Red Flags: 8 Types of People to Avoid in Christian Dating and Marriage (Proverbs

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  • By studying Proverbs 26:12-28, Christians can discover 8 types of people to avoid in relationships like friendship, dating, and marriage.
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Komentáře • 345

  • @lovelybeauty700
    @lovelybeauty700 Před 6 lety +479

    1. A Legend or Wise in his own eyes. Believes he's always right.
    2. They have excuses for doing the right thing.
    3. Sluggers/lazy people
    4. Avoid people who think they are smarter than everyone else.
    5. Drama lovers - looking for problems.
    6. Cynical and sarcastic, passive-agressive.
    7. A Gossiper
    8. Smooth talker to deceive.

  • @brilurz
    @brilurz Před 5 lety +271

    This was really good-- looked at it as a self check rather than a spouse check

  • @anauxistential8486
    @anauxistential8486 Před 5 lety +101

    The Single people walking 🚶‍♀️ with GOD need to understand the singleness IS YOUR BLESSING before it’s too late!

    • @JustineMfulama
      @JustineMfulama Před 4 lety +8

      RIGHT! Singleness is a blessing because it gives you the time to invest in yourself!

  • @michelle625
    @michelle625 Před 6 lety +136

    I'm so glad I watched this, I'm looking at my own life so that I'm not one of the 8 types of people you have described. May God richly bless you

  • @pineappledonut5011
    @pineappledonut5011 Před 5 lety +25

    I used to be number one. Now I know I have faults, one of them being; I overthinking small things that may not even mean anything and its making me feel overwhelmed, anxious and stressed. Currently I have a lot going on with my life with the Navy, school, and work. May I get some prayers please? If you pray for me thank you. But don’t pray that I get an easier load. Pray that God can help me deal with this heavy load.

  • @cressyl2042
    @cressyl2042 Před 5 lety +67

    God bless you Mark. Your channel is God's tool to heal me from brokenness. For 3 long years I was in a relationship with a guy with these things you are talking about. It was a great mistake to enter his den but God is good enough to take me out of it.

    • @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
      @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger  Před 5 lety +8

      Amen, the Lord is faithful

    • @frankfromupstateny3796
      @frankfromupstateny3796 Před 5 lety +2

      Good comments Ms. Cressy. I'm a man who used to be "open sexually" with women...until I read the Bible 3-4 times over. It's hard work...it's worth finding a worthy Christian spouse inevitably.

    • @artcrafttweets5556
      @artcrafttweets5556 Před 5 lety +5

      You sound a lot like the number 8 of the Red Flags "smooth talker to deceive people" @@frankfromupstateny3796 . Many Narcissistic guys are lurking around, searching for a pretty, empathetic Christian woman as a new source of supply, I hope you're not one of them... As for being hard work not to sleep around, pray and fast and get your strength from the Lord. Don't be deceived into thinking that you can do it yourself, lean on the Holy Spirit instead.

    • @lalayatem3758
      @lalayatem3758 Před 4 lety

      thank God you are saved, God Bless truly

  • @claudiasaurez9784
    @claudiasaurez9784 Před 6 lety +48

    I wish I knew these truths when i was younger. But We must teach our children how to pick their friends and what types of people to avoid as friends and for a relationship.

  • @CoffinZ12
    @CoffinZ12 Před 6 lety +37

    I almost cried when you brought up sarcasm since I’m known for being a jokester but it’s heathy and super light heart so thankfully you cleared that up.

  • @merlinsvdd
    @merlinsvdd Před 5 lety +20

    We can avoid people who are too judgy towards us.

    • @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
      @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger  Před 5 lety +2

      True

    • @donnar.3110
      @donnar.3110 Před 4 lety

      @@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger what if im a sincere believer and im actually trying to learn to desire God and cut out sin in my life, but im about 4 out of 8 of these things myself??

    • @ErickMcNerney
      @ErickMcNerney Před 3 lety +1

      You need to choose your mate wisely. There's no rule that you have to be with everyone possible. We can avoid judging but also recognize that we shouldn't be with them.

  • @Flinabin
    @Flinabin Před 6 lety +36

    I wish I knew this 10 years ago😧...

  • @Super_BeastGirl
    @Super_BeastGirl Před 5 lety +5

    So glad I watched this! That verse in Proverbs about joking... I am gonna be tossing that around quite a bit now that I recognize it. I have too many people around me who like to "joke" and say they were not being serious when in reality they are being hurtful.

  • @ronaldrime5286
    @ronaldrime5286 Před 6 lety +34

    Mark Ballenger I've been the victim of all 8 of these, I'm sorry to say. I'm even related to people who are like these. Members of my own family have spread lies about me throughout the years and have been successful in getting people turned against me. They even set me up and had me arrested for a crime I didn't commit. Don't always believe everything people tell you about someone. Just use good judgement.

    • @isabelwong8239
      @isabelwong8239 Před 5 lety +4

      LifeBeginsWithChrist well said thank you and God bless you

    • @chelsieromero4874
      @chelsieromero4874 Před 5 lety +4

      @LifeBeginsWithChrist OMG so true and remember she probably didn't even love herself.

    • @chelsieromero4874
      @chelsieromero4874 Před 5 lety +2

      I am in the same situation

  • @ricomacias8811
    @ricomacias8811 Před 4 lety +1

    I'm not afraid to admit I'm most of these.. My gf and I broke up... I had to self-reflect... I needed help. So I prayed... and even though right now I'm learning to change myself. It's difficult.... jeez. I really needed this... Thank you God for this...
    Pray for me... I'm going for a year long missionary trip. Trying to reset my life. And hopefully be more aware of what I'm doing in order to Glorify God... Thank you Mark and God...

  • @tanyadixon7980
    @tanyadixon7980 Před 5 lety +69

    Passive-Agressive men. We shouldn't definitely not ever initiate a relationship with one. That type of man is avoidance addicted, mean at his core, and has no desire to ever be honest, only über-
    controlling, in an oh, so cruel and underhanded way. He is not prone to develop the important skill of handling disagreements in a kind, direct, and mature way. This is from personal experience.

  • @jesuslover3543
    @jesuslover3543 Před 4 lety +2

    My ex husband has all these negative traits. I pray for him and his family! 🙏🕊 #onetouchfromGod

  • @lovegoddess29
    @lovegoddess29 Před 5 lety +5

    I feel like I keep attracting all of these kinds of people! It's so annoying! I know that I am a good person although not perfect. Regardless I feel that I still deserve healthier people around me and in my life.

  • @commandercody7594
    @commandercody7594 Před 6 lety +7

    Wow man thank you so much you’ve really convicted me of my gossiping, arrogance and pride, double standards, unhealthy sarcasm, laziness, and a selfish take and not give at times perspective - your words on giving strength to your spouse not being needy (might of been another of your videos) was really helpful and convicting too. Thank you so much for your work!
    Would it be possible for future videos to have words on the screen for each point? e.g 1. ‘Do not date people with double standards’
    Cheers brother in Christ!! Love and prayers to you man!! ❤️

  • @beautifulbeginningslove7671

    Guarding my heart

  • @rosem.3533
    @rosem.3533 Před 6 lety +22

    This makes for a wonderful filter to determine "who is who" in ones life and decide if "Goodbye" is the right thing to say to those that meet this list. Thank you Mark!

  • @shaeshaes9588
    @shaeshaes9588 Před 4 lety +2

    Thank you for your biblical postings, they have been helping me get closer to Christ.

  • @Eurospec73
    @Eurospec73 Před 5 lety +1

    Wow this video really had a huge positive impact on me because there are so many toxic people out there and it's so important to avoid them because in the end they will drag you down! Who you hang around is who you become!

  • @caribaez5711
    @caribaez5711 Před 6 lety +3

    Life is so mysterious. Everything we think, we do, and we say have power to destroy or influence other people.

    • @Michel777
      @Michel777 Před 4 lety

      Yes. But with the help of the Holy Spirit we can develop a peaceful life in such a way that we do not give any offense to anybody. Humbleness is the very most important thing we need to get and maintain.

  • @brannondoolin8654
    @brannondoolin8654 Před 5 lety +5

    The 2nd Timothy verse literally freaking slapped me cuz I’ve started to change various things and Mature and that just describes what god has been putting on my heart

  • @myrnafigueroa1033
    @myrnafigueroa1033 Před 6 lety +18

    Thank you for opening my eyes with the words of the Lord. ✨🙏✨

  • @kindranadine9513
    @kindranadine9513 Před 5 lety +6

    Thank you very much Mark. I was seeing someone who had a lot of these qualities. I ended the relationship but wondered if I made the right decision. This confirms it for me.

  • @JustineMfulama
    @JustineMfulama Před 4 lety +1

    YES THOSE ARE THE PERFECT EXAMPLES. Love how you used Proverbs for that. Now I can study it myself 🙏

  • @detectiveshonburras1268
    @detectiveshonburras1268 Před 5 lety +5

    Hi, enjoy listening to all of the bible verses. I am constantly learning and growing daily. Thank you, TO GOD BE THE GLORY !

  • @sunitafisher4758
    @sunitafisher4758 Před 5 lety +28

    🌸 first one, 4, 6 & number 8 you described is narcissistic personality lol

    • @dillonnj45l.18
      @dillonnj45l.18 Před 5 lety +7

      Also many more even worse traits like no empathy, finding joy in hurting others

    • @donnahollywood8007
      @donnahollywood8007 Před 4 lety

      I'm a victim of this. My husband is one :(

  • @darlenelane392
    @darlenelane392 Před 5 lety +4

    GOOD ADVICE -THNKS^

  • @Clementine202
    @Clementine202 Před 5 lety +1

    This is incredible. I've been reading through the Proverbs every day this month and thinking about a lot of these things. I like how you condensed some of those ideas in this video and related them to relationships and friendships. Thanks Mark!

  • @nelodypond9282
    @nelodypond9282 Před 6 lety +1

    I've been watching these videos since the channel began and I'm so happy to see the growth! ❤ Praise God!!

  • @vjones1437
    @vjones1437 Před 4 lety +1

    Hard pill to swallow, but I am apart of this list. Thank you, Lord, for guiding me here.

  • @zahraofficialph
    @zahraofficialph Před 5 lety +3

    Timely!I needed to hear this!Praise God for the wisdom!🙏

  • @cr625
    @cr625 Před 5 lety +1

    TRUTH Straight up!!Thank You, Brother!♡

  • @sharongideon3726
    @sharongideon3726 Před 5 lety +2

    Brother you are amazing. God is speaking through you. Stay blessed.

  • @MariS1980
    @MariS1980 Před 6 lety +10

    God is definitely speaking and I appreciate the words of wisdom. Thank u.

  • @brooklynroyale7736
    @brooklynroyale7736 Před 5 lety +1

    THANK YOU KINDLY FOR SHARING! ❤❤❤

  • @lorettaagustin2970
    @lorettaagustin2970 Před 5 lety +3

    Love it! Pearl of wisdom. Thank you brother Mark. These are wise advise.🙏🏻😇

  • @meaganpayne6531
    @meaganpayne6531 Před 5 lety

    Right on time Mark! Thank you!

  • @christvesselofhonorroyalty185

    great word of wisdom. thanks for sharing, God bless you.

  • @brendajones9941
    @brendajones9941 Před 4 lety +1

    Amazing blessings to God’s ministry

  • @smc1774
    @smc1774 Před 6 lety +8

    Awesome advice. Everyone needs to watch this. Thank you so much for sharing.🍎🍎🍎🍎

  • @breewilson6711
    @breewilson6711 Před 6 lety +7

    Wow so much wisdom here... Thank you Jesus

  • @taliyahumitz9436
    @taliyahumitz9436 Před 6 lety +1

    Every believer needs to watch this and really think about themselves and the people we seem to gravitate too! Thank you so much, great video :D

  • @evonx7373
    @evonx7373 Před 6 lety +15

    Thank you for the words of wisdom from the Word of God.....😃

  • @migdaliamojica7123
    @migdaliamojica7123 Před 5 lety +1

    Thank you for the message. Its was very clear explained. God bless you📙📙📙

  • @gregputman9812
    @gregputman9812 Před 2 lety

    Thank you Mark! You and your ministry are a real blessing! God bless!

  • @anointed1302
    @anointed1302 Před 6 lety +18

    Lovvvvvvvveeeeee this, Pastor Mark!!!

  • @jennifersweety5465
    @jennifersweety5465 Před 6 lety +12

    Great video Mark.It was helpful.God bless you!

  • @karenberry7119
    @karenberry7119 Před 5 lety +4

    ♥️♥️
    Thank you for this for this came right on point
    Lord talking through you to me and Many others
    God bless you

  • @T12321
    @T12321 Před 5 lety +3

    Thank you for this video; I believe that my life / future has been blessed from watching this. God bless

  • @lalayatem3758
    @lalayatem3758 Před 4 lety +1

    God Bless you abundantly, great video, thank you

  • @chelsieromero4874
    @chelsieromero4874 Před 5 lety +1

    Loved it to the full extent Mark. I am definitely going to share this on Facebook to the Public.

  • @detectiveshonburras1268
    @detectiveshonburras1268 Před 5 lety +2

    You are so informative, thank you !

  • @spiritfilled2589
    @spiritfilled2589 Před 5 lety

    Awesome breakdown.
    Thank you kindly!

  • @gretagutensohn6728
    @gretagutensohn6728 Před 4 lety +1

    Love this, I've been watching you for a couple weeks and I love how you've gone through the scriptures in this one! Thanks

  • @Dr777cl
    @Dr777cl Před 5 lety +4

    Yes sir! Great video bud! Thank you

  • @trug1799
    @trug1799 Před 6 lety +3

    NAILED IT!! Awesome video thank you!!😊

  • @shiyevinaa
    @shiyevinaa Před 5 lety +1

    Thank you so much for this!

  • @tacksgmvs2070
    @tacksgmvs2070 Před 4 lety +1

    The third thing is a problem I see myself in. I mean I do do things, mainly when I’m asked to, and if I know how to or I can do it, but most of the time I am quite lazy. I know when I find the right one I can get out of this laziness. Right now, especially in the Winter, there’s not much to do.

  • @justmo4706
    @justmo4706 Před 5 lety +1

    Thank you for this video!!

  • @ToBeLikeChrist
    @ToBeLikeChrist Před 4 lety +2

    This topic is pretty interesting and largely good advice. I remember God telling me recently to look at others as how he looks at me. We must do our best to let the Spirit of God guide us and not our flesh and emotions. Who are you man or woman to cast someone away because they may not fit your predefined fleshly bill. God may well use someone who is seen as largely imperfect in many ways to address issues we have in our own personalities as well as using us to help to build someone else up. Not saying all circumstances are like this. Some are truly agents of Satan but we must stop making judgement of who is ideal by our eyes and ears but instead be led by the Spirit of God. The best teacher is the Christ in us! not our words.

  • @jacquelinewoods2587
    @jacquelinewoods2587 Před 6 lety +2

    Keep them coming!!!!! 😇😇😇

  • @applehair995
    @applehair995 Před 5 lety +2

    I really find your channel very helpful. Thank you for your great service.

  • @teddytestis6342
    @teddytestis6342 Před 3 lety

    Good talk God bless you brother

  • @idapreciousnwachukwu5779
    @idapreciousnwachukwu5779 Před 4 lety +1

    Thanks alot. You are God sent.

  • @mabuyimtshali6291
    @mabuyimtshali6291 Před 13 dny

    This is powerful Man of God thank you

  • @johannerodrigue9005
    @johannerodrigue9005 Před 4 lety +1

    Hi Sir, from Quebec 🇲🇶 🇨🇦 Canada...
    I really like your Conference and subject Also ... You speak with the real-world & problems
    And you refresh our minds of out past memories that we have forgot become a better person

  • @tanyastevens9553
    @tanyastevens9553 Před 6 lety +7

    This is by far one of the best videos I've heard.
    Great job, Mark!

  • @coragoss1498
    @coragoss1498 Před 5 lety +1

    Thank you!

  • @Aykndkjh13t
    @Aykndkjh13t Před 5 lety

    I really like your videos. Thank you for posting these. It really helps me with my grief.

  • @jammykc
    @jammykc Před 5 lety

    Hey Mark, I'm Sharlene. Thankyou so so very much for your videos, they give me clarity n healing n so much learning. Really Enjoy them just the way you teach and who u are. Thanku Bro.

  • @nanetteconcepcion2502
    @nanetteconcepcion2502 Před 2 lety +1

    Thnks for sharing it..Nice to know this godly ways of a healthy relationship..

  • @rosaranson5238
    @rosaranson5238 Před 6 lety +1

    Thank you for this because words are powerful.

  • @arielevelin7181
    @arielevelin7181 Před 5 lety +3

    I really love your videos Mark! I started watching the past month/two. Your fruit is evident. Blessings bro 🙏🏼💜

  • @1949chefjojo
    @1949chefjojo Před 5 lety +1

    Excellent!

  • @GemRizing
    @GemRizing Před 6 lety +4

    Thank you for the amazing insight on this topic, very helpful and much appreciated! :)

  • @brenme35
    @brenme35 Před 6 lety +5

    U are so right I wish I had a healthy relationships

  • @rosesarered4999
    @rosesarered4999 Před 5 lety +1

    Thank you. Rough day. So rough Im starting to question my spiritual beliefs. I just could of sworn I was making the right choice. I believe I've ever been more confused.

  • @rosaranson5238
    @rosaranson5238 Před 6 lety +1

    I wrote a poetry on how words are powerful and how you should be careful of how you used them to communicate to others. Words do hurt.

  • @bgntjohnson
    @bgntjohnson Před 5 lety

    Another excellent video.

  • @teddytestis6342
    @teddytestis6342 Před 3 lety

    I love you so much,because when I see young people speaking the truth I am exalted

  • @dee0731
    @dee0731 Před 7 měsíci

    Great information thank you

  • @shielasabaria5420
    @shielasabaria5420 Před 5 lety +2

    WOW just right on timeeeee 👌💯

  • @kbartistb908
    @kbartistb908 Před 6 lety +1

    Thank you!!

  • @TheyCallMeSUCCESS
    @TheyCallMeSUCCESS Před 6 lety +5

    Love all your videos! Keep up the great work!

  • @marisamarino7596
    @marisamarino7596 Před 6 měsíci

    Great video!

  • @joannalouisescarlet2457
    @joannalouisescarlet2457 Před 6 lety +1

    Great points, thanks for sharing, pastor Mark! :)

  • @ayafe9379
    @ayafe9379 Před 4 lety +1

    I appreciate this video.

  • @waheedashraf7549
    @waheedashraf7549 Před 6 lety +1

    Wonderful!

  • @comforthealingministries3531

    This video was sooo helpful I genuinely feel like I was lead to this message and I’m content 😌God bless

    • @JustineMfulama
      @JustineMfulama Před 4 lety

      YES, these videos always come right on time. The holy spirit has perfect timing!!!!

  • @jaderose6615
    @jaderose6615 Před 6 lety +1

    Man this really helped! It even exposed some flaws I had!! Thank god for making me find this video and I hope your ministry continues to touch others

  • @graciedg5723
    @graciedg5723 Před 4 lety

    I am glad I watched this video. I finally realised that he is not the one for me. Thank you very much. God bless 🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @avisswope6495
    @avisswope6495 Před 4 lety +1

    GREAT VIDEO MARK 5 STARS

  • @christinasaba6646
    @christinasaba6646 Před 4 lety

    That dating course thing I pray and believe God will help me find a way to get into it

  • @rickywilliams687
    @rickywilliams687 Před 4 lety

    Thank u bro god is good

  • @ARAMIDE8
    @ARAMIDE8 Před 6 lety +2

    Amazing! Thanks :)

  • @augustayarteh7524
    @augustayarteh7524 Před 5 lety +1

    Some of us don't look at most men to be perfect with us that so great when the grace of God is working .Those kind of men will be so jealous of their relationship. especially some men they always find faults on people or they will be finding too many faults from good women.I know good men do exists. great one man of God

  • @joycesexton2495
    @joycesexton2495 Před 4 lety

    God bless you

  • @Angie-AFB
    @Angie-AFB Před 5 lety

    Video suggestion, witnessing to immediate family or in family members in general. Also witnessing on social media