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  • In this exclusive interview, Steven Rinella talks with otter mauling victims, Jennifer Royce, Stephanie Johnson, and Leila Pavolich. Janis Putelis and Spencer Neuharth join.
    Topics discussed: FTO and missing half your ear; the frequency of otter attacks over time; donate to the Bob Patten Endowment for the Kent State University Experimental Archaeology Laboratory so you can see more bison butchery experiments with Clovis points; the bison skull with a bullet hole at the MeatEater flagship store in Bozeman, MT; Jani’s "Unga Bunga Test"; our interview with the American hunters facing potential prison time in Turks and Caicos; different views on Governor tags; finding a husband for Stephanie; floating on inner tubes down the Jefferson River; when otters were your favorite animal; doing a body roll; the importance of dry bags; just how thankful you are when SOS works on your phone; the landowner and the trooper to the rescue; hundreds of stitches; lingering emotional trauma; having a sense of humor about it as a way to help heal; strapping on the dive knife for next time; and more.
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  • @danieltaylor5231
    @danieltaylor5231 Před 13 dny +31

    Things I learned from this podcast, otters can be vicious little fuckers and Steve is the Oprah of the outdoor world.

  • @CB-produced
    @CB-produced Před 13 dny +38

    What an amazing story, these ladies are awesome examples of friends.

  • @mcnivenjjm
    @mcnivenjjm Před 13 dny +31

    I never thought of the meat eater series as a tear jerker type of show. Good show.

    • @BigGulpsUmbasa
      @BigGulpsUmbasa Před 11 dny +2

      If for some reason you want more tear jerkers from Meateater, check out their Close Calls series.

  • @jayolson578
    @jayolson578 Před 13 dny +20

    Being an Iraq and Afghanistan vet, nothing is harder to deal with then having a friend that is in bad shape, things going downhill fast, and to hear them asking and telling you to tell their wife and kids that they are sorry for dying and that they love them and tell my mom and dad that I love them. Most made it home but some didn’t. No matter the outcome that sticks with you for a while, but with time it gets better. Hang in there Steph it’ll get better. Great podcast and amazing guests.

  • @danschneekloth7290
    @danschneekloth7290 Před 13 dny +21

    Great episode, try not to let negative comments get to you. You three girls are awesome, better than any city girls ive ever met!

  • @alannawatts7270
    @alannawatts7270 Před 13 dny +46

    Man, I loved this episode. Thank you Jennifer, Stephanie and Leila for sharing your experience with us. Probably going to bring a divers knife with me during our floats this summer. Definitely gives me pause bringing my kids with me on a remote river now. But I appreciate how y’all are getting back in the river on the anniversary. Way to work through the trauma!
    I hate that even in these comments there is negativity towards you guys and your story. It needs to be told! Wild animals protect their territory and especially young adults need to be educated about the risks of recreation.

  • @marcusplyon
    @marcusplyon Před 9 dny +3

    What a great episode. Excellent! Got me teary eyed a few times.

  • @OutBackWithMatt
    @OutBackWithMatt Před 13 dny +25

    Hope you guys see this, it would be super interesting to get the landowner Doug on the phone to hear his take on what happened.

  • @BarryDavis9484
    @BarryDavis9484 Před 12 dny +9

    Switched from the podcast to CZcams almost an hour in. Y'all got me in tears because it's obvious how much y'all love each other. I'm glad you're all okay and have each other

    • @hudsonwhetten4984
      @hudsonwhetten4984 Před 10 dny +1

      I did the same, and out of all the podcast episodes, this is the only one i've felt the need to watch on youtube

  • @outdoorjoe4940
    @outdoorjoe4940 Před 13 dny +21

    Great interview. Stephanie is definitely suffering from PTSD. She’s describing exactly how you feel when you’re in combat and lose friends. She was bringing back some strong feelings and memories for me. Keep up the fight Stephanie, you did good and were where you were supposed to be.

  • @zeldarobinson3382
    @zeldarobinson3382 Před 13 dny +11

    thank you Steve, Yani , Jennifer, Stephanie and Leila for a great interveiw and sharing your story, glad to hear you are all ok and moving on with living your lives , all our ours prayers were answered on your recovery . this interveiw was the best thing to happen for you all because you all needed to talk about it and share the whole story , this will increase your inner healing and let it go. we never forget the experience but as your friend said dont let it control your life , God Bless you all ,

  • @DanGross9
    @DanGross9 Před 13 dny +12

    You ladies are boss, both for sharing the excruciating details of the story, and for being vulnerable with the trauma you experienced. It takes courage to be open about trauma struggles.

  • @janemuir3546
    @janemuir3546 Před 11 dny +3

    Thank you for sharing. At 57, we travel with our camper and do some fun stuff, in the middle of nowhere. Lilia, your thoughts and actions feel like training for me. I can't imagine the conversations during those 53 minutes. And Janis, I wasn't anticipating needing tissues either.
    Thank you to all for this podcast.

  • @thejewelersbench
    @thejewelersbench Před 13 dny +32

    The people otter know the truth. Thanks for sharing this story.

  • @garytrigg-graynoth4034
    @garytrigg-graynoth4034 Před 9 dny +2

    great interview!! i think people see otters as cute and cuddly and wouldn’t hurt anyone, however wild is wild and when animals attack its never going to end well! stay strong ladies and i hope time proves to be the great healer! Sending support and best wishes from Australia ❤️❤️❤️

  • @georgelewis9729
    @georgelewis9729 Před 13 dny +9

    Absolutely awesome and touching story. Thank you Meateater!

  • @corkforbrains
    @corkforbrains Před 13 dny +17

    3 AMAZING women.. Thank you Steve Rinella. Their story NEEDS to be told. Everyone thinks an otter is this juvenile, hand raised, socialized creature and that their curious, loving behavior often portrayed on the internet is the norm. Heads high ladies.. you are all tremendously brave and GORGEOUS!

    • @ligmaballz1
      @ligmaballz1 Před 12 dny

      Sure, that’s why they’re single

  • @JamesWalker-ng1qh
    @JamesWalker-ng1qh Před 13 dny +15

    Man that's crazy there was such a negative response from people. When I first heard the story I thought "that sounds f*cking terrifying" but I also know how savage nature is and I bet most those other folks have no idea.

  • @greyhawk8187
    @greyhawk8187 Před 7 dny +2

    Awesome guests! What a great friendship, best interview I have seen in a long time!

  • @northernutahoutdoors1657
    @northernutahoutdoors1657 Před 13 dny +121

    Personally I would love to see forest galante on this podcast!

    • @Sgt.Suckdown
      @Sgt.Suckdown Před 13 dny

      Yessir! That’d be awesome

    • @northernutahoutdoors1657
      @northernutahoutdoors1657 Před 13 dny +9

      I think with the foraging, spearfishing, and conservation aspects of forest it would make for a great podcast

    • @MrThatnativeguy
      @MrThatnativeguy Před 13 dny +2

      What about the layman Retep?

    • @northernutahoutdoors1657
      @northernutahoutdoors1657 Před 13 dny +2

      @@MrThatnativeguy I’m honestly not a fan of the other 2 fellas

    • @WildSideOfLifeYT
      @WildSideOfLifeYT Před 13 dny +1

      100%!! Forest would be an awesome guest could probably teach steve a thing or two! Especially about spearfishing!

  • @danstowe8163
    @danstowe8163 Před 12 dny +4

    Great podcast. Thanks for the story girls, glad you decided to share.

  • @1990westfalia
    @1990westfalia Před 12 dny +4

    Thanks for sharing the experience. Including how some people are misinformed and are treating you. Some people just don’t get it. The three of you are very strong. I know your words will heal others wounds. God Bless the three of you and your families. Skillet

  • @tomgensel4134
    @tomgensel4134 Před 13 dny +10

    You got me on this one. You girls are awesome. 👍👍👍

  • @judge4all
    @judge4all Před 13 dny +5

    These ladies r absolutely wonderful. Love each other and watch out for otters.

  • @jackman6106
    @jackman6106 Před 13 dny +13

    Great interview and episode!

  • @rennybirdlvr
    @rennybirdlvr Před 13 dny +2

    Huge thank you to Stephanie, Jen and Leila for sharing your story, your way. I was laughing and crying along with you the whole way. When i saw Jen reach for Stephanies hand, I was a mess... you 3 are brave, smart, fierce and wonderful. And your friendship is beautiful to see. Thanks Meateater for dojng this interview (and Katie for getting their contact info, and Steve for emailing so persuasively😉)

  • @stephenbarrosse831
    @stephenbarrosse831 Před 13 dny +7

    People really don’t understand how gnarly otters can be. They are basically just big water weasels. The problem is that we as a culture make them look cute and cuddly.

  • @richardjohnston4901
    @richardjohnston4901 Před 13 dny +7

    one of the greatest episodes of all time 👍

  • @hendu7111
    @hendu7111 Před 13 dny +7

    That was an incredible interview. I'm in Michigan and I recall hearing about this and yeah, you laugh about it but I had no idea on the intense encounter that took place. Also, we camp and tube on a well known western Michigan river frequently and although I've never seen any otters, better believe I will be going down next time with a dive knife and keeping my eyes peeled.

  • @Andi.Mitchell.Designs
    @Andi.Mitchell.Designs Před 13 dny +8

    On a serious note… all the women on TikTok right now saying they would choose a bear over a man need to know about this story.
    Heart touching while also being terrifying and a lesson on perseverance. That adrenaline when the Hilo landed is that fight to live instinct.
    Great story of a terrible and dangerous event. Thank you.

  • @WildSideOfLifeYT
    @WildSideOfLifeYT Před 11 dny +2

    You ladies are rockstars! Love your embrace of humour to the situation. Respect your guys comradere for eachother! The single lady is Beautiful, funny and very witty, hope she finds an awesome dude to share her life with!
    Havent been a huge fan of the non stop guests lately and have lost a bit of interest in the show but really enjoyed these ladys.

  • @johnlincoln4616
    @johnlincoln4616 Před 10 dny +2

    Man that got heavy for a few minutes. This should be in the next close calls series.

  • @anactivemarketcrash742
    @anactivemarketcrash742 Před 13 dny +6

    Wow this was a very emotional podcast! What heros!

  • @adambomb215
    @adambomb215 Před 10 dny +2

    This was a fantastic podcast. Thsnk you.

  • @garrettmunson8367
    @garrettmunson8367 Před 6 dny

    Thanks for being brave enough to share your story, ladies. You crushed this.

  • @tonybrooks3751
    @tonybrooks3751 Před 10 dny +2

    One of the best episodes I’ve ever watched

  • @ryanjones3043
    @ryanjones3043 Před 13 dny +11

    Holy smokes where’s my box of tissues 😢
    What a rough story man, your friend trapped in the river as they watch you fade away….. rescue within eyesight with no way to reach you while you watch the summer grass gently blowing in the wind.
    Sounds like a damn movie

  • @griffoutdoortv5882
    @griffoutdoortv5882 Před 13 dny +6

    These are some kick ass ladies what a harrowing story thanks for sharing

  • @Jpecks19
    @Jpecks19 Před 13 dny +5

    This was a great episode!

  • @shanelowe3902
    @shanelowe3902 Před 13 dny +3

    I'm glad you did the interview. I understand to some extent what they went through. I do appreciate otters, but I have another level of respect for them without having a bad experience. All it takes is a mauling by an animal.....for most people that's a dog as a child. An otter in the water is on another level.

  • @rycrawford5126
    @rycrawford5126 Před 9 dny +2

    I was attacked by multiple otters 2 years ago while salmon fishing and broke my collar bone in the process of fighting them off and running for my life. Luckily none of them were able to bite any chunks out of me. Now whenever I see an otter I keep my head on a swivel.

  • @vontothemax
    @vontothemax Před 13 dny +7

    I loved this episode so much.

  • @CHRISandSHEN
    @CHRISandSHEN Před 13 dny +2

    Amazing woman, Steve’s matter of fact questions were a giggle, he just puts it out there but doesn’t realise he’s doing it 👍

  • @danc6402
    @danc6402 Před 9 dny +2

    What a podcast. 10/10

  • @Sethleavescomments
    @Sethleavescomments Před 13 dny +6

    Curious about the bleeping. Did we finally get the podcast's first see you next tuesday?

    • @NVEMBER
      @NVEMBER Před 13 dny +3

      that's what I'm thinking

    • @JenniferRoyce-xw7mo
      @JenniferRoyce-xw7mo Před 11 dny +2

      Yes you did 😊

    • @Sethleavescomments
      @Sethleavescomments Před 11 dny +1

      @@JenniferRoyce-xw7mo "Under certain circumstances, profanity provides a relief denied even to prayer." -Mark Twain

  • @tomm5780
    @tomm5780 Před 12 dny +2

    Wonderful episode!

  • @RobertDavis-en6wb
    @RobertDavis-en6wb Před 12 dny +3

    Great podcast, great Ladies

  • @chrismartin5166
    @chrismartin5166 Před dnem

    Hell of a story. It’s got me shaking my head. Almost at the end of the podcast. Did we ever hear what happened to the otters? I figured someone went in and trapped them.
    You ladies are badass and I hope for a full recovery of injuries seen and unseen.

  • @fishduckdog
    @fishduckdog Před 12 dny +1

    in "Unforgiven" the guys did the same thing as the story was spread about the Women. Great interview! Thanks for sharing!

  • @mikeyoung5356
    @mikeyoung5356 Před 13 dny +3

    C great story. Great pod!

  • @GSARGENTOUTDOORS
    @GSARGENTOUTDOORS Před 13 dny +6

    Way to go, ladies. Glad y'all are doing well.
    As for the jackasses who insulted them on the internet- I am pretty sure most of these folks mouth-breathe in front of a computer 20 hours out of the day and the only "outdoor time" these cretins get is an occasional walk to the mailbox.

  • @hughausmus2557
    @hughausmus2557 Před 5 dny +1

    This was in my humble opinion top 3 for meeteater. These gals remind me so much of my friends circle. Maybe the only difference is alcohol probably would have been a major contributing factor if this were to happen to us. Strictly based on past tubing trips here in northeast California.

  • @TheZdannar
    @TheZdannar Před 13 dny +2

    What a great group of ladies.

  • @user-kj9fd5db9i
    @user-kj9fd5db9i Před 13 dny +2

    One of my favorite episodes

  • @randyhiebert2695
    @randyhiebert2695 Před 4 hodinami

    Wow oh wow, what an insane story! You women are absolutely amazing!

  • @davidadams4247
    @davidadams4247 Před 13 dny +3

    Grate podcast 👍

  • @nathanchapman9836
    @nathanchapman9836 Před 13 dny +5

    Listening their story, I think they’re correct in assuming it was more than one otter. My money is on two otters at least. Especially at the initial encounter when they could see the one otter still at the surface when the one lady was bitten on the rear, under water. And then once chaos broke out, it just sounds like more than one had to have been responsible for so much.

  • @dimensionsofearth
    @dimensionsofearth Před 13 dny +1

    One of the otter stories I've ever heard. Being in the water like that would leave you pretty helpless, they did well.
    I missed the special episode on the Turks and Caicos jailings, I've been looking since reading the article.

  • @lamelamerson3965
    @lamelamerson3965 Před 12 dny +1

    Love this amazing show

  • @mtnman6942
    @mtnman6942 Před 13 dny +3

    Amazing, strong and beautiful women. Stephanie, I wish I was 15 years younger, I love your smile and laugh. Thank you for sharing this story. I can see how difficult it must be to talk about having to re-live in detail. 🤗❤️👍 PS would you like someone to go trap those pesky otters?

  • @billybaugus1249
    @billybaugus1249 Před 13 dny +6

    Otters keep Jaguars at bay in the amazon. Brutal

  • @kevinbermingham6277
    @kevinbermingham6277 Před 6 dny +1

    I’m so glad you had them on

  • @michaelchase418
    @michaelchase418 Před 13 dny +3

    I had to put down my childhood cat, i got the cat 🐈 when I was five. He got so old that his skin and flesh started rotting off. He didn't want to die, I didn't want him to die. I sure as shit didn't want to have to kill him, but he was my cat, my best friend. It was my responsibility. I was old enough to understand. I was old enough with the capabilities and the means to do what my parents were to overwhelmed to take care of. I took care of it. The worst best experience of my life, and one I have taught my kids about but have never made them have to deal with.

  • @ross7684
    @ross7684 Před 7 dny +1

    What a story! People who do not traverse the outdoors have no clue how brutal Nature can be. Most animals can cause serious injuries to humans should an encounter happen. I would have expected the state wildlife agency to be searching the area to find the otter(s) in that section of the river and dispose of them.

  • @johnnottahcal5725
    @johnnottahcal5725 Před 8 dny +1

    I think all 3 of you are awesome! I’ve floated with a mottly crew all through our childhood but no scary, life threatening incidents. Closest we came was a glow passing Three Mile Island! 😂 Who knew!? Dang Otters! I remember Les relating the tribe was more afraid of river otters than big cats! 👀

  • @rsa9082
    @rsa9082 Před 8 dny +1

    In my many decades in the outdoors.
    Anything that has sharp teeth is a predator and skilled hunters! These beautiful ladies were very lucky to get out of the water.
    Y’all women are. BadAsses! And should be very proud of the trifecta of each and every one of your reactions! You did amazing EVERYONE of you. ❤❤❤

  • @jamesnash5292
    @jamesnash5292 Před 10 dny +1

    Mora Companion is about the best value for cost knife. May not have helped in this situation. Always have a knife, a way to make fire and a way to procure water when you’re outdoors. Honestly though, hard to be prepared for this one. Congrats ladies.

  • @tejawest44
    @tejawest44 Před 13 dny +6

    I knew I was right to dislike river otters - cute floaty sea otters they are NOT. Vicious aquatic weasels.

    • @ryanomalley3705
      @ryanomalley3705 Před 13 dny

      Idk if I'd describe sea otters as cute and floaty. Do u know what they do to each other?

    • @dangerousdylan6262
      @dangerousdylan6262 Před 13 dny

      ​@@ryanomalley3705rape...

    • @robertwise2032
      @robertwise2032 Před 12 dny

      @@ryanomalley3705 I do. Males commonly kill females and then mate with the corpse. Supposedly they’ve been known to do the same thing to seal pups. Aquatic serial killers.

  • @garryeadon9962
    @garryeadon9962 Před 13 dny +4

    You all are bad ass women. Stay strapped on the river.

  • @BikeThrottleOfficial
    @BikeThrottleOfficial Před 13 dny +9

    🦦
    Cold-blooded killing machines. Always knew it.

  • @jonathangomez9548
    @jonathangomez9548 Před 13 dny +3

    What a wild story glad they are doing well now

  • @woodsmn8047
    @woodsmn8047 Před 13 dny +2

    I have seen otters while fishing ...I never knew the little guys could be so aggressive !

  • @Drundel
    @Drundel Před dnem

    Having growing up going tubing in Gruene, I never would have thought people didn't know what river tubing is.

  • @joem4551
    @joem4551 Před 11 dny +2

    Saw an otter one morning duck hunting the river and thought of this incident. I already knew otters were little killers, but now I know I'm gonna stay vigilant around the them for sure.

  • @jreinert1023
    @jreinert1023 Před 6 dny +1

    Wow! What a story.

  • @olenwalstead7900
    @olenwalstead7900 Před 8 dny

    I may have missed it, but what state was this in?

  • @user-nm9xb7nv6i
    @user-nm9xb7nv6i Před 12 dny +3

    Excellent conversations and for those with negative thoughts about these ladies you obviously didn’t pay attention

  • @muskyman26
    @muskyman26 Před 12 dny +2

    Gal from island lake by Duluth mn got attacked in a wetsuit while training. Wetsuit is hanging in the island lake inn bar

  • @underdogoutdoors
    @underdogoutdoors Před 13 dny +1

    Otters look so friendly!

  • @frankiejerardenno2678
    @frankiejerardenno2678 Před 13 dny +3

    Steve should get her some stuffed otter carcases and gift them to the victims ❤

  • @davidmickelle7326
    @davidmickelle7326 Před 13 dny +1

    That is an interesting thing about emotions. When we watch a movie we know to be fictional our emotions still log the event as if we had seen it in real life. I imagine the visions we see in these near death moments are real visions and while we can logically work through them as not having played out the way we saw for that split second before reality played out, our emotions log them in very different manner than our rational side. They cant be logic-ed or rationalized away. They have to be worked through on a different level and just because they didn't happen in a physical real way, they did happen in a real emotional way and are no less real to the emotional reality than they would be to the rational logical reality. To me this is actually one of the biggest indicators that we are more than just a physical being. The multiple realms of reality suggest there was a spiritual realness that just didnt come to a physical realness, but it doesnt make it less real, just different real.

    • @cory_hugs7850
      @cory_hugs7850 Před 18 hodinami

      So it didn’t really happen? If that’s what you’re saying how do we explain the scars? Or did I read your comment wrong?

  • @ADVENTUREKM
    @ADVENTUREKM Před 13 dny +2

    Everyone sees Otters as cute cuddly animals but they spend their life with wolves, Bears, coyotes and other predators so they are tough wild animals. Glad the situation wasn't worse.

  • @CaliGirl1952
    @CaliGirl1952 Před 12 dny +2

    Otters, like raccoons, can be vicious. I have a friend who was duck hunting, along with is Labrador Retriever in the Grasslands in California’s Central Valley. Several otters were trying to attack his Labrador and would’ve killed it if he didn’t get the dog out of the water. The dog was ok, but scary situation. And of course he probably shot the attackers

  • @mattchewcrambles
    @mattchewcrambles Před 13 dny +2

    Fuckin otters, man. That's one of the wildest animal encounter stories I've ever heard. So curious as to the why. What drove the otters to behave that way.

  • @user-ch7ux2wt7i
    @user-ch7ux2wt7i Před 2 dny

    Three amazing women.

  • @Grey_Wulfe
    @Grey_Wulfe Před 13 dny

    I have heard wild otters can be incredibly territorial and will group together to take on bigger enemies.

  • @skogstokig128
    @skogstokig128 Před 10 dny +1

    Pretty crazy a few little otters can viscously attack three body builder women like that

  • @danabuch324
    @danabuch324 Před 14 hodinami

    People see a video on CZcams about pet otters that have been raised by humans who supply all their needs and think that otters are like that in the wild. Not saying that happened here. Otters in the wild are very territorial and would also just as soon eat a human as a fish.

  • @richard217
    @richard217 Před 11 dny +2

    wowwww...incredible, they are all heroes.... Steve you gotta take them hunting for otter....

  • @shanewells9067
    @shanewells9067 Před 13 dny +2

    ❤thees girls

  • @craigwilken7764
    @craigwilken7764 Před 11 dny +1

    I think it should only be a lottery system. As hunting or fishing is meant to be shared/enjoy not sold of to the highest binder ya its great for conservation. But if more average people see a better change there more willing to get tickets

  • @kja6336
    @kja6336 Před 12 dny

    Anyone see he just did a podcast with RFK Jr??? Got to get forest on here next

  • @petersmith2461
    @petersmith2461 Před 13 dny +2

    More power to your ellbows ladies

  • @frederickking1660
    @frederickking1660 Před 11 hodinami

    I was at a bridge on penns creek at dark when a guy and a girl were kayaking. They still had at least 2 miles to go maybe more. I tried to get them to get out buy they wouldn't. They weren't on the main creek but on a old mill race. I bet they regretted not getting out and taking me up on the offer for a ride.

  • @darcybain2657
    @darcybain2657 Před 12 dny

    I know what' Steve is talking about, I was heading to a bait sight and got in between a mother and 2 cubs, she came at me, and i thought this isn't going to end well, then the cubs ran around me, and they all ran back into the bush. You imagine the worse for a while.

  • @anonymousf454
    @anonymousf454 Před 5 dny +1

    By the mannerisms of the lady on the left, I think there may have been a little more to the story....lol.

  • @DieHardCards
    @DieHardCards Před 9 dny

    The woman on the far left....man, I don't want her to see this. But this lingering emotional effect and the fact that she can't get over this is odd to me. As a person that has dealt with incredible trauma and lost almost every family member in traumatic ways. I hope she gets over it. The other two seem like great girls. Hate this happened to them. Could have happened to anyone.

  • @drewandcharlie7583
    @drewandcharlie7583 Před 13 dny +3

    😂😂😂😂🤣 no way!! You got the otter victims in real time. Insane!!

  • @sirmarkmagee1315
    @sirmarkmagee1315 Před 13 dny +3

    Amazing story. Beautiful girls.

  • @LAlonzo70
    @LAlonzo70 Před 4 dny

    its called PTSD... and it takes intentional work to heal