How To Trust Your Girlfriend Or Boyfriend Again
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- čas přidán 27. 02. 2015
- Bestselling author, Noah Elkrief, explains how to trust again in a relationship after you have been cheated on or broken up with.
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Noah Elkrief
This video explains how to trust your boyfriend or girlfriend again. If you have been cheated on, or broken up with, and you want to know how to trust your boyfriend or girlfriend again, the answer is not to develop it or build it or have them prove it. What you really want is to lose your anxiety about whether they will leave or cheat. Therefore, when you want to know how to trust your boyfriend or girlfriend again, the question really becomes how do I stop believing that my happiness and self-worth is dependent on their love and the relationship. To do that, you just have to discover that their love doesn't mean you are worthy, and that a relationship can't make you happy. - Jak na to + styl
Instead of saying "You don't have to trust", you can say "Accept uncertainty." We will never truly know if our partner loves us no matter what they say or do, but we can find peace when we accept uncertainty.
Leodan Delgado accepting uncertainty is the same as saying “I don’t know”. “I don’t know” is also a much easier thing to comprehend for most people and you don’t have to “accept it” it’s just the truth that you now realize
I understand what your saying. But you accepting “uncertainty” isn’t really something that’ll keep your relationship going. Because even if your uncertain about the answer, the fact is that them loving you is either a “yes” or a “no”. Soo you can’t trust words but actions
The mistake I made was that I was happy before I met this person,then sacrificed my own happiness for their happiness.Then they cheated. You give people too much power over you, and they will take advantage because they will no longer value your worth. Don't give away your happiness!
That part...
If they cannot see your worth then it’s best to not stay
Finally someone that actually understands what goes through my head and knows what will actually help me.
Zuza Zalewska the same
Zuza Zalewska Yup! Finally....
Zuza Zalewska I can't trust my gf she cheat on 3 times..I guess I will leave her..u will do to..cause cheater don't stop to cheat...they want different things..they are not sacrifice for anything...I going to leave..u should leave too
Zuza you are such a pretty lady
Excellent break down of the internal thought process. So validating for so many. A new freedom is possible if we keep this new information centre-most when we need it. It's not as simple as it may seem to only look for personal acceptance and self love to be enough.
I think I need to watch this every day lol
!!!!! true
I actually have watched this daily for the past week 😂 its absolute gold. Every time I watch it, it brings me back to my centre and reminds me of whats real and true.
Noah, YOU ARE THE TRUTH!!! You probably saved my relationship, my sanity, his sanity and maybe even my life. I don't know where you've been but I'm so grateful God directed me to your videos this morning. Thank you so much for sharing your gift.
Oh goody and yay
Amazing video, now all I need is a girlfriend
Lol
Aww how sad xD
HAHAHAHA
Do you tho? Or is it just another story your telling yourself?
smurf good one
Brought me to tears man :/ cuz at points I feel like I'm damaged goods :(
Michael LaCroix me too...
Michael LaCroix dear......dont let other people decide ur worth. U r a unique person
The struggle
Me too, but don't lets stop at that, but go on mending the broken, rebuilding the pieces, ruins into something new. Ask for help . become one with our true self As hard it is for us, I think of how hard it is for the paranoid psychotic. .
I like this guy. He reminds me of Ross from friends hahah, the way he talks.
I caught my gf a while texting another guy and it was my best friend! I left her and after millions of calls and texts from her for a month, I eventually went back with her. Now my anxiety is always kicking in thinking if she is doing it again. She would somtimes cry in my arms saying she is sorry for what she did but I dont know what to think anymore.
same my bf did wid me and he also want 2nd chance should i forgive him?????
Forgive! Follow the light, you may find better one in a time.
No once a cheater always a cheater
Luke Butler. are you still with her?
How's everyone's relationships going ? My man cheated on me before.. said he'd never do it again, but sometimes when I find a woman on his accounts my mind starts to wonder, ah so ugly. When trust is broken it's just , well broken and takes time to overcome
This video just changed my entire life thank you so much ❤️
Yea, the idea of you thinking that happiness is dependent on a person you love/like really makes an impact. Like back in February 2014 this feeling was at its strongest and i was so "depressed" that i was suicidal. And over time the feeling faded and i'm feeling alot more peaceful and alot more motivated. This thought is a really hard one to tackle but once you overcome it, your free just like me.
Hi Noah.
You’re videos helped me so much a few years ago when I was suffering from very bad anxiety and extreme feelings of abandonment…It took a long time to become calm and happy but your videos helped me so much and I feel the lessons I learned helped me become a better stronger person. I now rarely feel any anxiety and understand my mind so much better.
Now I am sharing this video with my girlfriend who has abandonment issues and I want to give you something for your hard work and wisdom.
Thank you very much
Tobenn
I just wanted to say thank you. I was heart broken and didn't believe I was someone that I wanted to me, but because of you and your beautiful explanations I believe that I am happy with who I am even though others dont love me. I am grateful and appreciate you posting these videos.
i keep coming back to this video every once in a while when I'm feeling down. thank you so much for your help and messages you spread! keep up the incredible work!
This is the best effing relationship advice I've ever received. Wish I'd heard it years ago, but I'm happy I've found it! Thank you
You're doing a great job Noah.. Helping out people n saving them from their own crazy thoughts
I've been dealing with tremendous trust issues, especially as of lately. your video really shed light on a new way of approaching the idea of trusting someone. This video really helped me, I'm going to have to watch it several more times to get more out of it, but thank you for your insight. looking forward to more content!
I like how you explained "trust" in simple terms. Thank you for sharing.
This is the only advice about this topic that really resonates with me. I like how you explain things. This will stick with me for a very long time.
Its very rare that a video on youtube enlightens me. Thank you so much for this, this video is a gem.
Noah Elkrief is a spiritual ninja! It's like you always sneak in through the back door. I never know which angle you're going to approach these situations, but it makes #PERFECT sense every single time! Thank you so much! Clarity!!!
. Feelings, Thoughts, and reality are three different things. Reality is the stand point, thoughts are side track, and feelings are the mainland. Your feelings is what draws you to love a person or feel some type of way, your thoughts is what allow you to have all these side panels of ups and downs, reality is what is showing the out come of where you can stand at any point in time. At the end of it all its feelings that really matter. Not Thoughts vs Reality. It's Feelings Vs Thoughts and Reality. Knowing the difference between those three words will help you in the long run.
I've been suffering for months then I found this video thank you so much 😭😭😭
Thank you! I am coming out of a bad situation with a church congregation. This video really helped me to know that I'm lovable even though other people say otherwise.
I agree with the stuff that he said 100% but the question is, what are you supposed to do when you love someone and want to make it work with them but some things happened that makes you doubt the success of the relationship? I understand that your happiness shouldn't depend on another person but if you desire to be with a person who has tainted your trust, what do you do?
You are brilliant. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. This was exactly what I've needed to hear. For so long.
Thanks Noah for sharing this inspirational video. I've been experiencing all of that lately and very stressed out, almost like loosing myself, but my eyes are opened in some ways now. Its still hard to change the way I think about my happiness even though I have the theory in my head. Its just feels so hard and almost impossible to be awake after 8 years of being with somebody, but I also dont want to live unhappy for the rest of my life. Hope to hear more inspirations, bless you :)
I agree with the premise of this video... that as soon as we look to other people for value we become unhappy. And we can't fix their sadness or insecurities. I believe if we are satisfied in God before we enter a relationship we won't have to focus so strongly on the ways another person lets us down.
Started to watch your videos a few days ago and oh boy, everything happens for a reason and I needed these videos so much. THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!!!!!
thank you! I like how your view makes so much sense to me ~ this is very validating and helpful to my perspective.
This video apparently has been around for at least 5 years according to the comments but I have just come across it for the first time this evening. I have never heard such truth such deep truth ever! This video will free you from an insecure prison like never before.
Im so glad i came across this channel i needed this therapy :(
Amazing advice right here. Sometimes the answer is in plane sight. No beat around the bush.
Had found myself after a bad break up 4 years in I think now I genuinely meet someone was about to lose myself this helped a lot!
the proper use of stoicism i think THANK YOU! NOAH
This video really helped me understand some things , it is important to trust ourselves and work to improve it , the rest will come along ..
Thank you 🌸
I needed this.
Alot has happened tonight and alot of crying has happened, and this video has helped alot
This is the first video I’ve ever seen that I can actually listen to and relate too. This helps so much thank you! 💕😭
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This is truly eye opening. Thank you so much.
One thing that I have learnt from you that all the feelings come from our brain and thoughts and if I am able to think between the fact and thoughts that I am having, I can control my feelings and be whatever I want to be by myself.
I love this guy all his videos is life changing ❤
You got it figured all out that hit hard thank you for the help
Amazing amazing video, this really help me look at it a different way. I’ll keep what you said in mind. Thank you for your words
your videos have helped me with so much and i thank you for all the help
Thank you so much for this video Noah. I somehow stumbled upon this video and I feel like it's as if theres someone or some being out there who wanted me to see this video to help with my anxiety. Ever since I lost trust in my boyfriend it has been so hard to cope that I had to go to the doctor and urgent care due to anxiety and obsessive thinking. I was scared of losing him. I was scared that I wouldn't be happy. I was scared that he would lie to me again. All those thoughts were going through my head and giving me anxiety attacks, but after watching this video it definitely clicked for me. It's not about trusting him again or knowing that he wont leave/cheat in the future, but it really is about me and my self-worth. You are right, even if somewhere along the way he decides to stop loving me, it doesn't mean that I've lost my happiness. It just simply means that it's time for me to find another path of happiness. I've been trying so hard to trust him again, but thoughts of him doing things behind my back kept coming up and thats when I would get anxiety of losing him. This video has made me realize that even if I do lose him again in the future, it doesn't mean that thats the end of my happiness. It just means that I, as a human being, was not a good fit for him to make him happy in the end, but that doesn't mean that I'm not worthy. I just simply didn't fit the job that he needed and it was time for him to find someone else who would be able to fill that position. And if this happens whenever in the future, I will definitely be able to look back at this video and say how thankful I am to you to help me realize this. I've been trying to build that fantasy of how perfect we were before again, but it's not about being happy in that fantasy WITH him, its about being happy with MYSELF whether or not he stays or leave in the future.
Clover Cutie wow! This comment has meant so much to me. I’m dealing with a situation where I caught my wife texting someone else. We’ve been married for awhile and both of us were really just roommates. It took the situation as a wake up call to realize how much I love her and want to make it work. Weeks have gone by and really it’s been better than ever. But when I’m alone and away from her. I start to wonder and go down dark roads. What if she leaves me? What if there’s more than just texting? But when I’m with her it’s literally the best ever. I do worry that she’s still texting him or thinking about leaving me. But what if she is serious in making this work.
This video and comment helps me realize that I can lover her, not neglect her anymore, show her what she needs. However I need to understand that life goes on with her or without her. Her happiness and mine may be on the same path or different paths. And that’s ok. I did my best when I realized what I was neglecting in my marriage.
Thank you for this video Noah! Helped a lot
Thanks Noah you helped so much. Your videos have done wonders for me. Keep up the good work :D
This is a very different perspective and I think a more practical one to make peace with yourself ❤️ . Thanks
I have been married for 9 years and do love my wife. However I have moments of distrust and jealousy. You my friend have helped give me a wonderful tool and new ways of looking at my relationship. ❤
Really felt relieved after watching that
Noah Elkrief thank you your the best!
This was so helpful and insightful!!
This helped so much I can’t even explain thank you so much
Noah. U reasoned it at the best. 100% of what u said is in my brain now. It seems u have a little window on it. What methodology then can one use to diminish such thoughts. Thanks 4 this man. I found no other vids like urs in the UTUBE, they r simple, unique and thought-provoking.
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This is helping me so much. Thank you
So much sense. Thank you so much!!!
Thank you ,your answers are very soft ......thank you
love your film it helps to look positively again.
What you say is so true. But it's difficult to do when we are lonely and desperate.
Great video man!
Man you are really good thanks! helped me a lot!
I wish I would have found this video back in late October. Maybe then I wouldn't have ended my relationship over something that in retrospect was nothing to worry about.
This video taught me so much about life.. thxx ❤️❤️❤️
Something new I feel like that can help me thanks for the tip.
Excellent.. Ty Noah
Thank you...I understand better 🎯
I love your video too, and you changed my life. I really appreciate.
Needed this.
You make it sound so easy to be that rational! We are all crazy and emotional haha
This is helping me so much, my mind is killing me
Amazing! Thank you!
Thank you soon much I really needed this right now I wish you knew.. God bless 👍
Thank you! you are very helpful!
Dude you are brilliant
This helps a lot.. 💛
I was really feeling down bcs my husband cheated but u made me feel much better, me happiness is not dependent on his love. You really helped me I. The way I deal with his cheating.I am happy regardless to weather I have his love or not therefore I do not care how the marriage goes.
oh my gosh I LOVE your videos
Really different & something powerful
thank you so much this helped me a lot
Thankyou so much. I believe that your video is gonna help me..
That actually relieved my headache.
Thank you this helped alot
Wouldnt that make us not give 100% in the relationship? Bcz we are making ourselves believe that their LOVE isnt that important.
He’s not saying that their love isn’t important he’s saying that we don’t NEED their love to make us happy, make us feel good about ourselves and/or to know that we are worthy. Yes we want their love, but we don’t need their love to function.
@@princessdes1994 this comment is basically what the video is about.
thanks dude this video helped me
Thank you for making these videos…I KNOW you're right…I just don't know how to change myself. I listen to your videos every day…and I am inspired…but I really don't understand how to apply them to my life…and live in reality…I'm sure you know mostly we trick our minds…I want to learn to UNtrick mine….
How can I trust you?!?
This has been very helpful! Thank you!🙏
Thus helped me so much
On the money! Thanks for sharing
Love you and you have helped me so much
wow on the same wave length ! thank you
i found this quite helpful tbh thanks
Thank you 😭😭
thanks for the video your brilliant
Trying so hard to be better at not caring if I'm loved.
Thank you so much for sharing your views on this platform.
This is an incredibly effective approach for those who can understand this viewpoint, but it might not resonate with people who find it difficult to look at things in a practical manner.
What you say seems quite sensible, but any tips on people who are more emotional than they want to be? Emotions are difficult to manage sometimes. While one might understand a concept intellectually, they might not be able to apply it. Because you are suggesting a major change in one's worldview, that is certainly easier said than done! The mental constructs are quite hard-wired into the brain, how does one attempt to change them.
With Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT)
Do some research on it. It changed my life
This guys a Genius.
Great video
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Damn I love you!! Best Video ❤️