Session 4 | Katie | In Therapy with Alex Howard
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- čas přidán 22. 05. 2024
- In Katie’s last session, we identified that she relates to herself in a similar way to how she was related to as a child. I advised Katie to do some daily practices to help her emotionally support herself between sessions. This week, Katie shares how she has been investing more into her self-care routine, which in turn has helped her manage difficult relationships over the Christmas period.
0:00 Welcome to In Therapy
1:04 Catching up with Katie
4:05 Katie's challenges over Christmas
8:05 Alex and Katie catch up in the New Year
11:38 Committed to the relationship with yourself
14:12 Escapism or true desire?
17:11 Progress on "Get-into-jail" cards
19:51 Connect to your goodness
24:37 Homework from the RESET Program
26:56 Alex's thoughts and updates
27:15 Next time on In Therapy...
In Therapy with Alex Howard follows real-life people on their therapeutic journeys as they grapple with issues like depression, anxiety and chronic illness.
Alex Howard is a London-based Therapeutic Coach dedicated to helping break the stigma around mental health and helping people make real, positive changes in their lives. Alex is also the creator of Therapeutic Coaching and founder of The Optimum Health Clinic and Conscious Life.
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Katie is such a lovely lady, I can really understand where she’s coming from. Anyone would be lucky to have a friend like her.
Thank you for the free therapy. God knows I need it and I'm surprised how much it's helping me. I'm 50 and have just been surving my life as well Katie.
I just told myself....i am no longer cooking or cleaning up after my adult daughter when she visits.
She can cook or bring us take away, lol.
I am starting to set so many boundaries because im watching this.
Wow, i appreciate you both so much.
Make sure you let her know before she gets there so she's not blindsided! But good for you :) I AM an adult daughter, and I'm actively trying to find ways to be better to my mom and dad when I visit home.
Katie, your are a naturally GOOD 😊 and GENEROUS person and we all see this! We all appreciate it, please 🙏 do appreciate yourself ❤
I think the dream of countryside, chickens and dogs is wanting to connect .. with nature and ultimately with yourself❤
Katie, you are so brave and courageous. Your journey is making such a difference for you and I can see it in your eyes, your demeanor. You are literally lifted, and it shows. You go girl!
I think that you, Katie, would be a wonderful person to run a B & B and do what you want to do in the country. I have done this myself, and am so like you. I loved running my b & b, and running my holiday cottage, and it gave me a reason to live, and brought me so much joy, meeting the new folk who stayed, and giving them a lovely holiday. Sadly, I am not allowed to run a B & B from the small house I am in now, that I own, but I have had lodgers. I do feel having someone around occasional lifted my spirits, but being a small home, I do need my own space, having lived alone now for about 22 years, with just my dog for company. Katie, you are being so strong in facing you hurt inner child. I am with you all the way. xxx
Katie,I feel for you over the Christmas situation. Your children are bang out of order. Back for Christmas then off again !!!You deserve better. Manipulating you to let your ex stay. They appear to have no insight into your needs. They are adults now and need to take responsibility as such. Looking back as to how you got here is important but so is changing for future resilience.
Totally agree. While listening to Katie’s video diary, I kept thinking, why are none of the kids or ex-husband helping her with the holiday preparations, dinner, etc.? If they want to spend Christmas as a family (as they told her), then they should be acting like one and sharing the work! They seemed to be lacking in common courtesy and respect of her space. Feeling very protective of Katie here, especially as she’s in a vulnerable place in her journey. 🥺
@@triciam9105 I can really relate to the family...not having the help or appreciation for the love she is putting in. I can only speak to why I do it...because I dont want to disappoint my children even tough they have grown. A fear of abandonment. It is sad. She is an amazing soul
I understand this woman, I also was a scapegoated child and adult and I always felt guilt, sending love to Katie.
Love to all of us affected by this x 🤲🏻🙏🏻
Same scape goated in childhood and in marriage. I relate to almost everything she says!
Katie you are on a great pathway exploring and rediscovering the beauty of you. It is so evident that Katie is starting to connect with her inner wisdom( magic) through meditation and other tools and strategies etc. Katie's inner child is expressing their happiness by delighting in their dreams . Very inspiring session, thankyou. The self love meditation is so beautiful!
I'm so glad I found this, I can identify with Katie 99% and only started to make changes when having therapy. It must be our generation, I'm the same age how our parents and society moulded us. Thank you for letting us see the real you and Alex for giving us free therapy. This can only make us stronger, finding that our beliefs are not really ours and we need to change them. It is a very scary place to be, I had this trauma over a year ago, so much anxiety and fear it was unreal. With the steps you can gradually change your thought process and your reaction to it. Thinking of myself first was so selfish and it took a while but when you realise that no one else will do that for you you have to look after yourself and that is called growing up, being an adult. That's what I've learnt, I'm a lot calmer and getting closer to my happy soul. It becomes easier as more people are talking about it and there's more awareness. We will need lots more therapists in the future!
This guy is good! Sending lots of love and respect to you Katie for taking the journey!
Sounds like she has some version of "I am not enough" which is such a common limiting belief. For me, I had to really cultivate a spiritual view myself (learning that I really am Awareness, Consciousness, etc. through spending lots of time with The Three Principles and non-dual teachers) to negate feeling "not enough." This was key for me as I was sick with CFS and Fibro and could not longer do anything in the world that was satisfying or made me feel good about myself. When I really saw that I was enough, that was a game changer--I didn't have to do anything to be worthy, be enough. "Nowhere to go, nothing to do."
This is so healing ❤🙏
Ok …I’ve followed this religiously and am nodding my head on agreement with relating to SO much of this . Especially the beating up of myself with regards to not valuing myself- based on the fact of not feeling valued my entire life !! I’m certain I have attachment issues..the NEED to feel respected and loved . Katie ..I live in the country , I have lived that way in years really …but after my son left the nest ..I’ve moved again slightly more remoter . I’m actually breathing at the moment- Alex is right there is NO rush but great to have a dream attached to your heart and gut . I have had the dog/chicken/ cottage ….. Im free of ALL responsibilities with regards to Needing ‘things animals and people’ …be yourself ALLOW that stage of NOTHING for a while …that’s exactly where I am atm . My nest is completely empty..yes I feel lonely …I walk sometimes alone ( I actually like that ) and sometimes I’m with friends. I take photos I enjoy alone time because all my life the fight and flight has exhausted me … the proving of myself the standing my ground and ridiculed because of that . I’m tired of being used, abused verbally and belittled . I’m really at that ( in the nicest way ) F# you , let me be me …..I’ve been so crushed by parents, elder narc sister a dodgy narc relationship which floored me ..and I’ve put up with that abuse for 58 years - I’m 62 now and freer than I’ve ever been in my life . My parents are both passed , the sister is estranged because I’d had enough, the narc relationship is long gone after my final NO GO AWAY ( and has passed away so completed no return ) … I agree Alex ‘ your plans don’t have to be attended to now ..maybe not at all , but Dream allow a dream to happen or not ‘ so what who gives a hoot Look after YOU !!
I do -now 😊.
Oh bless you Katie, I so feel you and it broke my heart watching how you’re family ganged up against you when you are trying so hard and they just don’t get it. It’s always hard at first when creating new boundaries for yourself for others to recognise what you need, in some ways I think (and I maybe wrong) but you may have made a rod for your own back because they are so used to you being a certain way, giving and non complaining, that they take that bit of you for granted and now you’re trying to assert yourself they maybe feel uncomfortable with these changes, but it’s necessary and I hope that you will be able to reach them and that they will start to understand you and be a support for you. Big hugs, you’re a lovely soul, you’ll get there
I applaud you, Katie. You are making great strides. xx
Katie thanks a lot for sharing your jourrney...I relate really well with your situation as I was the scapegoat in my childhood..thank you and take care.
Me too 😢
Great session! Katie, I can see your inner strength growing with your hard work...so courageous. Lots of good tips from Alex, as usual.
I love seeing how great Katie is doing. I also love your goal of moving to the country. I'm at a similar place in my life. I have lots of schooling and degrees but don't feel nearly as capable as you. I enjoy hearing about your journey!
Thank you Katie for sharing your journey. Xxxx
Thank you Katie . I can relate. X
Thank you Katie. This helped me so much! ❤
Katie, thank you so much for sharing your story.... I definitely resonate with so much of what you say, and the things you’re working on. You’re obviously such a kind, eloquent person with some wonderful dreams. Keep up the good work. I’m sure it’ll help you redesign your life to be one that truly suits you.
And Alex - do you know we are still getting ads part way through these sessions? (I got 2 ad interruptions in this session) They’re rather distracting...
Thank you 👏
Great question ,what do you need from you ,how do you support you ..I get Katie's desire to live in the country as I am from the country but have lived in London for so long now ,with its chaos and escapism as much as the quite and hiding in the countryside ..heal first then maybe make a choice later ....gosh these conflicting thoughts ..Love the way Alex pulls her back in and simplified a tiny steps approach while we rush into the overwhelm .
Its like im listening to myself !! 😢
Love these sessions Alex. Do you have the meditations and modules on your website?
I found them on you tube under Alex Howard meditation self love etc.
These sessions with Katie are very helpful. Is the self-love meditation available somewhere I could access?
I you tube searched Alex Howard meditation for self love...and it there...15 mins long. Enjoy
Katie would be good at her dream.... but thew sacrifice of living in London needs to be thought very carefully as that could be a cushion if somethinh goes wrong,,, she could borrow on the Lon don house to secure a tiny place in the country to trial it ....... then keeoing the london house she could always go back. ... Things change as we get older... 74 is not the same as 64 or 54 or 44,,,,, I am only at Session 4 July 2023
That was such a betrayel and it feels like kids ganged up on her.
that lady who said she is 48 looks 20 for sure !!!!!
I understand this lady... I want to help people like you do but l am at the stage..are these people nice people, would they help me,
Are they ok with me ..
If not l don't help them.
I don't know how that makes me but l am happy with it sx
Alex - could you talk about responsibility? Do some people take responsibility / or take on burdens / trying to make things work - is this a pattern of behaviour?
Helper Personality?
Codependency 🥺
I learnt today about - rescuing pattern.