6 Scientifically Proven Steps to Building Rapport with Anyone in Sales

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  • čas přidán 1. 06. 2024
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    1. Match vocally.
    Most salespeople hardly pay attention to matching their prospects vocally, whether it’s on the phone or in person. But every single prospect has a distinct vocal style. Maybe they’re really loud, they speak quickly, or their voice is soft and gentle.
    2. Match vibe.
    Matching the vibe of your prospects is the other side of the coin. Vibe refers to pretty much everything besides voice. Does the prospect move around quickly? Use lots of hand gestures? Shake your hand in a death grip? Or does the prospect move slowly and deliberately, and have a gentle demeanor?
    3. Break the pattern.
    If you’ve read some of my other articles, then you’ve heard me talk about breaking the pattern. This is one of the most important ideas when it comes to building rapport in sales.
    In most selling situations, the prospect has probably met with 20 other salespeople in the course of that week, either by phone or in person. If you act just like those 20 other salespeople, you’ll never get through to the prospect.
    4. Focus on them.
    I used to have a mentor who would always tell me that prospects only listen to one radio station. You know what that radio station is? WIIFM. What’s In It For Me.
    Prospects don’t care about you. They don't care about the fact that you need to close a sale. They don't care about your life. They don’t even care about your product. They certainly don't care about your company. I hate to say it again, but they don't care about you.
    5. Repeat and rephrase.
    Chris Voss, a hostage negotiator, recently wrote a book called Split the Difference. He talks about how in hostage situations, it’s a best practice to create rapport by repeating and rephrasing what the perpetrator says during negotiations.There’s also a lot of sales research that shows that when a salesperson repeats and rephrases what the prospect tells them, the prospect begins to feel more connected to the salesperson. It makes the prospect feel heard and listened to, and allows the salesperson to dig more deeply to get more information.
    6. Use feedback loops.
    Feedback loops are another scientifically proven way of building rapport on a deeper level with your prospects. These loops are most effective when you’re presenting or when you have to go on for, let's say, 45 seconds of talking, but you want to rope prospects back into the conversation.
    These questions engage the prospect and prevent you from getting stuck in a monologue that ultimately leads to losing their attention. You never want to be in a situation where you're just talking, and talking, and talking without interjecting some feedback loops throughout. What you're going to find is that it ensures the prospect is with you the whole way through.
    So there you have it. Now you know six scientifically proven steps to building rapport with anyone in sales. I want to hear from you. Which of these ideas did you find most useful? Be sure to share down below in the comments section to get involved in the conversation.

Komentáře • 142

  • @SalesInsightsLab
    @SalesInsightsLab  Před rokem

    Be sure to register for my free training on, "The Formula to Closing More Deals without Price Pushback, 'Think-It-Overs' or Ghosting" salesinsightslab.com/training/

  • @phillipmccargar5193
    @phillipmccargar5193 Před 4 lety +44

    I am not a corporate salesman by any means. I sell TVs at Best Buy. I was a metal worker and a hard laborer for 12 years and transitioning into sales has been a nightmare for me. These videos have been a legitimate Godsend for me. Even on a smaller scale than you're speaking about, I've learned so much due to the lack of coaching and leadership in my current position that I truly can't wait to try these practices on a retail scale.

    • @goodmanwiseman303
      @goodmanwiseman303 Před 2 lety +1

      This guy is really good. I hope it worked out for you and you didn't give up on sales.
      Read SPIN Selling by Neil Rackham too, its incredible and its a very short book (~130 pages).

    • @VictorMartinez-fi8lh
      @VictorMartinez-fi8lh Před 9 měsíci

      It has been 3 years. I'm curious to know what happened to your carrier after applying these principles if you don't mind sharing

  • @mathieucinq-mars7786
    @mathieucinq-mars7786 Před 3 lety +18

    It's funny how A LOT of this would also apply to clinical psychology, great stuff Marc!

  • @carl7445
    @carl7445 Před 3 lety +13

    Marc has helped me get more clients. Im not a salesman by trade. Im a graphic designer but having good communication skills is essential in business. Learnt allot from him.

  • @jasp9661
    @jasp9661 Před rokem +2

    Even the way you're talking to us on this video, it's understanding and informative - like a teacher. Genius!

  • @justinhartges4368
    @justinhartges4368 Před 3 lety +7

    Literally used what you said at 9:50 and put it in my own words during a medical sales call. Magic. We began discussing service options at their hospital and now a door is opened thanks to your wisdom. Thanks, Marc!

  • @cwcpants140
    @cwcpants140 Před 4 lety +5

    1 & 2 can be condensed into 1 word: MIRRORING. Also see: "Pacing and leading"

  • @pranshugarg9286
    @pranshugarg9286 Před rokem +1

    Thank You for knowledge sharing. I am a door to door guy. I go through this video every time I start my work day. Guess what, every time I learn something new. Thank You so much🙏.

  • @queenlisa8279
    @queenlisa8279 Před 4 lety +5

    very helpful thank you so much, I really felt distant with my clients and really didn't have as many conversations as possible, taking care of my pinch and correcting the mistakes. thanks alot

  • @alibukhari8669
    @alibukhari8669 Před 9 měsíci

    I have been working as a real estate agent for last one year & let me say, every word in this video is absolutely true. I really hope one day to meet Marc in person. Bro, if ever you visit Dubai, please let me know.

  • @brentonrungasamy4401
    @brentonrungasamy4401 Před 11 měsíci

    I love you mark. I've started watching your videos about 4 years back and the first thing that came to my mind is that this is wayyyyyyy underated. You provide a mountain of value❤ Thanks alot bro

  • @jj2012ism
    @jj2012ism Před 3 lety +1

    Priceless Advice!!! Thanks so much Marc....your videos and knowledge on mastering the sales cycle is simply amazing!!!

  • @kristina769
    @kristina769 Před 4 lety +1

    This was an EXCELLENT video. Thank you for sharing everything!!!

  • @briansalisbury6322
    @briansalisbury6322 Před 5 lety

    Thanks Marc great video, I love the repeat and rephrase part of the segment!

  • @lisagarcia8349
    @lisagarcia8349 Před 3 lety

    Love you video! New subscriber! ❤️ It makes total sense how you explained everything now I need to practice, practice, practice! Appreciate you!

  • @kayleen-west
    @kayleen-west Před 3 lety +1

    Thank you for these tips, I am excited to hear more.

  • @ashtoberollin9180
    @ashtoberollin9180 Před rokem

    I love that you mentioned Never Split the Difference by Chris Voss. I recently have read the book and the moment you said to repeat and rephrase what they said back to them it made me think of the book. Great video all together

  • @jeffstephan6486
    @jeffstephan6486 Před rokem

    Thank you for the hour of free training and sharing your experience!

  • @stirlingrnb3714
    @stirlingrnb3714 Před 2 lety

    bro your videos are amazing. I recently started in pharma sales and your tactics have helped me nail my first accounts!

  • @jasonlui1183
    @jasonlui1183 Před 2 lety

    Where were you when I started working in sales years ago?! You would’ve saved me lots of time. Great video! Thank you

  • @emilyjackson8767
    @emilyjackson8767 Před 3 lety +2

    I really liked steps 4 and 6, but also how important it is to pay attention. Right now I'm working on behalf of the national humane society. Its been my first week and thank you so much for the video it was very informtive

  • @arzuagadavid1
    @arzuagadavid1 Před 5 lety +6

    Wow Marc you really killed it, appreciate all of your work. I always come back for a refresher, you always remind me of something I can correct and improve on.

    • @chrisvasey4032
      @chrisvasey4032 Před 4 lety

      Hey David, if you can help me out and watch my video to see what you think, if you like please share around and subscribe, take care czcams.com/video/h5wQZyCI7dI/video.html

  • @Jrodriguez0524
    @Jrodriguez0524 Před 5 lety

    Marc! killing it! understanding the mind of a prospect!

  • @jab1720
    @jab1720 Před 5 lety +2

    Thanks for this video. Very helpful.

  • @leaderderisma5249
    @leaderderisma5249 Před 2 lety

    Thanks for doing this from your heart with love.

  • @PaulPeixoto
    @PaulPeixoto Před 4 lety +8

    Love your application of building rapport within the sales relationship. Keep up the great work, Marc!

  • @polarismurphy3092
    @polarismurphy3092 Před 3 lety

    Just subscribed to your channel, lots of great stuff. I am definitely going to be trying these techniques in the field

  • @tatianaarbulu6749
    @tatianaarbulu6749 Před 2 lety

    Awesome!!! Super helpful! I will use these. I am just starting out in telesales as life insurance agent working from my home office. THANK YOU!

  • @user-qo1oq6yu5k
    @user-qo1oq6yu5k Před 9 měsíci

    Feedback Loop is what I enjoyed most. I enjoyed the entire presentation.

  • @nimkal
    @nimkal Před 3 lety +5

    Awesome video and well explained Marc! Great points really. Would of been awesome if you included some of the studies to help read into about these more but overall really good video. :) Thanks!

  • @Coachsamwel
    @Coachsamwel Před 3 lety +3

    Fantastic.. matching vocal & vibe..
    ✓ changing the pattern...not sound like a typical salesperson... sound like a doctor
    ✓Repeating and rephrasing
    ✓Focusing on them... Playing mostly their Choice Radio #WIIFM
    ✓Using feedback statements... Like are we together mr prospect,, do you like this....
    Be blessed 🙏

  • @a4e69636b
    @a4e69636b Před 5 lety

    Thank you very much for this video.

  • @RaymondWLo
    @RaymondWLo Před 2 lety

    This is gold! Thank you.

  • @isaacwick9522
    @isaacwick9522 Před 4 lety

    Amazing content on a free video, I learned a lot.

  • @bear831tiger
    @bear831tiger Před rokem

    Man knows his stuff!!! Im not a salesman, but approve this message

  • @sunnychopra3918
    @sunnychopra3918 Před 4 lety

    I am very much impressed and thankful to you

  • @seanjohnson505
    @seanjohnson505 Před 3 lety

    Great value, I’ve learned about the hostage negotiator at a past employer.

  • @Gogoletsgoo
    @Gogoletsgoo Před 3 lety

    I've learned so much from this video! thank u!!
    and i thought this is really helpful when my female friends talk to me about personal problems lol
    if I gave some advice, sometimes they get pissed off at me because they just want me to sympathize. I will only repeat what they said like robbot.

  • @ramjanali8931
    @ramjanali8931 Před 4 lety

    Undoubtedly It was amazing, i would obviously use those tips in my call with prospects...

  • @lcobb5214
    @lcobb5214 Před 5 lety +4

    Dynamite info, not in sales now but sold cars many years ago. Would have made a killing if I had this type of specific insight!👍

  • @lisafarmen9367
    @lisafarmen9367 Před rokem

    GREAT stuff!! Incredible

  • @GirishVenkatachalam
    @GirishVenkatachalam Před rokem

    I like your voice and your ideas.
    I am just breaking into sales as we speak.

  • @zakofthefallen
    @zakofthefallen Před 2 lety

    Hey all. I suck at sales. My team and team members are all helping. I am seeking information everywhere. My weekend has started, so, my search has started again. I will buy a course or two from Marc and Chris Voss. First I need to make my numbers go up gradually to afford it. I was out of commission because of covid. So, lots of financial building to grow my business. Yup, my sales for any company I work with,... is my business. That is why I want to invest in my business, my skills. Nice to see like minds here too.

  • @currently9143
    @currently9143 Před rokem

    this is great! Thanks

  • @mirian593
    @mirian593 Před rokem

    Thank you for sharing this knowledge ❤️

  • @Makanfelez
    @Makanfelez Před 2 lety

    amazing video , thank you so much 😘

  • @Memoreism
    @Memoreism Před 2 lety +3

    Your approach makes so much sense! Focusing on the prospect sounds way more fun than me just talking about myself.

  • @SaintlySaavy
    @SaintlySaavy Před 5 lety

    Great stuff Marc!

  • @juniora9939
    @juniora9939 Před 2 lety

    match vibe most def thanks man really usefull

  • @nirindusahasas9385
    @nirindusahasas9385 Před 8 měsíci

    You reshaped the way of selling man ❤🎉

  • @davidrenyold350
    @davidrenyold350 Před rokem

    so helpful, thanks

  • @PatriciaAtengdem-im2sn
    @PatriciaAtengdem-im2sn Před měsícem

    I really understood this videos thanks so much❤😊

  • @sunvaj6754
    @sunvaj6754 Před rokem

    This is a great information. Thanks for sharing.

  • @mavsach
    @mavsach Před 5 lety +5

    Great video as always Marc!! I’m currently reading Chris Voss’ book and loved your point about rephrasing what your prospect says..
    Could you do a video on various sales books that helped you at various times in your career? Would be great to see your recommendations.

  • @OffSite-IT
    @OffSite-IT Před 4 lety

    Great content Marc!

  • @Lado1677
    @Lado1677 Před rokem

    Chris Voss is awesome! I watched his series on Masterclasses and it was superb!

  • @randao7793
    @randao7793 Před 2 lety

    Great video! Love your content

  • @dariushdhg
    @dariushdhg Před 5 lety

    Fantastic stuff man

  • @adamjonathan1421
    @adamjonathan1421 Před 5 lety

    Thanks for the tips...

  • @austinwachira5185
    @austinwachira5185 Před 3 lety

    Great Insight here, Mark Thanks :)

  • @onwumerechibunna4592
    @onwumerechibunna4592 Před 3 lety

    I’d say Repeat and Rephrase cause that’s the one thing that I’m sure that I’ve never really done/heard of. Thank you

  • @za2196
    @za2196 Před 2 lety

    Agreed. Best communication videos.

  • @PropertiesForClients
    @PropertiesForClients Před 2 lety

    Your video helped me

  • @Thesolarguyrory
    @Thesolarguyrory Před 4 lety

    Awesome stuff man! 😎👍

  • @vincenterey1640
    @vincenterey1640 Před 4 lety +7

    🚒firefighters on the way for this fire content. Subscribed

  • @joaoguerrero2834
    @joaoguerrero2834 Před 2 lety

    Thanks so much!!!!

  • @fatosalliu3655
    @fatosalliu3655 Před 3 lety

    That's amazing man

  • @RichardGomezMx
    @RichardGomezMx Před 4 lety

    Very good. I agree.

  • @arizonanative7409
    @arizonanative7409 Před 2 lety

    Feedback loops. I think it’s easy to forget this when I’m the heat of presenting.

  • @ninovaldemorocabugawan6605

    I love the number 5 tip

    • @chrisvasey4032
      @chrisvasey4032 Před 4 lety

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  • @tekdon7672
    @tekdon7672 Před 2 lety

    💯% correct. Gems!!

  • @mary-jayne5459
    @mary-jayne5459 Před 4 lety +2

    Great advice, Thank you for taking the time to share this with us! I wanted to let you know your camera is struggling to balance color. It gives off a orange/yellow hue, distorting all the colors in the video and esp your skin tone. I haven't seen any of your other videos so you may have updated this issue. If not, I wanted to give you a friendly note.

  • @Brian.Maxwell
    @Brian.Maxwell Před 5 lety

    Awesome videos Marc

    • @chrisvasey4032
      @chrisvasey4032 Před 4 lety

      Hey BrY, if you can give my video a quick check out that would awesome, take care czcams.com/video/h5wQZyCI7dI/video.html

  • @TheDim3s
    @TheDim3s Před 5 lety

    Hey Marc,
    I'm working with an online shop where we basicly get a database of all the custmers that bought something at our page, and my job is to call them and offer XYZ products (currently smart watches are what im trying to do) the thing is that some days i sell 10 of them, and for instance today I only sold 1, my lines are always the same (more or less) since I cannot really offer any real value to them based on their problems.
    My question to you is, how should I sell it to make my customer engaged as much as possible, because many of them simply go to brick wall mode and all you hear is "No thanks".
    Any experience with that?
    I thank you for you reply in advance.

  • @pattispieces4943
    @pattispieces4943 Před 4 lety

    Who is George? You use that name in every video. I enjoy and learn so much

  • @sonnym9938
    @sonnym9938 Před 3 lety

    You are great.

  • @manuelfernando9729
    @manuelfernando9729 Před 4 lety

    Whats your view on the term "opposites attract"?

  • @mushon44
    @mushon44 Před 3 lety

    you are good man!

  • @mikegnever795
    @mikegnever795 Před 5 lety

    Do you do 1 on 1 confrontations

  • @dusancetkovic8245
    @dusancetkovic8245 Před 3 lety

    I dont know why You still dont have milions of subs and views, loved the vid!

  • @SOSM209
    @SOSM209 Před 3 lety +2

    This Professional leader hypnotizes you into a right frame of 🧠🤝💚thanks Mark 👣

  • @bigword3744
    @bigword3744 Před 5 lety +55

    Book is called "Never Split The Difference", Great video tho.

    • @StanleySweet14
      @StanleySweet14 Před 3 lety +2

      And Way of the Wolf and other sales books. Many people have talked about this.

    • @dubsteppro777
      @dubsteppro777 Před 3 lety

      Thank you lol, I was gonna make that comment.

    • @jeffstephan6486
      @jeffstephan6486 Před rokem

      I would say, "Great video, too!"

  • @BelakorVenator
    @BelakorVenator Před 3 lety

    I'm sure you've seen that assumptive feedback loops tend to be even more effective, correct?

  • @arulpr49
    @arulpr49 Před 3 lety +1

    Video Starts @ 1:10

  • @pauls1883
    @pauls1883 Před rokem

    Chris Voss calls it “tactical empathy “ in his book.

  • @klaramika
    @klaramika Před 4 lety +3

    Hi Marc, I think it is super awkward to ask a prospect on a cold call "how have you been" and so on, it just makes people annoyed, like who is this and what do you want and how you got my number. My approach is just direct: Hello I'm XY calling form XY company, we have not been in touch, the reason for the call is that your company could be a good fit etc. etc. WDYT?

    • @BuddyLee23
      @BuddyLee23 Před 4 lety

      Makes a lot of sense for dealing with gatekeepers and other people short on time. As long as you know when to - and are able to - get more rapport with a decision-maker, seems like a good way to save time and ultimately reach more prospects.

  • @FloydBanks-th8ss
    @FloydBanks-th8ss Před 9 měsíci

    Chris Voss -Never split the difference

  • @JoelRossWorld
    @JoelRossWorld Před 4 lety

    Sooo who makes that blazer and shirt 🤔

  • @jamylawshainline7710
    @jamylawshainline7710 Před 2 lety

    Repeat and rephrase or feed back loops. Just making sure the prospect knows there apart of the conversation and your not just trying to sell them something to get their money. You actually care that they will need and use the product 247

  • @StanleySweet14
    @StanleySweet14 Před 3 lety

    Feedback Loops, also known as Obligating Questions. Using a few of these can leverage commitment to obtain a close.
    ¨Mr. Prospect based off of what you said, does this look like a feature that would benefit you?¨
    ¨Yes.¨

  • @sunnyshrestha7573
    @sunnyshrestha7573 Před 5 lety +1

    Thank you sir

  • @akulabourne
    @akulabourne Před rokem

    Totally agree! Every time I come in fast and hard and my wife is talking soft and slow she makes me sleep on the couch... with the dog... who needs a flea bath...

  • @durgabhavanidayala7813

    Good

  • @joeyalfaro2323
    @joeyalfaro2323 Před 3 lety +1

    In hostage negotiations it always best throw other person off their game. Best way is start shooting hostages. I breaks up small talk let's everybody know you mean business. Assure hostage negotiator when I'm done with hostages he is next

    • @oaksoptions
      @oaksoptions Před 3 lety

      Do you recommend I try this in SAAS sales?

  • @QuantumBits0
    @QuantumBits0 Před rokem

    now I get why I hate everytime our teacher keep talking about the school mission, vision. My mind is always thinking blah blah blah idc just tell me how the grading system work so I can achieve top ranking. We only care about what's in it for us

  • @nayrtnartsipacify
    @nayrtnartsipacify Před 3 lety

    If people don't like you, you aren't selling them anything. There a million ways to make someone like you but the most important one is be genuine.

  • @andrecamacho7660
    @andrecamacho7660 Před rokem

    honestly .. i hate when a sales person ask me how i am and make a pause to ear an answer .. 90% of them dont know me at all and it sounds like a rhetoric question that they dont care about my answer..and i dont feel like to answer to somebody i never met ... i am foucused on my work... thinking a lot of things... i just want them to cut to the chase and say what they want to say..and get back to what i was doing.

  • @sachinkohli9147
    @sachinkohli9147 Před 4 lety

    Why the hell this all thing doesn't work

  • @mattk8810
    @mattk8810 Před rokem

    The book is never split the difference

  • @sandravidal5712
    @sandravidal5712 Před 2 lety

    having a hard time building the connections with the prospect😞