5 Things About Grief No One Really Tells You
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- čas přidán 23. 07. 2024
- Most people know the common five to seven stages of grief: Shock, Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Testing, and Acceptance. Everyone experiences these stages in entirely different ways. Truth is, there is more to grieving than most people realize. We also did a video on emotional numbness here: • 8 Signs You're Emotion...
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With so many things happening around the world right now, how are you dealing with the process of grief?
im sad
Hello
I don't really know...
No idea..
Yea, lost my father a month ago
Once I read a tweet that said: "Grief is just love that has nowhere to go", and I broke down crying.
This hit my soul
Dang :(
❤️
I read things way worse then that am too depressed that am numb 😔
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"Just stay strong" is often said by people who have never experienced real grief.
Exactly ❤️
“stay strong” implies that I ever was strong”! My husband passed 16 years ago, He was the one man who made me complete.
They are sometimes not deep enough
definitely
Staying strong has too many meanings. I think that it is said by people who are trying to be supportive. I think a better phrase should be "stay connected" or "keep in touch". Those people are may care about you. Give them the benefit of the doubt.
I lost my dog today and we had a really strong bond. It's very lonely because people don't understand how hard losing a pet is.
Believe me, I get it. We had to lay our 17 yo cat to rest on 10/29/23, 4 weeks ago. He was my soul mate. I now feel like I'm wearing a cement overcoat. I feel dead and empty inside. These long winter evenings/nights don't help either. I'm so sorry for your loss. ❤
Losing a pet can almost feel like a loss of a person. Especially if they shared a lot of closeness with you & were always there.
I just lost my dog few hours ago, been looking for content to make sense of it all
@@hoangbro8340Sorry to read. I lost my cat 2 days ago and wss also looking for something to help me through this difficult time.
@@hoangbro8340so sorry for your loss,mine died a month ago
“We will grieve for as long as we live.“ Thank you for saying this because it’s true.
True.
@JC-du6sn OK, thanks!
@JC-du6sn I just looked it up, but it says she talks about the heaven that awaits believers. I don’t believe in a God that picks and chooses, so it’s not for me, but thanks anyway.
@@whitebirchtarotagreed!
At the same time, this idea can be completely overwhelming for someone in the initial “knocked flat” stages of grief. The pain never fully fades, but the pain drops from a 10 to maybe a 2 or 3; it becomes more occasional, manageable, tolerable. We grow around it. ❤️🩹
We never " get over " the loss, we eventually find a way to live with it.
What a terrible way to live
Very true..
Agree We never get over losing our children ever so stop telling us to stay strong or things will get better, I don’t take advice from anyone unless they have lost a child Because they could never understand what we feel or go through 💔😪
That’s right ladybug 🐞
@@jojober1980 I’m one who understands . I’ve been there and even after so many years I have found that I have lived with it for thirty years. Losing a child is something that is with you your whole life.
"We will grieve for as long as we live..."
Well said!
Grief is a price we pay for love
😭😭😭
Exactly☹
Grief means that we loved and loved well. I lost my dad four months ago and my grief reminds me how fortunate I was to have someone like him.
@Mary Betoncourt Glad to help ❤️
@@fbkskn You helped me understand so much, I'm autistic so I struggle very much understanding things that are not literal, like death, but with your comment you helped more than a therapist. Thank you.
I'm sorry for your loss 💐
The man I considered like my father passed away today. I’m devastated. Is the first time I’m having with a major loss of a loved one and is the worst and most excruciating pain I’ve felt in my life. I’m desperately looking for videos to learn to cope with it, because the next weeks and months are gonna be hell
So sorry to hear that, Danna. It really is the worst pain ever, heartbreak is real 💔 I'm 37 and have only dealt with the deaths of my grandmothers - 20 and 30 years ago now, so I can relate to not experiencing major loss before. My godfather died last week unexpectedly in his sleep. How someone can be here one minute and then gone the next is something I cannot get my head around - it’s insane. I’m not sure if time heals all wounds, it’s more like you just get used to them being gone - but there will be some relief. I promise you’re more resilient than you know, you’ve just never had the opportunity to find that out before. It may not feel like it now, while you’re in the depths of it, but you have already made it through the first week. You may not be functioning as you usually do, but you’re still here and doing what you can to help yourself through and that’s amazing. You’ll be in my thoughts ❤️
I'm doing the same thing for the past week. my mom passed last week and my heart won't stop hurting.
Tip for a video that helpt me persenely a lot: “what no one Tells jou About loosing a parent”. This video helpt mee ALOTE, and the love doesnt get better but eventueelly the pain wil be less strong and heavy. ❤
Lost my dad this morning, and I have not stopped crying since. I feel your pain, I feel numb and I do not know what to do next. This is the worst feeling I have ever experienced. I hope you feel better soon
@@KrystalAnnisa I lost my dad 9 days ago. I feel so numb right now it feels like it never happened.. I don't know what I'm going to do either. Just thought I'd share so I could say you're not alone and we will get through this. Im so so sorry for your loss.
I lost my dog today. It was extremely hard watching his health degrade so quickly. He went from running around and all happy one week to can’t even stand or lift his head without assistance the next. I see him everywhere I look. When I hear a sound, I think it’s him moving around the house. I keep reminding myself to feed him dinner or let him outside. I loved him so much I don’t know what to do. I grew up with him, the last 15 years. I miss him so much. I love you Griffey
I know your comment was three months ago but I relate to this greatly right now it’s the craziest scariest thing having a dog go from your normal lil pup to him having a seizure and not even being able to walk within just a few hours it’s so heartbreaking sorry you had to go through that we just did yesterday ❤️
@@leahw8511 I really appreciate your comment and it’s reassuring to know there’s so many people feeling the same way I do. It’s tough but it has gotten better. I’m very thankful for the time I got to have with my pup and I’m sure you are as well. I hope that you can cherish those memories and find comfort in them
I lost my cat today. I found him on the floor seizing, and the next day, I had to put him down. It's left a tremendous hole in me. I can especially relate to noises around the house since I live alone in a small apartment. I'm scared for the coming weeks because I just know I'm gonna be thinking about his food and cleaning his litter box. Rip to all the lost pets out there.
@@Rapllez I lost my dog today 😣🕊️
I miss you Teddy 😣🕊️
Rip to your cat man 😣👊🏾
@@The_Saint1300 I'm sorry, rip teddy 🐶
The pain never really goes away. Sure the pain dulls over the years, but it never fades completely.
True
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felt that
Yea u just learn to live with it and live on
I just started grieving yesterday and I'm afraid of how I'm gonna go through the next days without my dog.
My mum died last week. I never thought I would lose my mum so early (I’m 18) she was my best friend, my rock. She done everything for me and the fact I would never see her again kills me. Seeing my dad so hurt breaks me even more.
I can sort of relate. My brother died a week and a day ago. And I never got to see him around the time he died. My other brother said "it's never gonna be ok as it once was but you will grow and it will get easier to handle and talk about".
I don’t have any words of wisdom. I just wanted to extend my sympathies - I am truly sorry for your loss. And the horrible pain that you and your dad are feeling. I lost my mom two months ago; it is so hard, and I wouldn’t wish this headache on anyone. ❤️
I lost my father 3 weeks back ..he was my rock, my best friend and I love him more than anyone else in this world..it hurts everyday to think that I will never see him again
Think of all the good memories of your mom so that she can smile and stay happy.Domt think she is gone she will be your inner strength always with u more than ever.
Tell dad you are still alive for him to concentrate on u now.
Loads of love n blessings.❤️
Your Mom is at peace let her REST
I am so sorry for your loss. There are no words just know your mom is with you always…I believe they are still with us in spirit, she is with you always. Be safe and well it’s ok to grieve it’s a process.
I lost both of my parents before I turned 30. My mom passed away in 2021 and I lost my dad in 2008. I’m an only child and it felt like my whole world came crashing down. Lost a lot of friends. Realized who was true all at the same time. It has been and still is a journey, and I miss them more everyday.
I understand. Please hang in there. Lost my mom august 31. Only child too. My heart goes out to you..🪻
That’s as rough as it gets I can only imagine rest in paradise to both of them.
If you don’t mind me asking you something… how do/did you deal with the fear of the that point on? The fear of being/feeling alone not knowing where that guidance or even just someone to vent too and keep going everyday work and ect. Sorry if I don’t make sense just lost my brother and basically only friend so just trying to figure what to do
Lost my mom March 23 and my dad many years ago. I too am an only child. My mom was my everything.
I lost my only sibling, my big brother in 2011 to suicide. I lost my dad in 2014 to cancer. And I lost my youngest son, suddenly, tragically & violently just 16 weeks ago, today. The night his heart stopped beating, I died too. Yet I live.
I have support from friends & family. Yet I still feel alone. It’s just the way it is. We are grieving. They are not. Our lives have irrevocably changed forever. I am in support groups online. There are zoom meetings. I also do Tele-health therapy. Keep looking for the support that suits you. In person or at home. And if one therapist isn’t good just get a new one until you find one that works! I didn’t have therapy with any other death in my life. I probably should have with my brother & my dad but I didn’t. But this, this I cannot do alone! Not this one! I need help to get through this somehow.
One of my cousins was murdered. My other cousin died in an ATV accident. All of my grandparents are gone. My dad was one of 13 kids. I only have four uncles left. I have suffered many losses. They are all different.
They all hurt. Suicide is the worst grief. You’re over critical. Second guessing everything. Regretting. And the guilt is automatic for almost all survivors. Some leave notes & some don’t. You are left wondering why forever! Did they cry? Did they suffer? Why didn’t they ask for help? Why didn’t we know? Some give warnings & others don’t. My brother did not leave a note but he had tried dozens of times throughout our lives. I suffered trauma from my childhood to my teen years and even my adult life until he completed. It’s such a long & ugly grief!
My dad was my best friend. I didn’t grieve for two years. I was in denial. I could not face it! It was too hard! We worked together. We coached sports together. We were together 6 days a week! He didn’t die of cancer. They overdosed his one & only chemo! We didn’t get months or a year with him. He died 14 days later from chemical burns to his organs!! I became angry to cope. I hated the world & what it took from me! I didn’t like who I became. So I grieved all over again but this time I accepted it. And my anger got less. It never went away but it lessened to a normal anger when I think about it.
So when I lost my child, I knew I had to grieve. This hurts so bad there is no way I want to prolong it! It has made me so physically sick almost every day. My doctor sent me to the er because he thought I was having a stroke or heart attack. Everything turned out ok. I was sick for days. Then I was diagnosed with PTSD from the way it was handled. Anxiety & rare, severe wave panic attacks. They last days! I have never felt anything like this. At times I feel this grief is going to kill me because it takes such a physical toll on my body. I get stroke symptoms. I don’t cry. I sob. And when I sob, I hyperventilate horribly. This happens 95% of the time when I cry. Ice cold face & hands. Cold sweat only on my face. Numb mouth & tongue. Dizzy & lose balance. Confusion. Cant think straight. Cant focus. Feel generally unwell. Feel like I can’t breathe. Chest, shoulder & back hurt sometimes. Heart aches too sometimes. My heart beats rapidly. So loud I can feel it & hear it in my ears. I hear the blood rushing through my ears with every beat of my heart. My face, head, arms & legs get tingly.
The night it happened, all of this happened plus I couldn’t hear & I couldn’t walk. I screamed & wailed for four hours until 1:30am. People were coming out of their houses. I tried to fight through the cops to get to my son. They carried me away! They wouldn’t even let me see them take him away. I begged them to please cover him & let me hold my baby until he transitioned out of this world. I made him. I carried him. I birthed him. It was my right to see him out of this world as I am the one who brought him into it! They took that away from me! They caused me deep sorrow & major trauma! The EMT’s said I was in shock.
A mother is not supposed to bury her child. It’s out of the natural order of things. I am now Vilomah. I have loved him his whole life. And now I will miss him for the rest of mine. I dont know how to recover from this.
All I can say is to watch NDE’s on CZcams & read their books!! It helps to get you through the day. I know my son is ok! He’s better than all of us. But I’m not ok. Not yet.
You may have seen the trailer for After Death on FB. If not, look it up. That is an NDE. They are all very different but most of them are similar. There are records over the centuries. And
now doctors are finally believing it. Why? Because it’s happened to them!
I hate that doctors have a God complex. We know that today most of them do it for the money & the status. It’s not about healing people anymore. It’s sick care. Not healthcare. That’s why the medical system is so horrible. Their first oath is, “First do no harm.” Doctors are the #1 cause of death in America. Malpractice! Yep. And my dad was one of them! I’m just glad that some doctors are speaking out & researching them now!! It’s important.
I kind of already knew my son was ok. But the NDE’s surely help. Knowing my son is ok is what gives me peace for him. But I have no peace for me. My purpose was being his mom. I didn’t want to be a teacher or a lawyer or a doctor. I wanted to be a mom. And the only time I get peace temporarily is when I watch NDE’s. Sometimes several at a time. I can actually breathe!
If you don’t agree with one, that’s fine, keep watching. One will bring you peace & help you to get through the day. Maybe more for you. But for me, I’m lucky to get through one day. And that’s ok. Because we all have different relationships, and we all grieve differently.
I am so sorry for your loss. Hugs & blessings to you. I hope you find some support & peace. Michael’s Mom F23💛🕊️🕊️🕊️
I'm so sorry for your loss! I am now alone too with my dad passing in 2017 and mom this august '23. it can seem scary at times facing the world and navigating it alone
My cat passed away today, I've cried so much that my head hurts. The tears stop, until I'm reminded of him again. I stepped into my home and immediately broke down into tears, I saw his empty bed and cried even more, I have never experienced loss like this before. He was with me ever since I was 7 years old, I'm 14 now and he was with me for 50% of my life. I really wish he was here with me longer, I always thought he would have lived until I was an adult, I thought he would have been there with me during my graduation, getting my first job, been able to meet my first love interest and all that stuff that happens during your teenage to adulthood years. His health declined rapidly, and we thought he had diabetes and could have possibly received treatment of some sort, but when we took him to the vet we were informed that he had cancer after running tests on him, and that he would not survive past today. The memory of just hearing that news hurt, everything hurts. I do not want to go to school, I don't want to finish my assignments, I don't want to do anything. I'm so empty without him, he was so healthy and strong, he was the smartest cat that ever lived. When he was sick, he was in so much pain, his breathing was laboured and his personality went from peppy to mellow and lethargic, he also lost an alarming amount of weight. His spine poked out of his back, and whenever you pet him you could feel that he was as frail and weak as a dying animal, literally.
"He's like a totally different cat" my mother said, she was correct. He was always hungry back then, meowing for food all the time and always doing tricks for us to somehow persuade us into giving him food. Thinking back on it really makes me sad, but the memory of him warms my heart just a bit. My heart is shattered, and I feel as though there is a deep dark void in my heart. I feel my teeth chattering whenever I try to hold back my tears, I miss him so much. When I went into my room, I mistook the pile of clothes on the floor as him, and it made me cry. When I think of him I cry, anything that reminds me of him makes me cry.
My mother gave me a long talk about grief and her experiences with it, later on in the day my father did too. My father comforted me by saying something about my cat sailing on a boat to a better place, using my tears to sail upon, and that there were enough tears already with no more reason to cry. This really comforted me, and I really would like it if these words could comfort someone else who is also mourning after a loved one.
I'm in so much pain, emotionally and physically. It hurts without him, and I wish for nothing more than to see him again.
I got to have my last moments with him in a room at the vet, the room had hearts on the wall with text printed on it with words like "I'll remember you forever" and all that. There was a couch in the room, and the vet brought in my cat after he had undergone a procedure to help him breathe for a bit longer, since his cancer caused liquid to fill his lungs. Since he was just put under anaesthetic, he could not feel the pain that he had been going through for all these weeks. For the first time in ages, he was purring in my arms and snuggling against my hands, I savoured my last moments with him as my mother discussed the prices for cremating him and running tests on him with the vet behind me.
My cat would always come up and kiss me or my mother on the lips when asked, "Give me a kiss" and he would do it if asked enough times. Although, when I crouched there with him snuggling and purring against my hands for the very last time, he did not give me a kiss when I asked.
So, for the very last time, with the vibrations of his purr calming my heart, I leaned down and planted a kiss on the top of his head.
The time was up and he had to go get put to sleep, the feeling of my hands departing his fur is a feeling I will never forget. I watched as the vet placed him over her shoulder, carrying him down the cream coloured hallway.
I saw my cat, for the very last time, I dared not look away. I walked the opposite direction with tears in my eyes, my gaze not leaving my cat at any moment, until he disappeared as the door closed behind him. Sunlight shone through the windows, even though I hate sunny weather, it comforted me for the first time at this very moment.
When walking back to the car with my mother, I still felt the warmth of his fur on my hands. Tufts of cat fur still stuck to my black sleeves from when I last came in contact with my dear companion, I'll never forget the comfort I felt as I listened to his purrs for the last time.
I'm happy that I was the last, and only person to give him a goodbye kiss.
He lives on in my heart, and in my memory. My tears have stopped now after writing this, grief hurts a ton, but I'm sure that I'll overcome it after time. I miss him dearly, and no other cat can fill the place in my heart, the place reserved for the friend that comforted and stayed by my side as I grew up from a small child into a young teenager. He's always with me, I'll miss you and I love you my precious little boy.
Hey,
I hope life has been good to you and that times have gotten easier. Reading how much you loved your cat really warmed my heart because I also love our cats. The bond you described is special. That will always be a blessing that he got to experience: the true love and friendship of a human. I hope the pain has subsided and you find strength in the days that have followed.
Be well.
@@austinb5063 Thank you so much! I completely forgot about this comment, I think I was really emotional at the time. I still really do miss him, and I still think about what it'd be like if he was still here, but I guess that's just how life is and all I can do is accept it. I'm doing well nowadays and I hope you're doing well also, thanks for being kind!
It’s an odd thing how inevitably life keeps going on when in our world it’s unfathomable to think it will.
I recently lost my dad in a tragic and unexpected manner. Reading your comments, then and now, gave me a snapshot to how being further removed from those initial grief stages eases the intensity. But I’m with you, not a day goes by I don’t wonder how that would feel to have him still here and why he left this world too early.
@@austinb5063 I'm so sorry that's happened, but I'm sure your father is in a better place now. Life always throws the most unexpected things at you, and we all have no choice but to keep going, but after some time things will always get better. Grief hits you like a tidal wave, life's never easy and that's just the way it is... but time heals all wounds - and I'm sure that with time, when thinking of your father, you'll think of the positive memories you shared rather than the sadness of his passing. :)
This really helped reading this. I hope things are easier now.
When faced with monumental loss, the pain is so intense at first you can’t imagine how you will go on. After a while, the true horror is that you realize that you will go on, and you will feel the loss every day.
💯% true...
That's where I'm at
A song. A smell in the air. Many triggers come on unexpectedly for me. Memories swell and rwgrets of not being able to make new memories
I pray that you are right. I feel that I am nowhere near that yet! I miss my beautiful Beth immensely! God give me strength
@@jeannecarstens9230
💖❤ Thank you so very much. God Bless us and give us strength and comfort
Grief isn’t an easy experience. This is helpful to anyone and everyone.
It's probably one of the most difficult experience humanly possible.
Psych2Go, thank you for replying. Even though, in my life I have never experienced grief, I know it’s harder than just getting over it. Plenty of people have experienced grief and I appreciate you doing this, because you could be helping thousands of people just by making one video.
@@Psych2go the most difficult experience is the loss of a child. I lost my only child my sweet handsome son in Nov 2019. He will be 30 yrs old next Sunday.
So very true it’s not easy at all, my grandmothers death anniversary and father’s day around the corner in several days are both very hard for me. As they’re both gone 💔😔😢💔 I have a hard time with it, seeing as I’ve had more loss than I’d like to have in my life...😰🥀 #GriefHurts
Tillie Cannon I’m so sorry for your loss, pets and animals make the best companions. At times better than humans so when they pass or go It does hurt deep.😰😢😰 #MyCondolences
To add to #3: there's also "happiness guilt;" the guilt of wanting to be happy after you lost a loved one. It can feel "fake," like it's not real happiness without that loved one. It can even feel "selfish," like you're forgetting about your loss to make yourself feel better.
My brother passed away 30 days ago and I’ll be doing something so simple like listing to a song I like, then I get hit with a gut wrenching feeling of guilt and sadness that he will never listen to another song again
@@KDizzieIn the year since my husband died, I’ve felt many times like admitting anything is okay, or heaven forbid even better, without him here, suggests I didn’t really love him and kind of wanted him gone. Intellectually, I know this isn’t true, but feelings are the definition of irrational; they simply are what they are! ❤️🩹
I’m feeling very similar, especially since I was a person I really did not like before my mother’s passing.
I want to be a better person, more outgoing, more honest in my feelings, showing love to people that I care about.
But I feel so fucking guilty that I never conveyed that love properly to her. She had to die without me ever telling her how I felt about her, if only I had 5 minutes to tell her everything…
U expressed it nicely, Thanks!
My 96 year old mother died the day after Mother's Day. I had her for such a long time. But watching her die and suffer, after hospice began her painful and steady descent, was the worst thing I've ever experienced in my life. I miss everything about my Mom.
Same for me. One week without her and not sure when I will stop crying remembering her last days of suffering in the hospital. I miss her so much.
Your last statement got me....I miss everything about my mom ...I lost mine too
My grandma was 95 and just passed away after an emergency surgery and I couldnt even say goodbye or kiss thats what kills me the most I cant stop crying how does this pain even get better??!😔
“Life doesn’t get easier or more forgiving, we get stronger and more resilient.”
― Steve Maraboli
For some people too many drawbacks makes them less stronger and resilient, especially if the trauma has happened early in life.
Not really.
Seems the opposite. It's like childhood was a barrier against life
Books In Review No, that’s not necessarily true, sometimes, we don’t get stronger we just have to accept what has happened and learn to live with it and this changes us. It doesn’t always make us more resilient, but it often makes us more sensitive and compassionate to others. In my experience grief has not made me stronger I was stronger before my loss.
Kale Krenn I was bullied and yeah, in my case, kind of.But most people just get more emotional and sensible.
My dog died one month ago and the pain is so real I haven't been able to move on. She represented love and companionship in my life and now it's gone. My heart goes to anyone that is greiving their pets right now 😢
I am sorry for your Ioss. I hope you're doing okay now. Just remember to take your time slowly okay? I am still in the process of grieving my cats, it has been 3 months now :)
You’ll never truly move on but it will start to hurt less as time goes on. And that can take a very long time, there are still nights I wake up crying about my dog and it’s been over 5 years.
I'm so sorry 💔
Barbara Gray commenting: 8 months ago I lost my little Siamese cat I know exactly how you feel I miss her so much everyday and since I just head lost my husband and my sister I thought I would have her for awhile but no she became ill and she left me I know it hurts so bad, I hope you'll be able to at least cope with it like they say it will get better but it takes a long time you will never forget your pet, never . again I'm so sorry for your loss
My kitten passed away back in August and is the worst heart break I have ever experienced. My chest felt hollow from the moment he was gone, I definitely believed he took my heart with him. I really feel as if I will never be happy again. I was very depressed before him and he brought everything I was missing in my life and for him to be gone all of a sudden. Everyday has been hard, the day we were supposed to celebrate his first birthday was filled with tears and sadness, then came the anniversary of the dah I adopted and he wasn’t here. They were supposed to be very happy days but instead they were very miserable for me 😔 It hurts that no one around me understands. I don’t think any of them have loved a pet like I loved my baby Pablo 💔
My dog died peacefully in my arms today. The last words he heard me say to him were, “you’re such a good boy, you know that? I love you, Buddy”. I’m so endlessly grateful that I got to be there for him.
As a pet owner of 2 little sweet Chi's this brings tears to my eyes. I have found that remembering the good things that makes me smile helps a ton.
Your lucky man, my pup died at 6am this morning and the people in my house had buried him when I was asleep, I never got to say my final words or hold him as they dug a hole, instead they wanted me to not know about him until I finally asked where my pup, chewy, had went, I am now locked in my bathroom at 2am, sobbing about how I couldn't even be there for him because of my family hiding the fact he had died.
My first cat red he used to be orange had him for much years he died in 19 octomber 2022 and last four days i had my second kitty meow he was fellig soo sick i went with my mom at veterinary to help him he died yeasterday 31octom 2022 now am destroyed:(
He knows how much you love him. You did such a good job. ❤
@@alexandruarhirii9110 I’m so sorry about your losses. I hope you will love a cat again, though no one can ever replace the cats you lost. ❤
people don't understand that saying that hes in a better place now or not in pain anymore doesnt make me feel any better. just because he was a dog doesnt mean he didnt mean the world to me. ive known him since the day i was born, even if he was just a dog he meant everything to me. thank you for 14 years gizmo, ill miss you forever bubba.
Dogs are really family members. Many dogs are really wonderful, canine people with four legs, fur and a tail. I grew up with dogs, so I totally understand your sentiments.
I remember when my dads dog died in his room, i didn't know how to feel about it. Then the sadness hit later :(
@@myplaylist7007 i understand. i lost my other dog and grandma on january 1st of this year within 18 hours of eachother and it took me 2 days to be able to actually cry. grief is so complicated.
Reading some of the comments below tells me that so many of us are hurting. I send prayers, love and hugs to every one of you. We aren't crazy, we are human.
Thank you
Thank You and Same to you.
Barbara gray commenting: thank you so much. I'm sending all these nice things back to you
Shirley Kaye, hope you are doing well.......praying for everyone who has experience the pain/ hurt of losing someone so Dear to your hearts.
@@peggyoneal325 Thank you for your kind words! It brought me back to this video today, which is fortunate because a cousin who was very dear to me died on Saturday, April 16, of an incurable disease. This video and the supportive comments have helped me remember that it is ok to grieve and that a lot of people just don't understand because they have never been through loss. Sending love and hugs and healing wishes to everyone who has commented on this video.
My dad died of lung cancer when I was 13 and when I was 28 I lost my mom to pneumonia it was so hard to lose both of my parents I live with the memory of watching my dad slowly die at the age of 13 of what I thought was the worst thing to have ever existed and moms passing came out of the blue she had pneumonia before and never became deathly ill and then about a year and half ago I learned that my eldest brother went missing after mom passed and no one has heard from him since and then there is me I was diagnosed with a incurable stomach illnesses a year and half ago I have been grieving for a long time now and I am tired of grieving but the pain is so huge I pray that one day I will be able to handle it better
@Addicted to Psychology yes that's true. I myself are just heal from my own problem that cause me to grief for 1 and a half year,stuck at the denying phase. Believe me or not I still feel the pain now, I just learn to accept it. Before this when my friend are in trouble or problem I will say "hang in there,you are stonger then you think" but now I will only hug them and say "calm down,let it all out,its okay,just cry,I'm here for you". I cant believe how much I've changed since those horrible phase of my life.
A life partner and having a family of your own can help you ease your pain. What also helps is connecting with yourself and having some kind of spiritual connection that can help heal you. Meditation also helps. Also staying connected with your friends and family and doing meaningful work that will keep you busy will help you cope with this situation. Saying this from my own experience. You having lost your parents at such a young age is very difficult but you should realise that everyone is going to lose their parents or loved ones at some point in their life. I know it's hard but this is a part of life. We have come on this earth alone and when we go we are alone. So don't feel regret for anything and be hopefull .Be positive for yourself and have a healthy and happy life . Surely things will get better for you.
My mom died too of pneumonia when i was 10
I lost my mom too when I was 13 to pneumonia. Sometimes I'm ok and sometimes I'm not. I have been trying to hold my family ever since. Sometimes we are not lucky enough to have our parent(s) in adult life. But a part of them guides us into adulthood. Their teachings and their memories live on as we live.
One day you will be able to understand why,how,and what you are feeling. You have to feel it to heal it❤
My cat of 19 years died today. The pain is unbearable. She's been my rock my entire life, the sense of loss I feel is so unlike anything I've ever felt before. It feels better to know that other people have also experienced this and that I'm not alone.
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Aww same I lost my cat 2yrs ago.. da only reason I can cope wit it,r da facts dat others hav experienced these, especially my sibblings they lost their pets n today I lost my monkey..I hope me n my family will learn to accept it asap,coz dis house feels so lifeless n quiet now...
I had to say goodbye to my little mate yesterday after nearly 17 years with him. It’s raw and I feel my head is going to explode of upset and hurting with him not being around anymore. The house feels cold and empty. 😢
We lost our fur baby three months ago and we still cry every day.Not everyone will understand it but be sure to find people who will.
I feel so much empathy for you 😢 I suddenly lost my cat a year and a bit ago (Mother’s Day) . He was six. A hidden heart condition and I miss him every day. The pain is so strong, but you will gradually accept it and think about them without strong heartache , just love and sadness.
When you experience a death of a loved one it truly changes you as a person. You realise the harsh reality. Fun times won’t last forever, when they are gone , they are gone. It really screws you up mentally and pushes you to use every single minute of your life to the maximum. Live your life as if you will die tomorrow folks. Stay strong and stay safe ❤️
Eddie: No it doesn't make you Feel Like Living Every day to ur Fullest 😂 Loosing a Close Close person,Makes u wanna feel like dying! U don't want to Live Anymore,Rip "Carlos" My Only Friend😢.
Something I’ve learned is that grieving can start before you actually have a loss, if loss has been anticipated. Like taking care of someone who is chronically/terminally ill.
Eva Armstrong , you're so right. I grieve for not having a life if my own.
Yes I did this and it’s true.
I'm so scared, my sister is severely disabled. And sometimes she seems to be getting worse. I know everyone goes. But everyday I get more scared.
My great mother is 80 and my family is taking care of her in our house. She can’t even get up. I miss the days she would take me to the pool in the summer when I was 12.
My dog has been really sick recently and we figured out that it was cancer. I definitely agree. He’s not gone yet but he’s so sick that it feels like he is
Love and hugs to everyone suffering grief, whether fresh or old
Thank you. 💕🦋
Thank you.
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thank you.
Peace be with all of you 🌿💐🌸🌼
May you find solace in renewed joy 🌲🌈🌅🙏😇✨💫
Several years ago someone talked to me about grief and told me something that I have found very helpful. She said that loss, grief is like a physical injury, a wound. We can expect to feel weak and feel a general sense of malaise. We have to let our bodies heal, as if we have been in an auto accident, for example. We have to rest when we need it. We need to eat healthy food. Mostly we need to treat ourselves, mentally, emotionally and physically in nurturing ways. We need to be gentle with ourselves, patient with ourselves and loving with ourselves.
If you were to die today, can you say you are 100% sure you would go to heaven? Jesus loves you more than you could ever want to be loved and He is not willing that any should perish, but you can only get to heaven God's way, not your own. His Word, the Bible, tells us how we can have eternal life in heaven with Him.
First, realize God loves you. John 3:16 says, "For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life."
The Bible teaches that regardless of your background, age, race, or any other factor, God loves you and desires a genuine, personal relationship with you.
Second, realize everyone is a sinner. The Bible says in Romans 3:23, "For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God." No one is perfect. We have all broken God's commandments. This is called sin, and it separates us from God.
Third, realize sin has a price that must be paid. Romans 6:23 tells us, "For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord." The "wage" or payment for our sin is death, which according to the Bible is eternal separation from God in a place called Hell.
Fourth, realize Jesus Christ died to pay the price for your sin. Romans 5:8 says, "But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us." If we choose to accept Christ, we do not have to pay the price of death and Hell for our sins because Jesus paid for our sins when He died on the Cross and rose again three days later!
Finally, pray and ask Jesus Christ to be your Saviour, and claim His promise of eternal life. In Romans 10:13 the Bible says, "For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved." That is a promise directly from God that if you will pray to Him, confess that you are a sinner, ask Him to forgive your sins, and accept Him as your Saviour, He promises to save you and give you the free gift of eternal life.
Please don't put this decision off my friend. God does not promise us another day on this Earth.
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I can't... I'm dealing with the "I should've been the one to die" I miss my twin sister beyond anything.
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Too bad other people don’t see it that way . “It’s just a stupid dog!” ; or “It’s not like you talked to him / her every day like you used to !” ; “Grow up and quit being so emotional !” ; etc . These are just the tip of the iceberg for things that I’ve been told . When I say that not everyone deals with things the same way ; I’ve been told “Yes , they do !” , or “Well , they need to !”
I recently lost my mom and I miss her terribly. She was my very best friend! Prayers of comfort for anyone who has experienced such a great loss! 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
I’m so sorry, I hope you have people who are there helping you get through this. Keep them close to you.
I’m the same, nobody left now. I send you kind thoughts x
My wife passed away on Christmas day....I feel so alone. The pain is overwhelming and the hollow feeling destroys me daily. I'm not sure I will survive this...we met at 17, married at 21 and had 28 years of a beautiful marriage. I wish I would have held her so tight and never let go.
Texmaniac I'm feeling for you , your personal pain. Your world has changed forever, but I guess your still here. As am I. I lost my dad. We had plans like you and your wife I guess. Never gonna happen now. That's hard. I can't give you any words to make anything better. You probably hear them anyway. But I'm in England , Somerset and I'm thinking of you. And how much you loved your wife. And how much that must hurt you now. Sending love. Sending a hope days will get ok again then one day better. Live and keep your wifes memory and the person she loved alive. Iv been cranky for a while with my wife because of how I feel. You saying what you said will make me go in and try to talk , I'll value what I have. Thank you. Your pain and experience has already helped me, I pray you find peace and bless you and those you miss.
That's exactly how I feel. Nothing is the same and never will be.
@@kupus6622 my thoughts are with you as well...a prayer for you to find peace and understanding during these times
@@Cissy2cute I think right now it's pure survival mode...after the healing starts I hope we are able to live knowing they are in a better place and looking over us. Love transcends everything ❤️
@@Texmaniac I get you. Having lost my loved one to suicide has been agonizing. I am in survival mode. I have some faith in God but it has been severely shaken. Still, I cling on to one day I will be better. I am praying for wholeness.
It’s a rollercoaster right now for me. Lost both my parents last year four months apart. I had been caring for both of them the last few years. My mom passed very suddenly and my dad followed . Lost at the moment , very difficult to share this. Thanks
I am so very sorry that happened to you.
💔❤️❤️❤️ So Sorry ❤️❤️❤️💔
same but instead of my parents it was both of my grandparents in just under 2 months. they both died the same way due to covid and other internal issues. i feel you, it was very hard for me to type this too.
Experienced a similar situation with my parents.
Thoughts with you.
Namaste.
I just lost my mom today. I’m only 16 and I don’t know what to do.
I said goodbye to my dog about a month ago, he was the only family I had on a daily basis. Sitting in my grief has been hugely beneficial in processing the void that has formed in my life. To anyone going through grief, I want you to know that no, right now you are not okay, it is not okay. Whatever your grieving just plain sucks. But your tears are okay. Your restless nights, are okay. Thinking that they're still home is okay. Embrace whatever you're feeling as it comes and know your overwhelming sadness is healing you.
I lost my childhood dog a couple days ago. This house is so empty and I can’t stop waiting for her to come around the corner or scratch on my door. Leaving and coming home, even making pancakes, it all hurts. I need to give myself time I know, and seeing these videos do help a little bit. Thank you
My best friend died 1 month ago bcz of corona virus. She was my life. My EVERYTHING. we used to share everything that used to happen in our normal day-to-day life. I could share my every greif,lonliness,every pain so easily to her and she could also. We grew up together since we were 2. She was my neighbor. Now she is lost. I miss her so much. Her death almost took me to depression. It is not that she has died. Its an pain that i cant share my feelings to anyone no more. It hurts sooo much more to live in a house of abusive parents,disgusting academical xms, lonliness and so much more pain..i just can't express and dont even know how to.
I wish i could just see her for once. She was my everything.🖤
I’m so sorry for your loss💔😔 I hope you heal soon. All the love ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
@sohane I too went through a tortured childhood w/ much warped . Stuff 60 now . You do make it .Tough as it is . Your friend is always with you and always in your heart
I am sorry for your loss💔💔💔 and hope you heal soon from such a big grief.
Sohane, your loss is bringing much pain to you ....and it may for some time...
Please remember the Love that you hold in your Heart for your friend....close your eyes....see them...talk to them.
Tell them how you are Feeling...the pain...loss of direction, whatever. Seek their advice, as thru Their Evolvement, they have gained a higher enlightenment.
Our loved ones have not left us. Not spiritually... they Are still here with us.
Feel them in your heart. Feel them in your soul. They are right here with you always to comfort you.
Blessings
Sending you love 💙💙❤️♥️❤️ hang in there.
I'm grieving for two years for my little brother. He died aged 18. I miss him so much.
This made me cry ,I'm so sorry for ur loss ,life is so unfair sometimes
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I'm sorry.
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I lost my older brother last year towards the end of august so we are coming up on the first year real soon and it amazes me how almost an entire year has gone by without hearing his voice or laugh (other than videos) I still cry about it all the time. He was my big brother (8 years difference) and my only sibling. We we set friends and I could tell him everything. I’m only 17 turning 18 in December and I can’t believe there are so many huge events of my life coming up that is gonna mis
Losing my pet today at 10…had him since I was 4 years old and I’m 17 now.
Thank you for the video. My friend constantly says “just stay strong, everything will be alright, you’ll get over it”.
That’s not the kind of “encouragement” that helps me because I need to grieve a bit, I don’t want to just get over my dogs death as if I never cared. I need to grieve and I know it will take a long time until the grieving is fixed.
I want someone telling me that it’s okay to cry and grieve, not someone telling me to “stay strong and you’ll get over it” while I just started grieving.
It is okay to feel your feelings. You won't "get over it", you will grieve. Take care of yourself.
I haven't properly grieved for my parents in which I lost within 20 days apart. I still feel like I should have done something more. I'm trying to accept the fact that I'm all alone without them. I never thought I'd feel like this. I feel like I'm okay and then other times I just lose it. Thank you for sharing this
This year is so dark for me.
I lost my grandfather and grandma on january and my father this month.
Knowing that they're gone forever makes life so different and hard to accept
I really want to believe heaven is real
I know what you mean about questioning heaven. I have lost my unborn brother during the pandemic, and although I never got to meet him here... the pain I experienced felt unbearable. Grief never goes away. You see clouds on a sunny day, grief is still around, but you can still smile and shine like the sun. I have found comfort reading the Bible, knowing that God promised He will wipe away our tears and our painful memories on earth will actually be forgotten! Although God has allowed these tragic things to happen to us, He promised He has good plans for us, and not for evil or harm😊
(Jeremiah 29:11) (Isaiah 65:17) (Revelation 21:4)
This video couldn’t have come at a more perfect time. Last night my dad’s cat died. We are heartbroken. I feel that many people don’t take losing a pet seriously enough. It can hurt just as much as losing a human you love, and it needs time for grieving. The pet becomes a family member, and the pain burns just as strongly as losing a human family member. I really appreciate this video. It was perfect timing.
So sorry to hear about your dad's cat. You are right pets are part of the family . We love them and they show us unconditional love back and yes it does hurt when they pass. You and your family take care x
I lost my dog last night. A truck hit ang crushed his head. i still can't process everything i love him so much he was my bestfriend
@@laurag8126 you CAN get a new cat/pet, but it CAN'T replace your cat. :(
My beloved Cocker Spaniel died June 2020, had him for 13 years, still cry now. I also have adopted cats, mainly strays, two passed away years ago, i still think of them. I have many photos of them and kiss there pictures everyday. Animals are part of the family and are very sadly missed when they do pass away. 💖💖
I want to die together with my dog, he is my everything. I feel like life can't go on anymore without him, I can't lose him. I miss him and every moment I spent with him. Nothing gets better anymore. It hurts more than anything in my life, a part of me dies together with him. I just want to cry myself to death.
The most depressing quote I have ever heard about grief and in general is:
“If you gave someone your heart and they died, did they take it with them? Did you spend the rest of forever with a hole inside you that couldn’t be filled?”
-Jodi Picoult
It shattered me and my heart into a million pieces then crushed and stomped on those pieces into bits
My mother died over four years ago and I am so heartbroken. It feels like a part of my heart went with her.
"Nothing has to die in order for you to go into mourning" so true 💔
II have no boyfriend and they didn’t work out for me yeah I’m his days being off for a very long time or I do you find somebody somebody who is a nurse for me
II have no boyfriend and they didn’t work out for me yeah I’m his days being off for a very long time or I do you find somebody somebody who is a nurse for me so yeah
@@samanthawellssamanthawells3473 ???
One month ago my wonderful husband died. We were married 68 years. I could never explain this emptiness. This loss. This pain.
I feel u💔😭
I'm sorry for your loss.
You should rejoice, I couldn't stay married 6 yrs., ha ha, my wife hated me , I just couldn't see, you had 68 wonderful years, you should go down to the saloon and tye one on
I am so sorry for your loss.
I lost my dad, i know what your going through. This house just doesn't feel the same.
My mother passed away yesterday but we've been estranged for two years and I've been stuck grieving her absence my whole adult life. I'm so exhausted from being stuck in grief purgatory. Now that she's passed, I just want to drag myself to the acceptance stage.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I haven't lost a mother, but I can imagine how immense the grief is. 💔
I lost my grandfather and it hurts like hell. I cant imagine losing my mother. I am here for you bro. How can i help?
I hope you got there. Soon I will be you.
I understand. I'm going through something similar. The estrangement and the circumstances around that complicated things tremendously.
I lost my best friend of seven years this past year. She didn't want a funeral and I found out she had passed from her mom about three weeks after her death. I think that's part of why it sometimes feels like she's still here, just at home a phone call away. I miss her so much and I wish I could have seen her more, called more, anything really. She didn't get to graduate, hadn't even gotten to start college. She would have been phenomenal. It feels weird that I'm going going to be graduating without her there. I really miss her
condolenses 😢
Sorry for your loss 😢
I can relate the part about being triggered and going through it all again. I lost my husband after 30 years; 9 months later I lost my mom, 5 months later I lost 2 siblings 2 weeks apart. This was 4 years ago. Now, 2 weeks ago, I lost my best friend of 35 years. At times I feel like I can't breathe. My youngest child just turned 25 and I feel so inadequate to comfort her. She is in counseling. I've recently retired and I have grieved over the loss of what we had planned during "our" retirement. Grieving can be so lonely. People don't understand that even years later that I am still lost without my husband and the loss of my friend is overwhelming. Being "strong" and functioning is not the same as feeling strong. I hope all of you that are grieving have someone that you can just be with; to just sit with, to share time with, so that you are never alone. 💓
I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending so much love.
What a beautiful human being you are. I am so, so sorry for your losses. That is far too much for anybody to deal with 💔😢
Sending you so much love to heal your broken hearts. Please God, lift the heaviness & sadness from this lovely lady & her daughter 🙏🌹😘
i always say this. the pain is always there, you just learn how to live with it. that’s why 90% of the time when im alone and think about the person, i just simply find myself crying for a good 30 minutes, and sometimes have a good scream out of pain… it helps me going.. and it’s been 7 years since the loss. i never really had the chance to cry in peace, i rushed my grief stages to be strong for others, and passed years of my life being scared and stressed because i saw suicidal behaviour on my family members after our loss. i’ve lost a brother, and i was just trying so hard to keep the sanity of my family together that i forgot i was grieving too. my family is doing good, but im the one who’s tired now
I'm so sorry 😞
The loneliness on top of the loss of losing them = your best friend, is just so awful. It's crippling (physically as well as psychologically), and I truly understand what it's like & how you feel. If we could only have them back. I would literally give everything I own to have him back! The whole thing, the whole occurrence of losing them and then the grief of the void that they leave in our lives is just so hard to process and get through. Every day is a major struggle. People that haven't lost their partners can never understand & they won't ever unless/until it happens to them. We had 11 years together & my soulmate passed unexpectedly at 30 years of age. He just died on his own with no warning and nobody there to say goodbye, I love you. He just vanished 😞 xxx
My grandpa just passed away today. I’m struggling really hard, he was like a father to me. I think I’m still in the shock phase mixed with every single emotion imaginable. I know this process is going to be a battle but Jesus is keeping me strong along with my family. My poor grandma… You can’t fully understand grief until you’ve experienced yourself. God bless you all and I wish nothing but peace and love for you.❤️
God Bless you Payge
God bless you too! God has a plan for you and Jesus loves you! I just lost my Grandpa on the 25th, Me and my mom watched him die, in her arms and it's only the next day so I know God will heal me and my family, It hurts but God saved him. So I'm happier knowing it's not goodbye but see you later. 💕
@@BlasianLux very courageous
This is accurate. You will never know what grieving is until it happened to you.
That Jeezus dude can't help you. You are the only one who can heal you. The dude's not available. You can't lean on an invisible, nonexistent person. You will, surely, fall. You'll have to go through all the stages of grief, and they'll vary, from time to time. I, myself, am going through them, now, because of the death of my Husband.
It’s comforting to see that I’m not the only one grieving. My father passed on November 30th. He was in hospice and his recovery was inevitable but it still hurts a lot. I’m not in the mood for Christmas and people say it’s time to move on and I’m trying. I wish everyone who are suffering the best and may we someday move on with our lives. 😢
We will, its hard right now but we will. bless you and keep your head up.
My dad passed away December 5th. He too was on hospice with no chance of recovery. As much as I tried to prepare myself, there was really no way to understand the emptiness that I feel now. I’m sorry that people are telling you it’s time to move on but those people are either heartless or have never experienced grief. Know that you are not alone in this and give yourself time to heal. Your pain is valid and a sign of your humanity.
people can't say its time to move on , for as long as we can't predict healing. TIME WILL HEAL US.
My father also died on august 8th his moms birthday. Ever since I’ve been struggling to cope with his loss. Unfortunately, I never got to see him before he passed and was offered that news on my grandmas birthday
Ive had a similar experience.thats also my birthday. Im so sorry. I wish i could i could tell you more,but i dont know u.
Thank you for mentioning the guilt part. I lost my cat earlier this week and I have a combination of depression, guilt, and anger about the situation. I relied on him to help me out with coping and was very attached to him
Lost my lovely dad a couple of hours ago. I accept that hes not coming back but I wholeheartedly believe that we’ll meet again someday, sometime, somewhere. Get some rest dad. I love you so much. When im finished down here on earth, ill come see you. I know that for a fact. I wont say goodbye because you’re here with all of us now. So ill say, like i always do, “see you soon, mate.” Love you dad. See ya 💙❤️💛
Hi Ah, well: He sounds like a wonderful man and father. He obviously did everything right raising you, because you sound like a loving caring person, who knows the importance of family. I hope your happy memories of him have helped you through the pain of grieving, and as you said, he'll be waiting for you one day with that door open. Many blessings to you.
i’m so sorry that’s just be so hard to type..
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John 5:28" Do not be amazed at this, for the hour is coming in which all those in the memorial tombs will hear his voice 29 and come out..."
I lost my mom last week. I feel so conflicted with emotions. I know mom isn't here but I don't know how to even feel, I don't even know how to help my dad grief and help myself too. I understand everything in life that we care about and losing it is a part of grief. I just never thought I'd go through my mom passing away. I really miss her.
Sorry for your loss. I lost my mom in January. One of my biggest fears growing up was losing my parents and they are both gone now. My dad in 2018 and mom 2020. I still cry for them both and to me they aren't truly gone because I still have memories of them, talk to them and I know what they would say to me in a certain situation. I believe in the after life and I just have to have faith that they are close by. Sometimes I think I don't feel enough but I know they would want me to be happy and plus since we are still living we have to find a way to survive
So sorry for your loss!
I also just lost my mom.She was a healthy 77yo. She went to hospital, via ambulance.Diagnosed with pneumonia.3 days into admission, she coded- heart attack, and her organs shut down.We had just been out and about, laughing, etc- May 17th.Anyway, it hurt that we(family) couldnt even do a proper goodbye.The hospital, directly, outright lied.They said they would let us in.Everyone- almost says- it gets easier?? Im still doubtful.Trying to remember the good times.My everyday heartache is picking up phone, to call her..I guess i havent even began acceptance.Does this emotional/physical pain, ever stop?
Maria G I lost my dad 7 days before father’s day 2020. Fucked up timing
Maria just be their for your dad! And talk with him, when he’s ready to talk! Sometimes just our love ones being around us is helpful! He might need some quiet time, as well as your self! I my sister died in August of this year, and I grieve mostly alone, and that hurted , that I wanted my loves ones to call me more on top of grieving! So I felt to alone and sad by being by myself!
When my mother died! I would go to food lion every night, lock my car doors and cry! And I would ride the streets alright! I regret I didn’t know any better to do that! I wish I would of get my sons and help them through their grief and pain also! Mom died in 2006 she dropped dead at home! I care about your pain, and everyone pain , when they have a love one that died! My thought and prayers will be with you and your Father!
I lost my nan a month ago and whenever I talk about her, I'm always told, "she wouldn't want you to be sad." I mean, yeah she probably wouldn't want me to but that doesn't change the fact that I am sad!
There are no stages. It's just never ending pain. He is gone, and I'll never see him or hear his voice again. This won't go away. I just learn to live with it.
I’m 19! I lost my dad 2 months ago. Everything just happened all of a sudden. He had a stroke. His right side of his body was paralyzed. He couldn’t speak very well. I was by his side the whole time at the hospital. I remember once I was helping the nurse feed him and clean him. Then I had to go back home to have lunch. As I was leaving he shouted my name, I looked back and he said “I love you” I smiled because he was starting to talk a bit but as soon as I left the hospital I cried so much. Seeing my dad in hospital was really devastating.
In less then 10 days he recovered. He came back home. I took care of him. I fed him. I used to give him his meds. I used to tuck him in bed. I would wake up every hour to check up on him. As he was getting better and his speech was getting better I thought that everything was getting back to normal.
A few weeks passed and he started to feel poorly again. I thought it was because of the stroke. (When he got the stroke there where times he used to feel poorly and there were times he used to be fine.) He got so poorly all of a sudden. He was feeling chest pain and pain that ran down his left arm. I rushed him to a cardiologist and I cried so much that day to later find out my dad had heart failure. That same day the doctors ran some tests and discharged him from the hospital. They told us to come back in a week. We got back home and I supervised him for a few hours. He seemed fine. I left him with my brother and his girlfriend. I went out for a bit. Later on that day my brother called me and to tell me my dad had collapsed. I called an ambulance and rushed my way back home. Thinking I would find my dad in the hospital already and still alive. I got home and the first thing I saw was the ambulance’s lights. I ran into my house and as soon as I walked in my dad’s room they where already rapping his body.
I felt like I was dreaming. That was the most devastating day of my entire life. I lost my best friend. I still can’t believe he is gone.
Grief is so weird. One day you can be totally fine and then the next day you feel so horrible (mentally and physically.) I’ve gotten really bad anxiety after my dad passed, I lost so much weight and I fear death.
I know things will get better. I remember feeling guilty because I used to do my dad’s head in like crazy. We would argue a lot. We did love each other a lot as well. I remember apologizing to him when he got out of the hospital. I asked him if we could start a new friendship and a fresh start. I am so glad I apologized. I am taking over his company with my siblings and I know he is proud of me. Never thought this was going to happen so soon.
Who ever is grieving: It will eventually get better. Cry it all out. It’s ok to cry. Try taking sometime off for yourself. Do the things you like, try and distract your mind. Hang out with people you love. It gets better. I’m still battling a lot with myself. Feels like I lost him yesterday. I know it will get better.
Im so sorry you had to go through all that at such a young age. But you are stronger and more loving than most people!! Think of all the love you gave him and how much you did for him.
@@lisarussell8874 Thank you so much 🙏🏻
You should be proud of yourself to have done everything you could to help your dad! So strong and young. I lost my dad to a massive heart attack long ago! He was only 61. Same age as I am now. And the hardest part is that I didn't get to see him and say goodbye. Just lost my sister a few weeks ago. Very suddenly and unexpected. Their house caught on fire and they didn't get out. So unreal and unbelievable! The kindest most generous and loving person I've ever known! She was my best friend as well as my sister. She was due to come visit from Oklahoma to see us in Tucson today. It is the hardest loss I've ever had. I certainly don't take anything for granted anymore. My kids and grandkids always get extra huge hugs and love!
Dear friend, Jesus loves you more than you could ever want to be loved. He understands exactly what you are going through and He can bring you such peace, comfort and joy to your heart like you've never known if you will surrender to Him. I am sharing my best friend's story with the world in hopes that it will be a help to so many who are struggling. God bless you.
Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey
Family Story
Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
His Story
Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Your Story
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
“Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
“...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
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This testimony has been made into a gospel tract. If you or your Church would be interested in passing them out or if you would like to send a word of encouragement to the family, please go to:
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Dear friend, Jesus loves you more than you could ever want to be loved. He understands exactly what you are going through and He can bring you such peace, comfort and joy to your heart like you've never known if you will surrender to Him. I am sharing my best friend's story with the world in hopes that it will be a help to so many who are struggling. God bless you.
Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey
Family Story
Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
His Story
Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Your Story
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
“Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
“...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
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This testimony has been made into a gospel tract. If you or your Church would be interested in passing them out or if you would like to send a word of encouragement to the family, please go to:
facebook.com/GITM-Foundation-113997824650357/
Ah I lost my father just a month ago. Thank you so much for this video, you don’t understand how much these types of things can help. :)
Foxsden my heart is with you ❤️ even though i don’t know you, i’m sending support your way
barb d. I appreciate your generosity during these hard times. Means a lot. ☺️
I lost my father almost 3 years ago, take your time and don't let other people tell you how to griev, the pain is yours and nobody can understand how you feel.
Manu definitely, I 100% agree with you. Although having my family around me for support helps, taking things one day at a time had been helpful. ☺️
i lost my granny in january. i lived with her and she was like a mother to me. so i understand and i agree, these videos do help :)
My beloved dearest grandma passed away just today that's why i am here. My head feels so heavy... I've been crying since this morning... I feel like vomiting. I feel like I wont be able to move on.. i love her so so much ... I want to see her, hold her, for one last time.........
❤
Lost a grandparent last week and glad I came across this video. The guilt is the biggest struggle for me personally.
I lost someone who meant everything to me, and while I accepted the fact he's gone, I'll never stop grieving for him because I'll never stop missing him.
What no one told me was that after losing someone that sounds, smells, and moments will trigger sadness. I recently lost my grandmother and I still hear her voice, see her there, and feel her hand pat my head. It hurts.
Like that lyric in the Evanescence song: “If you want to leave..I wish that you would just leave, cus your presence still lingers here…and it won’t leave me alone.”
I lost my soul mate to a heart attack in February. I hate it when people ask how i am cause I know they mean well but I feel like saying, "how do you think I am". I have also had people say to me a lot "it'll get better", when I feel as if it won't it just will get more manageable and routine . The worst thing people have said to me is "you'll meet someone else" that really annoys me, cause my bryan has only been gone 2 months so why would I even want to consider meeting someone else at this stage. Thank you for your video it made a lot of sense and I'm defo gonna share it.
Friend, Jesus loves you more than you could ever want to be loved. He understands exactly what you are going through and He can bring you such peace, comfort and joy to your heart like you've never known if you will surrender to Him. I am sharing my best friend's story with the world in hopes that it will be a help to so many who are struggling. God bless you.
Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey
Family Story
Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
His Story
Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Your Story
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
“Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
“...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
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This testimony has been made into a gospel tract. If you or your Church would be interested in passing them out or if you would like to send a word of encouragement to the family, please go to:
facebook.com/GITM-Foundation-113997824650357/
I’m experiencing a strange grief. I’ve been going through treatment for breast cancer. It’s stage one and I’ve felt very positive. Now I see that as denial. I’m 73 and reflecting on my past constantly, blaming myself for mistakes and weaknesses, remembering beautiful moments. I cry when no one is around. I never thought about grieving for yourself until I saw this post.
5 things about grief no one really tells you:-
1. We grieve for more than the dead
2. "Just stay strong" typically goes hand in hand with the denial phase of grief
3. There should be a guilt phase of grief
4. Time means little to the act of grieving
5. Acceptance is more complicated than just admitting to a loss
I honestly disagree with the 3rd part's "should". I have griefed many times for pets, family members and lost friends and I think the biggest achievement I got out of this is that I don't have to go through the guilt phase anymore.
The point should be "A guilt phase can be very helpful" instead. I definitely needed the guilt phase the first times around but I think its entire purpose is to get rid of itself when you grief the next time.
@@XMaster340 i like it that you pointed out lost friends. Considering I too have grived about losing friends. An that took months even years because of how much dependence I placed on them. On account thay they were alive their continual rejection was harder to let go than if they had gone to a place of no return.
How do you let go of the guilt though?.. I cant seem to let go of it😩😭
@@cristya2042 letting go is one of the hardest things a person can do in their life sometimes. Because they feel like their giving up on someone they care about. Giving up on a heart desire or dream or even let go of a fantasy instead of the reality. I think the question one should ask what is that they are holding on to that prevents them from letting go. Next Don't focus on the loss focus on the gain. Its a New chapter that starts by this lose that will be even better than the chapter before if you allow it to be.🌺
~God Bless
@@sparrowhawk5673 thank you... My dad passed away & i feel like i could have prevented it by either a phone call i didnt make or more research i should have done on a procedure we decided to do to try to help his physical pain.. I cant let go of this guilt.. But thank you.. I wish you many blessings!
I lost my mother 2 days ago coz of Breast Cancer and I've been crying everyday. I miss her everyday. It always replays in my mind the last breath she took while I was with her holding her hand. It pains me so much to see her die in front of me. But i get my comfort from knowing that she no longer has to suffer frm ths big C. I love you, Mama. I miss you 😭
I'm so sorry for your loss!
I watched my Mom die, most difficult thing to see. She from cancer too. Hugs and best wishes for you.
@@CassieJFox me too..my mom was put in a coma because she had pneumonia and she died because of septic shock
It was so sudden, I wish I had followed her to the hospital but I had to go to school
It's been 3 years since my fiance died in a car accident and I'm finally able to let go of the guilt and learn acceptance. I have good days and I have bad days and on the bad days I get signs telling me that I'm not alone and that he's still with me and that gives me comfort.
The fact that you have pointed out that the cycle of grief is not just a “one and done” process is so important. My little sister died suddenly and I am not sure why I can’t be more at peace accepting that she is not here.
The other thing that you mentioned is the fact that we can be triggered by someone or something that slams us right back into the world of the trauma and grief which is prone to making us feel pulled back in and go through the trauma process again because it was never resolved before or even if it was can still happen.
People who have never been through trauma are the cruelest people because they are the ones who poo-poo your pain and say; “suck it up. You are going to be fine. It’ll get better”, etc.
I feel sorry for your,dear stranger
Today my little disabled brother passed away due heart cardiac,we can't imagine how to go next,we always felt grief and guilty,I also would feel myself as piece of sh*t because I very failed as older sister
Shakespeare said it perfectly in Romeo and Juliet, "He jests at scars that never felt a wound..."
Many people either don't want to or are unable to deal with your pain. Sometimes they don't know how. Take care.
when my cat died 2 years ago i cried for like a week straight. I just couldn't process that she'd never come back. I still miss her.😭
I can relate. My sweet furbaby died in 2007, and I still sometimes cry over her.
I lost a beloved dog I would sit up at night for hours with tears running down my face. My husband would get up to go to BE
This is the continuation of previous comment. My husband would get up to go to bathroom during the night look a me and say you miss Babe and I'd nod or say yes. I would tear up in grocery store just getting close enough to see the end of the dog food aisle I cried for over 6 mo missing her. I realized that I had not grieved that much since I was 7yo when my dad died.
Oh,I have lost 2 cats,both when I was only 11..They were both boys,their names were Sea Salt and Sebastian...
I'm sorry about your loss
I know how you feel my cat died 4 years ago actually is was the 22 July I still miss her will remember you and your precious cat in my prayers Ann Murphy Ireland
I lost my:
Grandfather - Feb 2020
my church-mate friend - Aug 2020
my Dad - Aug 2020
my puppy - Sept 2020
Right now, I feel as if my heart is being hammered to dust 💔
I am so very sorry for all your losses.
I don't know you. But I love you... and sending internet hugs
@Midori Williams I share your grief. know how you feel. I am still crying about the lost of my 3 cats. I know how you hurt.
@@debraankrah575 I feel sorry for them..
This comment is underrated because I can’t tell you how hard one loss is enough. To have that many in a year is certainly enough to break someone to a point.
My dog who has been my best friend since as long as I can remember, passed away two days ago and it has been so hard. I loved him so much and he’ll be with me forever. This video really helped me
I stumbled on this video & it's been a godsend to me. I've grieved my parents, my true love, & a few pets recurrently, & this video both soothed & affirmed my grieving process. Grief is a part of life, & those of us who've really grieved have both really lived & really loved. I believe when this life is over I will be reunited with all I loved, & I can't thank enough the makers of this video. God bless them & all who watch the video, are or have had experienced this pain, & all who read my comment ❤️
And God bless you 🙏❤️
@@franc6222 ❤
@JC-du6sn Will do ty so much 😊
Grief never goes away. The stages are always there, just around the corner, waiting to jump back into your life unannounced. My wedding anniversary is in 2 days and I cried today. He has been gone for 16 years but the grief is back. I voiced this to a family member and she turned it around and made it about her. She also is a widow but it’s not her anniversary, it’s mine.
I see that this comment is 11 months old now, so happy anniversary soon! ❤
Losing my dad has been the most difficult thing I've ever had to face. It's been over 3 months and I still find myself forgetting he is gone, I still expect him to suddenly appear and the fact that I will never, ever, ever see him again, no matter what I do, no matter what.. that won't change. I just turned 29 and it suddenly put my whole life into perspective, I still feel like a kid, I have so much more of my life ahead (hopefully) and I'm never going to see or speak to him again.. the thought of my dad not being there to see my husband and I have children breaks my heart. It absolutely breaks me. I miss him so, so much.. I can't even begin to describe the pain I feel. But how lucky are we to have such cherished people in our lives.. how lucky are we to love and remember someone so special ❤
I'm sorry, I also lost my best friend (my dad) a month ago due to a heart attack, I know how much it hurts
This is my feeling about my dad,it just hurts so much sometimes..
The things he will miss,I just turned 22 and its a heavy feeling.
Just lost mine to sepsis 2 weeks ago, didn't even turn 15 yet.
@@hibye-fk9ep Dear friend, Jesus loves you more than you could ever want to be loved. He understands exactly what you are going through and He can bring you such peace, comfort and joy to your heart like you've never known if you will surrender to Him. I am sharing my best friend's story with the world in hopes that it will be a help to so many who are struggling. God bless you.
Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey
Family Story
Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
His Story
Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Your Story
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
“Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
“...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
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This testimony has been made into a gospel tract. If you or your Church would be interested in passing them out or if you would like to send a word of encouragement to the family, please go to:
facebook.com/GITM-Foundation-113997824650357/
@@lucie_shiveka5322 Dear friend, Jesus loves you more than you could ever want to be loved. He understands exactly what you are going through and He can bring you such peace, comfort and joy to your heart like you've never known if you will surrender to Him. I am sharing my best friend's story with the world in hopes that it will be a help to so many who are struggling. God bless you.
Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey
Family Story
Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
His Story
Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Your Story
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
“Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
“...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
******************************
This testimony has been made into a gospel tract. If you or your Church would be interested in passing them out or if you would like to send a word of encouragement to the family, please go to:
facebook.com/GITM-Foundation-113997824650357/
I lost my cat to breast cancer in 2013 I cried for a month straight and had the over intense pain of grieving my cat mittens. It still scares me today bcuz I went through that. It was very sad and hard to deal with In grieving. I've reached the acceptance part but still cry ten years later at times or have the survivors guilt or have me emotions set in my attitude concerning the death of her. I'm very lucky to have got better since the early days of it and my life can be enjoyed now. I'm hoping to be with her again in heaven someday. Life can be a hard thing to deal with I've learned around and after the grieving times. But time has helped me overcome some traumas. Prayers for you.
I grieve for my mum who died over a year ago, I miss her every day, I long to have a chat with her, to go see her, to hear any advice that she has. I've been looked down on and mistreated for grieving for my mum as those doing so demand me to 'get over it and move on' but this isn't something that can be moved on from. She was my mum, she gave birth to me, raised me, educated me, helped me to grow into myself and was supportive of me.
I am always going to miss her, there's a big hole in my heart since her death and nothing can ever fill it. She was my mum, my best friend, and she's gone. I wish those who look down on those who are grieving would understand how painful that grief is.
my mum died of cancer when i was 21 and had been ill for 3 years ...then my dad died of an alcohol related illness years later when i was 35. I am an only child and being an adult orphan, even at my age was tough and grief is always a difficult process. I had grief counselling which helped me process my grief in a healthy way after dad died ( i struggled with complicated grief after my mums death as i wasnt allowed to express it at the time) and an anaology i came up with grief is that its like getting a pair of new shoes that you didnt want, that you have to break in, at first they hurt alot to walk in, but as time goes on you get used to them, at times there are still moments when it hurts a bit .. and it never goes away but you become used to exisiting with it. thats my experience anyhow ..hugs to all how are experiencing grief, each journey is different and unique xx stay strong❤
I'm sorry for your loss. The thing that should cheer you up is a game! There is a mobile game called Sky. It is amazing! Make friends, collect spirts to get emotes, get stars to level up your wing flight. Goodluck and I hope this makes you feel better!
Outch. Tought t. I love you☺️
A friend of mine, from childhood, happened the same and after 5 years from is dad's death, after his mother died 7 years ago, I think he is still stucked in the denial phase and I don't know how to help him... We have been very close on that moment, but he disappeared two years ago, I had him two or three calls per year. I think I remind him about that hard time because we build our special relationship there... I'm always there for him, last months he seems back to me and of course I'm completely silent about it, I don't want to trigger him. I hope he processed his feelings, he is very closed in himself, I hope he went to a psychologist but I'm quiet sure he didn't.
We are both 34
@@MrOssyMoro that must be incredibly difficult for you. Its really hard becoming an adult orphan and to be honest, nothing really prepares you for it. Grief is highly individualized and the timescale for grief is very varied, it depends on the person and their relationship with the loved one, whether it was good or bad. Denial is common when you lose someone, you dont want to believe its true, in some ways its avoiding the truth becase it hurts alot. Your friend might not say, but im sure he values friendship with you, but understandable that it may remind him that he needs to process his emotions. I had help from a counsellor to process my grief( a therapist) which was the best thing i did, to help me learn the skills i needed to process my feelings of loss in a healthy way, but i didnt seek that help until after my dad died, and i never got help after mum died, so i had to process both losses together really when i did finally see a therapist. Dont give up hope for your friend, he will realise in time and i pray that he gets help. He is lucky to have a friend who is there for him. :) take care
I remember in 2017 when i was taking my final exam for high school when in the middle of the exam I was taken out of the room and sent to the guidance counsellors office when I was told that my mom had died. I was 17 and the night before she died was the first time in about 4 years we slept in the same bed together and i remember telling her that everything was gonna be okay and she was gonna get better as she had be struggling with schizophrenia and depression for years and was having an episode where she was in a complete state of psychosis not talking just staring blankly ahead into space. She was my best friend in the whole world and the one person i could go to about ANYTHING. I didn't cry, I didnt sulk, I didnt even react. I remember feeling numb and in a complete state of shock. I tried so hard to convince myself that i was fine that i went to school the next day because i was told that i had to be strong and finish my final year of high school strong, all the while completely repressing everything i felt inside. I had a smile on my face and whenever everyone asked me how i was doing i told them that i was okay. But i wasn't. I wasn't okay. I wanted to scream, I wanted to cry, i didnt want to go on anymore. But i told them i was okay because the more i thought i said it was the more i told myself that eventually i would be. Her funeral came and even then i didnt cry. I kept it all inside trying to be strong for everyone when deep down all i wanted to do was drop to the floor and wail. I finished high school and with a smile on my face i entered college still in denial and completely repressing all emotions and feelings i had about her passing as i told myself i was just being strong for her. It wasn't until my second year first semester where i couldnt take it anymore and got so sick and tired of hearing the words "be strong" After failing most of my courses that semester, because i was constantly trying to supress everything i was feeling, it finally happened. I broke down and cried in a way i had never before. I felt everything at once because i had been keeping it in for so long. But it took me accepting that i didnt have to be strong anymore and that it was okay to be vulnerable and experience it all and once i admitted that and broke down it felt like a weight off my shoulders. Denial is such a strange weird and POWERFUL thing and one of the most difficult things to get out of. It will be 4 years this November since she passed and i can honestly say it has gotten better. I made the decision to go seek professional help and see a therapist once a week to still help with the trauma and grief. Im in my second year of college now about to enter my final year this september and it has gotten a lot better after letting it out and taking the first step to learn how to deal with grief. For everybody experiencing grief of any kind my heart goes out to u and ive been there. Its okay to experience all that ur experiencing and its okay to not be strong all the time. The only way out is through the pain. Let it all in... and Let it all go with time. I pray for all of you and hope you find the light out of the darkness.
Dear friend, Jesus loves you more than you could ever want to be loved. He understands exactly what you are going through and He can bring you such peace, comfort and joy to your heart like you've never known if you will surrender to Him. I am sharing my best friend's story with the world in hopes that it will be a help to so many who are struggling. God bless you.
Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey
Family Story
Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
His Story
Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Your Story
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
“Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
“...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
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This testimony has been made into a gospel tract. If you or your Church would be interested in passing them out or if you would like to send a word of encouragement to the family, please go to:
facebook.com/GITM-Foundation-113997824650357/
My cat of 20 years passed away this morning. I feel so empty, she was with me my whole life and now she’s not. It was a blood clot too so completely sudden, was literally with her yesterday and she was fine before I then left to go back to uni. I wish I could have properly said goodbye to her, but I’ll never get to.
Your channel has been amazing for me because I’m also going through other mental issues outside of this, it’s been a very rough year for me so far and watching your channel has made me come to terms with myself and better myself. ❤️
Our 14 year old cat had to be put to sleep yesterday. She was older than my youngest child. She developed either a kidney problem or UTI and went downhill seemingly overnight. Putting her down was so hard, she was a sweetheart. When I got up to get ready for work today, there was no kitty in the kitchen to pester me. She had a great life and was a pampered, spoiled child.
I lost my mother almost 2 months ago. I don't want to stop thinking of her, but the more I do the more I miss her. The fact that I will never get to see her again kills me inside. I talk to her when I ride or whenever I am alone. I know I will never get to eat mom's food again. It is a permanent void. She was only 60. I want to move on, but I am not ready to as well. How can I? She was my mother after all. Miss you mom, and love you.
I’m in the middle of grieving as we speak. I lost my beloved father just 2 months ago unexpectedly. I talked to him the day before and was on the way to the hospital to visit with him only to be told he took a turn for the worse and I had to make the decision for the person who helped give me life. I had decide whether to keep him on life support or take him off and let him pass on his own. March 2,2021 was the last time I talked to him and March 3,2021 he transitioned. This depression is unlike anything I have ever experienced in my life.
Your comment is so emotive to me. You mentioned the depression you struggled with after this sad event, and, I was also fighting one on the same time. I wish you the best and much love in your life!
I’m so sorry to hear this. How are you going on with your healing process? I just lost my dad two days ago after him being in coma for almost two months following an accident. It truly is a hellish experience and I feel like I can’t breathe cos I miss him so much. I’m in so much pain and agony and still yet in disbelief and denial. Please how can I cope through this? Any tips on healing and moving forward?? Help a sis🙏😢💔.
It’s not depression, it’s grief. It’s brutal.
I lost my brother my best friend on March 2 ,21 to Covid He was my best friend , I will grieve till the day I die .
@@sylvia_anthony Hospice "Bereavement Classes". Do a Search. ... The 1 through the hospital, here, was wonderful!
"When going through hell, keep going." - W. Churchill
I lost 4 of my childhood dogs, they didn't die. They became so much work for our family that we weren't giving them attention and we just ignored them. They deserved better. So, we gave them to families who were willing to give better. It hurts me knowing that I could've changed so much if I hadve given them more attention. I loved those dogs so much but it was too much. It's still too much. I am tormented daily praying my old dogs don't hate me and that they're happy. I ruined their lives before giving them a new one.. I can't help but bawl anytime anything reminds me of them. I don't think I'll ever get over them.
You put them on the path they were meant to be on, they ARE happy now and they dont hate you. You helped them find where their fate meant them to be. Maybe one day you can adopt another dog that is meant to be with you in that time of your life.
I have fostered 19 dogs over the years. They will always remember your scent if you meet again but after a while, they adjust to their new families. All of my fosters had happy, loving lives. You did the right thing by giving them to someone who could give them the lives they deserved.
Let me assure you that your dogs are happy and if they would see you they would be so excited!
My 3 15 year old dogs, born in my house, died one after the other this spring. I cried but decided to honor them by saving another life from the shelter.right away..." Weeping lasts for a night but joy comes in the morning." (Psalms) Putting my faith in this verse I went and got a new dog...a humorous cross of a pointer and a pitt bull. So I have my arms around a new friend when I still grieve...I tell him all about the others.
I’ve been following this channel about the most beautiful and loving little snow fox, and he passed away this morning after struggling with liver failure for almost a month. 💔 I prayed for him every day, and I feel I went through the struggle with him the entire time. Since learning about his passing this morning, I’ve been crying hours and hours and I just don’t know what to do. Your video about grief is one of the few things that offers me some comfort. Thank you so much.
All so true. I am a former grief facilitator and spent hours with grieving people. I hate when people say “time heals all wounds” because it is not time alone, but what we DO with that time. We must work through all our emotions and come to terms with the loss. Time makes some people stuck in anger and bitterness. I’ve seen this a decade later with those trapped in time. They had to relive emotions before they could move on. I wish everyone who sees this good luck. Also.. Cry all you want.. it’s healing and meant for a purpose. You will heal. You will survive. It won’t always be this bad.
@Gail Flora I cannot express how thankful I am for your kind words. I am currently dealing with a loss. And I agree about the "time heals all wounds" statement. It can feel really dismissive even if the intentions by person who says it are good.
If tears start, then I let them happen no matter where I am or who sees me. My cotton masks help catch the tears. It has only been 3 weeks since I lost my husband of 22 years, suddenly to cancer... he had no idea until the week before he passed. He just thought he had kidney stones and infection.
The 29th of January will mark one year without my brother. It hasn’t been that long, but I feel very stuck. He was the youngest, the only boy, and he was my baby. Almost made it to 29 years old. I still have moments when I hide in the closet and sob until I am too exhausted to cry anymore. I don’t experience much joy anymore. I feel very incomplete. We protected and confused in each other. I rushed to his side anytime he needed me. I was his keeper. His twin, separated by 10 years. If life after life is real, then I have no doubt that he is my soulmate, and has been for many, many lifetimes.
@@hnormizzle I lost my youngest brother in June 2018 and it still feels like it only happened yesterday. He was a lot older than your brother but I felt it should have been me as I am the eldest!. I keep going over all the if only... I should have...I could have... the list is endless. The regrets seem bottomless! Then my mother died in Oct 2021, she missed him so badly, and I'm now grieving for both of them! I cry practically every other day and curse that it doesn't get any better! I'm just going to let my emotions run its course as that is all I can do. Memories pop up and I shed a tear. Sadly grief is not easy hopefully I will eventually just accept that this is all a part of life. We are all on a journey.
May I add, as a former caregiver, that the first six months or so after the loss of a spouse can be the most dangerous time for the spouse left behind. Family and friends really should look in on this person regularly, or at least call and be there for him or her.
I knew a man whose wife suddenly had to be hospitalized in the middle of the night. She died, and the doctors refused to tell him why or how. They stonewalled him every time he tried to find out, as though there was something to hide. Not only did he have to deal with her loss, but also with the cruel and dishonest way he was treated, afterward.
Six months later, this man was also dead. When his family entered his home, they discovered numerous shrines he had built out of her belongings. He had literally PRAYED to be taken!
To medical professionals: If someone who has just lost their loved one dies in your care and needs to know why and how, TELL THEM THE TRUTH! DON'T STONEWALL! That will only add to their anguish, and it may hasten their own demise.
I lost my mom 3 weeks ago.In these 3 weeks I have gone through all the stages of grief, multiple times, except acceptance. The worst for me is the guilt. Guilt for all the things I did and said, and the things I didn't say, because I thought that we had plenty of time. There are moments that I am relatively OK, and then suddenly I see one of her belongings, or listen to a song she liked and I feel like my heart is ripped to shreds.I know I have to stay strong for my father, and I do try, but it's so difficult.I know death is an integral part of life, you can't have one without the other, but, the way I feel now, I don't think I'll ever get over it.
Dear friend, Jesus loves you more than you could ever want to be loved. He understands exactly what you are going through and He can bring you such peace, comfort and joy to your heart like you've never known if you will surrender to Him. I am sharing my best friend's story with the world in hopes that it will be a help to so many who are struggling. God bless you.
Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey
Family Story
Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
His Story
Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Your Story
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
“Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
“...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
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This testimony has been made into a gospel tract. If you or your Church would be interested in passing them out or if you would like to send a word of encouragement to the family, please go to:
facebook.com/GITM-Foundation-113997824650357/
As a old lady with experience of death many times, my advice is to look at her picture and talk to her. Photos take the place of graves these days and serve the same purpose. You need to knit the new relationship of heart to heart and don't get sentimental or worry about the past. Confession is good for the soul AND I'm sure she has things to regret as well. See this as the new adventure for you and for your father. If you resist being too gooey you will soon look to the future together AND WANT TO MAKE HER PROUD OF YOU. But that comes later after you do some knitting and rest.
It’s almost two years and I still cry over my sister.
We grew up together; shared everything. Anything can trigger memories and heartache.
It’s so hard to carry on without her here.
My dad died almost 4 months ago, still only feels like it just happened. Ive always had a hard life and going through grief but this time Ive learnt that you just have to put yourself first. Ive always tried so hard to stay strong in front of others or seem like nothings wrong but really you just have to let you do you, you have to let yourself be upset and tell ppl that u need time to yourself or that you've started feeling bad again. It's hard to do especially when your a ppl pleaser but it honestly has helped quite a bit.
My dog has had heart problems her whole life but it’s gotten to the point where we might have to put her down. I’ve lost so many people and things in my life but this is the first time I knew it was going to happen before hand. I already feel like I lost her even though she’s still here.
*"You got to learn to let go"*
That's a problem I struggle with. What if something was once you're everything? And If I let it go, I'll truly have nothing left.
Yes I agree with you. Let go of what? Or you have got to move on. Puleeze. I was told by my vet to give my dog a certain antibiotic that wound up killing her. How do I move on from that? I feel that I killed her. She was only 5 and I am very sick with an autoimmune disease. She never left my side. I want to join her in heaven.
That makes my blood boil let them go why they didn't want to go and we didn't want to loose them who ever said this hasn't lost how we have
I will never let go or say goodbye. 🥲
@@jackiemack8653 I know what you feel. I wanted to be a responsible animal carer and decided to clean my cat’s teeth under general anaesthesia. I was very worried about that, but read lots of convincing literature and thought it’s a very small risk compared to benefits. She survived the procedure but her heart started failing few days afterwards. I feel like I did it to her😞
@@ija04 Oh no I am so sorry. We tried our best for our fur babies. Some people don't even care for their human companions as good. But yes I still mourn and feel guilt. I hope to be with her soon and my other fur babies gone b4. You loved her and did your best.
The pursuit of a relationship with a woman named Abby who I very much love ended 1-3-17. I became very depressed. What I read within a few months was that the loss of a relationship was almost as bad as if she had died. I entered therapy in that summer of 2017 and my therapist told me that I was mourning the loss of a relationship with Abby. It’s been a slow recovery in the last 6 years but I’m doing a lot better now.
For me, grief happened BEFORE my cat died. I was just so sad I had trouble sleeping. When she was put down, I almost felt relieved because she had been put out of her misery. I went straight to acceptance.
Thank you for this. I just had to put my cat to sleep last week. She was with me for 20 years. My heart is sad.
There are no words that equate
(grief) the loss of an animal. One
has to “experience” the moments to understand them fully.
Wow, I have never heard of a cat living that long. They wanted to spend all 9 lives with you
Losing a pet is like losing a family member.
8 years later and I am just starting to get over my depressive phase after loosing my father unexpectedly in my teens. It really is different for everyone. You are not alone.
I got the news yesterday that my husband will be discharged from Hospital and will be going into Palliative care . It was those words, palliative care that knocked the stuffing out of me. I’m a mess, crying to the point I’m almost screaming. I was wanting my Mother who passed away 30 years ago. How crazy is that? I have never experienced this level of pain. My husband is trying to be a comfort to me and we are both saved Christians but we are also human. I always expected my faith would keep me strong but I’ve gone to jelly. We are hoping to get him home with medical care but they say it will be weeks. We’ve been together 45 years and I know that even though I have j
Jesus as my saviour and comforter I will never get over losing my sweet Bas.
Well, I've experienced the deaths of loved ones. Actually ,. Ones STILL loved. I won't go into detail, but my cat passed away suddenly this past Saturday night. Everything about my day was going great. I got home and Kudos was being his cute loving self, stretching his little long body out, exposing his leopard designed belly. I was interacting with him, of course.
About a half an hour later, he came walking in stumbling.
He's had these episodes before, but always persevered through it. This time, he couldn't.
To save the pain of retelling my situation, I will tell you that I did everything and anything to save my baby.
My Vet was out of town, I googled, searching out answers as to why he became comatose, drooling, and eventually he had loss of bowel movements.
I knew then that he was pretty much done.
That VERY same night, my older dog that is on his way out to another dimension, went out to go potty (he's a 17 year old Huskador.
I couldn't find him.
My poor baby was found around 11 am, stuck down in a steep ravine against the fence, with his two back legs each stuck in two separate wire fence squares.
I have a condition of my back right now, due to TWO broken rods in my back. HOWEVER , I don't care about how much pain I'm in at this point. ALL I care about are my animals. THEIR not just animals. THEIR my buddies, the love of my life.
Muppet is still alive. Kudos my cat is gone and we had a proper burial and funeral for him.
This hurts my heart and soul, but I must let go.
Muppet is doing better and I'm nurturing him as I'm trying to encourage him to eat and drink his water.
Calamities have always come in two for me.
It hurts to accept that my babies are leaving.
At least you gave him an amazing life and he died while being loved, that's just how I view pet loss as I also recently experienced it
As I am currently grieving the loss of a family member, I’ve realized that I have much regret and this video explained it perfectly. This is the second time I’ve grieved the loss of a human life and it hurts more every time. Thank you for this video 💕💕💕
I empathize with you, I lost my grandmother last month.
You are not alone!
I have lost my mother last year.
You shouldn't forget her/him by banning her/him from your thoughts! Think about the good days you spent with the person.
I feel you sorry for your loss
I am very sorry.
Who was it? How we’re they related to you?
If you’e ever sad and miss them, say their name out loud. Not a therapist or psychiatrist, but I think it would help to say their name.
I empathize with you also I lost my friend in a car accident and my uncle natural Causes
Life gets so much worse after losing a pet dog (or cat). It will always be their pure love and cute faces that you will miss the most. I will forever grieve the lost of my furbabies. I love you my babies. 💓
:( I just lost my dog of 12 years. I can't stop crying.
I just found my mom on the couch a few days ago. I thought losing my dad was hard when I was 19. This feels so much worse. I don’t think I can go on without her.
Sending you hugs & strength
Sending healing vibes. 😢 I'm so sorry.
"Nothing fixes itsself. To heal requires treatment." That quote hit me the hardest. Nobody magically heals without active effort. My dad commited suicide a month ago. This video helped a little, thank you.
I'm so sorry. Please take care.
The heavens must have wanted me to see this my grandma litterally died a few hours ago. Thanks for the video it is helping me right now.
I hope you are doing well or atleast better hun :)
@@GUYEDITINGS thanks for the positivity. I am better. Just taking things day by day.
I know im late but I hope things are better now, are you doing okay? I lost my grandma as well and I feel your pain, if you ever need someone to talk to im here
@@20stacks11 Baby steps :) we got this
@@theghostology
Our 15.5 year old puppy just passed a few days ago. I’m devastated. My heart feels so empty. Coming home and not having her there is so hard. We love her so much and miss her everyday now.
I so agree with all aspects of this video in my 61 years of experience.
With the exception of one thing. Grief does not have to be confusing. Stay open.
I lost my dog in august and just a couple days ago my cat, I can feel my heart sink whenever I think about them, they were my childhood my cat watched over me as a baby and saw me go to college. I feel so lost without them. This is so hard.
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