Ask Dr. Tony - Dallas sessions Part 1: 10/17/18
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- čas přidán 28. 08. 2024
- Subjects Addressed in this Episode:
Anxiety - Starts at 1:46
Managing and Keeping Friends
- Borderline Personality and ASD - Starts at 10:38
About Dr. Hans Asperger - Starts at 12:23
"Faking It" - Starts at 16:26
Living with Autism
- Circadian Sleep Disorders - Starts at 18:47
Personal Management
- Changing Thoughts Plus Emotions - Starts at 22:04
We're hoping to post up to four new "Ask Dr. Tony" programs a year. If you'd like to submit a question, please fill out the "Question Form" found at www.autismhangout.com. Due to the high number of questions received, we may not be able to include them all.
10/23/18 - Previous questions to Dr. Attwood have been incorporated into a book titled "Ask Dr. Tony", published by Future Horizons and is now available at a book store near you (or online).
Thank you so much for taking the time to do these helpful videos! I am 59-yr-old mum diagnosed this year with ASD1. I have two children (11 and 15) both diagnosed with ASD1 as well.. My son was diagnosed when he was 5 and my daughter this year at age 15. Yes, our home can be quite a circus hahaha
What's interesting is that I adopted both my children as babies and they are from different birth parents. Aspies do seem to attract each other in the most unusual way!
Sorry to resurrect old stuff, but gaving listened to alot of these interview's, the transition issues really hit home. I find it impossible to transition from one task to the next without a conscious break that's demarked by something. Be it a tea making trip, etc. Listening to alot of these q &as suggests I've put in place many correct coping mechanisms but failed on a few. The exposure to real world lived experience of other aspies (I'm self diagnosed in that I share alot of traits) is very important and I hope these sessions continue for as long as dr tont is able to
Human evolution is creating a new human that is more able to live in harmony with nature and animals etc. have sensible rules and lifestyle. Extremities , sensitivities of aspergers, autistics are warning signs for neurotipicals to learn to tone down their emotions, to focus on things that are sensible, to have a system that appreciates individuals. I call the new type of human "neuroindividual". :)
Dr Tony, you are so brave .. i could cry, listening about your son... God! What a pain in your father's heart 💔
***NOOOO!!! YOU WERE IN DALLAS, TEXAS A COUPLE OF YEARS AGO?!!! I just found out about you as a self diagnosed Aspie. I'm in San Antonio😞.... 💙
I just want to thank you both so so much for these videos. They have helped me a whole lot to get to know my authentic self after 42 years of not knowing I`m an aspie. They bring out many different feelings but mostly sorrow and the feeling of being totally alone in my world that no one around me will ever be able to comprehend. Of course we can never truly understand each other but from our own point of view. What I mean is the loneliness of being an aspie with mostly NTs around me.
I cant`t get rid of the feelings of guilt when I try to take care of myself by saing no to them and they say they understand but clearly they don`t... it`s almost more exhausting than doing what is expected. And that is another issue. Expectations. I can`t stand it!! Expectations from others is so draining.. It makes me nauseous and after a while pushing myself I get sick of it and smashes the door right in their face and never opens it up..ever again.. (unless it`s a near familymember..)
Don`t know why I wrote all of this..guess I needed to say it out loud amongst others who`s travelling a similar path. Thanks for reading.
I think my mom feels like this too
I’ve read a book recently about an American Actress who I think is on the spectrum who used to watch everyone around her to learn how to respond in life
It has alwas taken me 1-2 hrs to fall asleep, from i was very young.
I have to put music on to do the dishes or else doing the dishes in my mind is way harder than it really is. Sleep wise I am stuck taking quetapine/seroquel to sleep because I was insomnia and going to bed and not sleeping traumatized me, there was huge anxiety about will I sleep that was stopping me from sleeping on top of the insomnia. I found out I had aspergers in february 2019. I am now 42. I do agree that I would of liked to have known as a child. Everything has always felt chaotic in some way. I am on disability because my energy level is low and my anxiety is high. They have a program for the neurodiverse to speak on the radio which is fun yet I just wish that there were more aspies because most are schitzophrenic and it has simularities but it just doesnt seem the same as being with aspies. When covid ends I want to meet the aspies of my region. What I love about other aspies is they are often passionate about learning which makes things more interesting. I get kind of bored talking about anything that has no real meaning. I like to thrive :). You are really cool Tony because you thrive on information on autism and to really understand autistics. I can tell that you really care and that is awesome! Thanks :)
Hello Craig and DR Tony, the last topic > about transition difficulties to switch to an other task (or project) ,, ,what works best is a 15 minute time out (lay down relax and not think much , it works as a rebooting a PC . It feels like starting over the day . doing something all day feels like a strong focus ,logged in , like the brain becomes electric nearly a nervous energy ,but in a positive way , like this i can concentrate all day but not switch ( i picked this timeout up tip up from my Autistic Education here in the Netherlands ,Delfland (ps ,Dr Tony your the best , Thx for the many insidefull videos on CZcams !*_*!
2 strategies for too different settings and tasks..
Its been a life saver. Thank you sir.
Borderline personality and asperger's have some overlap. Such an amazing channel thanks. I am now on my 2nd audiobook from tony Attwood.
05:18 "ruminating... Social Autopsy" thank you Dr Tony for this humor
(I am the social corpse. Humor does good)
Thank you for the video, Both me and my son are “extroverted “ aspies, we actually enjoy people who are our kind, but I do notice I cannot socialise for too long, after a long time hanging around with friends , I need to be left alone for a couple of days.
Same with me Vivian. I love to talk with people especially at the doggie park about our doggies but then after a little while I am done and need to stop. I like talking to people about mutual interests but in short amounts of time and then I want to go home. That's why I don't like to have people over too often. I can't tell them I am done with socializing and that they need to leave hahaha
I am too
If you have trouble transitioning you need to learn meditation. I use a quick trigger i have taught myself to reboot in temporary mode to let go, also i write my thoughts on what i was doing in a notebook so i can close it and leave them there.
Can you explain a little more how you incorporate meditation during times of needing to transition please Dave? My 11 year old son has trouble transitioning from one thing to the next.... Thanks!
Excellent. At 17 i was in baby jail and I had to learn how to walk normal because I walked like a rapper male and I thought it was cool. One of the girls told me that this was not good because I didn't know.
Thanks for an awesome video! I have a question I wanted to submit related to late diagnosis.
I will give you a little background first I was diagnosed in 5 months ago with ASD 1 at age 59. Yes, you heard well... hahaha Now I now the reasons behind my quirks and past struggles. I have wonderful two children both adopted as babies from different birth families. My son (now 11) was diagnosed when he was 5 and my daughter at age 15 this year in June.
I actually got my diagnosis because I became aware of my being on the spectrum while researching online ways to help my son with some behavioral issues he was having at the time. I started to see traits in my daughter and then in myself. Quite a discovery.... I have been autistic all my life and I didn't have a clue! But what I think is truly cool is: what are the chances of someone on the spectrum adopting two babies (from different birth families) both on the spectrum as well. I know this is not a coincidence. How could it be?
Ok, now my questions: Is it possible that after being diagnosed my autism traits has gotten worse? Or is it because I am now more self-aware of my differences and struggles? For instance, my anxiety levels have gone up since my diagnosis 5 months ago and it has been very difficult to cope with it at times. My not being able to cope with noisy situations has also gotten worse. Also I have become very picky about what I like to eat and what I don't but I never had this problem before.
I am extremely thankful for finally finding out who I am and why I have always felt different. I wouldn't change who I am for the world. I love who I am. The only thing that really gets me down at times is how after being diagnosed I seem to be able to not cope as well as before I got my diagnosis. Could it be my age? (I will turn 60 in a couple of months). Could it be my being more self-aware of my struggles and thus noticing them more deeply than before?
i am 56 now, diagnosed last week over psychogenique epilepsy stroke, now my NT-friend is saving me from dangers. i dont`want to change myself, and have so much fear my brain will be damaged by treatments.
I have heard about early childhood stress and spectrum behavior. Was your or your kids early life stressful?
Nice
my problem talking about my fave subject im a dog groomer all dog stuff i bombard my clients with. everyday i tell myself now cheryl ur not going to tell ]the client of the day everything about dogs ur gonna ask and listen to them. few hours fail miserable at that. dogs dogs and more dogs. signals i dont see anymore when im so hyperfocused on the subject at hand.
What about treating it as a obsession compulsion?
I am myself on the path of considering this behavior of me as compulsive... So having a keyword for searching advice on the internet.
Thank you for your comment.
Does he have a schedule and website? Should definitely post this information in the description
One time I talked to a fellow cashier I was working near about historical American coinage for 2 hours... Thinking back I NOW realize maybe the poor guy wasn't actually as interested as I was... 🤦♀️😅
As an NT, I would’ve loved it! Special interests are cool!
As a child this was me with my mom. She was into family genealogy, rocks, turtles and fish. I always thought I was a terrible daughter cause i thought she was so weird always talking about it. I'm re thinking my whole childhood.
Re: Faking it. I never learnt to "copy" others by watching or mimicking. I didn't realise that I had any social deficit until I hit my 20's when I was told that I "could do with" social skills training. I actually had to learn my social skills from a book that I found in the library. (pre internet). So, for those of us who just don't get it, what social skills training is there? Are there any good books? I can't for the life of me remember the book that I read all those years ago, I just know I spent hours reading and re-reading it. It's a bit of a harsh way of learning.
I've only just learnt (this year) that "Hello" is a magic word. If I walk into a room full of people, even people I know, I have never known to actually say "hello" to anyone. I've only ever felt an overwhelming sense of dread and panic. I've only ever felt completely awkward and out of place.
There’s one from Tony Pearse sorry can’t remember the title but it’s really good
i got the melatonin, it doesn't work for me. i also bought musician earplugs and they help me wake up less.