3 Stoic Practices That Ended My Crippling Depression
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The only book for your all answers are in the Quran book, give it ago then speak.
Ezdrummer2 on that kit rock. I have the same kit ; )
This is a good philosophy, next to Buddhist philosophies you should check it out.
I tend to like the Eastern philosophies better overall. Marcus is actually my least favorite stoic philosopher, too.
The hell are you doing with a chick that needs/is/has to "shit test" you in the first place?! If you tolerate girls playing games with you, then you get girls that play games with you. You beat the game by not not being subject to the game.
â You are in control over yourself not outside events â understanding this really changed my life đŻ
Dude not if ur in jail or with strict parents đ€Ł
epictetus
@@ajgiza9866 ? what
I must disagree. We are not even in control of ourselves, no totally. We can controi some of it, but if we have bad genes there is nothing we can do about that. We are not even in control of our minds. Some can control their mind a little bit of with a lot of practise, but for the most part our minds are out of our control and stay so no matter how hard we try. The illusion that we can control our minds is caused by peaceful life and is due to sheer luck.
well by controlling yourself you can control outside events
Stoic philosophy in three easy steps.
1: Recognize that to live is to suffer.
2: Recognize that you cannot change point 1.
3: Accept suffering as the universal truth it is and stop caring when it happens to you.
Can I also consider my chronic pain number 1 rule?
Isn't that just Buddhism?
That's easy to say, harder to do.
Man would mean a lot if you elaborate point 1, cuz acc. to it, what's the point of living then?
@@AdityaRaj-rh4fm to find joy in suffering
*"Sometimes you must hurt in order to know, fall in order to grow, lose in order to gain because life's greatest lessons are learned through pain."*
Woah
@@soulgoodkitchenllc9524 hoaW
If you survive
damn thatâs a barđŻ
nagato was spittinnnđŻđŻđŁđŁ
Number 2 hit me hard.
From the age of 9-14 my mom, dad, grandad, brother and uncle died.
I was angry, mad, frustrated and upset thinking âwhy did this happen to me.â
Iâm about to turn 43 and it took me this long to turn it into a positive.
Iâm starting a channel to give people tips, tricks and motivation to help people grieve in a positive way.
God damn bro u went threw some shit, I hope youâre doing well now, May God bless u
You are an absolute inspiration. Stay strong.
@kit katt feeling like I was a failure for not saving any of them
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Marcus Aurelius is literally one of my favorite people to read about. Ever since i started following values of stoicism, iâve gained more respect with not only myself, but also the way of life. one of his quotes that always stuck in my head was âIt is not death that a man should fear, but he should fear never beginning to live.â đ«
"If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment."
I'm sceptical about all things. But Stoic principles make sense to a large extent.
so how to begin to live?
Memento mori.
I agree Marcus aurealis and big Joe Joyce are the only 2 lads you'll ever need
There are only 3 things that are certain in life, death, taxes and Cole posting the exact video I need at the right time.
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ok then it's obvious why you have depression
Haha - awesome đ
Wether cole posts or not, we all must remain stoic!
@@snubdawg1386 Because depression can be genetic and people have predispositions to it. Being depressed isn't a choice, facing it and learning to live with it is.
*Whenever I feel like giving up, I just think about why I started.*
I don't know you personally but I wish you the best in your life. You are loved and needed.
- a personal development CZcamsr đ
I subscribed you when I seen your comment in hamza ahmed and ice coldjt channel
Can you name any other productive CZcams channel
Your channel is subscribed and hitted that bell
Thanks bro for the motivation
@@punithrahul1379 Rahul I make productivity videos also!
@@IsaacJoshi I seen your videos
Subscribed it but make sure to upload atleast a video every week without fail
Off topic question..
Are u indian born or your are parents are indian sub continent
Thank you for this .I wish you health and happiness
"The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts." ~ Marcus Aurelius đđ
Love the video Cole, thanks for creating another banger
Thank you
It is all about our mind. Some people they become a prisoner bcus of their mindset
"Waste no more time arguing about what a good man should be. Be one." - Marcus Aurelius
As a reader of "7 Habits of Highly Virtuous Stoics," I've realized that true wisdom comes from taking action, not just debating theory. This book has given me the tools to cultivate daily habits that align with my values and help me become the best version of myself.
How could anyone possibly hate this guy ?! Helping people improve their lives has got to be the best thing you could do in this world .. I love this guy
Lady Gaga's "Rain on Me" helped me in my journey to fight depression. I just accepted that there is a high possibility that I may never have 100% happy days 100% of the time, so I should just celebrate a small event that made my day better and ironically just roll my eyes when crappy period doesn't seem to end.
Hahahah you need lady gaga to come to that realisation?? đ€Šââïžđ
@@nihilist6008 it does not matter which route wisdom is acquainted.
@@toxiccool6205 its pathetic.
Nobody will ever have 100% happy days, 100% of the time my friend.
There is nothing wrong with you for having bad days.
@@nihilist6008 Being a douche bag to people on the internet is quite pathetic.
Stoicism and the Eastern schools of thought really have a lot in common!
Yeah kinda reminds me of the idea of being unattached from buddhism
Exactly bro, Iâm working on a video on buddhism and I realized that stoicism and buddhism have a lot of similarities
@austin smith well, if you discover the current moment, you practice and thereby do spiritual things... mindfulness leads to presence ;D
đ§ââïžnot in control of external events
That's why they're saying stoicism is the Western Buddhism ^^
Thank you Cole
Me and my wife had an argument yesterday , today was filled with frustration and negativity. After watching this , I woke her up and kissed her told her I loved her .
You should have ignored her until she came to you.
Silence is never an option
@@LordDante-oj7jo that's not being rational. That's only gonna hurt both of them
Lord Dante. You canât control the situation at all so your comment is useless.
After she fucked some other guy lol.
the fear you feel is a survival tool. it helps to keep you alive. just donât let it turn you into a coward.
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"Why would I choose a mindset that makes suffering and the mistakes I make more difficult to deal with", so goodđđœ
I spent most of 2020 (first nine months) extremely depressed to the point I thought about suicide. When I started reading into stoicism (especially Mediations) and getting more spiritual I got much better. A year later and I am proud to say I am the happiest I ever been
Then certain philosophers of the Epicureans, and of the Stoicks, encountered him. Acts 17:18
Same, lately I have gotten more spiritual and welcomed God into my life even though I am not religious
It's simply amazing how these ancient teaching translate so seamlessly into modern daily life shows no matter how complex life can get all human have common principles that can improve our lives despite our differences within ourselves and our times
Civilisation starts way sooner than depicted.
âHistory is a set of lies agreed uponâ
-Napolean Bonaparte
Stoicism has such a simple, yet powerful message. I was worried about a situation that happened at work, and just by listening at this, i feel relieved.
Luke Skywalker âŁïž
May you make video on what's the purpose of life ( I am having existential crisis ) and what is happiness , yeah I know these are philosophical questions and you are not philosopher
But I want to know your perspective
@@pauldirc.. there's a movie that plays with the concept of wanting to understand the meaning of life, called Martyrs(2008). It is a psychologic thriller, with some explicit scenes, but it touches on the idea that life has no real meaning, you're the one that has to give meaning to it.
Knowing the meaning of life would render our journey in this existence pointless, so we have to make an effort to spend our time in the most enjoyable way possible, and i don't mean it in the sense of pleasure, but learning to enjoy the simple moments in life, appreciating a quiet afternoon with our family, having a conversation with friends once in a while, or even taking some minutes to read a book or watch a video about a topic of our interest.
I think it is a little cliché, but that quote that says "enjoy the moment" it's the most correct way to live. The present is all we have, so there's no need to bother with the past or the future too much. We should definitely do our part, study, exercise, try to improve ourselves, help whoever is in need. For external events, that is beyond our control. As Spike from Cowboy Bebop would say: "whatever happens, happens"
â@@pauldirc.. The meaning of life is to live, so just keep doing your job, the things you need to to live, you probably only have one life you might as well live it because there are a lot of fun things in it. Or there just is no meaning at all, but that allows you to make your own meaning. True happiness is not any sort of material wealth, because things such as expensive clothes or food or a car, are just the normal variants of those things but overpriced and fancier. True happiness is just found in the little things of life, look out for them and you'll find them. Generally it's stuff like helping others, doing the right thing and even putting a smile on someone's face is a really good feeling. If you don't get thanked, that's fine too because doing the thing is its own reward, as deep down we love ourselves the most, more then other, so our opinion of ourself is more important than others. Our opinion of ourself only improves by doing the right things, being selfless, helping others, being kind to them but
if they don't thank you and even get offended by you, it's fine. Do listen closely to them and try to imagine what they are thinking, because if they point out a flaw, you can correct yourself, correcting yourself and apologizing is a very great act aswell since it's your own will and you made yourself better, therefore improving your opinion of yourself. So if you get thanked, very cool, if not, then it doesn't matter because of the reasons stated above. This is what I can think of off the top of my head
I wish our children were taught these principles at school. Complaining, anger, depression are too widespread in today's society. Very good video, thank you.
I still donât grasp why this happens
@@alevez2004 social media stuff my dude
Please wake up. Schools are public indoctrination camps to make children into dumbed down, obedient debt slave adults
This really makes me appreciate God and my mum more. Without knowing it, she's followed stoicism by following the Bible. She always says "Do your best and leave the rest to god", "don't speak too much", "no matter what happens, God looks out for you". Right now i'm going through the withdrawel of a breakup and i see that in the end, it leads to a greater purpose.
Thank you for making this video
Then certain philosophers of the Epicureans, and of the Stoicks, encountered him. Acts 17:18
The teachings of Jesus Christ encapsulate every thing we need to know and do to live a life that will unite us with God our Creator, after our life on earth đ
I mean, if it helps you, right on, just know that man-made religions are a lie. All of them.
â@@shasmi93 I started having faith in God and Jesus a few months after making this comment.
My understanding of the world has become deeper and i've been led to a deeper purpose.
I agree that all man-made religions are a lie. That's why I'm a Christian and not a Muslim, Jewish or other. Because Christianity isn't man-made. It's real
@@olubunmiolumuyiwa na dude. Christianity is also a lie. But if it helps people than more power to them. Iâm just telling you to be careful with anything church related because thatâs how religions suck gullible people dry. Be aware at all times when you are doing ANYTHING Christianity related. Because itâs a lie and scene made to take advantage of people.
I think anytime you feel great about something you are doing, you're not wasting your time at all. You're enjoying your existence and it's ok, we don't come to live working or doing things we don't feel comfortable doing. Instead, I think we really waste our time when we procure feel drained by things that simply aren't worth it or that we can't control.
A big hug for you all!
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@@connorkearley7381 I agree. Almost everything I do on a daily basis are things I want to do, things I am proud of ^_^
I have been sick for six years with Lyme disease. Over this time I have had many responses to this challenge, a lot of regret, a huge feeling of loss, imagining what I would have accomplished in those years, what my life might be. I have come to accept things as they are, do what I can, do less and be ok with that, do what I can. The letting go and letting things just be has taken a lot of thought. I do have power over my mind, not anything else. I do have the ability to laugh, laugh at myself and live in the moment. I still have worry but try to push through it to some positive thought or action. I know I need to work on thinking before I speak. I often forget and regret things said. Less is better all around. Slow is better. Intentional is better.
You are strong as hell for that! Keep going and thank you for sharing
I loved this phrase you said: "I need this sort of setback so I can look at things more objectively and stay humble". Great insight!
I love how every video is high quality and from the heart. It isn't something you spit out for money. Thank you for the meaningful videos!
From experience. If you pack down all of these emotions without a release, you will eventually break. Food for thought. You can be stoic, however you need an outlet for the emotions you think you are letting go. This guy has this channel. Find your outlet before you journey down the path to stoicism or find yourself middle aged with regrets.
Yes very valid point! How would you suggest someone release their emotions? What works best for you?
@@ricksantiago9768 I'm not a practicing pro so I wouldn't. I can say it's different for everyone so work with your professionals to figure it out.
Ya ive been practicing this basically for my whole life without knowing there was a word for it and few explosions were had when I got in few fights at school or yelled at family. Then pretty much went back to being stoic for about 10 years and exploded and went to a dark place. I would like to have a happy medium but it's difficult
@Rick Santiago exercise, Journaling, therapy, yoga!
Cole my man this video is gold. I respect the mindset you have equipped yourself with. I donât know how old you are, but Iâm 27 with my own family. I watch you videos to improve my mindset from depression and negative thinking
Everytime something bad happens to me, the same day, you upload a video exactly talking about it and helping me through it. I can't thank you enough for your work, keep doing it. You don't know how much good you're doing.
I think stoicism is more a reorganization of values, meaning that once we start valuing virtue more, anything else that happens to us, will hurt us less. We won't become invincible, just we devalue certain things and value some things more.
you're right. through that reorganization of values, you start to realize how insignificant some of the hardships are. you remind yourself of what you value, and in turn of how lucky you are to have those things, despite of those hardships that you may go through.
All my life I've wanted to speak plainly and concisely, in complete contrast to my usual stream-of-consciousness rambling. I'm diagnosed with ADHD, am a multimedia artist and writer, so it seems like this just comes with the territory. But whenever I've paused, used silence, and spoken carefully and plainly, I love how much more powerful I feel. I really like the responses I get from people, too. I'm continuing to work on this. And I much prefer learning and moving along, to the boring sound of my voice complaining.
Great video, stoicism was one of the philosophies that completely changed my life, just the idea of not worrying about the things outside of your control was a huge realization for me đ
Your videos are life changing, keep up the great work, we need you Cole and we are also here for you too đȘđȘ
Hey Cole just wanted to let you know that you are really helping a lot of people and i think what you're doing is great. Youve helped me a lot in the past few months which have been very hard for me. Thank you.
This is important shit.
You and the 10 Second Man are my favorite. đ„°
@@Cynic-0055 you are my favourite
@@DanSung2021 you are my favorite
I just gotta say dude your channel has really awoken my persepctive on life and I really can't thank you enough. The fact that you don't have 1 million subscribers right now astounds me. I really hope you make it and reach your dreams because you sure as hell have my support. All the best man.
This video was so good! You didn't just focus on using the practices in really tough moments but even in moments such as failing a test or spending too much time slacking, the little things that can add up. It made the video more personal imo
I wanted to thank you for posting this. I have always loved Marcus Aurelius' idea of inter-connectivity in the world through phi (the golden mean) idk how I came across this vid being the perfect mixture of my current struggles and Stoicism, but I am at a pretty low point in my life with divorce, COVID wiping out some of my family, medical school and toxic "friendships". Then I ran across "how to stop hating yourself" which is something that I had realized that I do and didn't know where to start to correct it. AND THEN HOW TO BE ALONE.... I am studying medicine in the West Indies and with COVID triggering a curfew and being completely surrounded by water... I am the most alone with my thoughts that I have ever been. These 3 videos have helped me so much and I've jotted down pages of notes. I can't thank you enough. -J
Talked about stoicism with my creative writing teacher just yesterday. Great timing cole!
I agree with you about health and illness. I almost died 4 months ago in the hospital, so Iâm thankful for my improved health.
First time I've seen one of your vids and it's very refreshing that you take such a candid, honest and creative approach to your content. You're awesome for doing your part to de-stigmatise mental health (as well as eating plant-based and being a drummer), you may never know how many people you've helped and reassured by sharing your experience. Hats off to you, Sir!
Thanks! The message in your video is simple but so profound. Giving your own life examples makes it even more relatable...
The first step is to get off of social media and stop interacting with all those angry and depressed people. You are the people who you spend time withâŠ
The funny thing is, Iâm repulsed by those people IRL, and yet I tend to get sucked into their shit online.
100%
So true my dad would always tell me showe your friends and I'll show you your future .stop being around losers and energy vampires
I'm not 18 yet and I'm low on money
@@ryk6207 same here. And then I be like damn. đ€Ł
Thank you so much for putting out these videos, they are truly helpful for people who are struggling.
Stoicism taught me, among other things, is that you need to allow for your emotions to be set aside when making decisions. This was one of the most difficult skills for me, as I had been a severely restrained, by necessity, emotional thinker. Don't believe your feelings! Believe what you say, do what is meaningful to you, and demonstrate who you want to be through your actions, not just your words. The other skill is embracing obstacles. This was amazing for me. Thanks for your take on this.
Agree with this entire video, but I think it's just worth being careful too with this stuff. I went through a phase a few months ago when I wasn't feeling too good mentally, so I decided to live my life based on stoic beliefs, and I think to a point, it made me a bit like a zombie. I had soooo much emotion wanting to be released (good and bad), but for a whole 3 months of my life, I was silent to so many emotions. I definitely still follow some stoic practices, but I just think it's worth looking way into before committing to it.
I had went through a phase very similar. I learned the hard way to balance it. So much pent up emotion.. it only takes the right trigger for it all to release- when you least expect it. I personally found that keeping stoic values while having daily decompression methods in isolation, is key.
Yep. Stoicism emphasizes waiting, then mindfully responding. It also teaches us that when we feel negative emotions, just accept it, and over time it will pass. The key is to practice this every day, so the negative emotions do not build up
Stoicism doesnât mean being emotionless, it means that you donât have to act based solely on them in the moment. Self acceptance of emotions is a healthy emotional practise - they are not to be repressed! (Speaking as a heavily repressed person!) đ± âïž
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Yeah with this its best to pace in it. Go by it day by day step by stepâŠyou probably felt like a zombie because you were âdetoxing yourselfâ a little to fast with heavy pressure. I think thats why people fall deep onto the wrong side and not cautious of this. Its basically a way to improve life from mind to body but with pace every day of your life. I have been crying for the past weeks just going in that deep thought of emotions and letting them roll
I think the thing that could end your sadness is this quote " Momento mori "
Just think about it , if you're gonna die , why bother feeling negative feelings and wasting your time on them like it's the end of the world ??? I hope that help someone đ
Helps, but not that easy for some people unfortunately
@@ColeHastings well , i think that it would be easier for religous people , hope you and everyone a great life đ
Simply the best video I've seen on Stoicism. I appreciate how you focused on application of the principles rather than regurgitating what's already in the books. I've subscribed.
So glad I stumbled on your channel when searching for "stoicism". Love how your words are heartfelt.
Great video man!
Thanks dude
Hey Cole and everyone! I'm not particularly depressed but I've had several setbacks recently. This video completely switched my stressed state of mind, I don't know if everything happens for a reason, but that mindset is so much more helpful.
I love github
Superb presentation. Great editing. The message comes through loud and clear.
Exactly what I was looking for!! Big thanks Cole!
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Excellent video Cole, and all very true. They key to inner contentment is to let go of the things we have no control over and to pause before reacting. Accept the things we cannot change :)
19 years old driving home with a buddy from school I just graduated 5 days ago, 16 year old girl runs a red as we were going through an intersection⊠Multiple hospitals, coma for 8-9 weeks, minimally conscious for a 4 months. This was my payment for half assing my way through high school. Yet here I am, proud as hell. I am just appreciative of how a terrible accident has ended up being one of the gifts from the lord, universe or spirit. Please remember PACE positive attitude changes everything. That has brought me this far.
This is really great! Thanks for explaining it so succinctly!
Ironically I already knew and "use" most of these in my life already. This was a good refresher though and I'll be checking out that book. Thanks!
bro the timing of the video.... really needed this
Stoicism saved my life and helped me battle leukemia for three years
Did you get cured?
@@sparkstudies1675 yes I won
@@toadsagetimmy Woo!
I just found your channel and now I'm watching video after video! Your content is helping me man as I'm going through some emotional pain at the moment. Keep doing what you're doing!
Stoicism is inspirational. A philosophy that leads you to see life for what it is and making the most of the moment. So simple yet strong.
Stoicism is direct to the point. Simple. Being present is a gift. â€
Then certain philosophers of the Epicureans, and of the Stoicks, encountered him. Acts 17:18
My depression period went over a couple of years. I didn't know how or where to start again, after thinkining i had lost everything. The first moment it got better was to accept everything there is and trust "the universe" or god or whatever you want to call the greater part of us and taking the responsibility for my thoughts and behaviour. It's a lifetime practice
Great video! Thank you for creating this bridge to this practice. It has helped me get through some of the hardest stuff in my life. I commend your success
YES ! Bro, never let ppl force your hand. Hope u are feeling a bit better G. Your videos just keep getting better & better. What u do is like a Mind Manual, Peace as always homie from the UK. Thanks ,yet again.
Two of my favorite things, Stoicism and Cole Hastings
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I realized I naturally do this to the extreme without even knowing what stoicism was. Those 3 points are things I preach to my friends all the time
Brilliantly said !!! We each have an order that needs to be followed I order to become whole. Itâs a beautiful dance.
Thank you for showing up and sharing this.
i just want to say thank u, cole. for this video
Thanks for watching
good video cole hastings, needed this lately actually, everything happens for a reason đł
Thankyou so much for being so consistent with uploading these gems. â€
Big high 5 bro!! Thank you so much for making this one, I totally appreciated it more than you could imagineđđŒ!
Hey there , I hope you all are safe and fine .... and enjoying your life .... stay positive and stay calm ....
Ditto
Much better than your last thumbnail, friend! I prefer to concentrate on your wise behaviour and encourage it than to criticise your slips.
bro you have the best content because you talk about thigns that all of us lived, so relatable everything and its amazing learn from others mistakes
Thanks for the videos. Ever since Iâve watched your video on a 90 day journaling, no fap, cold shower life style , Iâve been doing the same and itâs really changed the way I see things in ways I canât imagine bc I can no longer look back at the road I was taking bc I changed lanes for the better.
Im currently reading Donald Robertson's "How to think like a Roman Emperor" side by side with Meditations by Marcus Aurelius as translated by Gregory Hays. However, ive read the meditations like 3 times already. I guarantee you some self realizations of epic proportions. Ryan Holiday's The Daily Stoic book and journal is also a great companion. Life becomes more bearable and meaningful.
To everyone who's reading this, I pray that whatever is hurting or whatever you are constantly stressing about gets better. May the darks thought, the over thinking, the doubt exist your mind right now. May clarity replace confusion. May peace and calmness fill your life.
This is the truth sir. This is what I think too. Thank you so much sir. It's never too late you can gain knowledge when ever you want. Seeking wisdom is never ending story. God bless you sir. Hard work makes a man perfect.
Awesome vid! So wise and your growth is admirable. I'm trucking along as well and discovering Stocism through your channel - thanks for the positive content you put out
I used to have Dark thoughts and feeling lonely for a couple years and what i did was when i lied in bed, i prayed to "the universe" with all the people i know (friend, classmates, People i play sports with) in my mind that they would be ok, and to the universe to make it worse for me if it would mean that they would be better of.
how do you always know what's going on in my head??? lmao but seriously, this video summed up a lot of the thoughts in my head that needed some guidance, thank you homie!
This is a tremendously helpful video. Thank you so much, Cole Hastings!!!
I really enjoyed your talk. You have a sincere heart to heart way of talking about reason.
I don't think you ever went through clinical depression before, from what you suggest. That isn't how it works at all. This is the same logic as "just be happy" with extra steps.
On the contrary I became too stoic, didn't express myself and bottled up my true feelings. Being silent in the face of conflict usually avoids the conflict at the time, but you'll probably hold onto that internally.
Great job explaining this terrible addition that's happening in the world today. I teach my online students about depression and a lot about what you speak about in this video. Nice presentation Cole. Keep up the good work. Mitch in Brazil
Thankyou so much for these videos I thought it's my nature and cannot be changed but seeing how you conquered yourself , I get inspiration to do so myself
My problem is with shallow and meaningless connections within our modern society and feeling very hurt, lonely and misunderstood..
Iâve been through a lot but itâs still difficult to have compassion and empathy for negative stuff cause thereâs too much bad stuff in the world already but we can actually heal and elevate ourselves though it wonât happen magically.
Set out to be the meaning you wish to see in society
Cole please make a video about how we can stop procrastinating on the thing that we're up to do
Discipline
Havenât really heard of this but can see it throughout my life.
I am almost always able to look at the positives in any negative happening. Becomes easy as you practice it.
Serenity Prayer says this well.
Thanks.
4 of 35 videos to go.
Those words are exactly what I needed this time. Thank you.
"Take care that no one hates you justly."
-Publilius Syrus
1. say less than necessary and think before u speak
(Especially when that threatens the ego.. accept that itâs normal to have the reactions/emotions that you go through)
2. accept what happens as a positive for yourself and the universe
3. focus on what u can control, discard the rest (for example what they think abt u)
Thank you so much man, youâre a blessing.
This video is definitely something I needed to see.. thanks â€ïž
2:16 this is actually the correct reaction but maybe you shouldn't have done that over text. It's good to let her know the boundaries in the first stages, you did the right thing mate.
Exactly. Best not to lose your cool, but you definitely need to draw a boundary there. Imo that's the point of the shit test. She wants to know you can stick up for yourself and set the rules without falling apart like a child
Exactly. What was she trying to test here? To see if he was a beta? Bro if he didn't confront her or do anything, she's going to walk all over him in the future. Basically a test to see if she can do what she wants in the future without repercussions.
I like your point at the 7:30 ish mark, maybe thereâs no universal intelligence and maybe we are delusional but if it helps us to be kinder to ourselves and others then Iâm happy to be âdelusionalâ. Blessings friend and thanks for what you do :)
Great video Cole, practice 2 is ESSENTIAL and very needed in my life! Cheers.
This is a great video Cole, thanks for sharing these lessons.
A great New Year's Resolution will be to apply them in 2022 (and the years beyond)