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- čas přidán 29. 10. 2020
- A young woman deals with a neighbor's advances.
THE COMPLEX is used with permission from Dane McCusker. Learn more at danemccusker.com.
Charlotte has just moved into a new apartment when her new neighbor, in an attempt to help her out, takes one of her boxes and brings it in, despite her protests. But then he lets himself into her apartment without invitation, getting on her nerves, before helping himself to the sink and then leaving.
Though discomfited by Brandon and his idea of witty banter, she thinks that's all there is to it. But then Brandon keeps imposing himself upon Charlotte, inviting her out. But when his overfamiliarity goes too far, Charlotte must decide to draw a line.
Writer-director Dane McCusker's incisive short drama takes viewers up close and uncomfortably personal as one woman navigates the unwanted intrusion of her personal space, both physical and emotional.
McCusker has explored the knotty territory of modern gender relations before, with his acclaimed short ANGELFISH, but has broadened his scope in terms of narrative with this short. As in that earlier short, there's still the muted sense of almost mundane naturalism in the look and feel that gives the sense that a story like this can play out right in our neighborhood. But watching the dynamic play out between Charlotte and her new environment and neighbors offers a more wide-angle perspective on how the social infrastructure around Charlotte causes her to doubt her own emotional experience.
Both the writing and the performances are deft at capturing the nuances of social interaction and Charlotte's personal experience. Microcurrents of fear, irritation and annoyance swirl within Charlotte -- all beautifully captured by lead actress Jessica Murphy -- but she's told by friends, her mother and other neighbors that Brandon is just being friendly.
Eventually, though, Charlotte has to call on Brandon to fix her sink, and when he takes one step too close to Charlotte, she decides to assert herself -- leading to an ugly confrontation and some unpleasant consequences.
From its arena of conflict to its title, THE COMPLEX is about space: a physical space, yes, but also how they overlay with personal and social space. The conflict in the story, both internal and external, is mapped and played out with a sharp eye for detail.
But THE COMPLEX deftly captures how the world around us forms an echo chamber of ideas and emotion, amplifying or muffling our inner experiences while reinforcing ideas about power, compliance and silence. And this echo chamber is given shape and presence in our lives by how they play out in the places of our lives, even in the depths of our homes, where we should feel safe from the outside world -- and yet often, so many don't. - Krátké a kreslené filmy
The feeling of not knowing if you’re overreacting or not is so awful.
Yes, I can relate to that.
This is a majority of females that I know and even when they know they not right they still pretend they are
I don’t think that’s the point. Look at it like, it doesn’t matter if you are not, if you are kindly and respectfully explaining why something bothers you or how it makes you feel, the other person should at least have the decency to respond in kind. Also, you’re allowed to feel however you want. If your gut tells you something, you always follow it sister! Don’t ever feel like you’re over-reacting
@@MichelleSPodcast But the matter of fact is that we do sometimes overreact for many reasons such as Stereotypes we believe in or prior experiences we've had and you cannot expect people not to get mad because we are, above all, emotional beings and once we're perceived as things we actually hate, the reaction might come out in the shape of anger and insult.
All i'm saying is that we should try to understand humans as they are, not as we want them to be.
Your right
I am almost sure he tampered with the tap at the beginning so she would have to call him over to fix it.
I also had the same feeling at the beginning..
Please tell me...how can you tamper with a faucet by taking a drink? For real?
@@questioneverything2 the drink itself could've been gurgled water, adding a coin to that might've caused the damage or that's what I think at least
I wondered that also.
Yes....Exactly......
If anyone is curious as to what the term "gaslighting" means........this is the purest definition.
Thats a delusional feminist who thinks she's a prom queen all desirable ....nay!
@@yasirabbasmalik5863 what?
@@jamesbeyer yes buddy....what? That's what I thought so too.
@PK Collins no that wasn’t the point at all, she refused his help, then after explicitly refusing his help he helped himself to her things, which is a violation of a person’s personal space, then, he let himself into her apartment, I don’t know what world you live in, but I would never go into a woman’s apartment uninvited, again another violation of personal space. The set the tone of their awkward relationship. Then his comments were awkward and not funny especially since he didn’t know her and obviously wouldn’t know she would receive them. Then, when she calmly explained her concerns, which any person should be able to do, he exploded. No, you completely missed the point of the film.
@PK Collins totally misunderstood you then. Sorry for the mansplaining
He just invites his own self in! Dangerous kind of person!
Excuse me? Someone gives you a hand and you don’t say thank you or get to know them at least?
I think you're missing the point of this short film. I think the message is that men being nice to females does not always mean they're creeps.
@@shivang15 she didn't ask for help. He forcefully grabbed her stuffs. Ever heard of a space bubble!
@@anuraktaray4255 Live in your bubble.
VERY
First signs were the box at the door. That was not normal behaviour. If she says she’s got it, she’s got it.
Help is only help when it’s wanted. Anything more than that and you are stepping over the line.
YES!!!
All in all they're both overreacting, that's where the drama goes.
Absolutely. He is taking away from her her right to say no.
Imagine someone offers you a taste of something. You say, "No, thanks." Maybe you don't like that food. Maybe you're not hungry. Maybe you like it and you're hungry, but you're on a strict diet. It doesn't matter why. You owe no one an explanation. You just say "No."
Then the person shoves a spoonful in your mouth anyway.
That is someone who wants to make your decisions for you. She was NOT over-reacting.
Some people are shy, even when they say no they don't mean, when help them any way they thank u, but if they presist in say no and give a tone then they really mean it, u have to read the situation.
Agree
"Charlotte, he's just being friendly. I should know--I wasn't there."
This turned from harassment to victim blaming to isolating the victim. It is EXACTLY how this works.
It’s how narcissists works
He probably told the people in the building lies about her, you see if he couldn't have it his way( Controlling people) then he will slander you so no hes NOT A NICE GUY!
Yess someone who gets it😭😭
@@ROYALP100 exactly what I thought, everyone in the building has a good rapport with this dude and they trust him. He def told something about her and painted him as the victim. They all believed him and by the end the couple that were willing to hang out with her seemed to avoid her and the reason is exactly that, him lying about the situation.
@@kjfdddsssgghh9360 If he were a really good guy he would have met her halfway about her belief's on getting to know new people but no, he wanted it his way or NO WAY, so he's not really a good guy.
*To those who think she’s over reacting*
Imagine someone you don’t know inviting themselves in after forcibly taking your personal belongings in an act to be “nice”. While the action itself was chivalrous, he neglected to notice how it made her extremely uncomfortable. She’s still in the process of moving into a place where she has zero social connections to fall back on, so of course she’s going to be wary. She’s not over reacting, she’s being rightfully cautious.
That's why, no matter how "helpful" you think you're being, you never force your assistance on anyone. You offer freely and accept the answer either way with equal politeness. People in wheelchairs, for example, get highly annoyed at the loss of agency resulting from people just grabbing their chairs and pushing without permission.
Then why ask to him to fix the sink, in her apartment, inviting him to do the same thing again if it's so uncomfortable?
@@NoJusticeNoPeace I can understand this position. But can you understand that these people are trying to do something good and not harmful? Even if they lack your awareness?
She does have other social connections! Was it a phantom girl friend that helped put books on her shelves?
@@wanderer5200 In this case there is not a definite answer, but if you pay attention closely, she already felt conflicted about weather or not she was overreacting. In my thinking, I believe that she felt like she didn't have a lot of options, maybe limited money from just moving in, or she was trying to not paint him as a creep since another woman felt comfortable around him and maybe didn't have uncomfortable encounters. It's complex, because she also wanted to stop being reminded of him with the drops, and asking him to fix it might have been her way of trying to cope or get over it. There is also the point of not wanting to potentially anger him by hiring someone else and them him finding out about it. She's really in quite an odd position. I'd recommend looking not only at her reactions to him, but to other people's reactions, even her mom's from the very start and then look at how she processes it and how these may shape her reactions.
She felt uncomfortable around him, she shouldn't have asked him to fix the tap, rather call a plumber and pay him.
FINALLY someone who THINKS :):) I do agree with you ....
Yes, exactly.
Agreed
But since she's just moved, she might be short on money, forcing her to get creepy guy to fix the tap
@@everythingissalad2969 if she's not smart enough to figure out how to turn off the water under the sink, she shouldn't live in that apartment without a real maintenance superintendent. She put herself in every situation where she struggled because she wouldn't be assertive and take control of her own life (mechanical, security, safety, acceptable behavior or otherwise).
@@mrsfinklesnoot4169 bruh
Does that validate the man's actions?
Why are you blaming her?
The very point of the short film was to highlight victim blaming. By the looks of it, it's obviously you who's not smart enough to grasp the theme and underlying times of the film
Most women have met different versions of this guy. The best line is when he complaints about millenial girls overreacting.
She's clearly in the wrong doe he's the plumber of the building it's his job if you lived in apartments you should know this there is a reason the couple went distant with her at the end who wants to hang with a person like that?
You sound like a millennium girl overreacting...
@@rayburks7059 I don't think he's the building superintendent. The guys sounds like an Aussie. Australians don't have building supers. He was just a guy who's job was a plumber doing her a favor. Which is why she asked him how much she owned him and as she felt uncomfortable with him, she didn't want to be in his debt. I can understand why he made her feel uncomfortable, he was too forthcoming when she first met him. Couldn't he have had a drink out of the tap in his own apartment for example. It is only when you realize that she seems to have no friends, that it becomes apparent that she does things like this in her life all the time.
@@martinherald6492 when she went to ask about an issue the woman in the office said that the guy (I forgot all they names) handles the plumbing meaning he works there probably maintenance every apartment is supposed to have a couple heck I let mine get water they deserve it I even let them use the fridge while they work so they stuff Don't sit out to long its apart of the job do you want someone nice or a a**hole?
@@rayburks7059 At the 8 minute mark in this video: The 3A on the door tells me she knocked on the neighbor's door for advice or help. She then asked: "Do we have a building superintendent or like a fix it guy?" The reply: ''Oh we usually ask Brendan to do all or stuff. He's a plumber" Also Brendan says, 'Hooroo' meaning goodbye, no wukkas instead of no worries and 'he's such a dag' used to describe someone who is a bit socially odd used by the neighbor, make me think this is set in Australia. I have rented many a place in Australia, none of them ever had a superintendent. In Australia if your building needs fixing, you have to contact your real estate agent or land lord to fix it, otherwise you may have to pay for the repair yourself.
Knocking to anyone's door at 11pm is inappropriate and is prone to a disaster. Good decision on her part.
Where I live, it's chill to open the door holding a rifle about that hour.
@@merrygrammarian1591 I fully concur. Stay safe and keep that barrel loaded.
Yes who knocks on someones door at eleven at night and then calls them a nana for being in bed . The guys a total wanker ..
Nobody in their right mind does that , and i would have ignored the knock and gone back to sleep as i'm not getting out my bed at that time. And he had the nerve to act like it was a normal time to knock on her door. He's weird.
i wonder when omelto will put out films that show how straight white men suffer as well
Its as if women , blacks etc are the only ppl that experience hardship
I hate people who are too comfortable wherever they go
Why are you a government torturer for a banana Republic or something?
I guess you hate people.
Damn bro that must suck that youre so miserable and uncomfortable in yourself that you hate others comfort.
@@comradeq2493 damn bro why do you think I added the "too"? Because some people will step over others boundaries just to make themselves comfortable. Just like the guy in the video. But sure, im the miserable one 😂
🙄fools
This comment meant those who are comfortable by making other uncomfortable wherever they go.
It's really simple: if someone says they're uncomfortable, just respect their boundaries.
And if you're uncomfortable because of someone, stay away from him, don't let him in your apartment and certainly do NOT let him be alone in your apartment.
And if you're a teacher and a student tells you in classroom that they feel uncomfortable that you're denying that men can menstruate, just respect their boundaries
This video was simple, yet hit SO many important complexities a lot of us experience.
Its scary to think how a small gesture can have ramifications
I hope ppl are this vocal when lines are crossed
Us? In that us, it does not include the fact that if you're a black woman (no not a woman "of colour") you'd be called aggressive and having an attitude. Something the people in the "us" category don't understand because they are the very perpetrators of calling said black women aggressive whenever she dares explain herself and the "us" feels uncomfortable, attacked, and/or fragile. An observation that goes unnoticed..to most people who observed this video. Food for thought...
@@teascobie6557
I think it is
It certainly was not overlooked
She was mild mannered until that last confrontation
And then everything changed even with other ppl when she pushed back
@@teascobie6557 Good riddance then. What I’ve learned is you can’t be loved by everyone, however, it’s a universal truth that people will treat you how you let them. You don’t have to even raise your voice, just be concise and stern so they can’t mix your words.
Sadly it gives no good solution.
This film explains everything we try to and yet no one listens. Perfect ending sadly
EXACTLY
We? No one? Who are you talking about? There are 7 billion people in this planet. What a simple division... who are you against for their conditiins? Men, white, black, poors, rich, older, younger? You need explain better who are the bad guys in your perfect world lady
Jesus you are so right !
Agreed
@@lifetour831 Everyone else understood.
how is this channel so underrated. please share these amazing short films with everyone. this channel deserves more recognition
2 million subs is considered underrated?? lol
@@maxgc6413 😂
How is this underrated. Bare subscribers and views
@@maxgc6413 haha that would be underrated for me considering the important values these films potray and nonetheless the views on most of these videos arent that many either :)
Yes
This is why I keep to myself in my apartment building. If I do happen to run into people, I say a friendly "hello", but I actually try to avoid running into people. I don't want to have semi-real "friendships" with neighbors who feel like they can pop over at your place unannounced, but since they don't really know you, they could turn against you easily at any moment, and you can't even escape because they live right there!
Same here.
This is kinda funny cause i'm a teenager and literally worried that i won't make friends when i leave for uni. It always comes as a surprise to me when people are nasty or inappropriate cause in my country i lived in a small village and everyone knew everyone and it was manner to ask someone if they needed help and everyone was friendly and i just can't imagine people who i know turning against me. Never crossed my mind till now.
And sadly, this is because there are monsters.
@@ibolyakatona8192 I just saw your comment now. Actually, at uni, I would encourage you to be keep being friendly and try to talk to people and make friends. The university situation is different from when you buy or even rent your own home later, and the main reason is this: At uni, if you are having some trouble with the people who live near you, you can request to change your room and/or move to a different building (this is usually true in the United States, but you can double-check the situation at your own uni to be sure). At uni, you won't have a lot of furniture and items to move, so the move would be easy, but if you own your own home later and you want to move because of bad neighbors, the process would be much harder because you have a lot of furniture and things to move, and, if you own the home, you have to worry about all of that trouble with buying and selling your home.
I was very friendly at uni (and actually, I never had to move because of bad experiences- haha, but I do know a couple of people that changed their room or dorm building because of trouble with their roommate, etc.), and uni is actually one of the BEST places to meet people and become friends because you live very close to people and you can easily spend time and do daily activities like eating with them. I am almost 50 years old and I still love and am in close contact with my closest friends from uni.
Still, even though I was friendly at uni, I am very quiet in my apartment building now for the reasons I described above. I wish you the best at uni and I hope you have many great experiences there like I did. Enjoy!
Its better to.know a person before inviting
I would have never left him alone in my apartment since it was obvious he would do something. He also could've installed a spy cam etc.
This is Australia , its a bit less exciting here ... lol
Exactly
i bet this happens to so many girls...the popular guy makes an advance and makes her look crazy and mean if she doesn't accept. then she is ostracized from the group.
Theres a movie about it called The Craft.
@Alyssa Reeder its also just easier for guys to get away with this kind of behavior in our current cultural climate
@@butt5810 this is bs. this girl was just a self entitled gen z teen who gets offended at everything.
@@billykriaris3096 if she was self entitled she would have got too addicted to having him help her all the time
@@billykriaris3096 thanx for mansplaining women's experience, Billy boy
The sting of being socially isolated, feeling the gossiping behind your back as people slowly start to distance themselves from you as if you are a monster is such a horrible feeling. This is how narcissists target and isolate you. Mr. Nice guy is a manipulative, two-faced, creepy, boundary invasive, spiteful, and insecure jerk. These traits show through his need to control the narrative that he is such a "good guy" by smearing other people behind their backs to lie about his true nature
He has bad understanding of personal space. So when there is no direct harassment, women need to learn to deal with this stuff. Not deal internally, but like operate in the world where other people, not only men have no personal boundaries. World is not your oyster.
Beautifully said, you hit all the points. If he was actually harmless, he would have apologized and let her know that he understands how she feels although it wasn't his intension to make her uncomfortable. Instead, he knows he is in the wrong so he gets angry and goes on the offense, trying to gaslight her and call her names and then spread rumors. Classic sign of insecurity.
@@mujdahakime2345 nice analysis. Men often are not keyed into the vulnerability of women; they don't consider the woman may've been attacked or abused in their past. A decent dude will open his mind to consider that he may not be coming across as he intends, and be willing to apologize, even if he thinks she's overreacting. This guy is arrogant and entitled. Probably not dangerous but clueless for sure. Dont see them getting together, but Could imagine a year down the road if they both were in relationships and they both cooled down (and the dude acted more maturely and proved he's not just a schmuck), they could give each other the benefit of the doubt and be friendly-ish neighbors.
@@zyrosqrd2552 Correct. The guy is super entitled and lacks any empathy for the things he does to make others uncomfortable. I've known people like this. They come across as nice/charming at first but then quickly it gets suffocating especially if you don't return their advances.
Jen's basement I totally agree well said!
He was the quintessential "nice guy." Has no problem entering into her space, and making comments like, You're gushing," but once rebuffed (and hardly even that), he goes into full nastiness, swearing and basically calling her ugly.
Kudos to both actors - I really felt her tension and uncertainty, and he totally made me angry and want to help her. 👍👍
He became angry, mind you , after she basically , - wrongly, - called him a pervert.Both acted improperly.Any real life " nice guy" would respond in a similar fashion,- like it or not.
She didn't basically cal him a pervert....he laid out her underwear on her bed ...bedroom v. Personal space and her underwear laid out like that....you think that's an ok thing to do??
@@markferguson3745 She said she felt uncomfortable with his remark, plus the underwear incident... No reason for him to verbally attack her. He's a pig. Yeah, the 'nice guys' are like this...can't handle boundaries, seem to thing their mere presence is some huge favor that locks u into further communication.
@@staceykersting705 It displays prominently how deep the problem is that many can't seem to acknowledge that both characters have some issues.For many men and women, it's impossible to be objective, and the end result is either loneliness, or being in one sided, unhealthy relationships , commonly based on financial necessity rather than mutual understanding.
@JediFlavored Soap Did you notice the Madame Chairwoman comment that said , in less detail, much of what I did, under a feminine user name? What she said.
You know those public service films from the 50's & 60's we commonly mock now as being crazy naive and silly? Someday the popular narratives they teach in schools will be similarly ridiculed as over simplistic and backwards.We don't necessarily evolve in a straight line; often, we go sideways for a while.
You are never obligated to be polite to people who are invading your rightful sanctuary. Young people are targets for this sort of creep. It's sad that this is so common.
He already built in an excuse for overriding his "chivalry" verg early in that first encounter. Informative.
I highly suspect it was supposed to be implied that early in the scene when he used her sink that he had tampered with it to make it drip constantly, too, whether he did or not. As in, she felt he had done so… also, his overreaction to her setting up a simple boundary and then working to isolate her from potential friends is bad.
It’s like at first I was like why does she feel so bad ?? And then I read the comments and realized a lot people do not care about how women feel.
If you live here in Australia you'd realise that these types of dickheads are a dime a dozen , she's sort of acting like she's from a different country .. He's older so maybe shed never met this type of person before . I think its a generation gap thing . An older girl wouldn't have been so worried maybe ..
I don’t believe the young lady was overreacting. She is entitled to explain how she is feeling without feeling bad, after all she is new to the complex and doesn’t know anyone. There’s so many weirdos out there...and yes, many don’t look like creeps. The guys true colours shined at the end. I say stick to your guns, if you are feeling uncomfortable and something feels off...usually you’re right.
Stay blessed
Yes, he wanted to control her right off the bat by pretending to be the good guy...You see he wanted his way of thinking to be the only way of thinking..
he is a good guy he has social value and social proof. all the other girls were cool with him, no problems. it was the girl who's overreacting.
@@tajbeaul You're describing a playboy masquerading as a Mr fix it.
I think I saw that movie ( Shampoo Warren Beatty).
@boimackhead Thank you.
I’m trying to watch something to calm myself and I watch this...👁👄👁 I-
@1world1blood lmao
Defintely not calming
Same here
The sting of being socially isolated, feeling the gossiping behind your back as people slowly start to distance themselves from you as if you are a monster is such a horrible feeling. This is how narcissists target and isolate you. Mr. Nice guy is a manipulative, two-faced, creepy, boundary invasive, spiteful, and insecure jerk.
That overly friendly, nice guy who tries to be cool. And who cares if the neighbors don’t talk to you. They aren’t your real friends.
it's not that simple though
some people want friends in their apartment complexes
It still has to be Hella uncomfortable.....never bother with neighbors 2 close to home
Let's say that all of the stuff he did was totally normal. If he really was a good guy he wouldn't have blown up and turned everything back on her when she told him how she felt. Super good film.
Who cares. Ppl like that deserve to live the solitude life they deserve
Exactly, Rex. Guy was textbook gaslighting and the neighbor reactions and it's insane how many people in these comments either 1) can't see it or 2) gaslight people themselves and excuse the film douchebag's behavior to avoid their own inadequacies
@@LabGecko yeah I’m sure everyone in the apartment complex is wrong about the guy, she’s the only one that can see…
@@ps4692 Those people don't target everyone. They try to get enablers and flying monkeys, even bribe/pay them, e.g. with the parties and free plumbing service.
Those people, like (other) criminals, are only targeting soft/good targets.
I love how the incessant dripping was a mirror of his comments and behavior, at first she thinks she can ignore it until it's unbearable. An "overreaction" to the first interaction would have ended it. Better to be labeled "crazy" then to endure harassment and abuse.
Ending it on the start would have been the best solution. These people are like predators, like wolves they're prowling around looking who they can devour.
If you show them right at the start that you WILL enforce your boundaries, they know that they can't do anything against you and they won't try again that soon.
But if you let them walk all over you, they found a victim. And if you start enforcing boundaries then, you are the bad guy.
Because you robbed them of their prey, their opportunity to commit crimes against you. Then you're their enemy. And because you hurt their feelings, these criminals may, in rare cases, go to great length to harm you.
Don't worry, the last point is really rare, in most cases they'll move on. - You have to expect a defamation campaign against you, like in this case, though.
But enforcing boundaries is definitely better then letting someone walk over you.
I don’t see why she felt she was doing something wrong, the guy was being creepy. Her reaction was perfectly normal.
She was randomly following women on IG n also checking out women ..what about that?
@@kirannathani9123 oh please. Social media, especially when your page is public is made to draw attention and for people to follow. That lady had over 1000 likes which means she was popular and was likely an influencer/model. That’s like running into your favorite CZcamsr and saying you enjoy their content. She didn’t knock on her door asking her out creepily in the middle of night, she didn’t flirt with her or ask her out, and she didn’t force her help on the lady for anything. So you can take that bs argument and stick it where the sun don’t shine.
@@kirannathani9123 how does that compare to what the dude was doing? That's irrelevant. He was a straight up creep. Smh
Her reaction was not normal. He was being creepy but she's overreacting.
@@subjectofgov No she’s not. He’s just some jack-off plumber. It’s not like he’s a shot caller exec.
This is Gaslighting with a capital G ..
This hit on so many social levels and leaving the ending unresolved was a great choice.
Umm no it’s resolved. You act like a lefty nut and you’ll end up alone.
I say to hell with all of them. He was too familiar too soon and he should have handled the situation better when she told him how she felt. At least she was courteous enough to speak to him about it directly and in privacy. Also, the neighbors are immature for giving her the cold shoulder.
"Chivalry is not dead, but you are doing your best to kill it." Uuuuggggghhhhh
Omg I hate this guy so much.
That line would have gone over just fine as dialogue in a 1930s or 40s 'screwball comedy'.
Bro I’m not the sharpest tack but I still figured out that junk ain’t cool by like age 14
I was a lot older than 14 before I realise I should listen to my intuition
You are one of the smart ones.
She should of tied a piece of string around the end of the faucet..the drip follows it down so you don't hear it.
Or simply googled and replaced the washer herself.
@@yeolblt Apparently the guy had to move a table to get to a pipe under the floorboards. That kind of plumbing is not the kind you do while reading from Google, especially if you're renting.
Even simpler...toss a wash rag in and hear the drip no more, or a scrubby thing.
« She should HAVE »...
@@alxjones this has nothing to do with a pipe. Running faucet means bad faucet, period. It just needs replacement or adjustment
Story of my life..
I had to literally confront the 'sup' at my apartment complex and gave him a stern talking to...
He was being very inappropriate around me from the first day I moved in and kept making sexual references when talking to me made me super uncomfortable.
But after the day I confronted him he never talked to me again and wouldn't even return my greetings.. good riddance!
Good riddance indeed 👌🏽
You go, girl🙏
THANK GOODNESS YOU ARE SAFE!!!!
How did you do it? Like what did you say that made him stop. Need help. Stuck in the same scenario
@@vm2113 he started with his jokes one day, in the presence of some other tenants, making reference to my big butt then I just cut him off mid sentence, and told him that I have had it up to here with his sexual undertones when talking to me.... I never laugh when he makes those jokes and I thought that will be enough reason for him to stop it but since he didn't, I had no choice but to resort to confrontation. I told him never to make such lewd jokes around me again EVERR!!
he was super embarrassed...
It worked
But WHY did he think he could just let himself in😳
why hasn't she called a PLUMBER with a LICENCE??!!!!!!! Why!?
You think he messed with her sink to get it to drip like that so he can pretend to be Mr. fix it nice guy?
I do. From the first minute I thought that.
Nice idea but I don't think that's possible in 10 seconds without tools.
@@nickimillennium get real! Of course he knew! He did it intentionally for a reaction because that's the only game he's got. When he was pulled up for it, he got nasty. I had an ex, EXACTLY the same as this. It's ugly stuff.
A stranger to the girl; knocks on your door at 11 o'clock at night, seeing her in her robe and then asking her what your doing Friday night. Please who goes knocking on your door that late. I would've never answered the door. Even my family knows not to come to my house at such late hours. If it would've been a emergency, they would have called me first. That alone would have told me something is seriously wrong with that guy.
WHO opens a door to a STRANGER at 11 at night in a robe!!!!!? WHO, instead of calling a professional plumber WITH a license, calls a guy that makes one uncomfortable and leaves the guy ALONE in a house? WHO!!?? .... MIXED MESSAGES?!?!?!?
he also had the nerve to questions why she went to bed early whatever people do in their own flat is up to them
@@paulhynes170 There was something very wrong with that guy. It's unbelievable that your neighbor would show up at your house that late and ask her why she is going to bed that early. The nerve of that guy is something else. That alone would tell me something is not right here. Like I said in my comment, I would've never answered my door at 11 o'clock. at night. A child could get away with that but not a grown-up person. The audacity asking for a date that late at night tells me this person is nuts. I'm glad I live in the country. My neighbors don't live right on top of me. My closes neighbor lives 10 minutes away from me. I used to live in the city, and you knew when they used the toilet. Have a nice day.
@@gigih.hammer306 That's not bad living in the country at least you get the peace and quiet unlike living with Neighbors next door 😀
Brandon's made me feel uncomfortable and I'm all the way in the USA. 👀 No but seriously ive met many a dude like Brandon was even married to one. It's fine until it's not. Great film!! Loved it 👍
Trust your guts. Trust your instincts. Don't let anybody blame or bully you. Your feelings are valid. This was a nice film. 👏🏾🔥
This is so sad. I've been in situations like this and never really said anything. I used to just "laugh it off" because I didn't want to be that girl who overreacted to a guy being "friendly". Then I started dating my now husband and I could finally avert advances by saying that I have a boyfriend and be left alone.
And she could have easily done the same...
But it's sad that you have to have an excuse. No should be enough on its own.
Well, that was good for you BUT that's just it! A single woman shouldn't have to have a boyfriend or any male in her life to ward off unwanted attention. In fact, in my experience this very type of jerk off situations happen to force a single female to take up with some single male in the complex. Oh, it's all very well thought out!
This is such a perfect depiction of why we ladies react how we react. We are guided by certain experiences we had with the other gender and sooner or later we tend to be alert skeptical towards strangers. Other people not understanding how we feel and strangers forcing a friendly banter just makes it worse.
i feel the same way about women
@@PeterParker-yg6fc Yeaa. I understand, women can also be intrusive. It should not be stereotyped. I said "ladies" because considering us physically weak,ppl are adamant on helping with chores, like in this video. Ofcourse, not all males are like that. I am sorry for your experience. ✌
theres no excuse to treat someone differently base on past exp you have had with there gender, thats like treating mexicans different based on the previous exp you have had with mexicans.
@@billykriaris3096 i am not talking about treating someone badly in any manner or ignoring them.. I just said i will be cautious based on my previous experience. That's how mind works. Don't come at me for this. Its not wrong.
@@dishamagnani5711 ok well in that case for the same reason who cant get mad at men when the treat women the way they do, such as ghosting them after they get jiggy because they dont want another women taking half there net worth.
Literally going through similar at the moment with the superintendent for the building I live in. He lives in the building, on the floor below me though and he's a nightmare too. He's said a novels' worth of inappropriate stuff to me but one example being when he came to fix a hole in the wall under my sink and then cornered me in my kitchen, told me I have 'perfect model lips' and told me that he's never kissed 'perfect model lips' before and asked if I would be comfortable with giving him a kiss and to only answer with yes or no... and may I mention that my 2 young children were in the living room across from us and I was too scared to react in a way that would scare them, so I felt forced, but I said NO!! To which he replied that maybe he shouldn't have asked in the first place and said that he would call me his little sister and never mention the kiss thing again. (Yuck, right?) Only a week later he saw my family and I leaving on Halloween and saw my costume was red riding hood and then the day after, he showed up knocking on my apartment door, telling me that the costume was "very me" and asked me to put the dress on for him. Again I said no and this time ended up freaking out screaming at him that he's a pervert and to leave me alone only for him to laugh and scoff it off so then I finally reached out to the building's property management and they're not taking it seriously. I really felt this short film, I wanted to kick that Brandon's ass for Charlotte ha
Wtf... How is it now?
Phew, that s really creepy of him, in our office a guy stalked a girl till her home, she complained to the HR, they didnt take it seriously , after many complaints, he was fired, these pervs are everywhere
Man I hope he gets a night's rest ever again , he doesn't deserve it
Don't do an emotional outburst that shows weakness and that's the last thing you should do.
judging by the language, this is the most aussie film ever created
She's right, I have a neighbor just like that guy(People wanting to get too familiar too fast) unfortunately it's his way of controlling the people around him so it put's you on the other side...Don't give in to him you can make your own friends your way and not his way.
no, no no, she is not rght, in any way. She just did not feel comfortable with someone beeing polite and she was over reacting. The morale at the end, you end up alone while others are socializing. It's unfortantely true for new lillenials, everything to them a guy tries to give a helping hand and is now considered a sexual harrasement. I bet you are one too
@@tanyifranc7184 The man came into her apartment (Unannounced) being to familiar with someone he didn't even know, the other problem is why do some people believe that swearing every other word makes them seem "COOL"? Now maybe she a little old fashion but no I agree with her his Mr cool routine was dead on arrival for me ...Yes she's going to have to find people like her and not like him.
@@Justnn She was triggered the moment he barged into her apartment unannounced!
@@tanyifranc7184 tf neither of them were right or wrong. They were just two different people who did things differently. She has more boundaries than him and he is more social than her. That created the argument or confrontation between them, yada yada yada, not everyone gets along just move on already. Also, it's not bad to be alone. Some people like it and some people can't stand it. Just understand that EvErYoNe iS DiFfErEnT
I sorta know what you mean, in the UK it is sometimes referred to as having an 'overbearing personality' and it can be really off putting for sure. Even as a bloke myself I feel a little repelled by both men and women with that sort of personality. But the girl in the short was a little too uptight and gave any adulation only to a minor internet 'celebrity' but the interest on that score was not reciprocated. End of the day it was her apartment and the bloke didn't ask to use her water taps (faucet), the note I think was a little risque'; if she doesn't like a person for any reason I suppose it is her right to have distance put between herself and that other person.
God.. the way this resonated so much with me. This has happened to me before. Also, the acting is so perfect. Like that hard look she has until he leaves, then feeling the adrenaline rush and having a panic attack right after is so real.
The panic attack did it for me. Felt that.
He was a boundaries tester. Know your boundaries, set them; and if someone oversteps those bounds, don’t be afraid/ashamed to confront or call them on it. The way I was raised and the way my attitude is, especially in adulthood, I would’ve told bull as soon as he came in my house without permission to get tf out. I would’ve made it very clear that people who enter my home can get two things, permission or a gun shot. Which one you want?
Well directed and acted. Excellent conversation starter. Kudos.
"Chivalry is not dead but you are doing your best to kill it" will totally say that to the next guy that is rude to me for no reason at school lol.
Good portrayal of everyday narcissistic abuse
This really got to me. As a women, who like many women, are constantly told that the things that make us uncomfortable are not deserving of being valid. Women being told by men what can and can not make them feel safe. Men telling us they won’t change, but we have to, we HAVE to become used to uncomfortable things and change while some men just look down on you for feeling unsafe.
He's clearly imposed himself by insisting on carrying her box, entering without asking for and obtaining her permission, and making himself at home by taking a drink. That's within say 5 minutes of meeting her! I would also feel uncomfortable with such behavior!
@@aroundandround 🙄 ok lil boy
This movie is so genuine. I think every girl, perhaps not in the same context knows exactly what this is about.
kudos to the makers and the actors, raised so many topical issues and obviously resonates with all the women ... we've all had these sleazy innuendos.
Better be safe than be sorry. She's doing the right thing here.
Perfect casting! And the script, camera and lighting worked so beautifully together. Intense, riveting, honest.
"Chivalry is NOT dead and you're doing you're best to kill IT!" -So classic.
Not defending him in the least and absolutely believe a woman shouldn't feel unsafe being in her own apartment building. The moment he tried to carry her box and she said no thanks, that should've been the end of his attempts at it. He definitely had some early creepster vibes. Yet, it still feels like both of them were FULL throttle overreacting to everything the other did. I mean, certainly better she err on the side of caution but it still appeared overblown.
This is straight out of Gavin DeBecker’s “Gift of Fear.”
Tundra: Very insightful! You are a comprehensive reader.
That's exactly what I was thinking!
So she thinks he is a creep but left him alone in her apartment?!?Really?She could have called a plumbing company and paid out of pocket to avoid dealing with him. He was doing her a big favor she could have been at least friendly made him some coffee something.I’m definitely not on her side and would have dealt with this situation much more maturely.
She's been indoctrinated and pampered.
She wouldn't even have to pay it herself. At first I would have turned of the valve before the tap. Then the water stops and she can tell the landlord so he can call his plumbing company.
In the meantime she can use another tap, she isn't cooking anyway.
The difference between delightful flirting and harassment is how attractive the other person is.
100%
I really thought this was going to turn into something darker. If you don't trust someone, pay somebody else to fix the plumbing, not the man you think is stepping over boundaries. And, if you do hire him... Don't leave him alone in the house! I mean, come on!
I agree with you why didn’t she just hire someone else. She left him alone because she was afraid of being alone with him. That’s a women’s worst fears is to be alone in a room with a man that makes them feel uncomfortable. I used to feel like that when I worked with a doctor. He was old enough to be my grandfather.
PREACH
She should just call her landlord, he is the one who has to fix it. If she owns the flat, yes she should call a plumber.
She may have felt that was the right things to do and she was questioning herswjf the whole time about if she was overreacting or not. Him being a weirdo with her underwear certainly proved she was right in feeling that way. But sometimes, when we are being sort of gaslit and in a nebulous situation like this we make certain decisions. It's easy to say you'd do something in her place when you may have never experienced something like this (not sure if you have or not) these things aren't always cut and dry.
He made me seriously uncomfortable. "Banter?" Really? More like "Masher"!
This is so dangerous though
Bc if this was from.his perspective her accusations would seem extreme
I feel as tho he was not truthful but the margin of error is thin
Gender relations r so consequential,
that i see y the older generation choose repression
You must be a millennial
Every little mistake she's done is magnified, it's almost like victim blaming and no one here in comments talks about how inappropriate, creepy and entitled this guy was. The things you talk about show the side you're on and if the entire time you make excuses for the dudes behaviour and blame the girl for every small mistake she's made it shows your stances. And I feel like this is a huge representation of our society in which everyone blames the women for the little mistakes she's made and don't expect men to take any accountability.
It's the other way around mate. Men get blame for every little thing and women get away with a lot.
@@superhotdolls1744 In real life, yes. But we are talking about this particular movie, and here tables are turned the other way around. Unlike real life, in this movie the girl is the victim
Almost no one is on the guys side mate
@@StRanGerManY The point is both parties can be the victim depending on perspective. The way he acted at the end showed he wasn’t deserving of respect, but many guys like this are genuinely just trying to make friends or make new people feel part of the community. Social interactions are extremely complex and everyone has different boundaries. It’s always best to let yours be known by not tolerating people crossing them. Will save massive headache in the long run
@@uncleiroh4650 also true
it’s crazy too because some men can’t see what’s wrong with Brandon. and think they’re better than him. so dangerous
Excellent acting all of you. Especially the sigh of relief of the built up tension after the man abused and went way. That depiction of fear+guilt+agony+enragement was amazing by the young woman.
What are you specifically referring to? When did he abuse her?
This was a good short film, I really liked it and I like reading a few of the comments. Because of age and particular culture, I would have never left him at my front door after he delivered the box. I noticed a lot of things that she could have done differently to establish boundaries. She should've stopped at the door, took the box, and closed the door. Next, once she saw that it was him at the door late a night, she could've not replied or only replied without opening the door. Additionally, she mentioned that she is like a worm, drilling on and on about things, so maybe that is her personality. And Lastly, never leave a stranger in your personal space, especially one that you are not comfortable with. She could've called over a friend or talked on the telephone until he was finished with the plumbing. Additionally, if she really did not want to be bothered with him she could have called another plumber.
I say all of this to say, this is a film without a lot of content. And I am not defending his behavior but there are ways to discourage that type of behavior from the start.
she could have, she could have...well all that was just the beginning, and the other people in the complex seem to be very ok with him, she gave him a chance, she did good on timing and attitude!
Studies have shown women put up with a lot more than that when they're under pressure or put on the spot. The same women who can rationally make a plan later and believe they would act on it. There's an element of panic that plays a role we can't fully embody until we are in those shoes. I thought they did a great job showing how she doubts herself about her own instincts.
I would have run out and left him there as well , because he'd annoy me to death if Id stayed ..
This is true!
First you pay no matter what. Have an imaginery boyfriend and always be busy.
To fix a drip you have to change a pipe feet away in the floor? He speaks banter? I call it jerk. Amazing how people can interpret things differently.
She is an introvert and he is an extrovert.
@@elonever.2.071 more like he's rude enough to let himself into someone else's home univited
@@jamespaul2587 he's just friendly and don't have boundaries on being extroverted, he's not rude except at the end.
@@Thomas-dr9nn I'm an extrovert too, but i'm still a decent human being and know not to go into a strangers house uninvited.
@@olyuk.9688 that's why i said he doesn't have boundaries, people who don't have boundaries are not all evil, they just grew up that way and never learned that invading people private space is not always okay.
you guys specialize in unsatisfying endings lmao
I literally said this right now. Man, it's awkward, but I'll take it, mostly because this channel feels like a modern "The Twilight Zone" series.
The idea is to leave one's audience thinking.
The dude is such a typical whimp. Scared inside hiding behind banter.
neighbors need an education. She's not safe there now... probably never was with those attitudes.
Busting through someone's boundaries is never ok
I think I'd move back home until I found another place. Just break my lease.
Another really good short film! You guys are great. I just want you to know how much I appreciate watching these creative pieces for free!
"Hell is other people."
Jean-Paul Sartre
No, Hell is a real place.
When he got all mad at her and started shifting the blame on her I got so mad. Like one, being polite would be at least asking to move them away from where your working or something and explaining so then people dont think your a creep. And she isn't asking for you to "speak like a robot" shes asking for you to stop saying those things around her. Shes not asking for you to "change yourself". Im sorry I just needed to get that off my chest.
I'm a man and I completely understand shere she's coming from in the story. She's a young woman living alone and she doesn't know him. He is acting a bit forward with her and that may be just him being friendly, but he needs to understand it from her point of view. Knocking on her door at 11pm to invite her to something? He should have waited until he saw her in public to mention it. And, leaving her comments about touching her underwear is just creepy. He obviously ran his mouth to Karen and her husband too. Why else would they ignore her in the hallway. Brandon was definitely acting creepy and out of line. Nobody deserves what she's feeling. Bad stuff happens when you let your guard down. She should have never opened her door to him in the middle of the night.
There have beeen times when I've felt someone was overreacting but, I realized that it was not my place to decide how someone "should" feel.They feel how they feel and that's that. Respect boundaries.
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Well she wasn't overreacting for sure.
She could have handled that better. If you don't like someone or how they make you feel, don't be around them. If dude creeped her out so bad, she should have called an outside plumber. She didn't HAVE to call the one guy she's uncomfortable around, much less leave him alone in her apartment for hours. I'd be more worried about THAT than his alleged advances or "offensive" language. It also pays to know you can take care of yourself & not focus on feelings like fear and exasperation 24/7.
My man was spittin facts at the kitchen table 💯
If she didn't want him around she could have called another random plumper, no need to ask him for help.
Exactly. If she was so concerned for her "safety", just call a plumber. Duh. But she ran to him when she needed help. I think THAT kind of behavior is bad.
@@JolieUTU she didn't ran, that was the option she was given by the other people, but of course women blaming women, so weird!
She would of just accused the random Plumper of being “creepy” if he didn’t meet her looks requirement.
an intrusive and imposing stranger neighbor!
The old saying of “perception is reality” comes to mind when I watched this. She perceives his friendliness as overbearing so for her, that makes him a creep. He perceives her as an uptight, woke millennial, so for him, she’s one phone call away from accusing him of MeToo. In my view, both are right and both are wrong, because what is missing in this entire situation is communication. I personally would not want either as my neighbor because neither he nor she knows how to communicate effectively.
👏🏼 Couldnt have said it better
Absolutely correct! Both are extremists within their own arena.
And how many cats do you own?,,,Hehe...just some friendly banter!
I believe she communicated her feeling well and he did too... They both just see life from different lenses
Lol she's and idiot I'm on the guys side and I'm a feminist woman.
if a stranger walks into somebodies place, like he did in the film, some people would shoot him.
In the US, yes.
@Francesca Di'Frapolli I live in Texas. There are stipulations. Yes I know what I am talking about. We own several weapons...
Once again I'm proud to be from Houston, Texas!
@@rose4490 HI there, I live in Houston Too.
* rightfully so
As a woman, I can see both sides of the story. My personality is akin to the guy's, but I've also been in the girl's position. Great short, it really made me think.
It is interesting that you say that. I also understand both sides. If you are a shy guy, you are doomed for loneliness. At least he has balls to make so many advances. Yet he is definitely overdoing them, and crossing the line between confidence and being a jerk. I still think most girls would prefer such a slightly creepy guy over a nice guy.
Thank you for this. I see a lot of comments talking about victim blaming and how wrong it was to “isolate” her. But this is clearly a tightly knit group, and he’s already friends with all of them. Sure his behavior was objectively off putting at times but the other side of it is that he has no obligation to fix her stuff or invite her to parties. I think the final scene actually edges toward the fact that she may have been wrong; he really does organize events, he wasn’t just trying to ask her on a date.
@Bia L Maybe. Maybe not. The point is that it could go either way.
@Bia L Not necessarily, there are some people who just have that type of personality and are like that with everyone. You have to realize the line between who’s a creep and who’s not is subjective. Some people are just not compatible. What matters is putting your foot down when someone makes you uncomfortable. You aren’t going to get along with everyone. Clearly by how confident and easygoing he is people often like him, but that’s also given him a warped sense of reality where he believes that everyone will like him because his friends do. She should be proud of herself for not tolerating the behavior. This is a universal struggle and ignoring Tim will only send the message that your fine with it, causing the situation to become worse. “People treat you how you let them”
@@StRanGerManY Hell no after you get rejected the first time leave the person the hell alone. It was clear that she was uncomfortable she never gave him any sort of hints that she was interested in him. People need to learn how to be more emotionally intelligent
Perfect. I go through this everytime. People telling you that you are from history !
When guys want to know why women don’t give them feedback...this is it...especially when he starts insulting her.
That wasn´t "guys" that was simply a criminal. And yes, I (a guy) had my fair share with those.
Never confront a narcissist or abuser without backup.
Well done...the acting really portrayed the tension,and discomfort👍
This guy succeeded in making her look like the villain, so sad.
It’s no surprise that it was after he used the tap that it automatically started dripping.
I think the director of this short film purposely left that part vague. It depends on your perspective. Those who believe he was being inappropriate will reason that he purposely played with the taps to force them to drip so that she would need his help fixing them. Another interpretation is that this was just the result of a faulty old tap and the water dripping is a metaphor for the thoughts that are racing through her mind and her unease at this seemingly uncomfortable predicament.
Here we go
As a guy I've been on the reverse side of this situation when I literally had no interest, was trying to be helpful the way my parents taught me, and then became frustrated at being labeled a deviant by an overly anxious woman. Despite this- I also know the reverse has happened: where a guy has ill intent and is being devious with his advances so as to make things safe for himself. The movie can indeed be viewed from two perspectives with 4 lessons (one about anxiety and another about the physical presence of threat men pose, often without being aware, one about bad men, and another about social dynamics and the advantages of familiarity). I find it sad that the vocal viewership is focusing on only one of each. Fear is a powerful motivator, but if you lean too hard on it you are likely to fall into the camp that makes anxiety driven mistakes and ends up alone.
@@ClockworkAnomaly NotaNameist knew at the age of 14.
Ugh. Everyone always making excuses for creepy behavior. I would have immediately thanked him and then closed and locked the door. I don't care about being "nice."
Dealing with people who have boundaries issues is very difficult. If they knew they had boundaries issues, then they wouldn't have boundaries issues.
I don't think she is overreacting. He was being very intrusive from the beginning. Not showing boundaries, making her feel uncomfortable. Like she said, she doesn't know him.
Does this guy own the building or something? Why he thinks he can barge in the girl's apartment space, don't ask for water but walks about 5 feet round the corner IN HER HOME to drink from her pipe, and touch her garments though I'm sure there was a basket he could have put the garments in. I believe he doesn't understand boundaries or even just someone else's discomfort. All of his actions are a front up until the girl confronts him.
Then again, she kind of needs to take ownership of her own space as well. Her first mistake was walking away leaving the door unoccupied to put a box all the way in her room....... Like what!?! You don't know him that well to be oblivious, it could have gone a different way in that split moment. Plus I think the way she handled the conversation with the guy was poor.
I’m speechless/ I don’t even know where to start
@Jim Halfpenny 😂
This literally happened to my friend not long ago but instead of her friends ostracizing her we supported her. The guy was my friend before I met her so no excuse that the couple knew him before her. He is no longer my friend.
That's just so creepy just turning up in the middle of the night.