How to overcome Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN) from the very root up
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- čas přidán 1. 07. 2024
- Welcome to this video. I’m Tom Nuyens from the Alive academy.com . I experienced my childhood in a sometimes unsafe and abusive environment, where there was no place for my emotions.
CEN or childhood Emotional Neglect means that our parent or parents weren’t there for us emotionally. It may not be intentionally, but sometimes our parents have unresolved issues, which leave not much room for the emotions of children.
Childhood emotions neglect can also mean that our parents make few to no
demands of their children and they are often indifferent, dismissive, or even completely neglectful.When there is not much room, if any for our emotions as a child, we most likely might start to believe that our emotions aren’t worth existing...
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i want to recognize the emotional neglection in me, but something inside me tells me "oh it wasnt that much of a thing" but then i look at me and how i feel most of the time and im like yeah... im suffering it was a thing. I feel like im gaslighting myself all the time.
I understand. Gaslighting ourselves is also a way to distract ourselves from unsolved pain. The good news is there is a way to flush out our unsolved issues without having to re-live it. I suggest you to check out my 4 related videos @ www.alive-academy.com Enjoy your complete liberation process! 😊❤️💎🙏🍀
Healing myself is impossible. Fear of failure in doing this will not let me move forward as it will end up reinforcing my own belief in being 'not worth the bother'. I watch so many of these types of videos here on yt but I am emotionally frozen and unable to move forward. I wish I could. I want my life to be worthwhile and enjoyable but I also know that I will fail at this and feel more empty than I currently do. I am happy for those those in the comment section who have recovered from CEN and I wish you all the best x
You will only fail if you never try. It doesn’t happen over night, it takes time to heal, but if you keep at it you will look back one day and see the progress you’ve made. Never give up.
Small steps, you already acknowledge you have that fear. That was a step. Just keep chipping away at it.
Please keep talking, please keep going! We are here to help light the path as you walk, however indirect to your daily life we may be. xoxo
I feel you. I also feel like the only thing I can do is just put one foot in front of the other. Eventually I'm able to look back and see how far I've come. And then I encounter the next thing to heal and it feels impossible all over again. Sending love and light your way!
@@AudsLecker I feel cheated by life. It's not like I signed up to be here in the first place. I wish you and others weren't going through this also. It affords me no comfort in knowing that there are others in turmoil too. Thank you your kind thoughts and I wish you all the same x
Too many will let a bad childhood keep them from success. Something I told my own subscribers this week. As I see this daily as a healthcare provider. People who are destroyed adults because they couldn't outrun a terrible childhood. Too many times this becomes the excuse to give up. The reason someone won't try. "Because this (fill in the blank) happened to me." Now understand I am not discounting terrible childhoods. I had one as well. What I am saying is that the world doesn't care. It is totally indifferent. It may owe you but good luck trying to collect. The only way to collect your due is to go out and seek it, pursue it and take it back from the universe. The stories of great triumph are rarely without great adversity--ever notice that? Most will lie down to bad circumstances. But those who get up and fight back will insure that their story is a great one. Hope this helps someone out there---keep being great---Charles.
0:45 No demands can be even worse than overly high demands. I started to realize something wasn't quite right when I was told in my late 20s that my life was easy because I never had to work and always got everything I want (which isn't true) and was unemployed and just got out of a group home. Previously, I thought my "mental problems" had nothing to do with my upbringing, but now I think it does have to do with it, at least in part. Now in my 50s, I feel I missed out on so much.
Bro your video was the most clear reflection of my own life I have ever had and It helped me greatly to recognize the problem I was facing.
Thankyou soo much♥️♥️
Im 33. Finally awakened and healing. She STILL neglects my emotions and as of lately is when it really hit me emotionally and made me accept and focus on grieving, healing and letting go.
And letting go means creating concrete boundaries. If this again - then THIS
@@jdt8983 Thank you! I’ve never been good with creating them but I’m trying to implement them in my life more
@@jenniferleigh1674 I would recommend you really dig into exactly what the exclamation point of your abuse has been. Was it passive aggressive? Then - only be around fun, blunt people. Was it a lack of physical affection? Get massages weekly or learn self massage. Was it physical abuse? Take MMA and spar. Everyone has a different set of demons and you need to adapt and punk yours appropriately
I'm in grieving at age 32 after realising that I'm alone
Perfect! You did an amazing job explaining these life-changing concepts! Thank you for sharing your transformational gifts and spirit.
Finally......After trawling videos, the best description for CEN outside of the 12 step framework. I feel validated. Thank-you
What you say resonates in my core, how you say it is completely void of ego, and there are no villains. For me, those three markers are how I find truth. Thank you for your work.
Your videos are amazing, so sharp and to the point. Thank you so much for sharing such valuable information!
WOW!! This info is spot on! I appreciate you putting your wisdom out for others to learn from. THANKS Tom. Bless you. xox
I wish there were more than one like button. This animation helped me understand ,finally, one of the key points on my healing journey. Thank you so much for helping to understand and resolve ❤️
Create in me a clean O God, and renew a right spirit in me...Psalm 51
Thank you. what an amazing illustration and so easy to follow. 🙏
That's an amazing video. Very good format for easily understanding quite complex mechanics.
wow. amazing. thank you for explaining so clearly
This was Beautiful. Thank you for sharing.
Bro I love you , you are the inspiration and example that you are actually born for
Thank you! 🙏
Oh my god. This video is like nothing I’ve seen. Wow. Thank you for this, gave me hope.
i am so grateful for you that you put this video out here💗 it has been immensely helpful. Thank you.
I am glad it served you this way!
Wow that was great! Thank you very much 🙏🏼
If parents even tried to ask us as kids, are you okay, and tried to investigate our emotions and feelings. .. we'd be world's better. my parents ignored me completely, kept me fed and clothed only. I wasn't heard, validated or recognized. I had no sibs. my dad never had anything to say and my ma was career only. my dad was a periodic binge drinker. my moms focus was his sobriety or the lack of it. I was a very lonely child forced into 50s catholic school brutality and more abuse. I became an argumentative kid who was beaten for talking back. I was considered incorrigible by nuns.
There was no examing introspective behavior in the unsolved pain at home.
I still carry the elements of the unsolved past.
Thank You. This is profound info.
This was a very clear explanation of whats going on inside... lately felt trapped inside this encasement of a complete stranger. I caught myself with this miserable twisted look on my face today & It was accompanied by 'a petulent confused little girl' feeling,
I was shocked to notice it.
Thankyou for the signposts.
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Awesome! Thanks for sharing this information. It was extremely helpful for me.
Love this so much thank you so much 😪
I agree the clean slate is there underneath. I felt it yesterday.
This is fantastic! Thank you so much. Brings me clarity in a way I had not considered. I've been distracting myself! My CEN would also explain the boredom I've felt/endured, thru much of my life.
God has been utterly faithful, in His healing of my damaged heart and soul, and the latest is, I've begun experiencing emotions from childhood that were repressed: the little girls' insecurity of appearance (weakness, which was never shown or acknowledged in any way in the 'family') and today, I'm thinking that my recent thoughts about possible vocations are actually adolescent fantasies. I cannot recall having any! Have been numb for years. It could be those long-repressed fantasies are now 'coming out'! Wow - what an amazing journey! I am trusting Father God for His best - complete healing - and thank you so very much for this video of your input - terrific! another link in the (ongoing releasing of the) chain!!!
This was so unbelievably helpful. Thank you 🙏🙏💕
I'm glad it served you this way
Really, very helpful. Amazing job!!
Excellent. Informative at a pace I enjoyed listening to.
Beautiful share thank you,
Thank you for details and support
Thank you!
A good start and foundation.😊
Beautiful! As a counsellor, this is perfect. I will refer people to it as appropriate.
Thank you! 🙏
Excited to start this thank you brother ❤
Enjoy!
this is everything gabor mate has been saying!! i need to stop repressing
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First 2 minutes is so accurate i didn't even think if i told someone this would believe me
I know it's true now and i hope found the path by the end of this video
Finally making the effort so seek help and begin to heal so I can start enjoying life
Thank you so much for clearly explaining why I feel just so useless as an adult!!!
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This is an amazing video that resonates more with me than any others I’ve seen. How can I get in contact?
Thank you 💜
Good video right on the spot but i didnt get to see the videos you mentioned at the end ... where can i find them ?
This was so good for me
Thank You For Sharing ❤
Thank you! 🙏
You got me!
In other words (in certain people) Depersonalization Disorder. Thanks for the video!!
I always avoid action discharge mode of functioning and use inner child work and insight.
This is how I pushed my baby father away
Awesome contact bro thanks
I mean you've explained what CEN is and what it does - but offered pretty much no advice on overcoming it tbh
The advice is to get in touch with your feelings, which I know is easier said than done.
If you have addictions that are blocking your feelings you need to seek help for that first. And as a former alcoholic that shit is hard… after that, you have to just “figure out” how you feel feelings.
Does this help?
Thank you
thank you
He is simply matured, see how he sees it from a place of almost feeling bad saying it even though it is true. He has been able to turn it not only into his benefit but the benefit of his parents who themselves were simply suppressed and did not hate the children. But you won’t be able to feel this compassionate insight until you actually get past your garbage and reconnect with your compassion.
I feel like I just cannot go there! I am afraid to open the flood gates because those emotions are scary and I cannot control them
Great description but do you have more information on how to go in right direction?
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I think all of us that live with this illness want a cure,because we usually have some kind of addiction which we are ashamed of ,but does give relief,i am 65 and still struggle with,i think a big thing is learning to love,for me anyway ,because we did'nt receive love its the one thing we don't feel,i hope that makes sense ,but learning to love i think is a big thing,because if you don't love you are a abuser,you don't care about anyone or anything.A job i do is next to a drug house and you see the people coming for there fix,i was thinking i am no better than them.
u saved my life
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Thanks a looooooooooot❤❤❤❤❤❤
Your are welcome! 🙏
You will find the bad guy in the last place you would ever think of looking.
I grew up in a children home where I now realise that I was seriously neglected in this area I really need help I am now nearly 59 is it possible to get help at my age
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The emotional neglect by them continue throughout life
I have recovered , everyone says I'm innocent guy despite being over 20 yrs old
I dont understand this video explains why this happens BUT how do i fix it????
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He has reached the pleasure supreme of the original Life Kernel buried underneath a thick wall. I have not 😂
Hello I need help and heal. I am working to heal. I need help.
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8:00 Good list of covert victim behaviors
I'm soo ready to listen to him but he's too attractive
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I can't forgive my absent siblings.
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46 and still struggling
All I do is please my coworkers and friends then get disrespected
@@timcalandrino743 I’m with you 100%. I get a lot of “a friend in need is a friend indeed.”
I hesitated to click on this video cause i saw a big, tough guy on the thumbnail but turns out youre very empathetic and not here to give me a lesson to stop being a sissy and toughen up.
Im tough enough as it is.
I guess i clicked on the video because thats what i wanted to hear because thats what im used to hearing and thats whatno tell myself, but im glad i got what i needed to hear instead :)