Keith Sits with Us | You Can Sit With Us Ep. 167
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- čas přidán 2. 10. 2023
- Keith recounts his experience in the NICU and how fatherhood feels.
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We're your new best friends. In our weekly podcast we dive into female friendships, current events, and what's going on in our lives. Come sit with us, and enjoy!
PODCAST DEPT
Executive Producer | Keith Habersberger
Executive Producer | Eugene Lee Yang
Executive Producer | Zach Kornfeld
Podcast Producer | Rainie Toll
Audio Engineer | Jonathan Kirk
MUSIC: Licensed from AudioNetwork
SFX & VIDEO ASSETS: Licensed from Videoblocks - Komedie
Keith reading to the babies in the NICU is the sweetest thing I've ever heard. 🥹
Oh yeah that really got me 😭😭💕
I cried
Immediate tears
This is totally Keith canon.
I have said this in a comment before and I will keep saying this, Keith has the biggest heart ever, he is literally the sweetest❤
“She is refusing to accept the reality. Which is fine” is a new favorite Keith quote of mine.
Zs
Seeing Keith in dad mode is so comforting
I always knew he’d make the best dad. ❤
I'm not wearing my glasses and read comforting as confronting... I came to the comments to make sure you were laughed at.... It is sooo comforting! I am sorry my blindness ever doubted you.
It's sounds kind of low bar, but it's really amazing how great some men can actually be. 💜
I wanna be their child in my next life
Eugene being super involved in her pregnancy and "Uncle Zach" wanting to hold the baby all the time is so so cute.
I love hearing Eugene being super supportive of Becky during her pregnancy 💜 Baby Henry has quite the village!
Honestly their village is so beautiful to hear about 🥰
The idea that the expectations of fathers are to do nothing in child rearing and that Keith is one of the exceptions is abominable.
I think those expectations have definitely been changing for a while now. Still crappy fathers exist but Keith isn’t the only exception thankfully. I’m so grateful for my husband who is an amazing father
@@ericafiala5105 I definitely think it’s changing but I still think a double standard exists, and how fathers are praised up the wazoo for doing basic parenting when that should be the minimum standard anyway.
They definitely get praised like crazy when they do basic parenting. However let’s be thankful that modern fathers are helping out more and it’s becoming a standard in general.
My older brother recently became a father for the first time, and the comments my mother makes about not understanding why my brother is involved in feeding and changing the baby made me so confused. Apparently she did everything with me and my brother, which was typical at the time.
I think it's older generations praising modern dads because our own fathers were so hands off. I remember my grandma just gushing over my husband changing diapers because my grandfather never changed a single diaper when my mom and her siblings were little. Changing diapers was like parade level celebration for her.
Becky worrying about Jared having to get back home hours after giving birth is both hilarious and incredible maternal energy
Not really, it’s just being a friend
Henry being a chill baby is so on brand for a Habersberger 😂
Also, loving food and having adult-sized burps.
Henry, is unknowingly, Daddy's Favorite 🥺
Another example of why having both "gendered" bathrooms with changing tables, period products, and other necessities is important!
DAMN! Baby Henry already sitting in on executive meetings and shadowing Auntie Rachel to see how sh*t gets done. Love this for him!
Obviously, very thrilled to have Keith sit with us.
well, he is partial heir to the second try empire
Boss Baby 👶🏼
@@smells1e.-_imagine try guys run by june poppy and henry 🤣🤣
@@Heeyitsmikaomfgoodness i love this so much
@Heeyitsmika yes! I approve of these nepo babies!
Instead of asking “can I hold the baby”, you can offer “I’m happy to hold the baby if you need, while you eat, rest, have a shower ect”. That way parents know your keen, but can pick when and if they hand their baby over. “CAN I HOLD YOUR BABY” can be very hard to say no to and puts parents in an awkward position
i know it is the most unimportant part of beckys labour and henrys birth story but PLEASE please get jared on for like 10 mins just to tell us his perspective during and immediately after 🤣😭😭
I would love to hear his thoughts 😂
Pro tip: gently tie a balloon to Henry’s leg and lay him on his back. He’ll kick, the balloon will jerk around, and he’ll go nuts. Babies fuckin love balloons.
I mean shit I'm 28 and I love balloons lol
Yes to this. Ballons keep being fun for them for a very long time. I tie balloons to strings then tie that to my ceiling fan, it's one of my 1 year old's favorite activity.
But always under active supervision because balloons are a huge choking hazard
I like your username 🤪 (I’m also a girl lolll)
Maggie speed eating to hold the baby is so real.
Honestly I used to do this all the time with my friend’s baby when we’d have dinner together haha an
Keith, I'm pretty sure there is no woman out there who would judge a man using the women's restroom to change their baby's diaper. Same thing for if you have a daughter who needs to go potty, take her in the women's restroom, it's fine.
they shouldn't have to though the mens restrooms should have baby changing facilities too especially for single dads / gay dads
@@rosepetal34 exactly, it's extremely strange that they don't have them
They shouldn't but there is always a Karen somewhere 😢
@@rosepetal34there are family restrooms in majority of major shopping centers especially in metro areas. Family restrooms cover all the above mentioned
The men who have been harassed by Karens will argue that point
"YES. Hold his head. Don't let him fall. Go with God." 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Sounds right
I so appreciate how they are clearly parents who won’t just hand their kid off to someone and leave. Keith asking if Rachel was okay having the baby was such a breath of fresh air. One of my biggest frustrations is when parents don’t watch their kids the moment they get around other people. If those ppl want the baby, sure, but you can’t just assume other people will watch your kid for you!
Becky made a comment similarly in the previous episode! As the person who usually has to watch the kid while the caregiver walks away, thank you!
For sure. I'm the kind that always want to hold the baby, but not everyone is, and that is so very fine!
Exactly! My brother and his girlfriend (16 and 17 at the time) used to do this all the time and it was so annoying. They would drop the baby off onto whoever’s lap and walk away/go home and you wouldn’t see them until hours later (usually because they just went to smoke weed). Never was asked to watch them. They did this to my cousins (12 and 15) me, my mom, my sister, dad, whoever. It finally was addressed when I invited them and family swimming at the hotel I was staying at when visiting home and they dropped the baby in my lap in the hotel room and took off swimming themselves. (I think I was there for my moms birthday and they couldn’t even give her a break to relax, just kept asking for rides everywhere and kept leaving baby with her) 🙃 It ended real soon after that. I love me niece and my brother but yikes.
I love hearing Keith be such an attentive parent. Hearing him talk about different kinds of cries is so wholesome.
keith about his baby is so similar to my dad with me and my brother. his least favorite statement when we were younger was "babysitting the kids" and keith really gives off that energy too. slay keith, slay
Same, having grown up with an involved dad like Keith I genuinely think is one of the reasons I don't fully mistrust men.
i grew up with the opposite dad and its very real. I'm so glad you had a true dad and partner for your mom :) i feel so bad for my mom not having a true partner with her children.
@@aliflanagan7669even though my dad and I don’t talk now, I can say I had a really great childhood with him. He was as involved as he could be (even in Girl Scouts!) and Keith gives off a similar vibe
No literally my dad was alone with us or took us places all the time. We turned out so well BECAUSE my dad was so involved, especially emotionally
Same, my dad was taking me out on his own from when I was a week old, and was super invested in looking after me from the get go (and still does a lot to look after me - sadly my mum died almost a decade ago now)... my parents did end up divorcing when I was 10, but taking care of me and sharing the parenting load was never an issue that contributed to their relationship not working out... I even recently found the custody schedule with all my extracurricular activities carefully written out by my dad when they were working out how it was gonna be split as evenly as possible, including all the changes my dad was making to his work hours to maximise the time he could spend with me and working overtime when he didn't have me/I was busy so that he could take me to & pick me up from school as often as possible (til I could easily get there myself)... He never complained about doing this, or taking me to things - because in his mind it's just so _obvious_ that you aim to be as involved in raising your kid as possible and of course that's what he wanted to do because being a dad has always brought him joy and he enjoyed every bit of it when I was little.
I didn't realise that having a dad like mine wasn't the case for everyone til I became more aware of other family dynamics outside of family and my parents' friends with kids because all of the dads were as involved (in my kid brain at least)... it was genuinely baffling finding out that some people had unsupportive/uninterested dads when I became best friends with someone who had a dad that wasn't like mine... it was very sad but they luckily have an awesome mum, and her mum & brothers were all really helpful and supportive - but they definitely resented and didn't like their dad, and I felt that way too... especially when my mum met my step dad and he was immediately more supportive & involved in my life than my friend's dad was in their's. Thankfully their mum found a really good guy who actually seemed to care for them even though he hadn't ever originally planned on having kids of his own, and is who they consider their dad. Some people just shouldn't be parents 🙃
I was so confused about one parent not being able to stay home, then I remembered Canada has up to 18 month protected parenting leave and the US does not.
Yeah, as a Swede, that was very much an "OH right...the US" moment
right? Idk what goes on in those united states
Yeah… in Croatia you get 3 *paid* years off for twins or if you had a third child… you can also take few months off when you adopt.
Parents in the US should riot.
That would be so nice. 😩
US here! My sister had unpaid maternity leave for 10 weeks, but had to go back to work just after 5 weeks because they were not going to be able to pay their bills. At this time she was working from home because of Covid and they expected her to work as if she didn’t just have a baby. My mom helped out a lot when my sister was working. Unfortunately, they acted like her having a baby and needing time off for doctor appointments was her “not being a team player”. She quit that job and is working her own cleaning service now. 😊 edit: that job was horrible to her. No joke, they asked her to log on to her laptop while she was in labor at the hospital!!!
It’s so interesting how different Becky and Keith’s descriptions are. Keith makes it seem so chill, when you know dude had to be freaking out 😂
I love Keith's nuance between guys and men when he talks about people not invested in their wifes' labour.
We had a NICU baby too! As scary as it was, getting Baby Bootcamp from all the amazing nurses really did feel like a silver lining.
HARD agree from another NICU mamma!
My NICU baby was my second and I felt more educated bringing home my preemie than I did with my firstborn😂
First he took on the “married” role, now he’s taken on the “Dad” role
I was at an open mic coffee house event, and a mama was trying to balance her baby on her lap and eat while holding her plate. I could see that she was not exactly struggling but not having the easiest time. I asked if she would like me to hold her baby while she was eating, and she said yes. It was a little bit awkward to just hold a stranger's baby, but it felt more like just helping someone for a minute.
very kind of you to do that
I was on an airplane next to a woman flying alone with her baby, and I could tell she was wondering how she was supposed to get her stuff while holding the baby, so I offered to help. It was strange to hold a stranger's baby, but after I had smiled at the baby (and the baby returning the smiles) for a long chunk of the flight, I think she felt that it was a safe choice 😅
keith's swaddled baby impression is incredible. my son's an escape artist with his arms every time.
Please let rainie hold Henry she practically opened the podcast with a professional way of saying please let me hold baby Henry lol 😆 ❤❤❤❤
And Becky said as soon as he's got all his vaccinations she's handing him to rairai! The little nickname was super cute
I love that Eugene was worried for his wife Becky! Rank king is so supportive for his Rank Queen! But seriously congratulations again to Keith and Becky we love hearing about baby Henry
Sending lots of love to Keith, Becky, and baby Henry!! 💙 P.S. Micropreemie here, born 3 months early in 1983, 2 lbs. 2 oz.!! #preemiepower
Yea! Me too! Born at 27 weeks. 1 lb 10. In 87. Preemies rock! I don’t know how our moms did it back then!!!
Fellow preemie born 12 weeks early in '96, 2 lbs, 11 oz!
Fellow preemie baby!!! Born at 24 weeks in 2002. 1lb 6oz❤
I was 2 months early!
@@kelseynorton8327 weeks as well! 1lb and after I lost the water weight, 8oz.
as the eldest daughter who took care of my baby brother (I was 12) more than my dad ever did with any of us, I wish all men were more like keith 🥺♥️
Yes, same….
It’s actually appalling that a country that tries to control the uterus and force people to give birth doesn’t have family rooms and change rooms everywhere 😬😬😬😬😬😬
There are so many contradictions in the U.S. about this topic. Especially when people are pro-life but then don’t want to provide welfare for those women who have children they struggle to afford. It seems less about the child and more about control.
the US frankly has never made sense ever. the whole country is built on hypocrisy.
Or maternity leave!!
Or maternity leave!!
wait til you find out breastfeeding is actually indecent exposure in a lot of states (aka a woman could be a sex offender for breastfeeding)
Ok 1) Keith is a SWEETHEART
and 2) Happy Mean Girl’s Day, You Can Sit With Us! It finally landed on October 3rd ❤
I've been watching TGs since 2014, and to see them get married, partnered and now parents is like watching your best friends glow up. It's giving major warm and fuzzies.
As if keith could be any more of the definition of GREEN FLAG. I am so happy and excited for you both, welcome to the world Henry :) weve found our 4th try guy!!!!! Ps how refreshing is it to hear a man talk like Keith did??? All wives deserve this. Congrats again Becky & Keith :)
Cannot tell you how much I appreciate Becky and Keith sharing so much about the birth story and the early days of parenthood! I have no plans to ever become a parent myself, but it is so interesting to learn about all the aspects of pregnancy and birth and parenthood that people don't talk about until they're in it. Thanks for being awesome, and all my love to you both and the baby!
100% the interrupted sleep is so much worse than just less hours of sleep.
Keith, Henry is now Daddy’s favorite! I can’t wait to see Keith coming up with Daddy’s favorites in the new episodes but this time it’s really him.
I’m a Nicu nurse and I love hearing from the parents perspective. I’m glad you had good nurses and got to leave with a healthy baby ❤ I’m sorry you guys ended up there in the first place, but congrats to your new family 🎉
Is anyone else crying over how much love baby Henry has around him? He already has amazing parents, but the love everyone has for him to makes my heart so happy! ❤
I can’t believe Keith did Romeo and Juliet after having a baby
It is pretty shocking that some fathers aren't as involved. I see many dads in the NICU I work at sterilizing the parts and cleaning up the pump. For every dad like that there's the one just sitting in the chair on his phone while Mom is changing the diaper, bathing the baby, and cleaning up the pump. But luckily there are more involved fathers out there and Keith shows he was meant to be a loving husband, Becky's best friend, and an amazing father.
So happy for Becky and Keith that Henry is okay. shout out to Maggie who’s a NICU nurse and she’s so respectful in giving them space to share their story. You guys have such a beautiful friendship.
“i think i always have a calm exterior”
*cue without a recipe rage montage*
Becky should look into a UPF umbrella that can clip onto the stroller! Not only keeps the sun off Henry, but also helps shield from the heat
I loved Keiths reflection on the milestone differences between full term and premie babies. It must make it that much sweeter when you finally start to see them reach some of those milestones because youve waited longer❤️
I like that keith phrased it as friendly and unfriendly beeps vs good/bad
Becky first of all you’re amazing. Second, I love how conscientious you are of other peoples’ experiences. When you said you saw babies in the NICU for a day or two and made a conscious decision to validate the difficulty for those parents it made me thankful for the good people there are in the world. Thank you ❤
Keith and Becky are the type of people you want to see as parents. Congratulations to you both. sorry the plan didn’t go accordingly but I hope everything from here on out is well ❤
I love that Becky calls him Henny because our dog is also named Henry and I call him Henny.
I’m not one of those people who thinks everyone should have kids, but I’m happy Becky and Keith decided to have one! They’re such sweethearts and seem like they’re going to be really fun, lovely parents ❤
Keith sounds like the perfect dad. Im so excited for him and becky
Has Keith ever read for an audiobook? I feel like that would be so soothing
He read parts of the audiobook version of the Try Guys book that they published a few years back!
My friend had a baby in New Zealand and the family bathrooms you are describing at the mall are literally EVERYWHERE there. Some are stand alone in public spaces and not necessarily attached to businesses. I don’t understand why that can’t be the norm in the US.
New Zealand stays winning
Yeah westfeild is an Australian company. They're definitely standard in shopping centres, libraries etc in australia
the us is very large and also has an individualistic culture. it changes from store to store, a lot have family bathrooms but some just don’t. its not federally regulated
Keith, every large building (mall, restaurant, hospital, movie theater, etc.) does have the space to offer a family friendly bathroom/lounge like the one in Century City you described. It’s simply that the developer does not prioritize that need over the ability to monetize the square footage. Thank you for bringing this up. ❤❤❤
My son was born at 30 weeks, weighing 2lb 12oz. Stayed 5 weeks in the hospital. We got to take him home at exactly 35weeks and he weighed 5lbs. My son is 10 now and taller than most kids his age ❤
I love this energy. So loving and supportive. 💖 While I don't care about he who shall not be named, I am a little sad that Ariel can't be a part of all this.
Im sure they are, just keeping that stuff private
Becky validating pet parents ❤
My father was just like Keith when I was a small bean, taking care of me, helping my mum as much as possible, for example, I had to basically sleep upright because of some bad case of colitis, so he would just sit in his armchair, holding me, falling asleep like that! Almost 30 years later, he still loves to sleep in his armchair.
You're going to be great parents ❤
Habersbaby! Babyberger! So excited for you both!!!
A slider!
Keith arriving home and going "give me my baby!" is adorable.
Becky’s point about getting outside with baby as soon as you feel comfortable is so important. Getting out of the house helps a lot with ppd. The day I would walk out of the house with baby in a carrier and everything shoved in my pockets… so freeing
I knew Keith and Becky would be good parents but hearing them talk about Henry just proves it!
Also you all have no responsibility to tell us anything at all but we thank you for sharing! Good luck on your new journey!
Love that Becky talked about PMDD and post-partum and her treatment throughout pregnancy. It is something that is so normal yet so stigmatized and very refreshing to hear about it on such a large platform.
1:00:34 “does he need direct sunlight?” 😂 not Rainie comparing Henry to a houseplant 🪴
I was born 3 months premature. I decided I wanted a December birthday instead of a March birthday. My parents told me my birth story and told me I was in the NICU for 6 months. You guys are amazing! Congratulations on your beautiful healthy baby boy. Much love!
Hi fellow 3 months early preemie, we're *survivors*!! I wanted July to be my birthday instead of October. 😅 2 lbs. 2 oz., 1983. #preemiepower
3 month preemie too! April instead of July 3lbs 4 oz
Same, chose an end-of-the-summer birthday instead of an Halloween one😂. I was a 2 months premie and it was though, can’t imagine what you had to go through 3 months premie!
My December baby tried to come in October but we made him stay put until the 1st of November😂
Me too! I was meant for Feb-Mar and I came out 12-27-93 at 1lb and was in the NICU for 3 months w multiple brain bleeds that resulted in unknown hydrocephalus that we didn’t find until I was 26 in 2020.
I love how woke Keith is. He’s a good dad. That’s so wonderful. Gives me hope for the new generations of men. Also I think it’s pretty nice to have this podcast for parents to learn or just in general. Very good to learn
i love how on 0:22 when becky started saying our sweet sweet keith put out his hand but then put it down immediately when he realized she was talking about matt
Rainie’s questions/follow ups are always so good on all the podcasts. This was a great episode. 🙌
'when you're experiencing a lot of stress, you want sugar, because it does a mild stress relief'
me with a anxiety disorder: oh that explains a lot
Congratulations on baby Henry and a quick recovery for you Becky!
i’m sorry but henny habs is the cutest nickname i’ve ever heard 😭
"Jared seems unsoothed for some reason"
Omg just googled the nursing room at century city mall and damn THAT'S really a good idea they implemented
I’m in Australia so idk but most shopping centres have parents rooms exactly like they explained here. So wild that it isn’t more of a thing in the states!
You aren’t kidding. I did the same and found an Architectural Digest article with pics of the nursing areas and family room. Posh!
Seeing how much Keith has grown throughout all his life roles, from boyfriend to husband to dad, makes me trust a little more in men, and also hope for someone like this one day. The way you spoke about the whole hospital situation was actually much more chill as compared to when Becky was explaining it. But I felt this was easier to hear as well. Well, all the best to both of you on your parenting journey and lots of love to the whole community 🩷
These last two episodes have been so sweet, but for some reason I am most moved by the image of the NICU nurses moving the other babies closer while Keith was reading to Henry, oh, my heart 😭❤
Im only 8 minutes in so I dont know how the rest goes just yet but Im curious to know what Jared's reaction was to all of this. Did he stick around for a few more days, what was his reaction realizing what was happening in the moment.
Who is Jared?
Jared popkin I'm guessing. He's been on the tryguys a lot and prob on vacation with them. They mention him at the beginning
Yes! I want an entire entire non rushed part for Jared
Yeah! They talk about it on the preview episode. Jared (Popkin) was on vacation with them and hanging with Becky on the sofa when her water broke
@lilbanna8162 we got a snippet of him getting ride back home. I guess this counts. I can't even imagine what was going on in his mind
i don't like babies or ever want to have one but i definitely listened to this whole episode 🤣 im glad everyone is happy and healthy 💛 also i really adore how Becky talks about her pregnancy, using the connective "we" a lot and so naturally too. you can really tell Becky and Keith are a solid unit.
Hearing that Keith read the his baby (and other babies) in the NICU is just the most heartwarming / kieth-iest thing Ive ever heard
I hope more men hear Keith talk about this. So many men are absent from many parts of child raising. I wish my experience with my kids was like this but it's not. Both parents need to parent and especially in the beginning the birthing person needs time to heal so more help is needed on the part of the other parent.
Birthing person?
.....you mean "mother" ?
Only women can give birth.
Becky and Keith are so cute together ❤❤❤ it’s adorable how she watches him tell their stories from his pov
All these recent episodes have n made me tear up. I am so happy for them and for Henry to have the best parents ❤️
Rainie asking to hold Henry without ASKING to hold him 🥹🥹
So happy for you both. I had my baby boy 5 weeks ago and had a different but also traumatic experience. Hearing you recount your story has brought on a lot of tears remembering the fear, pain, uncertainty, and how in the midst of all that somehow existed the greatest joy of my life. Having a baby is a wild ride!
Congratulations to you! ❤
I'm so sorry it was a traumatic experience but congrats on your lovely baby!
Thank you for being so open to talk about this. I know it must have been heart wrenching in the moment, but I am really appreciative that you’re so willing to have these hard conversations about such difficult experience because (as someone who is terrified of giving birth) I think it’s the not knowing that is the scariest part. You’re really helping future parents out there to not feel so alone in their similar experiences. I’m happy to hear Henry and parents are all happy and healthy now. Congratulations on your new stage of life! ❤
@28:40 I love keith's distinction between "guys" and "men" here. really lets you know where his respect lies.
Thank you for this 😭😭😭💖💕as my son and I went through an emergency c section the night before lockdown...no one still understands the first month we were locked in the hospital alone. As a try guy fan from the VERY beginning...(I'm 30 now) thank you. Gonna cry happy tears and go cuddle my boy. Here for the new parent Era 💕💕💕💕
he deserves this fatherhood i’m so proud of both of yall
I had that conversation about the lack of changing rooms in Maine men's bathrooms when I was a baby (90s) and he said you make due, figure something safe and sanitary out. Lots of squatting and laying the baby across your legs to change them. Uncomfy for all involved which is why we need more family bathrooms and changing tables in ALL bathrooms.
The way they described the family bathroom sounds pretty typical of parent restrooms in Australian shopping centres or at least every one I’ve been in. Some are nicer than others but it never occurred to me that you wouldn’t at least expect feeding booths, a comfy chair and changing spaces. I hope they become more normal worldwide.
Aww Keiths such a good dad already love yall
As a former NICU mama I still hear the beeps in my sleep and my twins are 5 now
So proud of you both! Our twins were 4 lbs 12oz and 4 lbs 6oz. So, the NICU experience was long for us also. You have no idea how helpful you are doing the tasks for Becky while in recovery, so Bravo! Make sure you both get help later on. There's a weird period when the trauma memories come back. But I can see how great you both are! Congratulations again!
Can’t wait to listen to this, congrats Keith and Becky! ❤❤
The families walking into the mall bathroom all being so hapily surprised made me laugh out loud
As someone who's water broke 4 days (at 36+3) before my labour started (at exactly 37 = so no longer premie), the contractions I had whilst unable to move, strapped to a bed being monitored, were by far the most painful. After I was 'allowed' to get up and move around it was so much better, honestly those bed-bound restricted contractions were worse than when the ring of fire happened! Hats off to Becky for having all their contractions no able to move, the pain must have been unimaginable.
Thank you for validating the NICU stays that are only a couple days. My daughter was there for low oxygen for a few days, full term, and I felt like such a poser to call ourselves NICU parents (I still don't) because we weren't there long and we left with a full-term healthy baby. However, yeah that first day was terrifying, we still had the 20 people swarming her, running her downstairs, doing pokes and prods and xrays, having her connected to wires. My best friend had a baby with a congenital heart condition discovered at birth that presented also with low oxygen, so for a good 12 hours I was convinced we'd be running into open-heart surgery. Luckily not the case, she just needed help with her lungs getting on-board, but it was so scary. We had to scramble baby-sitting for our oldest at home for the extra days.
I think it's wonderful that Keith was reading to the babies. when my niece was in the NICU, the nurses told my sister & brother-in-law that there are people who just simply do not visit their babies in the NICU.
Okay now we need Jared on the pod to give his side 😂
I don’t need pictures and videos of the baby I’m happy and love the baby just from enjoying Keith’s imitations of the baby
Omg the beeps reminds me of a story- I don't remember why we were even talking about it but mom said the vacuum soothed me a lot after coming home as a preemie & dad joked about my liking Darth Vadar
BUT YOU KNOW WHAT I REALIZED? It was soothing because it sounded like all the hospital noise 😭😂
My first night outside the womb I fell asleep with my dad's watch on the pillow beside me, the ticking was like a heartbeat ❤