The Science of Loneliness and Isolation | Robin Joy Meyers | TEDxChelseaPark
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- The physical effects of loneliness and isolation are as real as thirst, hunger or pain. Although we are in an age of instant global connectivity, with our use of email, texting and smartphones, professional and social media, we’re actually feeling more alone than ever. In this vulnerable and inspiring talk Molecular Geneticist, Robin Joy Meyers, shares her own journey from isolation and hiding, to trusting who she is in the world and speaking out about what’s possible by using science. She reminds us that we are enough and that by relying on the science of neuroplasticity, we can change our habits and create the life we are meant to live. Robin Joy Meyers is an international speaker, fear strategist, author, radio host, and molecular geneticist. Robin Joy specializes in science-based strategies and techniques for self- awareness, mindset, leadership, balance/boundaries and the positive power of fear to empower women with tools to be put into action immediately. An expert in transitions, Robin Joy founded Navigate2Empower to educate and empower women through executive coaching, workshops, and speak- ing engagements. As a molecular geneticist, Robin discovered the TUB36 gene, a gene that affects the wing formation of fruit flies. She is also the host of the popular radio show, Activate Bold Choices, and is best-selling author of “Alone but Not Lonely” and “The Art of Unlearning: Getting Out of Your Comfort Zone.” This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
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I am sitting all by myself with nobody in my life homeless in Pittsburgh and when she say she’s married I laughed inside..
How though?? I’m not left with any tools in my isolation after watching this. There’s so many videos on how loneliness destroys health, leads to early death etc, but next to nothing on practical solutions. I need help and can’t find it.
What helps me is to just throw yourself into what you hate or fear the most. Like different social scenarios that i feel arent who i am or i dont belong in. It breaks me down and i feel embarrassed and ashamed but i learn a lot and that info never leaves me. It's not about putting on a facade or acting like a normal human after a while. Once i started just being honest and not trying to please people, while remaining very polite i attracted people who understand me. It's about saying screw it and facing that fear. Its not very practical and maybe it doesnt work for anyone else but me, but it helps to think of it as fishing. You cannot catch the fish you want with the bait you want. You catch the fish you want with the bait the fish wants. Meaning you cant think about how you should be, you should be how you think.
I do not know you but I hope you deal with isolation well and find connections and friends and happiness and meaning.
Take care. Merry Christmas.
Read “Lost Connections” by Johan Hari. Hari was depressed for years and on SSRI medication. He told himself it worked. It didn’t. What he discovered is a story of disconnectedness, and the grief associated with it, was at the root of our mental health crisis. To start, find a community to do some volunteer work with. You won’t regret it! 😉
it's not a solution i reccomend, but I have become more agressive, more wreckless and more daring when dealing with people. I have become an asswhole and unbearable to be around, i have pushed humanity away and as a result, therre is little to no semblance of human left inside me as i become bitter and resent those who have hat i wish for. don't become like me, this is not a good life,
I choose isolation because I don’t want anyone to get close to me so I won’t get hurt anymore. I know I’m safe from pain and heartache
Same except I cant choose it, im always isolated. I just tell myself I isolate myself from others because I know deep down it would happen no matter what path I choose.
I wish she explained more about how to get out of the patterns of isolation…
Being isolated and isolating are different. For some of us, we are isolated because there is literally nowhere to enter into social contact. We've set up a world where everyone is atomized and we are given myriad petty stimulations to compensate. Electronic 'connection' is in no way a substitute for in-person contact. Electronic interactions are not even really social interactions. This kind of video is toxic in that it tries to blame the person too much. She was still embedded in a family and a community. When people have to context, it's not a matter of just coming out of "hiding" or changing behavior. It's the same copout that has caused the problem in the first place. This is why I rarely watch TED talks.
Hiding and fear aren't necessarily the reason for isolation. Such as, remaining single &/or childless when friends and family gotten married and had a family; living with chronic illness particularly invisible illness; and working from home or being unable to work. All of these reasons contribute to social isolation and none of them have anything to do with hiding or fear.
Single and childless people are generally happier i have a child and im miserable about it
I certainly identify with what you are saying. I am so shy and fearful, yet outgoing and love connecting with people. But, sometimes I just can't get rid of the nagging feeling that I might be hurt, laughed at, rejected. I know where this all comes from, and it has been a long road to getting to the real me. It is helpful to come across inspiration such as this. Thanks for connecting the dots.
Thank you and I totally get it. So appreciate your comments.
You're not alone.
@@robinjoymeyers709 amazing ❤️
Thank you Brenda for watching. It certainly is a process and know that you are not alone in the journey.
@@bernadettedecelo8639 Thank you for watching
Love it Robin! You are enough too! I'm so proud of you overcoming your obstacles and helping others to do that too!
Thank you Rebecca.
Thank you so much for uplifting and inspiring the world with your beautifully told story, Robin!
Wonderfully delivered! Thank you Robin!
Thank you!
Great work and much needed message!
I very often feel very lonely and isolated, especially during this lockdown. It is so important to have help and support from your loved ones, especially during this lockdown when so many of our opportunities to socially interact are shut down.
This talk is the most underated voice of my entire youtube experience!Thank you very kindly for your contribution to life!
Just talking about how it is harmful to you doesn't help. We all know some way or the other our loneliness is impacting us in. The real issue is we are unable to overcome the things that are holding us back, and there's no clear solution.
I’m 4 minutes in and blown away by this women’s diction. I agree with everything she’s said
Love it!
Great job Robin!
Robin’s candor about loneliness and isolation is so moving. Her transformation gives hope to anyone who has struggled with these issues.
Empowering talk
Not for me it doesn't. I dont hide, nor do I let my fear control me, yet Ive never been so isolated. I attend clubs, do activities with others, I put the foot forward. Yet nobody gives me a chance. My personality isnt bad, I am friendly and accommodating to everyone. And yet im so cripplingly alone, its devastating. I don't relate at all to this talk, sadly.
Thank you Robin
Thanks
awesome!!!!! So inspiring and powerful story Robin.
Thank you
Amazing job, Robin!
Thanks
That was great Rob. Fear and isolation can also make a person believe that they don’t care to socialize anymore.
Thank you and you are right.
I got divorced my children grew up all my friends got married and I'm constantly alone at home and all day at work, sometimes it's awesome somedays feels like my heart is broken and I'm sick to my stomach
I'm not sure if this will help anyone, but I've made a playlist of comforting background sounds of a woman humming as she does daily things (vacuuming, blow drying her hair, cooking, etc.) I hope it helps!
Good job, Robin! Great message!
Thank you Michelle
@@robinjoymeyers709 you're welcome.
Thank you:)
Great talk, Robin! My job highlighted this for Loneliness Awareness Week
@@forlove319 thank you for your comment. I am honored that my talk was highlighted and hope it shed some light.
I never miss Church and I help with the kids. I'm square dancing, working out in a group, I'm in a weight loss support group, hooked up with a lot of family, garden club, all kinds of stuff. I've never been so lonely. Eating whatever, wishing time would go faster
I listened. Thanks for the information that I can re-calibrate brain dots, because isolation is wanting...
Thanks for listening!
Hmmm.. I'm currently in 2nd year college. Maybe I really should not isolate myself from people, and get friends.
I'm glad I found this video about the physical and emotional impact of isolation. It answered my question if whether I'll keep my distant from people.
Do you think Gs could be changed to As using quantum particles on Mitochondrial DNA mutations at set point 3243? Asking for my family.
Digital addiction is a thing. Rehabilitation for Digital Addiction Clinics are few and far between.
Help me... Please
Isolation seems the only option to live in peace and freedom from; domination, control and manipulation .
Am I wrong?
Lonely and isolated with a Significant other and 3 children? Okay.
It can happen, don't be so judgmental.
Right! Try not having a SO or children or parents 😂 then she’ll know what isolation and loneliness is! Plus she had a career with co-workers. She was just self-absorbed and didn’t care to connect with her husband and children 🤭
I think this loneliness and the social problems associated with it can be directly linked to the toxic effects of FEMINISM, where women were brainwashed into thinking they didn't need a man and that as all women were goddesses, no mere man was actually good enough for them. It may take generations for society to recover from this poison, if it ever does.
I'm sorry, but that was fear, not isolation.
Isolation is when you don't have a husband, or children, or real friends, or, in syntesis, when you did not run to hide in the first place, but you were left alone.
That is different.
Loneliness and socialization are like two sides of the coin of life. If we we cannot have joy out of any one side, the other side has no meaning or significance. Have you heard this story?...Some great power lifted Robinson Crusoe up in the air and placed him on the British Ilse and dictated, "Ye shall live a life of socialization here for an indefinite period of days or years of your life" "So be it" pat comes the reply from Crusoe. After some time he is lifted up again and placed on a lonely Island with the dictation," Ye shall live here, utterly lonely for an indefinite period of days or years of your life." "So be it" comes the reply again from Crusoe. Obviously he is the master of both loneliness and socialization. He has no choice of one over the other, no yearning or desire to move from one to the other. If you move to the East of the World you can find another God, the great Hanuman, the god of Independence. Move to the East to unearth deeper meaning of life!
Thank you for watching. We do have the ability to reduce loneliness and isolation.
Enough of philosophy. Is anyone going to tell how get out of it.
Yes..change ur mind by action...not by thinking about how to change. So..change ur habits ..join a club..go out of routine ..hope that helps..btw this is the outcome of searching for the same answers.. was in the same rut..but I took a step in another direction...and i realized i needed ppl more than I recognized.thanks for reading. Meant with the best of intentions.regards