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0:00 An Entitled Karen calls the cops on me for trespassing on my own property. (u/PWcrash)
6:07 My Girlfriends family disapproves of me and forced us to break up, and I don’t know how to move on. (u/WholeTrainBread)
10:54 My husband wants no part of my family, saying that they are all toxic, and I don’t know what to do. (u/jgonewildd)
14:43 My husband wants me to cut off my sister because she cheated on her husband, and I don’t know what to do. (u/ThrowRASisorHus)
18:06 My parents are hostile towards my fiancé because of his lack of education, and I simply don’t know what to do. (u/seschb)
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A little context for the first story, the reason that woman thought the original poster was on her property was because her bf lied to her about the amount of property his dad owns.
@@TimTams_64 I beg to differ good sir
@@TimTams_64 I beg to differ
@@dutchvanderbilt9969 i beg to differ
@@meliodas69420 as do I
Well, these comments certainly cleared up everything! 🙄
I remember the hearing the first story a long time ago. There is more to it. Karen’s boyfriends dad owns the house. He told OP and grandpa that he was helping her and his son out because of his grandkids. They don’t work they never have money to feed the kids but always have money for drugs. After this incident he got fed up and evicted his son and the girlfriend. Then he took custody of the grandchildren.
The bf's dad has a right to do that
Bf's dad sounds like a good guy, hope he can keep the kids from turning out like his did
Story number two. You don’t understand how hard it is to say no to someone like that. A manipulative household especially with someone who has had power over you for such a long time is a very difficult thing to overcome. Just because she didn’t stand up to her mom at that moment in time doesn’t mean she hadn’t been trying to convince her for so long. Just my two cents
Especially if it was more abusive than normal. I've heard of and personally know folks who are still trapped in that situation because of the abuse they have endured.
if doesn’t really matter imho. her being unable to commit to OP and letting others dictate their relationship says a lot about their future. it’s not OP’s job to take her emotional baggage and deal with her toxic family if she’s that flaky.
@@blackcaptain-el9qb I’ve only recently escaped a situation like that myself. Took years and a lot of help and support from other people around me. It’s really hard.
@@arsyndean I'm glad you were able to get out of that situation. I know it can be difficult to deal with and escape it.
She did fight for him for what sounds like a while until the bf said hay this is hurting you you can give up on me and she did but she was on his sight stud up for him for what sounds like a will but it isn't clear to me for how long
Story 2: I’m more concerned of that girl being isolated or worse. Forget whether you get back together or not: GET HER AWAY FROM THEM, NOW! It’ll get worse
Really thats what concerns you.. Typical female.. Forget the guy and the pain that is caused by her listening to her bigoted. And if she is willing to listen to her mother as a 20+ year old than what ever comes her way she deserves. Its her choice to listen to her mom, and i have 0 sympathy for someone choosing to remain a victim..
that’s not his job. she’s a grown adult, they have no actual control over her and her actions. she is CHOOSING her family over OP and her own relationship. let her, she can make her own choices, she’s a grown woman.
@@vergorancei agree
@@vergoranceyes not his job it absolutely is not but I don't think (sorry if I'm wrong) you have ever lived with a abuser what if it was her partner acting like this would you say it's her fault there are whole charities set up for people in this situation because you can't just escape easily
This is a situation where psychological help outside of family on both sides can work. But depending on long ago this was. It could be extremely difficult.
Fourth Story: Hubby MAY be a bit excessive about OP cutting ties with SIL, but SIL is a problem and a bad influence and he probably sees them too close and is naturally worried. And OP's feelings and reactions are bad signs. And she realizes it.
I get a weird feeling that the sister "dropping in out of the blue" may have been intentionally done to cover up her cheating. So she was just using her sister as a alibi
She goes to a motel, fucks the guy, then goes to her sisters house so the sister says "yea, she came by and we hung out"
I dont see it excessive. What i see is him making sure the sister doesnt have any influence on his wife and ruin their relationship in the future. I went throught the same situation as the guy with an ex of mine. I told my ex back then that i didnt like a few things about her sister and she told me that thats her sister and she is not going to kick her sister out of her life. Guess what, she ended cheating on me. When i found out and told her i knew about it she turned pale as a ghost, i broke the relationship right there. She tried to beg me to forgive her, that it was a mistake and it was her sisters fault. Same excuse everyone uses.
Personaly when im in a relationship i take good care of it and protect it at all cost. If i see something that can be potentialy damaging in the immediate present or in the future i try and cut it off before any damage is done.
Yeah no, in the end the sister would have dragged her down. If you want your toxic shit of a sister hood for you, you are going to end up doing it without me and I won’t be here when you come back from “comforting her”.
the op of that story ain’t paying attention because she’s about to be divorced and alone too because of her sister. she’s an idiot
3:27 my dear god the "afraid for her life" got me laughing so hard
I love how first is her boyfriend's dad who owns the land and then gets promoted to her own dad's property later. she can't even keep her own story straight lmao
Story 2 - Dude emotional abuse causes all sorts of mental issues and if its bad enough she might be terrified of her mom. I grew up in the same environment and it took moving out and 3 years of therapy to get out from under my mom's thumb. My friend is in her 30s and still hasnt gotten out despite many of us trying to help her. Its not an easy situation nor a "red flag" to a relationship. She needs help and im honestly scared for her because it's a terrible circumstance to live in.
No it's not the fact that her mom doesn't like him but it's the fact that she wants a son-in-law that can support her and all the things she wants.
Story 1- I bet that her boyfriend lied about his dad owning the land so that she would like him more because his dad owned something cool
She still could've been less rude.
Story 2; I don’t think you should give up yet. As she said if you guys break up and she doesn’t have her family she’s probably going to be alone. No one wants to end up alone. I think you just need to reassure her that when it comes to you guys, breaking up is out of the question. Like really reassure her.
For the story where OP's sister was cheating, the husband said that if op ever covered for her sister he'd leave. The idea behind the no contract is the principal of "when you lie with dogs you come up with fleas" when you hang out with people who do bad things you begin to normalize the behavior and become numb to how bad it is and become more vulnerable to following suit. Op loves their sister and the fact that they didn't get upset with her sister shows how much her mind is willing to rationalize her actions which is a strong indicator that she could likely be influenced by her sister and, if not cheat herself, cover for her sister.
I really disagree with your opinion on story 2. She is in an abusive relationship with her mother, she needs help out of it and doesn't realize it. They clearly love eachother and he needs to fight for her so she knows it is safe to fight for him even harder, that is why she's stalling.
Fight for her? In what way should the op in story 2 fight for his ex? Continue communication…but you heard she wanted to trying exploring in terms of dating guys she is set up with! Plus since the ex’s mother is manipulative, she can also get the ex to stop all communication with him! Show up at her house? So that mother could call the police on him…she does live at home! What exactly is the op suppose to do? Is easy to say he should fight but how? Have you also thought of the emotional cost on him to fight especially when she is not ready to fight for him as well?
Yes his ex is in a type of abusive relationship, is financial dependence that she is not willing to break from even though she has a job! Only the person in this type of situation can cut the financial umbilical. No one can help them no matter how much they try.
He should move on! It is now up to her if she wants to continue this nonsense and let go no matter how hard it is and fear of being disowned! There is nothing he can do about it.
The mother did bring up an ultimatum that may be worth pursuing. If you look at it from a different perspective, you can interpret that as "Do whatever makes you happy, and I'll never bother you for it again". All the girl has to do then is hold the mother to her own ultimatum.
@@Mecryte Yes it is up to her to hold her mother to her statement. My reply was to a person stating the op should fight for his ex girlfriend regardless of the emotional toll it takes him. In this situation, he cannot fight for someone who is not ready to let go. It is really up to her (the ex girlfriend). Your comment reaffirmed what I said. I’m simply being realistic about a situation that young man is in.
@@bluerachael1979 It depends on what OP wants. If he really wants to make it work, he should go for it. But if the situation is too much for him to handle then it would be completely reasonable for him to move on. The gf isn't at fault, she's in an extremely abusive situation where she's being gaslighted. It can takes years to realize when you are being gaslighted. Though, it is a tough situation and some people do not have the energy or means to handle that, so I can't blame OP if he wants to move on.
fight for her? help her? she doesn’t want any of that. she can’t even commit to the relationship what makes you think she’d want OP to “ruin her life?” i was in the same situation, my parents gave me the same ultimatum. i realized how pathetic i was since i was forcing my wife (then gf) to suffer with me in my abusive relationship with my family. so i left my family and got married. i only did that because i was committed and loved my wife.
Story 4: I understand why the husband doesn't want OP around her sister. He feels she'll be a bad influence now that her secrets out. As they say, misery loves company and the husband isn't confident that the sister won't stoop so low as to try and break them up just because her marriage is in flames and he doesn't want OP to be in a situation where her sister can make any attempts to do so while OP is trying to support her. Also, supporting the sister in this situation looks really bad on OP because it looks like she condones cheating.
Don't put your cheatibg sister before your husband. Talk to him. No Contact is too excessive, but low contact while letting her know that you don't condone what she did.
Well thats her sister and he has no day in their relationship. If thats his attitude then shes better off walking away from him.
that first story is exactly why Karens should just mind their own business and to keep their own mouths shut!
and considering that they mostly don't, they just keep digging themselves into even deeper graves
Once they frick with the wrong person, they're definitely gonna be
Story 3. The husband's smart and I don't blame him at all because I would do the same!
Husband is right low or no contact. Stop trying to make up with family.
I don't blame him your family is toxic
Story 4: NO DUDE!! the guy is right here. The sister play her part. YEAH! it's extreme, but ... seriously ... the sister is a very very bad influence for OP in that case too. I would said: YEAH! you're right this is a situation OP has the last word on it because this shouldn't be a deal breaker either, but ... at the same time i know what the guy is coming too and OP try to play "woman 101: always gaslight the guy into believe he is in the wrong too" when in this case, both are in the right and the wrong at the same time.
BUT i also has something i don't like, and is the fact the guy is paranoid as well and he hire the PI for his wife but end up uncovering the sister's affair instead.
The sarcastic part was when she meant that her sister was there when she had problems, so why couldn't she help her sister when she had problems. But regarding the fact the sister was cheating the sister didn't have a problem... the sister was the problem itself.
@@juliusnebulus7303 exactly. She drags her into this, and as much as OP would feel obligated to help her sister. It was the sister's actions who led her into this and even make OP her unwilling conspirator, scapegoat and on top an alliby for her actions. Suport emotionally? Yes. But the sister got into this mess, so there is nothing else OP should do too.
Story 2- Narrator does NOT understand the cultural pressure here. My father is 46, lives with his parents, and is considered to be VERY successful. Emotional manipulation and blackmail run rampant here.
cultural pressure excuse treating people like shit
it is the reason for the behaviour
it is NOT an excuse
culture is never an excuse
@@vish5942 well, in some culture... culture is indeed can be excuses, because in that situation child would never have any option except obeying their parent no matter how old they are...
parents in that culture can just crying out loud and telling lies and everyone still sides with them no matter how right and reasonable we are
parents in that culture can just abuse their kids in any way they like and no one would even try to object them
parents in that culture can just blackmailed us to make our life impossible and never happy if we don't obey and they can really do that with just a tip of finger
and yes, that culture exists, even they aren't so many
@@sandalkumelayang that culture is toxic. No good can come from that. If I listened to my parents I would not be as successful as I am today. Parents need to cut the cord and let their kids be.
I came down to the comments section to say this exact same thing. It doesn't matter if the culture is toxic, it's there. She grew up under this woman her whole life likely being belittled, crushed down, and made to think that the only measure of value in her life would be how happy she made her family. The Chinese are different from us. She is likely afraid of her mother to the point where she would sacrifice both of their happiness to avoid her wrath. She is a victim, plain and simple, and saying "culture is no excuse" is some uneducated nonsense
I almost spat out my ceriel on the grandfather saying, "Keep your mouth shut you idiot." I don't know why that's funny but it is.
Story 3: first off, I thought the hubby was wrong, then I listened…😅 yeah 100% toxic, dump those drama baskets
My first feeling is that when somebody blocks or ghosts me, I drop them. I wouldn't talk to the in-laws ever again.
Story 2: I know exactly why, it’s because her family has manipulated her over the years. She literally feels like she can’t do anything because of it. Show some empathy.
Yes and she is scared
empathy for what? she’s a grown woman, OP doesn’t have to be punished for her lack of a spine. OP isnt obligated to deal with her toxic family or take on her emotional baggage if she won’t even commit to him.
@@vergorancethat not how emotional abuse works
@@Chaotic_noodleshut the f up. Everything is permitted in love and war.
But I would've wanted bf to suggest come live with him independently
@@vergoranceclearly doesn’t understand how strict Asian parents work
Gatekeep, Gaslight
About story 2: It's very clear that you never experienced emotional abuse. Like people in situations like this get conditioned to be obedient, her mother didn't just suddenly become that way, she's most likely been a controlling and opressive force in the gfs life since she was born. She's most likely been spoon feed the narrative that she is nothing without her mother and that she will end up without any support one day. The girlfriend isn't the bad guy here, she needs to look out for her savety too.
That's such a bs excuse
Mah mom went trought that, her mother does everything in her power to make her feel worfless and constently plays the victim, aftet years of strugle she finally managed to let go and ended all contact with her. I still see her and she spoils me (for control) but it dosn't work with me. I can see trought her lies like an open book
As someone who has experienced much emotional abuse and gaslighting from my family; I'm with OP. At what point is enough enough?? She gave up a loving, stable relationship to stay with her abusive family and I just can't fathom that! He made great money and her family didn't actually have a leg to stand on, it's obvious that they just want to continue to control her. Not saying she's a bad guy, but she's an enabler in her own abuse. Safety would be getting out of that situation.
Its very clear you’ve been on twitter too much
girlfriend isn’t a bad guy. nobody owes OP a relationship but at the same time OP doesn’t need to care. so what if she’s in an abusive household? why does that matter to OP? she’s not committed to him so why should he give a crap about opening her eyes? she doesn’t want help so why should he help? you’re saying emotional abuse changes its victims, i agree 100%, but so does a committed relationship. i used to be in the same position as her, but unlike her i loved then girlfriend (now wife) A LOT. when my family gave me the ultimatum i genuinely considered leaving my wife. then while i was preparing my little speech i realized what i was actually doing. i was throwing out the future i planned with my partner because my mom said no. i was acting like a toddler who wanted candy but was told no. so i told my wife about the ultimatum, and she told me she’d respect any decision i made. i realized then and there that what i was doing was wrong. i was forcing somebody else to deal with my own abuse. so i told my family fuck you and left. i only did that because i was committed and loved my wife.
Story 2- Dude, I take it you don't have emotionally abusive & controlling parents. People like the GF's mom get into their head condition & manipulate their kids to the point where they can't fight back. It's called emotional blackmail. Have some empathy
You can feel bad for someone and still call them out on their poor choices. She is 26yrs old. She is an adult. She can choose to stay or she can leave. If it is being as much of an issue as it is sounds then she should leave. If not, she is enabling it and that becomes her fault.
@@DanielGonzalez-qk6sd Have you ever been manipulated? it really changes your view on quite literally EVERYTHING IN EXISTENCE!
Let me raise this person to rely on my approval.
Years later
Look they are now making choices to fit the way I raised them.
@@DanielGonzalez-qk6sd Tell me you've never been conditioned by manipulative controlling abusive parents without telling me you've never been conditioned manipulative controlling abusive parents.
@@VidWatcher01 Well your comment just sort of shows there is no point of having a discussion here. So have a good night/morning wherever you are.
For the second story that isn’t a red flag, it’s just the way some Asian families are and how they act and sometimes the child doesn’t want to go against their parent’s wishes because that was how they were raised.
Just because someone was raised a certain way does not mean it is not a red flag. A child can be raised to be racist, yet, that is still a red flag. Same concept here. If OP’s ex is not willing to fight for OP or even stand up to her own parents that is a red flag. That shows the GF does not have the ability to stand up for herself and that will create a certain subset of issues for that relationship.
I though so too, but honestly he is right
At the end of the day is your life, whether your family approves or not, someday you gotta learn that
And the guy is way better of that situation
the girl most likely would regret it later if she evers grows up
The thing is; it's abusive . Regardless of it being normalized it is still abuse & manipulation on the parents end
I agree. A lot of people seem to not understand what that kinda familial pressure can do to a person. It's unfortunate, and it's NOT the girlfriends fault. How could you blame someone for being born into that kinda culture, you know?? The narrator completely missed the mark on this one. 😓
@@Memyx if anyone is to blame, it is the mother who is controlling everything. She's not willing to let her daughter make her own choices and acting like poor people dating is an arrestable offense. I do hope that the young lady cuts ties with her parents especially her mother and her older sister and finds happiness.
Story 2: That sounds very familiar as my ex cousin & his wife both controlled, manipulated, & gaslighted me because they said I was "incompetent " to make my own decisions & HAD to obey them when they said so. When they started to steal money from me- that's when I got my back up & walked out on them by going no contact!
The voices are great. Good voices for the Karen and the grandfather. Just perfect 👌
Story one: Asian households are very strict in comparison to European families, for instance, I mentioned I wanted to be a veterinarian, my grandmother is now saying that I’ll be a nurse or doctor and not a disappointment like my mother, and that’s normal
#4, I completely understand the husband. Ive seen it many times where friends or family that aren't loyal rub off on to those around them. Unfortunately there is no way to express that without coming off as an asshole. Only thing i can suggest is get marriage counseling and work it out. Which i hope OP realizes her sister was pretty toxic to use her as a scapegoat. Also its not hard to cut out a sibling, I've had to do it. Probably saved my life to do so.
Story 4: it's very simple to cut a family member out. If she was a drug addict and involving her sister as cover u would be say "Toxic, no contact" but a cheater gets a pass?
Personally I'm kind of hung up on "she'll be a bad influence on OP".... isn't that sort of accusing her of potentially cheating in the future?
(mind you, I was accused of cheating in the past by a jerk who projected his own cheating on me, I can't tell you how painful it is to be accused of something so terrible when it's not true)
@@tephrafalls6321 bad people behavior rubs off on others close to them. Next time her sister cheats OP will have no excuse when she gets thrown under the bus.
@@tephrafalls6321 the op’s spouse thinks she was covering for her sister which puts him on edge about her. “If she’ll help her sister hide cheating, what will she hide from me” is likely the mindset here. I’m not saying it’s right or that he’s missing the context, but I can see where he’s coming from
Last story. He doesn't have formal education, but he still has the intelligence, determination and charisma to perform his job and find a lovely wife.
He also seems to value family as something very important to people and he would like to be liked by someone he will be part of the family in the future. Unfortunately, hell only notice how problematic these parents are once he meets them for longer.
Always look at the family and friends of who you date. That shows who they are.
I'm gonna play devil's advocate for the husband in Story 4. He's probably looking at it from the mindset of "Birds of a feather flock together" meaning hes conserned that the SIL will convince his wife to cheat
Story 4: imo there's no nuance or grey area. If OP wants to still have a husband she'll go n/c. If she prefers her sister in her life her husband will divorce her. Sure OP may be feeling all kinds of ways about it but for the husband it's cut and dry.
So first it’s her boyfriend Dad, who owns a property then it’s her dad maybe they are the same person maybe there’s a lot of incest going on lmfao
[BEING MARRIED CAN INDUCE IN LAWS INSISTING ON YOU CALLING THEM MOTHER OR FATHER OF YOURS TOO]
Or even more shocking, you can have parents of partners that also insist on being called mum or dad 😂
If Karen got herself evicted well that's on her.
I have heard the first story before. Apparently the boyfriend had lied to his girlfriend about who owned the OP's property to make him und his family look better.
for story two: firstly I don't have this type of parent, but I've watched to many of toxic parent ticktoks to not talk about what you said. firstly kids of strict parents don't know that they don't have to get treated like this, they were raised like this and mostly don't realize that this is not normal. secondly the op did not have any issues with the ex girlfriend after this, and its good to point out that she didn't have any bad words to say to him. if this was really a red flag she would not have left on such i guess "civil" terms ( i was trying to make a point but it kind of made little sense)
neither the ex or the op is the asshole in this its the ex's family to blame. again i understand the reasoning behind this, but we can correctly assume that her family has probably manipulated and pressured her into this.
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People get more ridiculous by the day, and I love it when they're exposed
Story 2: Im in a toxic friendship and i cant leave, because she just controls me like a puppet and wont even let me hang with my friends. I don't think you've been in a toxic relationship. Clearly she has ben most likely been treated like this her entire life, and i don't think she had a choice.
"My husband didn't grow up with a close family so he doesn't know what it's like to be super close". Neither do you, OP.
Story 5 is Story 2 except the OP is actually able to stand up for herself and what she believes in. The husband needs to grow up and support his spouse though. I think he needs to talk to people who have gone no contact.
His voice is legendry the voice of karan always make me laugh
Story 3 sounds like my family. I cut ties with all of them a year ago and weve never been happier.
Story 4: OP is going to lose her husband and is going to ruin her life over a cheater. I hope the husband does leave.
Shoe on the other foot, say you had a close long term friend (or a sibling if you have one) and they lose their temper while drinking socially one time due to personal things happening or the person they fought having history with them (doesn't matter it's their issue not yours), end up in a bad fight and get shipped to county for it (either due to hospitalization of the other person, or they picked up a weapon during the fight, doesn't matter for this). Your significant other tells you that person drinks too often (even if they don't as we get the same amount of facts about that woman's life from story 4) and is too violent (even though this was the only time they have had such a drunken fight that your SO knows of, or that anyone publicly knows of, and there were stressor's). Your SO does not know that family member/friend like you do, and only has social contact/visits/hangouts with them for their bases of opinion, but after this, and with that friend/family members reputation as having gone to county for a violent drunk episode, they demand you cut all ties due to bad influence. What's your move? And I mean close friend or close sibling like Story 4's Wife described her relationship to her sister (ride or die it seemed). How would you feel if you got an ultimatum from your SO to choose between someone you have known longer (grew up/share blood with) and your life partner.
Now I know you will say, but it's my SO, I have promised to choose them above all others forever and always, ask yourself, why on earth would they have the emotional capacity to say they would leave, no question, if you refused to pick them over this first and only situation of this kind that we historically know of (again same amount of info we get from story 4, as no previous issues or cheating was ever mentioned, and no sour relationship between the Husband and Sis-in-law is ever hinted at). How are they able to say, because you are close to/care for someone who has done that I can't trust that you love me anymore, or that you won't do the same thing, heck, tell that to someone who has ever become a parent after being abused by their own parents. Not only that, those who love us, would not give ultimatums like this, it's like saying to a SO who has had children with an ex-wife/husband, choose our children only and always when needed first, your previous children come second because you did not have them with me who is the most important SO you have ever had since you are with me now. Before anyone tells me that that last one is not the same situation because it's kids, your wrong, as it would feel the same to the person you are telling to choose between two (or more) people they love and want in their life.
Thank you for having a decent volume.
Honesty u put alot of work for finding and picking out the stories and the putting all the words over a small game
The last story. Cut all contact. When you have kids keep them away from your parents OP. I sure wouldn't want those kind of people around me and my family.
Story 2: I’m betting you grew up in a home where your parents weren’t very controlling of you, you don’t know how much pressure they can put on you without even realizing it.
I actually had a Karen call the cops on me for having a few friends at my home during the COVID lockdown.
With the second story I think the girlfriend has been abused by her family so much that she is afraid to stand up to them and it IS red flag that she didn’t fight a red flag for how her “parents” raised her to be their puppet
Being honest about the second story, I think the narrator is not aware of how power in family dynamics works different for each family.
Not everyone grows in a healthy relationship and/or knows that it is possible to have one. Imagine being constantly blamed and made to believe you're wrong by the ones who should love you the most. You either have a really resilient mind or you succumb to their pressure.
That is not a red flag, that is a circumstance she has to deal.
It is a red flag. The girlfriend is showing she has issues with it but does not wish to do so. That means she does not have the ability to stand up for herself when it comes down to it. That is a red flag and her inability to stand up for herself will create unique subset of issues in relationships.
@@DanielGonzalez-qk6sd i agree. She will be gaslight into comeback eventually and cause more problems. I seen a lot ot stories with the same nature. Family is an a-hole with OP/SO, OP/SO is contacted by the family after goes NC because something (money, or their 1st grandson/grandaughter), OP/SO let them in again because "FAMILY" and they proceed to been an a-hole again just because of "FAMILY". Basically narcissist. And then came the "AITA for been mad at them for bulling me/been mad at my SO for not allow them bulling my SO?".
@@DanielGonzalez-qk6sd The biggest thing is the culture she came from. Cultures like China is very keen on obeying your parents. It's very ingraine in the girlfriend's mind and life. It won't be easy for her to break free. She'll have to realize if she wants to protizes her happiness by being with op she have to cut contact with her parents. Her parents seems to be the type to disown her if she married OP.
@@yesthatmousyiris4887 I never said it would be easy. I am just stating the problems her current mindset cause and why her current mindset, regardless of culture, is a red flag.
@@yesthatmousyiris4887if she was committed to the relationship she’d actually do that. she’d get married to OP and leave that toxic family. OP doesn’t deserve to have his time wasted and his feelings hurt because she can’t commit. shit i was in the same situation, my family was extremely abusive. but when they gave me that ultimatum i chose my wife (then gf). because i was committed and loved her i could see that i was dragging her into the abuse. that isn’t fair, nobody deserves to be abused or suffer from abuse.
that kind of thing has happened to me as well. when people are allowed to Rome on your property they start thinking they own it. I know because I owned 250 acres at one point in parcels scattered around the state. not only that they will move there line to try and steal part of your property. I just bought 8.5 acres in Tennessee in the mountains and some asswipe from Delaware bought the adjoining property beside of me. I didn't go up there for 2 years waiting on the 1031 tax exchange to expire so when I go up there he has been mowing about 50 ft inside of my line and he put in a driveway on my property to go into his property so saying nothing I precede to spend 3500 dollars to have it surveyed and to install a manumit. monuments have to be dead on accrete. so now he accepts the line I guess but he puts no trespassing signs down the line like I would go on his land rofl. we have a saying in the south good fences make good neighbors so I am contracting a fence company to build a fence 6 inches from the land so he cant legally use it. any way I have had so much trouble with neighbors where I live in north Carolina that I will not allow any one to go on my land any more. If I hear some one on it I will go after them and call the cops and nail them for trespassing thing is people are supposed to know where their property lines are and stick to them. this is just one of many instances about stupid neighbors I have had to deal with.
He would just send up with either no communication or the constant harassment by the mother or her daughter to not be with you either way it’s a no-win situation
Story 2: as someone whos had went through hell from my own father, it nearly figuratively and literally killed me to burn that bridge. they both are victims of her mother. when you are raised by someone you become very attached to them, and at the same time she FUCKING LIVES WITH THEM what do you expect??? thats a hell of a leap of faith. I get it OP is hurt but this pain isn't caused by her, but her mother who has a lot of power in her life. And lets say she takes this leap, she'll put herself in a very dangerous spot and if the relationship goes south (for example, this will be extremely traumatic and this'll most likely put a lot of strain on both parties if they are unprepared for it. Stuff like that can easily kill someones ability to be in a healthy relationship). what now? go back home to the mom who abuses you and disowned you? stay with someone and watch as the stress eats you both? she has every right to be stressed. Thats her choice to make and really there is no good one. both are abused and need help
That guy was totally in the right for saying he would leave if he found out his significant other was helping their sibling cheat. Huge red flag right there
I came to the comments to explain story 2 to the narrator but seeing as how many people have already done so. I'll just say that understanding cultural differences will help you understand the pressure the gf went through. We're not kidding when we say Asian parents are strict as hell, and the worst of the worst are truly on another level of evil you'll never understand.
"is my dad your boyfriend?" lmao
Okay, so, if she gets back with OP, she can be with the one that she loves, who she has strong feelings for, and who makes her happy, and she doesn't have to ever hear from her mother again? Sounds like a win-win to me!
I just went through a breakup as a result of my career choice yesterday. It’s my dream career and it’s one where I would be very well set for the rest of my life as long as I keep my head on straight. But my now ex girlfriends family did not have a good opinion of it or me. The OP is better off moving on and finding someone who is actually worthy of them
🤦🏾♀️ you've obviously never had emotionally abusive & controlling parents
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Well he just have to bare with it and just accept that it going to take a long time but be happy with your love for him
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Story # 3 - you hit the nail on the head.
For story two, it's unfortunate that she's in that situation with her family it's not her fault and it doesn't mean she doesn't care. However it is not his responsibility to "rescue" her from her family and he has no obligation to suffer all of the emotional trauma that comes from having toxic people like that in proximity. I think he should move on, but it's his decision
Story 1- I think she didnt fight for him as much as the narator Said she should because she was raised like that so she doesnt know how to, thats why he has to fight even harder if They truly love each other to get her back
That is wild on story 1
On the last story. There are a profuse amount of potential positive paths the timeline can go if the fiancée, with his particular sense of family and properly prepared by O.P. in how they will act, manages to push past their preexistent prejudice and win them over.
Story two: Conditional love is the number one way the dangerous kind of narcissists keep people in their orbit, especially children who grew up in the environment.
Story Three: Another case of conditional love, plus trying to paint OP, AKA an outsider who can see the toxic behavior and not fall for the honey, in a negative light for not wanting to engage with the toxic person/people in the family.
*Story 1:* How can the owner be a *"trespasser"* on his own property?
2nd story: I disagree, it sounds like she was never aloud to grow up and so is just as much the victim.
Gotta disagree. At a certain point someone has to step their foot down. She is not doing so and as such is enabling this behavior. I get the idea of breaking away from family norms is scary but if the only other choice is to be sad and such due to following them than at some point she is not a victim but an enabler.
@@DanielGonzalez-qk6sd actually I'm referring to her not being allowed to be her own person. There's another story with a good example, this woman was in her 20's but still called her mom 'mama', only after she was kicked out of her home did she begin to mature and apologise to her brother for how she acted.
@@GoodNeutralEvilChaos Ah then you are right. Due to her culture the GF in this story never grew up. I thought your point was something else. My bad.
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As for 2nd story, I felt for her. In most asian household, as long as you stay with your family, you've to follow the house rules even you're already your 40's or married. And being disown is something shameful for asian. Thus, what you can do as a friend/ex, offer her help, security, a house/room for instance and assure her even without marriage you will be there for her. She really need it...the courage 💪🏻
Story 4: OP needs to wake up and realize she is about to lose her husband. She isnt mad at the sister, would have probably tipped her off, cant believe her own husband doesnt trust her somehow, and your both very close. Yeah, sounds like OP is getting divorced
can you elaborate a bit on the "would probably have tipped her off" bit? not arguing, genuinely curious.
she admitted to the husband that if told about the PI she would have told the sister about it@@stinky_twigs
Story 1 : the bf of the entitled karen watched Lion king religiously and flexed on her telling her everything the light touches is his kingdom lol 😂😂
you know that old saying your known by your friends, your known by your family and known by the enemies you have. your have to accept your husband will leave you if he can't trust you and if he thinks you helped her by covering up he has a point.
story 3 I have an aunt who acts basicaly the same as the sister she overreacts at the smallest things and when thinks the world revolves around her I do love her but I have to think about all my actions 3 steps ahead so I dont cause a fight at this point I get so stressed out while being around and when you do set her off she will twist the story and use it later down the line like not a long time ago she got so upset at my dad because he wouldnt eat the gluten free cake (my dad cant eat gluten) which can be very expensive but we had just eaten a really big roast dinner with my grandparents and my dad was to full to eat also my parents made it very clear that there will be no desert and no one should bring a desert knowing this my aunt still got upset at my dad. another time was last christmas me my brother and parents had all pitched in to pay for my grandparents plane tickets so they could visit their relatives some of which they had not seen 20 years and so they could go to my cousins wedding my aunt was upset because we didnt pay for her ticket and that because we were going to no one could watch her dog our dogs would watched by my other grandparents
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4th story her family is toxic af the husband ain't wrong.
people just fighting over one thing people said like 6 yr olds playing fortnite.. I LOVE IT!
Story 2: you don’t get what it’s like to live in an Asian household bud. Like, yeah, it’s not the healthiest, but that’s just how it is. I’m 19 and I have to ask to go anywhere or do anything. It’s awful. But it’s that or move out and I don’t have the money for that
If my parents forced me to marry someone because of money, then im breaking off with them. Thankfully they raised me great and taught me you need to marry solely for love.
I feel sorry for the op who had to deal with this but amazing content
Bruh “he’s convinced my family is toxic” no duh dingleburg
Being around 60-70 probably
"Still strong as an Ox"
His presence is enough
Story 2 - You know, it shouldn't be ONLY the ex's fault for her mother to be a mentally abusive piece of poo. I understand your point, that she's well over 21 now and such, and she should stand on her feet against her mom. I also get it, that she fears the thought of her being disowned, though that would also be a miracle for her to be torn out of a toxic environment.
This fear makes her being partially at fault as well, no matter how I view this. OP and his ex should definitely act against the mother's idiotic mentality.
I do not know what he is talking about how it is extreme that her husband don’t want her to talk to her sister ever again!
Last Story: maybe since he's a hard worker he can ask for a month off and if granted take a flight to spend time with your parents and maybe your sisters if they are able to do he has someone to help him not fall apart
Little thing on story 2: I’ve been around manipulative people and sometimes your raised thinking that’s normal, and what if she didn’t want to go no contact with her parents or family over one person? I agree the mom is bad manipulative but sometimes it’s family that wins, even though you win at a loss.
Good Karen story.
At the end it looked like they did the rock eyebrow thing.
Part 4: OP does need to cut ties with her sister. She's not the one who's cheating and she's not a small child to be influenced by her sister. She infact, should be supporting her sister at this time and getting her back on track in her life.
This is a confusing comment... That or I'm tired.
Do you mean OP should cut contact or shouldn't?
Based on the rest of the comment I think they meant should not.@@Omega_1111
Second story; She needs to turn the manipulation around on her mother/family.
me: *reads title* HOW?!?!?!?!
Evicted!? She disnt even own the house and uet tried to claim her dad or BF dad owned everything around her 🤣
Story 2: she did fight, her family started trying to make them break up from day one and they were together for about a year and a half (if I remember correctly) so she fought it for their whole relationship and it was op who brought up that maybe they should break up as op saw the toll that her family was having on her
He sounds like the guy from lets game it out
The second story is basically the mother breaking the law of her own daughter's rights to choose who she wants to be with.
Gotta get that girl away from her family cuz it'll get worse,
Worst case scenario? She might agree with them.
Story 2: honestly ... i agree with you here. She is an adult and should get her own priorities. I know is a cultural thing and she is been raise into this mentality and is sad as well. BUT she is already indoctrinate into this submission and it will be hard in the future for OP as well. SO the best will be moving forward, better yourself up (physically and financially) and find someone without telling your finances as well and hits all your preferences and likes as well.