6 Traits of High Value Muslim Women
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A) Narrated Abu Huraira:
The Prophet (ﷺ peace and blessings be upon him) said, "A woman is married for four things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion. **So you should marry the religious woman** (otherwise) you will be a losers. - Bhukari 5090, Kitab Nika / Wedlock
B) Narrated Abu Huraira:
The Prophet (ﷺ peace & blessings be upon him) said, "Faith (Belief) consists of more than 60 branches (parts). And **Haya** ("Haya" covers a large number of concepts which are together; amongst are self respect, modesty etc.) is a part of faith." - Bukari 9, Kitab Iman/ Book of Faith
Abu Huraira reported Allah's Messenger (ﷺ peace & blessings be upon him) as saying:
Two are the types amongst the denizens of Hell, the one possessing whips like the tail of an ox and they flog people with their help. **The women who would be naked in spite of their being dressed,** who are seduced (to wrong paths) and seduce others with their hair high like humps. These women would not get into Paradise and they would not perceive the odour of Paradise, although its frag- rance can be perceived from such and such distance (from great distance).
(Economy takes advantage of women to get fake bodies)
C) Abu Udhaynah reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “The best of your **women are loving, fertile, suitable, and comforting, if they fear Allah. The worst of your women unveil their beauty, take pride in their appearance, and they are hypocrites.** None of them will enter Paradise except as rarely as you see a red-beaked crow.”
- al-Sunan al-Kubrá 12480, Sahih (authentic Al-Albani)
D) Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, **“If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and OBEYS her husband,** she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes.”
Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Ibn Ḥibbān 4252, Sahih Al-Albani
E) Narrated 'Abdullah bin 'Umar:
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ peace and blessings be upon him) as saying: Each of you is a shepherd and each of you is responsible for his flock. The amir (ruler) who is over the people is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock; a man is a shepherd in charge of the inhabitants of his household and he is responsible for his flock; **a woman is a shepherdess in charge of her husband's house and children and she is responsible for them;** and a man's slave is a shepherd in charge of his master's property and he is responsible for it. So each of you is a shepherd and each of you is responsible for his flock.
- Sunan Abi Dawud 2928 - Sahih Albani, Tribute, Spoils, and Rulership (Kitab Al-Kharaj, Wal-Fai' Wal-Imarah)
Salaam brother hope you are well. At one point in this video you said the prophet pbuh was NOT illiterate. When indeed he was for he couldn't read or write.
@@ilyaas2748 Timestamp ...
@@falsesectslikeshiaarejudeo6543 6:34
@@ilyaas2748 Thanks.
Women traits:
1. Deen
2. Modesty
3. Feminity
4. Nurture
5. Obedience
6. Loving
So you want be married to your momma
@@robertocarlos2743 no, I want to be happy and have a happy simple life :)
@@robertocarlos2743 Question : Was your momma like this? And if she was like this, did she make your dad happy or not? And if the answer to this is 'Yes' , than I ask you the last
question : Don't you want to be as happy as your dad was?
@@kikikoko607 beautifully said bang on common sense deh
@@kikikoko607 not only that you want your baby's mother (wife) like your mother!
LOL you are so right, the feminist woman will obey her boss but wont obey her husband. the irony is actually sad.
who knows what else this feminist women will do, to get a raise or promotion. A'oodhubillah.
but she will acquire her virtue from obeying her husband in almost every situation and not the employer in fact she should disobey them in not all but many cases. What we need is more knowledge and cooperation on that and to reject extremists.
@@ibnamanot Yikes. Especially with how women using their bodies as a commodity is "empowering" and "liberating" to them. Smh.
Of course she does .. men also obey their boss . It's not about genders . It's a work for money in return .
But she won't obey her husband bcs it's not her boss . It's her partner . They are making a family together . Yes it's the man's duty to provide a house and all what his family needs but it's not a favor , cuz his wife already has a house he didn't get her from streets. And she can Work for herself and gain money to live . Or she is rich already ..
Her man can't ask her to obey him bcs he is a man . No ,, we are obligated to obey Allah only both genders . So iiif her husband is a better muslim than her and she doesn't pray for example there he can ask to pray ,,for her sake .
But who said that always men and husbands are good muslims ?? What If the Wife is better muslim than her husband ?
@@ayoubmiracles3316 "Men are the caretakers of women, as men have been provisioned by Allah over women and tasked with supporting them financially. And righteous women are devoutly obedient and, when alone, protective of what Allah has entrusted them with..." (Quran 4:34)
men and women have clear roles that have been defined in Islam. The husband and wife relationship is not a "partnership" as you put it.
There is a clear hierarchy in the marriage relationship, saying otherwise and going against it is going against Allah Almighty and His Messenger, peace be upon him.
Take your feminist propoganda somewhere else. It is not welcome or needed in the Deen of Allah Almighty.
Men are the imams. Men lead the household. Men are in charge of their wives, yes wives. If he cant be just to all, then just have one. But nonetheless, polygyny is part of Islam and isnt something to be ashamed of. I digress.
You either speak from The Qur'an and Authentic Sunnah or not at all if you call yourself a Muslim.
Our opinion and conjecture is not needed nor wanted in the Deen of Allah. We bring evidence from Divine Revelation, not human conjecture or ideologies like feminism.
Educational. 🍿
@@abidrahim7607 oh bhai, clam down please. Such inappropriate comments are not permissible.
I am a Muslim revert. I was born and raised in the USA as a Christian.
I'm speaking from a lot of observation of the perception of obedience in men and women.
The word obedience raises the hair on women's neck because it is far to often associated with abuse and wrongful control sadly, even in the Muslim community.
I see culture being followed too often, not Islam.
Men and women are not following the dean, not learning what the Islamic definition of these terms, obedience and respect mean... too often these words are taken out of context and turned into an excuse to abuse women. A man is not lord, he is not Allah. Man did not make the guidance and rules yet too often women find themselves being humiliated by men who abuse the teachings of Islam.
There are always going to be exceptions because of personality differences and cultural influences, but I find that a woman who is genuinely loved, respected, and feels that she is put first in her husband's heart will fall into her roll naturally. She will want to please her husband because he gives to her first his respect and nurturing love.
A man cannot treat a woman any other way and expect her to not feel insecure. His abuse develops in her fear, then fear grows into mistrust, then into distance, resentment and anger.
A fearful woman who doesn't feel safe will many times become more masculine because that makes her feel empowered. It makes her feel strong and in controll of her life. If she cant get this need met in the Islamic way, the healthy way, she will take care of herself in an unnatural way because she learns that she can only trust herself...
This fear often starts for a woman who experienced a lack of loving, Islamic support from fathers and male family members as she grew up.
I was not loud or obnoxious but I lived in fear of men for many years and felt that I had to do everything myself and for myself.
Learning to trust is a very frightening thing to develop.
Remember that many feminists became who they are because of their experiences, especially in how they experienced childhood relationships with males throughout their lives.
Women hear people, even other women do this, calling a boy a sissy, or tell men don't cry, or you do such and such like a girl.
Women learn to associate femininity with weakness physically and emotionally, being less than, being told that being emotional or having deep feelings is being a girl. Having girl behavior is not acceptable.
I understand trying to masculine up boys and men. But women and boys alike hear that its not acceptable to be feminine. Why would girls want to be feminine if its all being reflected as a negative idea?
Women want to be seen as strong, smart, accomplished in her endevors but that doesn't mean she wants to be masculine, but she learns that behaving in a masculine way is safe.
She is not tought the beauty and strength of being feminine. Young girls learn that the bottom line of being feminine means being sexual. Being sexual fall on the being weaker spectrum...
This is our culture.
Its not just feminism, there are more and more men today who want the woman to work outside the home. They believe that it's only fair she be the breadwinner too...
There are so many unnatural rolls being played out. Men and women trying hard to accept these challenging ideas and make these lifestyles fit.
I know there are exceptions as I've stated.
But In talking to women in a safe environment, so many wish they felt safe enough to trust. Trust their husbands to be real men in the way Islam, the Quran, and hadith teaches.
Be knowledgeable on the deeper causes of feminism. She wasn't born this way.
The psychology driving this behavior is mighty deep and complex.
Again, It's just my observation.
Well written! Alhamdulillah.
It's mature of you to admit that you have feared men for a long time, instead of blaming men and avoiding responsibility.
Alhamdulillah you’re so right. Many men like to point the finger at women who behave incorrect but don‘t even bother to ask themselves why femininity is slowly getting lost in our society.
@@Sumayyak47 same other way around. Idk if you realize it, but you're doing the exact thing you're criticizing men for
@@ColonelFluffles I feel sad that you interpret my thoughts and experience as an attack on anyone. I pray that Allah will grant you peace and understanding, alhamdulillah my brother.
I'm a revert and even as a non Muslim, nothing turned me away more then hearing a woman super loud, cussing all the time. It's immediately you know she someone to avoid.
Lol hhhhh
@@munaibrahim4595 hhhh
😂
@@munaibrahim4595 What’s so funny? Cussing is literally haram, and it’s ugly and unattractive no matter the gender of the person doing it.
Ibn Rajab reported: ‘Ata’ ibn Abi Rabah, may Allah have mercy on him, said, “Verily, a man might speak a word in anger by which his good deeds of sixty or seventy years are destroyed.”
Source: Fath al-Bari li-Ibn Rajab 1/200
"Obedience Is Not Abuse: Curing The Spiritual Cancer Called Feminism"
A book coming to us soon please.
Is this a book coming out? 💯💯
Jazak Allahu Khayr!
Looking forward to it
MashaAllah what a title! Hahaha
🌹🌹💖
"Shout out to all the haters btw, May Allah guide you bless you" Well done akhi
🤣😂😆
Thank you for adressing these topics. Young women in the west are being fooled by feminism big time. Believing that pursuing a career is the only way to be of any value. I was this women and struggled a lot with my self esteem in my 20s when I became a mother. Alhamdoulilah I am a very happy housewife now in my 30s. Pursuing a career is a very good option for some women, but absolutely not for the majority. You have to understand most people dont have careers, they just have jobs. If Allah swt gave you a husband and kids, please dont go wasting this beautiful, beautiful ni3ma on some ordinary job. Feminism has made the exception the norm. Yes there are some women that have extrodinary skills who should develop proffesionally, for our community as well. But this is not the majority of women. I wish these topics were more spoken about when I was younger and trying to be a high value women. I completely missed the mark and had to learn the hard way.
@@umiix Lol
@@umiix I was gonna say that, but she probably meant like the opposite if what she was doing by saying 360
U can have a career like Khadija , the prophet's wife , still be a mother .
You can learn and Work in islam . In fact , Allah loves workers from both women and men .. what is clear in islam that women are not obligated to spend their money on their husbands or children ... And When they do that , Allah rewards her double reward more than men ..
In islam , women worked and without them nothing could be successfully achieved. . women taught men religion , women opened schools
Do you know that the first world islamic university was made by a woman (Fatima El Fehriya )
It's not a competition , you can be successful in your job , an idol of success for your children and daughters .. and a good mother ..
A man also must do his duty in educating his children and take care of them at home to he a real father . His family doesn't need only the money he gains no . To he a father is more than that
Asalamu aleykum everyone may beloved respected Brothers and dear beloved respected Sisters in Islam💐May Allah reward you our beloved & respected Ustadh Gabriel may Allah bless Ameen.
Women should be educated specially ln the field of teaching and medicine and ofcourse deen
@Do You Know of course...thats what i meant...no doubt about that
Definitely. If women fall ill, their husbands want them to be seen by a female doctor. But if women don't get the degree and work endless hours in their job, how do men expect their wives to been seen by these female doctors? Make it make sense!
Yes, natural beauty is best. I have been makeup free for so long, I actually feel more free and more beautiful without it. Plus it cuts down on prep time when leaving the house. Makeup is the equivalent of a lie because that is not how you really look. A man think that you look one way, but then you actually don’t. It may actually be disappointing for him. If a man must present his true self then so should a woman. What if a man put on a toupee, drew his eyebrows and beard on, then contoured his face to make his features appear sharper than they actually are, then piled foundation onto his face. Once he washed it off, the woman would be upset because he looks less than what she thought while he had the makeup on.
Good point, I agree with you, but it goes beyond that too. Think of the damage the makeup does to your skin. Living in the West, I've worked with women that wear makeup everyday. Then one day they don't wear makeup, for whatever reason, and they literally look like zombies because of the damage to their skin.
@@princessraj5921 Ah, you're christian. Should've started your comment with that.. Now I wasted my time reading that... May Allah swt guide u..
Saying the dua when you look in the mirror* really boosts your confidence too.
اللَّهُمَّ أَنْتَ حَسَّنْتَ خَلْقِي فَحَسِّنْ خُلُقِي
Allahumma antha hasantha khalqi fa hasintha khulqi
"O Allah, just as You have made my external features beautiful, make my character beautiful as well."
My friend has goreous skin but has told me she feels like she doesn't look right if she leaves the house without makeup. It's sad, and I just thank Allah that through my parents, He protected me from ever indulging in wearing makeup outside, even though my skin isn't the best. I still feel lovely with my real face. I honestly believe wearing it every time you go out does something to your psyche.
@@princessraj5921 Your religion makes a difference in how u view things. We are muslims. We don't care about what a random person called Meggie likes. We care about what our creator likes. That's the difference x)
@@princessraj5921 you're so lost subhanAllah.. May Allah swt guide u
100% Allahumma baarik
May Allah reward you immensely for this content... there's many Christians who are talking about high value women, and we Don't even have Muslim women talking about these topics.
Check Umm Khalid on Facebook. She is Daniel Haqitqatjou/The Muslim Skeptic's wife. You should check his channel and his site too because he talks a lot about these issues.
Becuz Muslim women r two, ones that r feminists and ones that r too embarrassed or scared to speak becuz they know they'll receive backlash
He isn’t a Muslim woman either
@@yousefshehata6330 no . Bcs their men don't allow them to speak hhhh most muslim men Arabic specially have some kind of a complexion , they hate that their wives go to work . Or to talk openly .
@@ayoubmiracles3316 sounds like some bs my friend, sounds like some serious bs, I live in the Arab world btw, u don't know what ur talking about
(Fertility)
You can't control it, it's gifted,
Similar to man who is born tall
If u r short or not tall you can back it up with bodyshape, experience, increasing income somthing you can change
(men value)
Same with women, back it up in (feminine values) like improve cooking or nurturing
I once saw a video of Sheikh Assim Al-Hakeem about this. He said if you want to gauge a woman's fertility, aside from her age you might check her family. If her mother has plenty of kids it most likely means that her daughter is very fertile.
@@dspd0140
Absolutly Right
(But not always)
If she is 25 and not fertile it's not her fault. Same for men. But if she is 36 and not fertile it is indeed her fault. She made strategic decisions for the life and postponed Children for the last in her life and then she says it's misogynistic to speak that out loud. She had 4 billion men on earth and wasn't able to find one. Impossible. Then you have to look at yourself. Men and Women are not the same. The same goes for men. If they are too old and sperm quality isn't good. They made bad decisions in life.
I agree with it all. Except that you may find sometimes the reason women are not obedient is because many men are not fulfilling their rights. Disobedience comes when a woman does not feel secure with the man's behaviour, his aqeedah, she does not trust him and has good reason. I just want to add that we then reserve our obedience to God only until he finds for us a path. It is not always a case of parties, work etc though that is true for some.
Then don't marry a stupid man who can't fulfill your rights, that's up to you to find a good man and vet him properly before marrying, marriage isn't a joke.
@@yasinfazley8313 Exactly. Many women like to put the responsibility on men. They marry a man who is clearly inadequate and than they like to complain about how the man is inadequate. Unbelievable...
A womens obedience to Allah is her being obedient to her husband as he is the one in authority and comes under the obligation of obeying those in authority. So a women cannot fear Allah and dis obey her husband it's an oxymoron.
@@abuyaqoob_ sometimes you marry and along the way people change their ideas, beliefs and behaviours and you find yourselves incompatible on points that are core. You find that to be obedient to Allah swt you are disobedient to your husband.
@@abuyaqoob_ should Pharoah's wife remained obedient to her husband?
Jazaka'Allah khairun for beneficial knowledge.
Jazakallah Khair ustath Gabriel for these beneficial videos, keep it up 😍
And where are men who value these things? All I've ever faced is being pushed into being loud, extroverted, talkative, asked about degrees and study and career.
In today's world a woman like you described is invisible. And the type of men who value this kind of woman are like one in a million.
Women are pushed into going out there, being loud, chatty and busy in career. Even their own husbands humiliate them if they stay home.
I wish so much men were real men.
There are plenty of men like this. They just won’t say they like these traits. Ask yourself and be honest, if a man said he wants an obedient wife, what kind of reaction do you think he'll get? He'll be shamed, cancelled, and targeted with hate. And a lot of this hate will come from Muslim women
Because if these men spoke out, we'd be called misogynistic, toxic, possessive and emotionally abusive, we would get cancelled about our preferences, yet women have all the preferences in the world. A lot men do agree with this video, they just don't speak up about it unfortunately, leading to disasters in marriage.
It is and will always be valued. Try your best.
@@umiix Male
@@umiix ? 🤨
It really is a shame sheikh Gabriel deserves to have 1 million subscribers keep going with helping men become men ❤️💯
Obedience to husband
Staying home and nurturing children
These two are really important and are included in femininity
@Sammy feminist rejecter
@Sammy hadith rejecters are not Muslim, not Muslim, not Muslim. yes I am giving takfeer to hadith rejecters.
@@lunarvlogs7319 it's better to stay home
And Hadith for what??
Divorced woman DOESN'T GET money from husband!
This is in Qur'an!
Read surah Talaq, page 2 beginning
There you have proof
Don't act too much
I speak with proofs
And even Gabriel Romani said same thing
@@aatif7518 no in islam Women are free to go out learn and Work . What matters is that she wears humble and cover her body .
Not always man is Qawam . Allah said:
Men are Qawamin = caretakers over women because of the advantage Allah has granted some of them over others, and by virtue of their spending out of their wealth.
It means women can be Qawamat over men too .. when Allah gives them the advantage over their men .. for example , Khadija , the wife of the prophet mohamed was the boss I mean it was her money that the prophet was working With . She Was the one taking care of him when Qurashis Were against him ..
If a man gets sick his wife will be Qawama over him in charge , some men are not good in charging anyway so God gave their Women more advantage over them .
The difference is , that men are obligated with spending their money for their Women , to provide a house , food , anything she and his children need .. but women are not obligated to spend their money for men or their children , it's not her job . She already gives you babies , a warm house .. she gives you more than you can give her .
In a divorce of course men are obligated to give money for the divorced Women . Cuz he ruined her life , he stopped wanting her for some reasons , and women are not toys , that's why u have to pay .. but when women make kholae which is divorce from her side , She gives up her right from the house and does not take any expense and gives you back your mahr ..
She can be even rich doesn't need your money ,but still it's your job to provide what your family needs , it's not a favor that you does to her .. she can eat , wear , sleep , without you .. it's just your job don't ask for anything back . Just give her love and she gives you support and more love and care and children having your name
@@ayoubmiracles3316 men provide for the women
She takes care of the house, serves him and their children
And no, women cannot be caretakers.
With regards to khadija, that happened before Islam was revealed
The husband was still the authority but this came later stages
Even hijab was not revealed during khadija, doesn't mean we don't wear hijab now
Because at the end Islam is completely revealed and that rules matter
Not before
So that argument isn't valid
Wallahi this brother said the truth, may allah bless us all with greater understanding
i have been strongly moved and called upon by allah although i have felt nervous for converting, after listening to this i feel so inspired and so proud of this faith im in tears. thank you so much for this.
I agree with u . Jazaka Allahu khayran
Brother gabriel nailed it 👏🏾🙏🏾🤲🏾
جزاكم الله خيرا
excellent points brother mashallah, as a sister I totally agree, I think another good point for high value woman is:
a confident character - or does that not matter to men? do men care if a woman is insecure about herself or not?
I especially agree with the last point about passion. You can clearly see if someone is not passionate and it's really a turn off
One of my favorite lecture Allahumma barik👌
Wow❤️.... I'm crying now😭, this is good news for me coz I am struggling now with these issues, but the worst part is our men are behind kardashians which repeatedly lead us women into fake Instagram tiktok beauty and the confidence level goes fly away 😩
May Allah guide us ameen
As salaamu alaykum sister. I can promise you that there are many many good brothers that I know personally that don't follow that fake garbage. Trust me, I check up on my bros and they check up on me too. I recommend you become better aquainted with your local masjid community and Insha'Allah you will have great men to choose from.
Most men don't like the makeup. Surprisingly, people don't know this. Capitalism is to blame for the perception in our female minds. We are bombarded when we're young.
TV and magazines, but more relevant to today social media, is affecting our self esteem. By the time we see our own natural beauty for what it is, we have spent our youth feeling ugly when we were beautiful and simple, simply beautiful all along.
1- biggest turnoff are self proclaimed "strong and independent women."
2- Also career focused women are not attractive at all for me
3- natural beauty is a must. Barely no makeup is the best. I find most women physically attractive so they don't need makeup 😌
Why do career-focused women turn you off ? I am curious...
@@g.d.9619 becuz a career focused women isn't a women that will take care of the house the children make u food etc, if they're career focused they'll prioritise over u or her children, there's a alo a difference between a woman having a job and a woman that's career focused, I want to climb the corporate ladder, compete with other men for that position, men in general don't want a woman like that
@@g.d.9619 They turn most men off, because they carry a lot of masculine energy most of the time, working in the industry means you have to pick up masculine traits, disagreeableness', aggressiveness, leadership, partnerships 50/50, this is perfect for work but terrible for marriage.
@@g.d.9619 because chasing careers and labor is a mans duty. Women should focus on household/husband. I want to come home to a relaxed, care free, and stress free beautiful woman rather than a woman who is just as exhausted as me working outside. Btw like a brother mentioned, having a job is fine (not long hours all days), but being career focused kills her feminine energy.
@Ma Khi u make a very reasonable point
As a a man I agree with this list, we want feminine women. That's what attracts us
@@umiix In terms of obedience, being caring and nurturing, soft spoken, shy, submissive etc
@@abuyaqoob_ she can be the way God made her to be .. she is a human being after all ... Not all women are made soft like not all men are made strong ..
If you want care , take care of her so she can give you wha you want in return .. if you want her to be soft then he sure that you are good to her ..
As a muslim man we want a good muslim woman that obeys Allah , not us ..
Obedience is not toward men bcz they are made men this is not an advantage
Thank you brother
How truthful, may allah guide us all, ameen💕
There are many quality brothers out there seeking NOTHING but high value women like these.
Thank you brother, I love you.
Subhan allah I personally heard the same as he showed of the reactions of some woman. We want better for you woman not lower standards or going with the flow
Bro makeup is the biggest scam in the history, u marry salma the next day u wake up and it is salem
I have seen some makeup artists specially in asia and its frightening.
Hahaha. True. Really sisters reading this know it that when you make up, you may think you look pretty but actually your faces look kind of artificial, or fake, or not alive not real type. It looks like a doll with no life in it.
Natural looks youthful, alive and fresh.
Watch Darius M latest video on makeup. That stuff was scary.
😂
@Ma Khi Why would you let your body hair grow that's just unhygienic and we have to trim and shave anyway, we're not flipping animals who let our hair grow everywhere cmonnnn stop playing dumb, grooming is natural, men are born with foreskin that's natural,does that mean we have to keep it????? No. Use some common sense, grooming is natural, not grooming is animalistic.
LOL, straight up turned into a guy the next day..wth!!!??!??!?
MaashaaAllah
Thanks BRO YOU'RE THE BEST in most ways😎🤫not all
I don’t wear makeup outside unless I am going to an all women’s event, makeup has become like water to some women. Sometimes it’s hard to resist the temptation but alhamdulilah I am doing well.
1. Having high iman
2. Modesty
3. Haya
4. natural Beauty
5. Feminine
6. Nurturing
7. Obedience
8. Passionate/intimate/warm/fertile :3
I find it funny, a lot men actually want to have traditional roles of men, yet a lot women look down upon traditional roles of women, wallahi what is this world lmaoooo.
I am a 21 y.o female... and my dream is to be a wife of a man who will lead me with the traditional men role setting
@@asyaspath6231 May Allah bless you with a righteous man
Aamiin
@@asyaspath6231 don't let the society brain wash you sister,being the house wife is the greatest career.
Yes, you all the muslim brave men. Guard and guide us.. Muslimah generation and muslim sons are in need of your guardian and guidance... even Aishah binti Abu Bakr, became intelligent because of the intense teaching of her husband, Rasulullah Pbuh.
Anyway..
my name is Asya Syifa binti Ahmad bin Al Hadi. Fikran is my little brother
Masha Allah good dawah
احسنت وبارك الله فيك
You are kinda blunt straight to the point.
I need that
Alhamdullillah I don’t use make up and I see that I look younger than most women like my age and I’m praying and trying to raise my girls the same way MashaAllah May Allah help us during the test time🤲🏾
Decent list. I agree. But if I were to perhaps add a 7th point, I would say physical beauty as well, unless that falls under category 3. Allah created us with biological attraction, I don’t think it’s shallow to want to be attracted to your spouse physically.
this has nothing to do with being a high value woman....
@@katben1625 okay what you add then?
@@KrimzunFlare 99 percent of women are already attractive hence why we're obligated to wear hijab. So you don't need to worry about beauty. Men already find the vast majority of women attractive by default so it's a mute point
@@sweettea1193 but that does not mean to be lazy and not working out, we men want fit wives like ourselves
The Best video i have watched ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Can somebody type out and also translate the phrase that Gabriel always starts with before speaking? I would like to learn it as well insha’Allah
بسم الله الرحمان الرحيم والحمد لله
Bismiallah alrahman alrahim wa hamdolillah
In Islam when we want to start something first thing to do is saying bismiallah .....
Work doesn't take the woman's femininity away .. she can be feminin and a good worker . Good muslimah , good sister , good wife and a good mother ..
Obedience is for both men and women .. a bad husband can't ask for obedience .. and not bcs he provides money that makes him her boss . Of course not because she can make money easily . And he is not doing her a favor .. in contrary , she is doing him a favor ..
If he wants a caring wife he must be caring first . Good to her . Take care of her , carful with her feelings .. not giving orders to her like hey woman I own you so do what I want from you.
If a man does his responsibilities
She has to obey him, be submissive etc
keep telling this to urself buddy, but don't get mad when she ain't submissive to you
Notice how all of these traits are simple decisions that you can make right now. For men, a majority of the desirable traits take time to build. This is a major subconscious reason why men desire to be respected.
Can you please also do 6 traits of high value Muslim men? Jzk
You're right bro
as woman I agree with you
wa-ʿalaikumu s-salām wa-raḥmatu ʾllāhi wa-barakātuhu
Agree 100%
I don't like loud rudegirls. Its not feminine nor attractive. Unfortunately some youngsters think its cool. May Allah swt guide us all. Pray for your children and encourage them to be look for pious spouses be they daughters or sons. I have a beautiful story about my daughter and how against all the odds a proposal came to my door for her hand in marriage SubhanAllah but I won't share it here in public.
Pray Tahajjud for your children, a parents prayer is very powerful. Without praising them give kind words to fill them with positivity, manners and akhlakh. Give them your time!, talk to them about society around us and how to avoid its toxiscity.
I’m a women but I must admit I have to act like a man. How? Well, I’m like the handy woman in the house. I literally don’t reply on anyone.
And to top this all up, my car broke down recently and now I’ve order the parts. Inshallah I am also planning to change the car battery.
You say men like women with hayat, modesty, not being loud in public etc etc. I understand it’s part of our deen but a lot of men don’t know that these women actually exist. In fact us women feel invisible. And the women who are loud all end up married.
What can a woman do to find herself a spouse. If her family don’t want to get involved. She doesn’t go to parties or gatherings. She is extremely quiet in public. She doesn’t have any personal social media accounts. She is too shy to go on Islamic dating sites etc.
@TheReal Deal thank you for your kind response.
Alhamdulilah I’m content with my life. If my journey in life is to never get married then who am I to complain. Allah has a different plan for me.
But hey, inshallah I’m given a nice spouse in Jennah.
Ask your father and brothers for advice on choosing a husband they will do a better job on deciding with brain and logic rather you going with your emotions
@@AsimKhan-hz5kr I appreciate your response. But it’s kinda hard when the father has passed away and the brothers are young. If only it can be that simple.
@@interestingg May Allah grant you a pious, righteous spouse who will treat you right in this life and if not, a wonderful spouse in Jannah, ameen.
@@sis3lah355 .
Totally agree
Assalam aleykoum brother, here is my modest contribution to the list. Maintenance, i believe is a key value for a woman. And by maintenance I mean the ability and the want to make one self look the best (hair care, skincare, feminine hygiene, working out to stay fit, proper garments inside the bedroom and outside the bedroom, make up and so on…) everything that makes a woman look on fleek and please the eyes of the husband. That is not natural beauty alone, it’s maintenance on top. Maybe it can be in the femininity part but that’s key. Men are very visual and appealed by that. Watching you from Dakar, Sénégal. BarakaLahu feek
Gabriel; “obedient”
Also Gabriel; “omg obedient”
😂🤣
Allah swt bless you amen
mashaAllah
*قَوَارِيرًا مِنْ فِضَّة*
But some men are lucky to find women with all of these traits yet they destroy it with their own hands of desires or behaviors and don’t welcome the ne’emah Allah has given speaking of my own experience and May Allah guide us all amiin 🤲🏾
To all women, actual muslim men find these traits really attractive, don’t worry, you just have to find them
Obedience is a HUGE problem for modern day women
Sorry this if off topic but my family is urging me to get the vaccine I wish not to take and my life isn’t the same since I can’t do anything. I need help brother.
Your not a Guinea pig to take it. Laws are changing to coerce people to take it as predicted over a year ago. Time to move to "developing" Muslim countries, in a country where it is not obligatory. Africa probably most ideal continent which several choices dependant on your taste.
@Black Roses same
_I was told the same thing by all the brainwashed society including close relatives, but I am NOT going to introduce that "experimental thing" to my body! Never ever, Period._
Make istikhara prayer
No choice for me.is obligatory.otherwise no job and for kids no school
What do you think about women making CZcams videos giving dawah?
Feminism is not women trying to be “like” men it was a political movement demanding women be given the same rights as men. The rights that Allah has already given to women in that we are equal to men in all regards in the eyes of Allah. Islam is the only religion that aligns with real Feminism
Assalamualaikum brother!
Other traits I thought of:
-Cleanliness for both men and women.
-Men/women that are not lazy
These are huge! The fact is these days people let hygiene slide in favour of spending ages on their hair or clothes if they're women, going to the gym and remaining smelly afterwards and flashing muscles if men and it's awful. That is not taking care of yourself. Mangled feet because of high heels and socks worn for three days in a row! Hair removal and good grooming is SO important! It's outrageous that they don't think so...I think this is linked to laziness. You won't achieve anything with laziness and your relationship will also suffer..
@@MAhmed-zs2vp totally agree with you brother!
@@arya1754JazakAllah khair; I'm actually a sister :)
@@MAhmed-zs2vp my apologies sister! Hope you are doing well inshallah.
I am so happy with brother Gabriel's work- i learnt so much about the roles of women in islam!
@@arya1754 not at all sister, don't apologise! I'm good with the grace of Allah. Yes brother Gabriel has taught us alot Alhamdulillah.
May Allah guide us all to how he wants us to be.
💯💯💯
“High value Muslim woman” should be retired to correctly describe the video as: “Highly valued traits Muslim men seek in a wife”
1. Iman/Taqwa/faith
2. Outward display of Modesty/traditional female traits and behavior (soft spoken)/haya/beauty (preferably natural)
3. Femininity
4. Motherly/nurturing (unclear if it’s towards her husband or kids?)/wants a family/takes care and educate children
5. Obedient/respectful to husbands
6. Passionate/loving/intimate/compassionate
# 7: FACILITATE SEX APPEAL. A woman's ability to be Sexually Attractive and initiate sex is very important. May god preserve the good aspects of Latin Culture because those women get it !
@Fiona A I am not trying to change anyone's Nature or Level of Haya. I just think in life you have to find what works for you. Just as there is more than one way to skin a cat, there is more than one way to have a fulfilling Halal Sex Life !
Sounds like red pill talking points, natural beauty, femininity, men don’t care about a woman’s degrees, obedient (submissive), even mentioning high value men/women seems the only issue you have is with men having a choice not to marry a woman who has been married a few times or who has had multiple sexual partners.
Why does no one ever give examples of obedience. It’s always talked about bluntly. Every other topic is given multiple examples except for obedience. What does obedience look like? What would a husband order for his wife to be obedient to? What is halal obedience and haram obedience?
obey everything as long as you don't disobey allah
1:17
Brother, Please speak openly
We don't fear of anyone we just fear of Allah
You can't convince everyone
God bless you
Assalamu alaykum. Most of what u say I understand and agree with but in this age it wud b wise to use alternative words than 'obey'(apart from, for our creator) as this word suggests its against your will. Ironic that u immediately add that its not servitude or being a slave. Just saying how I see things to b; how muslims can get a point across without compromising deen. Hope it helps.
get the feminism parasite out of your body, that's why u got offended when you heard "obey"
Salam all. This is such an interesting video (as well as it’s counterpart). I have taken it upon myself to analyze this video in a few ways, as you will read in the following comments.
First: this video is not titled correctly. If you refer to the “high value men” video, it is explicitly prefaced saying that the characteristics listed are conclusions of what ALLAH swt wants from believing men, not what people or what society determine to be high value. In contrast, this video while it is titled similarly, clearly is from the paradigm of what (Muslim) men want from awife-INSTEAD of what Allah swt wants from a believing woman. So basically this video is directly rooted in what people/men desire versus what Allah swt desires, which is the exact opposite of the message prefaced in the other video. 🤯in addition, When you compare both videos, this one is highly and primarily centered around wife/relationship, while the other recognizes the different hats men wear. It is not centered on just what an ideal husband should be. To his credit, the creator DOES state this in the beginning of this video explicitly. However, I wish it was titled as such as well. Therefore, my first conclusion is that this should be titled: Six traits that (Muslim) men desire in a wife.
Based on this, I believe the idea of a “high value woman” can and should be addressed by a Muslim shaykha based on the Quran, sunnah, and seerah. A perspective FOR woman BY a woman! Please link it in the comments if you ever come across such a video. I’m sure it would be a slightly different list!
Second: upon viewing this video, it is clear that the creator offers his own biases and preferences. Sometimes this is unclear if this are his own personal preferences, or shared across men, or maybe a mixture of both? To account for that, the video lists the following desired traits in a wife as:
1. Iman/Taqwa/faith
2. Outward display of Modesty/traditional female traits and behavior (ex. soft spoken)/haya/beauty (preferably natural?)
3. Femininity
4. Motherly/nurturing (unclear if it’s towards her husband or kids?)/wants a family/takes care and educate children
5. Obedient/respectful to husband
6. Passionate/loving/intimate/compassionate
As noted: it is unclear if the creator prefers #2 “natural” beauty (ie. Not highly cosmetically altered) or all men prefer it. It is also unclear if men would like their wives to be #4 motherly towards him, his children, or both?
Another question: #6 passionate is a characteristic shared by both men and women according to Gabriel. However, imo the passion in this video seems to be towards intimacy and satisfaction towards the husband and vice versa. The other video made passion to sound more like having passion towards a goal orientated, zeal towards life (including relationships), and just being a considerate and lively person in general. Again, this might also be a result of the fact that this video is just more narrow in scope (what does a man desire in a wife vs. a high value man) as opposed to the other video which is more broad which addressed many aspects of being a man-not just a husband.
I am also a bit unclear on what are the similarities and differences between #3 femininity and #6 passion? Tbh, a lot of the list can be subtopics under femininity, so there is quite a lot of overlap in the list, especially when you compare it to the male one.
I fully recognize that some of these conclusions lie in my own interpretations and inherent biases, so there is that.
Lastly, I wish Gabriel would list one example of each trait he listed based in the Quran, Hadith, or seerah. I have this same suggestion for the other video as well. It would help illustrate specific examples and clear up some of the overlap in this list in general.
A high value woman will sign a prenup
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It saddens me that plastic surgery is more popular in muslim countries than the western countries. In England most people are natural. There's an English saying "Grow old gracefully " which I see in most older ladies. My daughters and myself also adopt that view. Ok a little bit of makeup is fine because it comes off quiet quickly but to change your features with botox (poison) and surgery. Disastrous!
Not true. Muslims also empower natural beauty. You will probably get alienated if you get a plastic surgery done (for beauty purpose).
Here are some countries with highest plastic surgery rate:
1. South Korea - Liposuction, nose jobs, and blepharoplasty
2. Greece - Breast Augmentation
3. Italy - Botulinum Toxin Type A (Botox Dysport) and Liposuction
4. Brazil - Breast Implants and Liposuction
5. Columbia - Liposuction
6. USA - Liposuction, Breast Augmentation
7. Taiwan - Botox and other wrinkle treatments
honorable mentions - Japan and France.
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The way that you view women is incredible. They’re not objects mate. Their ‘value’ isn’t yours to decide.
It’s not him deciding he’s dictating what is said in the shariah.
@@ra_x7776 czcams.com/play/PLELnxupXgVCJGRaNnvoQsZ8fJdwzlP6Fr.html
I dont know if you can get 6/6 of these traits in women...are you sure you are describing women of these world or is it the hoors 😆😂😄
I’ve got all the traits he mentioned, all that is missing right now is the high value male that is a qawam.
You know what's interesting, because this is confusing to me... I see men - and tbh, I have done this myself as well - who claim to be righteous, but can't find righteous women. On the other side, I see women like you who claim to be righteous, but can't find righteous men.
This is a problem. To you it may seem "obvious" or "easy" to get a woman with those 6/6 traits. To me it seems like mission impossible. On the other side, to me it seems "obvious and simple" to get a man with the good and necessary traits, however you speak as if it's mission impossible to you.
@@ColonelFluffles .
Go listen to Sheikh Azhar Nasser Lecture on high valued women it’s better than this vid
Why do you always look angry and annoyed when talking... 🤣🤣🤣 chill out😂
Life is hard
We did not ask about what men want, we askes about the high value woman in islam. Just like you made a video about the high value man in islam. By the way; the way you're describing man makes me think man in islam are very superficial. They care about looks, and being taken care of. They want a smart woman, but not an educated one perse. She has to somehow just do all the reading by herself at home. Futhermore; woman don't go to school for man. We do it 'to-get-educated' because we 'actually' have interest too. So you don't have to be so dismissive of it. We also don't care if man like like your kind like our education. We did it because Allah allowed us to learn. And in this day and age woman BETTER get an education if they want to survive financially or else they may end up with superficial angry man like you. You guys hate woman... that's it. Why else would you talk so degrading about woman as if every woman who is not submissive must be a feminist. I think you are confused about that word. I unsubscribed and i hope i will never see another toxic video from you or your kind again.
But unfortunately for you, that's what most men value (I inclusive).... May Allah grant you better understanding
@@Saad-ul6py Well AAALLL woman would like a rich man, who cares equally for the household and kids, and a non-polysemous guy etc etc etc. Should we then compromise what islam says and just adapt to what woman want?!! NO!! Because their would be no ghayr in it. May Allah grant YOU better understanding!
@@Saad-ul6py By the way, THANK ALLAH there are better MAN out there, instead of oppressors' like you calling it manhood.
Luckily enough, Allah has already designated for everyone his/her appropriate position. You may wish to spend your entire life challenging that. You're angry... and you're angry with no one but with Allah's injunctions. May Allah grant you and your ilks better understanding.
@@Saad-ul6py EXACTLY Allah, has done that. And Allah gave us rights and and recognition and within those boundaries woman are free. And guys like you are trying to take that away to serve your needs more than we have too, meanwhile degrading woman by saying things like "we don't care about your education", as we go to school for man in the first place, completely ignoring the fact that woman have brains they want to exercise. I'm not angry at my life or at the man i know. I'm angry that man like you call this islam. It's disguising the way you talk about woman, that is what makes me angry. And i feel sorry for the woman who follow your oppressions thinking it's islam. Gabriel made a video about man in islam, and the other about what man like in woman. Does that not ring a bell?!?!?!?! Again; may Allah grant YOU understanding!
And you apply this to your daughters:no education ...no need to read and write..but straight to mariage
You apply this to your mother first 😂
Lol everyone knows how to read and write when they're like 13 years old looooool, you don't need a degree to learn to read and write stop being dumb, homeschooling is also much better for boys and girls especially nowadays
@@yasinfazley8313 you are saying that elementary education is ok what is above that is not.Now I wonder where you derive this from?
@@yasinfazley8313 facts, it's a western fallacy to say that a women isnt ready for marriage unless she has a degree or finishes university LOL
1Women does not like man who spit either.2Imagine to have to obey a dumb husband3you are saying woman can disobey husband if he is telling her to wash his feet?Cause indeed are husbands who want that.
This high value woman sounds dull and boring, a real door mat, no thanks i dont want to be high value.
You don't deserve to be a high value one..
The prophet's wives were like this and they weren't doormat
I don't see what you're talking about... It just sounds like he's describing a lovely woman who's close to Allah and comfortable and confident with herself and her gender.
@@aatif7518 Brother Please don't feed the trolls. This is what they want. All videos about good women or women's flaws become infested with women talking about their feelings like this.
@@MARYAM-Aspen really puzzles me why some women think the god given role seems like being a doormat 🤔
@@dspd0140 scary times bro
Assalamu Alaykum, brother,
I am a romanian reverted sister, and I need some help.. can I contact you for some questions? If yes, what is your contact?
Jazak Allahu Khair brother for all the help and knowledge you give me with your videos
See my instagram @galromaani and dm me please
@@mustafa6860 what is wrong with nike? It just has some origin, not like people are worshipping it.
@@ibnamanot If wearing the blue eye talisman and the cross is haram why is Nike an exception? Brother Gabriel mentioned the polytheistic origin of the blue eye talisman which makes wearing it even worse (we all know that amulets are haram in the first place). Their brand is also known to insult Islam and Muslims too so they should be boycotted as well unless they apologize.
@Myname Ismyname you are right, 100%. But we can agree that the origin of the blue eye talisman makes it even worse; talismans/amulets are clearly shirk but the blue eye talisman is worse than let’s say a talisman with a verse from the Quran. Anyways, we’re talking about Nike here; from my knowledge, if we can’t even wear these amulets and talismans without giving them importance (giving them importance and thinking it will protect the wearer/holder is shirk and clearly worse, of course), then why is Nike ok?
@@mustafa6860 Are the Wings on a Honda motorcycle haram as well?