How To Heal Childhood Emotional Neglect
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- čas přidán 3. 07. 2024
- How to heal childhood emotional neglect CEN.
Childhood emotional neglect is most often experienced as a lack of care, concern or response to your feelings as a child. It is as though your parents didn’t notice you had feelings or they minimized them or shamed you for having them.
Therefore as an adult you ignore your emotional life which most often leads to health and relationship problems.
To help you avoid those consequences I will share 7 ways to heal from childhood emotional neglect.
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It has been my experience that the media, society, and our parents often teach us to avoid admitting, facing, or talking about any of our negative feelings and experiences.
This belief system cripples us. As a result, we are without the basic skills to navigate the simplest of life's ups and downs.
Even worse, it creates a separation from our authentic self because we learn the world will shame us for our slightest imperfection.
My life turned around when I realized that the answer is in the opposite.
I discovered that the solution to an authentic life lies in our ability to admit, accept, and love our perfect imperfections.
That can only happen when we heal the pain from the past that created the shame by becoming trauma informed.
Because when we make peace with even the darkest parts of ourselves, we are capable of loving ALL of ourselves. Therefore we are authentic.
Without it, we are stuck in purgatory. Instead, we are reliving the original pain and shame in our relationships, career, health, and hobbies.
Therefore, the secret to avoiding a life stuck in limbo is developing emotional mastery.
When we gain that knowledge, develop it into a skill that becomes a tool, we stop picking toxic relationships.
We don't settle for unsatisfying careers. We don't struggle with depression or health issues. We stop the self-sabotage!
In short, we develop a deep emotional calm, peace, personal love, trust, and respect for ourselves that we can now share with others.
If that is what you want, you are in the right place.
I am excited to be a part of YOUR journey in helping you to heal the pain from your past, love your perfect imperfections, and reclaim your authentic self by developing Emotional Mastery!
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When you stand up for yourself, too many times people will tell you that you're being too sensitive, too bitter, too negative. They will not respect your boundaries.
Validate, self care, do not assume get clarity, ask for help and care, learn to say no, express ur anger, learn to grieve
Thanks for this. My dad died when I was 4 and my mom became depressed. I did get a stepfather when I was 9 but all those years in between are completely blank in my memory. My folks fought, and mom became an alcoholic. I had 2 marriages, both to men who never actively listened, and both cheated on me. I did not find out about the most recent affair until after my second husband died last April. Your vids are helping me deal with the conflicted feeling i have now, shame, regret, grief, anger, trust issues, etc.
Wow all of that is so devastating and so much to process. I’m glad they’re helping you work through all of that pain and confusion
Thanks for this video! I had an argument yesterday with a family member, which I thought I was okay. But I woke up angry and sad today. I experienced abuse most of my life and wanted to give up on my life. This video made me feel better, making me believe I can gain control of my life.
I am sad to hear you had such a difficult day and morning. I am happy to hear you used your tools to empower yourself to live in and find the solution instead of allowing others' pain to keep you powerless and stuck in THEIR problem! Great job!
I was raised by my single-parent mother. May she rest in peace, she had no business bearing, raising, and caring for a baby/child. Six months before her passing she was diagnosed on the higher level of Intellectual Disability. In her innocence and ignorance, she grossly neglected me. At 7 mths old, the doctor told her I had "failure to thrive" and would most likely grow up with her same disability. She panicked and dropped me off at a home that cared for children with mental and physical disabilities. She abandoned me because I was broken. There was something wrong with me. She didn't want me because I would be too much for her to love, to care for. Within a month, I reacted and responded like a "normal" baby. It wasn't her fault, per se, but the wounding and damage was done. I was imprinted with the gift core wound - "Fear of Abandonment." Growing up without a father (I'd never met) reinforced the negative messages I was told early on. My abandonment wound is the bain of my existence...
I did this at work to say no and the boss told me you must say yes in a very horrible way since then I m always afraid of her and don’t tell me change job my job isn’t easy to change
I was raised that way and sadly I raised my son that way, he turned to self harm and drugs. I wish I would have realized so much sooner. But so thankful I know it now and we can bother heal.
I think most of us feel the exact same way. We sure wish we could’ve done better but I’m a big believer in self forgiveness and we can only do what we know. The secret is to own that we were perfectly imperfect and put a plan in place to grow and learn.
Learn to rage wow... breakthrough right there
Omg so true about assuming our partner is mad. I'm always asking my husband "what's wrong, why are you grumpy" he's like "im not" I overly read into everything he does because as a kid I had to read my mom's hot or cold personality daily to figure out how to navigate that day
Kenny thank you for the videos. I’m sad that you experienced all of that trauma. I’m glad that you have done the work. I’m learning a lot from you.
I appreciate that
Wow Kenny... Some of the things you've touched on in this video are like darts into the bullseye of the dartboard of my life. I'm in my early 60s (born and bred in New Zealand, but I'm British too and live in the UK now), and like many of us I experienced the parental culture of the time. Even major personal family events were NEVER talked about with the children. This was the age when parents just did not think about the feelings or impact of events on their kids. It's not their fault - they grew up in the WW2 years, and both my parents were separated from their parents for years during that time. And boy, do I have 'father issues'! which I didn't realise I had (re my choice of guys to have relationships with. Thank you so much for your honesty. I've been watching your videos practically every day, since your site 'randomly' turned up on my FB page. The grey cloud I've lived under for many decades, which was sometimes like a fog through which I had to negotiate my life (and which sucked the life and joy out of me), is lifting already, almost instantly. I feel so much freer thanks to you... but I still have a long way to go. Keep doing what you do, and in your passionate and personal way. You're a real shining star in this somewhat murky world. x
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in the end, before she died, she made excuses for why she neglected me as pointed out others as being the reason why She ever said she was sorry for anything. Now I am learning to make people tell me why they are saying whatever they are saying. WHY?
I would like to share what kind of child neglect I had.
As a baby born in a communist country, both parents had to work full-time six days a week. After giving birth a mother would have to return to work in less than two months. She left for work at 7:50 and ran during the lunch break, which was only half an hour, back home, where she found me sometimes crying my eyes out, sometimes sleeping exhausted in my little bed, after 4 hours of lying alone there. She gave me some milk to drink, changed my diaper and ran back to work.
Later at the age of 2, I was given to a weekly care place, where I was isolated and beaten up. So I never feel safe when somebody gets angry, I always feel like I have to do something about it, and feel a lot of guilt for me and for them..
I had to stop listening at 10:44. It made.me very emotional. Its like you were telling a small.chunk of.my story. Its not even 9am yet and im emotional. I'll pick this back up when ive had a god meal. Thank you. This video is going to be used to show my partner how I feel so he can understand. I might find he feels the same.....thanks again.
I think it’s wonderful that you’re loving yourself enough to take a break and to share this with your husband. My hope is that it creates a deeper understanding and connection between the two of you!
my Mother cancelled my WEDDING CAKE TO RUIN THE RECEPTION- how she laughed WITH GLEE when Icried!
The story of your mom ugh broke my heart hiw sad that must have been for you :( I have 5 kids, for the first 3 kids I was an alcoholic. Luckily I haven't drank a single alcoholic beverage in 6 yrs and have no desire to ever it makes me sick to this of the trauma I did to my kids them. But I had problems from my childhood that I didn't heal and numbing it was the answer. :(
Thank you for this video. I suffered emotional up to some extent neglect too, and my ex also abused me with actions and verbally for a few years, then he stopped it but I had lost all love and feelings for him.
You’re welcome and I’m sad to hear that you were hurt
Thank you🙏
This was so helpful
Wonderful. I’m happy to hear that it helped you🎉😁
Thank you so much for this video.
You are so welcome!
Become the parent that I didn’t have that was great yes hallelujah YAH thank you so much
Could you talk about how to heal self-doubt caused by emotional neglect? I got the message that my feelings were silly and stupid and made no sense bc, when I expressed them, my patents couldn"t understand or relate (bc of their own abuse). I guess this is called 'gas lighting' now. I resonate when you say your mantra was "what's the point". But I spent a good part of my adulthood, even, trying to experience that feeling that they understood me...trying to change them I guess, or hoping for a different response.
Thank you ❤❤❤😊
You're welcome 😊
My parents didn't want to deal with my negative feelings or anything when I was a kid the only way they wanted to shut my feelings down is to eat to stuff it down or to do something else and so that's what happened to me and then I developed eating disorder and iraqsia bolimia compulsive over eating the whole 9 yd and I'm still trying to deal with that today I'm trying not to be believed to call the gym and that's still an issue for me the day I'm 56 years old Now I'm going through a grieving process about my father dine it's been a 5 months since he died but anyway thank you so much for sharing
I wonder why we go through all this? We come into the world as innocent children, its not my fault my mom died when I was 5 years old, or that my father was working and was not emotionally available, or I had a step mother that was a narc. Now I cant date because I have this pattern dating, unemotional or narc people. I am doing my best, however its been very painful. Why do we go through this?
I was accused of being weak too and i felt i was
God bless
Can pls make a video on the want to get validated. Plsss
Anytime anyone indicates they are going to hit me, regardless of their gender, I confront them and follow through with reporting to HR or 911. As for verbal abuse or subtle passive aggressive verbal abuse, oh dear God that stuff is odorless, tasteless and invisible sometimes, but it sure does do a lot of damage.
Cant do that with narcissist husband
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