The Secret about Sex and Holiness

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  • čas přidán 30. 11. 2021
  • As St. Thomas Aquinas writes: "As often as a husband and wife enter into the sexual embrace in a state of grace, they are growing in grace and in glory."
    Today, Fr. Mike delves into one of the greatest secrets of Catholic morality and the sacrament of Matrimony, namely that when spouses share the marital embrace that they are growing in holiness.
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  • @luiliquid
    @luiliquid Před 2 lety +1739

    This made me realize that sex before marriage is like communion before confession

  • @boberttorres4689
    @boberttorres4689 Před 2 lety +897

    Im only 19 and only want to share my person with one person. I pray I don’t stray off this path 🙏

    • @hailydove
      @hailydove Před 2 lety +61

      i’m 18 and staying strong! you aren’t alone

    • @mariasad6007
      @mariasad6007 Před 2 lety +52

      Same here!
      I'm having doubts lately.
      Living in this world where divorce is becoming more and more common.
      I'm scared that it might happen to me too.
      I hope God will help me to get rid of these doubts and any other d I might have about my faith.

    • @kaylarose1081
      @kaylarose1081 Před 2 lety +49

      It's SO worth it! My husband and I waited for each other and married in our late 20s. I had the exact mindset as you - that I only wanted to share myself with one person. Zero regrets and so glad we're each other's only. Keep on the path! You're off to a great start!

    • @mariasad6007
      @mariasad6007 Před 2 lety +6

      @@TechCody113 I'm from Europe. I actually never knew that. I though marriage was "until death do us part".Thanks for your reply😁

    • @TechCody113
      @TechCody113 Před 2 lety

      @@mariasad6007 pffft that’s technically attached to the old marriage law in the Old Testament, my pastor said when he got married they didn’t even say those words because it’s irrelevant

  • @simonscheib1778
    @simonscheib1778 Před 2 lety +814

    My Fiance converted yesterday to Catholicism and we get married this Saturday 🙂 Feeling so grateful to God for His grace 🙏 I have to admit that I have struggled with sexual addictions most of my life and have fallen in and out of my faith. Through the persistent prayers of my mother I'm sure and God pulling me to want to be holy, I finally made a resolution that I wanted to do things properly. My Fiance( then girlfriend) was very supportive of my decision and although it hasn't been the easiest road with little falls here and there we have managed to keep ourselves from having sex. Looking forward to embracing married life with a real sense of love and growing in God's grace together.

    • @groblerful
      @groblerful Před 2 lety +19

      God bless you both.

    • @aknmo541
      @aknmo541 Před 2 lety +25

      Oh Simon! What a beautiful testimony! God's blessings be upon your holy union. Let the praises ring! Congratulations!

    • @ekwyije1986
      @ekwyije1986 Před 2 lety +10

      Good bless your marriage

    • @JulesSRo-pb2uc
      @JulesSRo-pb2uc Před 2 lety +10

      Is someone cutting onions...?
      That was beautiful!

    • @Eis4Electric
      @Eis4Electric Před 2 lety +9

      You did a very admirable thing. I wish you both many years of good health and happiness.

  • @AnnaBelise
    @AnnaBelise Před 2 lety +739

    My mind is BLOWN. I went to a Catholic grade school, high school, & Christian college……and this is the first time I’m hearing this topic explained this way. Thank you for this video. 🙏🏽

    • @markbecker71
      @markbecker71 Před 2 lety +11

      The evildoers in the church don't want you to know.

    • @sitka49
      @sitka49 Před 2 lety +9

      Pretty sad isn't?

    • @user-kj1hz9yh2r
      @user-kj1hz9yh2r Před 2 lety +2

      Mark Becker 😐

    • @Thezombiekiller06
      @Thezombiekiller06 Před 2 lety

      ​@@user-kj1hz9yh2r What? This is a well known fact

    • @sitka49
      @sitka49 Před 2 lety

      "The secret about sex and holyness". The title alone should be enough to give you the answer, it's a oxymoron.

  • @kenebbepena9831
    @kenebbepena9831 Před 2 lety +771

    I'm getting married this Saturday, December 4, and this video makes me more excited💕

    • @ariannecayao1828
      @ariannecayao1828 Před 2 lety +6

      eeeeeep congratulations!!!!!!

    • @victoriaezembu4509
      @victoriaezembu4509 Před 2 lety +11

      Yayyyy congratulations🎊🎊
      I hope your marriage is everything you hope for it to be❤️

    • @angelalemos9811
      @angelalemos9811 Před 2 lety +4

      praying for you

    • @Kristaholmes96
      @Kristaholmes96 Před 2 lety +2

      Oh how fantastic! Love and blessings to you both!

    • @KHnoway460
      @KHnoway460 Před 2 lety +2

      Congratulations! God bless you and your marriage!

  • @MariaPullatt
    @MariaPullatt Před 2 lety +755

    As someone who used to be in conflict with the Church's take on sexuality, knowing and realizing that it's all just about Love (God's version) has given me a whole new level of clarity over...well, everything.

    • @wilhufftarkin8543
      @wilhufftarkin8543 Před 2 lety +64

      I know exactly how you feel. When I started to take my faith seriously again, I had a completely wrong idea about the Church's teachings on sexuality. It seemed so negative. Over the last couple of years I realized that the Church's take is not only inherently positive, it is also much more about true love than secular society's view on sexuality.

    • @presuntomr
      @presuntomr Před 2 lety +3

      @@wilhufftarkin8543 can u recommend me something to know more about that?

    • @apricus3155
      @apricus3155 Před 2 lety +3

      Wait, you're from Kerala? How fortuitous! Me too.

    • @mylikspy3023
      @mylikspy3023 Před 2 lety +2

      I'm struggling. My girlfriend (a Christian who does not deliberately follow the faith) and I (somewhat devote Catholic) are struggling to find place to land on sex.

    • @francesgutierrez4124
      @francesgutierrez4124 Před 2 lety +8

      @@mylikspy3023 No offense . I'm not a good Catholic , because I don't practice my faith like I should . Have told this , I hope you don't take this as criticism . You say you are somewhat devote (to set apart for or give up to some purpose , activity , or person ; dedicate) I did no the meaning that's why I wrote it. Question: Where is God , in your plan to find a space for sex ? Just a suggestion , go to your parish or a Catholic Church and speak to a priest . The priest can give clarity on premarital sex or look it in The Catechism of the Catholic.
      🕊God bless you and guide 🕊 you

  • @Kathotokos
    @Kathotokos Před 2 lety +685

    Fr. Mike the Evangelist. The man is doing the the exact work that church needs be done. Future Catholics will be praying for his intercession one day.

    • @lvluxdelight
      @lvluxdelight Před 2 lety +12

      I agree 🙏❤️

    • @Ima_D._Plorable
      @Ima_D._Plorable Před 2 lety +22

      He may be too virtuous a priest to stay in the good graces of the church in its current state. May God protect his loyal servant.

    • @sheilatiu9325
      @sheilatiu9325 Před 2 lety +1

      My thought for a long time now

    • @jocelynsmith4315
      @jocelynsmith4315 Před 2 lety +12

      i was listening to his “bible in a year” podcast today and just thinking this.. “i wonder what Fr. mike will be the patron saint of” 😇

    • @Hamann9631
      @Hamann9631 Před 2 lety +2

      Richard O'Brien. If Fr. Mike is righteous, he won't want to be anybody's false god.

  • @LLopez993
    @LLopez993 Před 3 měsíci +22

    I got married 3 months ago, I can say that giving your body to your spouse is a completely different dimension. You can feel the blessing over the union of the man and the woman. Physically , emotionally and mentally we two became one. You receive sex as a gift and it is so freeing to be able to be with God at all times before, during and after the act. You do not have to choose between God or a man but be United as one ♥️🙏🏼✝️ . People, wait for your husband or your wife and keep your body to him or her even if you are not virgin at this moment, restart where you are and enter your path to heaven 💕💝

  • @VictoriaDMunoz
    @VictoriaDMunoz Před rokem +93

    My boyfriend and I didn’t wait…it hurts to think about Godly love being absent from something that was so special and intimate. We’ve since stopped completely and for over a year now have been trying to actively avoid slipping up until we discern marriage. It’s been tough but I know it’s worth it.

    • @cheenouthao7112
      @cheenouthao7112 Před 6 měsíci

      I wasn’t able to fully understand everything father Mike said in the video. I am a new believer of god and still confused if se can have premarital sex or not. I heard many say we can’t, but some say that people have interpret this saying wrong…and that we can have premarital sex if we are in a committed relationship leading to marriage or if we are engaged. Please help!

    • @user-tq7eb3pd4h
      @user-tq7eb3pd4h Před 6 měsíci

      The church teachings has been very clear on this subject. No premarital sex no matter what. Sex is only between a married couple. @@cheenouthao7112

    • @VictoriaDMunoz
      @VictoriaDMunoz Před 5 měsíci +9

      @@cheenouthao7112 you are not allowed to have sex outside of marriage. Ever. Even if you plan on marrying that person. A reason (if you need one) could be: what if that person dies before you two get married? Now you’ve had sex with someone that is not your spouse nor will ever be your spouse.
      It is hard but you must wait. Good luck and God bless ✝️

    • @kristycaminero4653
      @kristycaminero4653 Před měsícem

      me too!

  • @dennypoliquit2936
    @dennypoliquit2936 Před 2 lety +265

    I'm blown away!! This is the real sex education. Not the ones they teach in schools now. Thank you Fr Mike!

    • @michelleharkness7549
      @michelleharkness7549 Před 2 lety +3

      Greetings: amen 🙏 alleluia: ( fwiw) this presentation is outstanding, wonderful; again, this presentation is outstanding, thank you 🙏

    • @michelleharkness7549
      @michelleharkness7549 Před 2 lety +3

      Greetings: amen 🙏 alleluia : special intention: Sacred Heart 💜 of Almighty Jesus Christ, I trust in You; Mother Immaculate ( BVM) , pray for us

    • @michelleharkness7549
      @michelleharkness7549 Před 2 lety +2

      Greetings: amen 🙏 alleluia: honored Saint Michael McGivney, pray for us ; Esteemed Saint Maria Faustina , pray for us ; Revered Saint Padre Pio, pray for us

    • @cg02tx
      @cg02tx Před 4 měsíci

      This isn’t really a sec education. Don’t get it misconstrued

    • @geoffcaflisch1352
      @geoffcaflisch1352 Před 3 měsíci +1

      Abstinence only education lead to elevated rates of pregnancy in many public school systems. The research is very solid.

  • @waderich9904
    @waderich9904 Před 2 lety +180

    That’s so cool he celebrated mass with his parents for their 50th anniversary and reaffirmed their vows with them

  • @StephaniDObSB
    @StephaniDObSB Před 2 lety +256

    I read somewhere that sex is for the married the way celebrating the Mass is for priests. Both are, in a sense, sacrilegious when offered by (unmarried/unordained), but a super beautiful thing when entered into by those with the right to do so.

    • @terrymunoztrujillo483
      @terrymunoztrujillo483 Před 2 lety +4

      what about all the single young people?

    • @emilyrushmore9212
      @emilyrushmore9212 Před 2 lety +7

      What an interesting and frankly, powerful perspective! The logic follows. Thanks for this comment.

    • @Ima_D._Plorable
      @Ima_D._Plorable Před 2 lety +9

      @@terrymunoztrujillo483 may they grow to learn and understand God. I’m glad I waited.

    • @wiafewaandra5061
      @wiafewaandra5061 Před 2 lety +1

      @@terrymunoztrujillo483 ...who are really committed to each other??

    • @smorevids
      @smorevids Před 2 lety +8

      You don't *really* commit until you're married though.

  • @marktapia8327
    @marktapia8327 Před 2 lety +208

    Sacrament in Greek means “mystery”. There is an element of mystery given to Christ as a means of his presence and influence in the Church. Fulton Sheen gave a speech saying sex is a mystery as it provides (as Christopher West says) the ecstasy of the love between the members of the Holy Trinity. Yes, sex is holy and Christ is present and influential in the act of marital intercourse. Also, God allows his creation to share in His creating powers. He creates, but lays the blueprints for it in the male and female reproductive systems as a gift for the spouses. That’s just mind blowing.

    • @NikeRunner210
      @NikeRunner210 Před 2 lety +1

      Thanks for the information

    • @LoveToMix
      @LoveToMix Před 2 lety +1

      @@NikeRunner210 Lol great just name

    • @niceatrya3477
      @niceatrya3477 Před 2 lety +3

      I think you mean the Latin word "sacramentum", which roughly translates to "an oath to the death" It was used by Roman soldiers to swear by oath they would carry out one's duties even to the point of death.

    • @marktapia8327
      @marktapia8327 Před 2 lety

      @@niceatrya3477 Greek and Latin translations don’t always match, but yes, I see the analogy you’re describing.

    • @josephzammit8483
      @josephzammit8483 Před 2 lety

      czcams.com/video/sY7BYbiHkPE/video.html

  • @SheldonDsouza126
    @SheldonDsouza126 Před 2 lety +500

    I think if we go out and proclaim the sanctity of marriage with the same vigour we go out proclaiming pro-life, all the work we do for pro-life will be so much more meaningful. Yes, Life begins at conception, but more so, life begins at the point of the sexual embrace. The sanctity of life is preserved, when the sanctity of marriage is preserved. Our silence on divorces, premarital sex, sex in general has led us to this stage where no one wants to listen to the advocacy of pro-life. That's my opinion.

    • @holyfariankido
      @holyfariankido Před 2 lety +7

      Couldn’t agree more @Sheldon.

    • @KM-ec2qv
      @KM-ec2qv Před 2 lety +22

      Civil divorce is often emblematic of underlying sin, but it is not in itself a sin (the sacrament of marriage extends beyond, which of course is why we can't divorce/remarry without a declaration of nullity--i.e., the "marriage" was never valid in the first place).
      I'm more troubled on the Church's silence on abuse--emotional, sexual, physical--in relationships and in marriage. Some priests can still waffle on calling out abuse as a sin and often push those being abused to stay even when in danger. It's a problem that needs to be addressed from the pulpit and in pre Cana.

    • @cyruslever586
      @cyruslever586 Před 2 lety

      The catholic girls are the ones getting pregnant when they're teenagers making welfare babies because they aren't allowed to have birth control or abortions

    • @radmomthoughts3507
      @radmomthoughts3507 Před 2 lety +23

      While I agree with the good points made by Sheldon and K.M. (gonna go ahead and ignore the hate coming from Cyrus), it's so much easier to criticize than to help. As someone who worked for a pro-life nonprofit, we sometimes had people reproach us with these sorts of arguments: why aren't you doing more to promote chastity, why aren't you focusing on helping unwed mothers, etc. It can be very disheartening to those who really are working hard to make the world a better place to hear "why aren't you doing more?" Instead, I would turn the question around and ask, "what are you doing? How are you reaching out to those being abused or teenagers believing lies about sex?" Sometimes all it takes is being an awesome guest speaker at a youth group, or writing to your pastor to ask about starting a ministry for abused spouses, asking if he will address it in his homily. Be the change you want to see in the Church!

    • @eduardohoover2127
      @eduardohoover2127 Před 2 lety +3

      How does this work within the Holy Family? Mary and Joseph never did this.

  • @whitneydriscoll6717
    @whitneydriscoll6717 Před 2 lety +198

    Someone who is a Catholic single and has spent years trying to understand the Church's stance on sex, this video gives so much clarity. Thank you so much Fr. Mike!

  • @leekshikapinnamneni4835
    @leekshikapinnamneni4835 Před 2 lety +143

    I think that’s why it’s called a conjugal act or something like that. Imagine this.
    I’m not married or even dating a future spouse yet, but I can just imagine this.
    You and your spouse go home and you say to each other “let’s renew our vows.”
    Such beautiful imagery.
    I’m even more committed to chastity now although I have been committed to wait until marriage since I was a teenager.

    • @sitka49
      @sitka49 Před 2 lety

      In a biblical sense is what they use to say when people were cheating , it was always in the biblical sense

  • @Avinathi
    @Avinathi Před 2 lety +373

    I am a practicing catholic. Being a 26 year old female I have never had sex cause I have always wanted to save sex for marriage. But society makes me feel like there is something wrong with me to be 26 and never had sex. It can really get to me sometimes cause everywhere around me is couples who go on dates and sleep with one another and It's almost as if the Sex determines if they have the chemistry and if the relationship will last.

    • @upendome887
      @upendome887 Před 2 lety +74

      Hold on dear may mother Mary be your helper in this fight of purity i pray

    • @sandrass560
      @sandrass560 Před 2 lety +46

      Keep standing on the word of God! Keep waiting. Yes, the pressure is high because the stakes are even higher. May the Lord Jesus keep you. Phillipians 1:4-6.

    • @gillmurphy6307
      @gillmurphy6307 Před 2 lety +29

      Sex absolutely does not define a relationship.Yes it’s an important part of a marriage or long term relationship depending on what your religious stance is. As the saying goes, you do you. If it feels right for you to save until marriage then that’s what’s right. Don’t feel pressured by what ‘everyone else’ is doing. Or might not be doing, Remain true to yourself.

    • @joanborn8835
      @joanborn8835 Před 2 lety +29

      Hold firm and pray to the Lord for the spouse God will send ! Don’t give in! You will be blessed! you have heroic virtue!!!

    • @cyruslever586
      @cyruslever586 Před 2 lety +2

      There could be something wrong with you if you're not driven to have sex starting at puberty. It should be chemical and genetic motivation for sex is biological and to produce children. If you've been living over a decade with no sexual or reproductive drive you should probably see a doctor about it

  • @Laura-vc7er
    @Laura-vc7er Před 2 lety +133

    Framing sex in sacramental terms makes the teaching make sense.
    I wouldn’t walk into a confessional without having the preparation and completing my first Reconciliation. I wouldn’t eat the Eucharist without formation or First Communion.
    So I wouldn’t renew marriage vows via sex without first getting married.
    This is great!

  • @antonioborriello5287
    @antonioborriello5287 Před 2 lety +336

    I absolutely, totally feel, "why didnt they tell me that before."
    This is wonderful, so beautiful.
    If i would of had this train of thought at, say, pre-teen/teen, i would of spent years with
    Such a better approa ch to this subject.
    I know i had to fall to learn and change, to be worthy of the these graces that have now been bestowed on me, but....i could of avoided so much sin and incorrect thinking. I could avoided so many offenses to Christ.
    This is an epiphany to me now. This makes so much sense. This just feels....right.
    Thank you God, for ringing me to this video. Thank you God for Father Mike and his abiliry to communicate.
    Thank you Father Mike for having the boldness to talk about this.

    • @marcbarrera2145
      @marcbarrera2145 Před 2 lety +10

      Wow! What a wonderful response to such a beautiful video. I could not have said it better. Fr. Mike needs his own tv show. I believe now is a perfect time when there’s so much confusion in the world. He has a deliverance about him that can capture the world.

    • @LM-ix7pk
      @LM-ix7pk Před 2 lety +4

      @Denzil Pillay it is also sadly because we have poor teachers and bad leaders

    • @freddo6941
      @freddo6941 Před 2 lety +3

      I'll raise my hand to that as well. I struggled with this subject so much in teens and 20s and regrefully did not have the right approach. I could not make sense of my natural kind of "guy thoughts" and the teaching of the Church where I was almost told to sort of just suppress it, which did not work at all. Now I understand what it is about. This makes so much sense.

    • @robertortiz-wilson1588
      @robertortiz-wilson1588 Před 2 lety +1

      @@freddo6941 same. Hearing this confirmed by the Father was very good for me. I had to roughly come to most this conclusion on my own dealing with all the natural things you'd expect. I have a friend struggling right now so this video is very timely for me.

    • @freddo6941
      @freddo6941 Před 2 lety +2

      @@robertortiz-wilson1588 absolutely. I realized this in my own life as well , but I wish I heard it articulated this way much sooner.
      Like anything, Satan can manipulate you. He can manipulate those natural desires and take you towards lust, hedonism and pornography. But these desires are not in conflict with God. Satan's way cheapens it. It's about a desire to share yourself in unity with another in a way that honors God through the sacraments. It's not that sex is bad, its that it is so amazing and holy, but using it the wrong way brings dishonor to the gift that God gave us.
      And wheather people realize it or not, they can see this play out in real life. Having sex carelessly leads to so many physical, emotional and mental hardships. Sex within holy matrimony is incredible and beautiful ,and leads to the best thing in life, the creation of new life. It's so obvious, yet so easy to miss and Father Mike explaines this better than anyone I've heard.

  • @Amadeus_2061
    @Amadeus_2061 Před rokem +75

    How much I regret that I didn't realize the value of our incredible religion when I was young. I only now realize the value of a GOOD teacher. Schools and parishes should appoint people like Father Mike to teach this stuff in a way that captures the glory of these teachings. A good teacher has the power to ingrain these jewels into children and to affect the trajectory of their lives.

  • @mikemorris7160
    @mikemorris7160 Před 2 lety +144

    I never knew this. But when you put this way, everything makes more sense.

  • @katietamborski1
    @katietamborski1 Před 2 lety +207

    Thank you so much for this. I am a recovering sex and love addict, I am also becoming Catholic. This helped my perspective. 💛

    • @tbdr97
      @tbdr97 Před 2 lety +3

      God's Blessings and welcome to this Our Glorious Catholic Faith. Stay blessed.

    • @millamaya
      @millamaya Před 2 lety +9

      Katie and Gail. I'm happy for you. God is and will give you lots of graces to live the way He wants you to live. God bless you both 🙏🏻❤️

    • @WILLIAMW39
      @WILLIAMW39 Před 2 lety +1

      Just pray to the Lord to give you strenght to fight the will of fall into that addiction again. But like other addiction the best way to avoid being addicted it is no to prove it for the first time, for example the best way to avoid being addicted to alcool is never prove alcool in the first place, that same method works with all addictive things... the easy way is not give them a chance, deny, reject always etc. Because once fall in these things you will get your faith in God tested in order to save you from these vicious

    • @WILLIAMW39
      @WILLIAMW39 Před 2 lety +3

      @@mynameisGail thanks for the comment, your life is completely opposite to mine because i had and still have many loving and caring from my parents also even if my parents were poor they try to give me what they could, so even when facing troubles I always could count on them and also with the people of the church and even when I face a big trial as adult I got help from people that I didnt know that care for me, actually I never faced a problem alone, God always send me a way to prevent that from happening, like i said in the comment or some people to help and when people did evil to me with some time we forget and be friends like never had happened, there are only one time when I have to face the trial alone and you would not like what happened...

    • @WILLIAMW39
      @WILLIAMW39 Před 2 lety +2

      I mean I thought that I was facing alone but was not, God was with me but this time He let me try to solve by myself...

  • @galadethlaernis6266
    @galadethlaernis6266 Před 2 lety +144

    And I'm married to a nonCatholic alcoholic.😔.. product of my grievous past life but over a decade have since had a great conversion... Deo gratias!
    I see now why Catholics are discouraged from marrying nonCatholics... such a great sermon!!!! God bless this dear holy priest!!! I wish I knew what he would say to someone like me.🙏🏼 I pray constantly & offer up for my husband... it's very difficult but all is offered up!🙏🏼

    • @nyakanyasko
      @nyakanyasko Před 2 lety +20

      St. Monica, pray for us! 🙏🙏🙏

    • @Toastedfroggy
      @Toastedfroggy Před 2 lety +11

      I am in the same boat. I married when I was agnostic and converted to the Catholic faith last year. My wife is a Protestant. I wonder what Fr Mike would say as well. I will pray for your husbands conversion!

    • @nyakanyasko
      @nyakanyasko Před 2 lety +14

      I don't know what Father Mike would say but I can tell you what my priest said: "Patience, love, prayer, patience, love, prayer, patience, love, prayer. God will win their hearts!"

    • @julih3773
      @julih3773 Před 2 lety +17

      @@Toastedfroggy Fr Mike does address interfaith marriage during one of his videos. I found it very helpful, it’s worth searching out. I too married a non catholic but though the Grace of God my husband converted later in our marriage. Lots of private prayers & public example; when you live your faith authentically, it is impossible for those around you not to want what you have. Just keep growing in faith, your example will become irresistible!!

    • @sarahbillard86
      @sarahbillard86 Před 2 lety +2

      stay strong ❤️😊

  • @colleenlongua9752
    @colleenlongua9752 Před 2 lety +38

    This is why abstinence before marriage is so important, great explanation!

  • @stabatmater1908
    @stabatmater1908 Před 2 lety +38

    Father left out a very important clarification:
    When in a state of grace...and NOT including contraception. Vital point that Catholics need to hear and understand.

    • @stabatmater1908
      @stabatmater1908 Před 2 lety +4

      @Gracie of course- just needs to be said explicitly because otherwise people assume wanting only 2 kids whenever they are "ready" to have kids 3+ years into marriage is being fruitful.

    • @MC-lw8dh
      @MC-lw8dh Před 2 lety +3

      So is sex within a Catholic marriage but outside the state of grace licit?

    • @MillionthUsername
      @MillionthUsername Před 2 lety +5

      @@MC-lw8dh Yes, it is licit on account of it being a valid marriage. If anyone is not properly disposed to receive the grace of a sacrament - for whatever reason - then they won't receive it until they change and fix the problem; but this is a different issue from either the validity of the sacrament or the rights accruing to the receiver of the sacrament. The duties, obligations, and rights of marriage all remain even when/if a spouse is not in the state of grace.

    • @lindsaykarashay3648
      @lindsaykarashay3648 Před 3 měsíci +1

      I was going to say the same thing. My husband and I have 4 kids, all under 8 years old. So the idea the sexual embrace feels a little bit less free and casual at this point 😅

    • @Maria9555
      @Maria9555 Před 2 měsíci

      What happen at menopause zero libido

  • @user-or1ye3iz6d
    @user-or1ye3iz6d Před 2 lety +70

    "... in a state of grace" is the most important part. I've been told that some spouses are doing abusive things during the act of sex. So even though they're married, I don't believe this particular type of behavior during sex are "in a state of grace". Important to keep in mind. 🙏

    • @janiscarter5879
      @janiscarter5879 Před 2 lety +3

      Good point.

    • @eduardohoover2127
      @eduardohoover2127 Před 2 lety +7

      If you're in Maryland you're in the state of grace because Mary is full of grace. Lol

    • @josephzammit8483
      @josephzammit8483 Před 2 lety

      czcams.com/video/sY7BYbiHkPE/video.html

    • @carlswindelliv2701
      @carlswindelliv2701 Před 2 lety

      I am so glad GOD invented the rosary cuz how else are u gonna overcome masturbation

    • @lmr1049
      @lmr1049 Před 2 lety +5

      I agree but what does “in a state of grace” mean? It probably excludes things like BDSM but what about certain sex positions or oral sex? Does anyone know more about this?

  • @juliephillips8381
    @juliephillips8381 Před 2 lety +60

    Getting married in January, and this could not have come at a more perfect time. Thank you Fr. Mike for teaching this truth!

    • @veronicahwambui7303
      @veronicahwambui7303 Před 2 lety +2

      Congratulations dear 💐💐🎉🎊 blessings on ur marriage 🌺🌹

  • @h00sha
    @h00sha Před 2 lety +61

    25 years and counting, and this was the message that I never knew that I needed. Thanks Father!

  • @tashaculus4582
    @tashaculus4582 Před 2 lety +30

    My priest mentioned this during our pre marital counselling. Loved it! Sex is amazing when you wait for marriage. My husband and I waited 10 years. Best of luck everyone!

    • @hilariapreethivanathayaraj7520
      @hilariapreethivanathayaraj7520 Před 7 měsíci +2

      This is so inspiring!

    • @wolfthequarrelsome504
      @wolfthequarrelsome504 Před 5 měsíci

      Agreed, but you just don't absolutely know what's waiting there on your wedding night. Neither men or women.
      Otherwise, it's obvious that the church would discourage pre marital sex. Fornication is a total sin and the bi products of irregular sexual union are ultimately going to destroy people's lives.
      It's easy to have you life destroyed, in case you don't know.

    • @geoffcaflisch1352
      @geoffcaflisch1352 Před 3 měsíci

      Well, I am not in agreement. Sex between two people is a learning curve requiring open communication and time and lots of patience. The idea that it happens by magic and you move from chastity and fear of going to far to breathless bliss is a myth that lots of religions seem to embrace.

    • @tashaculus4582
      @tashaculus4582 Před 3 měsíci

      @geoffcaflisch1352 I never said sex was amazing the first time you do it.
      Yes, we had to go through awkward and even painful moments before it got great but the amazing part to me was that I only got to experience that with one person.
      So that is my definition of amazing sex!

    • @geoffcaflisch1352
      @geoffcaflisch1352 Před 3 měsíci

      Very few couples would or could wait ten years but honestly, they may not have sexual intercourse but they certainly engage in sexual behavior.

  • @cleopetra87
    @cleopetra87 Před 2 lety +21

    After 13 yrs of marriage I finally understand why I feel incomplete! Finding this video is a blessing 🙏 I pray God gives me a chance sometime in my life to actually experience a real marriage that involves the grace of God 🙏

  • @deathchicken4782
    @deathchicken4782 Před 2 lety +50

    That was one of the most beautiful ways of explaining that. Those of us who are malformed or undereducated in the faith have no idea this way if thinking exists in the church. Thank you Father Mike for being such a great teacher. God bless you.

  • @dvinemsr
    @dvinemsr Před 2 lety +18

    Thank you Fr Mike. Like most Catholics who did not know the holiness of sex I get frustrated that the Church never taught the Theology of the Body. Im blown by what you just revealed about the sanctufying grace and renewal of vows everytime I'm intimate with my spouse. Well, better late than never , so please , please Holy Church, teach this to the generations as they grow and go through Catechism. It's so important to hear all this as you are framing your thoughts when you are getting into your teenage years.

  • @shannond.5942
    @shannond.5942 Před 2 lety +18

    Thank you so much Fr. Mike, this is incredibly healing to hear. God is so good ❤️

  • @TishaFr
    @TishaFr Před 2 lety +2

    So happy that you made a video on this, especially in how today’s culture looks on this topic. Your videos have been awesome we’ve been keeping up with you masses and videos!

  • @ruthortega5822
    @ruthortega5822 Před 4 měsíci

    This is absolutely incredible, Father Mike, and also so beautiful to know and hear. All these years of my life, I have not heard it explained like this. Truly an eye opener. Thank you for being you!

  • @rolex408
    @rolex408 Před rokem +10

    This is beautiful. I civil married my wife 5 years ago and for x reasons we haven’t been able to do the sacrament. We had babies and it’s difficult to plan a wedding. But anyway, what I wanted to say is that I always felt like having sex with my wife meant something special and wasn’t just sex. It was love and just having her and being with her in an intimate way meant more than the act of sex. I could never put it in words but now I understand that I really feel like I am renewing my vows everything I’m with her.
    Thank you Fr. Mike. God bless us all.

  • @amymargaretabigail
    @amymargaretabigail Před 2 lety +4

    Father Mike, you are a continual source of wonderful information and hope for this adult convert to the Catholic faith.

  • @ribbit1964
    @ribbit1964 Před 2 měsíci

    Another home run Fr Mike! Thanks!
    God continue to bless you, your Priesthood and your ministry!

  • @MsBodsey
    @MsBodsey Před 2 lety +2

    Incredibly well proclaimed! Thank you, Fr. Mike!!

  • @BobJP77
    @BobJP77 Před 2 lety +3

    Thank you Fr. Mike. Your podcasts have helped me draw closer to God and Jesus as well as understanding my faith better.

  • @Dwchidwchi
    @Dwchidwchi Před 2 měsíci +3

    I am jewish, but this video confirmed to me an important intuition about sex which I've always had, without realizing it fully. Thank you.

  • @victorallen9831
    @victorallen9831 Před 2 lety +2

    Thank you, Fr. Mike!!! Everyone needs to know this.

  • @janefrancesmiriambianeyin5364

    Thanks, Fr. Mike. This is just so great! I have been married for years (17) and never knew this. Thank you, may God Almighty continue to bless you and the rest of the Ascension team.

  • @andygoodbred6516
    @andygoodbred6516 Před 2 lety +3

    Wow. Thank you, Father Mike. You introduce some awesome reframing of concepts that rejuvenates the mind and soul.

  • @stephaniedeniese232
    @stephaniedeniese232 Před 2 lety +12

    I really wish they taught us this in school!! Would make such a difference!

  • @joeferris6782
    @joeferris6782 Před 2 lety +2

    I am Anglican and love this Friar. Such a great teacher.

  • @apraworks
    @apraworks Před 2 lety +2

    God bless you Fr Mike. You are the best Catholic teacher that I have!

  • @melissamcadams9145
    @melissamcadams9145 Před 2 lety +5

    Wish more spoke about this, it may would change some marriages... I have been married since 1995, and I see the moment as a way to continue your unity and love. Thank you for sharing this!! Great job!!!

  • @cj7girl280
    @cj7girl280 Před 2 lety +28

    Father Mike please pray that I will soon meet and Marry a faithful practicing traditional Catholic man and then God will bless us with our own healthy children who grow up to love serve and worship the Lord!
    Thanks for the video.. God bless you!

    • @jm6495
      @jm6495 Před 2 lety +2

      God bless you 🙏

  • @nafinongkynrih8270
    @nafinongkynrih8270 Před 2 lety +2

    Fr Mike you always make things clearer 🙏💗

  • @avamichelle4384
    @avamichelle4384 Před rokem

    Father Mike you an absolutely absolutely amazing priest. Thank you for all you do. You are so gifted and explain everything so well. I feel blessed and grateful to have found your channel.

  • @kittana911
    @kittana911 Před 2 lety +3

    Thank you for existing, creating this CZcams channel and translating the Lord’s teachings into understandable real world practice.

  • @GenericAssUsername
    @GenericAssUsername Před 2 lety +14

    Sex has only become a taboo topic because the secular description of the act has been stripped of beauty and promoted in ungracious contexts. There's nothing gross about glorifying God. This is a wonderful video.

  • @beemel5734
    @beemel5734 Před rokem

    I really appreciate how Fr. Mike isn't awkward or bashful when discussing delicate issues like this. Just very honest and to the point, without beating around the bush nor being crude. You don't have to decipher what exactly he's talking about, but you're not scandalized either.

  • @seastar3909
    @seastar3909 Před 5 měsíci

    Grateful to Father Mike for all of your messages and teachings ❤❤❤

  • @nicolebautista9614
    @nicolebautista9614 Před 2 lety +56

    I loved the video, thank you very much for giving this kind of information that changes lives. About a year ago I discovered the Theology of the Body thanks to Father Mike; and since then I started to study it and share it with my acquaintances. It is very important that the church talks more about these topics, so that people understand this kind of teachings and see them more as a gift; and definitely, if Father Mike writes a book about this, I would buy it from the first day; he explains the topics in such a simple but at the same time so understandable way. God bless you,
    From Mexico

  • @danboy4568
    @danboy4568 Před 2 lety +8

    Hi Fr, love your sessions. Just a quick answer to why nobody knows this about the teachings of the Church is because the teachers at schools don’t know themselves. I went to Catholic school for 13 years as did my wife and we have learnt more through people like yourself and many many others then what we learnt at school and now my kids are going so we are hoping to teach them and not rely on schools. Thanks so much for the time you take to post and explain, GOD BLESS YOU 🙏

  • @josainnecamilleri3894
    @josainnecamilleri3894 Před 2 lety +1

    Fr Mike, I've been married for 32 years and never heard these words before. Thank you

  • @o0iamandrea0o
    @o0iamandrea0o Před 2 měsíci

    This is the first time I've ever heard what feels like an honest and plain explanation on this topic.

  • @jenniferzinai4783
    @jenniferzinai4783 Před 2 lety +23

    This will be the first video I will show my non-Catholic boyfriend before discussing marriage ❤️

    • @ElizabethDMadison
      @ElizabethDMadison Před 2 lety +17

      Please marry a Catholic, you can be the "domestic Church" in a much fuller way and can both bear witness to the same Faith to your children which is far more effective for handing on the Faith.

    • @livingweaponnightmare
      @livingweaponnightmare Před měsícem

      Dont marry a non-Catholic, please. You need a Catholic man who can lead you.

  • @kelechukwuanozyk7605
    @kelechukwuanozyk7605 Před 2 lety +8

    Many years ago in Nigeria, I was taught that a sacrament is an outward sign of inward grace ordained by Jesus Christ by which we receive grace into our souls. It is similar to Father Mike initially statement

  • @njejlester1603
    @njejlester1603 Před 2 lety +1

    Wonderful! This is absolutely the right information and I’m going to find a way to share this with my children. Thank you Father Mike.

  • @gailaconlon3007
    @gailaconlon3007 Před 2 lety

    Thanking GOD that your main work is where young people are. SPECIAL BLESSING! 🎁❤️🙏

  • @laurism12
    @laurism12 Před 2 lety +3

    best thing I've heard all year, great video

  • @Eye_of_a_Texan
    @Eye_of_a_Texan Před 2 lety +19

    1:10 As converting former United Methodist, from memory:
    A sacrament is an outward sign of inward grace which was instituted by Christ.

    • @Eye_of_a_Texan
      @Eye_of_a_Texan Před 2 lety

      1:26 yay! My priest made it a point to drive that home too. Bless his heart.

  • @mimilion6072
    @mimilion6072 Před rokem +1

    WoW!! Wonderful!! This must be taught in Catholic schools Exactly like this !!! Thank you

  • @odinakajulian7474
    @odinakajulian7474 Před 10 měsíci +1

    Thank you Fr Mike. Remain blessed for wonderful lecture

  • @vuhoang7109
    @vuhoang7109 Před 2 lety +67

    Thanks so much for this invaluable info you've shared, Fr. Mike! I wished this was being shared publicly in schools when we were young. This is actually more intuitive, friendlier version than the one public schools teaches kids about sex. This is how it should be taught from the get-go as a solid foundation for the youth to avoid them from sinning into their adults lives. I'll definitely share this clip to more people out there. God bless. 🙏

    • @mariemunzar6474
      @mariemunzar6474 Před 2 lety +6

      Yeah, just over 10 years ago I was learning sex ed at a public school. The whole focus seemed to be, "have sex, but be aware you are putting yourself at risk" and the class was advocating for things like birth control and condoms, etc. It was basically like a scare tactic. Rather than like a class telling you what sex actually is or what sex is actually for.

    • @vuhoang7109
      @vuhoang7109 Před 2 lety +1

      @@mariemunzar6474 yes, little that I know til now that majority of public schools, if not, all, are being manipulated by the Dems regimen, unfortunately. Hurting the mass of population out there with the sinful guidance. May God bless us and have Mercy on us all...

  • @nancysandoval772
    @nancysandoval772 Před 2 lety +69

    Father, thank you for this because nowadays our culture endorses sex out of marriage....so many people have lots of sex partners never asking themselves the reason for their sexuality.

    • @terrymunoztrujillo483
      @terrymunoztrujillo483 Před 2 lety +1

      it's human nature, not culture. Sex can be for pleasure only.

    • @cyruslever586
      @cyruslever586 Před 2 lety +3

      Because nature.

    • @carlswindelliv2701
      @carlswindelliv2701 Před 2 lety

      @@terrymunoztrujillo483 yeah well it's more than just human nature!!!!!!!! More like human nature that wants to be rebellious towards the holy spirit!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    • @carlswindelliv2701
      @carlswindelliv2701 Před 2 lety +3

      @@terrymunoztrujillo483 that's also incorrect that sex is for pleasure only just so u Kno in the catechism of the Catholic church they condemn masturbation

    • @TheNoisePolluter
      @TheNoisePolluter Před rokem

      @@terrymunoztrujillo483 Wrong. Father Mike's lecture just went way over your head.

  • @balancingfromtheyin-sideou9180

    I've been married for 17 yrs , but we've only married in the church for the last 3 of those years - our anniversary is coming up this weekend - this is so enlightening

  • @martinruwniyol3615
    @martinruwniyol3615 Před rokem +1

    Thank you very much Fr. Mike, I have learned a lot from you through this video clip.

  • @kathleenmcgrealmitchell4386

    Fr. Mike, you are such a gift to Christ and his Church. Thank you!

  • @katekhan4581
    @katekhan4581 Před 2 lety +3

    I love your enthusiasm, and your love for God is obvious.

  • @mannymartinez4017
    @mannymartinez4017 Před 2 lety +1

    Mind blowing.. But sensical. However hardly explained this way! Thanks Fr Mike!

  • @leyblinders3354
    @leyblinders3354 Před 2 lety +1

    GRACIAS FR. MIKE!! MARAVILLOSO CÓMO DIOS NOS ILUMINA A TRAVÉS DE UD 👏🏻💕

  • @ceciliacasares9937
    @ceciliacasares9937 Před 2 lety +3

    amazing! why aren't we teaching this to our kids? I know now that when me and my husband have a kid I am going to tell him or her this. thank you so much father Mike. God bless you

  • @Zodapopzzx
    @Zodapopzzx Před 3 měsíci +3

    Hey my name is Rebecca and I need prayer for healing for me and my family.

  • @donnakliegl6775
    @donnakliegl6775 Před 2 lety +2

    It was difficult at times when I was single to be true to my beliefs but I had a wonderful sister and parents who were my support as well as my faith.
    I am so grateful I stayed true to God and did not give in to temptation.
    I'm married 43 years and so blessed and thankful I can look back and have no regrets.
    I saved myself for God and my husband.
    I will keep you in my prayers.
    Pray to the Blessed Mother for she will hear your prayers.
    God bless you

  • @ashleymarie1067
    @ashleymarie1067 Před 2 lety +1

    Please write a book on this!!! You are incredible Fr. Mike!

  • @lizzystitch4842
    @lizzystitch4842 Před 2 lety +3

    Married 41 years, I needed to hear this! Thank you, Father Mike!

  • @meetutony9354
    @meetutony9354 Před 2 lety +3

    Incredible wisdom cracked so incredibly by Fr.!! I hope every youth and every married couple be able to grasp this wisdom! Have Mercy on us, Lord🙏

  • @JeffRazi
    @JeffRazi Před 2 lety

    Awesome man. Loved this. Thank you so much for busting up secrets. Keep teaching friend.

  • @barbaramcstravick3835
    @barbaramcstravick3835 Před 2 lety +2

    This is beautiful! What a healthy informative talk.

  • @paolafrancesca7082
    @paolafrancesca7082 Před 3 měsíci +1

    Thank you so much for this! It's beautiful to hear this explanation and makes me very excited for the future and take care of me and my future spouse 🙏🏻 during the path to this gift of grace that God provides for us🩷

  • @tarablytarafied936
    @tarablytarafied936 Před 2 lety +4

    Loved it being explained this way!

  • @taeharte7501
    @taeharte7501 Před 2 lety +12

    So true!!! We are married for 23 years now and still it's always a grace to appreciate each other so deeply!

  • @702flower
    @702flower Před 2 lety +2

    Yes. Amen.🙏
    The Sacraments make us holy & keep us holy.

  • @josephayala1511
    @josephayala1511 Před 11 měsíci

    The explanation of the sacrament of marriage is absolutely beautiful

    • @FrankD23
      @FrankD23 Před 9 měsíci

      This is very wrong.. He said nothing about procreation which is the main goal of sex if not the only one.. This might be one of the most Dangerous Sermons i've ever heard.

  • @catherinebaker6638
    @catherinebaker6638 Před 2 lety +3

    Great! Wish there were a Pre- Pre-Cana for couples contemplating marriage. I've seen so many couples go overboard with weekend bachelorette parties, numerous showers, lavish receptions... only to end up divorced a few years later. I attended a lecture on the sacraments at the International Institute of Culture, a true gem in Philly. Matrimony & Holy Orders were paired. Basically, those two sacraments are for the other. A priest is to help his parishioners get to heaven just spouses are to do. If I had had known that prior to getting married, I wouldn't be divorced now.

  • @juanamunoz3238
    @juanamunoz3238 Před 2 lety +5

    Thank you father Mike. If I only knew. God is perfect in everything. He created beautiful things for us to love Him and Serve Him. Awesome!!. Thank Lord for all your Grace and Love.😇🙏🙏🙏

  • @raymondhawk7320
    @raymondhawk7320 Před 2 měsíci

    Thank you, Ascension Press, and, Thank you, Fr. Mike!

  • @shauntaylor1168
    @shauntaylor1168 Před 9 měsíci +1

    I appreciate it more now. Thank you Fr. Mike

  • @ShaeZamm
    @ShaeZamm Před 2 lety +11

    I'm not married, but agree with this. Lovemaking is such a spiritual act.

    • @sitka49
      @sitka49 Před 2 lety +3

      It's fun too !

    • @dominickbundy6429
      @dominickbundy6429 Před 2 lety +1

      Right , lovemaking is love making, but would that only be reserved for married couples? What about same sex couples. Should they not seek lovemaking with someone they love of the same gender? Just asking that’s all

    • @ShaeZamm
      @ShaeZamm Před 2 lety +2

      @@dominickbundy6429 From my perspective, yes that definitely includes same sex; divine masculine and divine feminine.

  • @nicholasmargagliano1833
    @nicholasmargagliano1833 Před 2 lety +12

    “How to get holy through good sex” 🤣🤣
    On a serious note, this was a very applicable and excellent video. Thank you father and thank you ascension presents

  • @gailaconlon3007
    @gailaconlon3007 Před 2 lety

    Oh Dear Father Mike, THANK YOU…again. I am the oldest of 8 and raised Catholic Married in ST. Thomas Aquinas and NEVER heard this. 🎁🎁👍👏🏻👏🏻🌟🕊🙏💝

  • @atty.khristiancalabia1129
    @atty.khristiancalabia1129 Před 5 měsíci

    Thank you Fr. Mike! This is very enlightening!

  • @makeh7579
    @makeh7579 Před 2 lety +3

    This is so powerful!

  • @youtubecharlie1
    @youtubecharlie1 Před 2 lety +14

    Everyone, married or not, should read Three to Get Married by Venerable Fulton Sheen.

  • @Bella_Love_123
    @Bella_Love_123 Před 6 měsíci

    I love this ❤ Thank you, Fr. Mike!

  • @Maya-yp2ey
    @Maya-yp2ey Před 2 lety +2

    Now I finally get it. Thank you Father Mike 🙏🏼❤️