearly 2yrs. In Dec. of 2023 she filed for divorce. I really didn’t act on it but I guess I hadn’t hit rock bottom until about 6wks ago. God placed His hand on me and a light was switched on! I’m gonna fight for my wife even if she has checked out. My vows were real and I meant every word. I may have forgotten that for a moment, but God reminded me of what they meant. I love you Darcy! I will fight for you!

  • @hrhjustin8374
    @hrhjustin8374 Pƙed 3 lety +2

    I'm in a situation but I am on deployment. She said she wants to separate never said divorce never said I don't love you. But I am halfway around the world I am powerless to stop this. She says she doesn't want anything and still wants to be co parents. I need help our marriage needs help. It doesn't deserve this. My son doesn't deserve this.

    • @ghhm2705
      @ghhm2705 Pƙed 3 lety

      @@roseroman1863 🚹fraud alert🚹

  • @mikenwr
    @mikenwr Pƙed 5 lety +7

    i am so frustrated. this sounds like me and i have been fighting for 6 years. she wants out around once a year. 2 kids. i fight and fight and fight. and i have won and we are happy for it . but this time looks bleak.

    • @davidjackson3547
      @davidjackson3547 Pƙed 4 lety +6

      Mike Montague there’s a root that needs to be dug up!! Ask God to get to the root!

    • @Whitearrow01
      @Whitearrow01 Pƙed 4 lety +4

      @@davidjackson3547 preach brother. when you ask that God dig up roots just be prepared cause pulling roots and such is painful work.

  • @farhanasarmin3286
    @farhanasarmin3286 Pƙed 4 lety +3

    Thank you. I will fight. I know how much I love him and the cause behind his reaction to me.

  • @anju04aa
    @anju04aa Pƙed rokem

    Your video is assuring..

  • @garciasschevy
    @garciasschevy Pƙed 18 dny

    How can I get in contact with yall guys?

  • @nevales
    @nevales Pƙed 3 lety

    Not knowing why and over is harshier than agonizing. Torment it is, everytime i think of her as long as long as i live. I fought a hopeless battle whilst she's always defending and or on the devious other side. Distance matter.