Why Do Loved Ones Fight With Each Other?
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- čas přidán 22. 04. 2020
- When boundaries overlap and people start stepping on your toes, even family can become enemies. Sadhguru explains why this happens to us.
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"It's easy to love when there is distance" - nailed it!
But its easy to break also...unexpectedly!
@@manasvimannu3944 Lo
That is not love
@@narasimhamurthymurthy9264 त
SOOOOOO true.
I stopped watching series on Netflix since last 2 months now I daily watch sadhguru's wise full of wisdom talk.
Combine it with some meditation and you will not anything externally to make you happy.
It is so natural to listen to that it tranforms and transmutes catapult ing your consciousness to a high pedestal a shower of rain amid dreary desert of corona times as if New Buddha has descended upon this earth is
Where is life it is lost in living where is knowledge it is lost in information where is wisdom it's lost in knowledge let us know the essence of life by listening to the wisdom talk of Sadhguru
It's addictive..
It's truly blessed to be able to listen to Sadhguru talk than any other entertainment platform. Even News is in the past and we can't do anything much.... Only can prepare us of what's next.
You say you love someone. But if they dont give you what you want, you dont love them. We dont call this love. We call this mutual benefit. -Sadhguru
Nobody will accept domestic violence or cheating bro. What he is is applicable for healthy people not narcs.
@@sheetalverma8940 Nobody mentioned them either.
We are all flawed in some way or another. Until we achieve enlightenment it will always be 'mutual benefits' and I'm happy with benefits otherwise how else one is supposed to have any level of relationship.
@@Guddilove801 Oh stop with the "we are flawed..." .
@@ninaangelamckissockauthor2345 I understand your idealistic stance but unless one has admitted to working on themselves it's all a talkshow.
Anyway what's wrong with being flawed. I love myself as I am.. flawed or not .. that's life and Rocking with it.
I wonder if this guy knows how many lives he saved so far..
Such a beautiful human being
He saved my life ♥️
He saved mine 🙏
...and mine too ✨🌷🙏🌷✨
🙂👍
And how.... I ask of all you guyz
What my take away is: Accept people for who they are, and dont try to fit them in the framework you have designed for them. Let them be the way they are, and you will be happy otherwise you won't be able to stand with them.
Very nice
Well-worded 🙏🙏🙏👍🏻🌷
But its hard to live together and not have a least expectation from each other.
They always try hurt me wt to do?
Such a short,straight point👏👏👍💯
10:06 "all of a sudden they become worship worthy when their dead but not when alive" that hit my heart so hard because it's true
It's true .
Me too and i am
Changing doing all the nice things to my love ones 😊
I reacted to that years ago. I think it is more important for us to love the living than loving the dead. The dead have each other most of the time.
@@henrikljungstrand2036 this is why I told my family I don’t want a funeral when I am dead because if you didn’t do or give or say nice things to me when I was alive. It is of no use to me when I am dead.
Yes, it's true 🙂
I just discovered him, and Netflix is irrelevant to me. My relationship with my spouse is improving on daily basis - Eye opening and inspirational😇
Download his free app.. full of videos/ talks nicely streamlined
Actually, learn his meditation program. It’s life transforming. It’s called Inner Engineering. Takes only 21 minutes a day
@@kiranb814 90 minutes every session
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@@kiranb814 can you please add a link to it
"Create a little distance between you and your own personality, you will see you will even enjoy yourself" - Sadhguru
I heard ti's point..... But to do it? Haha
This was the most important line of the speech. But the question is, how?! How do you create that distance?
@@whoadityanawandar Be present. Be only aware of this moment. Once you remove the past and future you will experience the end of suffering. Thoughts are only a result of memory. Once you are free of memory you are free.
@@Fattt88 Be present. Be only aware of this moment. Once you remove the past and future you will experience the end of suffering. Thoughts are only a result of memory. Once you are free of memory you are free.
@@whoadityanawandar meditate is how. You have been trained since birth to believe your persona is all there is to you but there is more. Your personality or ego is just a part not the whole…
"The moment they're dead, they just suddenly become worship-worthy"
"Distance is a wonderful thing.Death is a fantastic thing "-sadhguru
Distance is a wonderful thing 🙂....Far is always a right thing
Nice to hear
No matter how sad or low I feel, the moment I listen to his voice, I just feel blissful. Sadhguru, I surrender 💓💓💓
Well said!
@Veno Singh 🙏🏻💓🌺
Mesmerizing voice
@@chinthalarashma2468 ❤❤yess
If you watch some of his other videos, he will say surrender to what? Who are you to surrender like you you had control in the first place lol, i felt and said the same as you then 10 mins later i watched a video of him telling me off for thinking i even could surrender.
I was laughing out so loud when I saw his reaction of rolling back his eyes and that he jokingly asked if the person who asked this question is a human and not a bird!! You gotta love this man, not only he is wise, but he cracked really wise jokes too!
He cracks me up Cannot be Heckled 😆👌🏽✨
True. He is brilliant.
This is very important principle: To know when to detach & when to come close.
From my experience, most people fight due to their own expectations of the other person. When that person does not live up to it then they get angry, get hurt feelings, feel betrayed, etc.
My thought exactly 👌🏽
In relationship however expectation will come. Thats human being nature. There need mutual understanding and sharing
Well I expect people to try at least to keep there word. How can you trust the people in your life if they cannot keep their word. I said wedding vows, he broke them, now I feel betrayed. And somehow it's my fault that I'm hurt?
Yes it is. Expectation is the main reason. But can't stop expecting yaar. I'm changing this habit But not at all easy.
Keep your high standards Linda. Don’t change for anything less!
"People are a difficult species. Including you!" I would surely add: "...And including me!"
We are dynamic ☺️
Stimmt so🤔
Yea...I agree.
This is much more interesting then Netflix
Really I agree
Thank you Sadhguru. At a very desperate time of my life when I had no hope, you saved me. Your preachings helped me get myself back and I learned to live with full acceptance of ownself. I am happy from within now.
@Celia And Favour Ya at times, you are just too weak to hold the torch for yourself. Sadhguru did the light holding for me.
Congratulations
True.. the same happened for me...
💖 shine on
I think when he says start loving yourself and create some distance within, it also means to not get carried away by your own identity and ego 👍
You changed my habits, my life , I listen to you, and I do your meditation-My dream is to go to Himalayas with you
His voice is so captivating and so easy listening .. love his wisdom.
Yeah...he is my hero, he is friend, he is my buddy.☺️🙏
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YES
“Human beings are difficult species… and that includes you!“ lol.. Sadhguru’s wisdom and humour together is so powerful! 🙏🏼
I understand: Once I distance my true self from my personality, I can appreciate myself and others.
One must love thy self before loving another....
It's 4 am. Now
We all are privileged that we are living in the era of sadhguru.
The scarf that Sadhguru is carrying is beautiful. I think it is from Northeast India. People in Northeast has this design in most of their traditional dresses.❣️ Love from Assam🙏
Sadhguru says, if i am sitting and i have to speak to keep you glued, then you are totally missing me. Hope you get my point.
Love from Assam
Love from Assam. Yes you are right
This man word of wisdom"you were waiting on them, not a good thing"
It's so easy to Love Sadhguru 🙏
Doesn't matter whether I am sitting infront of him
Or I am watching him over the internet thousand miles away
You are absolutely right👏👏
When you have to share a room with him you must be freaking crazy.
It's easy to say on Internet.
Then it looks like you entirely missed his point unfortunately
@@theperfectcelibate8669 whenever somebody is eligible(done enough sadhana in his/her life) to share a room with him, that person will not freak out. Aum namaho shivay.
Exactly...I totally agreed with you. If you come to my channel you can see how much correct you are.☺️🙏
Just go in nature you will find all the peace you crave for.
I have sooooo much admiration and respect for you, the whole word needs more like you Sadhguru 💖💖💖
Well said
One is enough if everyone listens
He said - appreciate my aliveness. Human evolution is human’s choice. Most of people degrading by chosing wrong over growth, vitality, we need to wake up for Loving❤ español- lengua del amor
I find such comfort in hearing him speak and the Beauty within his soul.
I am happy that i found this wise you tube channel!! It started when i was checking about spirituality!! I am blessed to watch you. I am your fan,follower and you disciple from Rwanda!!
Very powerful insightful which is very easy to understand the world really need people like sadhguru is worth listening to every moment
I have never seen as wise as Sadhguru in my life.
Hearing sadhgurus words early in the morning is a pleasant 🕉️🙏🕉️🙏🕉️💐
Late in the night for some others 😌
@@erwan6078 Yep. I'm a night owl for sure, lol. It's 12 am here even as we speak. I've always been a night watcher instead of a morning watcher... I've never been able to "hack" mornings! Lol
I recently discovered Sadhguru and im in total awe of this man. the way he answers questions that wou;d be reasonably tough for any man he simply tackles them in a way that ive never seen. WoW
10:41 It means you don't know what you missed until it gone or you get more wise & loving.
Distance and Death......oh what a great word....thank you Sadhguru
We are capable of deep compassion and understanding to all creatures--including fellow humans, if we allow ourselves to be. Don't take your loved ones for granted during the time you have with them 💛
@KingSlayer The only thing you can control is yourself. Loving others unconditionally is one of the hardest things to do but allows you the freedom of not expecting the same back and letting go of attachment.
@@kiransays right
@KingSlayer If they take you for granted, you first talk to them about it honestly, and if they don't listen then you distance yourself from them.
Some people you can only love from afar because you love yourself and need to protect yourself from them hurting you.
From many years, I fall asleep only after listening to Sadhguru
Same
His voice is so calming, I love his English accent, he doesn't sound like a typical Indian. He makes look forward to growing and aging
World need's people like you who propagate peace & love ,nailed it sir such a strong view ,the way of injecting the subject is marvelous ,always putting thing's in a proper perspective !!!!!.....
Love U Sadhguruji ...
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Sadhguru I'm so blessed after listing to you and I felt so calm and peaceful mind .😇😇😇
Dear Sadhguru..
Please make a video on the sadhnas required to raise ones consciousness.
Whenever you talk about Consciousness, you tell there is a scientific way of approaching to raising it in an individual. So please make it available to all of us.
There are sadhanas available but they cannot be given in uncommited place they need to be taught in commited atmosphere with willing people.
Do inner engineering. Its a sadhna
It is already available there,
You can start with Isha Kriya. This is simple but very powerful Kriya.
intense longing and using observation with contextual selection => raises consciousness
I would say Chitta Shakti meditation is good for beginning.
Listening to this humble man's wisdom has made my inner being richer!! 💕
The very last line made me feel the depth of his words.
To live above with those we love, there is the glory. But to live below, with those we know, that is another story!
Awesome comments straight from the gut the discernment and much appreciated. I always felt that we need the interaction with people to ascertain our personal growth. We are not individuals but part of a whole. Society has placed enormous pressure on us to be individuals. I'm thankful I come from a culture that values family, extended family. There is much work to do to repair those group structures. Noho ora mai (be very well) Sadhguru.
Always putting things in the proper perspective, Love it!!!
Love ❤️ yourself first, then you can accept and love anyone or anything in this universe. Well said Sathguru 🙏🏻
The moment you love yourself as a perfect human being with both darkness and light within you without the need of judgement, you will be able to love everyone and everything. That is unconditional love. 🙏❤
Clarity of thought is his forte. He has already lived and come through all the puzzles that you might put on him. His inner resonance is at peace with his surroundings. Hail Sadhguru.
Aum nama shivaya🙏. Distancing from our own personality and loving is beautiful message. Loving shiva rama krishna is so good, brings joy in us. 🙏
Oh I just love your spirit & insight! You're such a beautiful soul!!!!! It's really sad our earth isnt populated with more souls just like you!
SADHGRUR, you are incredible. I’m so caught up in your wisdom - so simply put - that anyone can understand. Thank you so much for bringing peace to my insides today. So needed you. Will certainly be a loyal friend from now on. And will share with my family and friends. I think most of this scary crazy world needs a friend like you. ❤
Can't resist loving and adoring our Sadhguru 🙏🙏🙏
Sadguru's wisdom speech is like ruling kingdom piously with joy & ecstasy.
Thank you, Sadhguru!
Best wishes that we recover from the Corona virus pandemic everywhere.
Thank 'God' I am leading a lonely life. And I am happy.
It's so hurting, my wife was a problem to me before....today I have learned something. From Tanzania
Its rare getting into it keeping distance inside themselves unable to control sadhguru laughs how people will think and changed the topic to enjoy themselves but reveled the secret to separate inside themselves but there is no scientific evidence to prove, so everyone have to experience it by themselves so he kept quite and changed the topic but its a great gift to separate and feel and ride the life.He tells common stories which has in-depth yogic meaning in it.
10:50 -
Defined Fixed Personality. Steps on your boundaries.
Create a Distance between yourself and your personality.
This allows you to live yourself and see people for who they are and not through your own limited framework.
Through distance we enjoy better because less chance of creatures pushing boundaries personality has set. Good video!
What did u understand by creating distance between u n ur personality
“Keep a little distance between yourself and your personality “ 👍🏽
Distance is a wonderful thing 🙏🙏🙏 thank u ... Watching from Dubai any Dubai in the house , pls thumb up
Excellent speech!!
Almost nature has given every species its own attractive way maybe through speech, looks, color, dance etc.
Look in the way where other person would feel elevated by the way you look and handle them. When one adimires other species' dance, walk, voice etc.,
Set an intention in your mind to
Just enjoy "In your Presence" watching those beautiful dance, voice, etc.
Feel proud in the moment that you are admiring those.
Each human has his own way of attraction.
Give credit to every species.
Human is full of thought provoking mind and emotion-filled heart that we do expect a lot from human especially from beloved ones sometime leading to lot of confusions.
When a peacock starts demanding us, we would feel it as less attractive or maybe we ignore it's dance because it's dancing with expectations.
As expectations do always lead to disappointment and less interesting among our beloved ones.
--Sangeetha Vasudevan
I so much love that there is someone that I can listen to that gives live advice and recommendations so clear and uncomplicated.
Sadguru you changed my life 4 years ago when I started listening to you something just made me surface I have you in my mind all the time
So true distance makes the heart grow fonder….thank you Sadhguru
Feeling very peaceful and happy after I started watching sadhguru. It is helpful. Thank you sadhguru
I can listen Sadhguru non-stop carefully... it's full of wisdom about how to be. 🙏❤️
Excellent... Fountain of wisdom
Someone who has the main purpose towards 'Us'the humanity ,
Answers to every question on earth, without escapism, fearless yet politely answers all odd questions as well .
We must learn truthfulness , righteousness n deeper understanding of everything in life.Casually explains with full of joy n jokes as well.
Just landed on his channel yesterday...he's super fascinating
His voice and wisdom calms me an if I truly listen to his words reduces my anxiety, very soothing voice.
Sadhgurus words of wisdom have solved many of my problems and now l am addicted to his words.😆
We need such videos to stay together in family really nice 🙏🏻
Guru ji is a wonderful human being who knows nothing about malice hatred or enmity
Wow, I am amazed by your teachings Sadhguru! Thank you for the uplifting lessons! Namaste
On of his best discourse on Relationships!🙏
Namaste Sadhguru.🙏 No matter I feel low or high but I just listen to him daily. N I m feeling so well so peace. Every words n his examples are brilliant. Thank you.
Thank you very much for enlightening our thoughts and showing the right path to the wisdom 🙏🏻
So well said! Just what I needed to hear ❤️
One of the best videos I've ever seen. Awesome, wonderful. It really solved my problems dealing with people around me. Lets set some boundaries within ourselves and with others.
Distance makes the heart grow fonder.
The main thing is that... "Beauty related with distance "❤😁🤟
You opened my eyes SadhGuru. Now i need to practise it. 🙏
Thanks Sadguru....This was very insightful....In a nutshell we must create a distance between ourselves and our personality....we need to transition from देहात्मभाव to आत्मभाव.... देहात्मभाव is the root cause of every problem....So solution is to never forget that we are आत्मा that is we are soul and not the body... Anything associated with this body is not me I am different from the body I am आत्मा, I am cheerful, I have infinite energy, everything around me is beautiful......🙏
He spoke so well thank you Shadguru 🙏
I really like the way he explains things with such simplicity!
Pottri om namah shivaaya..shivaaya namah ohm 🙏 love for all, hate for none ! ❤
The last line was so touching . 👌👌
Sadhguru, much love 🙏
So true this duality you spoke of.
I only listened to him just once n am in love with him
It is easy to love when there is distance 👍
That was beautiful, I love it ❤
I have seen so many video clips. But always , the next one amazes me. Pranamams Sadhguru
Sadguru, you have explained the fact of life
Difference of opinion makes people fight with each other.
So wonderful, by accident I found your Videos, if there is such thing. And I love 'em. I love the sense of Humor by answering severe subjects for the questioner. It makes my heart lighter to hear and see that life and its questions and answers can be like an airstream from a butterfly.🌳🌻🌈
There is a proverb in Odia language-" Dura pahada bahut Sundar", means A hill looks very beautiful from far distance. This perfectly fits what Sadguru is trying to say here
when things are with us... Sometimes, we just decrease the value of them... It is even said..."paas rakhi cheezon ki kadar kam karte h".. it happens when our ego supress ourselves by making us feel as if they are just for us.. and all things will remain here, immortal....
Soon, when we realise... Things are mortal... We are mortal.... We understand that those boundries or stepping boundries were just resultant of that ego and over-confidence.....
And when we realise...✨...
Those boundries are erased for ever by their own....
And our ego gets separated from us.....
We then love unconditionally ✨.... Then, how so ever troubles they have in their lives... That become ours.... We do not need to accept them then... They, just become our part.... And we are ready.... To support each other.. to understand ✨...
"Distances are necessary to know how much close we are..❤️"
Radhe ✨
Absolutely... actually we never value things which are with us right now. We start valuing after loosing.
Distance is also a boundary. We need certain boundaries, but we also need to question and transcend those boundaries now and then.
The ego doesn't disappear when we overstep boundaries, and it's not a very good thing to make away with our ego anyways, it's better to conquer it, to make it a fit tool of our soul.
I remember while i was a kid, i learnt something very important , called Detachment
This term from mahabharata or Bhagwadgeeta has influenced me so much in my growing years that now i can relate this term of far love.
Wow!
WORDS of wisdom 💗
कठिन समय में समाज और मानवत को अति सुंदर और बेजोड़ उपादेयता!
प्रेम दूरी में ही शोभित है... सामिप्य में तो प्राय: लठ बाजेंगें...हा हा हा!
।।जय सियाराम 🙏।।
Love you Sadguru🙏❤️. Thankyou for sharing wonderful knowledge in such an easy humourous way.