Why is She Pulling Away? (Short Term vs Long Term Relationships)
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- čas přidán 5. 09. 2024
- Why is she pulling away? (Short term vs Long term relationships)
I’ve been in a few “honeymoon” relationships and was married to a man that I was with for over 12 years. I speak partly from personal experience when talking about what to do when your wife pulls away.
I’ve also spoken with many, many women who’ve left their men and shared with me the reasons why (when they knew why).
However, I feel that because of the many nuances of how long term relationships can deteriorate, I need to emphasize that I’m not a professional therapist and these are my opinions.
In other words, not everything in this video will apply to your personal situation.
Why Is She Pulling Away?
Assuming you haven’t cheated on her or deceived her in some other major way, which is a whole other topic, her pulling away can depend on things like:
1. how long you’ve been together
2. how long she’ been unhappy
How Long You’ve Been Together
There are different stages to relationships, from the honeymoon phase (50 yard dash) to the comfort zone stage (500 meter race) to the endurance phase (pick your long distance marathon!).
Learn how to get and keep her: WakeUP2Luv program: members.wingma...
Disclaimer: I'm not a licenced therapist. You're responsible for your own decisions. Don't break the law.
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What I found particularly hurtful and just down right mean, is when she quits you over a temporary disruption if income. Especially is the comfortable lifestyle including her not working is not affected. Have a little faith! Be more resilient!
It seems that woman had conditional love for you. If it's over money or sex or a bunch of expectations the person's not worth it you will end up getting hurt and the relationship will always be 60/40 where you will be putting in more that person puts in less and less until they leave
It's easy to blame the man for the reasons of breaking up... if the woman pulls away it just shows their egoistic way of thinking ( me myself and i) instead of trying to take responsibility in fixing things when she notices her man has issues....
I feel you, it definitely isn't an easy situation but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
She pulls away. Then you wish her well and go meet others. My experience is that 85% of the time pulling away means lack of interest and why moon over someone who doesn’t want you in their life? Forget about it. There are other fish in the seas.
I didn’t realize at the time that expressing my feelings about how liked being with her when we were apart came across clingy. That was a new one for me. I always thought women appreciated men being open about their feelings. Maybe if I’d nuanced it differently she wouldn’t have ended it. Lesson learned.
Oh,
brother I feel for you.
Man, that sucks.
Best wishes for better days bro.
This is a world full of hurt and need we can do something about.
We can find meaning for our lives that wont outgrow us.
Volunteering?
Chicks are chicks.
The forgotten elderly or imperilled children don't care what your credit score is.
Suzie Creancheese may not need you but the world still does.
In Jesus' name.
Good woman without emotional issues like men being able to express their emotions in feelings. If she leaves you because you said you like being with her then she's not worth your time. If you have to hide what you say or feel then that woman isn't worth your time. good riddance
It's like we were conditioned growing up from various sources the opposite of what we should be doing..
Many women say they like guys who are in touch with their feelings. That’s either a test or a lie. Unless they are actually good women who don’t play games.
@@drapered7762 Apparently it’s a mixed bag because I thought women liked men who expressed their feelings. I guess it can make you look needy if you’re not careful.
The less I care about a woman, the more she cares...funny how that works...
arfcomcobra women want to be desired but not needed :)
Just like men find satisfaction in earning rewards in certain areas of life (job promotion, fit bod, building a motor bike), women (unconsciously) feel the need to earn their man. :)
WingmamTV good analogy and a smart woman should take your advice too.
They have radar that tells them when other women are interested in you. It weirdly makes them want you more.
@@YourWingmam I have only one question ?
Great video and I have to admit that most of what you said was on point. I just went through something very similar and unfortunately the end result was both parties parting ways after 6 years and we simply grew apart and there was no going back, nothing left to fix.
Guys...be cautious during honeymoon phase. If SHE wants to be together all the time and initiates getting together, and you just match her desires/interest she will still think your needy. Don't be too available. Maintain your life balance or you won't make the 2nd phase.
For me, if I start to feel like I have to push for them to take the lead, then I question their intent/feelings towards me. Floundering doesn’t make us feel secure.
100% agree on long term.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.
@@YourWingmamthank you :) I love what you do! ❤️
Also I had two LTR's fail because the women had recently lost their father to death. Once their grieving was over ( about a year to 18 months) they were completely different people. After that happening twice I finally learned my lesson on that one.
you actually look exactly like the flowers behind you. beautiful. thanks for the video. every single word you said was so valuable to me. thank you
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
You forgot to mention she could be emotionally unstable and that's why she pulled away
No way women can't take accountability for shit .
I've just realised I've never had a relationship last more than 5 years, so have never been in the "endurance" phase.
That's ok, they were likely not the right women for you. Consider them practice runs! :)
Was married 24 years,
honeymoon over after the first two,
I stuck it out for the next 22, before getting kicked to the curb.
Lesson 1,
That reconciliation idea has GOT to be assigned a sunset clause.
Lesson 2,
You're an idiot or a coward if you don't jump ship after the first 5 years.
You feel very familial to me - your videos are very calming. Thank you!
My pleasure ❤️
The way I see it is if a woman has a problem with me needing her then she has no value to my life. So I will straight up dump her if she acts like that. Men need to develop a backbone and start teaching women that he shouldn't be the only one putting effort into the relationship.
Indeed, it really helps if men embrace that.
Morning MS Anna,great to wake up to love.my grandparents were together for 76 yrs,amazing.thank you for being you and all that you do.
My girlfriend got a job and was working really hard and so during the day you obviously can’t communicate as much. After work you are pretty tired and want to decompress and so we were making less effort to do think and it became too routine but it was actually her who was the one who I felt was pulling away. As soon as I raised it and pointed out that I was not just going to sit and wait for her to lose interest, you realised that she actually didn’t have as much control and that I could decide to leave. She instantly became the girl that I knew before and it’s totally refreshed the relationship as she had to think about the future and invest in us. She just needed a reality check and we’ve been better than ever. So I have to say what you’ve said isn’t always the case.
wow, you just described my relationship more so on the endurance part.
Watches first two vids...on third realizes the name is Wing Mam...subbed.
There are women who force you to be with them. They just won’t leave.
You're absolutely right thank you for sharing!
When she pulled away . I made myself to disappear about 1 month. She started calling me and asking me hangout .i told her I need space. Currently
I am dating a new person but I didn't told her that .
There you go. If you like the new person better, stick with her. :)
This has just happened to me. Was seeing a woman for 2 months. First month was fine. Last few weeks she started acting uninterested. I mentioned it and we seemed to sort things out. We met up the following week and it still didn’t seem right. No intimacy. Just felt like friendship. I ended it on the spot. Wasn’t going to put myself through that. She seemed a bit shocked at me ending it. Very mixed signals. Shame because at the start we were getting on really well. As they say “You win some. You lose some”
So why is it that it's the man's responsibility to always be masculine? What about her role in the feminine? To be sexy and wanton. I'm not a needy person and don't lower myself to begging for sex or attention, but I still crave it. What is one to do when his partner turns off the tap? I feel it is very selfish on her part. If she no longer finds me sexually attractive, she should just own it and tell me so instead of using excuses not to be sexual in the relationship simply because she is comfortable in her lifestyle.
Michael, I completely agree that women need to own their own responsibility of being feminine *and* contribute to the relationship. My audience is 95% men so I provide the information men need to effect change. To be the ripple in their relationship pond.
I will be doing a video for my *Make Women Great Again* series on femininity and how to help women get back to it.
Many men have asked me to do videos for women, but I'm less effective with women because I'm a woman. I think like a man (direct, logical) so women view me as a turncoat (insensitive). I started out working with women but they are too damn emotional (read: irrational) and since I don't want to have sex or a romantic relationship with them, I figured I might as well switch over to men who are enjoyable to work with and who clearly need my help *based on what they have to deal with!*
Make sense?
Why is she pulling away? (Short term vs Long term relationships) I’ve been in a few “honeymoon” relationships and was married to a man that I was with for over 12 years. I speak partly from personal experience when talking about what to do when your wife pulls away. Learn how to get and keep her: WakeUP2Luv program: members.wingmam.com/get-women/
Edit: Actually, it does have something to do with her lack of waxing! If she's slacked off in the grooming field! ;)
Happy New Month of November & Kudos on upsurging with nearly 9k subs'n rising. AJ you 4got to add #youtubesmodestbestkeptsecret to your introduction. I like the 3 stages you divested 50 yard dash 100 sprint & marathon. Yes Nagging is inefficient in the long term. Wow so the 1 who pulls away early is the one who has GROWN? Outgrowing someones insecurities damn thats the 1st ive heard. I hope the goodnews is consoling you in your time of grief as your countenance was still down in this vid albeit this is a classic that will garner alot of views and unlitmately answer alot of questions. Nice to see molly made a guest apperance.
If she's pulling away , its an improvement to doing it yourself.
Thank you so much for your topics nice to see a sane woman for a change! Past and present situations And a lot of red pills later I have had to
Look around a bit for other perspectives . I have been driving down a lost highway for a while . I have suddenly I
Start watching where I’m going I know I’m somewhere between don’t give a shit and still caring thanks for some road signs along the way
This is a great video Anna and your channel is growing more subscribers. Great job!
Thanks, John! Thankful for your continued support!! :))
@@YourWingmam You're very welcome!!! 😉
I was the third man she had walked out on and only the second due to, to much baggage. I had miner children and she had once left her own kids, “This is to much like being married with kids!”
If she "realizes" something after 5-10 years, it seems something is seriously wrong.
My 11 year girlfriend broke us in February. I knew it was coming…..
Met a Lovely lady recently at the restaurant where she worked. Her friend there sent her my pic and phone #, as she’d changed jobs.
Days later she called me. After a 2 1/2 hour conversation, ( we covered LOTS)! …we agreed to meet for lunch.
I’ll admit our core values are polar opposites, but we’re attracted nonetheless. She agreed to do another lunch date, and now she’s ghosting me…….. I think 🤷🏽♂️
Frankly, it’s most likely the best for both of us.
But still….. it’s difficult.
Thank You Anna!
What about when she's not healthy and strong enough? Because a lot of the time she is just as insecure or a lot more insecure but still blame the man for being insecure, even if her behavior is the reasons why he's feeling insecure.
Of course most the time we all play our part but I've notice how common it is for women to blame men for things not working. Even if they literally destroyed the relationship.
Of course men do the same thing.
Yes.
When are women going to be equal?
Anna, let's get back to accountability in women.
MAKE WOMEN GREAT AGAIN: MAKE THEM ACCOUNTABLE ... is my standard with you.
Same situation here, I have the same thing, this is a good question
Two yrs ago a friend of mine introduced me to a girl who had come to live with him and that he had dated 15 yrs before. Somehow both believed they knew each other well enough to go ahead and have a baby. She and I became friends right away and both of us were also attracted to one another but as she was in love with him she let me know between the lines that we were better off this way, and I for my part, assured her that I had messed up pretty badly in my last relationship of 13 yrs and although I was still good friends with my ex, which she admired, and as much as I had grown from my mistakes I was not certain I would make a good partner. Besides, in as much as I liked her she was my friend´s and I had to honor that. However, as she always texts me every couple of weeks for these past two yrs, especially whenever they fight or he goes through a crisis, perhaps bipolar, which I told her is what my ex diagnosed me as with, my mind makes constant loops from seeing them as a couple who I can help stay together as friends of mine or how it would be if she ever left him and later on down the road decided to give us a try. Like her, I´ve also never been sure if things could ever work out between us and wouldn´t want to trash the friendship I have with both of them, however, as her baby girl is now turning one yr old she is beginning to get worried about what kind of dad he will make, since although loving, he is often inflexible, aggressive, aloof and explosive, and unlike her would never submit to therapy. They moved back to their hometown, about an hour away by plane to raise their baby among both their families, half the time in separate houses, so in December they invited me to visit. They both opened up separately so I did my best to reduce the tension created mostly by him and to try to let them know that people aren´t perfect and that they must be more malleable and forgiving of one another for things to work out. I told them that if I had been as well maybe my last relationship could have been better...so I spoke only from my own experience. However, they fight constantly and he told me she stopped sleeping with him months ago so that of course makes me wonder if things have already gone too far to be salvaged. He is intelligent enough to know she and I like each other, but is so self-absorbed and interested in being free from all he has constructed that he keeps pushing her away, tells me about girls he thinks about and generally puts little effort into fixing things, making her feel abandoned so I wonder if he would even care or would actually think me as someone who could take her off his shoulders...or the opposite. For now the logistics and the baby-to-father bond make it impossible for her to move far from him anyway, and may never allow us to live together in reality. At any rate, from time to time she concerns herself with trying to help me meet someone special but I think that in her mind I am plan B. She has commented things like how her baby smiles when she hears my audios and I believe she trusts that I could possibly make a good step dad, should they ever throw in the towel. As I´ve accompanied the entire process and feel close to both parents I see the baby as part of my circle and would feel comfortable helping to raise her even though she´s not mine, should it ever come to that. I want her to be fulfilled with her choices and will support her decision whether it is to stick it out with him for the long run, find a new man some day, raise her daughter alone or eventually move in with me. But I don´t want to be ridiculous or conniving either and would be happy to meet a woman of my own one day and continue having them as friends, whether they stay together or not. I´m curious to know if you have any experience with this sort of situation.
Whether she knows the things I´ve told you or not I must have helped because she said he had improved with her after my visit and that they are happier now. So I will make certain to leave good alone and stay clear of these selfish thoughts. There´s nothing like a wake up call to keep me real and make me concentrate on what is right for me! Thank you for your view, I will take it to heart. I appreciate your videos, they will help direct me towards what I truly need, instead of getting caught up in these types of situations.
Very good info. Very true in my current friendship that has qualities of a relationship. Thanks for the affirmation.
I understand where you're coming from period And I appreciate your point of view. I'm working on a text relationship. There are so many things drawback for just texting, and pictures that you're not sure or her because of the nature of texting. I'm looking at trying to put this to an end and meet face-to-face.
Indeed, it really helps when we embrace that.
Im in an online relationship. After some time you can easily become emotionally attracted if your ideals and goals align....being totally honest...not even one little white lie...be normal...be yourself....it makes the eventual physical meeting that much more pleasurable...!
What do you do if in an long distance LTR and you know she’s pulling away ,but when you ask her about it ,she always says she’s happy with you and the relationship,???? One day she’s all sweet and love texts,and the next day she almost ignores you and just gives you the bare minimum in communication…..It’s driving me crazy cuz I don’t know if I should stay or go….
Address it in a calm and loving manner and if it doesn't change or they show no willingness to change, then it would be best to leave them!
Love this! Thank you
I like listening to your advice.And like your makeup and dress in this video.
Happy New Month of November & Kudos on upsurging with nearly 9k subs'n rising. AJ you 4got to add @ to your introduction. I like the 3 stages you divested 50 yard dash 100 sprint & marathon. Yes Nagging is inefficient in the long term. Wow so the 1 who pulls away early is the one who has GROWN? Outgrowing someones insecurities damn thats the 1st ive heard. I hope the goodnews is consoling you in your time of grief as your countenance was still down in this vid albeit this is a classic that will garner alot of views and unlitmately answer alot of questions. Nice to see molly made a guest apperance.
Thank you so much, Jarod! What a rollercoaster of emotion these past weeks have been. Actually, the past couple months (all the green background videos are at my family's; we took care of her at home until two days before she passed - sorry for the TMI!)
And on the other end, so much gratitude to be reaching and helping more men. Even the cranky ones! (They need love the most, you know.)
Anyway, I appreciate your loyal "subbery!" lol and comments! :)))
Its not too much we go way back pre1k subs so I am elated to see your ascension & soon to be on TedTalk & livestreaming especially since we wont wait till next year for you to reach 10k subs lol Albeit I am glad you are being consoled 1 way or another & we are all greatful for you taking time amidst it all to still share knowledge
Also these things do go both ways. Where she is doing the things that the man is claimed to be doing and she is still pulling away while being the one doing a lot of those things.
You can't win. There should also be people coaching women to be better, what accountability looks like.
You're absolutely right!
Video shows variety of issues I’ve been around and you can run into some fickle people or women Who don’t know exactly what they want. Instead of working a meaningful relationship.
The test way showers the person testing could be not mature enough to make the right decision on what type of mate. If he or she has trust issues. There is a work shop class to be taken first. It’s where you fall backwards to see if some one will catch you.
I'm having the worst of two worlds, having a girl who's pulled away, and the fact that she doesn't have time for a relationship. Maybe you remember I told you that my girl is the ex-wife of a sex offender? She is now working 32 hours a week, plus being a mum, and working part time in evenings, as well as studying for an accounting qualification. Add to that an almost pathological need to have a clean house, and the time we get to spend together has been whittled down to two nights a week, and often she will spend some of that time either working or studying while I play the guitar or chat with her kids. Her sex drive is almost zero (she says it's because she's perpetually exhausted), but when I suggested we get a place together-which would ease the burden on her by quite a margin-she was not really sold on the idea. If I pull away and keep my distance she will always contact me, and messages me every morning to say hello. It's fair to say I'm a bit confused, and fast approaching the end of my tether.
You've offered options, if she's not ready and there's no other solution to spending more time together then you may have to walk. If she can afford a house cleaner that would give you some extra time together. If she can't/won't, then where are her priorities. No on you. Living together shouldn't be the solution to this problem. Living together is not a solution, and it's a major risk financially. Sorry :(
I know a girl who ended a 6 year relationship because she realized that her boyfriend was resembling her father too much. She told me that she would wake up one day and suddenly all sexual attraction to her boyfriend was gone *puff. Strangely she still considers it a successful relationship. Decades later (She is 43 yrs now) she still haven't found any meaningful relationship yet, nor was she ever married and she still hopes to find her "soulmate" and have children one day.
Wife of 33 yrs lost all intrest in me after becoming very sick and having to work for 1st time to help.
Excellent, thank you
Blows my mind
Thank you
My pleasure ❤️
I would like to see an episode where you define, or what you mean when women don't want to feel needed? Give some examples of what being needed would be like.
Another episode I would like to see would be on the male "insecurities," you speak of. Give some examples in this area as well.
The topics you cover are interesting and I would like to see more episodes on the very basic as well. I see a similar theme throughout the "relationship," videos on "You Tube," and it seems like the fundamentals or basics are glossed over because everyone assumes that there childhood and adulthood had someone there to help them with the basics--which is not necessarily the case. For example, if when you were growing up and you were shy, timid, or awkward and people made you feel uncomfortable when you were around girls / women.
The key though is everyone assumes the "people pleasers," the "shy," the "timid," as well as the insecure and the males who lack confidence were born that way.
When you research and realize that some males had non-physical (per- se), but had verbal, emotional and mental abuse from a Narcissistic parent and the Enabler parent had the Narcissists back over their kids, then the dynamic is different than a male with non-narcissistic parents.
Example, let's say the male child takes a lot of damage to their emotions, mental, self-confidence, self-worth, and self-esteem, etc, but manages to survive with their empathy chip intact because they refused to become a Narcissist themselves. The awful part is you had to become a people pleaser in order to survive the Narcissistic enviornment... which made you into a people pleaser, etc.
When working on healing yourself from the childhood bombardment of the Narcissist--it takes a lot of time, energy and effort to figure out what went wrong and how to fix it.
What I'm saying is... although it seems like needy males, emotionally damaged or insecure males are fundamentally weak even though they were messed with... their "cores," may still be intact and their emotions may be fully functional thus they are not narcissistic and may be authentic people who "say the wrong things," "do the wrong things," because their was no one who they could trust to help them in their childhood--doesn't mean that their weak permanently... regardless of what people might think--you have to be incredibly strong on the inside / your "core," to refuse to become a narcissist and retain your empathy, and repair / restore your confidence, self-worth, self-esteem. My point is. you can can be a big / large male who gets pigeonholed as "weak," because people are quick to judge instead of looking a little harder, and a little deeper to see if the damage is permanent, or with a little help their self-image could be restored.
I think it has become all to hard and i'm going to just check out permanently
I feel you, it definitely isn't an easy situation but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
Nice haircut! That said, if she pulls away, let her go. If she comes back, great. If not, so it goes.
Every new video I watch I realize more and more how much Anna knows her subject. Just may be the ONLY reliable advice for guys on you tube! Guys, if you're watching, keep watching!!
Also maybe sometimes he might not trust her because she gives him no reason to trust her. That also happens but i know your more focusing on the scenario where she is in a healthy state.
Thank you. I understand now. I also understand that i will never be in a relationship. Especially after she said, i did nothing for her..
So you are deciding not to grown🤦♀️
If she pulls away, LET HER GO. "No, YOU said you want a better boyfriend." Why do ALL of these videos focus on the man's actions, what he does or doesn't do, and like 1% focus on the woman's actions? What does SHE do? What does SHE bring to the table? What does SHE give? IN MY 30 YEARS of adult dating, women literally give NOTHING or very little, while expecting the men to give EVERYTHING, and then being ready to run the moment she realizes he's on to her. *MAKE A VIDEO ABOUT HOW WOMEN GIVE **_NOTHING_** IN RELATIONSHIPS TODAY AND YOU'LL HAVE A MILLION VIEWS.*
You are a cool woman, good luck with your channel!! 2 friends of mine live in Vancouver, must be a very peaceful place to be there...Never been there though, but I toured USA/Canada in 2006 east-west coast with a band...;)
Thank you Jeroen! I love Vancouver even though it rains more than half the year lol
@@YourWingmam If you look at things with sunshine everything will be sunshine...;)
Maybe that's why I don't mind it :))
@@YourWingmam Obvious...;)
@@YourWingmam but I heard it is very nice City.....one of the Best in the world
You mirror men's feelings exactly as well.
Thank you, Christoper! :)
You are so gorgeous, genuine, funny, sweet, and have an amazing soul. Thank you for these videos.
Thank you, Michael, and thank you for watching and commenting! :))
Your the best thank you. ❤️
Thanks, Thomas, hope this helps! :))
WingmamTV WingmamTV it does. It’s just so hard trying to get myself back out there again. So many things to remember but you make it so easy. Your straightforward opinions are easy to follow and understand. I LOVE how brutally honest you are in your videos. Thanks again.
Very well explained..this happened to me..
Thanks for the validation, Shane! Live and learn :))
Well I can come off needy at times at the end of the day I don't need no woman and this video proves that a man is even when a man is in a relationship he's better off seeking self improvement verses that woman's happiness and the problem is is that as a man I want to make a woman happy but the truth is is that months familiarity set in once you've been in a committed relationship for a long time until people go back to Covenant Love and faithfulness and other words you keep your word a relationship with a woman is not going to work that she has too many distractions today
ok, what do you do when you are in a (id say) early midlife crisis, contemplating whether or not this dull long term relationship thats gaining no ground fulfills me anymore and people show up in your life and then disappear because you're already with someone that you can't leave? there's a grey area that nobody wants to be in...
*Can't* is a strong word. Unless you're both sharing a jail cell, there are choices. "Won't" or "choose not to" leave is more self-empowering. But I get your point, you *feel like* your choice to leave could be a hell storm worse than just sticking it out.
I don't know your "why's" ... why you want to stay? why you want to leave? or your "what's" ... what's she done / not done to contribute to dull? what about you?
Did you simply choose wrong to begin with or have things taken a turn somewhere along the way?
I'm going to suggest you go through the "purple shirt videos" in two playlists and, as subjectively as you can, and do the exercises. It may help you determine if she's just plain wrong for you or if the grass just looks greener. (Hint: it's just different grass, but sometimes someone else's crabgrass is easier to deal with.)
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Option 1: if wrong for you: be brave and leave (unless you have kids, then see option 2)
Option 2: treat her like you did in the beginning without expectation for a month; if she doesn't respond, talk to her about what's not right; give it another month with expectations, and if nothing improves, go back to option 1.
Sorry, this is a long answer, but LTRs are more complicated than STRs.
Hope this helps! :)
Oh I see, so you mean people change, and that's natural, so is not about being unloyal or just getting away but about having different needs that are not the same as in the beginning, but still getting away from someone that is with you and caring for you all the time doesn't sound like there are some unsolved issues inside people that might make them want to get away? And find that in the next partner instead of solving it together as a couple? Interesting topic
Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!
Thanks Anna..My situation seems to be mixed on many points of a few natures..communications, selfesteam, confidence, trust, also with sex, affection demonstration and needyness.. My part in this would be trust and needyness..due to her lack of reliability and priority to respect her words regarding scedulled dates we have..i do have a huge red flag on the fact that she could be a covert narcissist.. rarely recongnize her faults and or excuses herself for the things she does.. i try to chalenge her to find solutions on situations we pass trough, by first introducing myself on an issue with a situation and a possible solution..been 2 days and still havent got an answer.. we had an arguement this morning due to the fact she chocked again on a date we wher suppose to have last night.. she was upset because she was still sleeping at 10 this morning and since she trew me out of here appartement hallway keeping the tim horton cofee i had for her we havent talked.. believe its time to go for gold after 3 months of this non-sense..
Run Forrest! Run!
@@johnrider4649 fun fact i did used Forest Gump picture on his "shrimps boat". Was for altn account.
Run like hell. Just go. Shes got you trapped like a pocket pomeranian.
I read about all this hatred towards women and know that this is from a limited perspective. I love women and enjoy the beauty of the feminine soul. God created a masterpiece of beauty inside and outside with women.
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Thank you, Lawren! There's a lot of hurt men in the world who've been treated poorly by God's creation, unfortunately. :)
♏️😢 Rm 3:23
How about when she cheats on you because she thought you cheated on her? Then you prove that you didn’t and she leaves.
What do you do if you have already been Beta? I stupidly confessed my feelings to a girl who had pulled away.... and now she’s practically gone! 🙁
Walk away. Don't look back. As Rich Cooper (Entrepreneurs in Cars) shares... chase excellence, find purpose, make bank, and self-care. That's what women want. If the woman follows you on social media and you demonstrate those high value qualities she "may" reach out to you in the future as she will see what she passed up. Women are always looking for the best deal (hypergamy).
people do not change, once they are adults [not age nor gender specific, as some people never achieve adulthood]. They just become more honest with others &, more importantly, with themselves
Unless we have a life changing traumatic experience (serious accident, disease, death of a close loved one) and even then sometimes, most people's character doesn't change. :)
You're beautiful... Also thank you for your help, I appreciate you.
This video paints the women in a particularly negative way. As a man, I'm quite saddened that there is no mention of commitment or vows on the behalf of the women, that sort of thing that the LT relationships are based on. It's like if you the man don't live up and continue a certainly life trajectory, then I'm out. Which is perhaps quite accurate on the sad state of lives we are in. No wonder we have over 50% of marriages end in annulment. And even worse with 2nd time around. Feels like it's time to look overseas for the traditional values.
I'm with that all aboard
Exactly....I looked away from western women....found a real lady...a Ukranian...a Slavic....beauty and brains...traditional, comitted...
2:00 "Don't lie, that just shows weakness."
I used the "my friend thinks you're hot" method to flirt with someone I thought was cute. Turns out she's recently single. How should I proceed?
Good evening Ma Foxy !!
Pure Evil Good evening to you too! :))
WingmamTV ...... thanks !! Is there a email address you can be contacted at ?...... no funny business or nothing like that ...
I don't offer private correspondence, I use most of my free time answering video comments lol (which I love doing) or focused on clients (wingmam.com/dating-coach-men/) :)
WingmamTV ....... Thanks 🙏.... I’ll drop ya a email..... have a Awesome day !!
Ldr, engaged 7 month in, was acting needy and clingy, she was already pulling away because i mentioned her to separate a month ago. Now i snapped again and mentioned again because she was not spending enough time with me on the phone. Now she said needed some rest, yeaterday told me she wanted to talk to me during the night and now she said, i am not feeling good if i talk to you now i will not say the right things. So i told her we need to heal and i will leave her alone for the time to heal. What is your advise.
Don’t chase her. Watch my playlist of videos on how to get her back (it might not happen), also please find my video in chasing Vs pursuing. Needy is hard to come back from. It’s possible but it takes time and a lot of inner work. Focus on bettering your life in some way. Getting fit is a good start. More on that in an upcoming video. Also watch this coming Sunday’s video on masculine vs non masculine vulnerability. Big hug :)
Maybe i need to make the right decision..stay out of relationships..And be patient..with my life.
Signed divorce papers should be automatically issued to the courts every 12 months with a "lets stay married" clause to void them ... If she signs that, it most likely means she hasn't finished punishing you yet ;)
lol ... but not a bad idea, Edd! Would keep both sides on their toes (i.e. trying!)
So, marriage contract must be renewed every 3 years to reevalute the terms.
Lol, probably a good idea
Why she pulls away......I was worried about what this was going to be about.
You must live in a perfect world, like yoga pants, Starbucks, new suv, new shoes, houses and etc.....
Jeans, indi coffee shops, no car, old converse, compact condo :)
WingmamTV
What's Indi ?
Doesn't translate in Australian .
I see a lot of inner turmoil in a lot of these videos.I appolagize for "men" being so needful of inside perspectives ,because they are so cold of a stereotypical self accepted principle list trait. I wish you well in all things .
It's done . However why did she bring me back here ?
James Beemer I’m confused 😳
Very true what she said. Also if your woman is pulling away it's also because maybe she found a replacement but haven't fully made the transition to the next guy. Maybe she started questioning her current man and saw that the he may not be good for long term. Either way, monkey branching is never healthy.
How about women who become more masculine and don't give their men any validation or praise?
Ur starting to grow on me...
Yay! :))
Excellent
What about when a man pulls away?
I pull away because I Don't want to pay child support.
I'm good at the five-minute dash.
Pull out; not away...
Thanks that what I meant; but I'm cracking a joke on the title of the video.
Some woman act as if they want you to need them, but once you do then they run. And it seems as if there is a double standard on that too. Like it’s ok for a woman to need you, but not the other way around. Please tell me where I’m going wrong here. I just feel like there are many contradictions going on and the over thinking part of the female sometimes creates a lot more work than there needs to be. Ok I’ve clearly said enough here. I really like most of your videos, but this one made me think in a way that gave me some frustration.
Please reply everyone Honest reply!! (including Wingman TV)
I recently met a girl at my cousin's marriage !! while we were talking she often touched my hands and said " why don't you sit closer to me"? Whenever I remained quite she used to say " why are so quite are upset with me ,did I made any mistake .
But next day she gave me suggestion on my hair , but i didn't responded to her &
then she said "You don;t look good " & laughed !!! But again in evening she said"why don't you sit closer to me"...
Does She LIKES ME?
Yes she sounds interested in you& wants more interaction from you.
@@jarodorla6949 then why she made fun of me ??
please reply
@@shivamd23 it's just her teasing you! How old is she?
If she wants you to sit close, that indicates interest
If she is teasing you, but doesn't seem to really want to piss you off, that indicates interest (and is often called a "shit test"). if she didn't like you, she would just treat you like a tool.
In other words, sounds like you have a shot - if (*IF*) you think she'd be fun to hang around
@@jarodorla6949 25 Years old
There's a blue pill , red pill , black pill , and so on on CZcams platform
and now I think we'll see
The mama pill videos 😂
But am tired of the rest better to listen to this hotty Canadian woman now
She might bring something new
Lol, I'll take it, Said! ;)
You are so smart, help us married guys, too?
What about this situation. The man was the bad guy, everything was his fault. His attitude was leave. But, as soon as she found out he had other options she been trying to give everyone the illusion that things are great.
If the man actually wants to work through whatever's not working in hopes of creating a successful relationship with the woman, she is showing signs that's possible. It's not going to be a quick or easy road, but neither is being single and filter through women with different baggage. If she's giving the illusion of great, she's doesn't want to throw in the towel. The man has a choice. If there are kids involved, I always encourage trying to work it out, there are too many single moms and messed up kids because of that. Helpful?
@@YourWingmam it's not going to work because of her parents and family. This is the type of child over 30 that lets their parents drag them down and think for them. The sad part is the parents have a envious spirits and don't want their kids to do better than them. I myself will never be jealous of my kids for being successful.
Good gosh, why’d you sign up for that? Sorry, but now you’ve got to deal with it. I recommend Dr Henry Cloud’s book, Boundaries. (And possibly his book, Necessary Endings 😬)
@@YourWingmam if I would have discovered you a while back I wouldn't have signed up. You are saving lots of guys from unnecessary jail sentences , Keep up the Great Work!
Honestly I don't get it, this is more complicated then my medical studies.
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Anna.. how important and which outweighs the other for a relationship to work... Chemistry or compatibility? Also... How is it possible for two people to feel a deep level of emotional connection toward eachother.... Example... Where you feel as though you are connected... Almost one with another person and feel deeply connected to them, can read their fine signals and micro expressions... Yet at the same time... You find you have very few interests in common? Are they worth dating? Or is lack of common interests a breaker... Excuse the long list here but hope this makes sense...
Long term, strictly from my observations and the numerous *happy* couples I've interviewed, I'd have to go with compatibility. But compatibility has more to do with aligned values, beliefs and long term goals than it does about shared hobbies.
Your second question is easier: time and presence. What I mean is that when two people *pay attention* to each other especially when the observed isn't aware of that observation, we learn the nuances of the other. It's important to pay attention together as well, but when we don't know we're being "watched" we're not influenced to act --even subconsciously -- anything other than naturally.
Another way to become more intimate is to go through the 36 questions, but not in haste. Explore and savour each others' answers to each question.
The 36 Questions start here: czcams.com/video/AitJJX8nxTQ/video.html
Helpful?
@@YourWingmam Yes... Very helpful, thank you ! It makes sense about observing someone without them knowing.. to lock into more things about them... I ask because, I don't know if you remember when I shared with you about that one business woman who I liked for quite some time... ? She put me through a lot of tests... Ignored me, avoided me etc etc... I did what you said which was not to let it affect me... Stay in my masculine frame and just stay focused... Fast forward... She is suddenly now starting to amp up the flirting with me... She watches me often when I'm not not looking right at her... I can quick scan and see her staring at me... A few times she lets me sees her as she watches me from a distance and will give me a flirty smile. However.... She will on occasion walk toward me , but she will pull out her phone and fumble with it to look busy.... All the while she looks very nervous and will turn her gaze away from me... Then once she has some distance, she will flirt again... Is she just unsure of me? Or is this all part of "the dance" so to speak to observe, tease and giving me signs to go after her again? I feel a deep connection with her the way we connect from a distance.. but she seems like she likes to set the pase when it comes to if she will ever get the phone out of her hand and look at me up close to talk to me...
If someone rejects us but then changes their mind they may be more subtle when they come back, you'll have to be more bold to find out... (while not declaring your feelings!)
@@YourWingmam The biggest thing that confuses me is why she looks so emotional and won't make eye contact with me close up when I say hi to her... She just turns her head and avoids me... Then from a distance smiles and stares at me... Wow she is confusing... I'll be more bold with her and see where this leads... Thanks Anna!
easy to understand and uplifting mannerisms and cute
Hey did you consciously say SUB consciously or UN consciously say SUB consciously? 😜 we all do it but I listen to a lot of books and CZcams stuff and lately it’s been a real attention grabber 😂 Love your stuff keep it up!!
Great advice Anna, but how do you tell a cold neurotic self centred egotitical woman that she needs to act more feminine in the relationship and not be so pissed off at everything. She was pathetic in bed and her attitude was off most of the time. I tried to be patient with her but that turned me off more and more , she has had loads of relationships 4 x what I have have had and it lasted 6 years but the last 3 were not really meaningful to me , just friendship. I think she needs help some therapy but you cant say that in a nice way can you :) Thanks again
Unfortunately, the rise in divorce statistics is in the married 20 years or more category.
Sad. Next week's video is on how to get her back (if possible; IF you still really want her) :)
Avoidant pull away yo!
Im currently doing no contact, but she's complimenting my photography in a message but I feel like an ass ignoring it. Shall I just commit to no contact?
Im doing no contact but she's messing me around and not meeting me and being incredibly short and rude
Don’t ignore when she reaches out. Get together, hang out, have fun - keep it casual. No contact means no initiating contact not ignoring. Watch the other videos in the get ex back playlist. :)
I like you more with shorter hair. Hugs.
Yeah I got caught and was locked up for two decades . So well she went to her father . I thought to start over .
James Beemer sometimes starting over is the best plan! ✔️
My girlfriend left me after 5 years relationship. I couldn't manage my family for our marriage but I told her let's get married without my family permission but she declined. She was abusive and always needy as she came from a poor family and she has a huge insecurity. I was the only person who tried the last 2 years together. Now she pulled out on last December and I let her free on February 29. I love her but maybe situation wasn't in our hands and she lost interest, faith on me. The last email she sent me- " if you keep trying to knock me, the remaining love for you will gone forever" . So after fighting for 3 months, I sent her a goodbye text message and blocked her all social networking ids and phone numbers so that I can move on.
What I have learned from this relationship that even you love or care so much for them, girls will go away and I am done with love sort of stuff.
I am trying to heal now and looking forward to build a strong career and focusing on my goal.
Wish me luck guys.
So I know this question has nothing to do with this video but I was curious to know your take on interracial dating. Such as are their principles that work differently for same race couples that don't necessarily work the same for interracial couples? Does the attraction process work the same with two people of different races? I'm sure your thoughts will be interesting at the least. Thanks in advance for your help.
Interracial dating video!: czcams.com/video/liwMVFdP_C4/video.html
She’s not pulling away, she’s trading up. Just like a new car is old after a year or two. So they trade up trying to better themselves on some fools back. Better house, cars, credit cards, vacations. Screw that noise. State law!
Don’t get married :)
Never have. Saved myself a lot of time and cash. Plus saved myself from the mind games. Did not have kids, that’s the worst when kids are involved and have no say. They are victims of adults that cannot manage their lives. You really need to discuss that and not talk about self centered worms.