#1 Weird Way to Get Him Back (or Get Over Him Faster) - Matthew Hussey, Get The Guy

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  • @taygreen5686
    @taygreen5686 Před 5 lety +10270

    I just want to understand how they fall out of love so fast while we’re left hurting & crying all the time ...

    • @abeer3686
      @abeer3686 Před 4 lety +56

      Is everything okay now ?!

    • @taygreen5686
      @taygreen5686 Před 4 lety +51

      @@alphagideon6973 thank you love i didn't know you responded to my comment

    • @taygreen5686
      @taygreen5686 Před 4 lety +98

      @@abeer3686 no it's not it's worse than ever

    • @taygreen5686
      @taygreen5686 Před 4 lety +9

      @@abeer3686 I posted a video just venting about it i guess

    • @taygreen5686
      @taygreen5686 Před 4 lety +5

      @@alphagideon6973 did you have to pay him for his help ?

  • @pizzapreet2422
    @pizzapreet2422 Před 5 lety +3351

    All the hopes.. All the dreams.. All the promises.. Everything flashing around inside your head. It hurts cause it's all gone.

    • @miadesima8454
      @miadesima8454 Před 5 lety +7

      Right

    • @MARIECHANYT
      @MARIECHANYT Před 5 lety +12

      its hurt a lot 😭

    • @subconsciousmind1907
      @subconsciousmind1907 Před 4 lety +1

      In 4 dayes only
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    • @heyitsana2964
      @heyitsana2964 Před 4 lety +6

      subconscious mind actually idk..... bc I kinda want him back but doing this I would look crazy and he is happy now !! He calls me weirdo and annoying af yeah it’s impossible now

    • @elizabeththompson9658
      @elizabeththompson9658 Před 4 lety

      @@heyitsana2964 hello everyone is there any one who want his or her ex back write a massage to father spiritual +2347054894902

  • @MsThebeMoon
    @MsThebeMoon Před 3 lety +1401

    If he isn't thinking about how he's getting ME back, there's no reason for me think about getting him back.

    • @favourglory6447
      @favourglory6447 Před 3 lety

      Hello Thebe, I'm very sure that the great man who helped me get my husband back to me after separation can also help you

    • @favourglory6447
      @favourglory6447 Před 3 lety +1

      😍😍😍😍Text him on whatsapp😍😍😍

    • @favourglory6447
      @favourglory6447 Před 3 lety

      +234,811,913,2200.

    • @jeffsbarton6557
      @jeffsbarton6557 Před 3 lety

      I know of a man who can get your ex back
      Text him on whtzapp_+2348115671212

    • @gaby_xo907
      @gaby_xo907 Před 3 lety +6

      True..but how can you know what he is thinking except if you are a mind reader🙂

  • @Yolobolocolo
    @Yolobolocolo Před 6 měsíci +46

    I never thought I would lose this person. I felt so much pain. And it feels like he doesn’t even care about me.

  • @NeonBloodyMary94
    @NeonBloodyMary94 Před 6 lety +3282

    Don't write the letter. You owe them nothing more. Leave them in the dark like they left you.

    • @SUwayoo
      @SUwayoo Před 6 lety +162

      You're not supposed to give/send them the letter. It's something you do for yourself, to let it all out and let go of the emotions. It actually kind of helps

    • @barbarariley3488
      @barbarariley3488 Před 5 lety +19

      Judas Yes writing.my feelings out helps. I keep a journal.

    • @mioyui4831
      @mioyui4831 Před 5 lety +10

      NeonBloodyMary94 i'm about to write a letter to him. 😔

    • @goutamighosh1396
      @goutamighosh1396 Před 5 lety +3

      Exactly...NeonBloodyMary94 if he doesn't want anything to do u...why wud u chase dem???

    • @taay_thegreat2057
      @taay_thegreat2057 Před 5 lety +1

      Amen sister

  • @karenelizabeth7534
    @karenelizabeth7534 Před 5 lety +3432

    I'm too scared that if I break all contact he wont ever reach out again. But maybe that would be for the better. I find that talking to him, when I do, I'm in this extremely happy mood and I cant stop smiling, but then afterwards when he's no longer talking to me, I feel miserable. It's feeling of low self worth that no one deserves to ever feel

    • @DavidnTenesha
      @DavidnTenesha Před 5 lety +325

      It is the problem we think they will leave or wont talk to us if we are doing the no contact.
      "People always want what they cant have"
      If u wont talk and starting working on yourself... Believe me they will comeback, and if not... Lucky you
      . you evolved yourself and became a better you:)

    • @alexismattox6952
      @alexismattox6952 Před 5 lety +29

      :( I feel the same

    • @keithcuarteros9844
      @keithcuarteros9844 Před 5 lety +76

      Same here... But then it was clear he was giving up on us. So I "walked away". The reasons for the breakup was complicated. We were long distance and his Indian family wanted nothing to do with me. So he gave into the pressure of his family's plan to arrange his marriage 💔 I still care about him and in my mind I understand the situation. But my heart hurts because I wasn't good enough for him to fight for us. I want to reach out and still be his friend but I know that's just for the "high" I know I'll end up crashing when he "seen zones" me. It's so hard to let go 💔

    • @keeganbarclay7990
      @keeganbarclay7990 Před 5 lety +29

      i’m going through the same thing and what i feel works for me is to wait if i can, don’t message him even if i’m feeling down about us not talking, try things that will take your mind off texting him, watch fun videos or speak to someone who makes you laugh i find it better to wait until he texts me if he does therefore i know he genuinely wants to talk to me and i feel less on edge during the conversation if he doesn’t message you and feel like you desperately need to text him or want to check up on him i don’t think you should fight that or at least i don’t if it’s what you feel like u need to do. it’s always going to be hard to break that habit so just do it one step at a time, only speak when u desperately need to- this is all what worked for me with the situation i’m in with my ex x

    • @briarrose5360
      @briarrose5360 Před 5 lety +69

      I can relate to this. My boyfriend broke up with me yesterday over text message. We had been dating for over a year and I thought he was so special. I know that I deserve so much better, for the last months he did not treat me well even though I did nothing but love him. He told me that he didn’t love me anymore and even though I saw it coming it was still a shock. We’ve been talking and it makes me feel better like the breakup never happened and I want to move on and cut him off but I’m scared that he’ll never reach out again and there’s a big part of me that wants him to change his mind and regret it.

  • @beinguniqueisbeingu
    @beinguniqueisbeingu Před 2 lety +392

    I hate how emotionally dependent I am on him.

    • @estherraymond174
      @estherraymond174 Před 2 lety +1

      Hi, I recommend you to (Dr Steve). He can make your ex come back to you begging you for a second chance, ever since he helped me, I have b e e n enjoying a perfect Relationship with my ex. I will advice you seek his help thanks.

    • @estherraymond174
      @estherraymond174 Před 2 lety

      Send him a message on Whatsapp

    • @estherraymond174
      @estherraymond174 Před 2 lety

      +2347030894892.

    • @estherraymond174
      @estherraymond174 Před 2 lety

      +2347030894892🙏🏾 🙏🏾

    • @judithjulie4267
      @judithjulie4267 Před 2 lety

      Hello lovely I can Introduce you to the same powerful relationship restorer who helped me recover back my ex. He can also help you to get back with yours with much love .

  • @ms8211
    @ms8211 Před 3 lety +17

    After 23 days of no contact, she reached out to me today. The worst 23 days of my life, lost my job and 15lb. I decided not to answer her and continue my healing process. It is hard and tough, but you can do it. Every time I wanted to break the no contact rule, I watched this video and I told myself to just survive for today and don't think about tomorrow. Anyone who is going through a breakup now, I know you are in a great pain but you can do it and remember tomorrow will be better. Stay Strong.

  • @agee7777
    @agee7777 Před 5 lety +1819

    every day that goes by, you think of them less. distract and improve yourself.

    • @corrines4270
      @corrines4270 Před 4 lety +35

      I’m sorry but this isn’t entirely true. I thought time would “heal all wounds” but it’s been over a month and I still think of him everyday, if not more and more.

    • @sweetietorus87
      @sweetietorus87 Před 4 lety +1

      That's right

    • @sweetietorus87
      @sweetietorus87 Před 4 lety +6

      U have to focus you yourself and cut ties with them. When u do that u just feel stronger and u get your power back. It took alot of strength from God but I said enough and got to the point when I said I'm done and I have been. I hang out with friends, I go out, I'm looking into new things etc. When u do that you realize your worth.

    • @westcoastbred7745
      @westcoastbred7745 Před 4 lety +3

      Great advice and yes it's hard but it works. I threw myself into work and my kids. I'm actually pissed this person wasted my valuable time of 3yrs

    • @loveyouuu5092
      @loveyouuu5092 Před 4 lety +2

      @Adam G until he comes back and you answer him thinking your finally strong enough to not fall for him again but instead he does everything all over again and the cycle repeats and your left there not knowing how to stop it 😔

  • @maddyharvey7414
    @maddyharvey7414 Před 7 lety +3324

    To everyone watching. This is 100% the truth. I cut my ex out because I wasn't going to be his friend while desperately hoping for something more. I never wanted him back...I wanted to get over him and forget. But months later he came back...and is more reliable then ever. Funny thing is...I realized I deserve better and I no longer want to date him.

    • @reemhosam6061
      @reemhosam6061 Před 7 lety +207

      Maddy Harvey My ex texted me a few hours ago after 3 months of no contact, luckily I have come to that same realization of yours. I don't ever want him back, and even thinking of blocking him everywhere on social media so I can have a smooth moving on process. I had to comment on this because I could relate to it on a great level, I hope you find someone great for you girl 💓

    • @drsabahat1
      @drsabahat1 Před 7 lety +49

      Maddy Harvey happened to me the same. seriously...i also felt i needed someone better than him n i actually found one. so no more dating my love!

    • @khadijasistar
      @khadijasistar Před 7 lety +24

      waw I hope to be like you one day
      bravooo !!

    • @veero8130
      @veero8130 Před 7 lety +12

      Maddy Harvey good for you :) hope you ll meet your True Love soon

    • @khadijasistar
      @khadijasistar Před 7 lety +3

      thank you so sweet from you Hope so :)))

  • @Toralynne_TV
    @Toralynne_TV Před 3 lety +230

    Just passed day 5. Every day has been excruciating... but I know I have to carry on and this video just re-enforced that feeling... thank you.

  • @michellemeuleman385
    @michellemeuleman385 Před 3 lety +59

    Worse part is the withdrawal feelings. The panic and anxiety that goes with it. And yes I am addicted to him. And yes I know that’s not healthy. But it’s an human emotion we all have to get over .. and only time can help.

    • @AndreaGomez-nv4dq
      @AndreaGomez-nv4dq Před 2 lety

      Hi get help from The relationship restorer Dr Steve who helped me to reunite back with my ex... He can make your ex come back to you begging you for a second chance, ever since he helped me get to back with my ex I have been enjoying a happy and a peaceful relationship with him. I will advise you seek out his help thanks....

    • @AndreaGomez-nv4dq
      @AndreaGomez-nv4dq Před 2 lety

      Send him a text message on Whatsapp 💓

    • @AndreaGomez-nv4dq
      @AndreaGomez-nv4dq Před 2 lety

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    • @AndreaGomez-nv4dq
      @AndreaGomez-nv4dq Před 2 lety

      Send him a text message on Whatsapp 💓

    • @michellemeuleman385
      @michellemeuleman385 Před 2 lety +1

      @@AndreaGomez-nv4dq don’t have that app. And what is so special about that app. I don’t get it. We chat on phone , the good old fashioned ways

  • @honeyvee2158
    @honeyvee2158 Před 4 lety +3528

    This is absolutely true and something I've tried teaching my girls.
    Whenever I've had A break up, I immediately get into NO CONTACT mode and EVERY. SINGLE. TIME they come back. Problem is, when they do, I no longer want them. If you're leaving, you need to STAY gone because there's no going back on my part.
    7.5 billion people on this earth... nobody has time to be crying over some fool that does not recognize your worth! 7.5 billion people... Remember that!

  • @ssjdjshsjsj1913
    @ssjdjshsjsj1913 Před 5 lety +1580

    funny how forever lasts about 4 months

    • @DrNiloufarhayath
      @DrNiloufarhayath Před 5 lety +14

      zara hates you 2 months ? Lol

    • @subconsciousmind1907
      @subconsciousmind1907 Před 4 lety +5

      *I can bring her or he back to you*
      *I can make her or he thinking about u all day and night*
      *In 4 dayes only*
      *By subconscious mind and angels*
      *I can make him or her love u as his soul*
      *Very powerful*
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      *Tel : 00201008882131* *or 0020100882131*

    • @ssjdjshsjsj1913
      @ssjdjshsjsj1913 Před 4 lety +13

      subconscious mind no

    • @karthikaray5627
      @karthikaray5627 Před 4 lety +1

      subconscious mind how ?? Is dat possible

    • @subconsciousmind1907
      @subconsciousmind1907 Před 4 lety

      @@karthikaray5627 contact me at tell or whatssaap : 00201008882131

  • @NanciaRueben
    @NanciaRueben Před 3 lety +85

    I’m starting it today, this afternoon! I am moving on this time, forever. Sitting in my office and feeling the feels today. It’s going to be okay.

    • @comfortekong9129
      @comfortekong9129 Před 3 lety

      Hello I tried no contact numerous times and it didn't work for me until I met this great man, his name is Doctor oko's who helped ME restore my ex husband back to me few days ago after 12 months of breakup

    • @comfortekong9129
      @comfortekong9129 Před 3 lety

      You can text the love specialist
      on Whatsap if you truly need
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    • @comfortekong9129
      @comfortekong9129 Před 3 lety

      +1( 6 2 3 ) 2 5 0 3 9 6 6

    • @lovelynpeterson5601
      @lovelynpeterson5601 Před 3 lety

      I pray the Universe grant your heart desires with more love and commitment from your ||Ex|| through the help of the same Great and Powerful man •Dr Steve• who helped me restored my Broken Home. He can make your |ex| beg you for a second chance. I will advise you seek out his help thanks...)

    • @lovelynpeterson5601
      @lovelynpeterson5601 Před 3 lety

      Send him a message on Whatsapp 💕

  • @tommartin1870
    @tommartin1870 Před 3 lety +50

    The best way is to never have any contact with the person ever again... Just move on and think of yourself

  • @ashwildee
    @ashwildee Před 5 lety +2442

    i’m really sad, crying, watching this. i really miss him and our story is quite long but i just wish he’d come back home. i’m falling apart and he doesn’t care. he’s just mean to me. i wish i didn’t feel anything anymore

    • @kathydobney6549
      @kathydobney6549 Před 5 lety +79

      Let him go. No contact works!

    • @dominickw4363
      @dominickw4363 Před 5 lety +108

      You got this! I'm going through the same thing. We don't need the people who neglect us. Takes time to understand...

    • @billcarsonasmr5022
      @billcarsonasmr5022 Před 5 lety +4

      Ashkey wilde .. im moroccan

    • @alexandracadena8567
      @alexandracadena8567 Před 5 lety +37

      I’m with you...mines is mean to me and doesn’t care either...it’s hard letting go

    • @potteryasmina4673
      @potteryasmina4673 Před 5 lety +44

      Same with me.. I don't understand those people... you give him love and he treats you so bad... why !? Dude nowadays you cant find someone to love you truly..and when u find that person so keep that person safe and love her even more....

  • @robdandapani9303
    @robdandapani9303 Před 5 lety +1734

    Unrequited love is the worst kind of rejection. It feels like I'm dying. No appetite for food, no sleep, stomach feels full all the time, all I can think of is the beautiful memories. Please help.

    • @halloweenteen116
      @halloweenteen116 Před 5 lety +55

      I'm in the same boat, and looks like it started about the same time as you. So unfortunately I don't really have any advice for you other than *not* to contact him, like Matthew said. I already did, promising to do better and asking to get back together, and I'm sure it just made matters worse in his mind. He blocked me on social media before I really said anything, so it's not like I was harassing him to cause that. I left him a voice-mail since he blocked my number too, and leaving that message is how I pleaded with him. I left that same message in our dating app chat, and then he left the chat room. There are other platforms I could contact him on, but I won't. I made it clear in my last message that he wouldn't be hearing from me again if he didn't want to. I acknowledged his feelings, promised to do better (even though I didn't realize I did anything wrong) and said I knew after that I would have done everything I could. So since he ignored those I'll have to be moving forward, as much as it hurts. The relationship was very brief, but we quickly learned almost everything about each other, and had SO much in common, and seemed to connect very deeply. I thought I had found my soulmate, although what I told him was that he was the most amazing guy I'd ever met, and he said he'd never felt this way about anyone. I really would give anything to turn back time, I just wish I knew where I could have done better..

    • @Mammatin007
      @Mammatin007 Před 5 lety +7

      Same

    • @vlashe24
      @vlashe24 Před 5 lety +45

      How long since the break up? I also react to stress like that and 7 yrs ago I had the worst break up, with someone I considered to be the love of my life. I litteraly needed 2 and a half years to ever think of a relationship with someone, i barely had a desire to see a man. It affected my health and I am still trying to fix the health issue i got afterwards. So take care of yourself. It is hard, but believe me, you'll feel strong and happy again, unfortunatelly the process is not easy. I am also going through another break up now, but I already had my big break up in life so kinda know I'll be alright... It hurts but I can handle it. And I am on my 18 days no contact... I have ups and downs but i try to control the pain when it comes. I have mixed feelings and i am mostly doing the no contact for myself. I am going through the most difficult period of my life, with mum cancer patient, my work, my master thesis... I dont need a selfish asshole in my life, that has no basic human sense and makes me feel worse during difficult time. Stay strong and focus on things that make you feel good... Make a change :)

    • @ltaurus2105
      @ltaurus2105 Před 5 lety +54

      You will be alright....the only thing that heals hearts is time....give it time...there's a movie called Swingers...waTch it....there's a scene in there where a guy tells his heartbroken friend how he'll get over it...He tells him, "it hurts everyday, hurts alittle less everyday, then one day you wake up and it doesnt hurt at all..."...trust me, you'll get over it...stay strong...

    • @umangagga
      @umangagga Před 5 lety +22

      @@halloweenteen116 that's my story. Gave this guy everything, deepest love and affection, and still ended up hurting. That's what's miserable, knowing you have loved the most love and yet got blamed.

  • @QueenQueenly
    @QueenQueenly Před 3 lety +86

    The addiction is so damn real. The withdrawal is so horrible. He deserves to suffer

  • @ananigma7
    @ananigma7 Před 9 měsíci +7

    Literally sobbed watching this because it feels like you were talking right to my heart. Thank you for guiding through the next step of this agonising journey 💔😔

  • @wesercole
    @wesercole Před 7 lety +651

    In short: the less you want them the more they want you

    • @manypathammavong
      @manypathammavong Před 6 lety +8

      A girl has no name so trueeeeee

    • @catherinesdiary2928
      @catherinesdiary2928 Před 6 lety +48

      In indeed every man has such low self esteem. The more you love the faster they leave. If you treat them the worst they love as they think they deserve that. Girls, we should be strong. The lesson learnt. No matter what relationship we are in, just focus on ourselves and our own love. Never need to say to man i love you. Leave all this stuck done by them. We are princess. We deserve the best. We are so strong every moment. Any weaknesses from man cant hurt us. If he leave let them go. The best man now can come in. If they stay, treat them the worst for whole life. You will amaze how good thing unfold to you in whole life. All in all, man is all weak guys. If you are stronger than them, they can never hurt you but respect you! The real love will stay even you treat them the worst

    • @kadianbrown4007
      @kadianbrown4007 Před 6 lety +1

      So true 💯

    • @beatv4942
      @beatv4942 Před 6 lety +17

      A girl has no name but why is it like that? I don’t understand what’s happening to the world? If you show how much you love a person wholeheartedly it’s not a weakness it’s actually a strength coz not all people can do that. But why I felt like it’s only been taken for granted all the time. for all failed relationships I’ve been through, I always ask myself, am I not pretty enough? Did I show my love too much? Am I not deserving to loved the way I showed it? Am I not worth fighting for? 😢💔

    • @alyascarden5624
      @alyascarden5624 Před 6 lety +1

      A girl has no name
      OMG. THAT IS A GREAT IDEA. THANK U SO MUCH. ILYSM😵😵
      SORRY😁 IM OVER REACTING😂😑😂 IT IS JUST THAT IM SO HAPPY

  • @magdatweet
    @magdatweet Před 7 lety +1713

    Perfect time for this... I miss him so much, and I want him back but I am keeping my distance from him. If you love someone, let him go. If he comes back he's yours, if not he never was.

    • @jasminepark5554
      @jasminepark5554 Před 7 lety +53

      maggie Villanueva i believe it's real if they never left.

    • @JCFrigid
      @JCFrigid Před 7 lety +30

      Jasmine Park You need to rethink your belief system :)

    • @legslipsandlashes9831
      @legslipsandlashes9831 Před 7 lety +73

      Jasmine Park Not really. Some people stay to use and manipulate you.

    • @WDLDrider
      @WDLDrider Před 7 lety +14

      I'm on the other end of this. I broke it off with my Ex over a week ago. She does not make time for me to meet her family. And i dont feel valued. Waiting and in pain

    • @DianeCrystal
      @DianeCrystal Před 7 lety +2

      maggie Villanueva me too😭👏 but so true

  • @jahwiadventures
    @jahwiadventures Před 2 lety +54

    Had me crying at “ but I’m with you” 🙏🏽❤️

  • @Alyssanonii
    @Alyssanonii Před 2 lety +18

    I'm going through a separation/
    divorce right now & this video really made me feel better. Thank you!

  • @ryna176
    @ryna176 Před 5 lety +640

    my boyfriend said he fell out of love with me a few days ago and honestly i dont miss him, its the memories and having THAT person in my life i will miss

    • @annysaandrews7447
      @annysaandrews7447 Před 3 lety +11

      yesss mine was let’s just say toxic but the memories is what’s killing me

    • @lush1276
      @lush1276 Před 3 lety +2

      The saddest part is the memories uve left with

    • @Randomperson-up4yl
      @Randomperson-up4yl Před 3 lety +1

      Same How are you feeling now ?

    • @richgaard8438
      @richgaard8438 Před 2 lety

      I can recommend you to a man who helped me to get my ex back to me 48hours

    • @richgaard8438
      @richgaard8438 Před 2 lety

      Hello it's works I can't believe am with my lover again contact him

  • @JessicaHeartsMakeup
    @JessicaHeartsMakeup Před 7 lety +777

    When I was single or heart broken I spent so much time trying to convince guys that I was perfect for them, chasing guys, and wondering on how to get him to commit to me. I wish someone could have told me "He's just not that into you." It would have saved me so much pain. I'm now in a relationship with an amazing guy who loves me and for the first time I'm not insecure in our relationship, he's everything I've ever wanted. We're getting married in September💕Ladies please set your standards high and wait on the guy who puts you on a pedestal and treats you like the princess you are. Don't waist your time on a guy who's just not that into you. You'll never have to make any excuses for your soulmate, he's going to be everything you've ever wanted and so much more💜💍

    • @CiNdyO3
      @CiNdyO3 Před 7 lety +18

      Congrats!! I am happy for you! Story's like yours make me so happy and give me that extra strength to move on from a guy who didn't treat me the way I deserved to be treated. Thank you for sharing! (:

    • @JCFrigid
      @JCFrigid Před 7 lety +4

      Jessica Trasvina Prince charming is a pretty cool guy, but he's not interested in a 40-year old couch potato. Make yourself worth his time without making yourself into his toy.

    • @sabsays4091
      @sabsays4091 Před 7 lety +5

      I'm curious to know where are you getting "40-year old couch potato" from?? Jessica was only talking about not entertaining or going after guys who are ultimately a waste of time and energy.

    • @JCFrigid
      @JCFrigid Před 7 lety +2

      Sabrina Sainte "Wait for a guy to put you on a pedestal and treat you like the princess you are"

    • @JessicaHeartsMakeup
      @JessicaHeartsMakeup Před 7 lety +20

      For your information, I'm 20 and my fiancé is 21. I'm clearly not a 40-year old couch potato. My advice to women was to not date guys that are not worth it. "Waiting" for the right guy to come along doesn't literally mean to sit at home all day, it simply means to date quality type of guys who have their life together and who want a serious commitment that will lead to marriage which is was every women ultimately wants.

  • @Rosa-ql8in
    @Rosa-ql8in Před 2 lety +6

    I have go through multiple break ups, none hurts more then the first one, but the following have been bad too. The pain is indescribable, the worst. Worst than physical pain.

  • @enyawilhelm5857
    @enyawilhelm5857 Před 11 měsíci +8

    No matter if this might work or not . I think you are the first person who motivated me to move on

  • @millyjane8202
    @millyjane8202 Před 5 lety +629

    All I know is my heart is broken and it feels just like an actual pain

    • @meowyellen
      @meowyellen Před 4 lety +8

      Mil djane Celebs ok same it actually hurts in my chest

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      @elizabeththompson9658 Před 4 lety

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      @elizabeththompson9658 Před 4 lety

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      @priyas8659 Před 4 lety

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  • @Zooper-so3or
    @Zooper-so3or Před 7 lety +297

    I got broken up with 5 hours ago. The first person I loved. I have cried non-stop and I have felt so empty and lost.... then I saw this. First video I saw when I came onto CZcams for a distraction. I believe I was meant to see this. I believe it because 20 minutes before watching this I was planning all the ways I could get down on my knees and beg him to come back to me. This has given me some strength in fighting this addiction. Whether he comes to his senses or not, I need to take care of myself and take that no contact rule into immediate effect. Thank you, Matthew.

    • @Cathee45
      @Cathee45 Před 7 lety +20

      You can do it! Getting down on your knees begging for his love will not make him respect you. Finding and working on yourself will. xoxox

    • @Sirenamia777
      @Sirenamia777 Před 6 lety +1

      Cass Em you are so beautiful!

    • @Babzzmusic
      @Babzzmusic Před 6 lety +2

      I can totally relate hope you are feeling better now.

    • @thetokenvamp
      @thetokenvamp Před 6 lety +4

      I’d love to know how you are present day

    • @mayqueen943
      @mayqueen943 Před 6 lety +4

      Did it work out?

  • @ornellatougouri2016
    @ornellatougouri2016 Před 3 lety +8

    I haaaate chasing people. I actually don't know if I've ever been in love myself cause no matter how appreciate you, if you mess around it's over.

  • @faffinoodle
    @faffinoodle Před rokem +14

    Thank you for this. I have been in the loop for over a year and decided today it needs to stop. When you said you can do this even after years, I felt strong 💘

  • @lend4631
    @lend4631 Před 6 lety +370

    You don’t need to get him back. Just worry about your health, wellbeing, and happiness ❤️

  • @Ladycouture99
    @Ladycouture99 Před 6 lety +309

    When he said addiction, my heart pushed my chest .. and screamed ....

  • @suzannakato6091
    @suzannakato6091 Před rokem

    Mathew, thanks so much, really I was hurt broken when he told me that we're done. I almost fainted, the pain was too much for me to do.
    But when I gave him a break,no contact, I enjoyed life with my friends going out. I thank God that am healing slowly. Thanks for your advice

  • @basraabdi9479
    @basraabdi9479 Před 2 lety +1

    Last time I listened to this video, I was in so much pain because I was just going through a heart break, nothing made me feel pain, watched all kinds of videos on break ups to make me feel better but nothing worked...
    It was an addiction...a few months later, I got over the addiction and thank God for the break up because now more than ever I realized he was not right for me, I now realize that I wasn't even attracted to this person and that he wasn't my person. Guess what? He shows up saying he loves me after I was already over him. I never went back to him and am so grateful for the rough times that I went through with heartache because it made me so strong and u have learned to never be addicted to anyone or anything

  • @antoniamariaabboud7714
    @antoniamariaabboud7714 Před 6 lety +448

    I’ve done the same thing before watching this video in my first break up with my first boyfriend and it worked. But when he came back I didn’t want him anymore. I’m going through my second breakup today and now I’m assured that this is what I have to do. Ladies, take care of yourself. If someone is worth it and actually wants you and is good for you, they would never make you doubt yourself and put you through pain. This type of men don’t love you, they love the love you give them, and they don’t find it anywhere else which is why they come back. I hope you all find someone that will never make you question your worth.

    • @sharybaum2115
      @sharybaum2115 Před 5 lety +4

      Thank you, for writing this!

    • @lucarin8191
      @lucarin8191 Před 5 lety +1

      I havent seen it that way before.. thank you for writing this sm :)

    • @tinat9909
      @tinat9909 Před 5 lety +1

      Amen. Thank you for this 😊

    • @wunderland2763
      @wunderland2763 Před 5 lety +1

      This is amazing! Thank you

    • @GoSummitSolo
      @GoSummitSolo Před 5 lety +1

      thanks for this comment, that is very true

  • @lsmit003
    @lsmit003 Před 7 lety +310

    My ex broke up with me in January and got married in April to his "really good friend." We were together 10 years. The pain was unbearable for a few days but he made it easy for me to move on and I realized he did me a favor! He still called me afterwards
    but I did the no contact period;a period that will be implimented for life. Keep your heads up my broken-hearted girls it gets better, life gets better! #allthingshappenforareason

    • @madhurichauhan3455
      @madhurichauhan3455 Před 6 lety +6

      Lisa B you should go and slap in front of ur common group
      realise him how it feels

    • @littlemisssunshine874
      @littlemisssunshine874 Před 6 lety +1

      Good girl!

    • @NS-tw8et
      @NS-tw8et Před 6 lety +2

      Lisa B oh my gosh you just wrote about me, 🙁

    • @Babzzmusic
      @Babzzmusic Před 6 lety +2

      Thank you for sharing this it's very encouraging.

    • @nikki-kq6ul
      @nikki-kq6ul Před 6 lety +5

      How did you move on. How hard was it

  • @rahmakawtar394
    @rahmakawtar394 Před 2 lety +3

    Watching this video after he pulls away made me realize I was giving him way to much attention I'm definitely starting no contact period tonight no letter he doesn't deserve it at all. Thank you so much Matthew

  • @CassieWiegand-ub2cz
    @CassieWiegand-ub2cz Před rokem

    Your so intense and intelligent in human relationships. It’s not about dating you speak about but something greater than. Human interaction.

  • @dovelove4439
    @dovelove4439 Před 7 lety +461

    Been together for a year and a half. He's been doing this for the last three months, maybe even more. My no contact started yesterday. He called tonight three times and I didn't answer. My mind and heart was doing flips. A couple minutes later I received this notification. Angels working over time. Thank you Matthew, you're my Angel.

    • @anasofia4068
      @anasofia4068 Před 7 lety +8

      You can do it :)

    • @dovelove4439
      @dovelove4439 Před 7 lety +3

      Thank you, I'm not a person who speaks of a broken home to others in my daily life or on FB. This is my first time ever posting anything on CZcams, but as Matthew said, I'm not going in this alone. I have downloaded his links but they do not speak of the No Contact. They speak of other topics. Does anyone know where there is more info, from Matthew, on the No Contact topic. I'd think that would help me stay strong. Namaste

    • @legslipsandlashes9831
      @legslipsandlashes9831 Před 7 lety +11

      Dove Love Everyday that you take not talking to him is a day for yourself. It's alright to love him but you have to completely back off and get into yourself. It's gonna hurt but this is for you.

    • @legslipsandlashes9831
      @legslipsandlashes9831 Před 7 lety +7

      Dove Love Chazz Ellis is another good one on CZcams. His videos helped me so much. Keep following and do exactly as he says. I am now busier than ever and it doesn't matter is my ex wants me or not. To hell with him. I'm busy. Everyday is a day for you to live your best life. Also try Derrick Jaxn on CZcams.

    • @Chizuruchibi
      @Chizuruchibi Před 7 lety +6

      +Dove Love there's a great book called "it's called a break up, because it's broken". They have a whole chapter on the no contact thing, as well as wonderful other advice. Regarding the no-contact, they write there should be no contact whatsoever for at least 60 days straight.

  • @Delopezav
    @Delopezav Před 7 lety +503

    I broke up a 2 years toxic relationship and I turned all my pain around into losing 100 pounds... Turn your pain into something beautiful, I did it, you can do it too and Matthew is here ti support us...

    • @CleverandClassy
      @CleverandClassy Před 7 lety +10

      how? I want to lose about 10 pounds and it seems so difficult 😐

    • @WDLDrider
      @WDLDrider Před 7 lety +9

      Something very good came out of that! I too broke it off with my ex. She just kept me on the side while keeping another man.... I'm down 10 lbs just from walking!

    • @iyouwetubeit
      @iyouwetubeit Před 6 lety +1

      How? the remedy is written all over: get into a toxic relationship. Get your heart broken, then put the pain into something positive like losing weight. It does work.

    • @firesign4297
      @firesign4297 Před 6 lety

      Angela V 👏👏👏👏

    • @shimonarashi6451
      @shimonarashi6451 Před 6 lety

      Angela V proud of you 😍

  • @oyindamoladavid881
    @oyindamoladavid881 Před 3 lety

    This is sooooo accurate for me right now...a clean break of communication after 3 years of break up and heart break.

  • @perisuyldrm4792
    @perisuyldrm4792 Před 3 lety +7

    Am I the only one who watches that while crying ? ... bro that's really hard.

  • @25ttaylor
    @25ttaylor Před 6 lety +345

    My boyfriend informed me that he fell out of love for me months ago and since then has been secretly seeing another girl
    my pain is unbearable

    • @barbarariley3488
      @barbarariley3488 Před 5 lety +42

      He is nothing but a cheater be glad you found out he is a jerk now and not when you could have been married with kids.

    • @joannemkz5521
      @joannemkz5521 Před 5 lety +9

      I’m so sorry

    • @brainscrambledeggnothinkin3897
      @brainscrambledeggnothinkin3897 Před 5 lety +10

      Same things happened to me 3 days ago, we're not that exclusive though. He told me that he is going to date someone else. I cried all the night and now I'm trying no contact method but not to bring him back, just to move on in life and to never ever see him in life not even as a friend. He never loved me the way I loved him and that's fine also, you can't force anyone to love you. But the fact is that I don't want to invest in someone who doesn't feel the same. It would be good if I could stay as friend with him, but it's only going to hurt my feelings and sooner or later I'm going to be heartbroken again.
      If he treats you like an option, leave him like a choice. Bid them goodbye. All the best.

    • @jackiea.7971
      @jackiea.7971 Před 5 lety +3

      Tara Roebuck that is the worst! I’ve experienced cowards like that who don’t have the backbone and compassion to call things like they are and speak their truths. You deserve better.

    • @jackiea.7971
      @jackiea.7971 Před 5 lety

      john smith bring on the love spell. Next bring in Cupid and have him shoot everyone with arrows. Then bring in the dragon and lock her up so that a gallant man can rescue her. We’re listing ideas for fantasy movies aren’t we?

  • @AnnMTL
    @AnnMTL Před 7 lety +160

    This is so true. I was in love with a man who was emotionally unavailable and I was willing to do anything for him. When he dumped me, it broke me and I tried to get him back...it backfired. I was miserable...but now I've come out from the other side. I've cut off all contact and moved on, I start taking care of myself, loving myself, cherishing myself. I wouldn't care if he comes back. I've found someone who treats exactly the way I'm meant to be treated: respect and kindness. To all those suffering, take care of yourself, love yourself and you will survive and thrive.

    • @KaliKali-hv9bt
      @KaliKali-hv9bt Před 7 lety +2

      Ann Tung I will try to remember your words.

    • @edenmodomo9550
      @edenmodomo9550 Před 6 lety

      Ann Tung im on this situation now with a man hu was emotionaly unavailable and dumped me. It hurtz a lot and i dont know wer to begin

    • @Babzzmusic
      @Babzzmusic Před 6 lety +2

      eden modomo i experianced the same thing, block him on everything and relax do anything that makes you feel happier within reason lol. Write down all the reasons why they were wrong for you. Think about all of your good qualities and just love yourself.

    • @charinamoreno6012
      @charinamoreno6012 Před 6 lety

      Ann Tung Yass preach!! 👏👏

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  • @Levernis
    @Levernis Před 3 lety +5

    I just keep wishing day in and day out that he comes back to me

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      @bossdaivd763 Před 3 lety

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  • @kathieflower519
    @kathieflower519 Před rokem +12

    This really helped and made me feel better. I broke up with an amazing man 16 days ago, because we had an issue he couldn't overcome about something in my past, (that happened to me - not that I did). I miss him so much and haven't contacted him since I ended it, he hasnt contacted me either. I've been working, been out with friends, been to see family and yet I can't keep my mind occupied all of the time, so the sadness hits at weird times without warning. I hope he'll be able to see his reaction was over the top, and he'll miss me enough to try to get his head around what happened and fix things. If not, well then that's the best decision I could have made, even though it hurts.

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      @No-ng2hs Před rokem

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    • @bekind3050
      @bekind3050 Před rokem +3

      It will hurt for a while. Cry, walk, and be with nature. It will be hard, but you will overcome it. 🙏

    • @No-ng2hs
      @No-ng2hs Před rokem

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  • @emmapedersen9542
    @emmapedersen9542 Před 4 lety +1750

    It just feels like us girl are more sad than boys…

    • @hailiejade3800
      @hailiejade3800 Před 4 lety +38

      C00lkid Number #1 some reason guys can get over a relationship faster than us 😩😭

    • @ricardogomez4136
      @ricardogomez4136 Před 4 lety +216

      Not true girls. We just suffer in silent.

    • @Ns14142
      @Ns14142 Před 4 lety +15

      Women and men are physiologically different. Theres no way around that.

    • @eddieramos9966
      @eddieramos9966 Před 4 lety +19

      N S yes but it always depends on the person after a year and a half my ex is talking to another guy a week after we broke up meanwhile I’m here helpless looking for any way to take this pain away

    • @luciasugan4426
      @luciasugan4426 Před 4 lety +17

      Eddie ramos it’s okay I’m in the same boat but my relationship was 2.5 years and we lived together and he dumbed me a week ago I haven’t ate slept or anything and I knows he’s fine without me and it hurts be we can get through this we just need to heal and believe in ourselves! ♥️

  • @om.m9845
    @om.m9845 Před 4 lety +481

    CZcams knows that I got dumped in 2019
    Well recommended youtube

  • @martaskrzynska658
    @martaskrzynska658 Před měsícem +1

    Brilliant as always. Thank you so much for this, Matthew.

  • @wandychambers
    @wandychambers Před 2 lety +2

    Mathew you are simply the best. Relationship advises are not very easy to pass on. But you do it so compassionately I can't help but relate with it.
    My boyfriend told me he is done, its been 4 months and we are still seeing each other, we still talk, he's still calling, but he is not saying about getting back together whenever we see. I get it now how he is making it easy for him, and harder for me.

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      @Michael-im3yc Před 2 lety

      Dear I will introduce you to the same Spiritualist who restored my broken relationship, he can bring your ex back just fine he's good.

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      @Michael-im3yc Před 2 lety

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  • @beatv4942
    @beatv4942 Před 6 lety +220

    The hardest part is not knowing whether you will stay and hope for a miracle or you will just let go and move-on. 😢💔

  • @shank2644
    @shank2644 Před 4 lety +1013

    Just be patient. Make yourself busy & socialize with other ppl. And time will heal you ⚘🌹

    • @westcoastbred7745
      @westcoastbred7745 Před 4 lety +3

      Facts

    • @chelseaparagsingh9620
      @chelseaparagsingh9620 Před 4 lety +10

      It's really hard

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      @mariafernandezfernandez651 Před 4 lety

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      @mariafernandezfernandez651 Před 4 lety

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  • @Butterfly-tc6in
    @Butterfly-tc6in Před 2 lety +3

    I actually started my no contact with him 5 days ago & it’s going better than I thought it would. I’m trying my best to move on.

  • @a.a.8769
    @a.a.8769 Před 2 lety +1

    I didn't even realise that i was being addicted FOR MONTHS. Like, i only felt good when i was with him, and as soon as he leaves, i'm miserable and it's a never-ending circle. I love him, i depend on him and that's the point- you should NEVER give someone so much power to have over you! Thank you for this video, it's eye-opening!

  • @angelaohene67
    @angelaohene67 Před 6 lety +422

    The no contact rule works like magic.... My ex is back with speed but the truth is I'm completely over him and I don't want him anymore..... Thanks so much

  • @anonymousanonymous176
    @anonymousanonymous176 Před 4 lety +201

    I went no contact initially which lasted about 2.5 months, until he reached out. I took the bait so hard because I had been waiting and waiting for this moment. But I was all too quick to forgive him and come running to his doorstep. I think even he was surprised, he even said that he ‘can’t believe I am so forgiving’... I clearly wasn’t ready at this point to approach him with a clear, strong mind, but I didn’t know that at the time. I was still very much addicted.
    2 months goes by and he basically used me again as his secret affair, despite always finding the words and answers that seemed to satisfy my questions. I finally had the courage to walk away and say I deserve better. It took a moment of strength to send that message, even though I spent weeks after going back and forth on whether or not I should’ve sent it. Either way, I stuck with it. He said he couldn’t be ‘that person right now’, and that would always be his answer, it was obvious to me then.
    A few more months go by, and I gave in a few times where I’d send a message letting him know I’m thinking of him or saying something kind. I thought about him every single hour of everyday. I tried to keep my distance but I’d always relapse slightly and feel I’d have to start again when I received such an average response back.
    Finally, November 2019 I sent my last ‘nice’ message, knowing I was about to leave for Japan for 18 months and start a whole new life. He didn’t even finish the conversation and just left me hanging. So I decided. This was it. I didn’t sent a Christmas message, or a Happy New Year message (which I would always do), and then Valentine’s Day rolls around. I didn’t send anything to him either. But low and behold, at 7pm at night a message comes through and there’s his name staring at my screen. It says, ‘Still think about you a lot! Where are you? I hope you’re having a good time! I trust you are.’ Now, as I clutched my heart and almost fell to the ground hyperventilating, it took the entire force of universe and some very caring friends for me not to reply. I’d been waiting for a message from him for so long. I’d cried and cried, I’d dreamt of him, I would still catch myself staring at his pictures, but still, at this point I’d gone 3 months of no contact and was feeling quite good about the future. When I decided that I wouldn’t reply, and I let it sink in for a few days, after about 2 weeks I felt really powerful! I had ignored him for the first time in my life. I knew what was better for me and my well-being, and whilst ignoring him felt unnatural and unkind (in my mind), the anxiety and uncertainty I would feel if I had messaged and fell back in that loop just wasn’t worth it. I wanted to keep the high ground I’d spent so long fighting for.
    His birthday passed a few weeks ago, and I also refrained from messaging him. I’m now feeling very strong, and him reaching out actually helped me with my healing process because it gave me a chance to ignore him. It gave me the choice to do so after some healing.
    I am feeling really quite good about it all now, and after blocking him off everything and making sure my settings are all private, it really goes help you think about them less each day, because reminders don’t just ‘pop up’, as you go about your day.
    Still healing, but making progress!

    • @beatak-f9764
      @beatak-f9764 Před 2 lety +13

      Im sure many of us is or was in this exact situation… stay strong!!

    • @IamFayeMackynzie
      @IamFayeMackynzie Před 2 lety +9

      It’s been a year since you posted this.. I am wondering how are you feeling right now? I am very much in the same situation as you i don’t know how much will power and determination i’ll be needed to not contact him and give in if he contact me.

  • @rosearianaabidin4542
    @rosearianaabidin4542 Před 3 lety +4

    OH My Goodnesssss!!! Bro,I'm telling you, you are one of the greatest motivators I've ever watched after Jay Shetty. Thank you so much for this amazing motivation vid. I promise you, I'll start to do "no contact" from now onwards. Thank you, GBU Matthew Hussey 🤗💝

  • @almarodriguez4104
    @almarodriguez4104 Před 3 lety +1

    I realized watching this video that it's better not to fall in love with a specific person. Try to love yourself first is the best feeling.

  • @janetdexplorer88
    @janetdexplorer88 Před 4 lety +757

    He really broke my heart but I still Love him

    • @Admin-zc6zb
      @Admin-zc6zb Před 4 lety

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    • @Admin-zc6zb
      @Admin-zc6zb Před 4 lety

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    • @emilylopez4371
      @emilylopez4371 Před 4 lety +1

      Jenny s, this is his new whatzappp number +2349072897962

    • @lourdesmaghanoy6028
      @lourdesmaghanoy6028 Před 4 lety +4

      me too still love him, very hurt to me

    • @lourdesmaghanoy6028
      @lourdesmaghanoy6028 Před 3 lety

      @Vanessa Lorena can you hepl me pls

  • @emmakleiner8470
    @emmakleiner8470 Před 7 lety +124

    i am thé only one running to Matthew's vidéos every time i feel like giving up on realtionships with thé world ?

  • @susiiii1
    @susiiii1 Před 2 lety +3

    It hurts so bad when you meet the right person at the wrong time and you both get overwhelmed with each other. We're still friends and promised to get back together when we work on ourselves but I'm so used to being with him I want to text him call him I really miss him. He told me he needs some space and I understand but it hurts so bad I want him back as fast as possible

  • @ehaelishamakeup
    @ehaelishamakeup Před 5 měsíci

    Your voice is so comforting. First guy I've liked since my boyfriend died 2 years ago, I was so afraid of dating again... But I opened my heart. Made some mistakes as my triggers reared their ugly heads, he said he was willing to be a team, and that j should be willing tk be open and communicate more.... Then he went silent for a bit and the next time I heard from him he said he just wanted to be friends for a while, and that I'd have to be happier with my life and more stable if he was to consider dating again... I started therapy and was inspired by liking this new guy becasue I don't want to put my reactions onto a new love..... However there were a couple times when j did try and communicate my needs as I was feeling anxious, he kind of got defensive and dismissive. Anyway... I know he's not emotional mature. And I'm not entirely looking to get back with him. But, I need to move on.. This triggered the big loss emotion from 2 years ago...and at first I said I didn't wanna be friends.... Then I sent him a big message days later... And again.. And again, until he finally replied and said I can't give you what you need. And then i sent more and more.. And then resort g to begging him to at least stick to his word and try and give it a chance..... And then he said I broke his trust. And then I said I'd be willing to show him that I'm working on my last traumas and I won't go silent and abandon him, I won't always have these big reactions if I have a safe place to express these feelings.. And he said you need to go work on your stuff by yourself and he needs to work on his by himself.... And I sent one last message saying how about we hang out no pressure a couple times, we can see how it goes and then after we've actually given it a shit with open communication then at least I can walk away saying I tried my best.... He never replied of course. Is it too late to send the I accept message?...... Becasue honestly, I'm ready to, I want to... I know I'm just hanging on becasue he's the first guy Ive liked since my late partner and I thought he was special.. But I'm realsing he's just like anyone else... And there's definitely a man out there willing to love and support through my scary first relationship back after losing a partner to death..... But I have said alll of these things now... I know I'm being too much, too clingy, too desperate. But that's not really who I am. It's my trauma response. Any answers?

  • @emmajenna6600
    @emmajenna6600 Před 6 lety +90

    I’m back to this place every couple months. Ugh, exs are diseases. Please don’t expect to be back with them. Trust me, they will come back. They always do but it’s still not going to work. He’s still who he was and you’re just setting yourself up for heartbreak again. Ladies, don’t give them more opportunities than they deserved like I did. You will be alright again

  • @dillonwalker5159
    @dillonwalker5159 Před 4 lety +570

    Tried the no contact method after weeks of fighting with my ex over ridiculous things. Just over two weeks later he was asking me what he could do to make this work. I'm very happy. Thank you so much

    • @yoyo5836
      @yoyo5836 Před 3 lety +4

      Congrats!

    • @dillonwalker5159
      @dillonwalker5159 Před 3 lety +63

      Unfortunately, it did not work out. But yes. It was good advice

    • @jjj555
      @jjj555 Před 3 lety +7

      Mine got a new girlfriend 🙂

    • @dillonwalker5159
      @dillonwalker5159 Před 3 lety +14

      @@jjj555 don’t worry. He left me two weeks later

    • @ighalo0do629
      @ighalo0do629 Před 3 lety

      @@dillonwalker5159
      getting your lover back shouldn't be a problem I got my ex back with the help of Mr osekhametalor

  • @natashakhan5196
    @natashakhan5196 Před rokem +1

    This just gave me a lot of new energy.

  • @inammtumtum3229
    @inammtumtum3229 Před 3 lety +9

    2020...I'm here😢😢😢
    How is it that you understand me more than my friends do😢

    • @wuihappiness6560
      @wuihappiness6560 Před 3 lety

      I can recommend you to someone who can help you
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      @wuihappiness6560 Před 3 lety

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      @wuihappiness6560 Před 3 lety

      +234 70 54 89 35 32 💯💯💯💯

    • @bunnyjenks1600
      @bunnyjenks1600 Před 3 lety +1

      I'm in the same boat, still going through the emotions and it's even harder with the pandemic. School starts next week and I just landed a new job, hoping the distractions will help. Just know you are not alone. We'll just keep in mind time heals wounds 🙏🏽

    • @maestrasmainchannel9679
      @maestrasmainchannel9679 Před 3 lety +1

      Youre not alone

  • @TheresSomethingAboutSherry
    @TheresSomethingAboutSherry Před 7 lety +175

    If I can do this, anyone can! I was in the "addiction" cycle with my ex for a long time. About 2 months ago, I decided I'd had enough and decided to start the no contact period. I'm currently on day 59 and I'm so much happier, stronger and I feel like the ball is in my court; I feel like I'm in control. For me, the first 3 weeks were the hardest, but it gets easier. For anyone going through a breakup, I promise you can do it! Thank you Matthew. This video has motivated me to keep going!

    • @TheresSomethingAboutSherry
      @TheresSomethingAboutSherry Před 7 lety +5

      When you're serious about wanting a different outcome to the situation that you're in, nothing can stop you. You are so much stronger than you think! I promise you can get through it!

    • @edenmodomo9550
      @edenmodomo9550 Před 6 lety +1

      TheresSomethingAboutSherry it hurts a lot i dont know wer to start again

    • @av-jt4ny
      @av-jt4ny Před 6 lety

      second month of no contact period and still its hard as it was in the start👐

    • @dinahmite425
      @dinahmite425 Před 6 lety

      Does he contact you? And are you done are do you want him back

  • @msvanitycharm4406
    @msvanitycharm4406 Před 5 lety +563

    9 years ago, I was so in love with a guy while he only wanted to be friends with benefits. We dragged on for over a year on and off so finally I moved out of country and we were on no contact period for 7 hours years. Now after 9 years later since we’ve first met, we are seeing each other again. He cares about me so much more than ever and wants to spend time with me everyday. If it’s meant to be, he will chase you back. I gave him the gift of “missing me”.
    I use to cry myself to sleep every other night because of how he was treating me but moving away and focusing on myself growth for many years, I present myself in a different light. So, for those of you who feels lost, lonely and abandoned, the darker the tunnel, the easier to spot the light.

    • @lifewiths.6204
      @lifewiths.6204 Před 5 lety +3

      So are you guys back together now ?

    • @resanprince628
      @resanprince628 Před 4 lety +1

      Thank you, I needed this

    • @shea88barbie
      @shea88barbie Před 4 lety +1

      MsVanityCharm awwwl i don’t want Nunez back but I am so happy thinking about the light and happiness again after healing from this break up

    • @arielthemermaid953
      @arielthemermaid953 Před 4 lety +16

      I don’t wanna wait 7 years tho

    • @devyanikhachi8358
      @devyanikhachi8358 Před 4 lety +2

      My relationship is on end point😑😑....he Everytime says that he is with me forever ..he will never leave me and fights are the part of relationship...he is changed now ...I caught him many times with other girls ...😭😭but he always come to me...he had never left me alone but now I caught him with one girl 4-5th time😓😓..he had never left me ..but now he is totally Changed😭😭

  • @bekind3050
    @bekind3050 Před rokem +3

    Do nothing! Is the best response 🤣

    • @No-ng2hs
      @No-ng2hs Před rokem

      Hi sweetheart I have got my broken relationship fixed with the help of a great relationship expert Dr James who brought my partner Back in 48 hours after 8 months of separation🥰.

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      @No-ng2hs Před rokem

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      @No-ng2hs Před rokem

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  • @ellav9022
    @ellav9022 Před 3 lety +33

    Thank you, Matthew. I am glad you said it’s never too late to start the no contact period because I’ve spent days non stop texting him and being clingy 😢 I will try to stop but it is so hard I can’t even describe it

    • @desertcat1171
      @desertcat1171 Před 2 lety +1

      How are you now?

    • @aimees4990
      @aimees4990 Před 2 lety

      Hey love how are you now? ❤

    • @cassidyladden1716
      @cassidyladden1716 Před 2 lety +1

      This is me too :,(

    • @Sabumnim11
      @Sabumnim11 Před rokem +2

      I'm the same. I want to stop reaching out but we were so close. He was my best friend, we lived together for almost two and half years and planned a future together. It's been over three weeks since he broke up and I just want it to be a bad dream. I still can't believe it

  • @britbrithey
    @britbrithey Před 7 lety +54

    So true! Relationship was bringing in a lot of stress and miscommunication, so he broke up w me. Did a clean break and talked off and on for a few weeks, he was back and forth w his feelings about me (i still loved him but not more than I love myself) so I got sick of him and told him to get the rest of his shit and get out of my life. He freaked and said that's not what he wanted. 🤷🏾‍♀️ Two days later he's at my door wanting to start over bc he didn't want to be without me...so yes raise the stakes, focus and fall madly in love with only yourself, and he'll come around or someone better will

  • @nadiasrec
    @nadiasrec Před 4 lety +169

    I just dont understand why someone would ghost on me after promesing me the world. I cant help but crying everytime i think about him, he was so sweet and so nice to me i felt so lucky . It hurts alot

    • @Liz-dragon-street.
      @Liz-dragon-street. Před 3 lety

      How are you 2day Princess? Still not seeing that man?

    • @nadiasrec
      @nadiasrec Před 3 lety +5

      @@Liz-dragon-street. yea, havent heard from him since I commented this. I feel better and moved on with my life but I miss him sometimes

    • @Angiebee.
      @Angiebee. Před 2 lety +1

      The same thing happened to me. He promised me the world, he told me I was his queen and that he wanted to do whatever he could to make me happy. Maybe it wasn’t as good as I thought. After discussing if we wanted a relationship and trying to be clear with what we wanted. About a few days later he let me down and told me it wouldn’t work because he was too busy. I felt broken inside and angry because he knew that I had been assaulted when he came back and he treated me so well compared to the other guy. He told me he felt lucky to have me in his life and that everyone should know that I should be treated like a queen. And now feel like a joke, like I’m cursed. The only reason he came back was because he was fucking lonely. I was fucking lonely too and depressed from being sexually assaulted by the last guy but I never go back to other people for my own selfishness because I want something real, disagreements and all…. I’m angry because I really believed everything he told me. I feel broken because I’m constantly hurt when I try to find love. Right now I want to stay away from it because nothing good has come out of it for me. I’ve just become more depressed. Relationships probably aren’t as great as we make it out to be anyway so what’s the point of wasting my life away on someone who doesn’t care. It’s like men only care about my looks and that’s it. I have such a amazing personality and I just wish people would take the time to truly get to know me. I just don’t understand why someone would tell me they like my personality plus all this other stuff and still disappear. How do I believe the words lovers tell me if most of the time they don’t mean it? Sometimes…. It feels like some people just have it easy. For example my sister went through a few idiots and got over involved and angry but after a month of searching fucking Tinder, she found her boyfriend. There are people my age who are in long term relationships even the people who have been, are, or use to be insecure. They are perfect. I thought that maybe if I was perfect all around then I would find a lover and then it became difficult to achieve but I avoided dating until I realized I didn’t need to be perfect. I stopped obsessing about my weight and worked on trying to just become stronger. I wanted to approach dating in a different way by dating for the fun of it just to be entertained but still hang out with people and get to know them like a friend because I’m a very social person but then I would end up getting ghosted before I could ever get to go out because all they wanted was sex and I just wanted to hang out and do activities and that’s it. Maybe I should just make more friends and just travel a bunch and not even think about dating. It’s broken me so much that I just want to avoid it all together.

    • @Angiebee.
      @Angiebee. Před 2 lety

      This is also why I don’t believe in soulmates.

    • @margelee3483
      @margelee3483 Před 2 lety

      I can recommend you to a man who helped me to get my ex back to me within 48hours

  • @KM-ic3qn
    @KM-ic3qn Před dnem

    He is always so spot on with his advice!

  • @avacalbillo6810
    @avacalbillo6810 Před 2 lety +3

    I have never felt this way towards someone. He was everything to me. It has been 5 months since we broke up, and 3 weeks since we stopped being friends. No contact after him being my only contact for a long time was very hard for me. I didn't know who could ever replace his huge presence in my life. Truth be told, no one can replace him. I still love him, but he has moved on a long time ago as if we were never together. As if our time together was nothing to him while for me they're unforgettable. It pains me seeing him with other girls, smiling and laughing at other people, and avoiding me. I've been staying strong, I haven't talked to him even though I've had the urge to do so many times. It really hurts. I wanted a future with this person, I imagined a future with this person. I miss this person so very much even though it has been so long and seeing him causes me to feel that heartbreak again and again. I'll continue going strong, but it really sucks.

  • @livealifeIRL
    @livealifeIRL Před 7 lety +170

    I'm about 18 months into 'no contact' and it changed my life - for the better. Without the overthinking about whether he would call me, whether I should call him, should I accidentally on purpose show up where he is so we bump into each other etc. I've allowed myself to move on just being....me....and doing life without him. I know if we had stayed in our cycle of dipping in and out of contact I would have been stuck forever holding on just a little bit to a man who wasn't right for me.

    • @omar-tl2ku
      @omar-tl2ku Před 7 lety +4

      RetrolyzeHD ️️
      wtf! 😂😂😂

    • @pratimabhatt5079
      @pratimabhatt5079 Před 6 lety +1

      livealife been through the same shit myself...and hated how I always ran back to him even when he was wrong...uggh!

    • @hindaadan3442
      @hindaadan3442 Před 6 lety

      livealife ... Well done u will find someone who loves u better x

  • @iimoonlightdreamii7009
    @iimoonlightdreamii7009 Před 6 lety +110

    My heart feels like it's literally hurting..

    • @rileyl5538
      @rileyl5538 Před 5 lety +1

      I found the best website that helps me to get my ex back…This program is both for male and females….All you guys should try this website *MyExLove. info*

    • @subconsciousmind1907
      @subconsciousmind1907 Před 4 lety

      *By subconscious mind and angels* *I can make him or her love u as his soul* *Very powerful*
      *I can bring her or he back to you*
      *I can make her or he thinking about u all day and night*
      *In 4 dayes only*
      *if u want contact me phone or whatssaap*
      *Tel : 00201008882131*
      *or 0020100882131*

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    @baquetsartbakeryllc Před rokem +1

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  • @BrittneyHarris-tz3ee
    @BrittneyHarris-tz3ee Před 8 měsíci

    This meant a lot and I really needed to see this video. Even your ascent and the background music was a nice touch! Thank you❤

  • @michelleshin3088
    @michelleshin3088 Před 5 lety +133

    You used the term 'addiction' that breaks my heart cause that was supposed to be love before the break up

  • @veraj3828
    @veraj3828 Před 6 lety +154

    My boyfriend broke up with me because he said I’m boring. That was the stupid excuse. I was a good woman but I hope he can find a fun woman but what goes around comes around.

    • @jolisa3325
      @jolisa3325 Před 5 lety

      Opeyemi Joseph what happened? Did he try to comeback

    • @madeliiine8035
      @madeliiine8035 Před 5 lety +2

      You are a good woman. And that doesn't change because some arsehole did something stupid to you. He is not worth grieving over.

    • @subconsciousmind1907
      @subconsciousmind1907 Před 4 lety

      *I can bring her or he back to you*
      *I can make her or he thinking about u all day and night*
      *In 4 dayes only*
      *if u want contact me phone or whatssaap*
      *Tel : 00201008882131* *or 0020100882131*
      *By subconscious mind and angels*
      *I can make him or her love u as his soul*
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    • @destanieayala9342
      @destanieayala9342 Před 4 lety

      Opeyemi Joseph he broke up with me bcs I said let’s play a game to see who knows me better u or my best friend

    • @karthikaray5627
      @karthikaray5627 Před 4 lety +1

      Same in my case also

  • @angelreadswithamyburleson947

    You are the best!!! I just love your coaching and advise. You are so genuine and real !!

  • @Wittylee8828
    @Wittylee8828 Před rokem +1

    This time around we broke up and I have cried just one night, I don't know how I am feeling anymore , am not hurt even , God thank you

  • @nadiadahbani7804
    @nadiadahbani7804 Před 7 lety +211

    u cannot imagine how the timing of this is perfect... thnx

  • @thilosh
    @thilosh Před 7 lety +113

    The best advise ever.. thank you Matthew for the video. My no contact rule is still going on.. 1 year 5 months later... Ended a relationship with my then bf of 1 year, who just didnt know what he wanted.. I got tired feeling in libo.. .and walked out.. This time for me has been about just focusing on myself ..my career.. my family..my health... its been an amazing time of self discovery.. I know my worth and know I wouldnt settle for anything less.. Surprisingly he contacted me last month... after all this time.. via email .. stating he has regret for letting me go and apologising for never appreciating me..I never replied..thats validation enough no contact does work... I have moved on .. and for him.. his finally realised what he wants.. albeit quite late.. Lol.. but he now realises what he wants or will value in a woman.. no regrets.. love and happiness only to him and everyone out there reading this.. in an extremely selfish world out there.. we must practice self love..

    • @cookieesncream5350
      @cookieesncream5350 Před 6 lety

      I was on mo contact for 1 yr. Bumped into my ex accidentally and had a pleasant chat. Unfortunately when i messaged him later he replied but then stopped. He has made no effort in reaching out

    • @janaejackson9683
      @janaejackson9683 Před 6 lety

      thilosh inspiring

  • @quinn4614
    @quinn4614 Před 3 měsíci

    I don't have anyone to talk to about how heartbroken I am. Thank you for this video.

  • @meagandekkar6377
    @meagandekkar6377 Před rokem

    I love the diagrams. Withdrawal symptoms make total sense.

  • @user-qi3mm1tv7p
    @user-qi3mm1tv7p Před 4 lety +114

    reading the comments make me feel better after a breakup... :')

  • @princesskimme3
    @princesskimme3 Před 7 lety +105

    I started the no contact period months ago and ever since I feel myself remembering who I was single. It's crazy. I can't lie that I miss that feeling of having someone there but it's not as urgent as before. I feel amazing. Mathew knows what he's talking about

    • @Cathee45
      @Cathee45 Před 7 lety

      Did your ex try to come back?

    • @princesskimme3
      @princesskimme3 Před 7 lety +4

      Cathee45 as soon as he broke up with me we talked for months after. First he wanted to be friends then he wanted a relationship, then he wanted to be friends again. After I started the no contact period cause I was tired of that he did reach out to me asking to be friends. So to answer your question yes he did but he hasn't reached out since. I admit I cheated once and contacted him but it was a one day weakness. Never did again. Btw he contacted me one month after I started the no contact period.

  • @denisephillips6972
    @denisephillips6972 Před 8 měsíci

    I watched the links you attached and realised I didn’t want him anymore.
    Thank you 🙏

  • @netcountryside518
    @netcountryside518 Před rokem +2

    I broke up last night. In the morning I try to text him and call him 10 times , finally I talked to him, he didn’t want to talk with me, but I begged him to stay, I asked him, do you still love me? He said “ I am no longer love you anymore “. I still beg him to stay. I just can’t accept it. It hurts so bad and I know I never get his respect. He use bad words to me..😢😔 still I keep listening and talking to him 🥺 I said I was a negative virus and a trash 😖 .
    After I watch this, I will love myself and move on. I have to accept that my love is over. Thanks 🙏

  • @Lilmama7002
    @Lilmama7002 Před 5 lety +262

    I finally told him not to contact me because he asked to remain friends and he was perfectly fine with the decision he just said ok and that was that. I think that made the break up even worse. His nonchalant attitude about it is driving me insane and I’m not the type to get in a relationship if I don’t see forever with them.

    • @janeswurld
      @janeswurld Před 5 lety +22

      How’s it going with you? I’m barely 3 weeks in. Shit hurts. I’ve never rode a break up al the way. I’ve always relationship hopped but this time I’m older and wiser: I’m done hurting people

    • @User-qv3wz
      @User-qv3wz Před 5 lety +29

      I seriously went through this same thing he was just so cool with it and it really bothered me

    • @CuteSpade
      @CuteSpade Před 5 lety +10

      Going through it right now as well. It’s been a week. We’ve been together for almost two years, but one day he finally tells me he isn’t feeling fulfilled in this relationship. We both agreed to stay friends. But he was also so chill about it as if the breakup didn’t affect him at all. Not only that but he wants to stay friends yet I always have to be the one initiating conversation as I always did when we were together. I don’t know if it’s wise for me to stay friends with him. I’m hurting so badly.

    • @MegaSebr
      @MegaSebr Před 5 lety +7

      @@CuteSpade Don't stay friends. Do you really need a texting buddy?
      But always show your cheery side.

    • @CuteSpade
      @CuteSpade Před 5 lety +1

      MegaSebr The main problem is that he would still want to hang out, and matter of fact he surprisingly texted me first just a couple hours ago! I’m doing well so far with the healing process despite it only being a couple of weeks as we were not in contact with each other for the past 2 weeks until now. It seems as he still genuinely wants to be friends. I’m still unsure whether or not I sure say friends. I don’t think he intends to just be texting buddies though, maybe he really wants a friendship.

  • @booth9553
    @booth9553 Před 6 lety +85

    Wow. It’s like you’re talking directly to me. This stuff is so crazy painful.

  • @fansfan9388
    @fansfan9388 Před rokem

    Just broke up 2 weeks ago and until i found this video i’ve been feeding to my addiction and no response from him. Really hurt my pride.. thanks for the advice

  • @ulat14
    @ulat14 Před 2 lety

    Thank you Matt… I am crying right now..

  • @YasmSpasm
    @YasmSpasm Před 7 lety +954

    perfect timing for this video. im currently going through a break up that is tearing me apart right now. this video is spot on. thank you!!!

    • @johncajahuaringa2326
      @johncajahuaringa2326 Před 7 lety +7

      Yasmin Hernandez where is the double like button.

    • @YasmSpasm
      @YasmSpasm Před 7 lety

      John Cajahuaringa 😊 thank you John

    • @ginakim9502
      @ginakim9502 Před 7 lety +3

      Me toooooo 😢

    • @jessicasantz3649
      @jessicasantz3649 Před 7 lety +5

      me too haha.. He kept talking to me. But I said I need to stay away from him, because I need to clear all the negative emotion.

    • @aleciaharmon
      @aleciaharmon Před 7 lety +6

      If you care about your heart do it a favor and cut them off immediately no contact. There is no possibility that you can get better and heal until you do.

  • @charinamoreno6012
    @charinamoreno6012 Před 6 lety +418

    This advice totally works. When my ex and I broke up months ago, I was completely broken inside, I was in pain, but one thing that I knew for sure was that although I loved him so much I didn't want to get him back again. So I stopped talking to him, I deleted him on social media, I totally got away from him and now I'm moving on. I mean It is not easy to do that when you really love that person and the thing you want the most is to be by their side, but he never loved me so I have to stand up for myself, and the good thing is I feel happier and I know I deserve better. Now I know I did the right thing 😀👌

    • @vicaro676
      @vicaro676 Před 6 lety +10

      This really the exact thing I did.. Reprogram your mind that you are given a chance to improve and love yourself. By doing that, you can enjoy the feeling of being at peace. Peace of mind and peace of heart. Prayers also, plays major role of overcoming broken heartedness.

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      @aishajubairou7513 Před 6 lety +1

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    • @peachyyp5126
      @peachyyp5126 Před 5 lety +1

      This is so encouraging. Thank you

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      @lolitsajoke77 Před 5 lety

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  • @markcellina313
    @markcellina313 Před 3 lety +6

    this is unbelievable I can't believe I get my ex-husband back after two years of not talking to each other

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    @SACREDINNERUNION Před rokem +1

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