The Socialization and Comfortableness of Microaggressions | Andrea Boyles | TEDxLindenwoodU
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- Racial, ethnic and gender preconceptions in our social interactions are prevalent sources for microaggressions. Andrea Boyles, Ph.D. based on her own research and experiences exposes the comfortableness of what comes so natural to some while alienating many. Dr. Boyles received her Ph.D. in Sociology from Kansas State University with concentrations in Gender and Criminology. Dr. Boyles, author of Race, Place, and Suburban Policing; Too Close for Comfort, has also taught inmates and correctional officers within the Missouri prison system and presented research on the effects of incarcerated parents on children.
This talk was given at Lindenwood University, St. Charles, MO at TEDxLindenwoodU an independently organized event using the TED conference format. Learn more about the event at TEDxLindenwoodU.com
Dr. Boyles received her Ph.D. in Sociology from Kansas State University with concentrations in Gender and Criminology. Her research interests are social inequality; gender; the intersection of race, class, and gender; criminology; incarceration; race, place, and policing, ethnography, and community disorder. She has taught a broad series of courses in Anthropology, Sociology, and Criminal Justice ranging from Culture and Communication, Sociocultural Theory, and the Sociology of Poverty and Conflict to Policing, Victimology, Race, Ethnicity, and Gender and Public Policy in Criminal Justice. Dr. Boyles has also taught within the Missouri prison system and presented research on the effects of incarcerated parents on children. As author of Race, Place, and Suburban Policing: Too Close for Comfort, Dr. Boyles's current research hinges on community disorder with another manuscript under contract with the University of California Press. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
I love it when someone asks me where I'm from. I get to share with them stories about my culture, my family, where I grew up. It's an amazing experience and always brings me closer to people.
I do agree! You also get the chance to ask the other person the same, it is a nice way to open up the conversation.
This offends those with no roots or achievements.
Good. 😊
I do agree. People love where i lived and i can find more common ground easily
It's great that you enjoy this, but it's important to understand that just because you like something doesn't mean that everyone else does. People who have frequently been "othered" in a negative often don't appreciate the reminder that someone else views them as "other".
@@dalbert555 Everyone is “other”. We’re all individuals. Only arrogant closeted racists have this hubris of thinking that they need to walk around egg shells when they are talking to immigrants or people of color. It shows the inherent elitism in where you think you place yourself in relation to the “other”. It says a lot more about you than the people asking.
For tens of thousands of dollars, this woman could be your child's teacher
That was a nifty microaggression buddy..ha!
I would cry
Please don't scare me like that.
Well then consider me tens of thousands of dollars richer. I'd rather listen to Yoko Ono.
this is a terrible analogy for race relations:
1) the "cool kids" don't get better grades or get to take easier tests because of their popularity among their peers -- just more party invitations.
2) Whatever their success, it is not at the cost of the other kid's success, either.
3) At lest some of the "cool kids" actually earned their popularity by being good at sports, for example, which is open to all kids, regardless.
4) Even if every thing she says DOES apply to race, it equally applies to the ALL the "uncool kids," not just one small segment of them, so the argument is really about unfair or unjust hierarchies in general, and not racism.
I thought this was about special needs. Where did you pull race from?
Edit: oh wait just woke up after falling asleep at the 2 minute mark i see it now
@@kdraws2463 Lol
I don't know what school you went to, but the cool kids DO get better grades because of their popularity. Sometimes more time as well, and often this comes from the relationships they establish with the authority figures within the school staff and faculty. When people are given unfair advantages just because they're deemed the "cool kids" it does harm other students. For example, kids at my school who were close to the guidance counselor were given fee waivers for college applications and SATs. Giving these waivers to students because of popularity harms the students who can't afford to apply to schools without a waiver. This mindset is the exact reason that Dr. Boyles and the other professionals and young activists feel the need to speak up. If you're not able to acknowledge certain privileges that are disproportionately afforded to people based on race and other factors out of one's control, you need to educate yourself.
Yes, I agree with you. Whatever we think IS based on our perceptions of the group AND ourselves.
Well there’s 17 minutes of my life I’ll never get back .
Its a statement of value saying someone's English is good. They worked extremely hard to learn the language... its a compliment! And if someone asks where you're from they think you are an interesting person and want to know more about you.
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This is a great lecture! One thing I learned is that the assumptions i have about others are not really based ln reality, but rather meant to harm others who dont ever recieev the same opportu ities as me. Jist like the example with of the fine line between the cool kids and the un popular kids. I also learned we must challenge and investigate ourselfes as well as well as the people around us.
I disagree.
Oh mY gOD MiCRoaGrEsSiOn!
It takes a micro brain to detect microaggressions just like how a microscope can be used to see microorganisms.
Wow. Good talk. Captivating.
When growing up as the new non-English speaking kid in an American school, I experienced a lot of the situations she describes. I was a person of color. But I was privileged. I had both of my parents at home. My parents were hard-working, and loving first-generation blue colar immigrants who believed in the value of extraordinary individual effort and responsibility. I was bullied in school, but it only made me stronger as I learned to become resilient, to stand up for myself. I lived in a violent and dangerous neighborhood where some of my contemporaries were drug dealers (young too). Watching people decline after getting hooked on drugs made me avoid drugs and alcohol at all costs. I grew up valuing strength, focus, education, and, of course, family above all else. To a kid like me, coddling and constant "bubble wrapping" of my life would have utterly destroyed my potential as a person. I am oftentimes reminded about how lucky and privileged I was being the "other" because it gave me character and formed me in the real unprotected world. I am happy with the experience and the outcome.
Key to ace TED talk:
1. Dress professionally
2. Speak slowly.
3. Use big words
4. Use more hand gestures.
5. Content?... Doesn't even matter.
This is how fascism slowly creeps in.
Controlling and banning speech you deem offensive is oppressive in its nature.
Pretty soon, everything will be offensive, because there is always someone who is offended.
I bet she wants to be in power when that happens.
Lady, pay a shrink to resolve your issues. Don't tell me what is appropriate to say.
Pfff...
I can't believe how wrong you are.... She's not following 1984 as a handbook.....
@@sjsuismylife I am wrong to you. To myself, I am correct. I don't know you, so naturally, I don't care.
@@kakudmi I forgot to add /s
@@kakudmi (sorry, sarcasm doesn't carry wl over text. These psychopathic leftist fucks are using 1984 as their instruction manual.)
This is so painful. I'm getting dumber... Help...
Stop watching “red pill” CZcamsrs.
When someone use "big words", it's a sign they are compensating
This lady thinks all the cool kids are monsters. Which is hilariously ironic
Arthur Morgan in the audience at 14:15
She explains the idea of microaggression very well with her example of highschool cool kids and the "other" kids, but fails to see the point why the "others" are seen as "others" in highschool, it is because they do nothing to assert their position in their school life. While it is very true and even foolish to deny that people get discriminated by their looks, skin color, religion etc, it seems to me like the point of standing against this microaggresion is to stand up for oneself. If you are bothered very much by someones comment you should inform,correct their generalizing view and assumance towards you. It is natural behaviour to assume something, we all group things, opinions, people and generalize things to make sense of our world. The only way to stand up against it is to stop assuming things.
Great performance even if I don´t agree with all the points she makes but it gave me a lot of ideas! Great work!
These leftists have no resolve to be able to stand up for themselves... This is why unintentional micro aggressions ruin their day! So weak!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. The only appropriate response to somebody telling you that you committed a micro aggression towards them is to point at them and laugh until drool is coming out of your nose.
Is this a PhD dissertation or a poem. Use punctuation please.
This is a perfect example of why TEDx talks no longer have credibility.
No wonder this TED talk had to be hosted independantly. It desn't fit the "ideas worth spreading" criteria
Give me a break. There is NO EXCUSE for looking to be offended by every little thing. There is NO EXCUSE for assuming people have the worst of intentions by default. There is NO EXCUSE for letting your emotions run your world..."I'm offended, so it must be true." This kind of thinking is the plague of our day. Hate to break it to you (not really) but no one cares what color you are.
rmp5s Idk what magical bubble gumdrop world you live in, but racial bias is VERY much real and prevalent in the world.
If you choose to see it everywhere, sure it is.
@@ELP1125 evidence that isn't anecdotal?
The Military could use this Video clip to Torture Prisoners' .
"You're the different one"..... Said no one ever! I can't believe it's people like this that have phd's.
PhDs mean nothing about a person's intelligence. It's mostly about a person willing to spend money and secondly them willing to spend time in one narrow corridor. Going to college totally changed my mind on respecting people with PhDs.
Kevin Ssmuels has entered the chat.
WOW!!! This is one of the best Tedx Talks I've watched that was both educating and calling in about microaggressions!! Very profound and relatable.
So she wants to change all our social structures worldwide? Did not the Joker try this in the movies not to mention Adolf, Mao, Joe, Japan & Rawanda in real time. Have fun with that project "My Lady". ha ha
And this, Ladies and Gentlemen, is a woman who made a "career" out of being a victim.
People who complain about microagressions trigger me.
If you are so fragile, you should not come out of your house. It's very dangerous and agressive environment out they. Most important thing, that all kinds of accidents and deseases don't give a s-word about your vulnerability.
The video is so interesting that its barely got 30K views & almost identical "likes & dislikes" after its been up for almost 2.5 years. HAH
This conversation is sorely needed. It needs to be held - and repeated - in multiple locations of our social structure, often to those who should - ostensibly - know better. Case in point: the disparaging and entitled comments, below.
no. words have intention. the intention asking "where are you from" is interest not insult. "you have good english" or other language said to people who learn and improve as compliment. It is a good thing my friend.
@Martina - You're nuts. There is literally zero harm in asking someone where they're from.
She should just name this "How to play a victim"
If I commit a micro aggression, I only owe you a micro apology.
When someone asks me where I’m from, that’s a sign of interest. When I’m complimented for my English, i take it for what it is, a compliment. What I don’t do, is try to become a victim just for victim hood sake.
This chick is blowing hot air out of her mouth and literally saying nothing!
That's a real fancy way of saying a whole lot of nothing.
Pretty much sums up the mindset of spoiled entitled people
just by the title i already know if i watch this im gonna lose some brain cells
Wow, she seems to have a Ph.D. in victimhood culture...
Different is not good or bad, it is different. But what is really different?
funny, its always the defensive self indulgent passive aggressive crazy white person who brings up victimhood, while trying to convince everyone that they're being attacked whenever someone brings up undesirable behavior form their group.
I would ask what you are talking about, but as it made no sense, I'm just gonna go with:
"and she misses the nail completely..."
Seems she hit a nerve with you? Triggered much?
People should learn how to grow an elephant skin and not to feel offended with every little (micro) thing that comes at them. In my opinion that's still the best way to survive in this world and have a happy life.
Or maybe people should try not to offend people???? In any way???? Micro or macro????
It's better for people to be strong and resistant than to be sensitive to literally anything that comes their way.
Microaggressions aren't real. Just accept it. I do not get offended when people ask me where I'm from or why I'm wearing some of my religious clothing.
I don't understand her analogy, do the teachers (the laws in this scenario), treat the two different social groups the same in school - No! It's the same in Western society too, she has no case from the angle she is attacking.
omg her voice please change your monotonous tone
So ignoring someone can be a micro aggression? I wonder if me thinking this is the dumbest thing I've ever heard is a microaggression. Is having an opinion one?
A great video! By beginning a dialogue by just asking "What do you mean by that?" Why did you ask that or do that?" is an excellent way to gather valuable information while addressing and clarifying a persons behavior and or comments and not being rendered speechless, insulted or insensed. Thanks
Putting a harmless comment and the person who said it on the defensive for no reason is not something to be happy about. Microaggressions only teach you how to be hypersensitive to the possibility of being offended. It's ridiculous mentality and ridiculous train of thought.
"it's never happened to me, so it doesn't exist or matter".
@@ryang3101
You being a smartass does not prove me wrong. This mentality of Self-Victimization has caused a great deal of harm, and alienated many people from what otherwise would be reasonable conversation.
Imagined malice does not make it real. Manufactured outrage does not make it legitimate.
@@gmr4life884
brother.. please, please attempt to put yourself in other people's shoes. Please look at how you are treated in a normal public situation, and please look at how someone, who does not look like you, is treated in a public situation. As the speaker said, you're coming from a good place, if you actually believe this kind of stuff doesn't exist, or does exist and is just benign, but you don't live the life of a person other than a white male... In America that is a completely different life than that of anyone else. I have the exact same privilege that you do, not accounting for whatever the difference between the financial situation we were born into, but the difference between us is that I acknowledge the fact that I have it doubly as easy the American experience as any person who is not a straight white male. It does not make you a bad person to realize this, as you can't control it, just as they or I can't, but there is a difference in how people are treated, and to ignore it is to abet that problem. Please cite statistics that states white people are treated under the law the exact same as any peopleof color.. they don't exist, man... It's as simple as reading numbers to understand that..
If you can honestly say that you would trade your life experience, as a white male, with anyone in this country that doesn't fit that mold, and that you'd have the same quality of life experience, then you're lying to yourself, and just irrationally rationalizing your poor views.
@@ryang3101
I find it immensely satisfying after showing this video to a few of my friends, the response has been universal among them.Regardless of your feelings, the ones who actually regard this as a real thing are a narrow sliver of ideologues.
Words are just words, and trying to force change in perceptions causes more problems. Than helps. Continually smacking us over the head with increasingly irrelevant history just breeds resentment and a even greater divide.
And what is equally hilarious is your refusal to even consider how this mentality has manifested in colleges.
Do you even watch CZcams?
Professional victimhood. Imagine living your entire life constantly offended at everything.
That Karen?
I would thought a Phd would use the word “Comfort” rather than “Comfortableness” - that’s why she’s not in the cool group - she uses bad English. Well, that, plus she’s boring, sanctimonious a great deal more into critical theory than critical thinking.
See: word salad
Wowwww this is so backwards. Tackle your own insecurities before telling the rest of the world how to live.
You forgot to say, "Bucko."
awful. this should be titled "how to be a victim in any situation"
where is she from?
I think the main point of that school kid analogy, was that in order to have power you have have people to bring that people down upon. Like in order to have an in group, there has to be an out group.
One should also not take that analogy very seriously, it’s more of an introduction to the idea she is trying to present
This is a part of life based on any factors. People dont have to like you and if its important to be liked you're going to have to give up something. If its important to be yourself then you might not be "cool".
This lesson is horrible and teaches victimhood instead of embracing yourself for the choice you make.
She the type of person keeping racism alive. Ridiculous grasping for straws like that.
Don't worry... Soon the left will instigate a hot way that will wipe most of them out...
I’m here for the comments because I couldn’t get past the micro aggression lol 😂 glad to see that most individuals see this topic a lunacy and ri ri ridiculous. No thin skin allowed.
If “no thin skin allowed” then why are you here?
I never realised how destructive microagressions could be untill I started my new job and was ambushed by an intake of microagressive people. It's the new form of racism and it's incredibly dangerous. You can feel it in your soul and see it in the eyes of the abuser. Great video on such an important topic.
You can't be serious.
Gmr4life 88 lol you’re really trolling this whole video comment section aren’t you? What’s irking you so badly? 😂 “only hurt dogs holler”
You're weak. We need to build you op!
@@oeu3669 honestly it's difficult to discern who here is trolling. A person that actually claims microaggressions are real and something that affects them is pretty much the definition of a troll. Gmr seems to have taken the bait. But honestly, if microaggressions really affect you, quit your job and stay home, there is no way you are strong enough to any job with competence
Andrew McNulty first of all your sentence doesn’t make sense at all. Second of all - let’s just get this clear and it’s glaringly ridiculously (and boringly) obvious - you speak like someone with a tonne of privilege oozing out of every outlet of your body. Thirdly - and Most importantly - this is NOT a conversation you have any right speaking on whatsoever. Your statement was micro aggressive and you do NOT get to speak to POC about how they should react. That’s called gaslighting and it reeks of narcissistic personality disorder. You need to go deal with the mess your forefathers caused and your folks are STILL causing as we speak that created the very thing she now has to do a ted talk about. Lastly, this conversation happened a year ago so I’m not sure what you’re doing here scrolling and trolling. Toodles.
This whole thing just sounds like inferiority complex. If that stuff really bugs you, maybe be more careful with what you say when you're among people you don't know?
People judge you based on what they know about you.
If you go like "I'm a communist" or "I'm a muslim" or "I support monarchy" or "I'm mgtow" in your first conversations, of course you will be judged for the ideologies you follow instead of being judged for who you are as a person. It's not like you told them anything other than that about yourself, is it.
More so if you go around making passive-aggressive remarks about microaggressions when people point out your lack of tact.
Idk what school this chick went to, but I'm pretty sure 99.9% of high schools have more than 2 groups of cliques
Propaganda comes in all forms.
This seems like advice on how to be a victim in all situations for your entire life. This is terrible advice. Being a victim all the time might get you momentary attention, but it will push everyone away and you will live a sad, lonely, angry life. Do not follow the advice she gives!
I went to sleep after 2 minutes, this was boring asf
humans will naturally form groups, even within organizations like religion and the military in which the group is there by choice and the alignment of beliefs and values ties the group together, there will still be inner circles and power elites. and guess what? its ok. its ok people. as long as you being you makes you happy. stop trying to please everybody, if you are different im glad you are different, in fact I love it because that is who you are! micro agressions? what happened to celebrating our differences instead of avoiding them because its going to upset someone or offend them? who cares?! as long as you can be you and respect others why are we even here talking about this?
If you look in a microscope others attitudes you will find many defects even when they were not mean to be one. Macro, micro, nano aggression is in many cases the way that weak character people solve their hipo-complex. I am pretty sure I can accuse this woman or other people of micro aggression or I can tell them when I feel offended or even avoid them if I don't like them.
The title alone is nonsense.... let's see what it's about....
Bruh.
Humanity sucks.
Edit: ❤ Thank you for connecting the dots.
That's offensive to her. She's going to make a Ted talk about you.
@@mindovomatter5181 ❤ yes, thank you for this correction. I see and will complete my thought from now on. Her words described what heart and mind couldn't formulate. Respect.❤
@@MeshelleSeaShelle I feel like you were attacking me with your last statement. Could you cool it please?
@@setpunks13 ❤ my intent is to appreciate.
Word salad.
The other group is labeled by their behavior.
Ja ..nauw.. boeiend!!!🥱
Why does she say oth-er like that?
My cat drops little nuggets here and there
Such an amber heard..
This is just how to be a victim and not know exactly what racism is.
Amazing times we live in, we give away Ph.Ds to fascists.
She calls out all the trolls in the comments but it goes over the heads of ppl with jock itch for brains
ultra sensitivity
First time I've seen tedx try to feed me a load of BS
Excellent! **Round of applause**
How to be an SJW and alienate friends that don’t want to walk on eggshells
Go back to 2015
I found this 5000x more boring than S2 of The Promised Neverland and that's a new height
Great talk!
It is called not having a backbone and not caring about what other people think of you. Only the weak and unnecessary are harmed by microaggressions.
Well some groups are punished financially or with jail time. In my personal experience white people like to shut down when you hold them accountable so who's really the punk. The white kid that shoots up a school because they are upset, Or the innocent people who have to suffer the consequences of that.
Courageous! Grateful for so much effort and authenticity.
The slam poetry cadence just ruins this.
I was hearing the Cadence but didn't know what it was called. Thank you. It wasn't the same as the childish sing song that makes a question of every statement by having a rising tone at the end.
read a dictionary, don't go to college
It’s all economics.
The Military could use this Video clip to Torture Prisoners' .
Professional victimhood 101
Excellent presentation. I love the scenario at the beginning. Great way to connect the presentation.
I just lost some of my brain cells
Sooo, were are you from? Victimhood is her virtue.
I'm glad this is being addressed. Thank you.
Speaking English. Some might say that's cultural appropriation ;)
Appropriating an oppressor who's policies outlawed any other language at any given time - curious perspective.
@@setpunks13 ? ?
Cutting edge ASMR
Is it just me, or does she (or else I'm not sexist/zinopob) use big words so it's harder for us to understand all the BS she (or else I'm not sexist/zinopob) said
In Psychology it's called word salad. In linguistics it's called slang. Yeah man, it's really groovy to trip with your buds. You have your own little special meaning dictionary going. She is a professor and involved in the academy so I guess when you formalize it it becomes jargon. Government is fond of Bureau speak. I speak fluent BS. The art of obfuscation and nuance.
The negative comments here are VERY REVEALING
Nope. They’re the ones with an ounce of sense.
Easy to decide who goes to the gulag, eh?
Your use of all caps is extremely offensive! Please apologize immediately for such an awful microaggression against everyone who had to read you literally screaming at them.
@@esyphillis101............. The Military could use this Video clip to Torture Prisoners' .
I think this info is highly valuable and NEEDS to be shown more light👏👏👏 Incredible presentation
If I commit a micro aggression against you, I'll only feel a little bit bad....
Your excessive use of emojis and all caps is extremely offensive. Please apologize for your two microaggressions!
Exposed as marginalized? Does not compute...
because micro aggressions are meant to not only make the person being attacked uncomfortable but it is to expose them is a problem to other people. That's what happens when you taunt someone publicly. surely you can figure this out.
The comments are very telling and ironically exactly what the video is talking about 😂😂😂 tell me you believe "the blacks should get over it already" without telling me. Eternally facepalmed
This is all lefty liberal false narrative mumbo jumbo crapola.
I wish people were smart enough to realize that this is not only applicable to race, but the racial aspect of it is very important. I dont see why people wouldnt want to be the best version of themselves.
Because we're not mind readers! I cannot delve into your deepest mental processes. I don't even want to. Grow up. Your snowflake is melting. 'I wish people were smart enough to realize' (like me!) is about as egalitarian a phrase as you can possibly construct. All hail your intelligence! Straight up macro aggression by signaling your virtue. Two can play at this game.
I await your response. Hold nothing back. Show me the best version of yourself.
That title alone put me to sleep